How can I comfort my mother who is extremely depressed due to her failed investment?

Be optimistic and confident about things you can't control. Be cautious and restrained about things you can.

Your anxiety and fear won't change, but they will affect your mood today. Focus on making good use of your time. Be careful and exercise restraint.

If you're not careful, you'll be overjoyed.

The only thing we know for sure is that life is uncertain. We can't be sure of the outcome of our choices. The mother decided to invest to improve her family situation.

The mother doesn't want to lose her family. But when it has already happened, we have to help her accept that things have turned out badly.

We can only decide how we act, even if others influence us. It's not scary to make mistakes.

It's scary to be in a negative environment.

The investment has been made, so the consequences must be accepted.

There's no point in waiting for the swindler to come back. We need to help her look forward.

Tell her we still need her and that the family needs her support to help her heal.

Don't dwell on the past. It's done. The future is still ours to shape. No matter why the mother bought the pesticides, we must take care of her and stop her from suffering more.

Dear Questioner, I am honored to answer your question. I commend you for demonstrating concern for your parents' mental health. From your description, it is evident that your mother has been significantly impacted by the loss of her investment. It has only been a month since the incident occurred. I postulate that she is currently in the shock period of the disaster syndrome. Her current symptoms include self-blame, insomnia, mental weakness, and sensitivity.

Given the circumstances, it is understandable that she is experiencing heightened sensitivity. As his family, it is not our intention to discourage you from providing him with emotional support. However, it is crucial to avoid discussing the incident in advance, as this could exacerbate his distress. If feasible, it would be beneficial to remove her from the immediate environment to facilitate her recovery.

In the aftermath of such a traumatic event, an individual may exhibit symptoms of emotional distress. In such cases, it is advisable to seek the guidance of a qualified psychiatrist for a comprehensive assessment.

As an immediate family member, the optimal course of action would be to convey to your brother and father how you typically interact with him and how you continue to interact with her.

If feasible, provide assistance to law enforcement in minimizing the damage. From the original intention of this matter, the male party had good intentions, and the female party sought to utilize the investment to earn more money and contribute to family expenses. However, due to a lack of ability and experience, the female party was deceived.

It is estimated that emotional disorders caused by major disasters will gradually recover in about three months for most patients. It is recommended that the individual pay attention to his daily behavior, without excessive behavior, and avoid stimulating her emotions. It is also recommended that the individual replace his sense of internal humiliation with appropriate blame and fear. Finally, it is recommended that the individual refrain from intervening in the situation, as the individual's family relationship may not be conducive to viewing some of her defense mechanisms. Instead, it is recommended that the individual utilize professional personnel to intervene.

Furthermore, the individual's inner needs must be considered. For example, the 1983 film "I'm Happy to Have a Date" and the 1951 film "The World and I Love You!" both explore the concept of romantic relationships.

Hello, question asker! I'm Enoch, your answerer. From your description, it's clear that your mother has been through a lot since her investment failed. It's inspiring to see how much you want to help and comfort her. It's also evident that she's struggling to move on from her failure. I'm here to support you in finding the best way to help her.

Now, let's dive deep and uncover the root cause of this situation for the questioner's mother:

1. The questioner's mother may have developed Stockholm syndrome during this experience of being cheated. She may have done so in an effort to make the other party sympathize and identify with her. She may have identified with and pleased the other party in the hope of repaying her with a conscience.

In psychology, there is an amazing phenomenon called the Stockholm syndrome. The Stockholm syndrome, also known as the hostage identification syndrome, is an incredible emotional connection in which the victim of a crime develops a whole range of emotions (such as sympathy, identification, appreciation, affection, and dependence) towards the perpetrator. This can result in a harmonious and friendly relationship, and even a willingness to help the perpetrator in return!

From the questioner's description, we can see that although the questioner's mother does not have a lot of good feelings towards the perpetrator, she still has some unrealistic expectations of the perpetrator. Despite knowing that she has been deceived, she chooses to believe and identify with the perpetrator again, hoping that the perpetrator will have a change of heart. This is already a manifestation of Stockholm syndrome, named after a bank robbery that was first discovered in Stockholm, Sweden.

A hostage who later falls in love with the criminal who took him hostage does not thank the police for rescuing him. But there is hope! This illness can be alleviated through psychological treatment, and the patient can make a better recovery through self-regulation and family support.

2. She has a strong personality and is determined to get what she wants. She's not afraid to stand her ground and doesn't take advice from others. She's on a mission to find psychological balance and is learning to accept that she has been defrauded.

The questioner's mother is now in a mental trap of her own devising and is determined to get out. She is single-mindedly and impractically thinking that the other party will have a change of heart and return the money she cheated her out of, without a single penny less. She is unable to listen to other people's correct advice and persuasion, nor is she able to decisively take measures to seek justice for herself through legal channels and fight for her legitimate rights and interests. But she will!

In fact, this is a fascinating psychological defense mechanism that the questioner's mother developed because she has a unique perspective on people and relationships. She has a strong sense of self and is confident in her ability to discern people and navigate complex situations. While she may have experienced emotional deception, she has the courage to face it head-on and embrace the lessons it brings.

3. It's a great idea to try to please others, but it's even better to focus on yourself and your own happiness!

The reason why the original poster's mother encountered the above problems is that she is extremely insecure and relies heavily on pleasing others in interpersonal relationships, even to the extent of sacrificing and destroying herself. But there's a way out!

It's clear that the original poster's mother is afraid to tell her parents about her experiences. This shows that she is extremely insecure in front of them and lacks confidence. She's worried that she will be blamed or that her parents will be influenced by her and take extreme measures.

So, she hides her painful experiences. As for her brother's impatience, her mother tries to win his approval and affection by making bold, dramatic gestures like threatening to commit suicide by drinking pesticides and destroying herself.

However, this approach often places a greater psychological burden on those around them, making everyone more afraid to approach and face themselves. But here's the good news! This self-destructive approach will bring great psychological pressure to the other person. And when people don't want to face such responsibility and pressure, they will choose to escape. So, what can we do to help them?

I'm excited to share some suggestions for the questioner that I hope will be helpful!

1. Give her your full respect and acceptance! Understanding and acceptance are the absolute best ways to help her heal.

Even though her mother's thinking is irrational, what she needs most right now is the approval and understanding of others. There's a good chance her mother learned this pattern of pleasing others from her original family when she was young, so it's not going to change overnight. That's OK! The important thing is to recognize that correct analysis and persuasion may not be accepted at this time, while understanding and accepting her current situation may be a great way to relieve her inner anxiety.

2. Give your mother all the love and support she needs to feel secure and accept herself. This will help her to stop trying to please others and start living her best life!

Your mother needs companionship, care, and recognition, and you can give her that! Don't blame her; let her learn to let go of the psychological burden. Everyone has different experiences in life, and when you forgive and accept others, you learn to accept yourself and forgive yourself. This makes you more confident and secure. You won't lose yourself trying to please others. Instead, you'll examine yourself and analyze your problems, and then find the best way to solve them. Let your mother explore herself in this event and grow better. You can help her establish a rational understanding.

3. Get her the help she needs! Professional psychological counseling and treatment will help her rebuild a correct perception and personality, adjust herself to better adapt to the environment, and adapt to the interpersonal relationships around her with a more independent and confident appearance.

I really hope the above methods can help the questioner and your mother! The questioner is still a child after all, with limited life experience. So if the above attempts still do not significantly improve your mother's life and affect her life, I suggest that the questioner persuade her mother to seek professional psychological counseling and treatment, so that she can stop relying on pleasing others to gain a sense of security, and instead gain a sense of security that truly comes from within through her own true independence and self-confidence. This will in turn attract the people around her to establish a stable emotional relationship with her!

I'm sure the questioner will be able to help her mother get out of this tricky situation and find her way in life!

Hello, questioner. It's a pleasure to connect with you in this way.

From what you have described about your mother's investment scam and the companionship and protection you and your brother have provided for her, it seems that your family relationship is undergoing a significant challenge. This is a concerning and saddening situation, and it also evokes feelings of helplessness and confusion in you and your brother. I empathize with your situation.

I hope to be of some assistance in helping you to identify some key points and to find ways to provide support to your mother.

The unfortunate incident in which your mother was cheated out of her investment occurred a month ago. Given the significant impact of this event, it is understandable that your mother may require more time to recuperate. It would be greatly beneficial for you and your brother to allow her the space and opportunity to heal and recuperate.

Additionally, given that this is a significant external event, it is possible that your mother may be experiencing a stress response period, as described in psychology. From your and your brother's perspective, your mother's behavior may seem unusual. It would be helpful for you to be patient with her, so that she can recover from the stressful situation and return to a rational state.

I believe you mentioned that your mother was cheated out of every penny she had. I'm not sure what her original intention was when she first invested. In my experience, an adult who is financially troubled, or who has a desire for money in their heart, and who may want to quickly gain the approval of others, is easily attracted to certain temptations from the outside world. This can sometimes result in a fluke mentality.

I wonder if I might ask you about the economic situation of your family of origin. If you could figure out what your mother's original intention was, then when communicating with her and comforting her, you might find the key to opening her heart.

It would be beneficial to keep in mind that for the mother, her only hope is that the scammer will pay her back, and she has even considered suicide.

First, it's important to recognize that the possibility of the only hope that mom has being realized is extremely slim. This is likely due to her current state of stress, which can cause her attention to narrow and prevent her from considering other possibilities. It's a natural human reaction.

Secondly, it is possible that the mother's suicidal thoughts are influenced by factors that her children are not aware of, such as your frustration at not being able to express your feelings directly, your father's potential accusations, and the influence of outside friends and family. These could potentially become significant sources of pressure that may affect a mother's resilience. If you are aware of these, you may have the opportunity to help her identify these sources of pressure and support her in finding a sense of stability.

If the above analysis has provided you with some inspiration, I hope you will consider the following advice and act as soon as possible.

It might be helpful to consider seeking the support of a professional counselor as soon as possible. With the counselor's guidance, you and your mother can work together to assess the financial losses, evaluate the family's current financial situation, and identify ways to cope with the risks.

It may be helpful to communicate with a counselor to assist your mother in recognizing reality on the one hand and regrouping on the other.

In addition, it would be beneficial to consider the option of psychological counseling to assist your mother in managing her stress response. Should the situation require it, psychological crisis intervention could be a valuable tool in the healing process. It may be helpful to focus on adjusting her physical and mental state, including aspects such as diet, sleep, and emotions.

Secondly, it would be beneficial to facilitate effective communication among family members, maintain and improve the current fragile family relationships, and gradually reconcile with each other.

2. The harmony in your relationship with your brother will play an important role in supporting your mother in moving forward. It may be helpful to consider using your brother as a resource for integration at critical moments, to gain strength for the stability of the family.

It might be helpful to consider that when your brother is feeling restless or anxious, he may benefit from your company. Similarly, when you are feeling anxious or helpless, talking to your brother can help him feel a sense of worthiness. By giving of yourself in this way, you can also help your mother gain strength from your brother, which might help her to continue living with strength.

Furthermore, it is important to take care of yourself in order to comfort your mother. Despite the challenges you are facing in your family, you have been able to maintain a regular routine, interact with others naturally, manage your emotions, and handle your own affairs. These actions demonstrate to your mother how strong you are and how important her presence is.

After all, there is only one mom, and I truly believe you will never give up on her, even if she has caused such a significant challenge.

Perhaps we could try to change our perspective. Instead of focusing on the problem itself, we could consider how we might best address it. If we can adopt this mindset, we may be able to support our mother in navigating this challenging situation together.

I have faith in the world and I care about you!

Good day.

Your description of the problem is reminiscent of the character Xianglin Sao in Mr. Lu Xun's writings, who exhibited repetitive behavior and a tendency to reiterate the same statements. Initially, her actions elicited sympathy, but as time passed, they became a source of frustration.

Our mother has become like Xianglin's mother: diligent, benevolent, straightforward, and tenacious. She did not invest for her own benefit, but rather to enhance the family's financial standing. However, events did not unfold as anticipated, and her investment proved unsuccessful.

It is reasonable to conclude that this incident has placed significant pressure on my mother. Rather than pursuing the individual who defrauded her through legal channels, she is anticipating repayment from that person when they generate income. It is evident that my mother does not possess the characteristics typically associated with kindness.

Currently, we, as her children, are providing the greatest support. Based on the description, it appears that my mother is experiencing a glimmer of despair and has contemplated death. The situation remains somewhat serious.

In Lu Xun's novella "Blessing," initially, the characters expressed sympathy for Xianglin's situation. However, as the narrative progressed, they began to recite her words and eventually became impatient with her. Ultimately, when no attention was paid to her, the consequences were severe.

I believe that we need to prioritize this matter and address it promptly.

I believe the best course of action would be for the questioner to take her mother to the psychiatric department of a top-tier hospital for an evaluation by a qualified medical professional. It is crucial to address this situation promptly and effectively.

I hope my response is beneficial to the questioner and that my mother's condition improves. Thank you for your attention. I am Jiusi from Yixinli, World and I Love You.