Eighteen years old, in my senior year of high school, the pressure at home is immense. What should I do about studying?

Good day, colleague. I can see the confusion you are facing right now, and I extend my support in the form of a gesture of comfort.

Please be advised that the issue you are experiencing is a result of a developmental problem. I would like to offer you a warm hug again.

I am unsure if you have had the opportunity to read the book A Change of Heart.

The book states that there are three key areas of focus in this life: our own affairs, other people's affairs, and the affairs of heaven.

I believe that your father would have wanted your mother to remarry if circumstances had allowed.

Additionally, you are experiencing confusion regarding your sexual orientation and perceive yourself to be transgender.

Please be aware that your brain is still developing and that this may affect your ability to make decisions at this time.

It is possible that you may currently feel that you are transgender, but in fact you may simply be homosexual.

Furthermore, it is important to note that same-sex attraction is a common phenomenon among individuals of your age.

I advise you to refrain from disclosing your sexual orientation to your family for the time being. Once you reach the age of 21, you may then choose to inform them of your sexual identity, should you still identify as transgender.

Your immediate priority is to perform to the best of your ability as a student. This will enable you to achieve the grades you need to gain a place at the university of your choice.

In regard to your sexual orientation, there is no need for concern at this time. All will be resolved in due course.

You may then wish to consider discussing with your mother her decision to enter into a new partnership.

The partner in question will be your stepfather, and his actions will have a significant impact on your future happiness.

I hope you will be able to find an effective solution to the problem you are facing as soon as possible.

These are the only suggestions I have at this time.

I hope my responses above will prove helpful and inspiring to you. I am the solution, and I study diligently every day.

Best regards, Yixinli

Hello, landlord.

I feel sad for the original poster. He is a good child who cares about his mother.

Adults don't need us to worry about their affairs. Mothers have their own ideas.

The host is young and can't help much.

Looking at her mother's chat history, it is inevitable to feel disappointed and lost because she misses her father. Perhaps the original poster feels that her mother has gone too far.

If the father were still alive, he would want the mother and child to be safe and happy. He would want a new father to take his place and give you and your mother what he could not.

Everyone knew and approved of her behavior, and maybe the father of her online romance was already accepted.

Why didn't my mother tell you the truth?

There are at least three reasons.

1. They were afraid the children couldn't handle it and would be sad.

2. It affected your college entrance exam. This was the most important time in your senior year of high school. It also affected your future.

3. They're afraid the host will know and affect their relationship.

... They like each other and don't need to be sneaky or consider anyone else's feelings.

They can enjoy love openly. Don't dwell in the past. Live a new life.

Heterosexuality is simpler and safer than homosexuality. Homosexuals have to pay a higher price and suffer more misunderstanding and prejudice.

Some love is pure, while others use homosexuality to fool around and cause trouble.

If you meet someone who cares about you, your relationship will be great. But if you meet someone who is irresponsible, it's better to choose someone of the opposite sex.

Why is the original poster confused and anxious? Why do you prefer the same sex?

1. Lost his father in junior high, so he craves security and likes a dependable shoulder to lean on.

2. Saddened by my mother's actions and rejecting the opposite sex.

3. I can't communicate with girls. I don't like their personalities.

...

You can talk about love later. It's great to have a serious relationship in college!

The key is to pass the college entrance exam.

The host can't decide his mother's choice, but he can decide his own life by getting better grades.

If you have limited abilities, your family will limit you. But if you have excellent grades, strong life skills, and particularly high professional skills, you will have more choices.

If the host takes care of himself and has a good relationship, even with a boy, his mother won't worry about him not taking care of himself. Maybe then she won't be able to control him, and she'll have to start a new relationship.

You're 18, in your senior year of high school, and there's so much pressure at home. What should I do about my studies?

Hello! Let me give you a big, warm hug first!

I'm so excited to try to understand your thoughts!

My father died when I was in the seventh grade. I'm thrilled that my mother found someone new! (After all, if you meet the right person, your mother can have her own happiness.)

But recently I took online classes, and my mom's WeChat account was still active. I saw a man call my mom his wife and talk to her intimately. I looked through the chat history and found out that everyone in my family except me knew that she was seeing someone else, and I was the only one who didn't. (You found out that your mom is in a relationship. Although you want your mom to be happy, your whole family knows about it except you, which makes you feel cheated and a little sad.

Plus, I'm in my senior year of high school, I'm still a TXL myself, and my family is still feudal (you're about to be a senior in high school, and this kind of thing happens, catching you off guard, and coupled with your sexual orientation and your family's outdated thinking, it makes you feel overwhelmed and unsure of what to do in the future). But don't worry! You've got this!

... I ... everything in my family comes together ... it really can be exhausting. But I want to study hard, and I know I can! I just need to get going. I'll get there, even though these things make you a little mentally and physically exhausted, which makes it impossible for you to concentrate on your studies. But I'll make it!

After carefully analyzing your situation, I can fully understand your state of mind. You have been deceived by your family, you find yourself different from most people, and you don't know how to face your family in the future. But don't worry! I'm here to help.

Let me tell you what I think!

1. First of all, you want your mother to be happy, and you have built up the psychological strength to do so. However, you think that by not telling you, they are deceiving you or don't trust you. But from your mother's point of view, she is probably worried that it will affect your studies. And the fact that they haven't told you yet probably means that they are still deciding (because this is a very serious matter for a mother of a high school sophomore).

2·You can choose to have an in-depth exchange with your mother, face the truth, talk about your anxiety and unease, and talk about what your mother is thinking (communication is very important). This is a great opportunity for you to open up and have a real conversation with your mum.

3·I know it's tough right now, but I'm here to tell you that you can make progress every day. I'm not going to tell you to study hard, but I want to show you a realistic problem. There are so many opportunities out there, and a high degree can give you a leg up on others. You can do this!

4. When it comes to sexual orientation, there's absolutely no need to worry about this right now. Even if you tell your family, they won't agree, and it will only cause more trouble. If you want to confess to your family, at least wait until you can be completely independent. This way, you can be sure that your thoughts and actions will have fully matured. All you need to do now is study hard and work hard for your future!

5. The great news is that txl is not a disease, nor is it a psychological problem. You can face your inner self, and you don't need to deliberately tell anyone about it, because apart from your family, most people probably don't care much about your business. (In China, at least 5 out of 100 people are txl).

You've got this! Right now, your goal should be to make yourself happy and enjoy your studies. You've got this! Good luck, and hang in there!