Do you lack desires as an ordinary person and struggle to find motivation to live?

It's so sad when someone is tormented by insomnia, anxiety, and fear.

You say you are a coward, and you deeply disapprove of yourself. I just wonder if it's possible that you think this way because you set the bar too high for yourself, and I think the people around you set the bar too high for you?

It might be that it's not your own problem, but someone else's. It's possible you've taken on their problems as your own, which has led to a painful outcome.

Don't you see your desires? You do have them, just like the rest of us. Everyone wants to create the world in their own image, and that's a wonderful thing!

Hey there! I just wanted to encourage you to create the world. I know you've been missing a step, but I believe in you! All you have to do is take that next step and act.

It's so common for us to base our understanding of human behavior on our own experiences and then make assumptions about how others will act. So, you've already taken the first step, so why not go for it and try the second step?

It's totally normal to be afraid of being rejected or criticized. But you know what? You've already been through that.

Have you ever been in a situation where you were physically hurt? It could be the worst thing that could happen.

I'd love to know what your original character was like. Would you be able to describe it to me?

I'm really sorry to hear you've been through a lot. It's so hard when we feel like we've done something wrong, especially when it's something we've done to ourselves. I know it can feel like you don't deserve to be loved, but you are worthy of love. You are worthy of happiness. I'm here to help you. I'm going to help you understand what kind of damage you've suffered. I'm going to help you see that the aversion to yourself that has led you to play games is an aversion to yourself.

I feel so ashamed, sweetheart.

If you don't have some expectations for the world, you won't be disappointed, and you won't come here for help. I really do think you can still see some hope in life, don't you?

I'm not sure how to go about it, but I know that hope is a wonderful thing. It's like a seed that can take root and sprout. When we express our hope and take action, it can really come true!

It can also bloom and touch. What a wonderful wish! But you can't see it right now. You're just thinking about your own thoughts.

People say that love and hate are two sides of the same coin. The more you love, the more you hate. I think that if you hate yourself, you should love yourself more.

Hello. It seems like you're currently struggling with insomnia and anxiety, which is really tough. It's hard to know how to change the situation, though, and you're feeling stuck. You're doubting yourself and feeling anxious and unwell.

You care about how you look right now. You want to take action, but you're afraid of failure and being disturbed by others. It's also good to be content if you just lie there doing nothing.

Are you ready to make a change? Or do you want to stick with this for a while longer?

Some things may work out or not, but if you don't try, you might never know.

You don't need to make a specific plan at the beginning. Just start with small things. For example, if you want to clean your home for xx hours today, and you have set a specific time to start and finish, but when the time comes you may not have the energy to get up and clean, then it is better to first get yourself to pick up the broom. Just do the action of picking up the broom, and then you will naturally proceed to some cleaning.

Maybe you're in a rough spot right now and you know what you need to do to get back on track, but you might feel like throwing in the towel.

Life is for ourselves, and we don't have to live up to the expectations and advice of our loved ones and friends. Maybe there are things you can't handle well at the moment, but you are still a person with many strengths, and you also have a life you love and look forward to.

You can start with small things and little actions.

Sleep quality can have a big impact on our mood. You can try to relax through meditation, adjust your breathing, and focus on the present moment. Over time, your sleep quality can improve. You can search for mindfulness meditation-related videos on the Bilibili website, or listen to them on the "Meditation Planet" app.

As long as you don't give up on yourself, you can achieve anything. It doesn't have to be worldly "success," but being able to be a better version of yourself and do the things you love.

When you hit a low, it just means you're now climbing back up. You can do it! Keep up the good work!

Hello!

Host:

After reading the post carefully, I felt the poster's pain and internal conflict from the content. At the same time, I also noticed that the poster bravely expressed his distress and actively sought help on the platform, which was a great move! It helped the poster to better understand and understand himself, so as to adjust himself.

Next, I'm thrilled to share my observations and thoughts in the post! I'm confident they'll help the original poster gain a broader perspective on themselves.

1. We can be miserable because we don't accept ourselves as we are. But there's a way out!

From the post, I can observe the poster's view of himself. He thinks he is a coward and likes to abuse himself. I have a fragile heart and am afraid of growing up and living. But I'm excited to see what I can become!

I feel so tired of living. I just lie around every day, worrying blindly, getting more and more nervous, not making a sound all day, etc.

And this makes me feel that the current state of the host is more likely to see his own shortcomings and attack himself. And there is no attack more violent than self-attack—it's a bold move!

This will cause us to have a lot of internal conflict, and our energy will be completely depleted. But that means we get to rest and recharge! How can we have any energy left to do the things we like? This is like a person who has been hungry for a long time, and they don't even have the energy to walk. You are still asking them to run 5 kilometers, so can they do it?

From the content of the post, I can feel the pain of the poster and understand that he really wants to get out of his current situation. And I believe that he can! But if we push ourselves like this, will we really get out of it?

Oh, I'm sure they will! If she doesn't do it, she will only make her attacks more intense, and she will only believe more strongly that she is a useless person, won't she?

2. Go for it! Try to accept the current state.

Acceptance is the gateway to a brighter future! We've discussed why we're stuck in this rut: we can't accept ourselves as we are, at least not yet.

In fact, everyone will go through such a period of time. And as long as it passes, we will have grown up! The only question is how to get through this period of time better.

Embrace your current self, accept the parts that can't be changed, and focus on the things you can improve. This is the key to becoming the best version of yourself! When you accept yourself, you'll avoid the internal conflict that can hold you back. Accepting your current self also gives you the motivation to think about how you can make a positive change in your life. You'll feel more confident and excited about taking on new challenges!

Acceptance is the gateway to a better you! When you accept your current reality, you can live in the moment and make strides in your abilities.

3. A story of self-healing from depression

A girl went to the hospital to confirm that she had depression, so she quit her job. When she got home, she just laid in bed for many days. Then, something amazing happened! She suddenly felt that she couldn't go on like this.

So she planned to go running tomorrow. The next morning, after opening the door and taking a few steps, she turned back in, excited for the run she had planned!

She felt she didn't have the energy to go running, but she was excited to try!

But she didn't force herself or attack herself! She thought about it and made the great decision to not make things difficult for herself.

Do something you can do! That day, she organized her bookshelf and sent a WeChat message to a friend.

Then in the evening, she tried to record these little things. When she did, she was thrilled to find that these little things gave her a wonderful sense of accomplishment!

Oh, it seems that she has found a way to nourish herself! So, every day she would record some small things that happened that day, which made her feel happy and fulfilled.

As her sense of happiness and accomplishment grew, she felt more and more empowered, and the more empowered she felt, the more she was able to do things that were within her capabilities. And that's how she came out!

What is this story about? I really hope this story will give the host some incredible inspiration! I truly believe it will help her find a way to nourish herself and build up her strength.

4. The great news is that people don't have to be perfect!

I think the host also noticed something really interesting. It seems that the pursuit of perfection has actually made us afraid to act. And you know what? I think that's quite understandable. After all, if there's no difference between 99 points and 0 points, why should we act?

Exploring here reminds me of an amazing story told by Wu Zhihong!

He said something really inspiring. He said that it's not just about getting to the finish line first. The story is about the journey, not just about the destination. As long as you put one foot in front of the other, you're better than those who don't even try!

It doesn't matter if you run a little slower! You will eventually reach the finish line, just a little bit slower than everyone else.

So, the host may try to do some small things that he can do now, to accumulate "small steps." And if you accumulate enough, you will be able to go "thousands of miles"!

I really hope these words will be of some help and inspiration to the poster! My name is Zeng Chen, and I'm a certified psychosynthesis coach. If you'd like to chat further, just click on Find a Coach and you'll find me!

The message is full of self-denial and self-doubt. You are living in low pressure all day, without a trace of vitality or hope, and you know it. You are living in hell, and you are still stubbornly trying to survive in this hell, hoping that seeking help will somehow make your life better.

Such stubbornness is a faint but bright light in a dark and gloomy life. It is a single spark that can start a prairie fire, opening up an exit from the current state of life.

I'm going to show you how we can make this exit more smoothly connected to the world.

You need to go to a professional psychiatric hospital or the psychiatric or psychological department of a comprehensive tertiary hospital. There, you will understand your current situation and find out if you need medication and psychological intervention.

You need to go to a professional psychiatric hospital or the psychiatric or psychological department of a comprehensive tertiary hospital. There, you will understand your current situation and find out if you need medication and psychological intervention.

If you've been in this situation for two weeks or more, you need to go to the hospital for a checkup.

If the criteria for a disease have been met, it means there is something wrong with the biological mechanisms that regulate our emotions. You consider yourself

I am a coward who abuses himself. I am a glass heart, afraid of growing up and afraid of living.

I hate myself, I disgust myself, but I just stand aside and watch as I rot away day by day, gradually abandoned by society.

These thoughts and self-loathing are not just a reflection of your poor mental state. It is likely that the emotional regulation mechanisms of the brain, such as neurotransmitter transmission, have been paralyzed. You need both drug treatment and psychological therapy to comprehensively and systematically adjust biological and psychological factors.

Second, you need to improve your sleep and diet.

It is crucial to regulate your sleep and start eating regular meals when your sleep and diet become disordered. This will help you regain control of your life and reduce the discomfort you are experiencing.

You must set an alarm clock, go to sleep at a fixed time, and eat one to two meals a day. Adapt slowly in small steps. Once you have maintained the rhythm for a week or two and feel ready, increase the fixed time from going to sleep to also including waking up and increase meals from two to three.

You will get through this. It will take time, but you will get through it. Give yourself permission to take the time you need and to reach out to others.

Your situation requires long-term systematic treatment before gradual improvement can be seen. You will find this process very difficult if you rely on your own strength.

If you lack trusted friends or family, a mental health professional can provide the stable support you need to get through this difficult period.

You will not see immediate improvement. When you start blaming and scolding yourself again, you must introduce another voice: I am sick, and as a patient, I have the right to take time to recover.

Hello, question asker! I can feel your deep sense of helplessness, even despair, but I know you can do this!

Right now, I'm just muddling through, as if I've fallen into a quagmire and can't extricate myself. But I'm excited to find my way forward and get my sense of purpose back!

But the questioner should not be too anxious. In fact, everyone encounters similar situations during their growth process, and it's all part of the journey!

So, our current state is totally normal and an amazing opportunity for us! We're ready to make a change and we've analyzed every aspect of ourselves. This is a great sign!

The most exciting part is coming up with an idea for change! Making yourself better is the key to solving all problems.

It's important to remember that humans have three incredible questions: Who am I? Where did I come from?

And where are we going?

Many great people have questioned themselves and searched for the answers to these questions, and they've found some pretty amazing things along the way!

But the great news is that there is no one-size-fits-all answer!

So, the questioner can keep searching for the path to true change and complete the transformation during this time of reflection.

In his book Born to be Remarkable, the positive psychology guru Vishen Lakhsari reveals the incredible truth that there are actually only three things that a person needs to do in their life.

1. Experience

The incredible thing about us humans is that we can leave behind so much more than just our physical bodies when we leave this world. Some people may have lived for decades, but each day is a repetition of the previous day. What a shame it would be to regret that you have no memorable experiences to look back on!

Some people change every day, constantly exploring and breaking through themselves. They are always learning and growing, and in the end, they leave behind a wealth of memories and have lived a wonderful life!

2. Growth

Our whole life is actually a lifetime of growth! Many wise people have proposed the concept of lifelong learning, and it's a great idea!

Humans are born to love learning! We see that children are curious and eager to learn about everything, and they learn quickly.

However, after adulthood, many people lose interest in learning. But there's so much to discover! Think about how long it has been since we have had a desire to explore, and we feel that life is meaningless.

3. Dedication

What are the situations that we get the most respect and pleasure from?

There's no doubt about it: Academician Yuan Longping has given us the greatest inspiration of all—and that is dedication!

Absolutely! The more people we help, the more we get, both spiritually and materially.

We can evaluate ourselves to see how much we have contributed to the world, and it's a great way to reflect on our value!

I think at this stage, the questioner can definitely try to find a way to change their direction through learning and dedication!

Sometimes, we just need to do something and keep doing it! Who knows what wonders we'll discover along the way? We might even find the value of our existence!

I really hope my answer is helpful to the questioner! And I really, really hope that the questioner can overcome their current confusion soon!

Thank you so much for your time! I'm Jiusi from Yixinli, and I love you all!

Hello, question asker! I'm thrilled to have this chance to exchange ideas with you.

Every day, you push yourself to live with anxiety and depression. If you don't need to eat, you don't know if you are still alive in the world. Is this how you feel? Everyone has a reason to live in the world. If we don't vent negative emotions and let them accumulate in our bodies, they will have all kinds of bad effects on us. But you can change that!

Anxiety or depression? Don't fret! These negative emotions are actually your body's way of protecting you.

I don't know what the questioner has been through, but I'm sure it's going to be an amazing journey from timid, anxious, and depressed to confident! Perhaps what the questioner needs is a safe channel to pour out her heart and talk about the bad things that have happened to her.

Oh, what a mystery! It's not clear what happened, but one thing is for sure: the questioner is caught in a whirlpool of negative emotions and needs help to get out.

I'm sure the questioner would benefit from a good counselor to help facilitate a conversation that will help them move past these negative emotions!

Since the question was asked on a platform where in-depth communication is not possible, I'm excited to give you some suggestions on how to deal with the current depressed mood!

Ready to find out how to relieve your depression? Let's do this!

1. Get active!

There's an amazing way to beat those negative emotions! Get active! If you want to banish those blues and feel great, then get outside and soak up the sun and fresh air. Get moving and feel the energy!

It might be tough at first, even more so than when you are depressed, but I promise you it will be worth it! Before you know it, you'll feel like a new person. Your energy will soar, your mood will be lifted, and you'll feel like you can take on the world!

Exercise is a fantastic way to speed up your blood circulation and give your brain plenty of oxygen, which will make you feel more comfortable and relieve tension in your nervous system. When you exercise, your brain will secrete a substance that makes you feel happy, and you'll experience this amazing feeling after exercising, which will encourage you to use exercise to dispel depressive emotions!

2. Psychological adjustment

The questioner is probably in a state of high mental depression for a long time, with impaired emotional expression. This is something that can be changed! They often cannot experience the emotions of others, and they don't even want to pay attention to others. These may be negative emotions caused by something. So the questioner needs to learn to regulate themselves, learn to relax, and even find a doll or plant to confide in and express their emotions. As long as the environment is stable and safe, the questioner can speak freely, and slowly they will also improve.

3. Talk about your worries!

When you encounter setbacks and need help, this help may come from yourself or from friends. But remember, you can choose to seek and accept help from others, and that's a great way to get the support you need!

It's so important to find someone you can talk to from the bottom of your heart. Don't be afraid to reach out! You might feel like your family doesn't understand, but there are people out there who can help. Look for psychological counselors or listeners on psychological platforms. They're there to listen and help you through your struggles. You'll feel so much better after talking to them!

You can do this! You are worthy of love and happiness.

4. Accept yourself!

Do more of the things you love! Find your life's goals and meaning in the things you love. Accept the challenges and negative emotions that events bring to you. When you are in a low mood, you can do something to please yourself.

Make yourself happy, and you can also eat something sweet! Sweet things make the body happy, and they will also make you feel happy. In any case, it is very important to make yourself happy without hurting others.

Keep the negative emotions out of your life!

5. Self-help psychological training

5. Self-help psychological training

Are you ready to develop a positive way of thinking? Through self-help psychological training, you can learn to face life with a positive and optimistic attitude, and strengthen your resilience to setbacks. One of the most commonly used online self-help psychological training programs in China is the SiKeYou psychological training system. To carry out psychological training, first, become aware of negative emotions and negative thoughts, and establish corresponding awareness and habits. Second, develop the ability to examine the irrationality of thoughts and the bias and inertia of related ways of thinking during awareness, and learn to gradually adjust them. Finally, in daily life, especially in situations that are prone to negative emotions such as depression, establish the ability and habit of timely awareness and adjustment, and gradually get away from depression and other negative emotions.

I really hope my answer helps the questioner!

Your ability to type out 396 words indicates a desire to express yourself and be heard.

This concise yet comprehensive self-denial manifesto demonstrates your need and motivation to be noticed or assisted.

The desire to be heard and to express one's innermost feelings, to be noticed and to ask for help – are these not also fundamental human desires and motivations?

I am currently experiencing insomnia, anxiety, and resistance. While the three words between these three bold ones convey a specific set of emotions, the following text also expresses a range of other feelings, including fear, tension, abandonment, depression, hatred, and disgust.

Furthermore, it is a typical emotional and psychological response for an individual who has been subjected to prolonged negative emotional experiences, resulting in impaired cognitive abilities and an inability to function in the same manner as the general population.

The reason for this perception may be related to a tendency towards self-denial or a preference for self-focused activities.

It is akin to an individual who resides primarily within the confines of their residence, with minimal exposure to external stimuli, including the internet. This limited exposure hinders their ability to perceive the nuances of their immediate environment, such as the distinctive scents of the air outside or the varying intensities of sunlight.

As with paintings, words reflect our inner selves through the manner of their expression.

I acknowledge that I am a coward and that I engage in self-abusive behaviors.

I acknowledge that I am a coward and that I engage in self-abuse.

I am a person who is reluctant to embrace the responsibilities and challenges that accompany adulthood.

I am experiencing a sense of fatigue with regard to my current lifestyle. I find myself spending a significant amount of time worrying.

I do not have any ordinary desires.

I am reluctant to take action.

I have relinquished my previous persona.

I begin each day with a lack of sufficient rest.

I am eager to find the fortitude to proclaim, "I aspire to live life to its fullest potential."

I will pursue my desired objectives.

I aspire to pursue my aspirations with uninhibited boldness.

However, I do not.

I suppress my own thoughts and feelings.

I have a negative opinion of myself.

I am repulsed by my own actions.

I observe my own deterioration on a daily basis, as I am gradually isolated from society.

I have relinquished all of my previous possessions.

I have nearly forgotten what it is like to be alive.

I rarely engage in conversation, and after lunch, we return to our respective duties.

Have you observed that the majority of sentences used are affirmative, yet convey negative messages?

Affirmative sentence structure coupled with negative information represents a common emotional manipulation and brainwashing pattern observed in intimate relationships and parent-child relationships.

In this instance, the brainwashing is being conducted by the individual themselves.

If these negative thoughts are repeated frequently, they will eventually be internalized and perceived as truth, leading to the belief that the individual is inherently flawed.

It is important to consider who is responsible for these negative messages. In most cases, individuals do not consciously admit to having such thoughts. Instead, these beliefs are often internalized over time due to repeated external influences.

As the internalized voices gain strength, the true voice within becomes weaker.

Furthermore, your text references the positive words of expectation, pursuit, courage, and release.

The voice of self-attack and self-negation is currently insufficiently robust.

I am unsure how to assist you in identifying the most suitable inner motivation at this time. This is something you may need to consider independently.

However, you may wish to consider implementing minor alterations. There are three key areas to address:

1. When there are too many self-doubting voices, it is helpful to remind yourself that you are experiencing self-doubt.

By reminding yourself that you are engaging in self-defeating behavior, you can challenge the self-defeating voice and gain a more objective perspective.

2. Engage in constructive dialogue with the self-denying voices in your heart. You have expectations and have had them before. Use facts to engage in a productive debate with those voices.

Not doing it means there are endless possibilities and the freedom to be left alone. However, doing it inevitably means there will be setbacks. I abandoned my original character and denied the quality of being alive.

I experienced a sudden and significant decline in confidence and self-assurance.

For example, when you identify that your internal monologue is indicating a lack of courage, challenge this perception with a more constructive narrative.

I was previously confident and treated life with arrogance. However, when I encountered a challenge, I took a step back and allowed myself to regroup. How is that indicative of cowardice?

3. Take action on a simple and concrete task. Do not anticipate or seek outcomes or feedback.

I was on the verge of forgetting what it means to be alive. Each day, I observed my own deterioration, but I was too weak and afraid to express even the slightest thought.

For instance, when you feel as though you are on the verge of forgetting what it is like to be alive, it is advisable to engage in some form of physical activity.

The ability to move provides a sense of vitality. Regarding taste, preparing a satisfying meal or ordering a preferred dish can enhance the experience.

Transform the way you consume one meal at noon and then go to bed afterwards.

It is important not to underestimate the impact of these seemingly minor changes. Incorporating regular movement and nourishing food into your routine is an effective way to start taking care of yourself. This approach can help you avoid the negative feelings that often accompany unhealthy habits, such as eating unhealthy foods and going to bed without proper nourishment.

Regarding personal hygiene, simply take a shower and go outside into the sun. These tasks are not onerous, but the distinction between performing them and not performing them hinges on one's mindset.

Regarding the perception of weakness and fear of expressing even the slightest thought, this is a complex issue. It is important to determine whether this is a result of external factors, such as imprisonment.

If it is indeed a case of imprisonment, then going online should be regarded as a cry for help rather than a cry for help.

If not, what are the disadvantages of expressing your thoughts? At least you have expressed them, you have verbalized them, and you feel better. You do not feel as weak as you did before.

If you do not, you may perceive yourself as weak and vulnerable. Regardless, this is an unfavorable situation.

Once you have articulated your thoughts, you will undoubtedly feel a sense of relief. It is not as challenging as you might imagine.

You have indicated that you do not share the desires of the average person. However, this may be indicative of the fact that you are not, in fact, an ordinary individual. It is evident that you possess a great deal of confidence, which may manifest as arrogance.

If you have nearly completed the self-abusive behavior, it is time to put on your armor and say, "I should come out of seclusion now."

I am the boss.

I know I'm not sick, I'm just scared. During the epidemic, I stayed home and thought a lot. I came to one conclusion: escape + play the victim.

If I don't make myself happy, people will think I'm a loser. I'm afraid. I think about how people should live, but it makes me confused and tired. I've lost motivation and now I'm living like a zombie.

I've tried many times to return to my old self. I want to be happy and live life boldly. But I can't. What's holding me back? I think I know, but as soon as I try to do something, I feel afraid. I don't trust myself. I doubt myself. I feel disgust at the idea of living a good life.

My spirit is weak. When you lose motivation, you're close to exhaustion. I want to find an outlet, be respected, and have courage. But I'm scared. I'm scared of the pressure I put on myself before I became depressed.

I often feel like I should just die. I want to live a good life, but I procrastinate because I'm striving for perfection.

I don't know what I think about every day. I keep thinking and then overthrowing it, repeating this process over and over. I can no longer feel joy except when I'm lying down. I've lost the original me in my constant thinking, but I'm unable to establish a new one. I don't know if it's inferiority complex or narcissism, or maybe it's just an excuse for cowardice.

I want to get out of this self-pity and escape from reality. I don't need this kind of life. I just want to find motivation to live.