Her husband is particularly naive in thought, not thorough in considering issues, like a child?

Dear Question Asker,

It appears that your marriage has reached a period of relative stability. Your husband's apparent neglect and indifference, as well as

The dearth of communication between the two parties has resulted in feelings of profound disillusionment and disappointment. There is a palpable desire to salvage the marriage.

It is evident that you are experiencing a sense of helplessness.

It is evident that your husband displays childish behavior, a lack of complexity in his thinking, and an inability to empathize with you.

The inability to comprehend one's emotional states and necessities gives rise to feelings of indignation.

Despite a desire to salvage the marriage, the individual in question experiences a sense of powerlessness and helplessness, accompanied by a profound fatigue.

It is unclear how many years you have been married. Could you please elaborate on the foundation of your relationship and the point at which it began to deteriorate?

At what point did the relationship begin to deteriorate?

It is unclear whether you are employed outside the home, as the responsibility of childcare can be a significant source of stress, even for those who are not engaged in paid work.

Furthermore, men are typically unaware of the exhaustion women experience, which can be perceived as being on par with the difficulties associated with work.

The effort required is considerable.

The question thus arises as to how one might initiate such a conversation.

It is essential to consider the attitude and tone that should be employed when expressing pent-up emotions and dissatisfaction with the marriage.

What kind of attitude and tone should be employed?

Should one carry a sense of accusation and complaint, it may prompt the other party to choose silence and avoidance.

It is recommended that you attempt to express your needs directly, inform him of your feelings, and engage in discourse regarding the nature of your interactions during the period of your relationship.

What was the nature of the interaction in question, and how did the feeling of being taken care of dissipate?

When an attempt is made to express oneself in a negotiated and discussion-oriented manner, the effect may be different.

Discuss mutual interests and other shared connections.

Ultimately, it is my hope that you will be able to rekindle the joy that marriage once brought you.

Hello, dear questioner! I'm Whale Social Worker 53 Hz.

Sending lots of love to the OP ヽ(

It's so hard! The question asker is now not only responsible for her own child, but also for her husband. It's like having to raise two children. I can see she's having a hard time, so I give her a big hug.

From what the questioner said, it seems like her husband might not think deeply enough about things. I think it would be great if the questioner could directly state the topic she wants to discuss. That way, her husband can follow along and really understand what she's saying. And I think it would be really helpful if the questioner could also encourage her husband to take on more responsibility at home.

I saw a video once where the wife looked at her husband doing nothing and she also felt like doing nothing, taking care of her own meals and laundry. Over time, her husband will also feel that this kind of life is not what he wants. It's a great lesson to learn through experience!

Maybe it's because he hasn't had the chance to learn these things before, and no one has shown him how to handle certain situations or how to think about things. That's okay! The questioner can choose to teach him step by step, so that he knows how to shoulder his current responsibilities.

Wishing you all the best! (Yi Xinli Whale Social Worker)