Do you always feel unable to live in the present, feeling restless and without a sense of security?

Hello!

It's time to let go of that heavy burden of anxiety that's holding you back from enjoying the present! We all want to change our situation, but if we're constantly dwelling on thoughts that make us feel restless, we're going to burn out. So, let's focus on the things that make us happy and seize the day!

Let's dive into the fascinating topic of anxiety and explore whether it can be classified as a psychological disorder.

Let's dive in and explore what anxiety is and whether we always need to care about "anxiety" itself.

Anxiety is an amazing emotion that we all have! When we feel insecure and potentially threatened, it automatically triggers an emotion of inner unease. It is innate and an essential emotion for our survival. As we have developed into a period of scientific civilization, the things that can truly threaten our safety are becoming fewer. This means that we have more freedom and opportunity than ever before! However, due to the faster pace of the times and the greater competition, people's sense of anxiety is being constantly stimulated. From a certain period in the past, a greater sense of anxiety would be triggered, but now it has become a "daily occurrence" that people constantly experience. This just goes to show how much we have to look forward to in life!

For example, 20 years ago, before the economy developed so rapidly, people still had time to go out for a drink after work in the evening to relieve the fatigue of the day. Nowadays, young people are so driven to succeed that they dare not relax too much, for fear of falling behind, and even more afraid of lagging behind (in knowledge acquisition). They need to constantly fill themselves up in order to truly feel a sense of security, and they are so eager to do so that they are willing to work twice as hard to make up for lost time!

So, if you've experienced a change in your romantic feelings, it's a great opportunity to focus on your current relationship and meet your romantic realistic needs! It's totally normal to feel different emotions in different environments. When we feel insecure, it can stimulate anxiety, and we might feel the need to seek a safer area. But, anxiety isn't something we can resolve by forcing it to go away. Instead, we can take control by understanding the source of our emotions, checking in on the real situation, and analyzing things objectively. This will help us find the root cause of our anxiety and the solution to overcome it!

1. Uncover the secrets of anxiety and discover its roots!

We know that the same thing can trigger different levels of anxiety in different people, which is really interesting! It means that anxiety itself is not the answer to the problem. We need to find the source of our inner anxiety, which is a great challenge! What kind of things trigger anxiety in us? Here, it is divided into whether it is innate anxiety or acquired from the original family influence, which is a fascinating question!

In other words, is it our innate sensitivity, or is it the anxiety caused by our parents not being able to take care of our emotional feelings in time?

Of course, there are always things that we can't control that can trigger anxiety. In this case, regarding the questioner's mention of being prone to anxiety, it is more likely that it involves one's own sensitivity and the influence of the family of origin, which makes it easier to feel anxiety.

Let's take a little girl as an example. She's in a sad mood whenever the environment changes. She thinks and analyzes things in a negative way. This often makes her feel anxious. But here's the good news! When she rationally analyzes the current situation, she'll see that the real threat may not be as dangerous as she thinks. It may just be a temporary inconvenience, not a real threat to her life.

2. Relax and don't worry too much!

Guess what! We all have one thing in common. We care too much about what other people think. But here's the good news: our friends and family can help us to stop caring so much. And when we stop caring, we stop feeling anxious. Let me explain. When we care about the risks of being in love, it's because we care too much about our lovers. And when we have weight anxiety, it's because we have appearance and body shape anxiety. So, let's stop caring and start feeling better!

When we shift our attention to other things and measure our emotions, we'll find that we're not as anxious as we thought! The reason we felt so anxious before is that we focused all our attention on the sensitive parts that made us feel stimulated. In fact, if we really objectively judge the period of anxiety, we'll see that it's not that bad!

3. Learn to affirm and encourage yourself!

Once you understand that the things you're anxious about aren't caused by anxiety itself, but are actually just friendly reminders, your whole outlook will change! To truly understand how to overcome anxiety, you have to identify it in practical problems.

For example, if I feel like I'm a loser, I can verify it and see if I really am one in the eyes of others. If I think my health is poor, we can take action to check it right now and observe the data of our body to see if it is really as bad as we think. When we get results that are real and objective, we can rebuild our perception and won't fall into groundless corners!

Why do you always feel anxious? Here's a big, warm hug of understanding for the questioner. This is also a process of growth. Sometimes it has more to do with our personality. Because we are sensitive, we will unconsciously pay attention to it. And if this attention is not validated, it will trigger even greater anxiety. It's okay. Sometimes when faced with anxiety, we don't need to solve it immediately. We can try to relax, enjoy the present, and observe the anxiety first. Gradually, you will find that its impact will diminish, and there is no need to deliberately find an answer. The problem will be solved as life progresses.

Come on! ?

Hello!

Host:

Hi, I'm Zeng Chen, a mindfulness coach. I've read your post and I totally get where you're coming from.

I also want to say that I admire the host for facing their own feelings and seeking help on the platform. This will help them understand themselves better, which will help them manage their anxiety and emotions more effectively.

I'd love to share my observations and thoughts in the post, in the hope that they might help the poster to gain a more diverse perspective.

1. You can try some small exercises to help relieve your anxiety.

From what I can tell, the host is having a hard time living in the present. It seems like he's always worrying about his relationship with his boyfriend, even though they don't have any conflicts. He's also worrying about work, even though he knows that hard work will lead to opportunities. It's so sad to see him feeling so pessimistic, thinking that he'll be unlucky and unable to live in the present. I can understand why he's feeling so anxious.

Then we can take a look at what we can do for ourselves to get out of the panic. We can take a look at what anxiety is, and how you understand anxiety. My understanding of anxiety is the fear of the future, so the attention of anxiety is directed to the future, and then naturally the attention is not on the present.

So, to get out of anxiety, we can try to focus our attention back on the present. How do we do that?

We could try some anxiety exercises together! For example, some people find it helpful to focus on abdominal breathing.

When I notice that I'm feeling anxious and panicky, I focus on my breathing and adjust it. I take slow, deep breaths, drawing the air into my abdomen.

Then, take a few slow, deep breaths out through your mouth, exhaling twice as slowly as you inhaled. As you exhale, imagine yourself relaxing your whole body. This simple exercise is often done for five minutes, and it's a great way to bring your attention back to the present moment.

2. Give your body a little love!

So, what does it mean to try to connect with your body? It's really quite simple! It just means focusing some of your attention on your body.

Take a moment to check in with your body. Is there anything physically wrong? If so, focus on that area for a bit. You might find that your emotions will also subside.

It's so interesting how our bodies react to our emotions! When we feel anxious, for example, our hearts start to beat faster. It's like our bodies are sending us a little signal that something's up. And it's totally normal!

For example, when I'm feeling anxious, my heart starts to beat a little faster. At this time, I'll focus my attention on this and ask myself, "Oh, I'm feeling anxious. Why is that?"

Then I get to know why I'm feeling anxious. I also ask myself what I can change right now, what I can do?

And then there are the things we can't change.

I've found that this really helps me to relax and feel less anxious. I think the original poster might also find this method really helpful for relieving their anxiety and focusing on the present.

3. Learn to accept yourself, my friend.

In the description, it seems like the host is feeling pretty pessimistic and thinks he'll never have any good luck. It looks like he might not be too happy with himself or have a low sense of self-worth.

I think the host can feel it, don't you think? And for some people, a lack of self-worth

It can also make you feel anxious. It's totally normal to feel this way when you don't quite believe in yourself. It's hard to trust yourself to create a good life, to manage relationships well, and to feel like you deserve a great life.

So, how can we improve our sense of self-worth? One way is to accept ourselves, warts and all, and to celebrate the good bits too!

Let yourself be who you are, warts and all! Accept the parts of yourself that you cannot change right now and focus on the parts that you can change. Before you know it, you'll feel more fulfilled and like a better version of yourself!

4. Learning and improving

There's another way to boost your sense of self-worth: learning and improving! You can learn about anything you're interested in, whether it's a professional skill or some psychological knowledge. Learning helps us understand ourselves better, which is great because it means we can adjust our beliefs and enrich our inner world.

It's so important to learn to get along with your emotions. These can all help us improve our sense of self-worth.

I really hope this helps and inspires you in some way. If you have any questions, you can also click to find a coach for one-on-one communication and exchange. Together, we can face our anxious feelings.

Hello, host. I hope this message finds you well. I am July.

After reading your description, I believe I have a better understanding of the question you want to ask. In this regard, I also extend my support in whatever form it can take.

From what you've shared, it seems like you might be feeling a bit anxious at the moment, which could be why you're feeling worried about something that hasn't happened yet.

From what I can gather from the description, it seems that the poster may have a tendency to be somewhat pessimistic when dealing with people or situations. It's possible that you might find yourself filling in some rather pessimistic images in your mind to help ease the anxiety and worry in your heart.

It would be beneficial to be aware of your current state, as this is a positive step compared to those who are not yet aware of their current situation.

In this regard, I have also summarized some ways to help you alleviate the current situation, in the hope that they will be of some assistance to you.

(1) It might be helpful to relax, take your time, and avoid putting too much pressure on yourself, as this can sometimes lead to unnecessary burdens.

(2) It might be helpful to consider that when you are feeling anxious, you can find ways to relieve your anxiety through activities like sports, talking, or chatting, rather than keeping it bottled up inside.

(3) It might be helpful to reduce the number of times you fill in the blanks in your mind for things that haven't happened yet, since it's not always possible to predict what the future holds.

(4) It might be helpful to focus on doing a good job of the things at hand, rather than worrying too much about things that haven't happened yet.

Perhaps it would be helpful to try to distract yourself instead of letting yourself stay in a state of anxiety for a long time?

I hope you know that the world and I love you.

Please take care.

Hello, question asker! You deserve a warm hug.

After reading the question, I'm going to share this story with you.

"Untie the knots in your heart and learn to let go."

A man rowed a small boat to a friend's wedding banquet. Since the guests were all close friends, everyone had drunk a lot. After the wedding, the man staggered his way to say goodbye to the newlyweds. He stopped at the boat by the river, got in, and rowed with all his might. For some reason, he slipped and didn't reach the other side. He gradually fell asleep. The next morning, he woke up in the harsh sunlight and opened his eyes. My husband found that his boat was still docked by the river, and it hadn't moved at all. He was certain that he had gone crazy.

He leapt up in fright and fled for the shore.

I was certain that as soon as he landed, he would trip over something and fall hard. When I looked carefully, I saw that it was the boy from the altar procession whose rope knot was still tied to the chain on the pier. It had never been untied. Identify what is tying your feet, preventing you from moving and progressing. There are many invisible shackles in life. They are usually not noticed on the surface, but if you are not careful, they will unceremoniously trap our feet as we progress. If we only care about our hearts, once they are trapped, our entire being may be trapped in them and we will be unable to extricate ourselves.

Anxiety controls us, whether it's our words or actions. It's a powerful and terrible force that pulls us in ways we can't resist. It seriously hinders the course of our lives.

There are undoubtedly many chains in the life of the questioner, carrying a lot of things, too much trouble, too much greed, too many desires. We have influenced some of our current thoughts.

Your body and mind have accumulated unknowingly, and the ropes in your heart are still hindering you. You need to be as agile as a swallow.

Get rid of the rubbish in your mind and you will be reborn.

When the inside changes, the outside changes.

Read the book Emotional Intelligence. I saw this part in the book and I'm going to share it with you.

I am confident this will be helpful.

I am Yingying, your counselor.

The world and I love you.