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Do I ever do anything right? What's the point of living? By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024

I really want to die, I don't want to live. Why should I? I'm truly useless! I've never done anything right. Living is meaningless for me.

Archie Archie A total of 455 people have been helped

I suggest you seek help from a mental health expert. Here is a brief analysis of your situation.

First, find out what's causing it.

Some psychological perspectives can help us understand the phenomena you mentioned:

Self-denial and self-evaluation:

This may be related to self-negation and negative self-evaluation. When we focus on our mistakes, we overlook our strengths.

A counselor can help you think more positively about yourself.

2. Meaning and purpose in life:

If you feel you've never done anything right, you may lack meaning and purpose in life. A counselor can help you rethink your values, interests, and goals, find things that matter to you, and set attainable goals.

3. Negative thinking patterns:

Negative thinking includes overgeneralizing, ignoring positive information, and making emotions stronger. This can make negative emotions worse and make you think less of yourself.

A counselor can teach you to identify and change negative thoughts.

4. Mental health problems:

If you have severe depression, anxiety, or other mental health problems, you may need professional help.

A counselor can help you based on your situation.

5. Self-denial and self-worth:

When we feel bad, we focus on our mistakes and forget about our good qualities. This can make us feel worse.

A counselor can help you see your strengths and values and improve your self-assessment.

6. Meaning and purpose:

People need a sense of purpose to live meaningfully. If you lack purpose, seek help from a counselor. Re-examine your values and goals. Find things that give your life meaning. Set attainable goals.

7. Negative thinking and cognitive dissonance:

Negative thinking can make you feel worse and make you doubt yourself. A counselor can teach you to identify and change your negative thinking and reduce your stress.

2. Advice for adjusting your psychology

When facing difficulties, adjust your mindset and face life positively. Here are some suggestions to help you change your mindset and deal with life's difficulties in a positive way.

1. Accept reality.

When facing difficulties, accept reality. Setbacks and frustrations are part of life. Accepting reality helps us cope with problems.

Stay positive.

A positive mindset helps you stay optimistic and hopeful in difficult times. Even though things may seem tough, believe in your ability to cope and that things will get better.

Positive thinking and self-talk help you find solutions.

3. Get support.

It's good to talk to friends and family when you're feeling down. They can help you feel better.

Seeking help from a professional counselor is also a wise choice. They can provide specific advice and support.

4. Stay healthy:

Your physical and mental health affect your state of mind. A good diet, exercise, and rest help you cope with stress.

Relaxation techniques like meditation, breathing exercises, and yoga can help relieve stress.

5. Set goals and make plans.

Break big goals into small ones and make a plan.

Every time you achieve a small goal, you will feel good, which will help you keep going.

6. Find pleasure and meaning.

Doing things you enjoy and finding joy in life can help you feel better.

7. Take care of yourself:

Take care of yourself. Do things that make you happy.

Appreciate your achievements and be kind to yourself.

It takes time and effort to change your mindset. These suggestions may need to be adapted to your specific circumstances.

If you feel overwhelmed or unable to control your emotions, see a professional counselor. They can help you with your specific situation.

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Benedicta Russell Benedicta Russell A total of 560 people have been helped

Hello! I'm Gu Daoxi Feng Shou Lu, your heart coach.

The author's words are so sad. I just want to give the author a big hug! I feel so sad for the author, but I also want to know: what kind of experience has made the author feel so hopeless?

From what you've said, it seems like you're feeling like you don't have a clear sense of who you are. I'm wondering if you could tell me more about what you think it means to be "useful" and "doing the right thing." I think it might help you to clarify these ideas, so you can move on from feeling stuck.

When we get tangled up, there are probably two reasons. One is that there's a big difference between who we really are and who we think we should be. The other is that our original family didn't give us the love and affirmation we needed, so we feel like we're not good enough.

It's often said that birth is easy, living is easy, but life is not easy. We all have those moments in life where we feel so overwhelmed that we can't go on. It can feel like there's no way out. But I've found that it's so important to believe that life will be difficult for a while, but it won't always be difficult.

The questioner may be able to do something to help themselves adjust, which I'm sure they will!

~Why not try keeping an emotional diary? You can record what makes you feel like you can't go on, and then try to avoid or accept it, which might help you feel better.

~It can really help to try to distinguish between your own affairs, other people's affairs, and the affairs of the gods. It's also a good idea to reduce your focus on things that are not related to you, accept things that you cannot solve, and focus on the parts that you can change and adjust. This will really help you to feel more in control.

~It's okay to say no to unreasonable expectations. Leslie Cheung has a lyric that I love: "I am who I am, fireworks with a different color."

We don't have to live the way others have arranged for us to live. Even if everyone is satisfied, we will still feel exhausted and powerless inside. And that's okay!

It's so important to learn to accept your own shortcomings and recognize your own strengths. I truly believe that an objective evaluation of yourself can help make the questioner feel less anxious. It can also help you better recognize yourself and adjust your future goals in a more reasonable way.

I know it can be tough, but try setting small goals to gradually increase your sense of strength and self-confidence. When we have a goal, we can gain confidence by achieving it, and it will make our lives more fulfilling. You've got this!

When you're feeling particularly sad, it's okay to let your emotions flow for a while. Or, you can find someone to talk to, to help you release your feelings. This can really help you feel more calm.

I'd also suggest reading "The Courage to Be Disliked," "Maybe You Should Talk to Someone," and "Living a Life You Don't Control." They might help you gain some perspective.

Wishing you all the best!

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Harry Lee Harry Lee A total of 7907 people have been helped

Good morning, My name is Rose, and I am here to listen to you and provide support.

From your statements, I understand that you are experiencing feelings of helplessness and despair. However, I am encouraged that you have sought out this forum to explore ways to alleviate your distress.

1. Could you please elaborate on the circumstances that led you to consider taking your own life?

I believe you may have experienced a significant event that has caused you to question your ability to cope with life's challenges. Repeated exposure to similar situations has likely contributed to your current outlook.

2. You have indicated that you believe you have never done anything correctly. Please provide a summary of your background.

Do you genuinely believe that you have never done anything correctly?

When you evaluate your own performance with a negative attitude, you tend to focus on your shortcomings. I believe you possess certain strengths and unique abilities that are worth recognizing.

Everyone has both strengths and weaknesses, and no one is without flaws.

3. You have indicated that you feel you have no reason to live. Could you please elaborate on what factors contribute to this perception?

3. You have indicated that you perceive a lack of purpose in your life. What factors contribute to this perception?

You encountered a situation that caused you to question your abilities and experience distress. Despite your efforts to alleviate the pain, it persisted, leading to a loss of hope and a descent into despair. You considered ending your life as a means of liberation.

Indeed, anyone who has experienced such extreme distress would be likely to consider taking their own life. I can appreciate the pain you are going through.

Please identify the factors that contribute to your perception of a lack of meaning in life.

When we are unable to affirm ourselves, but instead continue to deny ourselves, we will experience a steady stream of suffering. This will manifest as a person who is lacking in love and warmth, and who is lonely and fearful. The accumulated anxiety and pain will eventually overwhelm us.

When we are unable to affirm ourselves, but instead continue to deny ourselves, we will experience a consistent stream of suffering. This will manifest as a person without love and warmth, a person who is lonely and fearful, and will intensify until it reaches an overwhelming level of pain that hinders our ability to function.

I believe the initial step is to determine how to eliminate self-negation.

1. Record the negative self-talk and self-assessment. This is an effective method for confronting these issues and releasing pent-up emotions, which can help alleviate the pain associated with them.

2. Focus on the matter at hand. When faced with a challenge, acknowledge your shortcomings while also identifying your strengths.

3. Document your achievements. When facing self-doubt, refer to this documentation to challenge negative perceptions.

4. Modify your cognitive processes.

It is possible to improve oneself by adopting a growth mindset rather than a fixed mindset. Past performance is not necessarily indicative of future results. It is important to maintain hope and to create opportunities for growth.

Even if the situation seems hopeless, it is important to try to think of ways to find hope. Those who have accompanied you, those who have brought you joy, and those you do not want to leave are all important to your life.

No individual is worthless. Each person is valuable and meaningful as long as they exist, and you are too.

Secondly, we will address the issue of suicide.

While you are experiencing suicidal thoughts, I believe you are actually seeking to live a fulfilling life. However, you are currently feeling helpless and hopeless.

As stated by Sigmund Freud, a renowned psychologist, suicide can be viewed as a form of self-attack. When an individual encounters intense psychological stimuli, if the internal hostility is not effectively released, it can lead to a transfer of that hostility to the depths of the heart, potentially resulting in suicidal behavior.

What measures can be taken to prevent impulsive actions that could result in self-harm?

1. Stay in contact with friends and family, find a trusted individual, communicate openly, express your true feelings, and listen to them. This is a process of mutual support that will surely have a more positive impact on you.

2. Engage in some activities.

An active atmosphere will encourage you to engage in physical activity, which can help to alleviate negative emotions.

3. Engage in a different activity.

In the event of suicidal thoughts, it is advisable to engage in a different activity to distract yourself.

4. Seek assistance from qualified professionals.

Should you require assistance, you may seek help from professionals and receive their support and companionship. Alternatively, you can call the psychological crisis intervention hotline directly.

Life is of great value, and the lives of all individuals are equally so, regardless of their actions.

I also believe that your existence is meaningful and valuable, and that you are a highly valuable asset to our organization. Just like the relationship we have built now, we are influencing each other. I think there will also be many people like me who are accompanying you and being influenced by you.

As a result of our interaction, I am also influenced by you. I am grateful for your influence on me.

On behalf of the world and myself, I would like to extend my best wishes to you.

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Phoebe Phoebe A total of 1448 people have been helped

Hello! From your description, I can feel your pain and helplessness, but I can also feel your potential for growth and healing.

I'm a counselor, and I'm excited to share my understanding from a psychological perspective!

Your question is: I really want to die, I don't want to live, why should I live? I'm really useless! Let me tell you something. You are not useless!

I have never done anything right. There is no point in me living!

From these few words, I can feel your despair. Something must have happened to make you feel useless and worthless. Perhaps a build-up of things triggered an emotional explosion inside you, and you couldn't release your aggression, so you attacked yourself, killing yourself to relieve the internal conflict and contradiction. But you're going to get through this!

You can overcome these negative thoughts and feelings! They are external, and you have the power to change them. You can find ways to cope with your stress, and you can learn to understand yourself better. Your family can also support you in this process.

But don't worry! This is a process, and it is also cumulative. How do you deal with your current emotions?

First, assess your current emotions. Is it a depressed state? Absolutely!

Oh, anxiety? Or did something exciting happen?

(broken heart, bereavement, frustration or significant separation, etc.). If you were to name your emotions, what would they be? Grief, anger, powerlessness or fear?

Naming your emotions is a great way to get to the heart of the story behind your thoughts of self-harm and suicide, as well as the negative emotions they trigger. This is also the beginning of stabilizing your emotions and thinking, and it's a fantastic way to start reflecting on your experiences!

Second, find resources! When you're lost, think about the things you miss.

These are the resources you absolutely can't bear to let go of! They may be parents and relatives, close friends and teachers, or even your pets and favorite things!

One of my adolescent visitors expressed during our counseling session that she felt that there was no point in living, but she couldn't let go of her kitten. She became angry when talking about her parents, and she burst into tears when talking about her kitten. This is a resource, an effective one at that! It makes her reluctant to leave, and it's all because of the amazing, powerful emotions and love it brings. It's a truly effective tool that helps her see her sense of value better.

Third, learn to ask for help! You need to learn to express your thoughts. You may not be heard or understood, but you still need to express them in words in order to be seen, heard, and understood. If parents have limitations, they can seek professional guidance from professional organizations, such as visiting the mental health department of a hospital or seeking psychological counseling in a counseling room. If you turn to the platform 1xinli for help, you will find many professional teachers who will support and help you from different perspectives. I believe there are always more solutions than problems!

The world and I love you! It's time to learn to love yourself, understand yourself, accept yourself, and be the best you can be. Focusing on yourself is the key to understanding your strengths and weaknesses. Build on your strengths and avoid your weaknesses! Your strengths are the foundation of your confidence. Your weaknesses? They can be improved and changed through learning, communication, and discussion. In the end, you'll become the truest version of yourself. And it doesn't have to be the best version. Good luck!

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Lucianne Clark Lucianne Clark A total of 3108 people have been helped

Hello!

You are worthy of love and respect! Everyone has their own value and meaning, whether at home, at work, socially, or in other areas.

If you feel depressed and helpless, don't worry! There are plenty of people and resources out there who can help you.

I've got some great suggestions for you!

Communicate with family and friends! Share your feelings with them and let them know you need their support and understanding. It's so important to hear and understand each other!

Focus on the good stuff! Think about all the amazing things in your life that make you happy. Maybe you love travelling, or have great friends or enjoy a hobby. Focus on these things and let them bring a smile to your face!

It's time to explore your own value! Get to know your own strengths and virtues, as well as your role and contribution in society. Everyone has their own value and meaning, both in the personal sphere and on a social level.

It's important to maintain a healthy lifestyle! A good diet, exercise, sleep, and mental health are all key for physical and mental health. Make sure your lifestyle helps to improve your overall sense of well-being!

Find joy in life! Look for things you enjoy doing, such as reading, music, painting, or cooking. These activities are great for relaxing and relieving stress.

The most important thing to remember is that nobody's perfect! We all make mistakes and experience setbacks, but that's all part of the journey to becoming the best version of ourselves.

Embrace your strengths and work on your weaknesses! You can do it! Believe in yourself and find the meaning and joy in life.

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Gyles Davis The more diverse one's knowledge acquisition, the more they can be a source of inspiration for others.

Life can be incredibly tough sometimes and it's okay to feel this way, but believe me when I say you're not alone in these thoughts. Many people go through periods where they feel like they don't have a purpose, but there are ways to find meaning again.

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Ira Thomas The power of time lies in its ability to transform.

It sounds like you're carrying a heavy burden right now. It's important to know that your feelings are valid, but also remember that everyone has moments where they doubt themselves. Seeking help from friends, family, or professionals can really make a difference.

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Fabian Thomas A well - read and well - informed mind is a lens through which different knowledges are magnified and understood.

I understand how deeply painful and overwhelming this must be for you. It might not seem like it now, but small steps can lead to big changes. Consider talking to someone who cares about you; they might offer the support you need.

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Tyrone Davis Growth is the realization that you are in control of your own destiny.

Feeling this way can be a sign that you're ready for some major changes in your life. It's brave of you to acknowledge these feelings. Sometimes reaching out for help is the hardest but most necessary step towards finding your path again.

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