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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Hello, host.
I'm letmefly, here to help and get your feedback.
The host has an annoying roommate, but no one else does. The host doesn't know what to do and feels torn, anxious, and helpless. I understand.
The host isn't involved in the situation, so there might be some misunderstanding. The host can use this as a reference.
What specifically bothers the original poster about this roommate? What makes them feel annoyed? What was the initial trigger? Have you talked about it? Is it impossible to change each other?
We don't know these situations, so think about them yourself.
Psychology has a defense mechanism called projection. It means we project our own unhappiness onto others. This helps us to feel better about ourselves. It's a complicated mechanism. The original poster should think about why others don't hate this roommate. Do I really hate this roommate, or am I just unhappy with myself?
Talk to the other roommates to see if there's a misunderstanding.
If you can't get along with your roommate, talk to the counselor about adjusting the dorm. It might help you both.
The original poster can also get help from the school's counselor. It is usually free, and it is a safe place to explore yourself. As the original poster said, low self-esteem, arrogance, and problems getting along with others may take time.
You will encounter problems on the road to growth. Just walk past them.
I hope I can help you. Follow and like.
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I understand how you feel, it's tough when you see others fitting in easily while you struggle. Maybe try to focus on what makes you unique and embrace that.
Sometimes we all go through phases where we feel out of sync with those around us. It might help to reconnect with activities that once brought you joy and laughter.
It sounds like you're really hard on yourself. Try being a little more forgiving and recognize that everyone has moments they feel awkward or disconnected.
You're not alone in feeling this way. Consider talking to someone you trust about your feelings; sharing can sometimes lighten the burden and offer new perspectives.
Feeling like an outsider can be painful. Perhaps engaging in conversations or finding common ground with your classmates could help bridge that gap.