Dealing with setbacks in scientific research prematurely, losing hope in academic pursuits, feeling depressed and unable to focus on studying.

Just a heads-up, the following answer represents only my personal opinions and is for reference only.

Hello there, question asker!

I totally get it. It's a big change going from high school to university.

In high school, we usually just had to follow our teachers' instructions and do the work they gave us.

With this experience, the question owner went to university. The teacher and seniors' arrangements were all accepted by the question owner, who was happy to do a good job.

So, in college life, lots of little things start to pile up on the host, and when they realize they're overwhelmed, it's already too late. The host's experience shows them that teachers and seniors all want to use the host as a "tool person." (Of course, it's not ruled out that this is indeed the case. I don't know the specific situation, and I assume that teachers and seniors are well-intentioned.)

The questioner has already noticed that there are just too many responsibilities weighing on them! They began to try to remove some of these responsibilities. Class officers were the ones with the least conditions attached to their appointments, so the questioner stepped down as a class officer.

However, despite the author's best efforts, things didn't really change. The teacher's arrangements were still in place, and the author was still feeling overwhelmed and struggling.

Ultimately, the questioner decided to step away from all responsibilities. It's possible that teachers and seniors may have wanted to take advantage of the questioner, and this could have been a source of pain.

I really feel that the questioner just needs to do two simple things:

It's so important to know yourself!

It's so important to recognize what you want and don't want, accept your own arrangements, and learn to refuse other people's arrangements.

It seems like the questioner is focusing on the plans made by the seniors and teachers, but not mentioning what he wants to do. It's important to think about what's most important to you and then make a decision.

2. It's so important to recognize your responsibilities!

When you're doing things, it's really helpful to identify your own responsibilities and any external responsibilities.

The questioner also accepts the "groceries" arranged by the teacher. That's a great idea! We can pass these things on to those who "are not very capable," or we can take turns doing them.

Don't take on more than you can handle! It's important to take responsibility for your own actions.

Of course, the first step is to recognize which responsibilities are yours.

I really hope the poster will soon be living the life they want!

2. It's so important to recognize your responsibilities!

Have you ever thought about the different kinds of responsibility we have in our lives? Some of it is down to us, and some of it isn't. It's interesting to think about, isn't it?

Dear question asker,

From your description, three issues appear to be at the root of the problem.

In my freshman year, I was encouraged to join a research group due to my commendable academic performance. However, the workload was considerable, necessitating assistance to two teachers with miscellaneous tasks. Despite relinquishing my class duties, I continued to experience a high level of activity. Additionally, I perceived a lack of support from the group members, which ultimately led to my withdrawal from the research group.

? 2. My perspectives differed from those of the instructor in charge, and I deemed the instructor's professional competence to be inadequate. Furthermore, I was compelled to work extended hours, foregoing regular meals and sleep, and neglecting my health. Ultimately, I was compelled to withdraw from the program once more.

3. There is no prospect of a favourable outcome to my studies.

If my interpretation is erroneous, I kindly request your indulgence.

Let us engage in a discussion of these three questions.

1. Upon initial observation, it was evident that the questioner was highly capable. It would be beneficial to offer both encouragement and support. The task at hand is significant, and despite the removal of certain responsibilities, the questioner continues to face considerable challenges. It is understandable that, in the absence of assistance, frustration may arise.

In retrospect, apart from the depressive effects, did this incident yield any insights?

In the future, it will be challenging to avoid similar issues. Are the competencies of the team members truly inadequate? Is there any value in learning from them? What are the expectations of the team members in terms of their contributions? Is the distribution of responsibilities optimal?

It would be beneficial to ascertain whether there is any room for improvement. Additionally, it may be advantageous to determine whether there is room for optimization in other areas.

2. In response to the second question, if one encounters a teacher with a lack of professional competence who holds disparate views, it is understandable to experience a certain degree of discomfort.

In retrospect, are there any aspects of the teacher's character that could be emulated? Despite his lack of competence, are there any exceptional qualities that could be emulated? Could his strengths be learned from?

The concept of staying up late is highly detrimental to one's health and well-being. Is it possible to complete the task in a timely manner by improving efficiency? Did the teacher indicate that staying up late was a mandatory requirement?

3. If the questioner is able to ascertain the answer to the previous question independently, will the third question become moot?

It is my hope that the questioner will gain insight into their own identity and experience personal growth. I extend my best wishes to the questioner.

Hello! I totally get where you're coming from. We all have limited human energy, and when we're overloaded for too long, it's only natural to feel a bit overwhelmed.

I just wanted to say that I don't think doing research is the best idea when you're a freshman or sophomore taking basic courses. Without a solid foundation, it can be really hard to excel in your major.

I can see why you regret quitting, but I actually think it was the right decision. If you're a junior or senior, I'd be happy to join you in this opportunity!

Secondly, it seems there might be a slight misunderstanding in your thinking when it comes to participating in scientific research activities. As a student, participating in a project is equivalent to being a novice, and as a novice, it is only right to follow and do as you are told, because your experience and real workplace needs are still too different.

No matter what you think about the teacher, they're still a great resource for you because of their experience. It's important to build a good relationship with them so they can guide you in your work. The most important thing right now is to show them you're reliable and that you're ready to get to work!

At this stage, it's really important to avoid two mindsets: the first is the fear of making mistakes, and the second is belittling basic work. If you're afraid of making mistakes, you might be hesitant, and others might think you're not competent or don't try hard enough.

Basic work is a great way to show off your skills and demonstrate your professionalism. If you approach it with a bit more enthusiasm, people will see that you're a dedicated team player with a positive attitude.

You mentioned that the team members have limited abilities, which is totally understandable! Have you thought about ways you could help them improve? It'd be great for everyone if you could spend some time teaching them what they can learn in the short term. That way, you'll both be more efficient and have more energy for other things.

Finally, we should think carefully about changing majors. As you mentioned, the basic courses weren't learned as well as they could have been, and the current online courses aren't quite what we'd hoped for.

I think the best thing you can do is focus on how you learn. Even if you change majors down the road, you'll still be learning. And compared to what you're doing now, it'll just be learning new content you're less familiar with.

I know it can be tough to choose a new major, especially when you're facing some emotional challenges. I'm here to support you! It might be helpful to speak with a counselor to work through these issues before making any other decisions.

Good day, I am pleased to have this opportunity to share this topic with you.

Thank you for allowing me the opportunity to assist you. I hope the information provided will prove useful to you.

You stated that you have reservations about returning to scientific research and engineering, yet the instructor is still encouraging you to pursue a career as a tool person.

Does the respondent perceive a discrepancy between the subject matter you are currently studying and the subject matter you previously studied, indicating a significant divergence between your initial expectations and the reality of the course?

Secondly, if the pressure of studying and your assertion that you are "free labor" have caused you some psychological pressure, then the respondent suggests that you consider whether your original intention of studying this subject is still valid, or whether it aligns with your aspirations for the future. If it has indeed been lost, then the respondent recommends that you reflect on whether you still need to continue.

As a result of the costs associated with trial and error, including time, energy, and financial expenditure, an individual's academic career is a lengthy process. The adage "one should keep learning as long as one lives" underscores the necessity for a long-term approach, devoid of undue haste. Perceiving one's desired outcome is, in fact, the most fundamental and intuitive approach.

Secondly, you stated:

I am concerned that this feeling may resurface at some point. I am currently enrolled in online classes, but I am not making significant progress and I am struggling to concentrate.

I am considering changing my major by taking the postgraduate entrance exam.

The respondent believes that you still hope to achieve a complete change through reading. The respondent also offers their strong support.

For the majority of us, we did not enter this world in a privileged position. Even if we are second-generation officials or second-generation wealthy, the most effective method for advancement is through self-improvement.

If you can overcome your feelings of fear and correct some of your perceptions, you may gain a new perspective.

In response, the respondent offers a few suggestions for consideration.

One can begin to enhance their sense of control over their life by taking small steps.

In school, career, and work, there is often a concept called "impermanence," which presents a challenge to us.

What are the key skills that this process tests?

These qualities are essential for resilience, toughness, and a sense of purpose.

The respondent's response may appear somewhat detached, but it is nonetheless true that our ability and energy can only be enhanced through adversity. To illustrate this point, consider the following: if we do not engage in physical activity such as running or playing sports, it is unlikely that we will achieve optimal health and strength.

If we do not experience some external challenge, we often cannot assess the strength of our long-term objectives. I believe this is true. People are often most comfortable when facing downward pressure, while difficult times often require upward pressure.

To improve your sense of control over your life, consider implementing the following strategies: 1. Establish a regular schedule for rest and work. 2. Take responsibility for your own and other people's moods. 3. Identify and eliminate excessive and unnecessary desires.

2. If you are experiencing emotional distress, it is advisable to seek counsel from a trusted individual and discuss your concerns. It is also recommended to avoid being alone when doing so.

At times, our emotions result from an accumulation of stress or from being constrained by ideas that are not entirely practical. Our own vision and perspective may also limit our potential. Regardless of the cause, it is essential to have a healthy outlet.

Otherwise, they will either accumulate in the body, causing undetected illnesses, or accumulate in the brain, causing unnecessary emotional burdens.

The most effective approach is to express, express, and release these emotions, while also taking steps to nourish your heart.

3. Cultivate unwavering confidence in yourself and be loyal to the outcomes of your decisions.

Sometimes, our reluctance to take action is not so much a question of inability, but rather a matter of not exerting our full potential.

It is not necessary to be stubborn and do things we do not want to do. However, if we want more options, we need to develop our ability to remain calm and composed, regardless of our successes or failures.

This is not about having no desires or expectations, but rather about being able to value our own efforts more, and not tying our self-worth to the definitions of others and society. This is distinct from the question of whether we are 100% committed to our efforts.

It is possible to work hard, but it is also important to focus on personal growth and not just on achieving worldly success. Success is only temporary, and our daily efforts are what will lead to long-term results. If the sole aim is to achieve success, and this is not achieved, it can lead to feelings of disappointment and demotivation, which may limit future success.

Ultimately, the final result is our willingness to accept the consequences of our decisions, with the courage and resolve to confront the realities of the situation.

I hope the information provided by the answerer will be of some assistance to you.

I would like to extend my warmest regards to you and the world.

Hello! I'll start by sending you a warm hug from afar.

I can feel frustrated, helpless, and exhausted when I'm helping others in the research group. It's affecting my personal interests and hobbies. So, I decided to take this burden off my shoulders.

However, your depression and sense of fatigue didn't improve. You also started to have doubts about the teacher's professional ability and felt that the teacher was dissatisfied with you because you left the research group on your own initiative. This led to a state of mind where you also became unmotivated and unable to concentrate in class. These feelings actually stem from your inner difficulty in accepting yourself for not persevering to the end in the research group. You joined the research group because of your good grades, and the teacher and classmates unanimously recognized and recommended you. This shows that in the minds of the teacher and classmates, you are fully capable of handling the tasks of the research group and can do a good job. You proposed to leave on your own initiative, which let down the trust of the teacher and classmates. Some classmates may also perceive this as a sign that you are unable to handle the tasks. You are unable to accept such a self, especially because you have always performed very well. You have always occupied the minds of the teacher and classmates as an outstanding class leader and top performer with excellent grades. It is even more difficult to accept your occasional imperfection, don't you think?

If you're feeling overwhelmed and in need of some support, you can always talk to your teacher about it. They'll be more than happy to help you out and make sure your interests and studies aren't affected by the project.

And there's no one else around you. You can also ask your teammates for help, but you don't because you think they're all limited and can't work with you. Is it true that they don't have their own strengths and potential? Or is it because you've always been good at studying that you're indifferent and dismissive of them? You've received a lot of attention because you're good at studying, so you judge them based on their academic performance. What do you think?

If you don't ask your teacher or classmates for help when you need it, it shows you lack self-confidence and acceptance of yourself. You're also particularly narcissistic, always hoping to be noticed, praised, valued, and cared for.

This means that you can't truly express yourself in front of others because you'll inevitably feel powerless at times. So, you can only show your best side, and your inner needs can be better met by others.

The truth is, there's no such thing as perfection in this world, and nobody's perfect. Being imperfect doesn't make you a bad person. It just means you have limitations. We all have our own strengths and weaknesses. You can be irreplaceable in your strengths, but you also have to accept the parts of yourself that you lack and the limitations. When you can see your own powerlessness and accept your limitations, you can empathize with others better.

At the same time, you'll be able to express your inner vulnerability to others, seek external support, and get things done.

It's important to try to learn to accept yourself better, build up your confidence, and overcome your inferiority. Try to face it bravely, accept some of the deficiencies outside of your learning, and you can improve it by developing more interests and passions.

Are there any better ways to give yourself that satisfaction you get from external sources like good grades, developing more hobbies and interests, and building harmonious and supportive relationships? You can also cultivate self-confidence and enhance your sense of self-worth by keeping a gratitude journal.

I hope my sharing is helpful to you.

I just wanted to say that I love you, the world, and me!

Hello, I'm Flower.

(Quote the original words of the questioner) (Discuss in steps)

The questioner is running so hard, and I feel so much pain for him. I want to hug him and tell him to take a break. I see his doubts about scientific research, his interpersonal problems, and his thoughts about his family.

First, I'll sort out the main issues from the original poster's text:

? Research group with many tasks and poor teamwork → exhausted

Far from home, cultural differences, studying → depressed

Research tool person vs. health → fear of escape

Don't like school, can't learn, want to take a postgraduate exam in a different field.

Let's think about how we can help.

I had to do research, manage the team, and help two teachers with miscellaneous tasks. My team members couldn't help, so I did it all.

Improve your team management and communication skills.

Some team members can be difficult to work with. This can be exhausting. We can try to learn about team management and discover the strengths of each individual. This helps us make the most of everyone's advantages in teamwork.

Note: We can also split up the chores. We are a team, so it is important to work together.

We need to communicate gently. I recommend the book "Psychology of Interpersonal Communication."

Release stress, combine work and rest, set boundaries.

Do we really have to do everything ourselves? Ask for help and admit you can't do it all. Trust others to do a good job and set boundaries. Everyone should share the workload.

We also need to relax. We don't have to do everything perfectly.

Go out into the fresh air, eat your favorite food, and get a massage. Lower your expectations too.

If you stretch a string too tightly, it may break. So, you need to rest. Rest lets you build up strength.

Frustrated by science, losing hope in school, depressed, unable to study.

Sometimes I feel like I don't see eye to eye with my teacher. Once we invited an outside engineer to study a new piece of equipment together, but when it was time to eat, I suggested leaving early, and my teacher was not happy. Later, I mentioned it again. In short, I always feel that my teacher is not very strong in their work. They always emphasize hard work, even instilling in us the idea of working late into the night, which I think is inefficient and unhealthy.

Re-evaluate scientific research, engineering, and "tool people."

It's good to get to know scientific research early on. You see how focused, rigorous, and repetitive it is. But there's excitement, too, in the discovery of new things. I feel like a tool person in the process. But we can think about what we've learned.

It may be critical thinking, creative thinking, or problem-solving. Did you learn nothing from becoming a tool person? For interdisciplinary postgraduate studies, you might consider engineering.

No matter which discipline you go to for research, there is a commonality in scientific research.

The questioner can also choose what they like more.

I gave up my class leader position to reduce my workload.

I still refused.

Evaluate yourself more.

The questioner was recommended to join the research group in his freshman year because of his good grades. This shows he is excellent. Perhaps he is in a bad mood and has become self-critical.

The questioner knows how to say no, reduce stress, and take care of himself.

Find your motivation, not self-discipline.

The questioner said he is forcing himself to be self-disciplined. This suggests external pressure is forcing him to move forward. Perhaps he should draw motivation from within.

What kind of person does the questioner want to become and what career does he want to pursue? The questioner is in his third year of university and will soon be in his fourth. We can set short-term and long-term goals.

The short-term goal may be to take the postgraduate entrance exam or the graduation thesis. The long-term goal can be anything after postgraduate studies. Find out what you like and go for it!

Good luck! I'm rooting for you!

Thank you so much for your kind invitation! I'm Duo Duo.

I just wanted to check in and see if you really want to change this state of yourself?

Let's think about all the wonderful changes!

You've made so much progress, and your teacher has noticed. Is there a chance they'll ask you to join the research group again? For now, you can't use "not in a good mood" or "having a shadow" as a reason to refuse.

I can't help but feel that you might not be as motivated as you could be to change this negative state of affairs.

I can see that you're not totally happy being in the research group, but you've put a lot of time and energy into it.

You even resigned from the class committee for the research group!

And you gave up your hobbies for the group, which I know was really tough.

This has led to a greater sense of responsibility, which is really admirable!

I can see how all of this has made you feel more responsible. It's totally understandable that you're worried about the future of the research group.

You quit, but that doesn't mean you abandoned your sense of responsibility towards the research group, sweetie.

You have done so much for the research group, and I know you feel like the teacher doesn't see it. It can be so frustrating when people don't recognize your hard work! It seems like she thinks you haven't sacrificed enough, and that you need to give up even more, like your lunch, sleep, and even your life.

You don't want this, and you don't agree with it, sweetie.

It's so sad, but the teacher didn't see your sacrifices, nor did he acknowledge them.

What you feel more is that you think you haven't sacrificed enough and done enough. This naturally makes you feel tired, sweetie.

But you know what? You really have done enough.

And you even did some chores for the teacher!

But you didn't get the affirmation you were looking for from the teacher. It seemed like these things were taken for granted in the teacher's eyes.

It can be really frustrating when you've put in a lot of effort and made a lot of sacrifices, but it feels like you're not being recognised for it. It can feel like all your hard work has been for nothing, which is totally understandable!

I'm not sure if you're really ready to change your major.

If you want to start studying, it's important to recognize that your current negative state might need a little change.

But you do have a reason for holding on to that negative mindset, and I'm here to help you understand why.

If you can, it would be a great idea to go and have a chat with your group teacher. Getting rid of this motivation is the first step towards making a change.

Otherwise, your motivation to study for the exam and your negative motivation to maintain your negative state will be at odds with each other. This can make it tough for you to make progress on your exam preparation.