Feeling the pressure of life is too great, really can't bear it, what should I do when my parents keep belittling me?

Hello, friend! I'm sending you a big, warm hug, hoping it'll help you forget your troubles for a little while.

It's totally normal to feel stressed when you're facing the difficulties of life, especially as a high school student. We not only have our parents and teachers expecting a lot from us, but we also have to deal with the pressure from our competitors. Sometimes we have to deal with the blow of grades, various kinds of belittling, comparisons, and the guilt within.

So, after reading this, please give yourself a hug too! You deserve it!

Secondly, I'd like to say that we can't choose our family. It's something that is born to us, and we have no choice. But the good news is that we can choose to improve and enhance ourselves!

If you come from a single-parent family, you might feel like you don't get as much love from your parents as your friends do. It's totally normal to feel like you have to take care of yourself more. When you see that there's a gap between families and you're not doing as well academically, it's okay to feel a little inferior. It's natural to feel afraid of going to school.

But if you think about it from another perspective, you are also living a serious life, studying hard, and caring about your future, aren't you? You may not be able to change your current environment, but you can try to escape from it. I know it can be tough, but you've got this!

We are born into this world, and I truly believe that the most important thing is to love and please ourselves. When faced with a lack of understanding from our parents, we have the option to communicate, ask for help from others, or write a letter to express our demands.

But if parents still choose to ignore it, like parents who can't send their blessings when our grades improve, we can give ourselves a small reward, such as buying a favorite action figure or giving ourselves a lollipop. If parents can't remember my birthday, but I can give myself a gift or hang out with friends; because we will eventually leave our parents and face the difficulties of life alone. What is family? The most basic element is family.

So, when there are conflicts in the family, it's important to remember that one person can't maintain it for a long time.

I just want to say that everything is going to be okay! You can get through anything. It doesn't matter if your classmates compare you to others or if there are people in the art class whose families are more privileged. They'll all become just passers-by, while you remain the star of your own world.

Love yourself, please yourself, and don't forget to compare yourself to others! Make progress every day. Live a serious, positive, and proactive life. Do your best when you want to do something, and take things seriously when you can't choose.

We all make mistakes, and that's okay! When you make a mistake, admit it and correct it. When you encounter a surprise, praise and reward yourself. Everything will slowly get better. There are still many joys and sorrows in life waiting for you to discover.

I really hope my words have put a smile on your face!

Good day, colleague. I recognize the confusion you are currently experiencing, and I extend my support and understanding through a gesture of physical comfort.

I empathize with your situation. Being raised in a single-parent family can present unique challenges. Please accept my sincerest condolences.

With regard to your communication with your mother, she has consistently treated you in a demeaning manner.

This may be related to her upbringing within her own family.

It is possible that when your mother was growing up, her parents treated her in this manner.

Therefore, she is unaware that your child also requires encouragement.

During her upbringing, regardless of her efforts, her parents consistently failed to provide her with the encouragement she needed.

Therefore, she is unaware of the necessity to treat your child with encouragement.

It is not her fault. There is a well-known psychological principle that states we cannot give what we do not have.

While the circumstances of one's upbringing are often beyond one's control, there are ways to mitigate the negative impact of a less than optimal family environment.

As an example, once you have matured and established a family unit, you will recognize the necessity to treat your partner and children in a manner that is respectful and conducive to a healthy family dynamic.

In other words, you can cease the demeaning and harmful treatment of children that you experienced as a child.

This will help to mitigate the adverse effects of the intergenerational transmission of adverse family experiences.

I am unsure if the school you are currently attending employs a resident school psychologist.

If you require assistance with your studies, you are encouraged to speak with the psychologist.

Please be advised that the psychologist's services are provided at no cost.

Should you require assistance, you may also contact the platform's instant listeners.

As an alternative, you may wish to consider arranging a session with a heart coach.

Rest assured that you are not alone in facing this challenge. Many others have been in a similar situation and have found ways to overcome it.

I am confident that you will find an effective solution to your problem in the near future.

At this time, I am only able to consider these matters.

I hope that my above responses are helpful and inspiring to you, my colleague. I am the solution, and I study hard every day.

Best regards, Yixinli

Thank you for your attention.