Female, 16 years old. For the past two years, I have always had thoughts of death, and I feel very lost about the future.

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It is possible that you may have experienced feelings of confidence-and-mild-self-doubt-in-the-future-9475.html" target="_blank">inferiority, lack of confidence, and rejection of yourself as a result of being rejected, beaten, and disliked by your family and father due to your poor grades.

It is important to remember that poor grades should not be a reason for your parents and family members to deny, dislike, or scold you. During this time, you may find it helpful to have their understanding, acceptance, and support. When your family members deny, scold, or dislike you when you encounter difficulties in your studies, it can sometimes make you feel even more afraid of learning and affect your grades.

In light of your less-than-satisfactory academic performance and the scolding, disapproval, rejection, and criticism you have faced from your family and father, it is important to find a way to express your true feelings and needs in a constructive manner. It is essential to communicate your feelings without making any comments on their actions. This will help them understand the impact of their words and actions and encourage a more positive and supportive environment.

It is understandable that a child may attribute their parents' rejection or lack of approval to their own shortcomings. This can lead to feelings of helplessness and a lack of confidence in their ability to cope with challenges. It is important to recognize that these feelings may be influenced by external factors, such as past experiences with authority figures.

It is often the case that parents treat their children in a way that is similar to how they were treated themselves. This can be a result of a lack of awareness of their own upbringing, which can inadvertently lead to them repeating the same patterns they experienced as children.

It is important to remember that you are not as bad as your parents described. You can record in writing the harm caused to your body and mind by your parents' immature parenting style, which will help you get along with your emotions better, experience and perceive your feelings, sort out your emotions, feel the needs behind them, and thus seek better responses and ways to meet your inner needs. This will allow you to treat yourself the way you want to be treated, be the good parent you want to be, and re-parent yourself.

My name is Lily, and I'm one of the listeners at the Q&A Center. I just wanted to say that I love you all, and I hope you know that the world and I love you too.

Oh, my child, you've suffered so much. It doesn't matter if you're a boy or a girl, I'm going to hug you. My name is Little Pearl Floater, and it's a great name, don't you think?

Auntie is 40 years old and she gets it. She's been there too. But she got out on her own, and she's going to help you do the same. She's now an intern psychological counselor and family education instructor, and she can give you a very detailed explanation of your problems, but you have to do the work yourself!

Your aunt can't help you, but you must promise her that when you want to do something stupid, you will remember that there is someone who cares about you, somewhere in the corner.

First, your grades are not good, and you are always being teased by others. Your parents cannot accept this either, and they feel that you are bringing them shame. Is this true? Every time after an exam, you will be teased by your classmates and blamed by your parents, right?

Second, you have always been like this. When you were young, your self-esteem was not so strong, so you didn't feel anything. Now that you feel you have grown up, you can't stand these insults and accusations from your parents. You want to die, right?

Third, you believe you have caused your parents and classmates to suffer, and that your class has been marked down.

Fourth child, you are very kind, but you don't know yourself. You have been hypnotized by your classmates and parents. You need to stop listening to them and start listening to yourself. You are not a poor student. You are not bad at learning. You just need to stop letting others tell you what to do. Wake up, child, your aunt is calling you, can you hear her?

That's not your voice. It's not you. Someone else has put a yoke on you, so take it off. No one is born bad. You just haven't found the right way to learn yet.

Wake up, fifth child. I'm calling you. Listen to your own voice.

Use the time you spend thinking about how embarrassing it is when others mock you to find a learning method that suits you. Your learning method is your weapon for fighting back against the voices that mock you.

The sixth child wakes up. The auntie is calling you. You can use the emotions of being sad and upset when being scolded by your parents as motivation to study. You can pick up your weapons and defend your parents' dignity.

The seventh child wakes up. Auntie is calling you. Do you hear me? You're not born number one, and you're not born good at counting. You study hard in secret for your own dignity and your parents' sake. You're the only one who thinks they're smart and can get good grades while playing all the time.

The eighth child wakes up. Your auntie is calling you. Look, your auntie is 40 years old and still learning. You will get good results if you are determined to learn. You don't have to learn a lot every day. Just learn a little bit every day.

You will make progress, little by little, as you learn a little bit at a time. You may still be at the bottom of the class, but everyone is working hard in places you cannot see. You must work hard and not compare yourself with others, but only with yourself.

The ninth child wakes up. Auntie is calling you. Do you hear me? Don't sleep in the mockery of others. Be yourself. You may have poor grades and be at the bottom of the class, but that doesn't define you. Wake up and look at yourself. You have nothing to lose. You have to rely on yourself to fight for it, to strive for it, to fight against those who mock you, and to win the comfort of your parents.

The tenth child wakes up. Auntie is calling you. Do you hear her? Don't sleep anymore. This is not a place to sleep. This is a battlefield. Chinese is struggling to hold on, waiting for you to take command. Math is fighting a bloody battle, waiting for you to save it. English is covered in blood, waiting for you to wipe it away. Biology, geography, history, and chemistry are struggling to carry your spare weapons. They are advancing towards you. They are running out of energy and waiting for you to pick up the weapons they carried and fight bravely together against the enemy.

The eleventh child, wake up! The auntie is calling you, can you hear her? The soldiers are in position, waiting for you, the general, to command a new battle. Get up and get moving!

Put on your armor and charge towards the enemy's position!

The twelfth child wakes up. Auntie is calling you. Are you listening? Return victorious. The parents who don't love their child, the parents who greet you in victory at the door, they smile happily, the child has improved, improved, improved...

You have the power to wake up, look at yourself, and look at the sunshine outside the window. The world is a wonderful place. You can start whenever you want. You can tell your child to "start" whenever you want.

I am confident that this will be of assistance.