Do you get inexplicably tired of familiar friends after a while?

Hello, I'm just dropping by to say hi from the sky of the magic city.

From what you've said, it seems like you're a sensitive person.

[Traits of sensitive people]

People with a rich inner life tend to be more self-aware, creative, and insightful.

2. They may have high expectations of themselves or others and be very critical of themselves or others when they fail to meet expectations. So, any additional criticism from others may overwhelm them.

3. You tend to internalize things, so when someone carelessly upsets you or does something annoying, you might think they're disapproving or dissatisfied with you.

So when you come across your friend's "just some trivial things, like if he says something that upsets me or does something that annoys me, I'll ignore him for a long time,"

You might think that these minor issues are directed at you or have offended you, which then leads to you becoming defensive and ignoring the person in question.

[How to solve it]

1- Be present: Accept your emotions, don't blame yourself, understand your flaws, and ask yourself what you're thinking now and what your inner needs are.

2-Be kind to yourself. Stop the internal battle, give yourself a break, and remember that friends can ignore you, but you will always be your own friend. Stand on your own side.

3-Focus on meaningful things: From what you said, it seems like you're dwelling on the negative aspects of the past and feeling like there's no hope. This has already started to affect your mindset, triggering old wounds and emotions. Our minds tend to race with thoughts, especially in challenging situations. Try not to get caught up in negative thinking.

The best thing you can do is focus on what's important to you. For example, you could look for a job, start planning your thesis, or make some long-term plans for your career. Think about where you want to live long-term, too. You could even make a three-to-five-year plan.

I hope my words can be of some help to you. Face the sunshine and leave the shadows behind.

Give it your all and enjoy life to the fullest!

Hello, questioner! I am Jia Ao, and I'm here to help.

You have problems and doubts on the platform. You are encountering problems in interpersonal relationships. You say that you feel inexplicably bored with familiar friends after a period of time. You don't want to talk or pay attention to them. Even trivial things or small actions can make you unhappy. You don't want to be friends with them. You always have these negative emotions inside. You want to know what's wrong with you. How should you adjust in the future when you encounter the same problem again?

Let's get to the bottom of this together.

[Accept your emotions as they are]

From your description, it's clear that this problem has been plaguing you for a long time. You get bored with friends you know well and become upset over the smallest things. I'm glad you're aware of your emotional problems and willing to work on them. Accept your emotions and feelings as they are. Avoidance and resistance only make negative emotions more likely. You also have wild thoughts. Face this problem head-on and find a way to overcome it.

Treat friendships correctly and objectively.

It's normal to have this kind of mentality with new or old friends. You can chat with them at first, but after you get to know them, you'll lose that freshness you felt when you first met. You'll naturally start to prefer new things to old and become impatient with some of your friends' actions. Sometimes it's just a sentence or an unintentional action that annoys you for no reason. You don't even understand why; it's just a sudden period of annoyance, and you don't want the relationship to be so close anymore. You may find the other person annoying. It's a process, and things will return to normal after a while, but your friends will think you're strange, and you'll feel sorry for yourself.

[Learn to self-regulate]

You've discovered you have inexplicable emotions. Adjust your mentality. This treatment of your friends will not work. Make adjustments and changes. Get along with your friends better. Don't blame your friends. Remain calm and make changes. Your friends can feel your changes.

[A healthy communication model]

Be aware of your negative emotions in time to avoid hurting your friend's feelings again. Establish good communication with your friend. Openly share your feelings with your friend. Talk about the unpleasant things that happened between you and your friend. Find out what exactly made you feel so negative. Spend more time with friends. Get in touch with cheerful and optimistic friends. Become more optimistic.

[Strengthen your inner self]

You are suffering from mental depletion. You have a lot on your mind that you can't figure out. You are distracted by all sorts of thoughts and feel restless. Strengthen your inner strength and boost your self-confidence. Resolve your mental blockages. Do things that interest you and are meaningful. Read more books on psychology. This will help you.

The following books are recommended for improving interpersonal skills:

Read "Don't Eat Alone" by Keith Farage.

2. The Art of Communication by Ronald B. Adler and Russell F. Proctor.

Here are some book recommendations from Baidu:

I'm certain my answer will help. The world and I love you ♥

Good day. I am the Yaya tree.

I am pleased to be of assistance in addressing the challenges you are currently facing.

From the information provided in the original post, it can be surmised that the source of frustration is not a lack of desire to maintain a friendship with the individual in question, but rather the presence of significant interpersonal challenges and disagreements when the two parties interact. These conflicts and disagreements tend to be complex and challenging to resolve.

For example, the subject states, "This kind of thing has occurred again recently, approximately five times in total. After conversing with the object of interest, the latter asserted that the subject exhibited schizophrenic behavior. The object of interest further stated that the relationship was no longer a priority."

From this sentence, it can be inferred that the desire to communicate with the individual in question is present, yet the results of such communication appear to be unsatisfactory.

I would like to inquire of the questioner whether, in the aftermath of such conflicts, communication is typically initiated. Furthermore, I am curious as to the nature of such communication.

The question thus arises as to whether communication will result in a resumption of the relationship.

From my own experience, I can identify the following causes of this problem:

First and foremost, when individuals spend an extended period of time with someone they know well, the shortcomings of the other person, as well as the role and state that must be maintained in the relationship over time, tend to persist.

During my tenure at the university, I also encountered the phenomenon of fatigue in my roommates after prolonged cohabitation. This was due to the fact that numerous conflicts and emotions would emerge following extended periods of shared living. In the event that neither party is able to effectively navigate these conflicts or if the proposed resolutions prove ineffective, and recurring disputes persist, the experience can be highly exhausting and exasperating.

Secondly, the subject displays a plethora of emotional and challenging triggers within their mind, and lacks sufficient knowledge regarding these emotions and triggers.

In instances where a roommate introduces a topic that evokes discomfort, it may prove challenging to articulate one's feelings directly. Consequently, the individual may resort to ignoring the situation and attempting to cope with the emotional distress it causes. This behavior may lead the roommate to perceive the other person as unstable and inexplicable. Over time, this dynamic can intensify feelings of distrust and foster a sense of mutual boredom and dissatisfaction. When these emotions remain unresolved over an extended period, they can contribute to a growing distance in the relationship.

The dormitory is a highly dense social environment, and it is not possible to avoid it. One is required to reside in it on a daily basis, yet one does not feel positive about it. This can result in feelings of hatred and loathing towards one's roommates. In fact, one may experience hatred towards the relationship and a sense of loathing towards the dormitory environment itself.

It is unclear whether my analysis and description are an accurate reflection of the situation.

Subsequently, I will present potential strategies for addressing this situation.

It is recommended that you identify a method for maintaining a certain degree of distance from your roommates.

In the event that neither party is adequately equipped to navigate such conflicts, a sense of distance can serve to mitigate the occurrence of unnecessary conflicts and contradictions.

Additionally, you indicated that you are a senior student. Based on my observations, individuals in their final years of studies tend to be occupied with their own pursuits, leading to a reduction in their interaction with roommates compared to their experiences during their first and second years. This presents an opportunity to provide you with a degree of autonomy and independence from your roommates, should you desire it.

Secondly, should you so desire, you may explore further, foster a positive relationship with your roommates, and pay close attention to their words, as they can easily evoke strong emotions.

I recall that during my college years, I experienced significant distress when my roommates made disparaging remarks about me. This was due to the fact that, prior to that, I had frequently been the subject of ridicule by my parents. Consequently, when individuals of a similar age spoke to me in an impolite, dismissive, or teasing manner, I would become visibly upset and give the impression that I was moody. However, in retrospect, I have come to understand that these reactions were actually related to some traumatic experiences I had endured in the past. At the time, I was unable to comprehend this, and I attributed my emotional responses to the individuals with whom I was living in the dormitory.

Individuals who have experienced significant trauma in their past may exhibit heightened sensitivity and irritability in their relationships, as well as a tendency to be easily provoked.

Furthermore, without self-exploration, it is impossible to understand the underlying causes of one's persistent negative affect, susceptibility to the emotional distress of others, and the inability to effectively convey one's unhappiness when distressed. In the absence of introspective inquiry, individuals may resort to maladaptive coping mechanisms, such as ignoring or sulking, which can lead to the deterioration of interpersonal relationships.

It is therefore crucial to investigate the underlying causes of one's emotional state. Should one have the requisite time, it would be beneficial to consult with a qualified counselor or consultant. Alternatively, one may choose to postpone this endeavor until after graduation, when one has secured a stable position and the necessary resources to do so. It is important to note that this is a viable option.

It is my hope that the advice I have provided will prove beneficial to you. Having experienced a similar situation, I am able to offer insights into the matter at hand and encourage you to make positive changes.

I wish you the best of success.