Everything goes wrong, and there are strange obstacles in everything. What should I do in this desperate situation?

Hello, host! I'm July.

Regarding the issue you mentioned in your description, I believe you can start by adjusting your current mindset. Since good and bad things happen equally, why focus too much on the negative and instead focus more on the positive? In other words, adjust your self-talk. Don't suggest to yourself too much negativity, but instead use more positive self-talk.

Secondly, I have a saying for you: the ability to endure pain is more advanced than the ability to endure happiness. So don't complain too much about the world, but believe that if heaven is going to bestow a great task upon a person, it will first make that person's mind bitter, their bones ache, and their skin starve. So take it slow and don't give yourself too much to complain about or pressure.

A happy day is a happy day, and an unhappy day is still a day. So, why not aim to be happy every day?

It's worth remembering that people in real life are experiencing similar challenges, just to a different extent. Nobody's life is easy, but it's important to take things one step at a time and not set yourself up for disappointment. Adapting to the current situation is key.

Another thing to avoid is labeling yourself too much. If you do it too often, it can lead to cognitive thinking, which is difficult to get out of quickly. Instead, focus on doing your best in the present.

Finally, be careful with comparisons. If you use them too much, they can make you feel insecure about your gains and losses. And in many cases, comparisons aren't really comparable, so they can make you doubt yourself too much, which can lead to self-negation.

The world and I love you!

Wishing you the best!

When things don't go your way, it's frustrating and demoralizing.

But if I say you made the script, would you believe me?

Your mind has a seal.

A mental seal is a belief you hold onto. It's like when a fortune-teller says, "This is your destiny." Perhaps at that moment, you believed your life was full of bad luck.

I'll tell you a story.

A psychic once tested luck.

He chose a small town and started a rumor: a lucky puppy statue had appeared, and touching it would change your luck.

As more people came to admire it, everyone in the town believed the puppy might have magic powers.

The program team also tested whether people would have good luck if they believed in the rumor.

The organization got a lot of people to touch the puppy.

Then, three weeks passed, and they were called back one by one.

The curio shop owner told the reporter, "That collection has been in my shop for a long time, but last week a lady suddenly appeared and bought it at a great price. I think my luck is really incredible!"

A middle-aged woman said, "I've won lottery tickets, but more importantly, I applied for a job today and got it! I'm so happy!"

Another volunteer said, "I gained new customers this week."

But not everyone got lucky. Wayne was the only volunteer who didn't believe in the lucky puppy.

The show's production team kept creating chances for him to be lucky.

They left a winning scratchcard in Wayne's mailbox, but he didn't open it because he felt unlucky.

They pretended to be lottery winners, but Wayne still missed.

They put 50 pounds on Wayne's path, but he still passed by.

Belief creates luck.

You have to turn a gear to get good luck.

When someone's luck is at its worst, it's the start of good fortune. Things will reverse when they reach their extreme. Some people experience sweetness followed by bitterness, while others experience bitterness followed by sweetness. From this moment on, your good fortune will come.

My method is:

To find more good things in your day, even the small things.

Your boss asked you to work overtime tonight.

You caught the last bus, which was lucky!

Let yourself feel happy. The bad will go away.

I also want to tell you about emotional addiction, also called "emotional peptides" in the book Meet the Unknown Self.

However, I'm tired. Look up "emotional peptides." Read the book "Meet the Unknown Self." It has exercises you can do while reading.

Good luck! You'll be lucky in the future.

Hello!

I'm so happy you asked this question at the end of the year! Today is the 27th day of the twelfth lunar month. In fact, just a few days ago, on the 23rd day of the twelfth lunar month in the north, people began to reflect on the past year and wish for blessings in the new year. I've heard that dipping sugar-coated melon seeds in the kitchen on the 23rd and placing kitchen sugar on the stove is to bribe the Kitchen God. It's a lovely tradition to speak well of people in heaven and ensure safety on earth!

I then thought of the movie "The Story of Yu Jingyi Meeting the Kitchen God," which some people think is a bit on the superstitious side. It's also the story of a person who feels a bit down at the end of the year. In his dream, he meets the Kitchen God, who helps him with a case analysis of psychoanalysis. Haha, then he wakes up and is enlightened, beginning the road of his own character development. The story's protagonist can just laugh it off as entertainment, but the idea of "changing one's destiny" is also well worth thinking about.

Your unique life experiences are your private wealth.

Oh, the fortune teller said you'd have a rough life! I wonder what kind of fortune-telling system was used? Let's first analyze it from the perspective of numerology.

In Chinese four-column eight-character numerology, there's a type of destiny called "boy destiny," which means one will experience a rough life. It's said that people with this destiny either violated the heavenly rules and came down to earth to overcome tribulations, somewhat like the monk Tang Seng in Journey to the West, or they were born as boys and completed the transformation from human to Buddha.

In his book, "Ordinary Mind: Zen and Psychoanalysis," the author Barry Magid explains what an ordinary mind is. The process of becoming a Buddha is the process of gaining an ordinary mind. Magid writes:

Emptiness is simply a way of describing the experience of the present as all there is. So, from a Buddhist perspective, awareness of emptiness means an attitude of non-resistance and acceptance of the ever-flowing, fleeting life.

As we go through the process of cultivation, we pay attention to see where we might be resisting the free arising and ceasing of things. In Buddhism, these places of resistance are called "attachment."

The author says that we encounter many resistances in life. Does this mean that life teaches you to let go of more attachments and learn to accept more? I'm sure the questioner has heard of the poem by Fan Zhongyan:

I'm so happy for you! I think you'll agree that this is a wonderful gift from fate.

If we think of the obstacles in life as enemies, then the best and most powerful person should be a "benevolent person" because "a benevolent person is invincible." A true benevolent person doesn't become invincible by getting rid of all obstacles. A benevolent person loves others as much as he loves himself. A benevolent person turns hostility and obstacles into acceptance through love (differentiated love), and makes them a part of himself. There's no "me" and "you," no life, no living beings, no discrimination. With no discrimination, all obstacles disappear.

The root of suffering is the relationship between subject and object.

Buddhism says that greed, anger, and ignorance are the root causes of all troubles. Greed is when you're attached to what you like, and the suffering comes from not being able to get it. Anger is when you're attached to what you dislike, and the suffering comes from not being able to let it go. And ignorance is when you don't understand the truth, you don't know right from wrong, and you can't distinguish between good and evil. Psychology interprets excessive attachment/obsession as trembling of purpose. The trembling arises because we are too concerned and careful about our purpose. Excessive purposefulness and excessive tension will eventually lead to improper performance and the opposite of what you want.

Moderate narcissism is actually really good for your physical and mental health! But excessive narcissism, or even what we call "omnipotent narcissism" (check out Wu Zhihong's lecture series on omnipotent narcissistic giant infants for more on this), can make people imagine that they're totally omnipotent. But when they encounter setbacks, they become extremely vulnerable and enter a state of omnipotent rage, followed by a complete sense of helplessness and feeling that the whole world is against them (paranoia). Healthy narcissism means being devoted to loving and doing things, and finding the object of your life—a person or event—with which to form a deep connection.

It's so important to remember that human growth cannot be achieved through the mind.

As the old saying goes, "even a three-year-old knows it, but an eighty-year-old cannot do it." This means that there is some knowledge/wisdom that cannot be transformed through working at the mental level.

Many of the original thinking and defense patterns of the questioner have become deeply ingrained. Even if one understands the principles of "acceptance" and "constant compliance," there is still a long way to go before knowledge and action become one. This is totally normal! You just need to establish a relationship with someone who can help you locate yourself again and again, and through the reactions, awareness, and clarification of the relationship, identify your knots and gradually become aware of them, so that transformation can be completed.

You know, only a professional counselor can really help you with this.

I've been reading a great book lately, "Case Studies in Psychoanalysis." The author makes a really interesting point. They say that the goals of psychoanalytic therapy should include:

It's so wonderful to see these changes! Abnormal psychological symptoms disappear or ease, inner strength develops, a sense of autonomy increases, a sense of identity is solidified, a reality-based self-esteem is enhanced, the ability to recognize and deal with emotions improves, self-power and self-coordination increase, the ability to love, work, and rely on others in moderation expands, and the number of appointments and peaceful emotional experiences increases. When these changes occur, the body becomes healthier and the resistance to stress increases.

It's so great that you were able to come to the Yi Xinli platform for help today! It's a wonderful sign that your life is going to change for the better. I really hope you can go into the counseling room as soon as possible and start transforming your life in the new year!

Hi, I'm Zhang Huili, the Sunshine Dolphin! I really hope my answer helps you. If you find it useful, please give me a like!

Dear Question Owner,

The adage "where there's a will, there's a way" is often contradicted by the experience of feeling inadequate, a sentiment that is then repeatedly confirmed. This phenomenon is exemplified by the questioner's perception that misfortune isfalling ten times as heavily on them as on others. In response, it is pertinent to inquire whether the reality is that everything goes well for everyone.

Indeed, each individual experiences suffering, yet we tend to accentuate our own afflictions while neglecting the challenges that others endure. We persist in juxtaposing our shortcomings with the strengths of others.

The act of comparison entails a direct contrast with individuals who are at an equivalent level of development. Additionally, it is possible to identify positive aspects and utilize them as a source of resilience.

The source of the suggestion is irrelevant; its impact on an individual is significant. If one consistently perceives oneself as the unluckiest person in the world and believes that others are happier than oneself,

It is then necessary to consider one's most cherished aspirations. It is possible to achieve these in incremental steps; there is no obligation to attain them all at once. It would therefore be prudent to commence the process immediately and to embrace the happiness that can be attained.

In pursuing a desired outcome, it is important to maintain focus on the goal itself, rather than becoming distracted by the challenges along the way. While it is not productive to dwell on minor issues, it is essential to understand the underlying causes of unhappiness and to identify strategies for achieving happiness.

In the event that one is unable to accomplish a task in the present moment, it may be more beneficial to focus on one's own needs rather than comparing oneself to others and identifying discrepancies in happiness.

It is imperative to prioritize self-care. Furthermore, we have recently gained a profound understanding of ourselves, a realization that has persisted for over a decade. In light of this, it is imperative to reflect on the resilience and fortitude we have demonstrated in overcoming adversity to reach this point.

What, then, constitutes a good and happy life? From where does the pain mainly arise, and what ways might we adopt to live a new life?

One should endeavor to alter that which is amenable to change and to accept that which is not.

I extend my best wishes to you. I am a long-lost entity from the 1st Psychological World, and I hold you in high regard.

Hugging the questioner, I hope you can feel some support and warmth, and I really hope my answer can help you in some way.

I can imagine that you must be feeling pretty sad and uncomfortable right now. I'm not sure I'd be able to handle so many setbacks over the years. But please, don't attack or blame yourself. And don't focus on the parts of yourself that you can't change, like past experiences. Instead, accept yourself, adjust your thinking patterns, learn to affirm and encourage yourself, give yourself positive mental suggestions, focus on the good things, and believe that things will get better and better.

I really want to help you, so here's my advice:

It's so important to accept your past, accept yourself in all your wonderful complexity, and care for and look after yourself like a good friend would.

It's tough to change what's already happened. If we dwell on the pain of the past, we'll always be stuck there. When we let go of the parts of ourselves that we can't change and accept the imperfections in our lives, we can find the strength to create a better life. Instead of focusing our attention and energy on things that make us uncomfortable, we can use that energy to make positive changes.

It's so important to remember that no matter what situation we're in, we need to learn to accept and understand ourselves. It's so easy to get caught up in negating and attacking ourselves, but this only brings us internal conflict and anxiety. If we can accept and understand ourselves and treat ourselves with the same tolerance, understanding, support, and encouragement as we would a good friend, then even if we're in a desperate situation, we'll still see hope.

2. It's so important to be aware of your own thinking patterns and ideas, see your own limiting beliefs, and then replace old ideas with new ones.

It's so clear that our beliefs affect our lives! Lots of experiments in psychology have shown that our beliefs can influence our behavior and results. For instance, the Pygmalion effect and the hope experiment have demonstrated that when we have positive beliefs, we tend to act in positive ways and get positive outcomes. And the experiment of "learned helplessness" has also shown that when we have negative beliefs, they can get in the way of us reaching our full potential.

If you're interested, I'd love for you to read my article, "The Power of Belief."

Let's dive a little deeper into the fascinating Pygmalion effect, which is one of the ten major psychological effects and is really closely related to our lives.

Pygmalion was a Greek king and sculptor who lived on Cyprus. He didn't like mortal women, so he made a statue of a young girl in an ivory tower. He made her just like he imagined her in his mind and with his magical memory. He put all his passion, love, and energy into the girl. Later, the statue came to life! So he married the girl and found his ideal love.

Later on, the famous American psychologists Rosenthal and Jacobson did an experiment in elementary school teaching. They went to an elementary school, randomly selected eight elementary school students, and told the teacher that these eight students were "the most promising students." Six months later, it was proven that these eight randomly selected students (several of whom were considered by the teacher to be poor students) had all made great progress!

This is the wonderful "Pygmalion effect," also known as the "expectancy effect." It's the amazing power of ardent expectations and praise! When we expect something, we use a strong psychological suggestion to influence the person being expected to behave in a way that meets our expectations.

We all get little messages from the people we like and admire, and these messages can affect our behavior, emotions, and attitudes. The Pygmalion effect is a great reminder that we often get what we expect. It's not about what we want, but what we expect.

If you expect something confidently and really believe that things will go well, they will! On the other hand, if you believe that things are constantly being obstructed, these obstructions will arise. But don't worry! You can change your thoughts and beliefs to make things better.

So, it's really important to understand what we're expecting from ourselves and from life in general. And we can always change our expectations if we need to! Try to think more positively and give yourself a little pep talk. Remind yourself that you're safe, that everything is going to be okay, and that you can do anything you set your mind to. Believe in yourself and your ability to be happy!

3. You can improve your sense of well-being by focusing your attention on the good things in life as much as possible. Try recording three good things every day!

I totally get it. I felt the same way for a while. I was always in the role of the victim, unable to feel the many beautiful things around me. But then I started recording three good things every day. It was amazing! I started to feel the beauty of life more and more. And I learned to create beauty myself. I've been keeping a record of three good things for more than three years now. I can now see the positive aspects and beauty in almost everything. So, if you can also keep a record and practice, I promise you'll truly improve your sense of happiness.

It's okay to feel anxious sometimes. It's a natural response to our ancestors who needed to rely on it to survive in ancient times. But in modern society, we don't have to worry about the same dangers. Our anxious genes are still there, but we can learn to manage them. Take it from me, you're not facing a big tiger. You're just seeing a little cat. So, take a deep breath, relax, and remember that life is not that bad.

You can keep a record of this by writing down three good things that happened that day before going to bed, or you can join a group and check in every day with three good things. It's as simple as that! For example, in my own group, "Xiangyu Chenghuan's Heart Exploration Space," there is this daily check-in.

When you're recording, just use one sentence for each event. You can even add a sentence of thanks to turn it into a grateful event! Record what makes you happy in life, and what you have done. It can be as small as calling a good friend, or as big as passing an exam.

Whoever is worth thanking, you can thank yourself, your family, friends, nature... While writing, you can experience what feelings this event brings you. After writing, you can share it with your family, friends, or even strangers, and you can also invite your family and friends to participate together.

I truly believe that when you add up all the little blessings in your life, they can combine to become a great energy of happiness!

I hope this is helpful for you! Sending you lots of love and best wishes!

Hello!

Your question shows you are feeling negative emotions.

I will analyze and advise you as follows:

Why is it so hard?

Life is not smooth for 90% of the time. Sometimes we have bad luck.

The questioner says, "It's as if someone designed it to target me."

But it's usually because of your emotions and your tendency to confirm your beliefs. It's also as precise as the self-confirmation described by the questioner: "My suffering is ten times that of others."

Things don't go well for many reasons.

There are still many reasons why things don't go well. Some are out of your control, so each case must be analyzed individually.

But there are also reasons inside you, like not being strong enough, growing up in a bad place, or not liking yourself.

Subjective effort is the way to go.

If you're strong, nothing can defeat you.

If you don't try, you'll blame bad luck for your failures.

If you're strong enough, you can do anything.

Choose the right environment.

The story of Meng's mother moving three times shows that your environment affects your growth.

Students should choose an environment and friends who support their goals.

Your life will be full of positive energy and things will go smoothly for you.

Be content with yourself.

People often suffer because they're unhappy and want too much.

The questioner should learn to be content. There are many things in this world that cannot be obtained.

Your life isn't as sad as you think. You still have a lot.

Be careful of psychological tendencies.

If this doesn't help,

It's been this way for years.

Then you need to see a professional counselor and get help. They will measure your mental health and give you a diagnosis and treatment.

I hope this helps.

Hello, question asker! I am the skinny donkey of ancient ways and Western winds, and I'm here to help!

The questioner said that everything is not going well and there are strange obstacles in everything, but did not specify what things they are, so it is hard to judge. The questioner said that the fortune teller's reply is supposed to be like this, so it is easy to associate the current situation with fortune telling.

Once a preconception is formed in the mind, it's actually very difficult to reverse your attitude towards an issue. But here's the good news: you can change your mindset! All you have to do is recognize that psychological suggestions are all about you not being able to do it, and that you should be doing it this way.

I once heard a story about a scholar who studied hard every day. Before he went to the capital to take the imperial exam, he had a dream in which he was planting crops on the wall. He felt puzzled and sought the advice of a fortune teller, who said, "You won't be able to plant crops on the wall this time, so you'd better not go."

The scholar was curious and asked why. The fortune-teller said that it was impossible for crops to grow on the wall. The scholar was distraught, but on his way home, he met his sister-in-law, who was full of optimism.

His sister-in-law saw that he was dejected and asked why. After the scholar told her, she was overjoyed and said that her brother would definitely pass the exam!

The scholar was puzzled, but his sister-in-law said that growing crops on the wall was just like getting into high school. The scholar thought this was very reasonable and was delighted to take the exam as planned. He was overjoyed to find that he got the top score!

This is proof positive that attitude affects results!

In his book Human Words, Wang Guowei of the Qing Dynasty also said: "I view things through my own eyes, so both things and I are colored by me." This shows that the world is whatever color a person sees it as—and it's a beautiful, vibrant world!

The world doesn't change for you. You change your state of mind and the landscape changes with it!

It is recommended that the questioner analyze the kind of things that go wrong and the strange obstacles in everything that happens to him. This is an excellent opportunity for a finance major to discover new possibilities! While it might seem like a challenge at first, there are so many exciting paths he can take. For example, he could explore the legal field and become a lawyer, or he could pursue a different career path that aligns with his strengths. The possibilities are endless!

1. We can only achieve amazing results by working in a direction that suits us, by building on our strengths and avoiding our weaknesses. Taking on the strengths of others will not make up for your weaknesses, and you will lose your own strengths in the process. But that's OK! It just means you get to focus on your own strengths and become even more amazing than you already are!

2. Have we achieved sufficient depth in the direction we have chosen? If you are only good at something but don't work hard at it, your short-term excellence will not become an advantage. But what if we could achieve more depth in our chosen direction? What if we could become truly excellent?

The law pointed out by the writer Gladwell in his book "Outliers" is an amazing one! It says that what makes geniuses so extraordinary in people's eyes is not their superior talent, but the continuous effort they have put in.

"10,000 hours of practice is a necessary condition for anyone to go from being ordinary to becoming a world-class master." He calls this the "10,000-hour rule."

— Quoted from Baidu Encyclopedia

3. Embrace a positive mindset! Negative thinking will make you attribute external causes to problems.

If you don't look for the cause in yourself, you'll fall into a victim mentality. But there's a better way! As long as there are problems, they are all other people's; if there are achievements, they are all your own. This is not conducive to reviewing failures and learning lessons.

4. Embrace the power of change! Don't let your comfort zone limit your potential. Open your mind to new possibilities and seize the opportunities that come your way.

If a real opportunity comes your way, you'll be so excited that you'll want to jump on it!

5. The key to making a big splash is to accumulate as much as you can before you make your move. Some things just need to be accumulated and built up, and you'll be amazed at what you can achieve when you do!

You've got this! Cultivate your patience, perseverance, and persistence so you're mentally prepared for the long-term battle ahead. Set your sights high, but don't forget to enjoy the journey. Otherwise, frustration might be your only reward.

I encourage the questioner to take a closer look at the type of adversity they are facing and make some targeted adjustments. Best wishes!

I am Gu Yi, and I endeavor to be modest and self-effacing.

It is imperative to identify and cultivate one's inner strength.

If one thing does not go well, we tend to attribute this to bad luck. If two things do not go well, we may ascribe this to the actions of other individuals. However, if everything does not go well, it becomes necessary to adopt a new understanding of ourselves.

From your description, I can discern a pervasive pessimism. This mood leads you to ascribe the majority of causes to your own fate. However, I would like to inform you that fate is a construct that one creates for oneself.

In many instances, when fortune-tellers assert that a particular outcome is "destiny," individuals tend to acquiesce and accept their fate, regardless of the circumstances.

One must alter one's mindset and strive to transcend the limitations of conventional thinking.

The words of the fortune teller reverberate in the mind of the individual in question, influencing their actions and perceptions. It is therefore necessary to first adjust one's mindset and then await the outcome.

In the future, when we encounter something, we can attempt to alter our preconceptions, address the role of fate, and transcend our current limitations to gain a more expansive perspective.

If one were to accept the fortune teller's words at face value, one would be setting oneself up for failure. It would be more prudent, therefore, to alter one's mindset and to give one's all to every encounter in the future. This would demonstrate that one is capable of doing better and of experiencing good fortune.

Hello, question asker!

From your description, I can sense that you are a little impatient, and I think that's great! You have a good ability to observe, and you face problems bravely and actively look for a breakthrough.

I'm so excited to hear more about what happened to make you feel this way! When did you first feel this way?

I'm really interested to know what happened at the time! And I'd love to hear how you adjusted afterwards.

So, when do you not feel this way? And when you don't feel this way, what kind of situation are you in?

Who did you do what with? And what was it like when you didn't feel like this?

You can absolutely become more aware of the above issues I have mentioned, which will help you sort out the causes of the problems.

I may not know what happened to you, but I can tell from your description that you're ready to make a change! It's clear that you have some unresolved issues, but you also have the desire to improve your current situation.

But I want to tell you something really important. Wang Yangming said something really wise: the more difficult the situation, the more you can change your mind. All problems are our resources!

Everyone has their own confusion, but the great news is that we are also our own psychologists! When you become aware of it and come here, it means you have already made a change.

You know, what you said about fortune telling is so true! I want to tell you that this is not the case. I was particularly anxious and panicky when I was 20 years old, so I kept going to fortune tellers, hoping that through fortune telling, someone would tell me that I could do it, that I would get better and better. But things did not go as planned.

I want to tell you something amazing: everything comes from within! We may not be the most confident, and when faced with problems, we always want others to tell us that we can do it. But the truth is, the only one who can really help us is ourselves!

I don't know your specific situation, but based on your description, I feel that I can give you some small advice that I'm sure will help you!

First, get ready to adjust your state of mind!

I know you must feel very aggrieved and angry inside, which is why you've fallen into this strange cycle. But if you want to solve this problem, all we have to do is adjust our state of mind. Don't let him sway you. We have to be the helmsmen of our own lives. Only in this way can we set sail for a bright future! Here, you can use positive mental suggestions to give yourself some positive encouragement every day. In fact, this is also a kind of hypnosis. It's like when we go to a fortune teller and hope that someone will give us affirmation. When he says something positive, it's also a kind of positive hypnosis. When he says something negative, it's a kind of negative hypnosis.

and learn to release negative emotions

Everyone has emotions, and that's totally normal! But here's the thing: a long-term accumulation of negative emotions will bring bad feelings to our body and mind. And it's also because we haven't been able to get rid of the things that happened afterwards, coupled with previous bad experiences, that will keep us uncomfortable. So, what we have to do is learn to expel this uncomfortable feeling from our body! We can relieve this emotion by exercising more, because during exercise, our brain will secrete dopamine, which produces a sense of pleasure, and is the best way to relieve anxiety. I was also in a bad mood once, so I took a walk for an hour every day for a year, and slowly my mood got better!

Next, embark on an incredible journey of self-discovery!

I know that when we encounter something we can't solve, we will be overwhelmed by these feelings. But, if we can clear away this cloud of uncertainty, we will realize that we are unique and have endless potential! Small beautiful events will also happen in our hearts and around us, but they are often overlooked and forgotten. So, I want to ask you to pause for a moment and learn to look inward and feel the small beauties around you. Only in this way will you

And second, believe in yourself!

Nothing is absolute. When we encounter such bad things, it's time to believe in ourselves! We can do it! We can find our own breakthrough and try bravely. If we don't believe in ourselves, where will our motivation come from? So please, learn to believe in yourself! Everyone has great potential. I have always been looking for it too. I believe that if you are willing, you will definitely find your own share of beauty!

And then, believe in the incredible power of accumulation!

I don't know what's happened to you, but I know that whatever is making you feel so uncomfortable will soon be a distant memory! It's causing you stress and anxiety, but you can beat it. Believe in yourself and the power of accumulation. As long as we are willing to keep trying, tomorrow will find a way out of our own predicament, and the tiredness of making progress a little at a time will become the same.

Absolutely! Seeking help from external resources is a great idea.

When we are trapped in emotions and have no way to regulate them, we can seek help from external resources. And it's so worth it! We can seek help from professional counselors, who will use professional techniques to delve deep into the root causes in our subconscious, and give us a safe and accepting environment in which to grow.

In the end, I don't know—it's hard to change. But it's so worth it! It took me ten years to make a little progress and a little bit of life easier, but I believe that when you come here and start looking for problems, you will get a surprise in life as long as you don't give up and have the same expectations as me.

In the future, when you feel uncomfortable, you can come to this platform and talk to everyone. We will always be with you, cheering you on! The world and I love you!

This individual presents a fascinating case. I will endeavor to respond to the question at hand in three parts.

The initial section of the text.

The description provided did not include any specific event; rather, it simply stated that the subject is in pain, that the pain is more severe than that experienced by others, and that the subject's pain is the most severe of all.

The experience of suffering is inherently subjective.

It is a common human experience to feel discomfort when one is in a state of unsatisfactoriness, frustration, denial, restriction, or inability to exert oneself. In such moments, it is not uncommon to imagine that others are similarly afflicted, that they lack attention, and that their circumstances are more favorable.

Another aspect of the human psyche is the tendency to exacerbate distress when faced with unchangeable circumstances, attributing the pain to external factors. This can lead to the perception that the pain is not within one's control.

I am similarly powerless to affect the situation, and I am also a victim of circumstances.

Additionally, there is a hidden psychological dynamic wherein individuals engage in comparisons with others, even when such comparisons are painful. There is also a tendency to desire a position of authority within the context of one's own pain experience, with the belief that one's pain is the most significant.

The perception that one's pain is more severe than others' is a common phenomenon. This can lead to the belief that one's pain is unique and of a special quality.

This provides a sense of superiority. (My suffering is the greatest, which allows me to maintain my sense of superiority over others.)

It is, in fact, rather amusing.

It is, in fact, a rather amusing phenomenon.

Pain is pain. There is no need to compare oneself to others. For individual A, losing 100,000 yuan is akin to the end of the world, whereas for individual B, losing 1 million yuan is inconsequential. However, losing a romantic partner can result in prolonged periods of depression.

The intensity of one's pain is not amplified by the suffering of others, nor is it diminished by one's own experiences of suffering.

The maintenance of a sense of superiority and the uniqueness of one's suffering can be understood as a defense mechanism. It can be interpreted as a way of asserting one's specialness and resilience in the face of change. This phenomenon is also discussed in Freud's work.

In essence, this is the self that is defined by pain. It could be argued that if one is not in pain, one is not truly oneself. This suggests that there is a need for healing in this area.

The second part is as follows.

The second part is as follows:

From the aforementioned three lines, it can be discerned that the subject is experiencing a considerable degree of distress. Additionally, the circumstances appear to be less than optimal.

This phase has been ongoing for an extended period of time.

In regard to the concept of fate, it can be posited that the fortune teller has indeed read your fortune, and thus it would be prudent to adhere to the counsel proffered.

Fate and fortune are two distinct concepts.

While some aspects of one's destiny are predetermined, the potential for modifying one's fortune exists.

What kind of family do I have now? I have a few siblings and was born under a specific zodiac sign.

This appears to be an immutable aspect of my identity, and it will bestow upon me certain distinctive attributes.

For example, in China, traditional Chinese culture exerts a significant influence, and it appears that the historical culture and spiritual civilization of the Chinese nation are also reflected in the country's cultural landscape. This phenomenon can be attributed to a combination of factors, including destiny and external influences.

However, the question remains as to whether luck is a natural phenomenon or a construct that can be influenced by human action.

Furthermore, as society progresses, it becomes increasingly evident that a multitude of circumstances can be altered. For instance, a male child may undergo gender reassignment, and an African may become a Chinese national. Additionally, one may choose to emigrate to Australia.

(Men become women, foreigners become Chinese, and Chinese become foreigners. The limitations that were previously perceived as restrictive can now be dismantled and transformed.)

I am capable of reading, of studying assiduously, and of trying as much as I can. I can continue to move towards my own goals and can learn to be brave.

One must learn to accept one's circumstances and assume responsibility for one's actions.

I must assume responsibility for myself.

What changes would you like to implement in your current situation? This is an opportunity for positive transformation.

In this context, it seems pertinent to cite two examples.

The contemporary of Nick Vujicic is afflicted with a natural disability, namely the absence of both arms and legs. During his formative years, he attempted suicide on numerous occasions, driven by the perception that he was an anomaly.

It appeared as though he had cause to protest the inequity of fate and to rail against the heavens.

He did not. In addition to marrying and having children, he also became a world-famous speaker. He has published numerous books and inspired a great many people with his personal golden rules.

In ancient times, Yuan Liaofan, author of "The Four Lessons of Liaofan," had an encounter with a fortune-teller during his formative years.

His fortune indicated that he would graduate from high school and become an official at a specific point in time, and that he would not marry or have children and die at the age of 50. This initially appeared to corroborate Mr. Millet's assertions.

Subsequently, he encountered a high monk who asserted that individuals can be shaped and that fate is not immutable. Upon hearing this, he became wholly invested in his work.

He ultimately not only married and had children but also lived a long life, having actively served the public.

P.S. The reader is encouraged to consult the following texts: No Limits by Nick Vujicic and The Four Teachings of Liao Fan.

We will now proceed to discuss the third section, which pertains to the opportunity to transform a desperate situation.

We will now proceed to discuss the third part, which concerns the opportunity to turn a desperate situation around.

If a particular phenomenon occurs with sufficient frequency, it may be regarded as a life lesson. What, then, is the lesson to be learned from such an occurrence?

It can be reasonably deduced that one is destined to transcend this state; however, no efficacious method has yet been identified.

As there is no specific event scenario described in the aforementioned text, I will instead use my own experience as an illustrative example.

1. What is your self-perception? What are your beliefs about your own worth?

(If one perceives oneself as having low value and as unworthy of love, and as unable to meet one's needs)

One will inevitably encounter individuals in life who seek to diminish one's self-worth, deny one's existence, or ignore one's presence.

The aspect that requires healing is the individual's perception of their inner value and emotional trauma.

2. It is essential to undertake a comprehensive examination of one's self-image and internal beliefs.

If one feels powerless and helpless, even in the presence of a fortune teller, one is likely to heed the fortune teller's words and abandon one's own self-beliefs.

One must attempt to accommodate his requests. I am compelled to reiterate my disquiet.

The assertion that one's fortune is particularly good, made by a fortune teller, does not signify that one should simply adopt a passive stance and refrain from action. Furthermore, the fortune teller's pronouncement is also a product of one's daily actions.

The areas requiring further development are the construction of a positive self-image and the elimination of limiting beliefs.

This is merely an illustrative example. There are additional factors to consider, such as those pertaining to family dynamics and the functioning of the family system.

It is recommended that this be done in a counseling setting. It should be noted that growth is a process that requires time.

It is imperative that you exercise patience with yourself.