Do I feel emotionally indifferent, and how can I change?

Greetings, questioner. I perceive a certain degree of confusion in your current state of mind. I extend my support and encouragement to you.

The current difficulties may have their roots in childhood experiences.

It is important to consider whether, during one's childhood, one's emotional expressions were taken seriously by one's family.

Subsequently, you may have perceived that even if you articulated your needs, they would not be acknowledged, thereby deterring you from doing so.

At that time, however, you were still too young to survive without your parents.

However, the individual in question is now an adult, and thus their circumstances are different from those experienced during their childhood.

For example, the individual in question is taller and stronger than they were in childhood, and thus possesses greater physical power.

Therefore, you are entitled to express your emotions.

Should the necessity arise, one may request assistance from a counselor in addressing the issues pertaining to one's inner child.

Should the necessity arise, it would be advisable to consult with one's parents, who may be better positioned to assist in addressing the emotional indifference in question.

It is, of course, possible. It was not a deliberate action on the part of the parents, but rather a consequence of the influence of their own family of origin.

If they were raised by parents who seldom permitted them to express their emotions, they may be unaware that typical interpersonal interactions entail demonstrating some form of reaction to others' emotional states.

In psychology, there is a concept known as the "empty cup" phenomenon, which suggests that if an individual lacks a certain quality or ability, it is inherently difficult for them to provide it to others.

It is my sincere hope that the problem you are currently experiencing can be resolved in the near future.

At this juncture, my thoughts are solely directed towards the aforementioned subject matter.

It is my sincere hope that my above answer is both helpful and inspiring to you, the questioner. As the answerer, I endeavor to provide thoughtful and insightful responses on a daily basis.

Best wishes from Yixinli!

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Good morning, The questioner views words as a form of communication that is as personal as meeting someone face to face.

From a psychological perspective, emotional indifference can be defined as a lack or weakening of emotional responses. It refers to an individual's limited ability to experience and express emotions in various situations and with different people.

This may manifest as a lack of empathy or reaction to the emotional states of others. It is important to note that this does not indicate a lack of emotional responsiveness, but rather a difficulty in perceiving and expressing emotions. This condition can be caused by a range of factors, including psychological disorders, childhood experiences, differences in brain structure or function, and others.

In psychology, emotional indifference may be associated with certain mental health problems, such as autism spectrum disorders, schizophrenia, and depression. However, it should be noted that everyone's emotional expression and experience are unique, and the degree and form of emotional indifference will also vary from person to person.

You exhibit a slight tendency towards emotional detachment. It is therefore important to be aware of your thoughts and feelings.

If you have an idea but are reluctant to share it, take a moment to reflect on your reasons. Is it due to apprehension about the other person's response, or is it a result of past experiences that have made you less inclined to express your needs?

If you are concerned about how the other party may react, have you yet established a stronger relationship of trust with them? When you have built a stronger relationship of trust with your partner,

It may be more straightforward to express your ideas when you believe that the other party will respect and value them. You can begin by sharing small ideas and gradually increase the frequency of expression.

Effective communication is the key to facilitating change. It is important to express your thoughts in a gentle and open manner.

For example, you might say, "I have some thoughts and I was wondering if you would be interested in hearing them?" or "I actually have some expectations about certain things and would like to talk to you about them."

Expressions such as "This facilitates my acceptance."

When expressing your thoughts, it is important to pay attention to the other person's reaction. If the other person demonstrates understanding and support, this may reinforce your confidence in continuing to express yourself.

Should the response from the other party not align with your expectations, you may wish to explore ways to enhance communication and meet each other's needs.

It is not uncommon for individuals to state that they have no requests when, in fact, they are uncertain about what they truly want. Taking the time to reflect on one's needs and expectations allows for a more clear and effective communication.

It is acceptable to acknowledge your emotions. Everyone has the right to articulate their thoughts and requirements.

Each attempt represents a step forward, and over time, you will find that you can express your thoughts and needs more easily.

I recommend the book Practicing Empathy, authored by a certified psychologist and professor of psychology at the Cologne University of Technology. The book posits that empathy is the ability to recognize and experience oneself in others. Through empathy, we gain insight into the world of others and perceive our own potential.

Should the need arise, you may wish to consider seeking professional assistance and guidance, which can provide more specific direction and support.

I would like to take this opportunity to put the knowledge gained here into action and wish you all the best for the rest of your lives.

Firstly, I would like to extend my best wishes to the questioner for the new year. I must admit that I am unfamiliar with the term 'emotional indifference' and have only ever heard it referred to as 'emotional aloofness'.

In other words, the individual in question demonstrates a lack of perceptive and corresponding responses to their own and others' emotional feelings, and they act in a relatively indifferent manner. This can be illustrated by an example from the context of humour: if someone tells a joke and the person next to them laughs, but this person does not show any emotion, it is evident that they are not engaging with the emotional content of the joke.

The situation described by the questioner does not appear to be one of emotional indifference, but rather a lack of sufficient recognition and acceptance of one's own inner needs. Substituting one's own subjective thoughts for those of others is what people often refer to as "I thought." To change this situation, a process of changing one's mindset and implementing it in specific words and actions is required. This cannot be explained clearly in a few sentences, and there is no fixed template for action. One must be flexible and adapt according to the actual situation.

However, before taking action, it is essential to first accept the situation and then delve deeper into the underlying meaning and emotional feelings behind the thoughts and ideas. This allows you to express these thoughts and feelings through words and actions in a clear and effective manner. To illustrate this concept, consider a scenario where you want a flower that a friend grows at home. In this case, you can simply tell the other person what kind of flower you want. This is just one example. The specific situation requires you to flexibly organize your language expression. The most important thing is to "express" and communicate your true thoughts to others through words and actions. Only when others receive this information will they respond accordingly. This allows you to verify whether the other person's response aligns with your expectations.

This approach allows you to influence your own thoughts and, in turn, change your thinking patterns.

Good day. I extend my support and encouragement in the form of a 360-degree hug.

After reviewing your inquiry, I would like to highlight an important distinction between theory and reality. It is crucial to avoid the trap of seeing a theory and then seeking evidence to support it, as the evidence often merely reinforces the theory itself. This phenomenon can be illustrated by the following example: Imagine you observe emotional indifference in another individual and perceive it as a trait that resonates with you. You then look for instances in your own life that align with this perception, leading you to identify behaviors and words that consistently reflect emotional indifference. In this case, your observation and subsequent search for evidence may inadvertently reinforce the very theory you initially observed.

You conclude that you are emotionally indifferent. It is likely that you will find further evidence to support this conclusion in the future. This is akin to holding a hammer and seeing nails everywhere.

Secondly, I would like to ascertain your feelings regarding the possibility that you are emotionally indifferent. If this label is not a concern for you and does not affect your life, then it is not a priority, so there is no need to pursue it further.

It is only when you care about yourself, or when it affects your relationship with other people, that it can affect your relationship with other people. From your description, it is also described from the perspective of the relationship, which is what needs to be addressed. For example, if a person is perceived as being unattractive, and if she cares about it herself and therefore feels inferior, then the issue of attractiveness is what needs to be addressed, and she can pursue plastic surgery.

If he deems it acceptable, it is not an issue. In other words, when you perceive emotional indifference as acceptable, it is not an issue.

If you feel that emotional indifference is affecting you and your personal relationships, it is important to address the issue.

Third, your description indicates a lack of clarity regarding the expression of your needs. You stated that you do not make excessive demands on your partner, yet when your partner inquires about your needs, you are uncertain about what you want your partner to do. This may be due to a lack of clarity regarding your own needs and how to express them, which may be influenced by your personal characteristics.

If this is causing you distress or affecting your intimate relationship, I recommend speaking with a counselor.

I am a counselor who is often both Buddhist and pessimistic, occasionally motivated and positive. I believe in the value of the world and in the potential for positive change.

Hello, questioner! I'm Jiang 61.

Thank you for trusting us and for asking your question. We're here to help you understand how to change your feelings of emotional indifference.

"After reading about your confusion, I'll give you a hug first, and then we'll explore this together.

1. Introduction

Take the seat.

You said, "I happened to read an explanation and example of emotional indifference online, and it felt like the description was a bit like me. I often don't have too many demands on my partner. Even if I have an idea in mind, I think to myself, 'It seems like there's no need to say it out loud. The other person might think I'm caring about unimportant things,' and so on. Then I don't say what I'm thinking. When I'm asked what I expect from the other person and what my demands are, I always say that I don't have any."

You identified with it.

You saw online that the description of "emotional indifference" is very similar to you, so you engaged in a dialogue to determine whether you are also a person of "emotional indifference."

You are unwilling to express.

I read your description because you said you feel it's useless to speak your mind. I can see clearly now that you do have emotions. The situation you didn't mention is that you are unwilling to express your emotions for some reason.

2. The Problem

You want to know how to change.

You're confused because you don't know how to express your mood so the other person will take it seriously. This is your true thought.

2. Analysis of the reasons for not wanting to say

1⃣️, emotional indifference

Emotional indifference refers to an individual's insensitivity to their own or other people's emotions, and a lack of emotional concern and understanding. This indifference is expressed as a lack of awareness of other people's feelings and emotions, indifference or disregard, a reluctance to express one's own emotions, or a lack of concern for emotional events and emotional needs.

Emotional indifference can also be caused by mental illness or emotional suppression due to long-term living environment factors. In this case, the questioner is clearly indicating that they do not want to express their emotions.

There's a problem with the communication.

The questioner made it clear in their description that they are disappointed with the emotional feedback they have received from others. This shows that there is a problem in the emotional communication between you, and it is not simply a case of emotional indifference.

2. Expectations

Expect

If you are reluctant to express yourself, it means you have expectations of the other person and hope for a positive response that will satisfy your wishes or needs.

Disappointment

If you don't know your family's living environment, the other person's temperament, and your communication style, you'll never know what to do. When you try to communicate emotionally with the other person, they'll give you results that aren't what you want. This will disappoint you and dampen your desire to communicate emotionally.

3. What to do

1⃣️ Get to know each other.

Understand each other.

It is essential to understand our own temperament, interests, areas of expertise, emotional needs, and ways of expressing love. We must also understand the other person's temperament, hobbies, and needs, as well as their areas of expertise, emotional needs, and ways of expressing love.

Give the person what they want.

As the saying goes, "If words don't flow smoothly, there's no point in speaking." This is undoubtedly the main reason you don't want to talk about it.

To have a good emotional exchange, find common interests and points of interest to spark communication. Alternatively, cater to their interests, then make the other person want to communicate, and gradually lead into the topic you're interested in.

2⃣️ Effective Communication

Effective communication is key.

Communication is the exchange of information. It is the process of conveying a message to a communication partner in order to elicit a desired response. If this process is successful, effective communication has been achieved.

Verbal and non-verbal messages are both part of communication. It is the non-verbal part that often has the greatest impact. Effective communication is of great importance in dealing with close family relationships and complex social relationships.

Here are the steps to effective communication:

Effective communication involves four steps.

Step 1: Express feelings, not emotions.

Second, express what you want, not what you don't want. Say you are angry, not that you are angry.

Step 3: State your needs, don't make complaints. Don't let the other person guess what you want.

Step 4: State your goal clearly and don't waste time complaining about your current situation. Focus on the end result and don't get bogged down in the details.

Sometimes, the other person just doesn't understand what we mean. This can lead to disappointment, but it's important to remain patient and continue expressing ourselves. Use repetition and confirmation to ensure you're understood. Be patient and give positive feedback so that communication can flow smoothly and achieve the goal of effective communication.

3⃣️, Emotion management

Emotional communication is not urgent. If it doesn't work the first time, try again. Managing and controlling emotions is important. Here's how:

You must recognize your emotions.

This is the first step in emotion management. You must recognize what emotion you are feeling. This could be anxiety, anger, sadness, or any other emotion.

Accept your emotions.

Healthy emotions are in line with the situation. When your emotions match the reality, accept them.

This will decrease the emotional tension and naturally return your mind to a state of calm.

Express your emotions.

Emotional expression is about expressing your own emotions. It begins with "I" and often begins with "My feelings..."

Cultivate your emotions.

You can cultivate and practice emotion management in the following ways:

1) Living a regular life will stabilize your emotions.

2) Develop a hobby. Let positive emotions drive you. Love yourself and love life. Feel the beauty of life.

3) Take care of others, let love into your heart, and help others. It is the greatest joy, and helping yourself helps others.

4) Connect with nature and embrace the essence of heaven and earth to open your heart, soothe your emotions, and stabilize your state.

5) Make executive friends and spend time with emotionally stable people to reduce emotional interference and fluctuations.

Questioner, we will manage our emotions, communicate effectively, understand each other, and have the patience to communicate with each other. I am certain that our emotional communication will be smooth, and the neglect will disappear.

I wish the original poster a happy Chinese New Year!

Hi! Great question!

You're looking for change because you feel dissatisfied with your intimate relationship. It's clear you long to establish a sense of intimacy with others, and I'm excited to help you achieve it! When you read some knowledge about "emotional indifference," you seem to have found the reason. Let's explore together to see what's really going on.

Are you emotionally indifferent?

Your emotional indifference is expressed in the fact that you don't share your thoughts with your partner, and you don't have high expectations or make excessive demands on your partner.

However, just because you don't share your inner thoughts doesn't mean you don't want to! You're just worried that after sharing, you won't get emotional support and you'll be hurt. You also worry that the other person will think you care about these unimportant things and are not open-minded enough. Similarly, you have no expectations of your partner because you're self-protecting. You're worried that having expectations will lead to disappointment, and you're afraid of the feeling of disappointment, so you simply do not have any expectations!

This is why I think your situation is more like "emotional isolation." It seems like deep down you really want to have an intimate relationship with others. You're just protecting yourself from being hurt by "emotional isolation."

[Emotional isolation and emotional indifference]

Emotional isolation is a fascinating psychological defense mechanism that allows us to avoid situations that might trigger negative emotions. You know that a certain situation will evoke a negative emotion, but you can choose not to feel it.

As in your example, you don't understand what it means to "have no expectations or demands of your partner" because you can't feel the "fear" inside yourself, the fear of being disappointed. But that's about to change!

Let's dive into the fascinating topic of emotional indifference! This emotional disorder is characterized by a lack of appropriate emotional response to external stimuli, a lack of empathy, an indifferent attitude towards others, a disregard for other people's feelings and situations, and a difficulty being moved by others.

The good news is that you are already on your way to changing this! The common denominator is that you are not allowed to express your true feelings.

[How to change]

1⃣️You have already become aware of the reason why you do not allow yourself to express your true feelings, and change is already taking place!

2⃣️In terms of emotions, try to weaken the rational thinking in your mind and feel it with your heart. When you stop using reason to judge whether you should say something, you can just follow your heart and speak your mind! You're not asking others to judge you, but to gain emotional support.

If there is no suitable and trusted person in reality, you can choose a professional listener or counselor to establish a trusting relationship and help you open up in a safe environment. This is a great option!

Rational judgment can sometimes get in the way of the natural flow of emotions in your life. But here's the good news: emotional stability doesn't mean not having emotions. It means being able to perceive your own rich emotions and regulate them well!

I really hope this helps!

I'm your friend, Potato Maling, who has grown up with you. Thanks so much for your attention!

Give them a hug first!

If you feel you are suffering from emotional neglect, it is time to take action. This is a condition in which a person may not be receiving enough emotional attention and satisfaction in their relationships. This can lead to feelings of emotional neglect and loneliness. If you feel that this may be the case for you, you can change it. First, you must gain self-awareness. Then, you must take gradual action to improve your relationships and emotional communication. Here are some suggestions:

1. Self-reflection: Take the time to understand your emotional needs and expectations. Think about why you tend not to express your requests and suggestions.

This is likely related to self-esteem, past experiences, or a fear of communication.

2. Develop self-awareness. Know your emotional states and mood changes. This helps you understand your needs and express them when appropriate.

3. Improve your communication skills. Learn how to express your feelings and needs in a constructive and healthy way. This may include learning listening skills, Nonviolent Communication (NVC), or other communication strategies.

4. Set boundaries. Know your boundaries and set them when necessary. This protects your emotional well-being and ensures you don't over-sacrifice your needs.

5. Take small steps. Start small, for example by making small, specific requests, and then gradually increase the difficulty. You will gradually get used to expressing your needs without feeling uncomfortable.

6. Seek support. Find a trusted friend, family member, or professional to discuss your feelings and challenges with. They can provide feedback and support.

7. Focus on personal growth. Improve your emotional intelligence and personal growth by reading, attending workshops or courses.

8. Practice self-care. Make sure you provide yourself with enough emotional care. Do this by expressing and processing your emotions through meditation, journaling, creative activities, etc.

9. Seek professional help. If you find it difficult to cope with these problems on your own, get help from a mental health professional.

You will make changes, but remember, change takes time and patience. Don't expect to completely change your behavior overnight, but work on it consistently and consciously.

Everyone's emotional needs are important and must be respected and met.

It's totally normal to feel emotionally indifferent sometimes. It can come from a variety of reasons, like past experiences, personal defense mechanisms, or just a lack of confidence in expressing emotions. Changing this pattern takes time and awareness of your actions and the reasons behind them. Here are some suggestions to help you change your emotionally indifferent attitude:

It's so important to increase your self-awareness! Take a moment to understand why you behave in a certain way. This may require you to look back at your past, including your upbringing, early relationships, and how these experiences have influenced the way you express your emotions.

It's so important to learn the vocabulary of emotions! Expanding your emotional vocabulary is a great way to help you express yourself more accurately. Sometimes people are unable to express their emotions because they lack the words to describe them accurately.

Why not try reading some books about emotional expression or using an emotional vocabulary list to help you describe your feelings more accurately?

Start small and try expressing your emotions to someone you trust, even if it's about something small. This could be a friend, family member, or partner. You've got this!

To get started, you can write down what you want to say and then share it with them at the right time.

Set yourself some little goals. You could try expressing your feelings or needs at least once a day. Before you know it, you'll be feeling really comfortable expressing your emotions!

Active listening and feedback are super important in emotional communication. It's not just about expressing your own feelings, but also listening to and giving feedback on the feelings of others. By actively listening, you can learn how others express their emotions, which will also help you improve your own emotional expression.

If you're having trouble making changes on your own, don't worry! You can always reach out to a counselor for help. They can provide tools and strategies to help you better understand your emotions and how to express them effectively.

It's so important to be patient with yourself and accept your own behaviour patterns. It can take time to change them, but you're doing great! Try not to get frustrated by slow progress – you're doing better than you think!

I know it can be tough to feel things when you don't have an emotional connection with yourself. But I'm here to tell you that you can change! By following these simple steps, you can start to understand and express your emotions in a healthier way. And when you do that, you'll be on your way to building stronger, more fulfilling relationships.

Greetings, inquirer. I am Ji Ao, the Heart Exploration coach. I am not seeking anything at this time.

I have carefully read the problems and confusions you described on the platform. Did you encounter difficulties in interpersonal communication? You said that you saw examples of emotional indifference online and felt that you were a lot like them. You do not have excessive demands on your partner, and you do not feel the need to say anything even if you have thoughts in your heart. The other person may even think that you care about unimportant things, so you are even more reluctant to speak your true thoughts. No matter how you ask, you always say that you don't have any demands. How can this be changed?

It is important to note that your situation is not identical to emotional indifference. In an intimate relationship, individuals are often reluctant to express their genuine needs, even when the other person expresses a desire to understand their thoughts and feelings. This reluctance can have negative consequences. It is recommended that you practice relaxation techniques, learn to communicate your thoughts and feelings in a clear and honest manner, and establish effective communication with your partner.

The following section will assist in the analysis and classification of the aforementioned concepts.

1. What is meant by the term "emotional indifference"?

From a psychological perspective, emotional indifference can be defined as a behavioral and psychological response pattern. It can be understood as a coping strategy employed to avoid tension, fear, or other intense emotional experiences. While emotional indifference may have a negative impact on individuals and their relationships, it is not equivalent to a mental illness. Rather, it can be conceptualized as a negative emotional response, akin to a form of mental avoidance. This understanding is supported by the theory cited from the Baidu Encyclopedia.

2. It is recommended that you seek professional assistance.

In the event that self-regulation proves ineffective in this regard, it is recommended that one seeks psychological treatment, and if necessary, seeks outside professional help, such as cognitive behavioral therapy or psychodynamic therapy. These can assist in recognizing and modifying behavior patterns, providing guidance in a professional manner, and helping individuals cope with internal fears and emotional stress, thereby facilitating more rapid adjustment.

3. Enhance self-awareness

Given that you have identified these issues, it is important to monitor them going forward, enhance your self-awareness, and gain a deeper understanding of your emotional needs and tendencies. This will assist individuals exhibiting emotional indifference in adjusting their emotions and behaviors. Through self-observation and reflection, they can more accurately identify shortcomings in emotional communication, seek improvement, and better regulate their state of mind.

4. Formulate a strategy for establishing emotional connections.

The most crucial aspect for individuals with an emotionally indifferent disposition is to cultivate intimate relationships with others, openly sharing their emotions and needs. This can be achieved through enhanced communication and emotional expression, gradually dismantling emotional barriers and fostering improved interpersonal connections. Listening attentively to friends, family members, or colleagues as they express their innermost thoughts and feelings is a valuable skill. When such individuals express concerns or ask questions, it is essential to respond with positive and supportive feedback, demonstrating genuine care and engagement. This approach is instrumental in resolving challenges and fostering positive relationships. Therefore, it is important not to underestimate its potential.

It is my sincere hope that this response will prove beneficial to you. Should you require further communication, you are invited to follow me (by clicking on my personal homepage), select the Heart Exploration service, and engage in one-on-one communication with me. The world and I extend our love to you.

Hello! I'll give you a warm hug from afar first, and I'm so excited to help you!

I'm thrilled to see that you've asked for help! I'm here to support you and I'm excited to share some tips that I think will really help. I also want to praise you for being so aware of your current state of emotional indifference in the relationship and for choosing to come here for help.

The way a person is treated determines how they treat themselves and others. This is great news! It means you have the power to change your life. The reason you are unable to express your emotions in your current relationship and unable to give others the appropriate emotional response is because during your upbringing, others may have emotionally neglected you too much and been insensitive. But you can change this!

Perhaps at that moment, you also tried to express to them your need to be valued, cared for, noticed, understood, affirmed, and loved. You probably didn't get the response you were hoping for, but that's OK! You were probably rejected and denied, but you're here now, ready to learn and grow.

And for that child in you at that moment, you had the opportunity to learn how to give yourself this emotional response in a timely and appropriate manner. You probably also had the chance to work on your self-denial, self-criticism, and self-attack, because you directed the anger, hostility, and dissatisfaction towards your parents and your inner self. What do you think?

Today is the day! You have a clear awareness of this part of the trauma you suffered during your growth, and you are willing to make changes. Then you can completely re-nurture yourself and heal this part of the trauma from your early growth through your own learning and growth.

Absolutely! You can learn to treat yourself the way you want to be treated. Why? Because the way you treat yourself and others will guide and suggest the way they treat you. I know it's more difficult for you at first, but you can do it!

So, be honest with yourself and face your emotional feelings. It's the only way you'll be able to pick up on other people's emotional feelings and respond to them in a way that's true to yourself!

I highly recommend you read The Power of Empathy!

I'm Lily, the little ear of the Q&A Museum! The world and I love you!

Happy New Year, my friend!

It's great that you're thinking about your emotional state. This shows you're already aware of the problem and that you're ready to make a change.

I totally get where you're coming from with your emotional indifference. I think it's something we can understand as:

Emotional indifference is when someone doesn't seem to care much about other people's feelings. They might not respond much to emotional situations, or they might not even realize that other people have feelings. They might even avoid talking about emotions with other people.

This might show up as a lack of sensitivity to the emotional needs of others, a lack of attention to your own emotional expression, or a lack of response to the emotional atmosphere around you. It can be tricky to figure out if you have emotional indifference, but you can try to think about how you react when you are faced with the joys and sorrows of others.

It's totally okay if you don't understand or feel their emotions. We all have different ways of dealing with our feelings. When you have emotional experiences yourself, do you express them, or do you choose to suppress or ignore them?

It's so important to remember not to be too quick to judge. There are lots of reasons why someone might seem emotionally indifferent, including things like trauma, stress, depression, anxiety, or certain personality traits such as borderline or avoidant personality disorder. Some of the ways this might show up are:

Some folks just don't express their feelings very often. They might not show their emotions at all, or they might show them in a way that doesn't match the situation.

They might not be as aware of other people's emotions as they could be, or they might find it tricky to understand what others need. It's also possible that they don't always show their feelings as much as they could.

If you find yourself feeling a bit distant from others, it might be because you're avoiding social activities or group interactions.

You might find that you're losing interest in the things you usually enjoy, and you might also feel like you don't have any motivation or goals in life.

It's okay if you don't always handle negative emotions well or seem unusually calm and unaffected when faced with stress.

Sometimes, we might not see things as they really are. This can lead us to deny or rationalize our own emotions, or to devalue and deny the emotions of others.

People who've been through a lot can sometimes develop a way of avoiding pain by becoming emotionally indifferent.

I can see how you might think that, but I don't think it quite fits. It seems to me that you're trying to avoid conflict, or maybe you're worried about being judged or that your needs won't be taken seriously.

It's totally normal to have some concerns and worries when expressing your thoughts and needs. I get it! The situation you mentioned might be because you're worried that your thoughts won't be taken seriously, or you don't want to put pressure on the other person.

It's totally normal to feel this way sometimes! It could be that you're worried about being rejected or having your ideas dismissed. Or maybe you're not sure what you need and feel like you're not being heard. It might also be related to low self-esteem or past experiences that have made you feel unsure.

Some folks might choose not to express their thoughts and needs because they're worried about damaging relationships or causing trouble for others.

However, if you always suppress your thoughts and needs, it may lead to emotional unfulfillment and may also affect your relationships with others. So, it's really important to try to communicate more openly and honestly with others.

You can choose a good time to share your thoughts and feelings in a calm way, while also respecting the other person's response. You might find that the other person is actually very willing to listen to you and will respond positively!

We can all learn to recognize and appreciate our own value and needs in our daily lives. And we can learn to express our needs without harming others. It's true! You can start with small things and gradually practice expressing your opinions and needs. This can help you build confidence and reduce fear of negative consequences.

If you're struggling with your feelings and they're affecting your normal life, please don't hesitate to seek professional help.

I love you, world! Have a great day!