Do you lead a very stressful life, and do you cry when you think about the past?
9780
76
24
By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
I don't know if it's because of my family that I live a very repressed and tired life. Thinking about the past can be very painful, and I cry. My parents have been divorced for a long time, and now they both have their own families. But I don't think I'd be happy with either one. Because what I want is a family. I think I'd have a better future with my father, because he's rich and well-connected and could help me find a decent job. But that's not the life I want. And I don't want to stay with my mother. I think their divorce is their business, but why do I have to bear the painful consequences? I really want to live freely for myself, but Chinese people traditionally emphasize filial piety. I can't just ignore my mother, and I can't let my father down. Whenever I think about this, I can't help but cry. It's painful. Even if I'm doing well right now and temporarily forget about it, every once in a while it will come back and I'll feel like giving up. I really feel tired of living, it's such pain.
More from Soul Share Cove
-
Anxiety 7 MIN READWork income is lower than promised, I have been anxious recently, and there i...
I consulted a school doctor. The school promised me 100,000 yuan a year. Now that I've started working there, it's become 80,000 yuan a year.I feel...
-
Depression 2 MIN READI just had a baby three years after getting married, and I feel like I'm bein...
We got married three years ago and had a child this year. Now it's been two months since the birth, and my husband's male chauvinist temper is not ...
-
Depression 3 MIN READWhat if I have a persecution complex and worry that the father of the person ...
Background: My parents divorced when I was 7 years old, and they both started new families and had children. So I felt very insecure from a young age.
-
Anxiety 5 MIN READWhat is the difference between a demanding child and a spoiled child?
My child is three years and three months old, and has been in kindergarten for half a month.After entering kindergarten, she became extremely sensi...
-
Depression 7 MIN READExtremely lonely, longing for companionship to the point of crying. What shou...
A 24-year-old female. Severe loneliness, hoping desperately for someone to hold me, to lean against his embrace. When this longing is intense, I ho...
-
Social 8 MIN READHow to confront conflicts directly and make my wife understand me, instead of...
I habitually avoid conflicts and contradictions, but deep down, I am very dissatisfied and angry. When I express myself, my wife doesn't understand...
-
Depression 3 MIN READFifth grade, I am sorry to be a human. Do you think I am right?
Hi, I'm a fifth-grade girl in Beijing. Don't be scared by the title. Let me first talk about how I feel.I'm someone else's child, but I want to be ...
-
Love 3 MIN READFull-time for 4 years, husband working afar, how to mend the parent-child rel...
After four years as a full-time employee, the third year was when I had to take care of the child without any help from my parents, that's the year...
Comments
I understand how deeply painful and complex these feelings are. It's hard when you're caught between your own desires and the expectations of family. You're not alone in feeling this way, and it's okay to want a life that feels true to yourself. Maybe talking to someone who can offer unbiased support, like a counselor, could help sort through these emotions.
It sounds like you're carrying a heavy burden, and it's understandable to feel overwhelmed. The pressure to honor your parents while also yearning for your own path is tough. Remember, it's important to take care of your own wellbeing too. Perhaps finding a balance or a middle ground could be a step forward. What do you think would make you feel more at peace?
Your feelings are valid, and it's important to acknowledge them. It's not easy to navigate the expectations of filial piety while seeking personal freedom. Maybe exploring what a healthy relationship with both your parents looks like for you could be a start. It's okay to set boundaries and prioritize your mental health. Have you considered discussing your feelings openly with someone you trust?
It must be incredibly exhausting to feel torn between two worlds. The desire for a complete family and the reality of your situation can be heartbreaking. It's crucial to remember that your happiness matters too. Seeking professional guidance might provide some clarity and support. You deserve to live a life that feels fulfilling and authentic to who you are.