Feeling lonely, the weight of solitude is suffocating me, extremely uncomfortable, am I too anxious?

People tend to gravitate towards individuals who share similar characteristics and preferences, and they often prefer to remain in environments that are comfortable and familiar.

It is important to note that relationships are mutual. Feelings and initiatives that are not reciprocated will dissipate over time.

Interactions between people are an interactive process. If there is a lack of interaction, the level of intimacy in the relationship will gradually decrease. It is not possible to maintain an unrequited relationship. Relationships must adapt to changes in life circumstances.

While external circumstances may remain unchanged, there are likely to be internal changes.

It is important to note that change does not occur in isolation. While the reasons for change may be easily overlooked, they are nonetheless crucial to understanding and addressing them effectively.

Only by identifying the underlying causes of these changes can we effectively address the associated feelings of loneliness.

From a business perspective, viewing the world and interpersonal relationships from different perspectives will result in varying emotional responses, with each period of life contributing to personal growth. In business, the only constant is change.

There will always be periods in life when you feel uncertain and experience a range of emotions. These emotions are the catalyst for change. We are constantly striving to achieve the life we desire, confronting the challenges that arise along the way, and courageously addressing them. We seek to create the life we want to have.

Hello!

You know that familiarity and affection make you feel safe and comfortable in social relationships. You are excited to embrace new connections and are more sensitive to other people's attitudes, eager to understand their perspectives.

Recently, you have been feeling lonely and emotional. You feel that no one wants to spend time with you. But don't worry! This is totally normal. Everyone was nice to you at first, but they have become indifferent after a while. For example, your partner, your classmates, and even your cat. This has made you feel increasingly lonely and very sad. But you can change this! You can start by understanding why everyone's attitude towards you has suddenly changed. You are the same as always, so you have not done anything to change your personality.

That's why you feel anxious, and you don't know what's wrong, do you?

You think that the way people treat you at first is a polite way of treating a stranger. You even extend this to your classmates and your cat, assuming that they are just maintaining a superficial relationship with you and will show their true indifference when they discover how boring you really are.

But here's the best part: the resulting thoughts make you feel even more uncomfortable, painful, and even inferior.

In fact, this is really fascinating! Other people's attitudes are actually the result of a processing in our eyes. This processing is called "prediction," and "prediction" is an activity based on our "previous experience."

We love to guess what someone is thinking based on their gestures, voice, facial expressions, and so on. And we love to imagine what will happen next and then act accordingly.

But this result is time-sensitive!

The amazing thing about our minds is that they are constantly making sense of the world around us based on our past experiences. When we have positive experiences, our brains predict positive outcomes, which is a wonderful thing!

So, let's change our perception! Forget about the negative "predicted" results and focus on the positive. Think about the best possible outcome and let your imagination run wild.

It doesn't matter whether the outcome predicted by our attitude towards others is correct or whether it matches the true attitude of the other person at that time. What matters is whether our actions and thoughts are positive and can lead us to achieve our life's goals – and they can!

Because we observe the attitudes of others and predict their behavior in order to have a positive and meaningful result on our future development. In interpersonal interactions, we are not enemies. We don't need judges. We need to help each other and grow together!

I'm thrilled to share a positive way of thinking with you! I hope it will be of some help to you.

Best of luck! Wishing you the best!

Hugging you, I can tell you're feeling a bit down.

It's totally normal to feel confused about your relationships with other people. It can be really lonely when you feel like everyone is reluctant to spend time with you. This is your perception of your relationship problems, and it's okay to feel this way.

And you've also noticed that at first everyone was really nice to you, but then things changed. Even the family cat doesn't want to spend time with you. This makes you feel really sad because you don't feel that you've done anything wrong. But why has everyone's attitude towards you changed so much?

I'd love to be your guide on this journey to better understand this feeling of loneliness. I've got some questions that might help you explore this further.

You say that at the beginning of a relationship, you feel that everyone treats you quite well. What exactly is this well-being? Why do you feel quite well treated?

When a relationship has been going on for a while, it can be really tough. It's natural to feel lonely when things change. What kind of change in attitude towards you makes you feel lonely? Why do you think they don't want to spend time with you?

I'd love to know your thoughts on why they treated you that way. What are your feelings about their behaviour?

I'd love to know how you think they felt about you!

I'd love to hear a specific example of someone not wanting to spend time with you. What was the situation like?

Oh, what happened? How did the other person treat you?

I'm really sorry you feel this way. Why do you feel this sense of loneliness?

It's totally normal to feel dissatisfied with a relationship when you're not getting what you want from it. So, what are you hoping to get out of this relationship?

I'd love to know how you think others behave so that you don't feel isolated. And I'd really like to hear what you'd like to be treated like in a relationship!

You mentioned that your kitty doesn't like to stay with you. What do you expect your little fur baby to do? In fact, why do you think your kitty can't meet your expectations?

It's so sad to see you feeling so lonely. I can tell you've been through a lot in real life. So, what are these issues you're facing? What have you done to try to feel better?

I'm wondering if you think your actions will make you feel better? When you feel bad, what would you like to happen to make you feel better?

Some of the above questions are meant to help you think more deeply about why you feel lonely. When you're facing these emotions, what are you expecting?

I really think it would help you if you could find some free time to think about these questions quietly, or even write down the answers in your heart. Once you understand your emotions, you'll be able to find ways to relieve them.

I really hope the above answers will inspire you!

I'm sending you lots of good luck and best wishes!

Hello! I can feel your depression, loneliness, and confusion from your description, and I'm here to help!

Recently, for a long time, you have felt very lonely. But you know what? That's okay! You're going to get through this. You're going to find the people who want to spend time with you.

At first, people treated you really well! But after a while, they became indifferent.

This makes you feel depressed and lonely, and it's very hard on your heart. But you're also very excited to learn how to face this sense of loneliness head-on!

I totally get it! You really want to have friends and be popular, but it can be hard when your friends have distanced themselves. It's totally normal to doubt yourself in these situations.

You may feel that you must have done something wrong, that you are bad, and that is why everyone is treating you this way. But is that true?

Loneliness is not necessarily a bad thing!

Maybe you feel sad when you're lonely, but from another perspective, loneliness is not necessarily a bad thing! It is this loneliness that allows you to examine yourself and face yourself, which is a great thing!

And you start to think about what's going on with you, what kind of relationship you want, and how to get that kind of relationship!

This inward exploration and search is the beginning of growth. And you know what? Loneliness has taught you to grow!

Are you ready to approach others with your true self?

You are the same as you always have been, and that's a great thing! You haven't done anything that would drastically change your personality, and that's something to be proud of.

It's clear you're a person with a lot of stability in your emotions. You don't have a lot of ups and downs. You might think that having emotional fluctuations is wrong or bad, but it's not!

So, in order to adapt to your surroundings, you will hide some of your true emotions, regardless of your feelings, so that you appear the same as always.

Each of us lives in the world with our own emotions, which makes us real, vivid, and full of vitality!

Showing your true self in the right way at the right time will make those around you feel that you are a frank, honest, and energetic person!

Instead, you can be the person who is approachable, emotional, and full of vitality!

☺️ It's time to put aside your suspicions and try to express your true self!

There's no better way to overcome the confusion that relationships with others bring than to let go of your suspicions and communicate effectively!

When you feel isolated or left out in a relationship, you can seize the opportunity to find a way to bridge the gap! For example, you can look for a relaxing time when the two of you can sit down and have an open and honest chat.

Dear, I've noticed that lately, we haven't been as close as we used to be. I'm wondering if something has happened that's made you feel uncomfortable. I'd love to talk to you about it!

Being honest in every relationship is the best way to bring your hearts closer together and make the relationship more intimate and simple!

Wishing you all the best!

Dear Question Author, Welcome! I'm so happy you're here. I understand you're feeling sad because your classmates, friends, and even your cat don't seem to pay much attention to you. I'm here to listen and

Hello! I'm so happy to connect with you on the Yi Xinli platform. From reading your words, I can see that you're going through a tough time. It's clear that your classmates, friends, and even your cat aren't paying much attention to you, and that's making you feel really sad. I'm here for you, and I want to give you a big, warm hug. Don't be sad, my friend. Let's work together to figure out what's going on in your mind.

I can see that you're wondering if you're too anxious. I don't think that's quite it, though.

Let me give you a quick overview of anxiety disorders. These can cause feelings of nervousness and unease, as well as worrying about the future without a clear direction. You might also notice a rapid heartbeat, palpitations, restlessness, and walking back and forth. In more severe cases, patients may experience dizziness, headaches, irregular heartbeats, trembling, fatigue, abdominal pain, and diarrhea.

From what you've told me, it doesn't seem like you have the symptoms of an anxiety disorder. It seems like you're just sensitive and worried that others are ignoring you because you feel insecure inside. I don't think you need to worry about whether you have an anxiety disorder.

Loneliness is something we all experience in life. But it can be a bit overwhelming for some people. They might feel afraid of eating alone, shopping alone, being alone in a room, being ignored, or being left alone. It's totally normal to feel this way sometimes. But if it's affecting your life in a way that's getting in the way of your happiness, it might be helpful to speak with a professional.

Loneliness phobia is a persistent and extreme fear of loneliness, which is a type of phobia.

If the fear of loneliness is really affecting your life, studies, and physical health, it can even lead to solipsism. Don't worry, though! You can get help from a mental health professional.

It's also possible that fear of loneliness is caused by depression and anxiety disorders. The current medical community doesn't have a clear conclusion, but they're working on it!

It's often said that people with agoraphobia worry that they'll be neglected and not receive love. It's also thought that agoraphobia is a special kind of place phobia, which can make people feel afraid of being alone in unfamiliar places.

If you're someone with social anxiety disorder, you might find yourself feeling really scared when you're in a situation where you're expected to interact with other people. It can feel like you're trapped and there's no way out. Social anxiety disorder can have different causes, but it's not something you have to face alone.

Loneliness phobia can be related to a number of different factors, including things like our personalities and qualities, as well as our genetics.

I'm not sure if you fit the description of the loneliness phobia I mentioned, but it's possible you experience periods of loneliness that make you feel bad.

It's okay if you feel like there's no connection. Psychologists have said that people who are lonely often get it later in life, and it's not something you're born with.

People with weak personalities who tend to get nervous easily and often seem nervous are more likely to suffer from loneliness phobia. It's also common for them to have trouble understanding interpersonal relationships. They often think that closeness is right and don't realize that being alone is also a normal state of life. It's understandable that you felt the love from others and it made you feel warm. But when you felt the indifference from others, it's natural to start looking for reasons in yourself. It's not easy to understand that everyone needs their own personal space and that they also have their own things to do.

When you're feeling lonely and a bit down, there are a few things you can do to help yourself feel better.

???Understand loneliness and fall in love with it!

It's important to understand that loneliness is a feeling about the quality of your social interactions.

I know it can be tough. The outside world may be more lively, but if you are not rich inside, you will not feel good and your mood will be bad.

I know it can be tough. The outside world may be more lively, but if you don't feel rich inside, it can be hard to feel good and stay in a good mood.

It's okay to feel lonely sometimes. Being surrounded by people doesn't always make you feel better. If you warm yourself up inside and

If you open yourself up to others, you'll feel so much more comfortable and happy!

Sometimes, loneliness is actually a good thing! It can help you calm down and give you

And enjoy every moment of your life!

? Appreciate yourself and others! ?

It's so important to appreciate the relationship between yourself and others. It's also really helpful to evaluate yourself and others correctly, avoid being introverted and anxious, handle other people's care correctly, evaluate others correctly, and not think that others' avoidance and short periods of indifference are a sign of dislike.

Cats are just like us! They need their own space too. Sometimes, when we're too close to someone, it can feel a bit suffocating. We all need intimacy, and they need their independent space. It's important to remember that other people's "coldness" doesn't necessarily mean they're hostile.

They also have their own things to do and are too busy to always be there for you, sweetie. You need to get used to being alone on your own, but I know you can do it!

It's so important to develop your own interests!

Cultivating hobbies is a great way to help you cope with lonely moments. We all have those days when we feel lonely, and it's so important to find ways to enrich your life. Why not try something new like calligraphy, painting, or dancing? You'll be amazed at how much it can help!

I really hope these little tips will help to inspire you!

I'm your little friend, the Monarchess, here to help you, me, and him heal!

I really hope you can get rid of your troubles and loneliness soon! ?

Hello!

Host:

After reading the post, I could really feel how lonely the poster was, especially after being ignored. I also noticed that the poster was really brave to share how he was feeling and to look for help on the platform. This will help him to understand himself better, as well as his classmates and the person he's interested in.

I'd like to share some thoughts and observations from the post that I hope will help the original poster to view the situation from a different perspective.

1. Learn to grow in relationships!

From the post, I can see that you've been feeling lonely for a while now. It's totally normal to feel this way! We all need to spend time with people who make us feel good. At first, everyone was really nice to you, but after a while, they lost interest.

I'm sure the original poster has also thought about why this is the case, right?

I'm wondering if the host has ever had a chance to chat with classmates or the object? It might be really helpful for the original poster to have a good conversation with the object to express their feelings.

It's so important to see how the other person responds to you. After all, the essence of interpersonal relationships is to help us grow! The original poster may use relationships as a mirror to see themselves, to know and understand themselves, and to grow themselves.

2. Take a moment to reflect on your own performance in relationships.

All relationships are the result of interactions, and there must be something you did or didn't do that led to this result. The important thing to remember is that not doing something is also a kind of doing.

So the original poster might want to take a look at their own behavior in the relationship. Why did they initially treat each other so well, but then become distant?

The essence of relationships is the exchange of value. From this perspective, it's worth asking ourselves if we've taken too much.

It's so important to be aware of how we interact with others. Have you ever been in a situation where you felt like you were spreading negative energy or demanding too much attention? We've all been there!

These answers are something the poster needs to explore on their own. It's not possible to be consumed by a relationship all the time. When you can't take it anymore, you often end up distancing yourself.

So, it would be really helpful for the host to take a look at how he's been getting on in his relationships.

3. It's so important to learn to satisfy your own needs!

The poster mentioned feeling lonely, so I'm wondering, what did he do to deal with it? Did he invite his classmates or his partner to keep him company, or did he do something else?

How do you view the feeling of loneliness? I'd love to know what it's like for you!

I'd like to share my understanding of loneliness with you. Loneliness is a state of mind that arises when we discover that social relationships are not as warm and beautiful as we would like to believe. We desperately want to connect with others, but the reality cannot satisfy this need, which can make us feel restless and uneasy.

From this, we can see that loneliness actually longs to connect with others. Why? Well, it's because loneliness is a hope that others will see you and that you are welcome.

This is a sign that you might not feel as worthy as you could be. So, to get rid of that feeling of loneliness, try not to invite a large group of people to keep you company. Instead, take a little time to look inward and see if there's anything you could do to feel more worthy. You can make up for it, learn and grow, and enrich your inner self.

It's so important to learn to get along with yourself. Once you've done that, you can start to figure out why you crave attention so much. And then you can start to satisfy your own needs.

I really hope these words have inspired the original poster a little. My name is Zeng Chen, and I'm a certified psychosynthesis coach.

Good morning,

I recognize that you are experiencing a challenging situation. I want to extend a supportive gesture by offering a comforting embrace. It is important to understand that loneliness is not an inherent problem. There is no inherent problem with being lonely. However, it is concerning to observe that your feelings of anxiety and a sense of worthlessness are accompanied by loneliness and helplessness. This combination can be overwhelming.

Relationships serve as a mirror.

From your description, it is evident that you are experiencing avoidance from others, even from your cat. This suggests a potential issue with your interpersonal relationships. It would be beneficial to engage in some self-reflection to identify the circumstances under which these individuals ignore you. If you were to take the initiative to greet them, offer assistance, or demonstrate love and care, how would they respond?

Please confirm whether this is still the case.

I believe there may be a discrepancy between your perception and reality. It's possible that you've been reluctant to express your needs, which has led others to misunderstand your intentions. Coupled with your emotional instability, you consistently seek affirmation and care from others. They find it challenging to interact with you and may be reluctant to engage further.

In any relationship, there is an inherent tendency towards balance. This balance is essential for stability. In any relationship, each party brings their own needs and desires to the table. However, it is important to recognize that while you may desire recognition, care, and companionship from others, you must also be willing to give something in return. If you are unable to satisfy each other's needs and provide mutual support, the relationship may face challenges.

It is important to accept the current situation.

Loneliness is not necessarily a negative phenomenon. It may signify that an individual is undergoing a period of personal growth and development. There is an opportunity and capacity to transcend one's current circumstances and become a more enhanced version of oneself.

It is possible that the individuals in your immediate vicinity are unable to provide you with the desired level of support and attention. It is understandable that they have become preoccupied with their own commitments and priorities.

Due to an internal lack of clarity, you are unable to express your needs and how others can assist you effectively. Your current state of conflict makes it challenging for you to interact with others in a productive manner.

However, you are not in any way deficient. You are simply who you are, and you are excellent just the way you are. You do not require the approval of others to ascertain your own sense of identity. Believe in yourself, and you will successfully navigate this period and live in peace with yourself.

I hope my response is of some assistance to you. Best regards, [Name]

Hello, dear questioner!

I am Sunshine, and I am so grateful to have met you here!

I'm so grateful to the questioner for being so self-aware! They've brought up some great keywords like "loneliness," "anxiety," "confusion," "panic," and "unbearable." This has opened up so many possibilities for change! I'd also love to share my feelings and thoughts/opinions to bring the questioner some positive inspiration and help!

Let's dive right in and sort out the specifics!

Let's dive right in and sort out the specific circumstances described by the questioner! We're going to interpret and analyze them together.

For a long time recently, I have felt very lonely.

— Have you felt lonely recently? You always felt fine before, didn't you feel lonely!

Then, I'd love for you to think about what has happened and experienced recently. Has the environment changed?

What's different about you? It's an exciting time! Have the relationships around you changed?

I'm so excited to dive into this with you! Let's start by looking at what's going on in your life right now.

In fact, everyone is born alone. When you are lonely, it is a rare period when you begin to become self-aware, self-reflective, and grow. When you are lonely, you like to think more about your life, feel your inner self, and ponder more about life and the future. This is a great opportunity for the questioner to have this kind of awareness!

I've noticed that people don't seem to want to spend time with me. At first, everyone was quite nice to me, just like most people, but after a while, they started to become indifferent. My classmates, my friends, and even my cat don't want to spend time with me anymore. But I haven't changed at all, I haven't done anything to change their attitude towards me. This makes me feel increasingly lonely and it hurts, but it also gives me the chance to work on myself and become a better person!

Am I too anxious? What can I do about this sense of loneliness?

From a psychological perspective, when everyone realizes and becomes aware that "no one wants to spend time with me," it's an amazing opportunity to recognize that it's actually our own "inner projection." It's a chance to see the actual needs and true desires in our hearts through the "mirror" of others. It's a chance to embrace new thoughts and desires about our surroundings, interpersonal relationships, and inner dreams.

— Embrace this "loneliness" for allowing us to feel and perceive differently, so that we can generate different ideas. That is the willingness to change the status quo and think about what we want... This is the perfect time for change to begin! We just need to calm down and think seriously about what we really want in our hearts. Or when we haven't figured out what we want, we will also feel lost/helpless/panicked/anxious... These are the "true portrayal/real presentation" of our hearts when we don't know what to do with our future. But we can change that! Aware of our true desires/needs in our hearts, coupled with our practical actions, if we encounter "the right time, place, and people", this is the realization of our successful life dreams!

When we feel very uncomfortable, we can ask ourselves what is making us feel uncomfortable. And then, we can ask ourselves another question: Is it something we can control?

Could it be that the uncontrollable things that make us feel uncomfortable are actually part of what makes us feel "comfortable/not uncomfortable"?

Absolutely! All we have to do is find that "uncomfortable" point and use our abilities, actions, and awareness to continuously win what we want inside. This is the process of life's experience, and it's an amazing journey!

Then, in the face of the "sense of loneliness" mentioned by the questioner, we can try a new approach!

The first step is to embrace all your feelings, including loneliness and discomfort. Take a deep breath and look at the big picture.

1. Awareness is the key to change! When we're feeling unhappy or anxious, it's time to explore the hidden desires behind these feelings. Or, perhaps this anxiety is the driving force that motivates us to take action!

Second, recognize those feelings and emotions of "uncomfortable/anxiety," and realize that we actually have aspirations and dreams inside! This is the source of our "uncomfortableness," and grasping it is our chance for change!

Second, you've got this! First, be aware, then put it into action, and you will be rewarded with a winner in life.

1. It's amazing what we can achieve when we become aware of our perceptions, make new friends, reduce negative thinking and ideas, and see the positive meaning behind "anxiety." It's time for us to re-evaluate ourselves and embrace the exciting journey ahead!

2. It's time to start learning and deeply understanding yourself! Get to know yourself and discover your true inner needs. This is the beginning of a whole new you! You can read the book "Meet the Unknown Self" for reference. Once you've discovered your hobbies and strengths and gotten to know yourself again, you'll be ready to take on the world! So, why do you feel "lonely"?

3. First, get yourself busy with the "dream/longing you want." This will reduce our anxiety. It is often the case that we feel insecure and anxious when we do nothing, and anxiety arises from this. Try to do things that make you happy/feel comfortable. It is best to start with the small things that you can be happy about. Find a trusted friend to talk to and see your inner needs through others.

4. Change your environment! You can break away from your previous behavior patterns, go into nature, read a good book, and find spiritual comfort; make friends who share your interests; occasionally find a way to relieve stress (e.g., get a pet) to ease anxiety; try exercising and getting fit, etc. The possibilities are endless!

5. Amazingly, most of the psychological problems caused by loneliness, such as "unbearable/anxiety," are actually caused by new desires and ideas in our hearts that have not become reality! When the above methods are not effective, you can also find a psychological professional you like to communicate with, so that you can grow up faster and better, analyze the deep core problems behind our "loneliness" with the psychological teacher, and then find a way that suits you. This is a rare opportunity for our personal growth!

In summary, I'm thrilled to share my understanding and response to the question asked by the original poster.

I am sunshine, the world, and I love you! ??

Being alone is normal. You're young and feeling lonely probably means you're still learning to socialize.

You feel uncomfortable. Maybe everyone was okay at first, but now you feel like everyone is the same. If you feel that other people are indifferent, there may still be a reason for this.

You might not share your stories, expose yourself, or care too much about what others think. Other people would also prefer to spend time with interesting people.

Ask yourself if you're interesting and if you often feel bored. If no one wants to spend time with you, ask why. Have you thought about this or asked others?

You feel the indifference of others. Will you continue to feel lonely, or will you make some changes? When you are alone, you can read, write, develop hobbies, and improve your overall strength. I recommend that you seek psychological counseling. Good luck.

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