Does excessive modesty lead to jealousy of others and cause you to fall into negative emotions?

I hope my response will prove somewhat helpful.

Indeed, at a fundamental level, there is a longing to succeed, yet simultaneously, an apprehension about striving for it. There is a sense of lacking something worthy of mention or praise, which is compounded by feelings of envy towards others' exemplary performance and a questioning of one's own worth. This jealousy can lead to a loss of motivation and enthusiasm for hard work, as well as an immersion in negative emotions. There is a tendency to avoid spending time with colleagues who perform well, and a decline in the positive attitude previously adopted towards one's work.

You inquire as to the optimal course of action.

It is this author's recommendation that the following course of action be pursued:

1. An examination of one's early experiences can elucidate the underlying thoughts that give rise to the "fear of striving to perform." These thoughts exert a powerful influence on an individual's actions and prevent them from fully embracing their authentic self.

One may investigate this matter by posing the following question: What were the typical responses of one's parents when one exhibited a desire to behave in an exemplary manner during one's formative years, or when one demonstrated such behavior?

What experiences have led you to believe that you have nothing to be proud of or to celebrate? And what experiences have led you to doubt your own worth, to question your value as a person, and to feel that your parents' affirmation of you was insufficient?

What is their attitude when you doubt your own worth? What are the thoughts that their attitude evokes in you?

If we truly believe that we have nothing to be proud of, why do we seek external validation so fervently? This is where the conflict lies.

One must inquire as to the nature of the thoughts that underpin the "fear of striving to perform." For instance, it may be the case that even if one performs, it is futile, or that one is simply not adept enough to be lauded, rendering the act of performing futile. These thoughts exert a profound influence on our actions and are deeply entrenched due to our early experiences. Our automatic thinking occurs instantaneously, and in the absence of awareness, we remain unaware of the extent to which these thoughts shape our actions. However, thoughts can be altered. Thoughts are not an inherent aspect of the self; rather, the self is the arbiter of its own thoughts. One can choose which thoughts to entertain and, based on an understanding of the self, select those that are more applicable in a given moment. For example, one can demonstrate one's talents and potential, recognize one's value, affirm one's intrinsic worth, and seek recognition.

A change in thought patterns will result in a change in state. Individuals who consistently engage in negative thinking will inevitably act in a negative manner. Conversely, those who cultivate positive thinking will act in a positive way.

2. Jealousy can be a catalyst for identifying one's inner needs and desires. By doing so, individuals can begin to live in accordance with their authentic selves, rather than perpetuating the repression of certain aspects of themselves through projection onto others. This process of self-discovery and acceptance is essential for personal growth and development.

Envy is not directed at the person in question; rather, it is a reflection of the positive qualities that person possesses. These positive qualities that elicit feelings of envy are, in fact, the desires and aspirations that reside within the individual, yet they have been repressed. These suppressed positive qualities are projected onto other people, which can be understood as a form of projection whereby, when other people display these positive qualities, the individual experiences feelings of envy or envious admiration. This phenomenon demonstrates the potential for individuals to cultivate these positive qualities within themselves, which aligns with their aspirations.

The subject reports that feelings of jealousy have resulted in a loss of motivation and enthusiasm for work, as well as the onset of negative emotions. The individual has also noted a shift in attitude towards work, which is no longer as positive as it was previously. It may be beneficial to consider an alternative approach. Attempting to avoid the issue will not lead to a solution, as the problem does not lie with others, but within the individual. If these needs and desires are suppressed, it is likely that the individual will continue to encounter people they envy, as they will still be living a life that has been suppressed. However, when the individual is able to express themselves, realise their value at work and achieve promotion and recognition through their own efforts, they will no longer experience feelings of envy, as their true needs will be met.

Furthermore, it is recommended that you engage in more self-affirmation and self-acceptance practices. For additional guidance, I suggest consulting the following resources: "The Miracle of Self-Affirmation," "Rebuilding Your Life," and "Accept Yourself."

The aforementioned information is provided for your reference. Best wishes!

The questioner appears to be observing the situation from a distance, displaying a sense of emotional proximity through physical contact.

I comprehend the emotional state of the individual in question. As the text progresses, it becomes evident that the questioner's inner feelings are influenced by a sense of modesty and self-discipline, along with a tendency towards conscientiousness and a willingness to work hard. Additionally, there seems to be a perception of empathy for the individual's tendency to rush around. It is evident that the individual's modesty has led to missed opportunities due to its unsaid and uninitiated nature. This has affected the individual's mentality, causing doubt about their self-worth and leading to a repetitive state of mind. The individual is uncertain about how to address the above actions and results, which are not aligned with the expectations of the questioner.

Let us examine together the available methods.

It is essential to gain a clear understanding of the two concepts of "modesty" and "excessive modesty," as well as the ability to accurately discern the boundaries of others.

(1) Self-deprecation:

Furthermore, this is an appropriate gesture in the context of Chinese cultural etiquette. As the old saying goes, "act low-key and praise the other party."

This is a powerful lubricant in interpersonal relationships that can better express respect and attention for others, reflect one's own cultivation, and more. While maintaining a positive self-image, it is also necessary to establish appropriate boundaries. When it is appropriate to be humble, one should do so; when it is not appropriate to be humble, one should be unreserved. Only in this way can the super-long principle be brought into full play.

2) Excessive self-deprecation:

This is an enhanced iteration of self-deprecation, and it is also a prevalent form of indirect criticism in praise. When expressed, it can potentially convey disrespect, a lack of attention, and even contempt or disregard.

In practice, despite the outward appearance of politeness, the underlying attitude may be one of exclusion, rejection, and even arrogance, accompanied by the moral high ground of "modesty" gained by suppressing others.

What are the questioner's subsequent considerations after the aforementioned concepts have been elucidated? At the very least, the following aspects can be explored:

(1) It is advisable to establish modest boundaries and provide support for oneself prior to achieving success.

Since antiquity, modesty has been regarded as a virtue and a laudable quality. However, if one lacks a clear understanding of boundaries, it is inevitable that others will exploit one's modesty, which can then become a catalyst for attacks.

The text describes a sentiment of "acting low-key and not being adept at expressing oneself," which is a subconscious belief in one's own capabilities, such as "unworthy, undeserving, and lacking confidence," which persistently suggests self-doubt, influencing one's emotional state and actions. These thoughts are often repeated and replayed, affecting one's actions and preventing one from empowering oneself.

2) The continuous expansion of self-identity and self-worth is a catalyst for the joy of achievement.

Upon reading the text, I can appreciate the questioner's work as "steadfast and willing to work, conscientious and diligent, and someone who has achieved a modicum of success." Subsequent to each minor accomplishment, it would be beneficial to conduct an improvement analysis to ascertain one's strengths and advantages, acknowledge one's achievements, and offer rewards and praise in a timely manner.

It is of the utmost importance to be seen and recognized for every contribution one makes. At the same time, one must engage in self-analysis to determine whether there is room for improvement.

Indeed, how might this be achieved?

3) On the basis of self-identification, it is possible to make comparisons with others, but it is important to avoid a competitive approach. This will help to maintain self-confidence and a positive state of mind.

The rationale for this is that "modesty facilitates advancement, whereas pride impedes it."

It is beneficial to compare oneself to one's past self in order to identify areas of growth, affirm one's self-worth, and offer praise in a constructive manner. This can help to strengthen one's self-confidence and facilitate the continuous empowerment of oneself.

It is important to recognise the strengths and advantages of others, and to learn from them in order to improve oneself. As the old saying goes, "The master leads you to the door, but your ambition lies within you – never stop learning." While seeking assistance, it is also crucial to maintain one's own identity. By combining one's own expertise with the indirect methods of others, it is possible to avoid one's shortcomings and utilise the indirect method to one's advantage.

Only that which becomes part of one's identity is truly one's own. Reasonable and moderate praise for one another (adhering to the principle of seeking truth from facts) can help to circumvent the pitfall of "comparison and competition," which can result in a sense of loss, a reduction in self-confidence, and a prevention of empowerment. Instead, it will lead to unnecessary internal depletion through rumination.

(4) The aforementioned elements can be combined to improve negative emotions and attitudes, accumulate recognition incrementally, and foster a sense of contentment and gratitude simultaneously.

The aforementioned "excessive modesty" can also lead to a misperception. Concurrently with the misperception, the other person does not perceive the genuine modesty, but instead experiences heightened suspicion, even suspecting an ulterior motive behind the behavior, that it is deliberate.

It is my contention that the questioner is capable of posing this question in a sincere and earnest manner, motivated by a genuine desire to improve the situation. Concurrently, they hold positive regard for others and their colleagues, assuming that they share similar beliefs. This is a commendable quality, yet it should be exercised with restraint and not to an excessive degree. Only through self-belief and the formation of a supportive inner circle can others begin to value you.

Ultimately, it is my hope that the questioner will engage in exploration, whether in unfamiliar fields or unconventional lifestyles. This pursuit, I believe, will naturally instill a sense of awe. It is crucial for the questioner to cultivate a sense of self-reliance and autonomy, while also recognizing the value of sharing knowledge and expertise with others. This balance will help the questioner maintain a sense of humility and avoid internal conflicts.

It is essential to demonstrate self-acceptance and to be open to sharing one's knowledge and experiences with oneself and others.

My name is Peiwen, and I extend my love to the world.

Let's talk about this topic.

1. I want to know why jealousy-of-others-and-cause-you-to-fall-into-negative-emotions-29420.html" target="_blank">excessive modesty leads to jealousy and negative emotions.

1. It may be an inability to recognize your own abilities. When we reflect on our childhood, did the person who cared for us respond with permission, positivity, or encouragement when you put forward an idea or a demand?

Or is it serious, critical, and rejecting? When children often receive negative responses and are often ignored, they will show anxiety and uneasiness internally, even though they appear to be obedient and sensible on the surface. They will always think that they cannot do it, cannot see their own good, and will always live in the eyes of others, losing confidence in themselves.

It is also easy to fall into learned helplessness after adulthood.

2. It is a deviation in self-perception. We often base our self-perception on the evaluation of others, which is a flawed approach. We are always over-cautious, always thinking, "What will others think if I do this?" "If I surpass others, they will distance themselves from me." This results in a loss of self, a loss of the construction of self-confidence.

3. It's likely a lack of security. When we were young children, our mothers interrupted and stopped us countless times because they were worried and anxious. They were afraid of dire consequences.

If this continues, we will judge ourselves based on our own assumptions about the unknown, that is, "I can't do it well." At this point, our sense of self-efficacy will become problematic, and we will become vulnerable as adults.

As the original poster wrote, I don't brag about myself, nor do I actively seek opportunities to perform. I know I have plenty to be proud of, but excessive modesty has made me feel unbalanced, and I have begun to feel jealous, losing the motivation and enthusiasm to work hard and falling into negative emotions.

2. I'm going to give you some suggestions that I think will help you.

First of all, seeing the good is not an ability. It is a way of thinking. It is a positive and proactive way of thinking. We can start by accepting ourselves. We must allow ourselves to be true to ourselves. We must accept our imperfections.

You have strengths and good points. Write them down and praise yourself. Seeing the good is a way of thinking that requires deliberate practice to improve.

Find resources. We're used to looking at life with a problem-oriented perspective, but in fact, finding resources is much more difficult than finding problems. When you encounter an opportunity to express yourself, ask yourself: If I take the initiative to strive for it, who else can I seek help from?

I want to know what other options I have and what other things I can use.

We can and should make peace with our emotions. When we notice a negative emotion, we can and should ask ourselves, "What does this remind me of? It's not a fact!"

"When we accept our emotions and let them flow, we avoid engaging in behavior that distorts our emotions. We can also record our feelings in the moment.

You are the only one who reads your writing, so be honest and open about your feelings. This will help us understand the origins and effects of our emotions and identify the root of the problem.

You can ask for help because if this bothers you, it's not easy to overcome it immediately. Find a family member or friend you trust and talk to them. If you need more support, you can also find a counselor or a support group. Emotions must have an outlet to relieve the heaviness and blockage in our hearts.

We can also enrich our inner selves, discover our unique value, see the good in ourselves, and record the good people in our lives. This is a great blessing in life. What you choose to see is more important than what the facts are.

Read the book "You are the Answer."

I never sought recognition for my achievements, nor did I engage in self-promotion, because I believed that humility was a virtue. However, I observed that my colleagues were being praised and promoted for their exemplary performance.

Such feelings can lead to a sense of imbalance, a tendency to envy colleagues, and a lack of confidence in one's abilities. This can result in internal conflict, which can further undermine motivation and lead to a withdrawal from spending time with high-performing colleagues.

It is possible to identify and acknowledge a range of challenging emotions, including pain, confusion, anxiety, and disappointment. To begin, extend a supportive gesture such as a warm embrace to the individual who posed the question.

I have a similar experience. When I was at university, a teacher said, "Not competing is the greatest competition." He shared that when he was young, he worked hard and never participated in any partisan struggles. Later, he was given several opportunities.

At the time, I was in complete agreement with the teacher and felt that his words reflected my own character. I continued to work hard, believing that if I performed well, others would recognize it. However, after several years of experience, I came to understand that there are appropriate conditions, times, and stages for everything. What was suitable in the past may not be suitable in the present.

If it was once thought that a good wine needed no label, we are now in an era where it is crucial to be aware of our existence. I recently heard a teacher say that in the past, it was considered derogatory to say "half-bucket of water." However, in today's context, it is essential to recognize that this metaphorical "bucket of water" needs to be shaken so that it makes a little noise and others can see it.

The times have changed, and so have our perceptions and attitudes.

Furthermore, I have found that many individuals are reluctant to discuss their accomplishments because they were raised to be humble, to the extent that they believe their contributions are insignificant and that only the top performers deserve recognition. However, history shows that top performers are few and far between, which means that the majority of individuals should be recognized for their contributions.

From a different perspective, I have found that self-praise can have many advantages.

1) It provides self-affirmation.

2) Receiving feedback from others has been shown to increase happiness.

3) After repeating this process multiple times, you will find that you become more accepting of yourself.

For instance, when my response is rated as "excellent" or when my proficiency level is upgraded, I will post a status on the platform to acknowledge my achievement. After posting, I often find myself quite satisfied, and occasionally I receive positive feedback from others. This exceeds my expectations and further enhances my positive emotions. This has created a positive cycle, which has increased my motivation to continue providing valuable contributions on the platform.

I recommend that you adjust your standards, alter your perception, identify your areas of recognition, and occasionally showcase them in work reports or on your Moments. Liberate yourself from negative emotions, experience more positive emotions, and establish a beneficial positive cycle.

Modesty is a fundamental quality of an individual and a form of moral conduct; however, it should be exercised in moderation.

While modesty is a virtue, excessive and hypocritical modesty have become one of the most common psychological disorders. When a person is accustomed to being modest, feigning modesty can easily result in a lack of self-confidence, self-limiting behaviors, and self-defeating attitudes.

Prolonged justification for one's actions in the name of modesty can be viewed as a form of self-denial and self-imposed limitation.

This self-limiting behavior in adults has an impact on children. Regardless of the child's achievements, adults are accustomed to viewing them with skepticism or even disparagement, which impairs the child's ability to form a clear self-perception.

It is not uncommon for children to lack an understanding of this form of modesty, which can result in them accepting their parents' assessments of their abilities at face value. This can potentially lead to the development of an inferiority complex.

Furthermore, some children develop a hostile attitude towards their parents when they are consistently belittled and reprimanded in the presence of others. Over time, this can result in a deterioration of the relationship between child and parent.

From a psychological perspective, the influence of achievement is profound. The likelihood that this tendency exists is contingent upon the observation that parents exhibited excessive modesty during the child's formative years.

This phenomenon may be described as a form of "compulsive repetition" within the context of the original family unit.

On the one hand, traumatic experiences in childhood can result in the formation of an unconscious belief that parents are strong and that emulating them will afford the child protection.

Consequently, even in adulthood, individuals may unconsciously seek to emulate their parents in intimate relationships, thereby attempting to exert control over the perceived "power."

Conversely, as individuals mature, their subconscious minds may persist in seeking a resolution to restore a sense of control and address the inner child's needs.

Therefore, individuals will repeatedly place themselves in similar traumatic situations by engaging in the constant repetition of traumatic events or circumstances.

It is, however, unfortunate that the most probable outcome of compulsive repetition is repetitive trauma.

In the early stages of childhood, the infant is wholly dependent on their parents for survival, and thus, they are subject to a high degree of control by them.

The most secure method for acquiring parental love and approval is to align one's identity with that of the parent and to adhere to their directives.

As a result, during childhood, there is a greater propensity to attempt to gain parental approval.

Although this is only a temporary solution, unresolved issues and perceived trauma will remain fixed in the psyche and gradually become internalized.

This is the initial reason why we engage in compulsive repetition.

Ultimately, it is not possible to ascribe blame for the similarities between parental and child shortcomings. Rather, these similarities can be seen as the result of a cyclical process.

Thus, it is pertinent to inquire whether a solution to this problem exists.

It is a false assumption to believe that the original family is the sole cause of trauma. The decision to perpetuate or cease the trauma is a personal choice.

Upon entering society, one encounters a multitude of individuals and experiences, leading to the recognition of diverse relationship models that extend beyond the boundaries of the original family. It is an inherent capability to select an intimate relationship and a lifestyle that aligns with one's preferences.

Feelings are rooted in our perceptions; thus, redefining our boundaries may assist us in breaking away from old patterns.

It is possible to alter one's behavior and regain one's power and self-confidence as an adult.

It is accurate to conclude that the circumstances encountered during the initial stages of life are largely fortuitous. However, the capacity to determine the manner in which these circumstances are addressed during the subsequent stages of life is an inherent attribute of the individual.

Good day, my name is Berek.

While jealousy-of-others-and-cause-you-to-fall-into-negative-emotions-29420.html" target="_blank">excessive modesty is often regarded as a virtue in certain cultural contexts, when it exceeds an appropriate scope, it can manifest as self-suppression. This not only affects the individual's psychological state but may also trigger feelings of jealousy towards others, leading to a negative and self-limiting mindset.

From a psychological perspective, we can delve deeply into this phenomenon.

First and foremost, excessive modesty may originate from a lack of self-assurance within the individual. This lack of self-assurance can lead to apprehension about showcasing their abilities and achievements in social settings, due to concerns of being perceived as showing off or being arrogant.

However, when they observe others showcasing their abilities or experiencing success, this low self-esteem may manifest as jealousy. This is because jealousy often stems from doubt about one's own worth and envy of the worth of others.

Secondly, excessive modesty may also be related to an individual's comparative psychology. In social situations, people are inclined to compare themselves to others.

Individuals who are excessively modest may be more inclined to focus on the strengths of others, while neglecting their own strengths. This kind of comparison may result in psychological imbalance and feelings of envy towards others.

Furthermore, excessive modesty may be associated with an individual's need for control. Some individuals may choose to present themselves in a modest manner to maintain control over their environment and avoid revealing their true abilities.

However, when this sense of control is threatened, for example when they see others as being more proficient than themselves, individuals may experience feelings of anxiety and helplessness, which can subsequently give rise to feelings of envy.

The negative impact of excessive modesty on an individual's mental health is well documented. It can lead to feelings of depression, anger and anxiety when an individual becomes trapped in a negative emotional cycle.

These emotions can impact an individual's daily life and work efficiency, as well as interpersonal relationships, potentially leading to feelings of isolation.

It is therefore important to be aware of the potential issues that excessive modesty can cause and to learn to showcase our abilities and achievements at the appropriate time. At the same time, it is also essential to develop a healthy sense of comparison, focusing on our own growth and progress, rather than paying too much attention to the performance of others.

By enhancing self-awareness and emotional management skills, we can more effectively address feelings of jealousy and maintain a positive outlook.

Best regards,

First, recognize that excessive modesty may result in your own value being undervalued. It is not an issue if you do not boast about your achievements, but it is important to learn to recognize your own efforts and accomplishments.

It is not uncommon to experience feelings of jealousy when a colleague is praised or promoted. However, it is crucial to manage this emotion effectively. Here are some suggestions for doing so:

1. Accept your emotions: Acknowledge your feelings of jealousy and avoid self-criticism. Recognizing that this is a common emotion can assist you in managing it more effectively.

2. Analyze the reasons: Consider the underlying causes of your feelings of jealousy. Are they driven by a desire for recognition and advancement, or are they rooted in other factors?

Gaining insight into your own inner needs can assist you in identifying solutions to problems.

3. Set Goals: Establish clear career objectives aligned with your personal needs. This will enable you to focus on your own professional growth rather than being overly influenced by the achievements of others.

4. Enhance your skills: Identify opportunities to develop your abilities, such as attending training, acquiring new skills, or assuming additional responsibilities. By continuously improving your capabilities, you will gain the confidence to pursue the recognition you deserve.

5. Communicate proactively: Reach out to colleagues and superiors to share your ideas and achievements. This can help them better understand your work and contributions.

6. Change your mindset: Rather than viewing the success of others as a threat, learn from their achievements and turn your own feelings of jealousy into motivation to improve yourself.

7. Maintain a positive outlook: Attempt to remain positive and avoid allowing negativity to impact your work. Identify sources of joy and satisfaction in your work, as these will help to boost your motivation.

It is of the utmost importance to have confidence in your own value and abilities. Everyone has their own strengths, and you are no exception. By taking positive action and making the necessary mindset adjustments, you can gradually overcome any feelings of jealousy and achieve your career goals.

Hello, question asker! This is an intriguing question. While there isn't a straightforward causal link between jealousy-of-others-and-cause-you-to-fall-into-negative-emotions-29420.html" target="_blank">excessive modesty and jealousy, they might be connected in certain scenarios. Let's dive into this topic from a few different angles:

First, overly modest people may be inclined to underestimate their abilities and achievements. This is an easy trap to fall into! They may attribute their success to external factors such as luck, the help of others, etc., rather than their own hard work and talent.

This mindset may lead them to doubt their own sense of worth, which gives them the opportunity to work on boosting their self-confidence!

Second, when overly modest people see others achieve success, they may become more sensitive. This can be a great opportunity for them to recognize their own potential and work towards achieving their goals!

This comparison mentality may lead to feelings of envy, as they feel they cannot reach the same heights—but they can!

On the other hand, excessive modesty can sometimes be a defense mechanism to avoid being criticized or attacked by others. However, this defensive mentality may make them more likely to feel threatened by others and thus more likely to be jealous.

However, it's important to remember that not all overly modest people are jealous of others. Everyone's psychological response is influenced by a variety of factors, such as personal experience, values, and psychological state.

Therefore, although there may be a correlation between excessive modesty and jealousy, it is not a generalization—and that's great news!

To overcome this potential jealousy, there's no better way than to view their abilities and achievements more objectively and boost their self-confidence! At the same time, they can learn to appreciate the success of others as an incentive to move forward, rather than an obstacle to their own development.

By making a few simple changes to their mindset and way of thinking, they can transform their relationships with others and say goodbye to jealousy!

I'm so excited to share my skills and help you! I'm Deng Hong, a listening coach. Every voice in your heart is worth listening to with all my heart. I'd love to hear from you!

Dear question asker,

In your request for help, you describe how "I don't tend to boast about my achievements, and I rarely seek out opportunities to perform. I feel that I have little to commend myself for, but this excessive modesty is starting to make me feel somewhat out of balance." This immediately made me think of myself.

Often, we may have a tendency to feel a bit inadequate, as though we don't have anything to be praised for, or that what we do is so ordinary that it's not worth boasting about in front of our leaders.

It can be frustrating when we see that our colleagues or friends are recognized for taking the initiative and taking credit for their work, while we are not. It's natural to feel aggrieved and resentful in such situations. We may even start to question our own abilities and feel like we are not as good as they are. It's important to remember that everyone has different strengths and contributions to offer, and that's perfectly okay.

Our inner drama may play out one after the other, which could result in feelings of increasing imbalance in our hearts.

How might we adjust in this situation?

It might be helpful to consider ways of improving yourself and becoming a little more confident.

You might find it helpful to read more and learn more, and to surround yourself with people who inspire you. You can refer to the book "5% Change" to develop a change plan that suits you.

02. Consider practicing your courage with your colleagues.

Consider greeting yourself with a smile and a hearty laugh each morning. While you're at it, you might want to tell yourself something like, "You are doing well, you are confident, you are being yourself."

If you find yourself in a disagreement with a colleague at work, it can be helpful to speak your mind and share your thoughts openly and honestly.

03. Consider expressing yourself to your leader in a different way.

It is not uncommon to feel a certain degree of apprehension when engaging in direct communication with our leaders, particularly when there is a possibility of saying something that might not be entirely appropriate.

At this juncture, it might be helpful to consider a different approach, such as using WeChat text messages or email. Once you have taken the time to carefully consider and draft your message, you can then send it.

This may be a helpful way to express yourself and let your leader know that you exist and what you have done. It may also help to ease any sense of grievance or dissatisfaction you may be feeling.

It is my hope that this small personal proposal will be a source of inspiration for you.

I hope your work is going well. I wish you all the best in your endeavors!

Good day.

You say you are not someone who likes to show off, but you are perhaps a little too modest. When you see your colleagues getting promoted and getting a pay rise, you feel a little unbalanced and jealous, and then lose the motivation to work hard. You fall into negative emotions, which could ultimately affect your relationship with your colleagues and your work performance.

In this passage, I believe I may be witnessing what is commonly referred to as a self-fulfilling prophecy.

If you suppress yourself too much and fail to properly assess your performance and progress, you may find yourself predicting, "I am worthless and not good enough," while others will normally present their performance, get promoted and get a pay rise, which could ultimately confirm your prediction and deepen your belief that "I am not good enough and I am worthless."

This is something we really need to work on.

It is worth noting that this phenomenon is not exclusive to a particular group of individuals. In our culture, there is a widely held belief that modesty is beneficial, while arrogance is harmful. Our parents and teachers often encourage us to embrace humility, to refrain from excessive pride in our achievements, and to strive for continued improvement.

It is worth noting that in the past, during our growth process, this low-key and humble attitude also allowed us to gain some benefits, gain the recognition of teachers and parents, and benefit our progress.

However, when this modesty goes too far, it can affect our assessment of our own value, which may result in feelings of worthlessness and inadequacy.

How might we break this spell?

It could be argued that one of our core beliefs is that we are worthless and not good enough. Perhaps the first step is to question this belief.

Could it be that I am truly worthless? Could it be that I am genuinely as bad as I feel?

It would be beneficial to collect as much evidence as possible to refute this conclusion and this belief.

You may come to believe that you are valuable in some ways, that you have room for improvement, but that you are not entirely bad.

You might consider finding a small notebook and recording three things every day. This could help to enhance your sense of value, demonstrate that you are valuable, and illustrate that you are making progress. Even seemingly trivial things can, over time, influence your beliefs.

When we feel more worthy of respect, we may also be able to view others more objectively, which could help to reduce feelings of jealousy. It is often said that a moderate amount of jealousy can be beneficial to our progress, as long as it is not excessive.

Hello!

You might be thinking:

I don't like to brag and I never look for chances to perform. I don't feel like I have anything to be proud of.

We're similar in this respect. I'm always like that too.

You feel uncomfortable when others praise you. You are always too humble, which sometimes leads to misunderstandings.

I understand. It's frustrating. Hugs!

It's normal to be jealous of those who have been promoted or achieved good results.

Pay attention to how much you feel this way. If you don't, you'll have problems.

Asking a question shows you're ready to understand the situation better. Being aware is the first step to healing.

We need to be more moderate and accept our emotions.

Many years of life have shaped this self. This is an opportunity for change.

Second, don't deny yourself. It's okay if you can't seek performance opportunities or brag about your achievements.

Be open-minded and accept what we've done. Show ourselves and our abilities.

Match your abilities with your performance. Don't suppress your abilities.

You will find the best version of yourself if you believe in yourself, work hard, and don't give up.

Seize this chance and live life to the fullest. You can do it! The world and I love you!

Give yourself a big hug and a big thumbs-up!

From what you've said, I can see you're feeling frustrated, and I admire your willingness to seek help.

If you're too modest, you might miss out on recognition and affirmation of your achievements, which can lead to jealousy and negative emotions. First of all, remember that everyone has different values and talents, and everyone makes a unique contribution. Just because you haven't been praised or promoted doesn't mean you haven't done a good job or that your work is of little value.

We all develop at different speeds and have different opportunities. The key is to focus on your own growth and progress.

I've got a few suggestions for you:

1. Take a moment to reassess your own value.

Take a look at what you've done and what you've contributed, and see what you're really worth. Keep a record of your successes at work, both big and small, so you can see things more clearly.

You can record your achievements in an "achievements diary" on Yi Xin Li. I wrote in mine for more than 100 consecutive days last year, and it really helped.

2. Build self-confidence:

The key is to build self-confidence and believe in your own abilities and potential. It's good to spend time with colleagues who excel in their work.

Get to know them and work with them. You can learn a lot from them and also draw inspiration and motivation from their success. Try to let go of jealousy and work with them in a positive manner. This will help your personal and professional development.

3. Accept praise and compliments:

When others praise you or give you a compliment, accept it and thank them. Don't downplay your own achievements and feel the recognition from others, as this can help you build a positive self-image.

4. Set goals and make plans:

Set yourself some clear goals and make a plan to achieve them. This will give you more motivation and drive, and you can measure your progress.

5. Get some support:

It can be really helpful to talk to someone you trust, like a friend, family member, or mentor. They can offer support and advice to help you deal with these emotions better.

Next, I suggest you actively look for ways to affirm yourself. Reflect on your achievements and progress, focus on your strengths and successes, and don't pay too much attention to how others are performing.

You can record your achievements and set small, achievable goals to help build your confidence and motivation.

Remember, everyone has their own path to follow. Focus on your own progress and growth, believe in your own value, and set clear goals for yourself. With a positive attitude and hard work, you will gradually regain your motivation and enthusiasm and achieve your career goals.

I'd also suggest checking out Inferiority and Transcendence, Jealousy, and the Nawal Encyclopedia.

I just wanted to say that I love you, the world and I love you too, blessings to you (^Q^)

Dear questioner,

It is noteworthy that while I was reading your question, I was being criticized by my leader on the phone for not doing my work diligently enough. In fact, in order to ensure the progress and quality of my work, I even brought my work and computer to the ward these past two days. I have not expressed any of this personal dedication to my leader. I am curious whether this scenario seems familiar to you. I would therefore like to say that I understand you and I would also like to exchange ideas with you.

Firstly, I can empathise with the assertion that such circumstances have the potential to dampen enthusiasm for work. When we encounter such situations, it is only natural to experience a range of emotions. Once we have identified these emotions, it is essential to accept them, acknowledge their existence and communicate this to ourselves. Should you be able to do so, I would encourage you to try this method.

I will now proceed to share my reflections subsequent to concluding the telephone conversation.

The most significant reflection is that while performing our duties to the best of our abilities, it is also essential to express ourselves in a moderate manner and communicate effectively with others. This enables our leaders to recognize and acknowledge our efforts. It may be beneficial to acknowledge the truth in the adage "a good job is better than a good talk," which is prevalent in the workplace. It is crucial to achieve a balance between performing our tasks and expressing ourselves, in order to safeguard ourselves from mistreatment and enhance the quality of our workplace relationships.

Enhance your capacity to articulate your thoughts and emotions. I recommend the following books: "Nonviolent Communication" and "Speak Well."

Additionally, the terms "jealousy" and "recognition" were employed, both of which are inherently associated with "other people." The influence of education, environment, and other factors has led many individuals to prioritize the opinions of "other people," utilize them as a standard, and even rely on the affirmation of "other people." This focus on "other people" can result in emotional distress and fatigue.

Therefore, introspection and self-focus have become practices that require significant effort. By attending to one's own needs and fulfilling them, one can naturally reduce their focus on external factors, leading to a more comfortable and relaxed existence.

The book I would like to recommend for your consideration is entitled The Courage to Be Disliked.

It is my sincere hope that you will soon achieve inner peace, excel in your work, and enjoy a fulfilling life.

It is important to recognize that everyone has their own pace and rhythm. When we only compare ourselves with others, it can be easy to lose sight of our own position and advantages. It is essential to appreciate and celebrate every bit of progress and achievement, and to leverage our strengths fully. As positive psychology suggests, we should aim to form an upward spiral of continuous growth.

First, it is important to recognize that everyone has unique strengths and contributions, even if they are not immediately apparent. For example, during the pandemic lockdown, we realized the challenges of not having delivery people, and items that were previously readily available are now difficult to obtain.

Take the time to review your work history and identify the areas in which you have excelled, whether in detail handling, teamwork, or problem-solving skills. Give yourself fair recognition for your efforts and results. Similarly, we can also take the initiative to approach and learn from colleagues who have performed well. Their success may be exactly what we need to improve. There is no need to avoid normal competition. Just like in school, there will always be a first place and a last place. Ranking does not represent everything.

Since childhood, we have been taught to be humble, because modesty is a virtue. However, as you correctly observed, my excessive modesty has led to an unwarranted devaluation of my own self-worth.

It is important to understand the positive meaning of "performance" and "strive." This is not about showing off, but rather about having a correct understanding and displaying one's abilities and achievements in a way that allows others to see the hard work and results. Striving for performance opportunities does not mean being pompous or arrogant, but rather proactively sharing work results with others.

I hope you find this information useful.

You don't advertise yourself, don't take the initiative to show yourself, and silently hope that others can see your good points. Meanwhile, you see your colleagues taking the initiative to show themselves and getting promoted and praised.

The mind is unbalanced. Others must see my efforts and abilities. I am not bad.

I am worth being seen. I am worthy of being promoted.

He gets attention and stands in the spotlight while you remain unknown and in the corner, jealous of everything he has achieved.

It is only natural to feel jealous when you compare the attention your colleagues receive with the neglect you receive. This is particularly the case when the amount of effort and the amount of reward are disproportionate.

Jealousy is a basic emotion that will pop up from time to time. It's normal to feel jealous when you think that people around you are putting in the same amount of effort as you but getting more than you.

Accept the inequalities in life. People live in a social environment, and there are so many imbalances.

Most people see those who take the initiative, while those who quietly give in the corner are often overlooked.

Be proactive. You have to take the initiative to get more attention and support.

Naturally, for those who have been quietly giving, taking the first step is challenging.

Don't be afraid of the consequences. You can't let overthinking and over-analyzing the consequences before taking action hinder your actions.

Reflection and comparison are useless. They reduce your motivation to act. Don't be afraid of the consequences. Whatever they may be, you can deal with them.

Hello, questioner. I can see that you're facing some confusion, and I'm here to support you.

It's possible that your current problems may be related to our own sense of value.

It might be the case that when you were growing up, your parents didn't often praise you or offer you encouragement.

If this is the case, you may feel that it is best not to praise your achievements.

Now that you're an adult, you may have come to understand that your value doesn't depend on other people at all; it depends on you.

How might one go about increasing one's sense of self-worth?

For example, you might consider saying three times a day in the mirror, "I am the best, I am a valuable person."

I believe you have some advantages.

If I may suggest, it might be helpful to take out a piece of paper and a pen and write down at least ten of your good points.

As you write them down, you may find that you have more to be grateful for than you initially thought.

If you're still uncertain, you might benefit from seeking guidance from a professional counselor.

A counselor is a trained professional who can provide guidance and support.

I truly hope that the issue you're currently facing can be resolved as soon as possible.

At this moment, I am only able to think of the aforementioned suggestion.

I hope my above answer is helpful and inspiring to you, the questioner. I am the answerer, and I study hard every day.

I would like to extend my warmest regards to you and the entire Yixinli community. Wishing you all the best!

I hope this finds you well. I just wanted to check in and see how you're doing.

I think you should still be at the executive level of the company, and you should focus on working hard. Jealousy comes from comparing yourself to people who are similar in ability but either too high to reach or too low to care about.

1. Burnout: You should be able to handle your current job with ease, otherwise your focus would not be on the outside. You emphasize "outstanding performance" rather than "outstanding ability." Perhaps you think this is because you are "overly modest" and not good at "performing," which in turn produces "jealousy" and "negative emotions."

2. Let your supervisor evaluate your value. Your value isn't something you can decide on your own. It's up to your direct supervisor. Many people don't realize that as long as they get things done, they're valuable. I suggest you report your work results for this period to your leader separately and listen to how he evaluates you.

You also want to feel valued and see yourself advancing in the company. See if he can help you out. If he points out your problems and gives you direction, be sure to tell your boss that you'll be forever grateful to him.

3. Most people go to work to get a promotion and a pay raise. Colleagues have a competitive as well as a cooperative relationship, with competition outweighing cooperation. In my opinion, excessive modesty when you don't have enough ability is a way of showing weakness and hoping to gain from others. When you have the ability, excessive modesty is a way of avoiding unnecessary trouble caused by being too assertive. For you, it may be a sign of inferiority and a lack of self-confidence.

Finally, when you're feeling jealous, take a step back and ask yourself what you need and what you're expecting.

Keep asking yourself why until you figure out what you need. Otherwise, you'll just be annoyed by how well others are doing.

Hello! I'm Bai Li Yina, and I'm excited to share my thoughts with you. I hope my reply can bring you warmth and help!

The questioner shared that he has always treated his work with a humble attitude. However, he noticed that his colleagues who performed well were praised and valued. This made him feel a bit left out, so he tried to avoid spending time with them. As his jealousy grew, he found himself lacking motivation and initiative to work hard. This was a challenge for him. What can you do to overcome this?

[Situation analysis]

You've been working hard, but things have been a bit tough recently. It's totally normal to feel a bit overwhelmed sometimes! You've taken the initiative to recognize your own problems and come to seek help with the desire to change. This shows that you are a person who is unwilling to be defeated by difficulties. You are very good! I'm here to give you an encouraging hug and help you take a look at what is troubling your progress.

[Questions to get your creative juices flowing]

1. Before jealousy set in, were you absolutely thrilled with your work? Did you have high hopes of being promoted after your performance was noticed by your leader?

2. In the past, you said you didn't like to boast about your achievements because you felt that modesty was a way of expressing yourself that you liked. But did you really feel that there was nothing worth praising? Before jealousy arose, what did you think your value was?

3. Jealousy can really get in the way of your motivation and enthusiasm for work. It can even make you feel down in the dumps! But here's the good news: you can avoid those colleagues who make you feel jealous and still work hard to do your job well.

4. Now for the fun part! Write down all the amazing things you think are good about your work since you started. Don't forget to include all those projects you're really proud of. And don't be shy about listing your strengths and advantages! You can even ask your friends or colleagues to weigh in on what they think of you and your work.

[Recommended method]

We often say that there is no harm in comparison. There will always be people in this world who are better than you and people who are not as good as you. However, our competitive nature often makes us see only the strong. A suitable opponent can make you move faster, but if the opponent you choose is beyond your reach, it will only shatter your confidence and make you feel negative and give up. But what if I told you that there is a way to turn this around?

It's totally normal to feel a little jealous when you see someone who seems to be stronger than you. It's only natural to feel like there's a big gap between you and your opponent. But here's the thing: you can't let that stop you! You might think it's better not to make an effort, and you might even think that you're wasting your time and energy. But here's the truth: you are just as good as your opponent!

The great news is that it's not necessarily so! It's just that your heart no longer desires to fight.

What position do you want to reach in this company? What are your goals?

Do you need to compare yourself with this rival you envy? Absolutely not! The existence of this person does not affect your work or your development.

The first step is to sort out our own thoughts so we can find a more appropriate solution.

If this person has influenced your development, then you need to see your own strengths! In the past, blind modesty made you feel useless and unworthy of praise, but in reality, you get results from whatever you do with hard work.

You absolutely deserve praise! And you can start by slowly getting used to self-praise. For example, if you finish the work on your schedule today, you can say to yourself, "You're awesome! You worked hard, you finished on time today, and next time, try to exceed it a little." If you don't finish, don't be discouraged. You did your best, find out why, and you'll do better next time!

Your heart yearns for praise and admiration! If modesty is something you're used to, or something we've been taught since childhood, as if it's not good to be immodest, you can change it slowly. Accept your true inner desires! Sincerely accepting praise is not immodest; it's one of the motivations that can make you better! Recognition and acceptance are not just words; they require your heart to truly accept and feel the emotions when you praise yourself or accept praise from others!

When you see a colleague being praised for a job well done, it's natural to feel a little jealous. It's okay to feel that way! It just means you're capable of doing it too. You just need to put aside your concerns and recognize the direction of your own efforts. You've got this!

You can do it! That's the first step to getting your motivation and enthusiasm back. If you don't even believe in yourself, you won't be enthusiastic about your work, regardless of whether there are good colleagues around. But you can believe in yourself and know that you can achieve your goals through hard work. Then you'll find your enthusiasm for work again!

I really hope these methods help you!

Change takes time and patience, but it'll be worth it! Don't worry or be afraid. Many people are experiencing or have experienced similar problems, but you can get through this!

The world and I are with you, and we're rooting for you! I wish you an early solution to the fog in your heart and a path to finding your own most comfortable state.

A huge thank you to everyone who has liked and commented on my post! I wish you all peace and joy!

Dear questioner,

My name is Liu, and I am here to listen.

I have taken the time to carefully read your question and your statement. While excessive modesty is admirable in many contexts, it can sometimes lead to negative consequences in the workplace. For instance, our original level of ability may not be seen as a result, and being too transparent may not give us the opportunity to develop our strengths. Additionally, it can be challenging to gain a sense of accomplishment. It's important to find a balance where we receive positive feedback and feel confident in our abilities.

I have taken the time to carefully read your question and your statement. While excessive modesty can sometimes lead to negative consequences in the workplace, there are ways to navigate this challenge. On the one hand, our original level of ability may not be seen as a result, and being too transparent may not give us the opportunity to develop our strengths, making it difficult to feel a sense of achievement. This is where positive feedback can play a crucial role. On the other hand, in the face of social comparisons, we may increasingly doubt our self-worth, which can lead to a sense of inferiority. This is something we can work on.

It is possible that we may become mentally unbalanced and develop a jealous attitude towards others.

One might suggest that jealousy is a manifestation of an unfulfilled desire within our individual subconscious.

From your statement, we can discern a process of psychological change.

(1) It would be beneficial to maintain a humble and low-key demeanor, rather than being arrogant and complacent. This is the mentality of a capable person who is not arrogant.

This is not necessarily a bad or terrible state of mind. In fact, we have always been taught to guard against arrogance and impetuosity. In the cognitive training we have received, there are many disciplines to avoid complacency and self-aggrandizement. In the early days, the so-called indisputable theory was also promoted, and modesty became the promoted code of conduct. We are afraid that "full water overflows." But perhaps because of this, people can become overly humble. Even if they achieve results, they may not allow themselves to be happy for themselves, and even if they are given opportunities, they may not take the initiative to seize them.

(2) As we move from a place of modesty to questioning our abilities, it can become challenging to identify with ourselves.

Our words and actions not only convey information to the outside world, but also send psychological cues to ourselves. When we repeatedly say, "I can't," "I'm not good enough," and "I'm not capable," we may internalize these thoughts, and then "modesty" may become "self-deprecation." It is often the case that competence is reflected not only in specific performance, but also in attitude. If we ourselves feel that we are not good, then our superiors may also worry whether we are competent in a certain project.

Over time, we may find ourselves becoming less and less confident.

(3) There seems to be a discrepancy between self-disapproval and the desire for self-realization, which in turn may contribute to feelings of jealousy.

If we find ourselves in a situation where we feel unhappy about ourselves, but at the same time we have a strong desire to achieve something, this could be an example of internalised aggression. Similarly, if we experience feelings of jealousy towards someone who has developed in a way that we admire, and this leads us to feel resentful towards others, this could be an example of externalised resentment.

Internal conflicts can lead to feelings of powerlessness, reduced efficiency and motivation, and a widening gap between ourselves and others. This can also result in feelings of resentment and psychological imbalance. To a certain extent, this state of mind can also affect our interpersonal relationships.

2. Could I respectfully propose that we consider why we might feel unhappy because of jealousy?

2. Could I respectfully propose that we consider why we feel unhappy because of jealousy?

It could be that the root of the problem lies in our difficulty in forming a unified, consistent view of ourselves. It seems that we have a fear of achieving success and self-expression. If we cannot persuade ourselves to honestly acknowledge our desires and respect our feelings, we may find ourselves in a challenging situation. Our subconscious mind

It may be the case that the root of the problem lies in our difficulty in achieving self-consistency. It seems that we have a fear of achieving success and self-expression. If we cannot convince ourselves to honestly see our desires and respect our feelings, it may lead us into trouble. Our subconscious mind does not want to be seen, but at the same time craves recognition.

It is also worth noting that jealousy can often reflect our projection onto others. It seems that we often desire recognition for ourselves in a way that we cannot obtain, and that this desire is reflected in our feelings of jealousy. What sets jealousy apart from envy and admiration is that although we may wish for the success of others, we find ourselves unable to focus on our own growth as a result of an irreconcilable conflict within us. It is also understandable that we may find it challenging to see the good in others with a positive mindset.

3. In response to your question, I would like to offer the following suggestions, which are based on my personal experience and for your consideration.

3. In response to your question, I would like to offer the following suggestions, which are based on my personal experience and for your consideration.

(1) When you notice your own psychological issues, you might consider trying to heal the "injured child" inside.

(1) It may be helpful to recognize your own psychological issues and try to heal the "injured child" inside.

It may be helpful to consider that we may have to stop "attacking" ourselves, stop belittling and suppressing ourselves, before we can find our own internal resources. And achieving this may require going through a process.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider the possibility of refraining from self-attack, self-repression, and instead, to focus on identifying our own internal resources. To achieve this, it may be beneficial to engage in a process of self-discovery.

I'm not sure what your personal experiences have been like, but I believe that perceptions are formed in relation to our past. It seems that automatic thought processes are established through repeated experiences in the past. Perhaps you could try to sort through your personal experiences and see what has caused our inferiority complex and what the underlying psychological issues are. If you feel it would be helpful, you could also consider seeking psychological counseling to express your feelings freely in a safe and relaxed environment.

It may be helpful to actively discover your strengths, rather than focusing excessively on your weaknesses.

(2) It may be helpful to focus on your strengths rather than dwelling on your weaknesses.

It can be challenging to recognize our own strengths, especially when we're used to seeing our flaws. It's possible that we're more capable than we realize. It's not always easy to identify our own potential, just as it's natural to notice imperfections on a blank page.

Asking this question shows that you have the ability to think critically and express yourself effectively. This indicates that you possess certain strengths in your work. It is important to recognize and acknowledge these strengths. It may require courage to do so, but it is a valuable exercise. You can record your strengths in a daily journal or other form of reflection. Positive encouragement can also be beneficial.

Perhaps it could be said that trust in oneself is a key factor.

It is only then that we will be trusted by others.

(3) Consider adjusting your mentality and trying to learn from others.

(3) Consider adjusting your mentality and trying to learn from others.

It is natural for everyone to grow at a different pace. However, this does not mean that we cannot improve. The achievements of others can sometimes make us feel a little competitive, and sometimes, caring too much about what others think can also make us feel a little inferior.

If we can avoid using others as a poor comparison and instead view their excellence as a resource for learning, we may find that our feelings change subtly. Given our desire for success, looking up to truly outstanding predecessors and peers could be a way to strengthen ourselves.

It would be wise to consider that the so-called low-key approach to life and high-profile approach to work may also require us to have our own plans at work. Similarly, when it comes to matters related to our job functions, it may be helpful to seize opportunities and learn to demonstrate the results of our hard work.

I wish you the best of luck!

I wish you all the best in your future endeavors!

I hope this provides you with the information you require.

I am truly grateful for your attention.

I wish you all the best in your endeavors.

I am a listening therapist at Yi Psychology.

Please don't hesitate to contact me if you'd like to chat further.

Hello, question asker.

It's normal to have ups and downs at work, and your mood can definitely be affected. Think of it this way: the workplace is like a battlefield. If you don't fight, the other person will, and you'll be forced to fight.

But at the end of the day, they're colleagues who've fought side by side in the same trenches. They're comrades-in-arms and friends. Recognizing your friends is a form of personal growth. It's a bit of an exaggeration to say jealousy. As the ancients said, "When you see a virtuous person, think of equaling them; when you see someone who is not virtuous, reflect on yourself."

Your current state of mind is just a result of excessive introspection. Other people's gains and losses have nothing to do with you, so don't worry about them too much. Look after yourself, give yourself more affirmation, and praise yourself more.

From what you said, you seem to be a low-key person who doesn't like to show off and isn't materialistic. I don't know what kind of work environment you're in, but in general, people who are capable and expressive are more likely to get promoted. Everyone recognizes the strength of these people and is convinced by them. People who are relatively capable and expressive but not as capable as the others may also get more promotion opportunities, but they are often regarded as acting and their recognition is not necessarily high.

As you said, you're not one to show off, so your only option is to be strict with yourself in terms of promotion. You might be working in the wrong direction, doubting yourself, and beating yourself up, which is bound to upset your state of mind.

First, having a clear career plan helps you identify your promotion path. Second, an accurate workplace positioning gives you insight into the timing of your promotion. And most importantly, a good workplace mentality helps you control the pace of your promotion. Promotion at work is like fighting monsters and leveling up. Each level has different challenges, different essential skills for clearing the level, and different corresponding rewards for clearing the level.

Map out your workplace like a monster-slaying mission. Set the rules and explore strategies to beat the competition.

Psychological maturity is a must in the workplace. Outside of work, it's a good idea to choose books or movies that are right for your personal growth. "The Weakness of Human Nature" and "The Strength of Human Nature" are both great options.

You might also want to check out some books on the art of psychology, like The Art of War.

Knowing what you're feeling is a sign of cognitive improvement. The more experience you have, the stronger your inner strength will become, and the better you'll be at developing your own workplace mindset.

Take a good look at yourself and give yourself some positive feedback. Face up to your strengths and weaknesses, and work on your weaknesses at work to make yourself more competitive.

Stay calm and level-headed. Don't just follow the crowd or blindly chase career advancement. Instead, actively change your mindset and face the future with optimism.

Turn away from all that negative energy that comes from within, like anxiety, fear, worry, stress, and jealousy.

Everything in moderation.

Think long-term and aim for growth. That's the only way to make informed decisions.

Don't get stuck in the present, but make the most of the moment and keep moving towards your goal.

You're in charge of your workplace and your life.

I hope this is helpful to you and to the world. I love you.