Depression goes unrecognized by parents, yearning for solitude yet fearing the unbearable loneliness?

Good day.

I extend my support and encouragement to you in the form of a warm embrace, to help you overcome the feelings of loneliness and depression.

It is challenging, but it is important to remember that even your closest parents do not possess a complete understanding of your situation. Their actions and attitudes can lead to feelings of disappointment and anger, particularly when it seems as though your father is not as invested in the situation as you would like.

It seems that you are concerned about your parents' attitude towards you, which may be contributing to your depression. You may feel that you have rarely received attention from your parents since you were young, that you have always been ignored and not understood. Despite your mother's reluctance to admit it and your father's rude and resistant reaction, you can still feel that your parents are aware of your situation. They must address this issue. Your mother wants you to give your father advice, which suggests that she hopes he will change. Perhaps she is also willing to change herself to meet your needs.

It is possible that your relationship with your parents has led you to overlook the inner strength that could help you break free from depression. I believe this strength has always been present, and I hope you can look beyond your relationship with your parents and recognize your own inner desires and strength.

It would be beneficial to view the situation and problem from a different perspective.

It is possible that both parents love you from the bottom of their hearts, which is why they are reluctant to believe that you are depressed. It is also because they lack the necessary knowledge and experience in this area. They may require time to accept the situation and to learn more about depression.

It is not necessary to reach the point of depression to be diagnosed by a professional doctor. If necessary, the doctor will prescribe medication and provide psychological treatment. When the condition is stable, it can also be adjusted in combination with psychological counseling. As long as active treatment and adjustment are carried out, depression can be alleviated or cured.

It is important to regulate one's emotions when feeling depressed. It is beneficial to temporarily set aside other tasks, prioritize self-care, and adjust one's emotional state. A regular diet and routine, sunbathing, listening to music, and moderate exercise can all contribute to this process.

In the event that your parents are unable to provide the necessary understanding and assistance, you may wish to consider taking the initiative to help yourself. It is important to remember that, as we grow up, everyone has to become independent. Some problems may not be solvable with the help of parents. It is essential to recognise that we are the masters of our own lives and that we can solve our own problems without relying on our parents.

Your decision to seek assistance on this platform is commendable. In addition to gaining insights and support from the responses you receive, you have the option of consulting with the school's psychological counselor or seeking the guidance of a qualified professional. It is crucial to recognize that the most crucial step is to seek a diagnosis from a psychiatric department at a tertiary hospital. If you feel that your previous doctor's approach was not satisfactory, you have the option of consulting with multiple healthcare professionals to gain a comprehensive understanding of your condition. Ultimately, it is essential to place your trust in the expertise of qualified medical professionals and to collaborate with them in managing your condition through a combination of medication and psychological treatment.

I hope that Hongyu's reply is helpful to you. Thank you for your question.

Hello!

The father doesn't know he has depression. This has led to a strained relationship. He's afraid to get married and have children. What should he do?

Let's figure this out.

Psychology is a new field in China. Many people don't understand it, including our parents and grandparents. They think mental health problems are caused by "nerves." They don't believe that psychology can help us live healthier lives.

The father doesn't need to be asked to accept knowledge he doesn't recognize. Without expectations, you won't be disappointed.

Control your emotions. While external resources can help us heal, it's important to change our own behaviors to grow.

From the process described, I think the questioner may have inappropriately labeled himself as "depressed."

If you think you're sick, you'll find reasons for your behavior and demand special care.

"Because I'm sick, my family has to give in to me." This may be the truth in the person's mind, and it's why they don't try to change.

Don't blame yourself. It's bad for your health.

There's a difference between feeling depressed and having a depressive disorder. We all feel depressed sometimes because of life and work pressures.

If you have physical symptoms along with depression, it can make it hard to take care of yourself and work. Depression can make you feel too lazy to eat, have trouble sleeping, or socialize.

The questioner ran away from home due to family conflicts. Anger and pain may be your main emotions. The negative resistance in your behavior due to anger and pain is: "I'm afraid to approach the boys I like, and I'm lonely and scared. It's unbearable. Now I'm stuck in my room every day because of this, and I don't want to study or do anything."

If we let go of hatred and confrontation, stop expecting others to take responsibility for us, and take responsibility for ourselves, we can become different people, live a good life, study hard, build good relationships, and become good mothers.

This can be our driving force.

It doesn't matter if others understand us. We need to focus on ourselves.

How can we love ourselves? Here are some suggestions:

(1) Use medication as directed by a doctor. Short-term medication is ineffective. All medications have side effects.

If the benefits outweigh the risks, we should still choose treatment. Medicines can improve brain nerve function and make us feel better. When we feel better, we will have the desire to do things.

(2) Going back to a normal routine is probably the best way to beat stress and bad moods. Work or study can help us forget negative thoughts.

Make specific plans for your situation. Plan how much you will do each day. Be as specific as you can.

(3) Relax

Exercise is the best way to treat depression. It reduces brain excitement, activates the cerebellum, and improves sleep.

(4) Make connections with others.

Fall in love, cherish your youth, love someone, and experience life. Perfect yourself with others.

(5) Don't depend on your parents too much.

Lower your expectations of your loved ones. You might find they understand you.

(6) Learn to encourage and comfort yourself.

Imagine a beautiful future with a loving partner and children. Anticipating tomorrow will bring hope and motivation.

I hope this helps.

Best,

Hello there!

I'm a mindfulness coach, and I believe that learning is the treasure of the body.

From what you've told me, I can really sense how you're feeling inside. It's so sad to see you struggling with anxiety/married-for-a-year-now-i-truly-cant-stand-the-view-of-the-graveyard-from-the-house-and-im-on-the-brink-of-depression-what-should-i-do-10141.html" target="_blank">depression, anxiety, worry, sadness, pain, and feeling helpless.

I know it can be really frustrating when you feel like your parents don't understand you. I'm here to offer you three pieces of advice that I think could really help.

First, I suggest you try to understand yourself and give yourself a little comfort.

I know it might sound a little strange, but I promise you it will help! It will make your heart feel a little lighter, which will help you think about what to do next.

You say you feel miserable and depressed, but a year ago you told your mother, who didn't believe you, and your father, who called you a neurotic, that you were disappointed and felt unable to forgive your parents for not understanding you. You also said that after that you didn't want to get married, and although there was a boy you liked, you didn't dare to go near him. This made you even more miserable, and you didn't want to do anything every day. In fact, if someone else were in your situation, they would probably also be as miserable and scared as you are, because everyone longs to be understood by their parents, and being understood means being loved by them. Not to mention that you also have depressive feelings, which naturally make it even more difficult. So you have to try to understand and comfort yourself, and "see" that depressed, scared, negative, but at the same time, don't-know-what-to-do, miserable self of yours. This will give you extra mental energy to think about other things, otherwise your mind will always be filled with all kinds of negative emotions.

It's so important to give yourself the space to understand and accept yourself. This will help you to embrace change and create positive shifts in your current situation. It might seem a little strange, but it's true! Change is all about allowing for new possibilities.

Secondly, I'd like to suggest that you take a moment to view your own state in a rational way.

Rational thinking is a great way to understand yourself and reality better.

I know it can be tough, but I'm here to help! To rationalize, there are just two simple things you need to do:

It's so important for parents to understand you, but it's even more important for you to understand yourself.

I know it can be tough, but if you don't get the care and love you want from your parents, it's so important to learn to give it to yourself. Loving yourself is the most important thing, and you've got this!

Second, remember that you have the power to change the status quo because you can change.

When you put your heart and soul into something, it can really change your outlook on life, including your relationship with your parents.

I know it can be tough, but I'm here to help. When you look at it in this rational way, some of the negative emotions in your heart may be resolved.

Third, I really encourage you to focus on yourself and think about what you can do to feel better.

When you take a step back and look at your situation with a cool head, you'll probably know what to do. At this point, you focus on yourself and try your best to do a good job. You've got this!

For example, you can have an honest conversation with your parents. I know it can be tough, but I really think you should try this approach and see what happens. First, try to understand her from her perspective. This will help you get her to "hear" what you're saying (she says you're not depressed, probably because she's afraid that it's true). Once you are diagnosed with depression, she will feel that it's a shameful thing, which has to do with her understanding and perception of depression. She may also feel that she has not been a good parent, which made you sick, so she can avoid blaming herself by denying that you are depressed. She may also be afraid that your diagnosis will affect your future studies, work and life, so she avoids the issue with a negative attitude. Etc.). Second, it's best to start with "I" and talk more about your feelings (tell her how sad, worried and sad you feel after not being understood). Don't or rarely start with "you" because the latter will make her feel rejected and accused, which is not conducive to communication between you. When you communicate with her in this honest way, she is very likely to change, because she may not realize that her actions have hurt you.

I really think you'll find that using the above communication method will help you to have a great relationship with your father. He might even change his attitude and approach towards you, which will make you feel so much better!

It's also a good idea to give them some time to get used to spending time with you. After all, you're still getting to know each other! In the meantime, try to communicate with them as honestly as possible. This will help them realize that their approach isn't appropriate and change it.

It's also important to remember that your parents are probably just like that, and they don't know how to understand or love their children. When you accept that your parents don't understand you, you may feel better because without expectations, there is no more hurt. Then you need to focus on yourself and deal with depression yourself. For example, you can find a reliable friend or relative to go with you to a good hospital so you can get checked out. If you haven't been diagnosed, that's great! Even if you have been diagnosed, don't be afraid to take medicine. It might have some side effects, but it will help you feel better. And with all the new advances in medicine, it's very likely that this kind of disease can be cured.

Once you've been to the hospital, whether or not you've been diagnosed, you might feel better because you'll have a clear answer. You'll probably have the energy to study and slowly get your life back on track. This could even include trying to approach the boy you like! At this time, it's important to see your own strengths and learn to look at yourself with a developing perspective. This can help improve your mood, and in turn, your life. In short, you need to know that you can do something to improve the current situation.

I know it can be tough, but when you start to take action, all kinds of negative emotions in your heart will naturally be slowly resolved. I promise you, sometimes the enemy of all kinds of negative emotions is action!

I really hope my answer helps you! If you'd like to chat some more, just click on "Find a Coach" at the bottom and we can have a one-on-one conversation.

Greetings,

I am in a position to offer you some advice.

From your description, it is evident that although your parents have provided you with support, accompanied you to a leading medical facility for a diagnosis, and reached a conclusion, the underlying issue remains unresolved. Instead, you are experiencing heightened concern about your future, which has led to the emergence of negative thoughts.

Firstly, it is important to note that your current mental health may be suboptimal. However, this does not necessitate undue concern regarding the negative thoughts you are currently experiencing. These thoughts are a normal manifestation of your inner state. Through this manifestation, we can identify the underlying issue that is causing distress.

The objective is to ascertain what we truly desire and whether we can alleviate our depression through changes in our own motivation, given our current state, and reconnect with our family of origin. This would enable us to manage our family well and raise our children well in the future.

One might inquire whether a reconciliation with one's parents is feasible in light of the apparent difficulties in the relationship. It is understandable that the prospect of maintaining a stable relationship with one's parents may be challenging, particularly when there are concerns about the potential for similar challenges and depression to manifest in future generations. This can lead to hesitancy in pursuing romantic relationships and the potential for marriage.

From my perspective, your confusion can be transformed through your efforts and your current understanding, thus achieving a significant transformation in your life. It can also be said that this is the beginning of a new stage in your life.

A comprehensive understanding of the original family relationship with one's parents, a thorough grasp of pertinent parenting principles, and an acute cognitive awareness of emotional control are key to alleviating one's internal depressive state while simultaneously resolving familial conflicts and identifying a compatible partner, thereby facilitating effective management of one's marriage and family.

From your initial statements, it is evident that your mother lacks an understanding of the full extent of depression. This has manifested in her display of distrust, incomprehension, and a lack of concern for you. Despite her accompanying you to a regular tertiary hospital for an assessment, you have not perceived this as a gesture of care.

Furthermore, you are conscious of your depressed mood and seek your mother's attention by discussing it with her.

However, the patients do not appear to trust the physician, which inevitably leads to feelings of self-pity and a sense of being unappreciated. The patients are visibly disappointed. Nevertheless, it is beneficial that the patients underwent the assessment and reached a conclusion. It is merely the case that from the patients' perspective, they do not particularly like this doctor, and it seems that he does not align with their preferences, leading them to perceive him as less professional.

In regard to the diagnosis and medication prescribed by the doctor in question, which involves the side effects you have expressed concern about, I feel compelled to state that a year ago, when you consulted with this physician, I am uncertain as to whether any side effects from the medication in question were observed. However, given the rapid advancements in scientific knowledge, it is reasonable to assume that any potential side effects would have been identified and documented. With regards to depression, if there is no clear mention of side effects, it is reasonable to trust the judgment of the prescribing physician. Medical professionals are held to a high standard of care and are responsible for their patients. They are expected to provide an appropriate diagnosis and treatment plan based on the latest technological advances, research findings, and the availability of new medications in the current era.

In the event that the patient is dissatisfied with the care provided by the physician in question, it may be advisable to seek a second opinion at a different medical facility. A comparison of the two diagnoses may help to identify any discrepancies or inconsistencies. If the conclusions are largely similar, it may be due to personal preferences or other factors, and the decision to proceed with the recommended course of action should be made on a case-by-case basis.

In such a case, the administration of medication in accordance with the instructions of a duly qualified medical practitioner, or in conjunction with psychological counseling, may prove an effective course of action. It is anticipated that with time, the individual will be able to emerge from the condition. In instances where depression has been diagnosed and is already in progress, the current recommendation is to refrain from the use of medication. However, given the potential for emotional fluctuations to exert a detrimental influence on the existing depressive state, it is not excluded that in the future, the administration of medication may be warranted.

Such an action would only serve to exacerbate the situation.

It is therefore recommended that the first priority now is to change hospitals and find the relevant doctor. Alternatively, other doctors in this hospital can be consulted for a diagnosis. Both options are believed to be beneficial. This matter still requires urgent attention.

Ultimately, it can be posited that the lack of harmony in the relationship with one's parents gives rise to feelings of helplessness and powerlessness. Furthermore, the outcomes sought through the utilisation of personal methodologies may not align with the desired results. In such circumstances, it can be argued that the process of trial and error is a universal experience, and that the initial point of departure is, in fact, a favourable one. The aspiration for a happy, reunited, and harmonious family unit is a common one.

It is our promise that this starting point is acceptable. Once a starting point has been decided upon, it is then necessary to ascertain the methods that can be employed in order to achieve it. For example, reading books and articles, or asking questions in our Q&A library, are two such methods.

Given our practical experience, we have come to understand that changes in parents' emotions affect children, and that parents' words and actions also affect children. It is therefore reasonable to conclude that if you become a mother in the future, you will undoubtedly seek to avoid repeating the same mistakes. This is a promising starting point.

It is not advisable to concern oneself with the similarities or differences between oneself and one's parents; rather, it is more beneficial to focus on one's own desires and convictions. If one wishes to spare others from the pain one has endured, it would be prudent to investigate the underlying causes of these negative emotions.

This process allows for the internalization of learned concepts and their subsequent application in tangible actions.

It is my contention that this process will facilitate the re-establishment of a connection with one's parents and enable the discovery of one's optimal self for the duration of one's lifetime. Furthermore, it will contribute to the well-being of one's children.

It is now recommended that you seek the advice of a medical professional to obtain a diagnosis and to learn how to treat the disease. You may then wish to read some psychology books and further articles that will help you to understand the issues you are facing better. This will enable you to take control of your own destiny and to regain your sense of vitality.

I wish you the best of success.

Should you wish to continue the dialogue, you are invited to click on the "Find a coach" link, which can be found in the top right-hand corner or at the bottom of the page. This will enable you to communicate with me directly.

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Hello, topic starter. I'm sending you a hug of love and strength. Draw on it for warmth and resilience.

I can see you saying:

I cannot forgive my parents, and I will not use my mother as a starting point to communicate and maintain this relationship again. My heart has dropped to a freezing point, and I will not get married or have children because I am afraid that if I don't educate them well, I'll hurt my children. I am also afraid that if I bring her into this world, she'll only feel pain. I want to grow old alone, but there is currently a guy I like, and I will approach him. Being lonely is unbearable. Now, because of this, I'm stuck in my room every day, and I don't want to study or do anything.

I am concerned about you. You are currently rejecting marriage and having children because you feel so much pain. This rejection is driven by fear, as you are worried that your children will repeat your mistakes.

You're afraid to approach the boy you like, and you're withdrawing and protecting yourself. You think that if you don't approach him, you won't be hurt. But you're also preventing yourself from healing.

Some people say that women have three chances at life: one is employment, one is marriage, and one is childbirth. What you have in front of you now is a chance at a second life.

I also want to share with you an animated film I watched with my son this year. It's about three dinosaurs who go in search of warmth and light. This year, the three dinosaurs experienced a winter that was much longer than previous years. They had to cross mountains and rivers to actively search for and get closer to warmth and light, which took a lot of effort. They found that it was useless and a more terrifying snowstorm was approaching.

But they didn't complain or give up. They kept looking. In the process of searching again, they met new friends. In an atmosphere of mutual support and sharing among friends, they had the most important realization: give yourself warmth and light, and your inner world will be warm and happy.

I always tell people who come to me for help that you can't love others well unless you love yourself well. Be kinder to yourself and take care of yourself. Your heart will heal and grow if you do.

If you find the above suggestions difficult, seek help from a professional.

I am pleased to be here.

Hello!

Host:

I am Zeng Chen, a Heart Explorer coach. I have read the post carefully and I totally get the feeling of wanting to be understood but not being understood.

At the same time, I also noticed that the poster has bravely expressed his or her distress and actively sought help on the platform, which will undoubtedly help the poster to better understand and understand themselves, so as to adjust themselves and encounter a better self.

And now for some more observations and thoughts that I'm really excited to share with you! I think they'll help you to see things from a more diverse perspective.

1. Let go of your expectations of your parents and embrace the amazing, supportive community here!

From the post, I can observe that the poster is feeling very sad and depressed, but is not understood by her parents. Well, this feeling of not being understood must be very difficult, and it seems that there are no other people around who understand you. But there are still a lot of people who understand you!

A hug across the screen! There are still so many people who understand you!

So, you are not alone!

So let's dive in and explore some ways you can feel better! It's totally normal to feel confused about depression. Many people don't understand it, and many parents of people with depression don't understand it either.

So why don't parents understand? The good news is that it's often because they don't have the knowledge or awareness yet!

The era they lived in and the education they received didn't include this aspect, which means there's so much more for them to discover!

Sometimes, we get to learn how to let go of our expectations of our parents and let go of their expectations of us. It's a great opportunity to understand them better! Their support may be very important, but when they can't do it, our expectations of them may turn into disappointment. But, we can turn that around! We can choose to feel disappointment, or we can choose to feel excited about learning more about ourselves and our emotions.

But if you let go of your expectations, there will be no disappointment! And don't forget that we can understand ourselves!

Because we know ourselves better than anyone else!

2. Try to separate the issues!

In the post, I learned that the host left home due to family conflicts. When I returned home, my mother asked me to give my father some advice. I was in a bad state at the time, rambling on and on, and my father didn't even finish listening before he went back to his room and pointed at me and said, "You're just a nut." I felt that there was no way I could forgive my parents, and I couldn't communicate with my mother again and repair the relationship. My heart sank to the bottom of the ice, and for this reason I didn't want to get married or have children, for fear of harming my child with bad education, and of bringing her into this world only to feel pain, how terrible, wanting to grow old alone.

After reading this, I totally get where you're coming from! At that time, you were also really upset, right?

So here we can look together at what we can do to face these things in the future. What does the term separation mean?

From a psychological point of view, a healthy family relationship model is like an equilateral triangle with a father, mother, and child at the three corners.

In other words, the relationship between father, mother, and child is a balanced state, because it is an equilateral triangle. The original poster mentioned that because of family conflicts, the mother wants you to give some advice to the father, which is a great opportunity to help them find a solution!

At this point, it's clear that the balance in the family relationship has been disrupted, and there's a sense of choosing sides. When giving advice to the father at this time, it's important to remember that from some perspectives, it means that the father is in the wrong.

But what if Dad thinks he's right? Then there will naturally be a lot of conflict. And that's OK!

So, let's get excited about understanding that a healthy family relationship is based on a healthy parent-child relationship, which is based on a healthy husband-wife relationship! In other words, the relationship between mom and dad is their own problem. And guess what? If they could solve the problems between them, they would have done so long ago!

We can't solve it with a few words, so it's not our problem!

So, what does the topic of separation mean? It means recognizing what is your problem and what is someone else's problem.

The good news is that we can all manage ourselves! If parents have a poor relationship, it is only because they are unable to manage their own relationships.

The good news is that not all intimate relationships are like this!

The good news is that although the relationship between parents has a great influence on our emotional patterns, these influences can be changed and overcome.

3. A self-help guide for people suffering from depression

This is an amazing self-help method for depression patients! After she developed depression, she slept for many days, and it was the kind of feeling where she felt distant from everything except the bed.

Then one day, she heard a voice in her head telling her that she could do better. So she planned to go for a 5-kilometer run the next day!

But the next day, after just a few steps outside the door, she turned back, ready to try again!

Because she felt like she had used up all her energy, she decided to take a break and not make things difficult for herself.

Don't compete with yourself, just do what you can do at the moment! That day, she sent a message to a friend and tidied her desk.

In the evening, when she looked back on the day, she was thrilled to start taking notes of all the amazing things she had done. She wrote that today she had sent a message to a friend, tidied her desk, and found some really interesting notes!

After she recorded these, she felt a wonderful sense of accomplishment. So she would record these small changes in her life and interesting things in her life every day.

And so she kept going, building on her successes and feeling more and more like herself again.

So, get out there and record those little happy events every day!

Let these events nourish you! Every day, do the things you can do, and you'll see how quickly we'll get better!

I really hope these will be of some help and inspiration to you! If you have any questions, you can also click on Find a Coach to have a one-on-one conversation with us. We'd love to support you as you face yourself!

It's so great that you're taking steps to improve your family situation! It's a bit concerning that you've been feeling depressed, but you're taking charge and seeking help. It's also important to recognize that your parents have different perspectives and that your father's accusation of being neurotic might have been hurtful. It's totally normal to feel uncomfortable in these situations. You're already taking steps to address your feelings and find solutions. Keep up the great work!

You once told your mother about your situation, but she didn't understand, accept, or even deny you. That's okay! There's no need to be discouraged. You can try going to a top-tier hospital for an assessment again to get a more complete perspective.

There may be some corresponding reasons for everyone's depression, which means there are also some amazing opportunities for growth and healing! Think about what role your father and mother played in your growth journey, whether they have already given you too much trauma, and whether they have already left a lot of harm in your life.

You once ran away from home because of family conflicts, which shows that your family relationships may not be particularly harmonious. But there's hope! Family is our haven, the home we rely on for survival, and the place where we can heal our wounds. With a little effort, your family can become the strong, supportive unit you need.

Your mother asked you to give your father some advice, but instead you were scolded by him. Now you feel that you have been traumatized by marriage and family, and that you find it difficult to enter into love and a family. But don't worry! We can help. We recommend that you take the psychological test on wounds from the original family and have a one-on-one interpretation. Talk to a coach about your recent state of mind. Good luck!

ZQ?

Hello, question asker! I'm thrilled to answer your question.

From the description of the questioner, we can see that talking to his parents about depression makes him feel even more pressure. This is a great opportunity for him to educate his parents about depression and show them that he is ready to work through this challenge together! From the questioner's own description, we can see that he still hopes that his parents will take his depressed mood seriously and understand what he is going through. This is a chance for him to show his parents that he is ready to work through this challenge together!

Pat the questioner on the shoulder and give them a little strength. Parents may not understand what depression is, but you can help them! Learn how to communicate your depressed mood, or depression, to your parents. First, you must be well informed and prepared about depression or a depressed mood. Tell them what kind of support you expect from them and have a one-on-one conversation with them.

Humans are social creatures, and it is not easy to grow old alone. Many people cannot bear it, and I wholeheartedly suggest that the questioner should first communicate with their parents about depression.

Because of the question that the original poster asked on the platform, I'm excited to give some advice on how the original poster can communicate with their parents about their depression!

It's so important to understand the symptoms of depression and communicate with your parents.

The good news is that you can take control of your life and start feeling better! The first step is to talk to your parents about depression. You'll want to understand what the symptoms are and how they manifest. It's a great idea to go to the hospital and take a depression test. If you're not sure whether you have depression, but you're feeling down, you can find out exactly how severe your symptoms are.

There are so many ways in which depression in adolescents can manifest itself. It can be expressed as indecision, tiredness, anger, or excessive sadness.

Depression can also affect your schoolwork, making it difficult to concentrate and lose motivation. You might even find yourself feeling isolated from friends and family.

There may also be insomnia or excessive sleepiness, which is totally normal! You might also find yourself trying to numb your feelings with alcohol or feeling the urge to do something dangerous, which is a sign that you're feeling alive!

It's never too late to get help! Even if you're not sure whether you have depression, talking about the symptoms is a great first step.

Conversations with parents are bound to be difficult, but they're also bound to be rewarding!

It is so important to realize that talking to your parents about depression is a great first step! Telling your parents about depression or the symptoms of depression can be emotionally overwhelming, but you can do it!

When you communicate with your parents about depression, you may both experience strong emotions. This is totally normal! Depression is a difficult problem to solve, but you can do it! When it worsens into a severe condition, the earlier it is treated, the sooner you can recover.

Parents don't take depression or a depressed mood seriously because they don't understand the harm it causes or the nature of the problem. But there's no reason for them to! If you can explain to them how depression affects you, your future, and what kind of help you need, they'll be able to help you feel better and know how to help you.

Seek help from a teacher you trust!

Parents may not know how to deal with the illness or don't understand it well enough, but there's no need to worry! You can seek help from the homeroom teacher, school counselor, or dean of students.

The great news is that the state is now paying a lot of attention to student depression, and teachers in every school are too! If you ask them for help, they will respond. This will help you gain the courage to no longer be afraid to talk about your depression.

You could say, "Teacher, I think I'm depressed, but when I talk to my parents, they don't understand. I hope you can help me communicate with them."

This trusted teacher may even call your parents to come to the school for an interview! This way, you can talk to them about depression in a safe and comfortable environment.

It's time to communicate with the closer parent!

The good news is that the parent who has a closer relationship with the questioner or trusts the questioner more will have a more sympathetic response. Even better, the questioner can consider communicating with one parent first to gain their support, and then have that parent convey the questioner's opinion!

Adults who believe they are on an equal footing can communicate more calmly, which is great!

It's a great idea to think in advance about the questions your parents might ask!

Be prepared to explain what depression is and describe your feelings and symptoms. It's a great idea to write down the main points you want to convey in advance, bring them with you when you talk to your parents, and refer to them during the conversation.

You can also share your thoughts and tell your parents how they can help you! Parents may have a lot of questions, so it's great that you're ready to answer them.

The questioner can think of their own answers in advance, or simply tell their parents that they would prefer to consult a psychologist or psychiatrist. Here are some questions that parents may ask, or signs of depression that the questioner may need to communicate with their parents:

Are you thinking about harming yourself or committing suicide?

How long have you been feeling this way?

We're so glad you're here! We're ready to help you feel better. Are you feeling this way because something has happened?

We're here to help you feel better!

While they are thinking about your response, they may ask new questions. This is your chance to explain a few times before they really understand what depression is. You can help them understand!

Go for it! Ask for medical treatment or psychological intervention.

Absolutely!

It's okay if your parents don't know what to do when you bring up the topic of depression. Just make sure they know you're concerned about your condition and want help!

You can say, "I think I need to go for some psychological treatment or ask a psychologist for help with diagnosis." A psychologist or a mental health center can help you determine whether you are suffering from depression. This is a great first step!

The great news is that you can get the professional treatment and relevant psychological interventions you need from a psychiatrist.

Another great idea is to ask your parents if there's a family history of depression or other mental health issues in your family. This can help them see that there's a genetic component to the problem you're facing, which is really exciting!

Now for the fun part! Dealing with parental reactions.

From the author's own account, we can see that the author's parents' reaction was not very good, so the author should not panic. The parents' reaction to this matter does not meet the author's expectations — but there's no need to worry!

It's totally normal for them to feel disbelief, self-blame, anger, or fear. It's all because they don't fully understand depression yet. The questioner may have been struggling with a depressed mood for some time, but now they're finally aware of it!

Give them some time to digest the news and figure out their true feelings. They'll be ready to take on the world in no time!

If they are confused, you can say, "It took me a long time to understand depression too." And remember, this is not your fault!

Telling them that what they are doing is the right thing to do is the absolute best way to let them know this! If your parents don't take what you say seriously, keep repeating it or tell other adults or teachers until they take action.

It doesn't matter whether your parents believe you or not. What matters is that you know depression is a very serious matter that requires early treatment.

In any case, remember that you are not alone! You can find support from the adults around you. If you educate your parents about the symptoms of depression, they will be able to give you strong support once they understand.

The good news is that the questioner can also receive early treatment!

I really hope my answer helps the questioner!

Dear girl, I am Xing Ying, a listening therapist at Yixinli, a national level-3 psychological counselor. From your words and actions, I can clearly see that you are longing to be understood and loved.

Your family can't help you. Come to Yixinli. We are a warm and caring family. We are here for you.

We must first discuss the diagnosis of depression.

First, we will discuss the diagnosis of depression.

1) The diagnosis is based on the hospital's:

Your parents and I are not qualified to make a diagnosis, and neither is a counselor. The diagnosis from a hospital is definitive.

I went to the psychiatric department of a Grade III hospital for an assessment and was told that I had a slight but not serious condition and could be prescribed medication.

If it's not at the level of depression, you'll come out of this low mood with some time to adjust.

If you are not at ease, you should seek a diagnosis from another hospital. It is important to know exactly what your current physical condition is.

It is crucial to seek help as soon as you notice the signs of depression. If you are certain that there is no underlying issue, you can take steps to relax and manage your emotions effectively. This will help you reduce psychological pressure and regulate your emotions.

2) Interpretation of parental response:

Your mother's stern rejection and your father's expletive-laden tirade will only make you feel even more sad. You'll think, "I'm in this much pain, why don't you show me any concern?" And you're right to feel that way.

From a psychological standpoint, it's clear that when people encounter fear or dangerous situations, their immediate response is to deny them. Let's consider some examples from real life:

When something truly awful happens to someone we care about, we often say, "Oh, no! No way!"

Your parents' angry denials are a result of their deep-seated fear that something bad will happen to you. The more they worry, the stronger their denial! They just don't know how to express their concerns. Let me be clear: they are actually extremely afraid and worried sick about you.

This is the truth! It's not an exaggeration.

Let's talk about the influence of parents on you again.

1) They love. They just don't know how to show it. Love is not only an emotion; it's also a skill.

I don't know what caused your father to leave home, but I know he was very sad. He was also lonely and vulnerable when he left home. When you're lonely, your heart is closed and you won't hear any advice. What you want is a warm embrace. Your father, you, and I, we're all the same at this time, but the people around us may not understand. They mean well, but they use the wrong methods, and they need to stop.

When we see our parents' fear and loneliness, we finally understand that they are just ordinary people. They love you, but they haven't learned how to love and express their love to their children.

2) Compassion because of understanding: A heart that is not understood can more easily understand others.

You tried to help your mother resolve conflicts in the family despite your own discomfort. I can see your kind heart and the light that still shines within you. We often cannot choose our parents, but we can choose how to be parents. A heart that is not understood can more easily understand others. You will be a good mother in the future.

Go up to him if there is a boy you like!

You will find people in this world who understand you. Everyone experiences loneliness and despair. Hold yourself close and cry out loud. We will be there for you.

I give you another hug, and I want you to know that the world and I love you!

Love yourself, too.

Let me offer you a hug, if I may.

Each individual is born into the world alone and must, therefore, engage in a lifelong struggle against loneliness. This endeavour is made possible by the presence of parents, siblings, friends, colleagues, partners, and children.

In regard to depression, it is important to distinguish between two distinct concepts. The former necessitates professional intervention, whereas the latter is a universal experience, akin to the weather. It is inherent that our moods will not always be positive, and that there will be fluctuations. When we are in a negative mood, it is crucial not to resist it but to accept it with compassion, acknowledging its presence and engaging in a constructive dialogue with it.

Communication with the depressed emotions reveals that they are merely children in need of love. When provided with sufficient love, they will flee.

Furthermore, it is important to recognize that parents may not possess the same level of understanding about depressive moods as their children. They may also be more vulnerable on a psychological level. However, it is beneficial to acknowledge that they are still capable of providing support and guidance, even if they lack the same depth of knowledge.

It is erroneous to assume that individuals with greater life experience are inherently more psychologically mature. In the event that psychological assistance is required, it is advisable to seek the guidance of a qualified professional, rather than relying on parental support.

Ultimately, it is my hope that you are aware that each individual is responsible for confronting their own emotions and taking ownership of their actions.

It is my sincere hope that these words will prove beneficial to you. I extend my embrace once more, with the hope that it will imbue you with strength.