How can I deal with the pressure caused by my parents' disharmony and not having a place to go?

Hello classmate, have a nice weekend. I'm really happy to have met you here, and I'm even happier that at such a young age you know to ask for help online.

First, I'd like to talk about some of the challenges you may face in your nuclear family. Every family has its share of unhappy and unsatisfactory situations. However, due to various reasons and the fact that they have to stay together, they have to put up with things they don't want to every day.

Your auntie is sharing some advice in the hope it will be helpful.

First, we need to tackle the issues in our family. If you can, help everyone share their thoughts and concerns. Connect with your family more. If you're feeling tired or overwhelmed, take care of yourself. You can help everyone again when you're ready.

Secondly, your father's smoking is a bad habit that we can't change. You can only remind him to smoke less. If you say it enough, he will slowly listen. Just remember to spread the word about the harm caused by smoking.

His stinginess might be a result of the family's financial situation and the fact that he doesn't earn much money. He has a lot on his mind, and as a man, he can't cry, so he smokes to relieve his stress. You need to be more understanding in this regard and give your father some comfort.

Third, there's no need to mention your mother, who is the only person in your family with a different surname. She works hard to earn money and deal with the various challenges of real life. So, when you grow up, you should also show your mother more care and concern. For example, on Mother's Day and her birthday, give her some greetings and blessings so that she knows you've grown up and can appreciate the difficulties of being a parent.

You can help them relax!

Third, there are three siblings in the family, so the financial pressure is naturally much greater. You may be old enough to help take care of the younger children. Work with them to help your grandparents share some of the housework. Even if life is poor now, it is not as poor as it was for previous generations. So, you have to study hard.

You can buy books or borrow them. The best teachers will value every child who is eager to learn. You can give it a try.

Fourth, your grandparents are old people who should be enjoying their lives, but instead they are raising your three children at home. Even if you are the most obedient children in the world, they will still worry a lot. In their past lives, the elderly were always afraid of being poor, and they save money for your sake and for your future.

It's important to remember that no matter how much you save, you'll never have enough to eat and drink. They'll just nag a little when they get money, which is also very normal. We'll all do the same when we grow up and earn money.

Ultimately, I hope you can focus more on your studies. Even if your current situation is difficult and tough, you can use knowledge to change your fate. If your family is just not good at expressing themselves, and we misunderstand them, that's even better. To repay them, we can change the current situation of poverty and hardship by studying hard and going to the big city. If they are really "unforgivable," then we can study hard to get into a good university and leave this place.

So, my advice is to focus on your studies. The more knowledge you gain at university, the better equipped you'll be to tackle the current situation.

I know you can do it!