Do you often feel that you can't relax and that you have to focus all your energy on your studies?

Kiss, I can see that you have poured out your heart and feel helpless, and want to seek change. This is a good start! Let's explore the possibilities together!

1. You devote all your energy to your studies because you know that academic work is the only thing that will pay off. You don't take time off to relax; even during the holidays, you find something to do.

This is a good habit, as long as you are within your comfort zone. Focus on yourself. Learn. Work hard. It is highly productive and you will feel a sense of accomplishment.

2. Jealousy is powerful. When you see someone surpassing you in studies, you can choose to feel sour or you can choose to surpass them. You can let go of the stress and regain your interest in other things.

It's normal to feel jealous when you see others surpassing you. Learn to adjust by using an internal evaluation system, comparing yourself with your past self. Comparing yourself with others will only lead to exhaustion. Adjust.

3. You may be a person who lacks love, but no matter how you improve your appearance or inner self, you will still be unloved and unlucky in love. Sometimes you feel that relationships are a burden, but occasionally you also feel lonely because you have given up on developing them.

People are social animals, and relationships are a mirror that allows us to see ourselves better. It is therefore important to establish relationships, not necessarily all romantic, but including family, friendship, and teacher-student relationships.

You don't need to seek love from others. Learn to love yourself. Do little things every day to love yourself. When you are better, you will know how to love yourself more. You will attract less bad luck.

Bad relationships are often caused by a lack of love and a desire to find compensation from others.

You may find it helpful to refer to the above. Thank you.

Greetings. I extend to you a 360-degree embrace.

The initial statement posits that the subject was originally a person who lacked love. The subsequent description indicates that the subject has undertaken significant efforts to find love.

Despite efforts to enhance one's appearance and inner qualities, there is a lack of reciprocal interest from others. This lack of reciprocation hinders the attainment of the desired level of love.

Thus, one may posit that investing significant energy in the pursuit of romantic relationships while simultaneously directing attention toward academic endeavors may yield tangible outcomes, such as the admiration of others or the attention of potential partners. However, these outcomes may not necessarily translate into the fulfillment of the underlying desire for love and intimacy.

You continue to seek love. You dedicate yourself to academic pursuits, even foregoing the cultivation of interpersonal connections, which can be perceived as a form of self-negation.

The inverse is a defensive mechanism. In essence, the greater one's desire for an object or outcome, the less one displays that desire.

The underlying issue is a deficiency in love. Individuals who experience a lack of love often develop a sense of unworthiness and undeservingness. For instance, they may believe that they are undeserving of love from others, rest, or even selfishness.

The most evident consequence is that they are reluctant to request things and to reveal their authentic selves. This is analogous to a child who is indulged by their parents, who will pout because they know their parents will acquiesce.

Children who are not spoiled by their parents will consider whether they merit such treatment before engaging in self-indulgence.

The cause of this lack of love is unclear, but it is likely the result of adverse experiences in the past. It is evident that the individual continues to experience this lack of love, which may manifest as an inability to accept oneself, a lack of self-love, and a perception of unworthiness and undeservingness.

It is this author's recommendation that the reader peruse the book When You Start Loving Yourself, the Whole World Will Love You Back. Additionally, it is advised that the reader consider consulting with a counselor.

As a counselor, I frequently draw upon Buddhist principles and occasionally experience depressive episodes. However, I also recognize the value in maintaining a positive outlook and motivation. I extend my support and encouragement to the world, and I believe in the potential for positive change and growth.

Do you feel that you are unable to relax and dedicate your full energy to your studies? There is no inherent problem with that.

The issue is that you have posed this question.

We are currently in a period of growth and development, striving to learn, enhance our skills, and dedicate our efforts to these pursuits. If challenges arise, they are to be expected.

The issue is that you have already demonstrated doubt about the value of studying, indicating a resistance to pursuing this goal and a desire to prioritize other emotional needs.

Therefore, if you still require that you remain idle and focus all your energy on your studies, this will not be feasible.

It is analogous to a situation where someone offers to trade a pound of gold for a pound of bread. Would this be an unfavorable proposition?

There is no issue with this proposition. Any individual would likely view it as a favorable arrangement and accept it.

However, there is one stipulation: This must be during a period of global famine. Everyone must have been hungry for at least five or six days.

I reiterate that at this time, there would be no trade.

In this context, individuals from a world where basic necessities are scarce will likely view your decision as misguided. They may argue that you could have exchanged the gold for a higher value, such as bread, which is in short supply.

The choice is yours. If you do not change, you will be deemed foolish. Conversely, if you do change, you will face the consequences.

Alternatively, if you alter your circumstances, you may avoid starvation but will undoubtedly experience significant discomfort as a result of your lack of nourishment.

If you evaluate your situation based on social values or the perspectives of others, you are undoubtedly making the right decision by investing significant time and effort into your studies.

The issue is that you are currently lacking in love. You are effectively half-dead from a lack of love. If you do not pursue love, but instead pursue gold and the meaning of learning, what is the point?

It is worth questioning whether studying can bring love or pampering.

Is there a risk that learning could lead to a sense of entitlement?

Furthermore, pursuing studies will result in the loss of opportunities to engage with one's emotions.

It is important to recognise that everyone's experiences are different, and that the choices they make will inevitably vary. It is crucial not to allow external influences, such as other people, society or the world's standard answers, to determine your life path.

You are aware of your own physical condition. You have not consumed food for five or six days, and others have inquired as to why you have not eaten.

It is evident that food is readily available in abundance. The crucial point is that you are able to consume it. Frequently, external factors impede your ability to do so.

If someone claims that someone else is preventing you from eating, it is evident that no one is preventing you from doing so.

The issue is that while they may claim otherwise, the reality is that all the food is stored in the granary and in their cabinets. It is not possible to access these without their permission.

It is important to remember that other people's opinions should not be the determining factor in your life.

Should you require guidance, I am available to provide advice.

Ultimately, I hope you will find happiness in your life.