Feeling like a waste, stuck in a rut, how can I get out?

Hello, I'm Jiusi, and I can help you.

I know exactly what you mean. When everything goes wrong and you feel like you're doing everything wrong.

It may seem like the whole world is against me, but I know I can overcome these feelings of sadness and disappointment in myself. I may feel especially helpless at times, but I am confident that I will find the solution.

The good news is that I can see the questioner knows where his problem lies, knows he needs to improve his awareness, and knows he is a little socially anxious.

We must change ourselves to change the situation. First, we must recognize the effort we need to make.

The scariest thing is not falling down in the same place, but falling down and not knowing what to do about it, which makes falling down in the same place a habit. We must overcome this.

We know we need to improve our awareness, so let's learn. We are a little socially anxious, so we will overcome it.

You need to start changing immediately. Don't waste time feeling sorry for yourself or doing useless things. Focus on changing yourself.

There's a saying: making yourself better is the key to solving problems.

Absolutely! All the difficulties we currently face stem from our lack of excellence. If we had a high level of self-awareness and were not socially anxious, we would not be in the situation we are in today.

Humanistic psychologist Adler was clear: "It doesn't matter what has happened. What matters is how we perceive it."

The bottom line is that the difficulties we are currently facing are not the most important thing. What matters is how we deal with and treat them.

If we accept it as something that is destined to be and cannot be changed, we will resign ourselves to it for the rest of our lives and live in constant pain.

If you want to live a happy life, you have to regard it as a stepping stone on the road to success. You have to change yourself and be positive.

I am confident that my answer will be helpful to the questioner. I am certain that the questioner will return to a carefree state of life.

Thank you for your time. I am Jiusi, on Yixinli, and I love you.

After reading the text, it is clear that the questioner is still trapped in self-blame. He blames himself for being a coward and for not daring to stand up for himself. By "disrespecting" himself in this way, he is trying to find some "broken dignity."

How old is the questioner? If you are new to the world and encounter such things in an unfamiliar place, your first reaction should be to "withdraw" and come back to ensure the safety of your body and life.

This was a wise move! The safety of our bodies and lives is of the utmost importance.

The questioner is sensitive and vulnerable, but they are also a powerful person. Otherwise, they would not be able to suppress their anger and instead attack themselves.

You just need to learn how to release your inner strength, fight for your rights, and protect yourself from harm.

In real life, almost everyone is worried and fearful when they encounter such a situation. You are not alone!

You have the courage to speak up here, and you're probably in the minority. Many people are too afraid to speak up because they're worried about being laughed at and looked down on.

It is the fault of the people who cheated you for taking your money, not yours. What they did was beyond your control and decision. You were right not to recklessly go to the scene to argue with them.

"Completely overwhelmed by fear, unable to extricate myself... I feel like I can't get out, I've lost my strength and energy, I feel like I'm going to die." It's natural for the questioner to lose strength and energy when you're consumed by fear from the outside and your own attacks on yourself. No one will win in a war with themselves.

Both sides are depleting the same thing: themselves.

The original poster should talk to someone close about their depression. They should also talk to the people around them when they encounter things and ask for advice. If they need help, they should ask for it.

Everyone's growth is a stumbling process. Don't "pretend to be strong" to anyone. They won't laugh at you.

I am confident that my reply has been helpful. Best wishes!

Hello! I can see that you have a good grasp on why you're in your current situation.

For example, you know that you are actually living inside your own false perception. For example, you feel that you are a piece of trash, that you are inferior and weak, that you are always bluffing, sensitive and timid, and that you attack yourself for being incredibly stupid. Then, first of all, cognitively, we have to break this false perception. For example, in the first step, we have to make a clearer distinction between ourselves and trash.

In addition to cognitive self-deprecation, self-denial, and self-attack, I suspect that you have high expectations of yourself, which is great! For example, you feel remorse for things that have already passed, and you always think in your heart that it would be better if they hadn't happened. For example, you feel cheated and want to get the money back, which is a fantastic goal! However, you are scared by this goal, and when you feel that your cowardice does not match this goal, a sense of defeat arises, which is something you can definitely overcome. Throughout the whole process, it seems that you have not asked anyone for help, and it seems that you also want to bear these problems alone, which is understandable.

Also, when it comes to your fear, you feel dominated by it. If you say that making you go get the money back you were cheated out of is because of fear, then this fear may not just be caused by this incident, because it seems to be related to your cowardice. You can explore this if you get the chance – it'll be an amazing journey of self-discovery!

You know what you need? Someone to help you understand yourself properly! It could be a friend or a counselor. When you can't recognize yourself, it's time to go to another mirror and take a look!

Hello!

Host:

After reading the post, I could tell that the poster was feeling a bit suffocated by the content. At the same time, I also saw that the poster was brave enough to express his distress and actively seek help, which will undoubtedly help him to better understand and recognize himself.

And adjust ourselves to meet a better version of ourselves.

Now, I'd like to share my observations and thoughts from the post, which might help the poster gain a better understanding of their current situation.

1. Stop beating yourself up and start taking care of yourself.

From what I can see in the post, the poster attacks himself, thinking he's inferior and weak, and pretending to be someone he's not every day. But he's actually just a coward, sensitive, cowardly, and petty, and only attacks himself. I understand that the poster knows himself this way, and I know that the poster's self-attack is really an attempt to make himself better.

This could be the host's way of dealing with frustration, or it could be for other reasons.

So, whatever the reason, let's start with the results. If self-attack really allows us to encounter a better self, then after so many years, I think the original poster may have already changed a little.

So, it seems that self-attack hasn't helped us make long-term progress. Could we try a different approach to help ourselves change for the better?

The reason we feel so powerless is that we don't give ourselves a break. The reason we have such serious internal conflict is that we're too hard on ourselves. This is what finally pushes us over the edge.

Instead, gentle care will help us push through. So, how do we care for ourselves?

The host might picture what you'd do to comfort your best friend if she were in this situation and needed reassurance.

Just take a deep breath and calm yourself down, as you would if you were comforting her. Let yourself get the support you need, because that will make you feel stronger.

2. Go with the inner child as it grows.

From what I can see in the material, the host has a pretty fearful inner child inside. If he wants to grow, maybe he can accompany the growth of this inner child.

How should you support him? I believe the best approach is to first acknowledge his feelings, then accept them, and finally, offer him care and encouragement.

You can even have a conversation with her.

At this point, the host can still use self-care to care for her. Pay attention and observe. The host may notice that the child around him is crying sadly. If adults lose their patience with him at this time and even scold him, he may cry even louder.

If a child is facing a challenge and is scared, and if an adult attacks him at that time, then the child may experience double the fear.

So, at this point, the host might think about what these parents would do if this inner child had an ideal parent. Once we understand this, we can do those things ourselves.

It's important to remember that we're adults now and have grown up. We can take control of our lives and be responsible for ourselves.

3. Figure out why you're the way you are today.

It's worth finding out why you are the way you are. This can help us understand ourselves better. Because the way we are today may have been shaped by our past experiences, were there any unreasonable ways in the shaping process?

Are there any unreasonable views? Have you experienced any traumas?

This means we need to look at things from an adult perspective.

Nobody has a perfect growth experience, but you can still create a good self. This is because these good selves have all reinterpreted their growth stories and fixed the unreasonable impact on themselves caused by unreasonable views.

So the original poster might as well learn from them and reinterpret their own story. Accept what you cannot change, adjust what you can, and take control of your life.

4. Accept yourself, warts and all.

Accepting yourself is the first step to making positive changes. We tend to feel unhappy because we don't accept who we are. We're constantly striving to be the ideal version of ourselves.

We don't want to be full of fear; we want to be strong and not cowardly. Because we can't accept who we are now, who we want to be is constantly picking on and attacking who we are in reality.

That's why we experience so much suffering.

It's like a tree. If we keep "chopping" it, can it grow well? If we keep "bullying" it, can it not be sick?

So, the next step is to accept the way things really are. Only by accepting things can we think about what we can do with our lives. We need to grow and learn.

This is the only way we can become strong.

And true strength isn't about being fearless. It's about understanding that fear is there, but it doesn't define us.

I hope this provides a little inspiration for the original poster. Of course, growth takes time and energy, so please give yourself the time and energy you need.

I'm a psychological coach, and I'm here to help you grow.

Good morning, I'm Fly, your heart exploration coach. Let me extend a warm greeting to you.

I empathize with your feelings of sadness, disappointment, and even self-blame and resentment. It seems that you repeatedly find yourself in challenging situations, and each time, you experience setbacks, including financial losses, a loss of dignity, and a decline in confidence. It appears that you have not had many positive life experiences.

Let us provide you with a supportive gesture and examine the issues that are causing you concern.

1. Your self-denial:

Your writing includes several negative comments about yourself, including "trash," "coward," "idiot," and "stupid."

These evaluations are based on past failures. There is no universal standard for evaluating success or failure. We are used to measuring a person or thing using our own values and standards.

These experiences are not meaningless. The assertion that "everything that happens must be helpful to me" is an example of a flawed mindset that can impede personal growth and development.

These experiences are not meaningless. They can be viewed as opportunities for growth and learning.

Even in challenging circumstances, there are opportunities for positive outcomes. For instance, your timidity and sensitivity can serve as protective factors, ensuring your safety and that of those around you.

Even in the most challenging circumstances, there are always positive aspects to be found. For instance, your cautious nature and sensitivity can serve as a safeguard, keeping you out of harm's way and in a relatively secure position.

For example, Wenmei was defrauded of 2,000 yuan, but she was reluctant to pursue the matter further and thus avoided becoming a passive victim of intimidation.

It is crucial to have a clear understanding of one's strengths and abilities and to develop self-confidence. Self-confidence is the assurance in one's capabilities and future prospects.

It is crucial to have a clear understanding of one's strengths and abilities and to cultivate self-confidence. Self-confidence entails having confidence in oneself and a positive outlook on the future.

It is not based on specific things, and it is not necessary to "prove yourself in everything." While I am adept at lecturing, I am not proficient in singing. However, I will not deny myself or lose confidence in myself because I cannot sing.

If you require affirmation, praise, and recognition above all else, it is imperative to recognize that these are intrinsic needs that must be fulfilled by oneself.

Providing yourself with consistent positive feedback, affirmation, praise, and acceptance can enhance self-confidence and foster a sense of self-worth.

2. Each experience is a valuable asset in life.

Growth is a process that naturally evokes a range of emotions. Just as your "tossing and turning" is the result of continuous experience and accumulation, it will lead to a possible breakthrough in your subsequent endeavors.

It is important to consider a variety of perspectives and recognize the underlying truths in order to make informed decisions and maintain flexibility in approaching challenges.

By way of illustration, the timeline comprises the past, the present, and the future.

1) Present: Viewing the future from the present is akin to planning (e.g., reflecting on the past may evoke a childlike sentiment).

2) The past: resources available in the past are limited in comparison to those available in the present.

3) Future: A future-oriented mindset is essential for success. It involves envisioning the desired outcome and mapping out a strategy to achieve it. This approach is characteristic of high-performing individuals who consistently outpace their peers.

From a future-oriented perspective, problems are never insurmountable.

Everyone who comes into our lives has the potential to provide valuable insight and guidance, particularly in terms of important life lessons.

Identify the valuable lesson in each interaction and approach each relationship with care. From this perspective, every experience and every person who comes into our lives is a valuable asset.

?3. What are the origins of fear and how can it be overcome?

Fear has two opposing effects on our lives. It can either build walls or tear them down.

Fear has two opposing effects on our lives. It can either build walls or tear them down.

1) The capacity to erect barriers:

In order to gain security in life, people will implement a variety of protective measures. For example, a mother who is concerned about the potential risks associated with her child swimming will take steps to ensure their safety by creating a barrier that prevents them from entering the water.

2. The Power of Tearing Down Walls:

2. The Power of Tearing Down Walls:

While walls provide protection, they also impede our ability to connect with the world. When our connection with the world is severed, we experience feelings of loneliness.

When security is sufficient, some individuals will proactively dismantle barriers. By eliminating these obstructions, they gain expanded opportunities, a broader perspective, and enhanced connections, leading to a more expansive scope of activities.

These two forces are in direct opposition to one another, and the size of one's life space is determined by the extent of the competition between them.

An individual with a robust capacity to dismantle barriers will have a more expansive perspective, while one who is inclined to fortify boundaries will have a more limited outlook.

An individual's perception of their personal sphere of influence is contingent upon their level of security.

Another key issue is how to enhance a sense of security.

I hope the above is helpful to you. Best regards, [Name]

I hope the above is helpful to you. Best regards, [Name]

If you wish to continue the discussion, please click on the "Find a Coach" link located in the upper right-hand corner or at the bottom of the page. I will communicate and collaborate with you on an individual basis.

Good day, question asker.

I empathize with your sentiments and circumstances. A confluence of unfortunate events has led to feelings of self-doubt and self-loathing. "I feel like I'm worthless. I just can't like myself." Let us collaborate to address these challenges.

Regarding the issue of being cheated in eyebrow tattooing:

It would be beneficial for the questioner to reflect on the underlying cause of the perceived deception. Was it due to a lack of assertiveness in refusing the offer?

Or were the deceptive practices of the eyebrow tattoo parlor not recognized at an earlier stage? Alternatively, might there have been an exploitation of your affinity for beauty?

Or is it because you are timid and therefore reluctant to engage in a dispute with them? Do you believe it is preferable to avoid conflict, even at the risk of allowing injustice to prevail?

It is only through an understanding of the underlying reasons that an appropriate remedy can be identified.

Regarding the estimated additional rental costs of 4,000 to 5,000 yuan:

It would be beneficial to consider the underlying causes of the current loss. Was it the result of fraud, or were there factors within your control that contributed to it?

Some factors are beyond one's control. However, if the issue is a result of one's own actions, it is essential to engage in self-reflection to prevent similar errors in the future.

Subsequently, a discussion should be held regarding potential avenues for improvement.

Subsequently, a discussion should ensue regarding potential avenues for improvement.

It is imperative to gain an understanding of one's own self.

It is important to recognise that although everyone is unique, nobody is without flaws. It is inevitable that each individual possesses both strengths and weaknesses, and it is therefore unproductive to place undue blame on oneself or to adopt a negative self-image.

Each individual possesses distinctive characteristics, yet no person is without flaws. Everyone has both strengths and weaknesses. Consequently, it is unproductive to dwell on self-criticism and assign oneself negative labels.

It is of no consequence if one experiences frustration on one or two occasions. Provided that one is fully cognizant of one's strengths and weaknesses, one can then focus on one's strengths and avoid one's weaknesses.

It is important to accept the reality of the situation.

It is important to accept the reality of the situation.

It is important to accept the reality of the situation.

It is important to recognize that being cheated is a reality that cannot be ignored. While it may be tempting to dwell on the situation, it is ultimately unproductive. The first step is to acknowledge the situation and then determine the best course of action. This could include collecting evidence and reporting the incident to the authorities or lodging a complaint with the relevant business.

It is important to recognize that being cheated is a reality that cannot be ignored. Rather than dwelling on the situation, it is more productive to identify potential solutions. One approach is to collect evidence and report the incident to the relevant authorities. Alternatively, one can file a complaint with the store or other pertinent party.

In order to gain a comprehensive understanding of the experience, it is essential to provide a concise summary.

It is important to learn from the experience.

In any case, the key is to learn and grow from these experiences. While there may be numerous challenges and setbacks, maintaining a positive outlook and utilizing these experiences to gain insight and knowledge can help avoid similar mistakes in the future and facilitate continued personal growth. As the adage goes, "we learn from our mistakes."

An alternative plan should be formulated in advance.

In the event of a significant issue, it is advisable to have an alternative plan in place. Prior to reaching the conclusion of this text, it would be prudent to have a contingency plan ready. It is important to consider the appropriate course of action in the event of being misled or taken advantage of, particularly when renting a property. In such a scenario, it is essential to be aware of the potential challenges that may arise from dealing with unscrupulous agents or landlords.

It is my sincere hope that my response will prove beneficial to the individual who posed the question. I hope that the individual will be able to emerge from the current situation with minimal delay. Best wishes!

Hello!

I'm a heart exploration coach, and I believe that learning is the body's greatest treasure.

From what you've said, I can tell you're not happy with yourself. You're self-critical and you're not good at accepting yourself.

I'm not going to cover the problems caused by your inability to like yourself here. Instead, I'll give you three pieces of advice to refer to later:

First, I suggest you think back to when you first started feeling like you were at your worst, and what happened at that time.

To put it another way, why can't you like yourself, why do you feel inferior and weak, and why are you so afraid?

It's likely that most people lack self-confidence, but they don't attack themselves the way you do. There must be a reason.

Is it because of how you were raised, especially when you were a kid, that you didn't get enough affirmation from your parents or were rarely praised, and you mostly got criticism, making you feel like you're not good enough and not worthy of love, which has led to a lack of self-confidence? Or is it because you had conflicts with others in the past and were hurt, which has now made you timid and cowardly, not to stand up for yourself, or for other reasons, etc.? In short, you have to figure out why you dislike yourself so much.

You'll only be able to like and accept yourself when you know why.

Second, I suggest you think about the reasons you found.

Rationally, you can better understand yourself and reality.

To view things in a logical manner, you need to do the following two things:

One thing to keep in mind is that your current self is different from who you used to be.

Maybe you feel like you were always rejected as a kid, so you think you're stupid. Right now, you need to realize that you're a totally different person than you were before. Back then, you might have been shy and afraid, but now you're an adult and you're not the same person. You have knowledge and experience, and it's likely that you can handle things that make you afraid.

If you find that the reason is related to previous experiences, that you have had conflicts or disagreements with others and have been hurt as a result, then you also need to see that the current self is different from the previous self, and that the person you are facing now is also different from the person you faced before. So you need to believe that you are very likely to be able to deal with the things that worry you.

You should also look for the advantages in yourself, rather than focusing on your weaknesses. I can see from your description that you're not a bad speaker. The fact that you've come here for help shows that you're motivated, and the fact that you're aware of the problem shows that you're able to reflect. So you see, you do have advantages.

Second, try to see yourself as you would a work in progress.

Maybe it'll help you see that you're not the same person you were before, and that you still don't like yourself and can't accept yourself. At this time, you need to learn to view yourself with a developmental perspective because you still have a lot of time and energy to improve yourself and perfect yourself. You need to see the power of time.

If you look at it rationally, some of those negative emotions might start to fade away.

I'd like to suggest that you focus on yourself and think about what you can do to become a better person.

When you think about the reasons you've found, you might also know what to do. At this point, you focus on yourself and try your best to do well.

For instance, while acknowledging your strengths, try to accept yourself and then identify ways to improve your weaknesses (of course, to address your weaknesses, you need to accept what you can't change and change what you can). Like reading books and learning from others, etc., in this way, you can gradually become a better version of yourself. When you become a better version of yourself, you're likely to like yourself more and more, and become confident and powerful.

You can also try doing things your way on small matters. Try refusing others and see what happens. You may find that your fears didn't come true and were just imagined. Even if they did happen, you'll likely be able to deal with them. For example, if you lost money renting a house or got a fraudulent eyebrow tattoo, you can recover it by going to the police and relevant departments.

You can also remind yourself when you feel like you've made a mistake, "I'm not stupid, I'm a capable person, I can handle this." Such positive affirmations can also boost your confidence. In short, you can improve yourself by taking action.

When you start taking action, you'll naturally start to feel better because taking action is sometimes the best way to deal with negative emotions.

I hope this helps. If you want to talk more, just click "Find a coach" at the bottom and we can chat one-on-one.

Dear Sir/Madam, It is unfortunate to have been the victim of fraud on so many occasions. Kind regards,

I am genuinely sorry for your situation.

It is, unfortunately, the case that some people in this world are unfriendly and that one has to face such individuals alone.

It is unlikely that anyone will fight for your legal rights. I wish someone could protect you.

In any case, it is advisable to have a support network in place, comprising friends and family, who can be called upon in times of need. It is also worth noting that there are still legal and justice systems in place to protect individuals.

If you develop the ability to respond courageously to adversity, you will become increasingly resilient in the future. It is a universal experience to have one's trust betrayed.

Even the most successful and articulate individuals are not immune to deception. When we are not vigilant and fail to anticipate the motives of others, we can be easily duped. However, with experience, we learn to be more discerning and cautious.

Tuition is never paid in vain.

It is challenging to experience fraud.

Please take a moment to comfort yourself. Do not blame yourself for this situation.

It is possible to provide solace to a wounded self. It is important to recognize that cowardice and inferiority are inherent to all individuals, and there is no shame in that.

It is possible to address the feelings of inferiority and cowardice that we may experience. Despite these feelings, it is still possible to love ourselves.

In comparison to those who have misrepresented themselves, we have not lost our moral compass. We will not engage in the same unethical practices.

It is they who should feel inferior. My dear,

Please be assured that after going through these challenging experiences, we will become more resilient and knowledgeable. These experiences can be viewed as valuable learning opportunities.

Hello, question asker!

After reading your question, I understand your confusion. Let me give you a warm hug first.

Let me be clear about the problems you encounter:

1. I feel like a piece of trash, worthless, with a sensitive, weak, inferiority complex, and severe internal mental depletion.

2. They are cheated because they are afraid of conflicts with others and refuse to argue with them.

3. When multiple things happen at once, I feel scared and helpless. I have been living in my own world for too long, and I need to get out of it. What should I do?

Problem analysis:

1. When the questioner was young, his parents failed to provide adequate emotional care, which caused him to doubt himself, feel inferior, and put on a strong appearance. In reality, he was sensitive and insecure. This is the result of flawed family education and the questioner's lack of independence in self-growth.

When leaving home and entering society, you will undoubtedly experience a sense of unease. If you cannot find a suitable position for yourself, you will likely begin to belittle yourself or even become stubborn and extreme.

2. The questioner is afraid to argue with others for fear of conflict. This is a mistake. The questioner does not realize that he is also an independent individual with his own dignity and the right to survive, which cannot be recklessly infringed upon by others. There are all kinds of people in society. Sometimes, unprincipled kindness and concessions will only make others feel that you are weak, have no bottom line, and are easy to bully. This is not the case.

The questioner should consider legal means to protect their legitimate rights.

3. Multiple things coming together is not the norm in life. The questioner is not afraid of the problem itself, only of facing the helpless and weak self within.

4. The questioner has high internal mental depletion, thinks too much, and is sensitive and vulnerable.

The following analysis and solutions are provided:

(1) Accept yourself unconditionally, including your family environment and parental education.

(2) Correctly position yourself, list your strengths and weaknesses clearly, and read them aloud until you can accept your weaknesses and make a rational judgment about yourself.

(3) Stop the daily internal conflict with yourself. Think less and act more.

(4) You can and should protect your legitimate rights and interests through legal channels. Don't be an unprincipled good guy.

(5) Express your feelings honestly and face things head-on. There's no point in avoiding them.

(6) You have reasonable and legitimate demands, just like everyone else. Don't let anyone take advantage of you or make you sacrifice your own interests to satisfy other people's.

(7) Find a way to release your stress. It could be running, long-distance cycling, hiking, or talking to friends.

(8) Accept that you are an ordinary person. Plan your day well. Do what you can do every day. Don't worry about tomorrow. Don't feel sad about yesterday.

I am confident that my answer will be helpful to you. The world and I love you.

The comments are full of self-denial, disgust, and powerlessness. It's like a downpour of self-accusations and criticisms, and it can feel pretty overwhelming. But, even in the midst of all that, there's still a desire to gain a sense of control. It's like, "If I'm saying this about myself, no one else can say anything, at least I have the power to say what I think about myself."

It's totally understandable that it's not easy to get out of a difficult situation overnight. When you think about how you've been living in such a situation for a long time, you can see how challenging it is. It's really tough to live every day with contempt and verbal violence towards yourself.

I really hope this sharing will help you in some way. I'm sending you lots of love and support! The following sharing is for you. I hope it will expand your thinking and provide a little inspiration to help you get out of your current predicament.

I really hope this sharing will help you in some way. I'm sending you lots of love and support! The following sharing is for you. I hope it will expand your thinking and provide a little inspiration to help you get out of your current predicament.

First, take a moment to trace the origin of these voices and identify whether they come from you or from others.

First, take a moment to trace the origin of these voices and identify whether they come from you or from others.

I feel like I'm nothing but trash.

Both inferior and cowardly.

I'm just a sensitive soul, timid and petty, and I tend to be too hard on myself.

It's not a good idea to live in your own world, dominated by your own false perceptions. It's not the smartest thing to do. You're a big shot, and you can do better!

It's like you've been under fire with a hail of negative comments, and they've been playing on a loop in your mind. And these voices aren't ones that have been with you since birth.

Instead, while we were still in the dark, we picked up a whole bunch of ways of thinking and habits of behavior about ourselves, about others, and about the world from the people around us. These ideas were ultimately internalized as part of ourselves without us even realizing it.

However, even if you internalize them, it doesn't mean that these sounds are you.

I really think that understanding this difference can help us to better perceive these sounds.

I really believe that understanding this difference can help us to better perceive these sounds.

I'd love for you to join me in taking a moment to press the pause button before we get engulfed in this barrage of sound. Just as we press pause on the screen when watching a TV series, let's pause for a moment to see clearly: when did this start, how long did it last, and what is it trying to convey?

Maybe it all started with our parents, grandparents, and other close relatives who took care of us. They might have used some strong words when we were young and didn't know any better, doing things without spirit, stupid, and clumsy.

Or it could even come from school, where we might have had teachers who were a little harsh with us because we weren't doing so well. They might have called us names like "idiot" over and over again.

Or perhaps it comes from friends around us, who sometimes tease us a bit too much, saying things like, "You're a loser."

Or, it can even show up between our leaders and colleagues, picking fault with everything, always thinking that we are not smart enough to get things done.

...

These voices have slowly grown in our hearts, and we've started to think of the "me" they see as the real me.

"I don't want you to say this about me, I admit it, this is how I am, okay, do you have anything else to say?!"

We all have those moments when we feel angry, frustrated, or like we're not in control. It's like these external challenges slowly make their way inside and become part of our internal drama. And, without even realizing it, we start identifying with these voices, thinking, "That's just how I am!"

Secondly, you know, a little bit of small achievement readjusts one's understanding of oneself, allowing the voice of pause to be replaced with a new background sound.

Secondly, use a little achievement to re-adjust your understanding of yourself, and let the sound of pausing be replaced by a new background sound.

There's a concept in psychology called the self-fulfilling prophecy effect. It basically means that we tend to predict our own thoughts, and in the end, those thoughts often come true.

It's so important to remember that when we internalize those voices as if they were ourselves, our brain will try to keep us loyal to those voices. This can make us behave in ways that ultimately lead us towards those voices, and it can also make us focus more on events that match those voices.

So, the first step to changing your destiny is to say "no" to these voices and change the "prophecy" of [self-fulfilling prophecy].

This part can be tough at first because these voices have been a part of us for so long. They've become a main theme in our self-awareness story. It's natural to dismiss voices that are different from the main theme. But, it's important to remember that every voice has a place in our hearts and minds.

At this time, you can try to consciously pay attention to the little things you do in your daily life. If there is something happy, or if you feel different from before, for example,

You've come a long way! You used to only blame yourself, but now you also ask for help on the platform. This allows you to see more possibilities, which is great!

It can be really helpful to record one to three of these events each day. This can help you rediscover the background music that can replace the current sound.

It would be really helpful for you to find someone you can turn to for support, ideally someone who is a psychological professional. They can help you with your personal growth in a long-term way.

There are so many personal growth issues behind a strong attack on the self. It's so easy to fall back into the same old rut if you try to do it on your own.

So, having someone to help you out of your self-doubt and self-attack will go a long way in helping you get out of your current situation.

You might find it helpful to talk to a trusted friend or counselor.

I wish you all the best!

Wishing you all the best!

You have already taken the initial step by acknowledging the issue and seeking a solution.

It is important to recognize that everyone experiences fear, but it is crucial to understand that these emotions should not dictate one's actions. Identifying the underlying causes of these fears is essential for addressing the core issue. It is necessary to delve deeper and ascertain the true source of the fear.

One might inquire as to why an individual allows a particular fear to exert control over their actions. It can be reasonably assumed that the fear in question pertains to either loneliness or insecurity. It is not uncommon for such fears to exert control over an individual's actions, particularly given the close relationship between these fears and the surrounding environment.

As a result, one may become subject to external influence. Those who experience feelings of loneliness or insecurity may find themselves controlled, for instance, when entering a new company, relocating to a new place, or adapting to a new environment.

It is imperative to transform challenges into objectives. By addressing the issues of "loneliness" and "insecurity," the aforementioned difficulties will be inherently resolved.

One may alleviate feelings of loneliness through the act of reading. The experience of reading can be likened to a form of connection with the author, and individuals who engage in reading tend to experience less loneliness. Recommended reading material includes books such as "The Pleaser Personality" and "A Life Not Controlled by Parents." If the reader is initially uninterested, history books may be a suitable alternative. When feeling vulnerable, reading history can be beneficial; conversely, when feeling resilient, reading classic literature can be advantageous. Additionally, engaging in online discussions and responding to queries can also help to diminish feelings of loneliness. Finally, forming connections with individuals in person can facilitate a gradual reduction in these feelings.

It is imperative to cultivate one's own sense of security and to recognize that one always has the option to make mistakes.

One need not rely on others to provide a sense of security; it is possible to do so independently. It is essential to engage in activities that align with one's knowledge, abilities, and tolerance levels.

It is advisable to concentrate on the favourable elements of a given situation, rather than dwelling on the negative aspects. It is important to recognise that problems are an inherent part of the growth process and that focusing on the process rather than the result is beneficial. Over time, this will enable the creation of a secure and supportive living environment.