Depression, inability to concentrate, and lack of motivation in school. What kind of classes can improve these?

Hello, question asker!

"I need to go to college, but I can't concentrate, I can't study, I'm depressed, and my family of origin has given me trauma." How can I save myself? I'm ready to take control of my life!

Let's sort this out together!

A short description can only show the result, not the cause. So let's dive deeper! What exactly is the trauma in the original family? And what are you thinking when you can't concentrate?

How do you feel? Are you going to high school, college, or something else? Whatever it is, I'm excited to hear about it!

This is all so fascinating!

Why not write out these reasons? It could be that when we think about these things, we feel sad, upset, or guilty, and it's too much for us to bear. But there's a way to get through it!

I think this is something the questioner needs to face up to. When we stop avoiding these experiences, we can re-evaluate the people and things around us, change our mindsets, and start a new life—and it's going to be great!

There are so many wonderful methods of meditation! The questioner has tried it before, and while it didn't work this time, there's no reason to give up. It might just need a little tweaking. If the practice only stays at the initial state of relaxation and doesn't enter the level of consciousness, no real progress will be made. But there's no reason why it can't work this time!

I'm excited to share some insights on the causes and manifestations of depression and ways to change them. I hope this will inspire the questioner and help them on their journey.

Depression is caused by a series of self-denying beliefs (I'm too stupid, useless, etc.) that arise when the current self is dissatisfied with the past self and is not accepted. So, some people say that depressed people live in the past—but there's so much more to life than that!

Depression can make you feel like you just don't want to get out of bed in the morning! You might find yourself lying around, not wanting to move, not wanting to eat, and lacking motivation to do anything. You may feel down and refuse to interact with others.

You may no longer be interested in things you used to like, and that's okay! Your memory may have deteriorated, but that just means you have the opportunity to learn new things.

If you're suffering from depression, don't worry! There are ways to get back on track. First, go to the hospital for a detailed examination and the right medication. Then, get psychological counseling. It's a great way to learn new ways of thinking. The medication will help your nervous system function better. This will help you feel more in control of your emotions.

The great news is that this process will be more effective with the help of psychological counseling. Even better, inpatient treatment can be reimbursed by medical insurance, which can reduce the financial burden.

With mild medication under control, you can absolutely regulate yourself!

First, change your way of thinking! Don't deny yourself completely just because you are not good at something. When you feel self-doubt, think in reverse and find the good things about yourself.

If you ask yourself, "Have I ever been smart?" and look for it carefully, you'll be amazed at how much you have to offer!

The next step is to accept yourself as you are. You might have done things badly or not met your parents' expectations at the moment, but that doesn't mean it will be the same in the future!

And finally, find a way to change! Think about all those successful methods you've used in the past to reawaken your own willpower.

Seek help from parents or significant others. For example, talk to someone you trust and get excited about all the ways they'll encourage and motivate you!

Let's make a promise to each other: complaining and blaming will not help anyone around us. Instead, we'll focus on solutions and positive change!

Get moving! Do a regular exercise you love every day. Exercise is a great way to excite the cerebellum and calm the brain (and don't think too much). At the same time, the brain will release some chemical elements that make people happy, which can relieve emotions very well.

Keeping a diary is a fantastic way to talk to yourself and explore yourself!

Celebrate your progress! If you haven't made as much as you'd hoped, give yourself a little TLC.

The amazing whale selection members on Yi Xinli think they are perfect for you! You can choose to listen to content related to yourself and slowly change yourself.

I really hope these suggestions help you!

Wishing you the very best!

Hello, dear child!

I'm Yi Ming, your heart exploration coach!

You didn't say how old you are, but if you need to go to school, you must still be a student!

You may be facing pressure from your studies, but you can do it!

I would absolutely love to share some of what I know with you! I really hope it will be comforting and inspiring.

1. Take a moment to assess your own state.

You feel that you cannot concentrate and cannot learn, but you know that you can!

You are actively seeking a solution, which is great!

For example, you could try meditation or even plan to take classes!

It would be really helpful for you to do a simple self-assessment. This will help you understand how long this state has been going on for.

How much is it affecting you now? Let's find out!

For example, we all have the experience that sometimes we just can't study and are in a low mood. But guess what? That's totally normal! We all go through it.

However, after a period of time, you may feel that your condition has gradually improved again!

So, take a moment to see if your current state of mind is affecting your normal study and life.

If the impact is not significant, you can self-regulate and get more rest!

If the impact is already significant, it's like having a cold or a fever – but you can beat it!

If you feel serious, you might as well seek professional help! There are so many great options out there, like going to the doctor or getting psychological counseling.

And the best part is, it's easier to get us out of trouble!

2. Be understanding and learn to care for yourself — it's the best thing you can do!

Many of us have had the opportunity to overcome family trauma!

Many of us have had the opportunity to overcome family trauma!

It just depends on how old you are now. And when we grow up a little, we can naturally heal ourselves!

The book "You'll be stronger if you don't fight yourself" has some great advice for us!

If we take care of ourselves, we'll find a rock-solid, dependable shoulder to lean on. We all have a mother inside us who is always ready to care for us!

The great news is that even if our family members cannot provide support for the time being, we can absolutely learn to care for ourselves!

For example, when we cannot concentrate and learn, we have the amazing opportunity to try to understand ourselves instead of criticizing ourselves.

Is the current course a bit challenging for you? Are you feeling a little stressed?

Or has something special happened recently that has affected you?

How is your relationship with your family? I'd love to hear all about it!

Do you feel anxious? Let's work through it together!

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It's totally normal to have trouble concentrating sometimes!

It's so much easier to face things when you understand yourself, without forcing yourself!

Absolutely! We also need to learn to comfort ourselves.

A healthier state is:

Embrace your own state when you feel a little bad.

Make the most of your energy and use it to work! And when you don't have any energy, rest and recharge!

Self-care is all about embracing yourself, no fighting required!

And the best part is, the more we do this, the easier it is for us to come out of it!

3. Go with the flow and do what needs to be done!

You said, "I plan to buy a course on 1stmind." Way to go! Kudos to you for taking the initiative to learn!

I'd love to know if you're busy right now!

It's pretty amazing when you see a huge change in yourself after taking a course!

Because everyone faces different problems, and we can all learn from each other!

There's this amazing psychological therapy called Morita therapy, which suggests you "let things take their course and do what needs to be done."

In short, you don't need to worry about your problems! Just do what you should be doing every day, and you'll be on the right track.

For example, attend classes, do homework, study, exercise, etc.! Even if the results aren't good, just keep doing it!

And the best part is, things will improve without you even noticing!

You should definitely check out some free courses first, since funds are limited!

You can search the XuetangX channel for free rankings, such as "The Power of Emotions – Self-Care and Coping Strategies under Stress," "How to Get Rid of the Negative Influence of Your Family of Origin," and "What to Do When You Are Anxious." All of these are now free to attend, so go ahead and check them out!

Take your time, dear child!

Take your time, my dear child!

I'm sure you'll find a method that suits you perfectly!

And there's more! You can also find a psychometric coach to chat with, etc.

Just share these and I'm sure you'll find the perfect fit!

Wishing you the very best!

Hello!

You're facing the exciting prospect of going to university! But you're feeling stressed and a bit down. I can feel it, so give yourself a hug!

You've been working hard, and it's paying off! You're learning and growing, and you're on your way to getting out of that depressed mood and studying more efficiently. Give yourself a pat on the back for your amazing efforts!

1. Find the root cause of your emotional problems and face them more objectively and rationally. You can do it!

In terms of emotions, many people have their own fixed patterns, which are different personality characteristics of each individual. For example, some people are more optimistic and have more positive emotions, while others are more pessimistic and have more negative emotions. This pattern may be related to our genetic factors, upbringing, parenting style, parenting by example, and our experiences and education models from an early age. Once the pattern is formed, it is very difficult to change—but it is also very exciting to explore the possibilities of change!

For example, a child who has suffered trauma in the family of origin may grow up to develop a relatively depressive personality, may be emotionally unstable, have relatively weak willpower, and often be depressed. But here's the good news: it is indeed very difficult to completely change such an emotional pattern. However, that doesn't mean we can't do anything!

We can gain a deeper understanding of how our emotional patterns operate by sorting out the root causes of their formation. This helps us to remain more aware, which is great! When we fall into a depressed mood again, we know that our familiar emotional pattern is coming back. The most important thing to do in this case is to accept ourselves. We shouldn't blame or criticize ourselves for this, because it's not our fault.

Absolutely! Try to adjust on the basis of acceptance.

When you can accept and stop fighting against yourself, you will feel a great release of emotions, and then you'll see what you can do within your own abilities!

If meditation isn't for you, don't worry! There are so many other ways to adjust your emotions. Try taking a few deep breaths, going for a walk, jogging for a while, chatting with a good friend, or going out into the sunshine.

2. Set your sights on your dream goal! Envision the incredible relief and happiness you'll feel once you reach it. Remember this feeling, and use it as a positive suggestion to fuel your internal motivation.

The most important thing you can do to succeed is to find your own motivation. When you have a genuine desire for a goal and you feel the sense of accomplishment and value that comes with achieving it, you'll be unstoppable!

3. Learn to relieve your stress!

Your personality traits are just a background. The pressure of reality may be the direct cause of our depression. But there's no need to worry! We can take control of our lives and overcome this challenge. When we're under pressure, it's natural to have narrow thinking, find it difficult to concentrate, and be inefficient at work and study. But we can break this cycle by learning to reduce our stress. The more we face major life opportunities such as further studies, the more we need to learn to reduce our stress. So let's get started!

It's time to reduce your stress! You can do this by setting achievable goals and accepting the consequences of your efforts. With a positive attitude, you can learn as much as you can and have no regrets as long as you've tried your best!

4. About learning psychology:

I think it's a great idea for you to take courses on an online psychological platform! You might especially hope that learning a course will help you adjust your emotions. Given the current limited time and money, I suggest you search for some tips on improving your mood. There are so many great articles out there, and you can try to find the ones that suit you. However, I do not recommend you take long-term courses that take up a lot of time. If you have the time and money, it is better to find a professional psychological counselor for targeted help, because time is precious to you. It is also a great choice to wait until you have time after the exam to learn systematically!

I really hope Hongyu's reply helps you! Thanks so much for your question!

Hello!

It's hard to give advice on self-growth in less than 100 words. I hope we can chat and explore more possibilities when you feel depressed.

"A slow remedy doesn't meet an urgent need."

I'm not sure if you're talking about the middle school or college entrance exam. How many years do you have to prepare? Psychology often says "helping people to help themselves."

This process takes time and requires gradual progress. You seem proactive. You've also practiced meditation and plan to take a course at Yi Xinli. I applaud your initiative. If you're doing this for further education and there's no time to explore changes slowly, you can seek financial support from your family so that you can receive professional diagnosis and treatment.

Know yourself to grow.

I also recommend a course from Yixinli: "Know Thyself Psychology" by Zhang Peichao. It helps us understand ourselves and our relationships with others. We learn to recognize our values, beliefs, and meaning in life. We also learn to accept ourselves and let go of labels.

The course has 41 lectures. It's worth listening to them a few times, following the exercises, and putting them into practice. The original price is 129 yuan, but you can get 40 yuan off with the VIP discount coupon.

A healthy routine is the first step.

A healthy routine is the first step.

I recommended psychotherapy, but I'm still worried about your references to "inability to concentrate" and "unable to learn." The information is limited, so some suggestions are general.

I don't know how severe your concentration and learning issues are, how long they've been going on, or if they're affecting other things like eating, sleeping, activity levels, or interests. If so, you can start by making some lifestyle changes and getting some exercise.

I hope the questioner gets the help they need and has a smooth transition to higher education!

I hope the questioner gets the help they need and has a smooth transition to higher education!

The challenges the questioner is facing can be seen in the short numbers:

The need to go to school makes it hard to concentrate, learn, and causes depression. The original family has also caused trauma.

On the other hand, we can see that the original poster has already made some efforts:

I've been doing a lot of meditation lately.

On top of that, it looks like the questioner has come up with another solution:

I'm planning to purchase a course on 1Mind.

This solution seems simple and clear, and it also starts from the actual situation of "limited funds." However, this also limits other paths to dealing with current difficulties to a certain extent. It's possible that hoping to solve problems using a single path is precisely one of the factors affecting difficulties.

The following sharing is meant to help you think about how to deal with difficulties and look at current difficulties from multiple perspectives:

The questioner's goal is now to "advance to higher education," and the difficulty encountered in this goal is "inability to concentrate and depression." As we all know, "advancing to higher education" is the process of "learning," and "taking classes" is also the process of "learning."

If the issues with concentration and depression aren't resolved, even if the course is purchased, it might not have much impact. This doesn't mean the course shouldn't be purchased, though.

If the course you bought is on topics like "improving concentration," "coping with depressive emotions," "original family," and "trauma," then learning from professional knowledge might be helpful.

However, if you learn but don't put it into practice, you'll end up disappointed if you don't see results.

So, before you start a psychology course, you might also want to think about what other options could help you.

1. First, learn from your mistakes. Meditation doesn't work because

Mindfulness meditation has been shown to be effective in many studies. There are a few reasons why it might not have worked for you. Here are a few to get you started:

a. Not sticking with it, only practicing when you remember, lacking perseverance

b. Not having the right guidance, and just practicing based on your own understanding.

c. Being too anxious to see results and letting your state of mind affect your form.

The above three points are pretty common when doing related exercises. If you don't get past them, even if you buy a course, you might just put it aside after listening to just one session.

So, learning from your mistakes will help you avoid repeating them when you explore related solutions in the future.

2. Start with small goals and 10-20 minutes of focused attention.

2. Start with small goals and 10-20 minutes of focused attention.

The pressure of moving up in school can easily make us panic and lose our bearings. We tend to think that if we take a course, for example, we will acquire a new skill, which gives us a sense of security at first.

However, learning how to add can also make you feel anxious and uneasy.

So, you can start by trying to achieve a goal, like you previously hoped to be able to concentrate for an hour, but instead just being able to concentrate for the first 10-20 minutes.

Once you've had a taste of success with this small goal, it'll be easier to move on to more distant ones.

3. Long-term, far-reaching difficulties are likely to require support from multiple systems.

It seems like the questioner's difficulty has a long-term, historical component. The trauma caused by the original family, depression, and difficulty concentrating are all connected, so it's likely that professional help is needed to address these issues, rather than just attending lectures as a self-help method.

Attending lectures is a great way to help yourself, and the above has also mentioned some topics. The teachers at Yi Xin Li are all professionally qualified, and you can find a reliable course by selecting a topic and reading the introduction.

Even if money is tight, it's still a good idea to get a multi-disciplinary approach to treatment from different sources, including a psychiatrist. Public hospitals have pretty reasonable fees, and there are also lots of charities and projects that offer reduced rates and quotas for people who need help.

If you're a student, your school often has free counselors on hand to help you out. You can pay attention to various aspects to give yourself more comprehensive support.

I hope this sharing is helpful for you.

I'm a psychologist, not a human behaviorist. I'm here to help you with your emotional well-being. Best of luck to you.

Hello, question owner!

I'm so happy to hear from you! From reading your message, I can tell that you're going through a rough patch and are looking to make some changes. It's so great to see that you're a very aware child with high expectations of yourself and a thoughtful nature!

I'd love to help you, but I'm not sure what's going on. How long have you been feeling this way?

You said you were traumatized in your family of origin. I'm so sorry to hear that. Could you tell me a little more about what happened? You are going to continue your education now. Is it the middle school entrance exam?

Oh, I'm not sure if it's the college entrance exam or the postgraduate entrance exam?

I'd love to help if I can!

You said you want to buy a course on the Yi Xinli platform to learn how to change your state of mind, which is a great idea! Regardless of the results, it can at least increase your knowledge.

I think you'll find it really helpful to start by listening to some free courses on the platform, such as those on self-exploration, family relationships, and emotions.

If your current emotional state doesn't affect your daily life and can be adjusted, let's work together to sort it out!

It's okay to accept your emotional state.

It's totally normal for everyone's moods to change a lot every day. Whether they're good or bad, they're a reaction to the environment we're in or the problems we're facing. When faced with our current mood of depression and irritability, let's first try to accept them.

It's so important to understand the truth behind our emotions.

It's totally normal to feel down sometimes. But where do our current feelings of depression and anxiety come from? And what can we do about it?

I know it can be tough, but I'm here to help. We can absolutely change these things together.

It's so important to get along with your emotions!

It's important to remember that these emotions are real and that everyone experiences them, but everyone deals with them differently. While positive emotions can help us coordinate and facilitate things, negative emotions are not always bad. Appropriate depression and anxiety can help us calm down and think about how to do a better job, but excessive negativity will backfire. So when we face our own depression and anxiety, we can get along with them, not resist or suppress them, and let them flow naturally.

And finally, we'll look at how to correctly handle our emotions.

1. Psychological counseling:

You can always talk to the school psychologist about your feelings, and they can help you with your homework too!

2. Exercise is a great way to boost your mood!

I know it can be tough, but exercise can really help! It can relieve some worries, and it also promotes the secretion of dopamine.

I really hope this helps you to feel less depressed.

3: Music: Treat yourself to some soothing tunes to help you relax. There are so many wonderful healing songs out there, so take your pick and enjoy!

4: Relaxation training: things like abdominal breathing and body scanning can be really helpful.

5: Mindfulness exercises are great for training concentration!

I hope these tips help! I'm sorry I can't think of more, but I really hope you find these useful.

Sending you all my love and best wishes! The world and I love you! ?