Every time I don't do well at something, my mom keeps nagging me, and I can only bear it in silence?

Dear Sir/Madam, I hope my response will be of some assistance to you.

I empathize with your situation and extend a supportive gesture in the form of a hug, with the hope of conveying warmth and assistance.

The following suggestions are offered for your consideration:

1. Accept that this is how your mother is, and that attempting to change other people is futile.

As the book "The Power of Now" states, there are only three categories of concern in the world: one's own affairs, the affairs of others, and the affairs of God. The source of our distress is that we do not control our own affairs, but instead expend our energy worrying about the affairs of others and the affairs of God.

It is important to remember that what other people think and do is their business and that we cannot control it. Our mother is an independent individual whose thoughts and feelings are influenced by a number of factors, including her genetic makeup, upbringing, education, and living environment. As a result, she is just the way she is, and if she does not want to change, there is nothing we can do to change her.

While we cannot alter her behaviour, we can modify our own. We should endeavour to accept her and communicate our needs and feelings to her.

When you accept her for who she is, you will be able to manage her behaviors without feeling disgusted. She is who she is, and while her actions may differ from your expectations, she still loves you.

2. Communicate your feelings and needs in a non-violent manner.

The steps of non-violent communication are as follows: 1. State the objective facts. 2. Express your feelings. 3. Express your needs. 4. Request the other person's actions.

You may wish to inform your mother that you feel aggrieved by her recent scolding. You may also wish to suggest that she respect your decisions and allow you to make decisions independently. You could also request that she communicate with you in a more constructive manner in the future.

Once mutual understanding of needs and feelings has been achieved, it will become evident that the emotional connection between the parties involved will deepen. This will facilitate a greater understanding and knowledge of each other.

3. Release emotions in an appropriate manner.

It is important to recognize that emotions should not be suppressed. Instead, they should be expressed in a constructive manner. There are several ways to release emotions in a timely manner.

1. Form connections with individuals who can provide support and encouragement, and with whom you feel comfortable. These are the individuals with whom you should socialize.

2. Engage in physical activity, such as sports, to promote relaxation and well-being.

3. Writing Therapy: Document all inner feelings and thoughts on paper, without concern for neatness or logic. Simply express your feelings.

4. A further option for releasing anger is to punch a pillow or sandbag, which provides a soft object with which to vent your frustration.

5. The empty chair technique can be used to release emotions. In a room, place an empty chair, assuming that the person you want to confide in is sitting in the chair. You can then express yourself to the chair (anger, abuse, etc. are acceptable).

I wish you the best of luck.

Hello, classmate. I can see you're feeling a bit confused right now, so I just wanted to give you a hug!

I can see that you are currently experiencing some family problems. Please accept my warmest regards.

I wonder if you might have heard the saying, "Home is a place where love is spoken, not reason."

It seems that you are currently living at home, but your mother is always criticizing you, and you are under a lot of pressure with your studies.

I can see that you would like to escape from home, but I know that's not possible right now. I completely understand how you feel, and please allow me to give you a big hug again through the screen.

Perhaps it would be helpful to talk to your teacher about the situation at home.

I'm sure you'll agree that your second year of high school is a critical period for learning, given that you'll be taking the college entrance exam next year.

If your current secondary school has a dormitory, your teacher may be able to arrange for you to stay at school for as long as possible during the week. You could then go home to live with your mother during the school holidays.

It might be helpful to consider that if you lived with your mother for a shorter period of time, it could potentially lead to a decrease in conflicts with her.

If you feel that staying at home is causing you distress, you may wish to consider speaking to a counsellor in the newly added room on the terrace.

As an alternative, you might consider chatting one-on-one with a paid chat room if you're not interested in chatting in a free multi-person chat room.

I truly hope that you will be able to find a solution to the problem you are facing soon.

I'm afraid I can only think of these things at the moment.

I hope my answers above are helpful and inspiring to you. I am the respondent, and I am studying hard every day.

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