Do you tend to ruminate and often find yourself uncontrollably reliving negative experiences?

Dear questioner, I think the term "rumination" you mentioned really describes the situation very well! It sounds like you might be experiencing a tendency to constantly recall past events, which is totally normal.

If you're dealing with a lot of unhappy and painful memories, I know it can be tough to face them. I get the feeling you're a thoughtful and meticulous person who tends to overthink things, which might be why you're feeling confused.

When you first start counseling, it's totally normal to feel a bit overwhelmed. It's like a flood of memories and emotions suddenly comes rushing in! But don't worry, this is a natural part of the process. As you continue, you'll gradually find a sense of calm. Most of those pent-up emotions will have been released, and you'll start to feel more in control of your thoughts. Depending on your current situation, there are a few tips you might like to consider.

1. If you're looking to delve deeper and make some changes, psychological counseling is a great way to do it!

I'm not sure which counseling school you've chosen, but in general, the first six sessions are all about gathering information, making an assessment and diagnosis, and designing a counseling plan. After that, you'll gradually start entering the main body of the counseling process, which usually takes between 10 and 40 sessions.

Afterwards, you can decide whether you want to continue with a final session or a long-term consultation. The usual frequency is once a week, but if you feel a bit anxious during the initial assessment phase, you can consider increasing the frequency to twice a week.

This will help you feel less anxious and really get to the heart of what you're thinking.

2. It's also a great idea to keep a diary and record your thoughts and findings. Writing is a wonderful way to organize your thoughts and stop thinking.

Writing things down is a great way to help you get your thoughts together. You can use it as an outline for discussions with your counselor, as a summary at the end of the consultation, or as a summary of your thoughts during the day. Once you've finished writing, take a moment to relax and enjoy the feeling of a job well done!

You'll get into the habit of doing this, and it'll really help you think more clearly in the future.

Meditation is really great and you should definitely keep at it! Distracting your attention is also really helpful.

Meditation takes time and practice to master. It can be tough to meditate when you're feeling stressed. Try incorporating more muscle and breathing relaxation techniques into your routine.

It's also a great idea to distract yourself and move around. Try exercising, singing, doing housework, or working—whatever you enjoy! When you focus your mind on an external activity, your thoughts will stop.

I know you can do it! Just keep at it and you'll get better and better at it.

I think your emotional problems might be tied up with anxiety, so you might find it helpful to read some books on Morita therapy and cognitive behavioral therapy for anxiety. I hope you find them useful!

The questioner, "The present is good!" Be grateful for having met.

From your description, I can tell you want to get rid of this pain and reject the habit of rumination. I've been there, so I know what to do.

First, you ruminate on past experiences because similar things have happened or similar emotional switches have been triggered. The past event or related emotions have not been resolved, so at some point the memories reappear. At the same time, you evaluate yourself and other people involved in the event. These evaluations and thoughts make you feel a lot of emotions, gradually leading you into your mind's stories and pulling you into an emotional whirlpool.

Second, since the past has not been resolved, you must take control and use rumination as an opportunity to take a good look at the situation and the emotions it brings you. Give it a summary and end. Regain the role of a director, sort out the resources according to the outcome you want, and reconcile with yourself in the event.

Be aware of your thoughts and the stories your mind weaves. Analyze these thoughts carefully for a few minutes. You will find that many of these thoughts are not credible and cannot be supported. Don't be carried away by them. See the emotions behind the events. Be your own spiritual parent. Stop blindly criticizing and blaming yourself. See the efforts you have made in the situation. See the limited resources at that moment. Learn from the experience.

You must make a good end with the past since you are suffering from rumination. Practice your awareness more. Keep a mindfulness journal and an emotion journal. Be aware of your thoughts at any time. This will make it less likely for you to fall into your own mind stories.

You must practice "living in the moment." Allow yourself to truly feel your current feelings, without judgment or bias. You will gradually overcome your rumination. Resisting rumination only makes it worse. Instead, recognize the messages and resources it offers you.

I wish you the best!

Hello, I'm very interested in helping you. From what I can see, you may be suffering from insomnia and palpitations due to negative experiences in the past. Perhaps we could explore this together?

Perhaps it would be helpful to start by looking inward and trying to figure out what we are actually remembering.

When you look back, what do you remember? Perhaps it would be helpful to consider whether you are remembering unforgettable people and events, or whether you are remembering yourself during those difficult times.

If it is something you find particularly memorable, you might consider saying goodbye to them in your heart, releasing the words you wanted to say but didn't, and the emotions you wanted to express but didn't.

If you recall the self you were during those challenging times, offer yourself a kind gesture of encouragement. We have all faced similar difficulties, so there is no reason to doubt our ability to overcome them.

It is important to accept the past self, reconcile with oneself, and embrace the present, regardless of how one may have been in the past.

If I may suggest, you could also consider looking outward.

Perhaps it would be beneficial to try to get out of the cage of memories and embrace the present. It might be helpful to live in the present and focus on the future.

Perhaps it would be beneficial to take a moment to observe the people and things happening around you, to pay attention to your mood and feelings at this moment, to gather with friends and family more often to chat, and to go see more of the magnificent rivers and mountains.

When you find joy in the present, it can help to gradually ease unpleasant memories of the past. As the saying goes, one way to move on from heartache is to start a new relationship.

It might be helpful to consider that the best way to move forward from this situation is to open your heart, courageously embrace a new path, and allow positive memories to gradually heal old wounds, allowing you to find strength and healing within.

From what you've written, it seems like you're having trouble focusing on the present because your mind is all over the place. You're feeling pretty confused, and after going to counseling, you've been remembering things from the past that you'd let go of. It's been causing you a lot of pain. You've also gotten into the habit of ruminating.

My advice is to try the following: If you find yourself thinking about the past over and over again, it might be that you haven't fully let go of it as you think you have.

To truly let go of something is to acknowledge that it happened, that it hurt you, and that it's in the past.

It's important to think about this in terms of your own health.

Overall, your current mindset isn't great, and you want to be happy and healthy. So, we can regulate ourselves well from this starting point.

Ruminating is our tendency to think about something over and over, wondering if we're doing the right thing.

Once we understand the inner logic, we need to realize that this matter is already in the past. There's no way to go back to the previous second to change it. What we can do is be in the present moment, and even in the next second, we can't decide the direction of events.

If we understand this characteristic, I think you'll be able to gradually adjust your state of mind.

Wishing you the best!

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First of all, I want to give you a big, warm hug, my child. I applaud you for being so good at identifying problems, facing yourself, and solving problems in the right way.

You have emotional pain, and you think you have let it go. But guess what? When you are reminded of it during counseling, it makes you feel very uncomfortable, even to the point of insomnia and palpitations. And that's okay! It just means you're making progress.

I'd love to use an analogy to describe your situation and see if it fits! Just like getting sick, there are generally symptoms and root causes.

Let's say I catch a cold. I'll have a fever and a headache. That's the symptom, but what's really going on? It could be a cold or heat in the lungs. The good news is that you can take medicine to control the fever and headache to clear up the symptoms. But to eradicate the cause, you need to distinguish whether it is caused by cold or heat. This is a bit like combining Chinese and Western medicine, which is pretty cool.

The great news is that to truly cure an illness and prevent it from recurring, you just need to treat both the symptoms and the root cause. It's as simple as treating the root cause and eliminating the symptoms!

And guess what? The same goes for psychological problems!

Counseling is an amazing tool that helps you recall the past, even the parts you'd rather forget. It's a way to trace the source of the problem, guide you to find the root cause, and prescribe the right medicine to eradicate it. I remember reading Bi Shumin's "Female Psychologist." The protagonist had to find the cause of her own problems and went through a very painful process before finally finding and solving it. But it was worth it!

During this process, she also resists remembering, subconsciously not wanting to recall those painful and uncomfortable images or experiences. But here's the good news! Even without finding the cause, external physical therapy will always have a temporary effect, and even the follow-up effects can be significant. It's like a lonely person who, after watching a comedy movie and laughing, is even more despondent.

Psychological disorders may not be visible on the surface, but the amazing thing is that the scars in the heart will always reveal themselves inadvertently!

I think you must have realized that there is something amiss with you, otherwise you would not have sought help from a counselor for no reason. So I think you can be honest with your counselor and tell them how you feel and what you think. Do you have to dredge up your bad memories? Absolutely not!

Or can it be done in another way? Absolutely! Just like a tumor in the muscle, the fastest way to treat it is to dig it out, take medicine, and then get well. The downside is that it hurts a lot when you dig out the tumor. But that's okay because you'll be feeling better in no time!

In addition, injections can be used to gradually make the tumor disappear. While it may take a while, the process is relatively painless. If psychological counseling offers a similar approach, it's definitely worth exploring!

I don't know much about psychotherapy, but I'm excited to learn more about how it can help treat illness. I hope this is helpful!

Hello.

"After seeking counseling, my situation got worse. A lot of bad past experiences came flooding back." We need to deal with rumination.

Let's sort it out together.

Our brains encode, process, and store past experiences in our memory. Events that cause us strong emotions, such as extreme excitement or injury, are more deeply remembered.

Our bodies remember the physical sensations and reactions that accompany emotions, such as pain, fear, crying, and insomnia. These somatic responses are more sensitive than our brains. The book The Body Never Forgets contains a detailed description and argument that supports this claim.

In psychological counseling, the counselor will ask you about the events you have experienced and how you felt. This is to fully understand the relationship between your current situation and past experiences and to find a case conceptualization model that applies to you. This will trigger sad past events that you have suppressed and are reluctant to talk about.

The counselor may also ask you to revisit past events, reframe them, and identify the positive aspects of people and situations you had not previously recognized.

Counseling can exacerbate rumination for this reason.

Growing up is painful. We must have the courage to face our failures and change our values, accept our past selves, and start anew.

This reflection process is also a key factor in increased rumination.

Once you have figured it out, truly accepted all of yourself, and reconciled with your past self, you will notice a decrease in rumination. Even if you think about the past again, it will be about other people's stories, and you will not have many emotional or physical reactions.

In the process, you must allow yourself to ruminate, but you must also be aware of it and press pause on your brain. Thank your brain, then take a deep breath to calm your emotions.

Do something else to distract yourself. The meditation you are doing is also useful, so continue with it.

You should also discuss your symptoms with the counselor and find a solution.

I am certain that after a period of time, you will feel better.

You've got this!

Good day, inquirer.

I am Sunny Dolphin Floater, a practicing psychologist, and I am here to respond to your question.

Following psychological counseling, clients may experience a sense of having resolved past traumatic experiences, only to subsequently find themselves back in a state of distress. It is possible that prior attempts at coping with painful memories may have resulted in their being pushed to the subconscious level of the psyche, rather than being fully processed and resolved. Consequently, the role of the counselor is to facilitate the completion of unfinished emotional experiences from the past.

It is possible that the reason for seeking counseling is not immediately apparent. It is likely that the emotional trauma has been affecting your life, but that this is subconscious and therefore not readily apparent. Over time, the negative emotions have had a detrimental effect on your physical health, prompting you to seek counseling. Is this an accurate interpretation?

If the counselor is able to elicit responses from the subconscious, it indicates that the counselor's level of proficiency remains relatively high. It is unclear whether the counselor has assigned any homework to facilitate self-healing. It is essential to be patient and adhere to the counselor's instructions, confronting painful experiences with resilience. Attempting to accept and resolve these experiences is crucial for progress.

If the client has doubts about the counselor, it indicates that the counseling relationship has not been established effectively. When trust is lacking, the counseling process is likely to have minimal impact. This can intensify the client's suffering and damage the counseling relationship, potentially leading to resistance against the counselor. From the client's perspective, investing time, energy, and resources in an ineffective counseling process can be highly detrimental.

In the event that the counselor deems themselves to be insufficiently competent, they will refer the patient to a more suitable counselor.

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Good day. I am writing on behalf of the original poster.

Rumination occurs when a problem or emotion has not been fully resolved, even if one believes that it has already been addressed. Memories and emotions from the past emerge due to prolonged suppression in the subconscious, subsequently captured by the conscious mind and brought to the forefront.

Thoughts and emotions are interrelated. Recalling one scene can facilitate recalling other related scenes, which in turn can evoke corresponding emotions and stress. Psychological counseling is a therapeutic intervention designed to address such problems. Through interaction, individuals can reflect on themselves, nurture their own strength, and modify their coping strategies. This process equips them with the capacity to cope with life's challenges and problems independently after the counseling session has concluded.

Unprocessed emotions from the past can be triggered at any moment or otherwise consumed. However, they must always be consumed before they can be fully released, which can occur through various means, including somatization or dreaming. In the absence of significant repression, these emotions may resurface when similar triggering situations arise. Otherwise, the unconscious will seek to reactivate them. Psychological counseling may serve as a potential indicator that it is time to address unresolved issues from the past.

It is, therefore, unsurprising that the counseling process affords the opportunity to recall a multitude of issues, which may be considered a form of change.

It is imperative to recognize and address any changes that may occur during the counseling session. This presents a valuable opportunity for individuals to discuss their concerns and explore potential solutions independently. During the consultation, it is possible to negotiate the desired outcomes and communicate the personal transformations that have taken place. Additionally, it is crucial to convey a genuine willingness to address and resolve the identified issues.

The consequences of rumination can be classified into the following categories:

1. It is necessary to address the associated circumstances and emotions (or cognitions) in order to prevent rumination from reinforcing negative cognitions and releasing emotions.

2. One's personal attitude toward rumination and resistance may precipitate stress.

Two straightforward coping strategies are presented here.

In the event of encountering rumination, it is possible to employ the following verbal technique: "At this moment, I observe XX (the scene that occurred/a specific thought), and I also recognize that I am experiencing a strong sense of XX (sadness/fear/anger/resistance) at this moment. I choose to allow/am willing to let it go."

"It is important to allow yourself sufficient time to process the emotions that arise. By providing yourself with a space to accept these emotions, you can repeat this process until you feel better. This method is one that I often employ and would encourage you to try it for yourself."

An alternative approach is to neutralize the emotional impact of the memories. When recalling the scenes, it is possible to introduce images that evoke a sense of humor or joy to counterbalance the negative emotions. This method is relatively quick to implement, although it is not a technique that I frequently utilize. However, it is important to note that memories can be "tampered with."

In the event that immediate resolution of the regressive problem is not feasible, but it does not become repressed, it is recommended to record it in a notebook and address it at a later time.

In conclusion, meditation is a beneficial practice that can be defined as a state of emptying the mind. However, as previously stated, when the conscious mind is empty, elements from the subconscious may emerge.

In meditation, one can utilize one's own vocabulary to facilitate the continuous release of negative information and achieve a profound and tranquil state of being.

Ultimately, it is worth questioning whether psychological counseling should truly entail a return to one's past.

The choice of whether to revisit past experiences in counseling depends on the specific goal of the counseling and the particular problem that the client wishes to address.

If one is unable to exert control over a particular situation, it is advisable to refrain from attempting to do so. Attempting to resist only causes stress, and it is therefore more beneficial to allow the situation to flow naturally. When one is fully accepting of a situation, it tends to dissipate.

I wish you the best of success.

Good day.

You have indicated that you are experiencing insomnia and palpitations, which are cause for concern. I can sense your anxiety and unease.

"I'm used to ruminating," which could indicate a tendency to engage in negative self-talk, such as "I'm not good enough" or "I'm no good."

We require further information to ascertain the reasons behind your decision to seek counseling.

Please describe the factors that led you to select this counselor.

This process helps to identify the reasons for the selection and to free the individual from the discomfort of psychological counseling.

We then examine the internal conflicts that may arise and seem to occur during psychological counseling.

Past issues are brought to the forefront in a manner similar to how stress can manifest physically.

"I had let it go," but perhaps the memory was sealed.

The issue may have resurfaced, resulting in the physical manifestations of insomnia and palpitations. The individual has identified as "vulnerable and crying."

Please describe your inner feelings during the period in question.

It appears that you are experiencing discomfort and a lack of control.

A typical counseling session lasts approximately 50 minutes. It can be challenging to fully address pain and emotions during such a short period.

If a trusting relationship is established with the counselor, the client must then endure a period of adjustment. This is the claim of the psychoanalytic school.

Since its inception, CBT has not advocated solving the past, but rather focusing on the present and starting a new life by changing thinking patterns. This seems to align more closely with the needs of the original poster than the theory of psychoanalysis.

However, if the landlord were to opt for psychoanalysis,

It is possible that, at a fundamental level, there is an aspiration to heal the wounds left by the past, to reduce inflammation and avoid a recurring cycle.

Individuals evolve over time, encompassing past, present, and future experiences. When embarking on self-reflection, each phase is significant.

When we engage in a relationship and subsequently experience a loss, we seek support, understanding, acceptance, and comfort.

This pain has demonstrated the influence of emotional distress on our well-being and may also relate to our inner self-esteem.

It is essential to have emotionally corrective experiences in a relationship.

Reading can be an effective way to nourish oneself.

You have expressed a willingness to try psychological counseling and have taken the initiative to move forward with this course of action. However, this has led to the emergence of conflicting and contradictory issues.

We did not opt to remain silent; rather, we sought a resolution. We chose to articulate the challenges we have faced in our relationships, operating according to our own logic and context.

It is more probable that, after releasing oneself from the bondage of pain and hurt, one can achieve one's full potential.

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