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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Hello, question asker!
From your description, I can feel your sadness and anger. Let's think about what we can do to turn this around!
First of all, you said that your relationship-and-he-recently-proposed-a-breakup-how-can-i-win-him-back-2535.html" target="_blank">breakup was caused by her misunderstanding of you, which shows that this girl is open to learning and is rather curious.
Then, you said that after two months, you contacted her and she said she already had a boyfriend, which shows that your relationship with this girl was not very deep and that she could find a new boyfriend quickly after being "hurt."
Second, you said that after she had a conflict with that man, she came to me to get back together, which shows that she has no confidence in the new relationship and came to you as a spare tire.
Then, while telling you to wait for him, she went back to the guy!
So the original poster understands very well that this girl is not a very suitable girl for you. You said you called her a liar, and I want to say that you were right to do so!
The original poster is having a tough time. He can't forget her, and now he really can't bear it inside. I want to tell him, "Are you really unable to forget her, or are you unable to forget the pain she caused you?"
All the things you did with her hurt you, so you can't forget her. But here's the good news: you can choose to let go of the hurt and move on to bigger and better things! It's likely that you gave a lot, but ultimately didn't get it, and you were even cheated on. But you know what? That's not your fault! You're not a failure. You spent two years together, and that's a great foundation to build on. You're worthy of a great relationship! Think about it: is that what happened?
From your description, it seems unlikely that this girl and her current boyfriend will end up together. And it is very likely that she will come back to you again and again! If that is the case, what will you do? You can choose to draw a line under this relationship. You can decide that this girl is not worthy of you. What you can't let go of is not her, but the fact that you are not willing to accept that you have given so much.
Life goes on, and this is just a brief experience in your life and in your relationships. The best part is that spending two years getting to know someone improves your ability to judge people, and that is also a kind of gain!
And who knows—you might even get married and divorced! It's all part of life's rich tapestry. And it's no big deal, it can be overcome.
The above is all about awareness. You need to give yourself a correct understanding, adopt the right attitude, and say no to this (type of) girl.
As the saying goes, "you learn from your mistakes." This experience will also be a kind of experience for you. Ten years from now, you'll be so grateful you had this experience! You'll think today's experience is very childish, for sure, because by then you'll already have a wife who suits you and your own cute children. At that time, you'll be thankful for the girl who messed with you, and you'll be happy she didn't pester you anymore. That way, you got to meet a better version of yourself and a better other half!
Come on, host, say goodbye to the past and welcome a new life! There are always ups and downs in life, but you can face them with an open mind and believe that tomorrow will definitely be better!
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I understand how you feel, it's really tough to let go of someone you've shared so much with. It seems like you were holding on to hope she offered, but now it feels like a cruel twist. It's hard not to feel betrayed when promises are broken. Moving on from her will take time, but maybe focusing on yourself and what makes you happy can help start healing.
It's painful when the person you can't stop thinking about moves on without you. You gave your trust and waited as she asked, only for things to end this way. It's natural to feel angry and deceived. But remember, while you can't control her actions, you have the power to decide how you'll respond to this situation and work towards your own peace.
This must be incredibly difficult for you, especially since you felt there was a possibility of getting back together. When someone reopens a door just to slam it shut again, it can be devastating. Try to channel your feelings into something productive, whether it's talking to friends, engaging in hobbies, or seeking professional advice. Eventually, the pain will lessen.
The heartache you're experiencing is valid; it's not easy to recover from being led on like that. Trusting her words probably made it even harder when everything changed. While it might seem impossible now, with time, you'll find the strength to move forward. Consider this an opportunity to rediscover yourself and what you truly want in a relationship.
It sounds like you're going through a very emotional time right now. Being told not to wait anymore after all that has happened must feel crushing. Holding onto anger won't change what happened, though. Perhaps finding a support system or speaking to someone who can offer unbiased advice could help you navigate these feelings and begin the process of letting go.