High school students, with their heavy study pressure, feel sad when their parents and close friends are not around.

Hello, question asker.

When you first arrive in a new environment, you are not surrounded by your parents, classmates, or loved ones, you have not yet made any close friends, and you are having difficulty with your studies. I understand how lonely you feel without friends and how helpless you feel when you have difficulty telling someone about your problems. So, let me give you a warm hug.

From what you've said, it's clear that the two main issues troubling you are the difficulty of the studies and the loneliness of not having friends or family around. Let's talk about these two issues.

Let's talk about your studies first.

Let's talk about your studies.

You stated that after three months in your first year of high school, you found every subject to be extremely challenging and the workload to be overwhelming.

The transition from junior high school to high school is a big step, and the difficulty of the academic work is also step-by-step. You're right to feel the difficulty of this step-up, given the difference in academic rigour between the three years of junior high school and the first year of high school. I'm sure other students feel the same, but you don't communicate with your classmates much, so you don't know how others are doing.

You haven't yet adapted to the new environment and don't have the support of friends around you. This has made the difficulty of the work seem overwhelming. Once you have adapted to your surroundings, made good friends at school and adjusted to the difficulty of the academic work, you will be able to get through the days ahead.

(2) You get up earlier than a chicken and go to bed later than a dog. You know there's an even more difficult second year of high school ahead of you, and you're going to be ready for it.

You are a hardworking child who wants to achieve better results through your own efforts. However, your hard work has also made you tired. The effect of your efforts has not been what you wanted, and we have not been trying hard in the right direction. We will adjust our direction.

First, adjust your study methods. It's only been three months since the semester started, and there's still not that much to learn. Take your time and don't rush to keep up with the progress. Find out why you still feel so hard even though you've worked so hard. Is it because you haven't mastered a certain knowledge point, or is it a problem with your comprehension skills?

Break the problem down. You can solve a large part of it by just filling in one piece of knowledge.

Second, adjust your mindset. You need to be relaxed and focused to learn effectively.

You need to focus on the present. Think about each class and each assignment. Don't worry about how difficult it will be in your second year of high school or what your test scores will be.

You can do this. When you can devote all your energy to every class and every assignment, studying won't be so difficult.

You are not lonely.

(1) Most of your junior high school classmates are not in the same high school. After three months in high school, you have not made any good friends. This means you have no one at school to talk to and have to suffer alone when things go wrong.

I understand your loneliness and helplessness. It takes time to adapt to a new environment, and everyone adapts at a different pace. You are an introvert, so it's normal for you to take time to warm up. Add to that the fact that you had to adapt to two new environments in three months, and it's understandable that you feel a bit anxious.

However, your story makes it clear that you had good friends in junior high school for three years and that you also had someone you liked. There is no problem with your social skills. You have your own unique personality charm.

Your personality charm will help you win new friendships. It's just a matter of time before everyone gets to know each other better.

(2) You know you'll have to go through the same thing for another three years if you don't want to end up miserable. You miss your parents, and you know they miss you too.

(2) You have been a boarding student and a left-behind child for three years in junior high school. You know you will have to go through another three years like this in the future, and you don't like it. You miss your parents very much, and you know they miss you too.

You often think to yourself, "My family would be better off financially if only my parents didn't have to work so hard and could spend more time with me."

From your description, it's clear you're a filial and kind child. Despite your parents not accompanying you during your three-year stay, you didn't complain. You understand their hard work and difficulties.

Your kindness and understanding will undoubtedly help you make more friends in the future.

(3) I want to grow up quickly, get into a good university, earn a lot of money, go to places I want to go, do things I want to do, and love the people I want to love. These are my goals, and I am going to achieve them.

You're already great at having a clear goal to work towards at such a young age! However, this goal seems a bit too big and vague. It can only show you a direction, but it's hard to give you the motivation to achieve it.

Set smaller, more specific goals. With a specific goal, you know what to do. For example, within one month, get a subject that you are relatively good at under control. Then, formulate a concrete plan and execute it carefully.

Once you improve your grades in one subject, you will gain confidence and find it easier to adapt to other subjects.

You will achieve your big goal when you achieve each of these small goals.

I am certain that my reply will be helpful. The world and I love you!

Hi there. You've just started high school and it's a lot to take on. You don't have your parents around, you haven't made any good friends yet, and the person you like goes to a different school. The unfamiliar environment and people are making you feel stressed.

You want to get into a good university, work hard to earn a lot of money, improve today's economic environment, and allow yourself to do what you like. It's a lot to take on, and it can feel difficult and a bit unattainable, making you feel anxious and confused. I'm here to give you a hug from afar and hope that my sharing can give you a little warmth and support.

If you're too attached to your parents, you might find it difficult to face the world on your own.

You mentioned in your description that you started boarding school in junior high school and became a left-behind child. It's understandable that you miss your parents and hope to be by their side. I can sense your strong attachment to your parents, and at the same time, they must love you very much.

You made it through three years of boarding school in junior high, made friends, and even found a love interest. You proved that you can do great things. Even without your parents around, you were able to manage your life well. Now that you're in high school, I believe you have the same ability.

As we've grown up, our parents will be around less and less. We'll need to learn to face life independently, believing that we have the ability to cope with the study and life of the high school stage.

Break down your long-term goals into specific milestones.

You want to get into a good university, earn a lot of money after you start working, and do the things you want to do. This goal is very clear and great.

You can use this broad goal to break it down into smaller, more specific goals for different stages of your life, such as high school, college, and entering the workforce. Then, you can create a plan for achieving these goals based on the time frame, starting with the near-term and working towards the long-term.

For instance, you could set a goal of getting into a good university and create a study plan for the first year of high school to the third year of high school. Once you break down your goals into smaller steps, you'll find that many unclear areas will gradually become clear.

When you have a goal in mind and a plan in hand, it's easier to stay calm and focused. You know that every step you take is bringing you closer to your goal.

Be brave and take that first step.

No matter what you're struggling with, whether it's studying or making friends, just take that first step and you'll find that there's always a way forward. I'm really worried about you, seeing you alone and bearing the pressure of high school studies and life.

You're not alone. Your parents, teachers, and classmates are all people you can turn to for help. If you're brave enough to ask for help when you need it, you'll find people there for you.

As you took the initiative to ask for help on the platform today, even though we've never met, everyone is showing you warmth and support through their actions. And let's not forget your teachers and classmates, with whom you spend every waking moment.

I'm sure they'll be happy to help.

Find a learning method that works for you.

If you're looking to improve, you can take a look at your high school studies and identify what you did well and what you need to work on. You can also observe classmates with good academic performance to see what they do differently and ask them for advice.

I hope this is helpful.

Hello!

From what you've said, it seems like you're facing a new environment and a lot of pressure to learn, and you need the support of close relationships, but it seems like you can't get it. Is that right?

You're right, intimacy is important at any stage of life. But you're going through a period of change, so it's important to keep your existing relationships strong and make new friends at school. Try to have a good mix of both.

At the very least, you can maintain the close relationships you already have, which will help you adapt to your new environment.

Even though your parents are far away, mobile phone contact is still very convenient. Let me tell you a little trick. When chatting with your parents, you can talk about more than just your studies. You can also talk about the school environment, introduce new teachers and classmates, and talk about things that have attracted your attention at school.

Use your interest in your new school to broaden the scope of your conversations with your parents and old friends. You can discuss the specifics of your studies and life. The more you have in common with them, the more natural and intimate your relationship will become.

When it comes to making new friends, it might be a good idea to look for classmates with a similar family background.

If you feel a bit left out when you try to get to know your classmates, remember that this new environment isn't full of people who make you feel down. Don't rush to place too much hope in classmates you don't get along with at first. Give yourself time and optimistic wishes. Even if you sometimes feel that your self-esteem has been hurt or that you don't have enough confidence, believe in the existence and value of friendship!

Hello, questioner.

From what you've shared, it seems like you're in your first year of high school, have recently started at a new school, and are adjusting to a new environment and classmates. It's understandable that you're facing a challenging learning load and that you're feeling isolated. It's not easy to navigate these changes on your own, and it's natural to crave a supportive conversation. I'm sending you a virtual hug to show I'm here for you. If I were in the same school, I'd probably reach out to you. If you're open to it, we could potentially become friends.

If it isn't an inconvenience, could you possibly describe your characteristics and hobbies?

Given that you mentioned the challenges of starting a new school, adjusting to a new environment, and the demands of boarding school, it's clear that many freshmen face similar difficulties. The transition from junior high to high school often involves changes in both the social and academic landscapes, along with a significant increase in workload. It's not uncommon for students to initially struggle with this transition and require time to adapt.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider how your relationships with others might differ if you were to make friends.

You mentioned that you were a boarding student in junior high school. I'm curious, did you have friends at that time? How did you build friendships back then?

You may find that you are more independent than children of the same age, which could be an advantage. In the dormitory, you live with your classmates day and night, so you may find that you are more adaptable than others.

I'm sure you can handle some things on your own. If there are any students who are having difficulties, perhaps you could help them?

Given that you live in the dormitory and are unable to be with your parents, it is understandable that you would miss them. Could you please tell me how you keep in touch with them?

Could I ask how often you communicate with them? Do you think you might be feeling your feelings of missing them more during this period?

Similarly, if you don't have any friends at the moment, you might consider reaching out to your junior high school classmates. Even though you're not in the same school, the connection is still there. It's possible they're facing similar challenges as you.

It might be helpful to stay in touch and see what advice they give you. How are they adapting to their new environment?

I once read a book that said we are our own best friends. I don't know if you've heard that before. If you're feeling lonely right now and don't want to let anyone in just yet, you might consider talking to yourself. You could go back every night and write down what you've been thinking about today, your own understanding and encouragement.

It might be helpful to talk to yourself as you would to a friend.

High school can be a challenging time. As you mentioned, it can be difficult to adjust to a new environment when you've just become accustomed to one, and then you have a new class! So, there are new classmates, new teachers, and new classes to repeat all over again.

Perhaps you could consider what might be new for you, apart from the challenges that many of us face? For instance, you might think about how you could replace classmates who were previously difficult to get along with, or how you could avoid difficult homework.

If you are different, you may find that your journey in your second and third years of high school will be more straightforward.

You have many admirable qualities and are capable of taking care of yourself.

It's admirable that you've set such clear goals at such a young age. I'm sure you'll achieve them all. In the meantime, let's focus on the next steps. You've already identified the end goals: to grow up quickly, get into a good university, work hard to earn a lot of money, go to places you want to go, do things you want to do, and love the people you want to love. Let's break these down into smaller steps.

While we cannot control the rate at which we grow up, we can control our actions and prepare ourselves for the future. Let's work towards your goals together!

I hope this poem finds you well: "A roc can rise ninety thousand li in a single day if it catches the wind."

Dear Student, You have recently commenced your first year of high school, and the considerable academic workload and unfamiliar environment are causing you considerable stress.

Your parents are not present, and you have not established any friendships in your new environment, which has resulted in feelings of loneliness and helplessness. I empathize with your situation.

Indeed, your current situation is challenging.

In comparison to the curriculum of junior high school, the depth and difficulty of knowledge in high school has increased significantly. Furthermore, teachers place a greater emphasis on students' independent learning abilities. Consequently, students who have recently commenced their first year of high school are confronted with considerable pressure in their academic pursuits.

You indicated that you did not form any positive relationships during your three-month tenure at the high school, and the individual you had a romantic interest in was subsequently enrolled at a different educational institution. You lacked the support of peers and were compelled to shoulder the burden of your circumstances independently. I empathize with your feelings of solitude and powerlessness.

Furthermore, your parents are not present in your life. You have been a child without a family since junior high school. You miss your parents, but you are aware that they must work to support the family and cannot stay with you. You are forced to bury your longing for them in your heart.

It is especially valuable because studying is stressful, and no spiritual support has been found to accompany, support, and give strength. Under these circumstances, this period of high school must have been particularly difficult.

The stress of studying is compounded when one lacks the support of a mental health professional. This period of one's life must have been especially challenging.

It is imperative to identify and utilize the resources that can facilitate the overcoming of difficulties.

Despite the numerous challenges you currently face, you have demonstrated remarkable dedication to your studies, rising early and retiring late. This not only reflects your commitment to academic pursuits but also your ability to find fulfillment in the process, a quality that exemplifies strength of character.

You have expressed a desire to mature rapidly, gain admission to a reputable university, work assiduously to amass wealth, visit desired locales, engage in activities you find fulfilling, and form relationships with individuals you are drawn to. This is an admirable objective. Many individuals pursue studies without a clear objective in mind, yet you have identified a worthy goal that merits your dedication. This is a particularly commendable quality.

Although you identify as introverted, I observe that you had numerous positive relationships in junior high school and have identified a romantic interest. I perceive that you possess a benevolent personality and a distinctive charisma.

Although you identify as introverted, I observe that you had numerous positive relationships in junior high school and have formed a romantic attachment. I perceive you to possess kindness and a distinctive charisma.

Despite the absence of your parents, you have not expressed discontent; rather, you have demonstrated remarkable comprehension and consideration. You have also incorporated the notion of assuming responsibility for your parents into your future aspirations. You exemplify a combination of filial piety and understanding.

Therefore, it is essential to ascertain whether the subject in question is able to identify these valuable strengths when confronted with difficulties. These attributes serve as invaluable assets and resources for overcoming adversity.

Although assistance is unavailable in addressing the challenges of the new year, it would be more beneficial to utilize one's own resources to overcome these difficulties.

It would be beneficial to consider potential strategies for overcoming adversity.

It should be noted that having good resources is merely the initial step. To truly overcome difficulties, it is essential to learn how to utilize resources effectively and identify solutions. The following suggestions may prove beneficial:

First and foremost, it is imperative to learn how to study effectively. While it is commendable to be willing to work hard to learn, it is equally important to direct one's efforts in a strategic manner. Attempting to work hard without a clear objective is not a prudent approach.

First and foremost, it is imperative to learn effective study techniques. While it is commendable to be willing to work hard in order to study, it is equally important to direct one's efforts in a strategic manner. Attempting to study without a clear plan is not an optimal approach.

It would be beneficial to consider your strengths and weaknesses in the context of learning. What are the advantages and disadvantages inherent to your learning style?

What is the subsequent objective? The process of contemplating these queries is analogous to formulating a plan, thereby enabling the attainment of twice the result with half the effort.

Subsequently, it would be beneficial to make your expectations for the future more concrete. For example, you may wish to aspire to gain admission to a reputable university and subsequently pursue a lucrative career. While these are admirable goals, they lack sufficient specificity.

Subsequently, it would be beneficial to delineate your expectations for the future with greater specificity. For example, you may aspire to gain admission to a reputable university and subsequently pursue a lucrative career. While these are admirable objectives, they lack sufficient specificity.

One may combine one's interests and abilities to determine the type of university to which one should apply, the major one should study, and the career one should pursue.

Identify a specific direction and then evaluate it in comparison to your current self to ascertain the remaining efforts required to achieve your desired outcome. This approach is commonly referred to as career planning, and initiating this process at an early stage facilitates a more defined understanding of the necessary steps.

Identify a specific direction and then evaluate it in comparison to your current self to ascertain the remaining efforts required to achieve your desired outcome. This approach is commonly referred to as career planning, and initiating this process at an early stage facilitates a more defined understanding of the necessary steps to attain your objective.

When one works assiduously for a goal one is passionate about, the associated hardship and fatigue may be experienced as a kind of enjoyment.

Third, with regard to the formation of friendships, it is reasonable to posit that, given the numerous positive attributes you have already demonstrated, you will soon become acquainted with individuals with whom you share similar interests and values. Given that you have only recently begun spending time together, it would be prudent to take this opportunity to identify potential friends with whom you can maintain contact.

Third, with regard to friendship, there is no cause for concern. Given your numerous admirable qualities, it is likely that you will form friendships. Given the limited time you have spent together, it would be prudent to observe whether there are individuals with similar interests who you would like to maintain contact with. It is important to note that high school friendships are often enduring, so it is advisable to choose your friends carefully.

The individual in question continues to demonstrate a high level of effort, and as a result, the observer is now required to adopt a position of passive observation. However, in the future, the observer may have the option of surpassing this individual.

The individual in question continues to demonstrate a commendable work ethic, which affords the observer the opportunity to admire and emulate. However, with the passage of time, the observer may eventually be in a position to surpass this individual.

When one is situated in proximity to the other or even in a position of superiority, the capacity to exercise agency in the relationship is retained, as opposed to passively awaiting a decision to be made. This dynamic is arguably more rewarding to anticipate.

My name is Teng Ying, and I am a practicing psychologist. I hope that the information I have provided is helpful to you.