Five months pregnant, feeling like a bad mother and starting to dislike your child?

Hello, From what you've said, it's clear you love your child and are excited about his future. As he gets older, though, his reactions are becoming more intense. It's normal to feel emotional when you're trying to look your best, especially with the influence of hormones. You're going through a lot physically and mentally, and what you really need right now is the support and understanding of your family.

For the sake of the child, they told you not to use skin care products, and for the sake of the child, even if it made you feel sick, you had to take that DHA, without paying attention to how you felt, making you lose your sense of self-worth! As a mother, you must love your child very much, and if you could, you would definitely be willing to eat things that are good for your child. The premise is that the mother must be happy and healthy, so that the child will be better too!

From what you've said, it seems like when you need support from your family, the pressures and misunderstandings from those around you make you feel even more uncomfortable and anxious, when you should already be feeling unwell due to your pregnancy.

Dear questioner, It's clear you're a great mom and love your child. You're likely feeling anxious because of the impact of pregnancy and the pressure from those around you. You can listen to your heart and ignore the thoughts of others. They can't guide you in life — that's up to you. I believe that with the support of your husband and the company of your future child, you'll be very happy! Now give yourself some space, love yourself a little more, and do things that make you happy!

Your life is about to change in so many wonderful ways when your precious baby is on the way! It's natural to feel a little scared and worried, especially when everyone around you is encouraging you to endure and sacrifice for the sake of your child. It's as if you'll disappear from this world from the moment your child is born!

As a new mom myself, I want to tell you that you'll be just fine with the birth of your child. You don't have to give up everything for your little one.

Before you became a mother, you were just you, first and foremost.

It's totally normal to still feel dependent on other people in your life, especially your parents and husband. It's natural to want their approval on all things related to your child.

It's okay to listen to them about whether or not you should use skin care products.

It's okay to listen to them about whether or not you should eat DHA.

It's totally up to you whether you want to work after having a child, but it's always good to listen to your family's advice on the matter.

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The birth of a child gives you an additional social role in the world: that of a mother. This social role will make you brave, responsible, loving, and strong.

As your child grows, you'll get to know new people and have new experiences. You'll go from feeling like you and your little one are one, to feeling like you're apart after they're born. You'll watch them grow and become independent, and then they'll leave home. It's a journey that will help you grow as a person.

Growth begins during pregnancy, and we have ten months to prepare ourselves mentally.

Start by making some rational, independent decisions for yourself. You've got this!

You know your body best, so decide for yourself whether or not to take DHA after you have fully understood the benefits and risks of taking it.

It's so important to learn to gather information and make your own judgments about whether or not skin care products are really harmful to your precious little one.

Once your little one is here, you'll probably want to get back to work. That's great! But it can also be a bit overwhelming at first. How will you arrange childcare? It's a good idea to learn how to coordinate family resources and solve any worries you have.

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Whatever you decide, I know it will be a heartfelt, well-considered choice, and you'll be responsible for weighing up the possible benefits and risks.

And it's not just you who's feeling anxious! Your family is feeling it too, especially with the baby that's on the way.

They try to cope with the unknown by transferring all their anxiety to you, the mother.

They don't really understand your uncertainties, so they just pass the anxiety "ball" back to you, saying things like "Just take the DHA for the baby's sake," "Don't put oil on for the baby's sake," "Don't work for the baby's sake," and "Don't put the baby in daycare for the baby's sake." It can be really tough when you're feeling anxious and unsure about what's best for you and your baby. It's natural to feel this way, and it's also natural for your loved ones to want to help. They might say things like the examples above, but it's important to remember that they're just trying to support you.

It's totally understandable that they might doubt their ability to care for their baby. They might think that as long as the mother is there, everything will be fine; that the mother will endure and sacrifice for the child, and that nothing will go wrong.

I know this is tough, but there is a bright side. At least your family is thinking about the baby, which is great! You should definitely take advantage of their love and ask for more resources for yourself, like financial support and time.

It's also important to learn to distinguish between real difficulties and those imagined by your family. That way, you won't let yourself be led into imagining things along with them.

Being a mother is tough, but it's also one of the most joyful experiences in life!

Being a mother is all about taking control of your own life and then supporting the life of another.

I really hope this is helpful for you!

Hello, dear questioner!

I can see that you're excited about the next stage of your life, and I'm sure you're also looking forward to having a baby. I know that morning sickness and changes to your figure can make you feel a little worried about how the baby's arrival will affect you. It's also understandable that those around you are ignoring your feelings, which can make you feel even more aggrieved. As a mother myself, I can understand your situation very much.

Let me use my eyes to take a look at your situation and see what exactly is making you so uncomfortable. I'm here to help! We'll figure out together if there's anything we can do to help you get through your pregnancy better.

I can see from your writing that almost every issue is related to your parents and relatives. It's totally normal to have different opinions from your loved ones, but it seems like their opinions make you feel particularly uncomfortable. It's okay to not agree with them! It seems like you don't have the final say in your life, which is something we can all relate to. What makes you have to agree with their suggestions?

Maybe you just need to take some time to think about it on your own.

You're 32, and you have a thoughtful husband (as shown by his offer to take care of the kids and give you some space). You're not rolling in cash, but you can plan to find a nanny for the kids and send them to early childhood education. You're already a very independent person and are capable of taking responsibility for any decision you make. This is the mark of an adult!

So here, regarding your child, you need to give yourself more affirmation. You need to know that without the gossip of relatives and parents, you have great expectations for the family of three. I know it can be tough, but I'm here to tell you that it will make you feel a little easier to set aside their advice.

I bring up your personal abilities and your sense of responsibility as an adult because I want you to know that if you are not strong-willed enough, other people's opinions will influence you, even if they don't express a different opinion from you. But you know best what's right for you and your family.

The advice of your loved ones may be well-intentioned, but it might not be the best fit for you.

You said you were looking forward to the arrival of your child, but your body reacted in a way that your family didn't understand. Instead of supporting you, they told you that every mother goes through this, as if they were criticizing you for being too sensitive. If they can't understand you, support you, or even bring you harm, then it might be time to find someone else who can accept and understand you to talk to.

For instance, female colleagues, girlfriends, neighbors who have given birth to children, and the older generation are used to making sacrifices for their kids and take pride in it as a matter of course, so it's totally normal that they can't understand you. Find folks your age with similar experiences to chat with, and I'm sure they'll be able to give you more support.

If there are some products or things in life that your parents don't agree with, it might be best to just hand them over the scientific knowledge and let them slowly accept it. If you don't have the energy for that or it's difficult to do, then just show your adult confidence and say, "I know what I'm doing, I'm not harming the child or myself, and I can take responsibility for my actions!" I don't know if my husband can understand and support you here, but he is the person I should care about and trust the most.

If your husband is on your side, you can let him take care of things with other people, and save your energy for taking care of yourself.

It's totally normal to feel overwhelmed when you're expecting a baby. There are so many things to think about, and it's natural to worry about everything from breastfeeding to childcare to whether or not you should let your in-laws help out. But try not to stress too much about things you can't control yet, like whether your baby will want to breastfeed or if you'll have to send them to daycare. Take care of yourself, stay positive, and follow the principles of scientific parenting. You've got this!

? Finally, I don't see any objection from your husband to your actions in your writing, so I can understand that he actually supports you. It can be difficult to oppose parents and relatives, so he probably didn't choose a very obvious supportive behavior. But he is also a first-time father, so it is understandable that he is a little overwhelmed.

You can learn about scientific pregnancy and parenting together, including how to solve problems with your children in the future, discuss your children's education, and so on. You can be your husband's partner in this journey, and I truly believe that having each other's support will help you navigate any challenges that come your way.

I hope these thoughts help you see some new possibilities. You're not alone on this journey. Sending you lots of love ?

Hello. I see you're five months pregnant. You get depressed, anxious, and uncomfortable because you let other people's opinions influence you. I understand.

It's good you have your own thoughts. You don't want to live with your parents. You want to be free and more independent. But you are always depressed because of your family. You can't change the situation. You feel sad. I understand.

You blame your depression on your child. You feel trapped because of the anxiety/during-the-pre-pregnancy-period-some-are-hesitating-about-whether-to-quit-their-job-what-should-be-done-3564.html" target="_blank">pregnancy. Cognitive behavioral therapy has the ABC theory. A is the event, B is your perception, and C is your emotional response and behavior.

You think the pregnancy caused your depression. In fact, psychology believes your perception, not the event, is the cause.

For example, before the fifth month, you feel good about being pregnant. After the fifth month, you feel bad. This shows that the event itself cannot determine our emotions. What causes a change is what you believe and how you perceive it.

You wanted to do things your way, but your family said no. You wanted to be free, but your family said no. You attribute your lack of freedom to the baby. The baby can't make decisions, and your family's opinions determine how the baby grows up.

Your depression and lack of freedom are caused by compromising with your family. You can't stand up for yourself or be yourself.

Every choice has a price. If you obey your family and live the life they want, you will be controlled.

You can choose how to live your life. Your baby is your child, not a scapegoat.

Read parenting books, take classes, and talk to other mothers. You'll find you're not alone. Talking to others will help you relax.

Do positive meditation and relaxation exercises to relieve negative emotions. Read Wu Zhihong's book "Thank Yourself for Your Imperfections" to understand yourself better.

I'm happy to see that your husband loves you and has given you the freedom to have children. You're lucky to have a good husband who understands you. Let your husband accompany you outside and take a walk more often so you can communicate more. Express your anxieties and frustrations and plan for your future life and the raising of your children together.

You can consider other family members' opinions, but you don't have to listen to them. Respecting your feelings and following your wishes requires you and your husband to take responsibility. I hope you can become independent and live your true self. Good luck.

Good morning, my name is Strawberry.

After reviewing the questioner's responses, it became evident that she had initially anticipated the arrival of the baby with enthusiasm. However, following a series of anxiety/are-you-suspicious-of-your-husbands-flirtation-with-a-female-colleague-during-pregnancy-being-entangled-in-these-trivial-matters-is-driving-you-to-exhaustion-7868.html" target="_blank">pregnancy-related challenges, she began to perceive herself as inadequate for the role of motherhood.

One of the most common reactions experienced by pregnant women in the early stages of pregnancy is morning sickness. This can manifest as an urge to vomit when exposed to certain odours, such as cooking fumes, fish, or when feeling hungry.

In regard to the matter of morning sickness, I would like to share a somewhat unfortunate but amusing anecdote with the individual who posed the question. Even prior to becoming pregnant, I was already carrying excess weight. During the initial stages of pregnancy, I experienced a slight loss of weight due to morning sickness. During a routine pregnancy checkup, my husband informed the attending physician that I was experiencing severe morning sickness and had lost a few pounds. He inquired as to whether there were any potential ways to stop the vomiting. The physician then stated in my presence that it did not appear to be a severe case of morning sickness. I was at a loss for words, straddling the line between laughter and tears.

It is not advisable to believe the assertion that one can eat whatever one wants during pregnancy and that the nutrition will be absorbed by the child. It is important to note that everyone has a different body type, and it is therefore essential to maintain the same eating habits as before pregnancy. Additionally, regular walks are recommended to prevent significant changes in body shape.

Anxiety about one's ability to fulfill the role of a mother.

It is important to gain an understanding of the correct knowledge about pregnancy and postpartum care.

As you have no experience of pregnancy or the postpartum period, it is understandable that you feel anxious when you consider the various problems you may face. This is a common reaction. We become anxious because we cannot control the situation. As someone who has been in a similar position, I can empathise with your feelings.

To resolve this kind of emotion, it is necessary to allow us to calmly face what has not yet happened. The questioner is encouraged to seek advice from relatives or friends around them who already have experience, and they are also advised to read parenting books more often. If they have the necessary resources, they are also encouraged to take a course on pregnancy and parenting.

Gaining knowledge and experience allows us to prepare for future challenges. Even if we encounter a similar situation in the future, we will be able to respond effectively because we have already learned from past experiences.

Following the birth of the child, time spent with the parents will facilitate the formation of an attachment. British psychoanalyst Bowlby proposed four attachment types: secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized.

It would be beneficial for the original poster to learn how to interact with the baby properly. The original poster's baby has also moved this month, and interaction is a form of prenatal education. As the original poster becomes more and more fond of interacting with the baby, the original poster will also be able to accept the changes after becoming pregnant.

Identify the most suitable individual to act as an impartial listener.

When the questioner experienced anxiety about various matters, they sought counsel from family and friends. However, they informed them that this was the inevitable consequence of prioritizing the child's well-being and that they would have to make significant compromises for the sake of the child.

It is also important to identify the most suitable individual to engage in conversation, as an unsuitable listener may exacerbate feelings of distress and attempt to influence opinions through the sharing of personal experiences and perceptions.

From observing the people around you in your daily life, you can identify who would be a more suitable listener for you. There are times when we simply require someone to listen to us and provide a degree of comfort, rather than being given instructions.

It is important to avoid becoming overly anxious about matters that have not yet occurred.

Provided the expectant mother is in good health, has undergone the requisite prenatal checkups, is not deficient in calcium or anemic, and has no contraindications to the use of the product in question, there is no need for concern. If the expectant mother herself does not wish to take the product, she is at liberty to decline. I am unaware of the specific manner in which the expectant mother ingests DHA, but it is typically provided in a capsule-like coating that can be taken orally with water. I have conducted my own comparison, and I have found that babies who take DHA exhibit enhanced cognitive abilities.

If you are not comfortable with the idea of living with your parents, the questioner's husband has stated that he and the postpartum care provider will assist with childcare. If the questioner plans to resume work after the baby is born, there will be no issue with weaning. Formula milk provides superior nutrition to breast milk, and it is also highly convenient. Breastfeeding is beneficial for the mother's health, as it can prevent conditions such as breast hyperplasia.

It is important to note that the advice provided by others may vary greatly, as each individual's experience is unique. Following the birth of your child, you will retain your personal autonomy and space. The key to a smooth transition is effective division of responsibilities between you and your spouse.

After giving birth, our bodies will require a period of recuperation. Therefore, if the questioner plans to resume work after childbirth, it is advisable to allow approximately three months for rest and recovery. This will help to prevent the onset of various aches and pains.

The questioner is perfectly capable of arranging many things on their own. If someone else's words are agreeable, then consider them; if not, disregard them. Don't take it too seriously; you are ultimately responsible for your own decisions.

I hope this information is useful to the questioner. Best regards,

Hi, I'm Vera. I'm a mom of a fifteen-year-old and I can relate to your anxiety, so I'd like to talk to you about my feelings.

Once you're pregnant, those who've already had kids will share their experiences and what they've learned.

This is just her own understanding, and it doesn't mean everyone else is the same.

I've learned that nowadays, hospitals require expectant mothers to stay happy, eat whatever they want, and make sure everything is in balance. So, you just need to eat sensibly according to your own physical condition. Old people's wisdom was accumulated over the course of their lives, and it might not be suitable for modern people.

You can subscribe to pregnancy and parenting magazines to learn more. Just a heads-up: Foods that make you feel bad aren't absorbed by your baby.

From what I can see, your family has made some great plans for you. What are your plans for yourself and your child after the birth?

Are you planning to keep working after you have the baby? What are your thoughts on your company's maternity leave policy?

What are your plans for feeding your baby? Will you breastfeed or bottle-feed?

Who's going to be looking after the baby? How will you do it?

Who's going to be the one to put the baby to sleep at night? It's important to think through all the details about the baby and yourself, otherwise you'll get distracted by what everyone else is saying.

Raising a child is tough. Motherhood is a role and a lifelong career, but there's no training for it. You have to rely on instinct and constantly work with your child to develop your own system. So what other people tell you isn't necessarily what you'll go through, or you can use a better way to resolve some of the difficulties that others encounter.

Every story has two sides. On the one hand, raising a child is not easy. But when your child makes you melt, you'll feel the effort is worthwhile. Being a mother is also a process of self-growth and self-correction. So, study more and go for it, mums-to-be!

Good day. I can see that you are experiencing some confusion at the moment, so I would like to offer you my support.

I recognize that you are experiencing some marital issues. Please accept my condolences.

You are currently 32 years of age, which would indicate that this is your first pregnancy.

It is accurate to conclude that pregnancy can be a challenging period. Morning sickness and other symptoms are typical reactions.

If you are concerned about your ability to care for your child after birth, you may wish to consider enrolling in a parenting class.

If your husband is available, I recommend that you bring him with you to the parenting class.

The character of the child will be greatly influenced by the current emotions of the mother.

This is an ideal opportunity to learn a new skill, such as English.

I have been proficient in the English language since my primary school days.

I have been speaking fluent English since primary school.

Additionally, you may wish to consider purchasing a pregnancy guide, which will provide detailed information on the physical changes that occur throughout the different stages of pregnancy.

Once you have the aforementioned information, you will no longer experience the same level of anxiety.

I hope that a solution to the problem you are facing can be found soon.

I have no further suggestions at this time.

I hope my above responses are helpful and inspiring to you. I am available to answer any further questions you may have.

At Yixinli, we extend our best wishes to you and your family.

Hello. I can tell from your description that you're feeling anxious, depressed, helpless, and confused.

When you first found out you were pregnant, you were excited. But now, with morning sickness, changes to your body, and worries about your future child's care, you're feeling uncomfortable and anxious.

During this time, pregnancy can bring some unexpected feelings that you might not have experienced before. It's important to have the understanding, acceptance, and support of your family and friends during this period.

However, your family and friends will tell you that you should be patient and accept that you have lost your own life with the arrival of a child.

On the one hand, you feel like no one gets you and you're on your own, facing an uncertain future with a lot of fear and powerlessness.

This can really add to your stress and anxiety levels.

On the other hand, you might find yourself projecting these uncomfortable feelings and fears about the future onto your future child.

It can also make you question your expectations of your child. Sometimes, you might even think that it's the child who's making you miserable and that you'd be better off without him.

Maybe you feel like the child has taken away the attention and love that your family used to give you.

You're caught in a state of infinite fear for the future and resentment towards your child.

↗️ Accept yourself and the present moment.

Pregnancy, with its physical changes and the stress of work and life, can make you feel anxious or depressed, more or less. Especially if you don't have the understanding and support of your family, some pregnant women even suffer from antenatal depression.

It's helpful to be aware of your emotions in the moment and see what changes have taken place in your heart.

It's important to accept and understand your emotions. It's not your fault, and it's not the child's fault.

↗️ Ask your husband for help and work through the problem together.

It seems like your husband is on your side and willing to help with some practical issues.

Also, having a child is your own business with your husband. It's a good idea to communicate and solve problems with your husband more than with other family members.

It's a good idea to work together with your husband. You're in charge of your own home, so don't worry about what other people say. Just live your own life.

Wishing you the best!

Hello, question asker! I am Enoch, your answerer.

From what the questioner has shared, it seems that although she has been pregnant for several months, she may not yet be fully prepared mentally to embrace the role of motherhood. It's possible that she is still struggling to strike a healthy balance within herself regarding the responsibilities, self-sacrifice, and potential restrictions on her freedom that come with being a mother.

From the details of the question, it seems that the husband is actually very understanding and willing to take care of the children, and is also willing to find a nanny and a maid to take care of the author. This may also be the reason why the author is willing to marry her husband. It seems that the author has indeed found a good husband who treasures her.

However, the questioner also heard some comments from family members. They said that after the child is born, the mother's care is definitely indispensable, and that she herself will not be able to bear not to take good care of the child. From the questioner's description, it seems that the questioner feels more aggrieved in her family's response. It may be that her family members could perhaps offer more comfort to the questioner, which might help to lift her spirits.

From my own experience, I believe that having children can help a woman feel more complete in the long run. I would also recommend reading the book "Peirong's Motherly Wisdom" if you have not already done so. It offers a positive perspective on the role of motherhood and how it can enhance a woman's sense of self. Teacher Jiang Peirong made the choice to prioritize her role as a wife and mother, which involved stepping back from her career. However, this experience ultimately led to her becoming a better version of herself. She hopes to share her insights and support other mothers in embracing their roles as princesses.

A girl will experience the mutual love between family members in the process of becoming a mother, which is a better feeling that transcends many external changes and brings inner fulfillment. Therefore, it is unlikely that the questioner will have any concerns. Many celebrities can be good mothers, and it is possible that the questioner can too. Reading this book might be helpful to the questioner.

Hello, host!

Give yourself a big, warm hug, 32-year-old mother-to-be!

I just wanted to let you know that I've realized something. Your husband loves you so much that he's afraid of your bad mood and comforts you. When the baby is born, your husband and I will give you your freedom!

I see what it looks like to be married to love.

The poor landlord complains a lot, her body is out of shape, she has no freedom, and she feels hopeless. It's so sad, but it's really the hormones in the body that are to blame.

Hormones can make you feel a little moody sometimes. It's totally normal! Many pregnant women and new mothers are prone to feeling a bit down.

Of course, family support is very important here, and so are your own efforts!

It's so important to realize that your anxiety and fear are caused by depressive emotions. You need to learn to make friends with depression.

I recently read a quote that I really like, and I just had to share it with you!

We all have two selves: the real self and the judging self. It can be really exhausting for the judging self to keep asking itself whether this is right or wrong every day, so it's important to talk to it!

I'm so glad you mentioned this! I've been wondering if I'll get stretch marks after giving birth. It seems like everyone is paying attention to the baby, but not to me! I think these are all the work of the judgmental self.

It's so important to let your true self come out and give the judgmental self a break. Let your true self go out and play for a while!

Second, writing is a wonderful way to process your thoughts. You can write them down to see them in a different light, or you can read or copy books on the same topic.

It's such a treat to explore ideas with philosophers!

Third, I really recommend that you try to get in touch with meditation and exercise more. They're both great ways to regulate your emotions!

I love you, world! And I love you too!

Greetings,

A woman who has previously enjoyed a relatively free and carefree existence suddenly finds herself assuming the role of mother, with all the responsibilities that entails. It is not uncommon to experience a certain degree of unhappiness and confusion during this period. Progesterone may also play a role in causing unhappiness that is difficult to regulate.

When the focus shifts to the unborn child, it can be a jarring experience to suddenly feel like a younger version of one's own parents. This reversal of roles can evoke a sense of being unimportant and of the world's indifference.

Indeed, from the moment a woman decides to become a mother, she does indeed bear a significant degree of responsibility and burden. The various physical and emotional reactions during pregnancy, the change in body shape and appearance, stretch marks, the pain of breastfeeding after giving birth, and even the seemingly mundane moments of a child's growth and development, all of these factors collectively demand a substantial portion of a mother's energy. Despite this, many mothers still feel as though they have not done enough.

It would be prudent, however, not to abandon hope at this point. As a mother myself, I am able to attest to the unique and profound joy that this experience offers, which is not commonly known to others.

The initial utterance of "mommy" by a child, regardless of gender, is a profoundly joyous and emotional experience for parents. It is a moment that can erase years of accumulated grievances. As parents accompany their children through their developmental stages, they undergo a process of personal growth and reflection. This often involves a subconscious comparison between themselves and their own mothers, leading to a more transparent and authentic self-perception.

The process of giving birth is undoubtedly arduous, yet it is also profoundly meaningful. When one is advanced in age and recounting their experiences as a mother to others, one will invariably feel a profound sense of joy, despite the challenges encountered along the way. At the very least, one can take solace in the knowledge that they have left behind a legacy of care and affection for their children, who will always remember them.

Hello, mother! I totally get where you're coming from in your description. Motherhood is an incredible profession. I'm so excited to share some tips that I hope will help you!

You said in the article that you are 32 years old and are only having a baby now. At the age of 32, you are considered to be a relatively elderly mother, which is great because it means you're getting older and wiser with each passing year! It's also a very normal phenomenon that many mothers will experience, so you're not alone in feeling this way.

But for the poster, you're looking forward to having a baby, and that's a wonderful thing! However, you may also be experiencing some mild symptoms of antenatal depression. It's natural to think about the future and worry about a few things, but try not to let it overwhelm you.

Often, behind beautiful ideals, there are more unseen disappointments—but don't let that stop you!

During pregnancy, there are so many things that new mothers get to pay attention to and avoid! As you said in your article, there are so many foods to eat and so many things to try. You can tell your family that you're doing it all for the baby, and they'll be so proud of you! This feeling of being tied down and restricted can lead to depression, but there are so many things to look forward to!

Once you've given birth, you'll probably have lots of questions. You might be wondering: Who will take care of the baby in the future? What if you need to find someone to take care of the baby?

If you put the baby in a nursery, you may feel uneasy, but there's no need to worry!

The good news is that you don't need to worry about these issues! The internet is so well-developed nowadays that if you have any questions you don't know the answer to, you can just ask the doctors at the hospital. After all, they are the professionals! Some people say that before giving birth, what issues should you pay attention to? What should you pay attention to in terms of diet?

Now that I've given birth, what are some of the things I should keep an eye on?

When it comes to child rearing, don't be afraid to ask your mother-in-law or your own mother for help! They've been there and done that, and they're ready to share their experience with you.

And there's more good news! National policies have now been relaxed, and if you work, the company will have childcare leave.

Now it's time to relax, go out more often, spend more time chatting with your husband, and get yourself in a good mood to welcome the new life!

Hello, I'm Qu Huidong, your friendly counselor who loves using imagery!

The fifth month of pregnancy can be a bit of a rollercoaster!

It's totally normal to feel a bit anxious when morning sickness hasn't stopped, your belly is starting to show, and you're worried about the "troubles" after the baby is born.

If you could, would you go back in time to when you first got pregnant?

I'd love to know how you looked forward to the arrival of your little bundle of joy!

I'd love to know what preparations you made for the arrival of your little one!

I'd love to know how you felt when you discovered that the baby had implanted!

I'm sure you remember the feeling of seeing that little bean sprout for the first time on the ultrasound report!

I'm sure you were over the moon when you heard the heartbeat on the monitor!

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As a new mom, you get to experience the incredible miracle of bringing a new life into the world. But, of course, there's also a lot of uncertainty that comes with it.

I know it's tough, but we can get through this together. It's so important to try to calm your emotions. I think that's why you're here, to find ways to help you feel more stable.

How can I keep my emotions in check during this exciting but sometimes overwhelming time? I've got a few tips that might help!

1. Talk to your baby: These 10 months are the period when you are most closely connected. If you want your baby to be a "peace of mind" cutie after birth, you cannot let him/her be in a constantly tense belly. You can tell your baby what you are doing, where you are touching, and what happy things you encountered today (others' or your own) while massaging your belly every day.

2. Talk to yourself: Write down your worries and fears without any judgment or evaluation. After writing freely, your emotions will generally become calmer. Then you can choose to tear up the finished paper and flush it away.

3. Read parenting books with your husband: It is really quite responsible of your husband to take the initiative to raise the baby. Reading parenting books together will make you more comfortable as new parents, and you can find answers to some of your worries in the books.

For example, you said you'll lose your freedom just to feed your baby. No, you won't! Babies have a routine, and as long as we observe and understand their daily schedule, we'll still have our own time.

I would highly, highly recommend The Hills Guide to Parenting. It's a very practical book that I found really helpful when I was raising my two little ones.

And finally, I just want to wish you a lovely, smooth, happy pregnancy!

Hello!

Hugs! You should feel a mix of pain and sweetness. This is how I felt when I was pregnant for the first time. It's not easy being a new mother.

When a baby is growing inside you, your hormones change. This is normal. I was also 30 and pregnant. At that time, I was happy and worried. Sometimes I just wanted to give up. Here I can see that you are just worried about raising the baby, while I was just worried about giving birth.

I was worried throughout my pregnancy. I didn't want to change or feel affection for my child. But people change as you get to know them. So now I think about those worries and I was a bit of a worrywart.

We worry the most about things we haven't experienced. Once they happen, we're more relaxed. So I think your problems are just in your head. When the real thing comes, it may not be as bad as you think. For example, the problem of the elderly taking care of the child! You said you'd hire a postpartum helper, which could mean the elderly will take care of the child. My husband is also very helpful. After the postpartum period, we'll be better able to deal with problems.

The problem with the green expansion is not impossible to solve. If the situation allows, it can be done. There is no need to worry. We know there is a generation gap, but there will be friction at first. If it doesn't work, there will be a solution. Don't think about it too much.

My husband and the postpartum care lady said I can raise the child however I want. I have to give your husband a big thumbs up. With a baby that young, he will want his mother. As long as there is food, she will sleep well. I don't think you need to worry about that. But I think you want freedom from worrying about the child. If you do care about the child, you will feel more and more affection for the child.

Once you have feelings for your child, you feel you can't live without them. The bond with your child will become stronger over time. Mothers are strong.

I was weak and feeble as a child. I never thought I'd be so attentive and loving towards my child. I always feel happy.

You'll find a way to get through this stage and welcome your child into your life.

I love you!

You have expressed your unhappiness as a mother-to-be throughout the article. However, I see a pregnant mother who loves her child to the extreme. Why do I say that?

You need to identify the sources of your anger.

Your thoughts and needs during pregnancy have been rejected by those closest to you for one reason: "the mother of your child." Your anger and negative emotions stem from the feeling that your feelings and needs are not accepted and that your emotions are not seen. You "hate" those who vetoed you, not the child. The child is a shield for everyone's rejection and demands, not the source of your pain.

The cause of suffering is clear.

You describe a lot of other people's opinions, and these opinions all have one thing in common: they're all good for the child. When these opinions are inconsistent with your inner vision, you will fall into a kind of pain because these opinions seem to be right, but they don't take into account "my" needs and feelings. When "my" needs conflict with "what's good for the child," you will instinctively feel like you have to sacrifice yourself, and sacrificing yourself is unpleasant.

You must understand that it is not the child's needs that are in conflict with yours. The child does not want anything. It is your needs that are in conflict with the opinions of others.

Let me be clear: The nature of contradiction

Don't be afraid of being judged by the outside world as an inadequate mother. You want to be a great mother, and you will be.

It's time to accept the imperfect art of parenting. You and your unborn baby are both independent individuals. You may be exactly the same as everyone else, but you are also unique. Don't be bound by other people's experiences.

Let me be clear: I am not denying the reality of scientific pregnancy. I respect science, and I also respect the feelings and needs of the pregnant mother. Her feelings and needs must be taken seriously and taken into account when making decisions.

Love yourself to be a more powerful parent!

You must respect your own needs to respect your child's needs!

I am a listener and psychological answer master [Xiao Yun], and I will become your spiritual growth coach!

I wish you a happy and healthy pregnancy!

Hello, dear!

You and I had the exact same experience at the beginning of our pregnancies, sweetheart. It's totally normal to have both anticipation and anxiety. We just don't have a sense of control or certainty about the unknown, and we're more or less afraid of it, which leads to all kinds of thoughts.

As a mother-to-be, you'll go through all kinds of physical and emotional changes. I used to wonder why I had to be a woman and go through the pain of giving birth. Even after giving birth, I had to face the challenges of raising a child. But I promise you, when you give birth to a child, the moment you see your child, you'll know it's all worth it.

Every time your little one smiles at you, you'll feel like the luckiest person in the world! And there's nothing more special than when your child rolls over, sits up, and says "Mama" for the first time.

Even though this might feel a little far away right now, let's talk about something closer to home. When you first feel your little one move, it's a truly magical moment. It's a feeling that no one else can quite describe. This kind of communication is something only pregnant mums can experience.

Mothers are great because they pass on new life. And they're happy too! They get to experience things that men can't, like the connection with the fetus.

And there's another wonderful thing about having a child: you get to embark on a whole new journey of personal growth, redemption, and healing as you raise your little one.

I have a second child now, and I feel so good about it! I really hope everything goes well for you too, and that you get what you want.

The individual in question transitioned from a state of anticipation to one of internal resistance in regard to the forthcoming birth of their child. This shift is elucidated through the use of language.

The morning sickness, the changes in my body, and the care that the future child will need all contribute to a sense of discomfort and anxiety.

I am concerned about the potential for developing stretch marks in the future and have purchased a product to apply daily. My family is seeking reassurance that it will not affect the fetus. I am reluctant to apply it due to the taste of DHA and the potential for nausea. Even my parents have advised me to consume it for the sake of the baby.

I am not inclined to reside with the elderly. Those who have preceded me in life have advised that once a child is born, one must endure the situation, even if it is not one's preference. Children are dependent on their mothers, and they cannot accompany their parents to work. I suggested that one could secure childcare, but then the child would be attending that facility, and it is well-known that children are unhappy in childcare settings.

My husband indicated that having a child would provide him and the nanny with greater freedom, but my parents and other relatives advised me that I would not be free while breastfeeding and that I would understand the implications when the time came. I inquired with my husband, who stated that if the child desired to be with its mother, there was nothing he could do.

When the original poster shared her experiences with family and friends, she anticipated receiving support and understanding. However, she encountered feedback that was perceived as intimidating. It's possible that there was an unintentional projection of feelings of jealousy and revenge.

They are envious of what they never had and resentful of what they suffered.

This undoubtedly increases the level of anxiety experienced by the individual in question.

Statements like these make you feel that the child has not brought you any positive benefits, except for these negative effects like anxiety, pain, ugliness, and lack of freedom, which have a significant impact on your overall well-being.

As a result, the original poster's anticipation for the child's arrival also dissipated.

If this is the case, why should I anticipate his arrival? I naturally dislike this unborn child, and it is already a positive outcome if I do not hate him.

The statements made by your family and friends may be partially accurate, or they may simply reflect their personal experiences with a degree of embellishment.

However, the questioner has interpreted these statements as facts and as the whole story. It would be beneficial for the questioner to verify this information for themselves.

It is analogous to the story of "The Little Horse Crossing the River."

From the text, it is evident that the questioner places a high value on life experience. In the short term, having a child will undoubtedly evoke a different emotional response than when the individual was infertile. This response may be positive or negative, but it will undoubtedly be distinct from the individual's previous experience.

Conversely, if pregnancy and infertility are no different from before, the significance and value of "pregnancy" will be negated. There will be no "new stage in life" either.

It is precisely these different changes that drive people to seek new experiences.

It is important to note that pregnancy and child-rearing represent only a minor aspect of an individual's life. The questioner's apparent despair, depression, and inability to let go may have inadvertently led them to perceive this aspect as the entirety of their life going forward. It is unlikely that anyone would experience hopelessness or depression if they were to adopt this perspective.

It would be beneficial to consider your own personal growth process, as well as to listen to your parents or other individuals who can provide insight into your development. Their experiences may assist the questioner in better comprehending and valuing the intricacies of pregnancy.

I hope you find this information helpful. Best regards,

Dear author, Huge congratulations on reaching five months pregnant! This is such a joyous event in life!

You were so excited for your little one, but morning sickness, changes to your body, and the expectations of others have made you feel a bit overwhelmed and anxious! I have four kids myself, so I totally get it. It's easy to get caught up in the idea that your life is all about the child, but we also have our own lives and interests. It's okay to want to maintain a balance between enjoying your child and also taking care of yourself.

It's totally normal to feel anxious about the future. It's natural to worry about the uncertainty of it all, and it can even make you feel less expectant of your child.

As a pregnant mom, your body's hormone levels will naturally be different during pregnancy. It's totally normal for our emotions to change a lot during this time! With so much conflicting advice from those around us, it can make us feel a bit lost.

I'd highly recommend reading more parenting books to find out what's good for your little one and what to avoid. That way, when people around you give you the wrong advice, you'll be able to have a good, constructive conversation with them!

For example, as you said, you can apply some olive oil to prevent stretch marks. This has absolutely no effect on the fetus and can prevent stretch marks! In addition, a scientific diet can also prevent stretch marks!

If you don't like the taste of DHA, no problem! Just try another product that you can accept. I remember that I had an upset stomach after taking a calcium tablet, but it didn't happen when I switched to another product!

As for who will take care of the baby after birth, breastfeeding or whatever, just wait and see what happens! Because these assumptions can only be made on the day itself, it is better to relax and let nature take its course than to create anxiety in advance.

Some babies are especially sweet and love their mommas, so there's no need to fret about how to raise them or who will refuse to do so! Maybe your little one is one of those babies, so take a deep breath and relax, expectant mother!

You can read some books and listen to some relaxing music now. It's so important to take care of yourself during pregnancy! A mother with a good mood during pregnancy will have a particularly cute and intelligent baby, which is also easier to take care of. This is the conclusion of a research study!

Also, it's so common for people to give you advice about what's good or bad for your child based on their own experiences. It's totally up to you to decide what's best for your little one! I've found that it's often more important for the mother to be happy.

I remember that during my pregnancy, I really wanted to eat ice cream, but everyone around me said that pregnant women shouldn't eat it! But the more I resisted, the more I wanted to eat it, so I decided to indulge myself!

I haven't eaten since then, so please don't be too hard on yourself as long as it doesn't affect you too much!

I remember the day my baby was born. I felt so blessed to have such a cute baby, and it was the best gift! I truly believe you will feel the same way when your little one is born. Your child will love you so much, just like I love my mom!

I'll be waiting to hear the wonderful news of your baby's birth! I'm already looking forward to it! Sending you my warmest wishes!

Good morning, expectant mother. You are currently five months pregnant, and you have observed the movement of your baby in your abdomen.

The baby grows day by day, and the mother grows tired day by day. The vomiting reaction, the change in appearance, and the careless words of your family members have brought you pressure. You are feeling a little anxious, so I will keep you company and chat with you.

Firstly, it is important to note that every expectant mother will experience certain physical discomforts as a result of pregnancy. These can include vomiting, body deformation and the development of stretch marks. However, these are all normal reactions that will subside once the child is born and the hormones return to normal levels. It is also important to recognise that this process will involve an adjustment period for the mother's psychology and physiology. It is therefore advisable to seek support from other expectant mothers, listen to some pregnancy music, read some books on the subject and actively engage in activities that are beneficial for the body and mind.

For example, you should allow your husband to accompany you to observe the flora and fauna, listen to the avian population, and engage in future-oriented thinking about your child, including their potential naming conventions and other characteristics.

Secondly, there is a concern that residing with one's parents may present inconveniences regarding food, accommodation, and transportation. It is important to note that these potential issues have not yet materialized. While it is reasonable to consider these possibilities, it is crucial to maintain a realistic outlook and avoid undue apprehension.

Your husband has assumed responsibility for the role, and your family is prepared to provide assistance. Child-rearing is a duty shared by the entire family. It is essential to prioritize your health to ensure your baby's well-being and to allow natural processes to unfold.

Third, attempt to replace anxiety with anticipation. You will discover that there is a whole new world in front of you. You may feel miserable and wish you hadn't gotten pregnant, but this is due to the vomiting and other physical reactions that affect your mood.

This child is the expectation of the whole family, and also the continuation of your life. He will bring you infinite joy. When you have time, please take the opportunity to observe the innocent, smiling faces of children in their early years of education. The simple actions of these children are a beautiful thing to behold.

Fourth, the gift of true love is life. It is important to maintain a positive outlook and avoid allowing external factors to negatively impact your mood or that of your child. This is your first pregnancy, your first experience nurturing life, and there are many unknowns involved. It is natural to experience some challenges in dealing with these circumstances.

However, you are not alone. Your husband, parents, and in-laws are all with you. Family is always your most reliable support. You are worth it. How many people are suffering from infertility? They would rather let themselves go to ugliness than not have a child of their own. Do you know how much they envy you? Cheer up. Your little one is coming soon. You will become more beautiful because of him, and your little family will become happier with his arrival.

Let me extend my support and encouragement to you. I'm here to help, so please don't hesitate to reach out.