How can I find people like me?

Hello, I am Gentle Sky, the quality answerer. From what you have written, it seems you are seeking understanding and acceptance, and perhaps the hope of finding a soulmate who can tolerate and accept you.

I believe you are looking for something beautiful, and I imagine many people want to find it too. There is a saying that I think is worth considering: "It is easy to get a thousand in gold, but hard to find a true friend."

It might be observed that a bosom friend is not hard to find, but rather hard to come by. Why might this be?

This is because it requires a high level of mutual understanding, appreciation, and knowledge of each other. Have you ever had the opportunity to experience this level of friendship?

It would be beneficial to have a confidant with whom you can share your innermost thoughts, but you feel a little lonely. It is possible that loneliness can arise when there are deficiencies and dissatisfaction in interpersonal relationships.

It is worth noting that introverts may be more susceptible to feelings of loneliness due to their tendency to focus on their inner thoughts and emotions. Prolonged or severe loneliness has the potential to impact an individual's mental health, and in some cases, may even lead to psychological challenges or mental illness.

Many people experience feelings of loneliness to varying degrees, and it is important to acknowledge these feelings and address them in a constructive manner.

Let's consider what we can do when we don't have a confidant and how we might go about finding one.

It might be helpful to consider making friends with yourself before seeking out a friend.

It is not uncommon to desire a close friendship, but some people may be particularly eager for it. Perhaps they have experienced a prolonged period of loneliness, lacking the feeling of being understood and accepted, and have not had a close connection with others for a long time. For example, your feelings may have been overlooked and you may have felt that you did not receive sufficient attention and care from your family of origin during your growth process.

Introverts may also find it challenging to relate to others and are not always easily understood because they are not as adept at communicating as some people are. Introverts can benefit from accepting their own personality traits, understanding the advantages of their personality, and learning to improve their ability to get along with others.

It might be helpful to start by making friends with yourself, which could mean learning to be alone.

1. You may find that your desire to be understood and accepted can be satisfied.

If there is no one in your external environment who can understand and accept you, it may be helpful to focus on understanding yourself. Learning to know yourself is an important step in loving yourself. People often crave external recognition, and your external environment can provide insights into your own self-perception. When you realize that you are different from the outside world, it can be a valuable moment of self-discovery.

Perhaps it's not necessary to label yourself as an outsider, as everyone is unique. It's possible that introverts can delve deeply into certain fields and also have achievements, so it might not be helpful to force yourself to change.

2. You may find it helpful to connect with yourself when you are lonely.

From the text, it can be seen that you are someone who can be alone. People who can be alone are often self-sufficient, can talk to themselves, listen to their inner voice, can write it down, and can also find resonance and comfort in their hearts through reading, connecting with the world, and meeting themselves by praising and liking themselves, which also gives them inner energy.

I believe that the empathy you find in comic literature could be a good place to start. It's possible that the comic book author may also have similarities with you. It's important to remember that you are not alone.

It might be helpful to consider developing from a casual friend to a close friend.

A good friendship often begins with a simple, mutual understanding of the concept of friendship. Without this fundamental understanding, it can be challenging to recognize similarities and differences, and to fully comprehend each other's perspectives. Without a solid foundation of mutual respect and understanding, it can be difficult to appreciate and cherish each other fully.

1. It may be helpful to take some time to get to know yourself and others to identify who you have things in common with.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider who you think might be able to become your friend. It can be beneficial to reflect on your own experiences and those of others. You may find that learning more about yourself and others can enhance your understanding of life. Reading, watching movies and learning can all be valuable ways to gain insight. As you do so, you may discover that people have some things in common with each other. This can help you to identify the person who might be a good match for you as a friend.

It's important to distinguish between socializing and making friends. Masks are simply a way for people to protect themselves socially. If you can become friends, you'll naturally start to let go of the mask. One way to approach this is by trying to learn and socialize with people who have similar personalities. You can also consider reducing interactions with people you're not yet able to understand. This distance is something you can control.

2. It is often the case that people who appreciate and understand each other are attracted to each other.

People with common characteristics often have a good feeling for each other. A high-quality friendship is often attracted to each other's characteristics and charm, and is often cherished because they can grow together. You may find a character in a comic book who is similar to you, and then you can find people who share common interests through your love of this character.

It is only through time and shared experiences that people can truly get to know each other. Only when they have a sufficient understanding of each other can they know whether they can communicate and then share their hearts. Having shared experiences or long-term in-depth communication can enhance feelings.

It is important to remember that any relationship involves risks, and that the quality of the relationship may not necessarily improve with proximity. It is up to each individual to determine the appropriate distance to maintain in their own relationship.

I hope this has provided some inspiration and guidance. Best wishes.

Hello!

Touching my head. A pure friendship makes people happy because everyone needs to be recognized. The most sincere friendship brings a sense of full trust and security. It is also called "the closest of friends."

How can I find people like me?

People with similar views and values can understand each other and empathize when they encounter problems. This releases our feelings, connects us to the other person, and makes us feel comfortable and strong.

However, people who have shared experiences can empathize and understand each other. For people who have not had many interactions, it is difficult to establish an emotional connection.

It's hard to find people who understand you. Soulmates are rare. You can meet them, but you can't force it. This doesn't mean you're worthless. It just means you need to deal with loneliness. Solitude helps you value yourself, accept yourself, and learn to be alone. It helps you understand your emotions and stay calm. It's a valuable experience.

People who have learned to be alone can support and respond to kindred spirits better than those who don't. A person's emotional value is reflected in their ability to express and listen.

The more I understand the world, the more I realize I'm out of place. When I interact with others, I do so with a mask. Only I know the real me.

A friend said you have to change yourself to succeed. I know I can't change.

I want to find someone who is just like me and who will accept and embrace me.

The questioner said they feel out of place and that they have to wear a mask. A friend said, "If you want to succeed, change yourself." I can't do it. I think if it's someone similar, they will understand and accept me.

If we have people around us who are like us, it will be easier to get along with others. But the world is made up of different people. If we only spend time with people who are like us, we won't learn how to interact with others. Will accepting only what we can understand and accept lead to another conflict in disguise?

We still have to work hard to manage our lives and feel happy. But if we only think about ourselves, will we find happiness?

If you can, accept yourself. People's personalities can be conflicting. If you don't, you might think you're not accepted. When you trust yourself and give yourself strength, you'll stop worrying about what others think. You'll attract friends who are confident and helpful.

Best wishes!

Greetings. I am a heart exploration coach, Fly.

The individual in question experiences a plethora of intense emotions. Despite their introverted and unpolished nature, they find solace in the tranquility of solitude. However, this is juxtaposed by an inherent desire to establish connections with the external world. The longing for comprehension and acceptance can precipitate feelings of solitude.

It appears that you are strongly resistant to making or accepting changes to yourself. There is no inherent problem with being yourself; it is an effective way to demonstrate independence. However, you are unable to tolerate the loneliness associated with not being understood or accepted, leading you to seek out individuals who are "like you." You are seeking connections with people who truly know, understand, accept, and embrace you.

The act of hugging from a distance can evoke a range of emotions, particularly in the context of personal growth and self-discovery. The assumption that adulthood equates to the cessation of these processes is a misnomer. With this understanding, it is imperative to engage in discourse and share insights on the following topic:

Identity formation is a lifelong process.

Despite your lack of proficiency in articulating your emotions, I am able to discern the nuances of your feelings through your written words. You perceive yourself as an outsider in the social milieu, evincing a reluctance to interact with others and a sense of being a disembodied entity, existing in a state of constant disguise.

This indicates that you possess a keen perceptual ability and a profound awareness of your own identity and self-connection.

The process of self-exploration is not exclusive to a particular age group. Even when individuals reach a certain stage in life, they will continue to engage in self-exploration, seeking answers to fundamental questions about their identity, capabilities, and differences from others.

It appears that you have also reached this point of self-awareness. You are aware that you are wearing a mask and that you do not fully comprehend the person behind it.

As a result, you are uncertain about your identity and whether you should make a change.

One might inquire whether a change in one's circumstances is possible. The individual in question is expressing a desire to escape from the confines of their current situation, which they perceive as a state of depression and loneliness. They are seeking recognition and understanding from others.

The individual experiences a sense of imminent emotional explosion.

The question, "Who doesn't feel lost in life?" is not exclusive to adolescents but is also applicable to adults who experience confusion. When individuals encounter challenges in life, such as emotional setbacks, obstacles in career development, or relationship crises, they may feel lost and deeply troubled.

The desire to find a soulmate who understands you and to confide in and be listened to by such a person is a strong one. If the other person is someone who understands you, you will give yourself completely to them, confide in them about your feelings, and even lean on their strong arm because you are so tired and cannot bear to be on your own.

The aforementioned factors contribute to feelings of fatigue. Masks serve as a form of self-defense, and the experiences accumulated over time have shaped the development of a personal "protective color." It is crucial to become accustomed to this pattern. When considering the daily act of donning a metaphorical "thick armor," it becomes evident that establishing connections with others is a challenging endeavor.

Such is the extent of this discomfort that even sleeping is an unwelcome experience.

However, if one looks outside, one will inevitably experience pain and disappointment due to the inability to obtain desired outcomes. In such instances, individuals tend to place their expectations on external sources, seeking individuals who can provide understanding and acceptance.

2. How to Enjoy Solitude Without Being Lonely

When an individual is isolated from the external world, they experience feelings of loneliness. This isolation is a self-imposed state that results in the severing of connections with the external environment and other individuals, and can be conceptualised as a form of escape.

Loneliness is a consequence of an inability to establish a connection with oneself. The capacity to form a connection with oneself is essential for self-reflection and self-evaluation. When one is unable to connect with oneself, the evaluation of oneself is also impaired.

Loneliness is a consequence of a lack of self-worth, an inability to establish harmonious relationships with oneself, and an absence of positive self-regard. Affirmation of oneself in all aspects of life is essential, as is the avoidance of rigid rules and the acceptance of one's own limitations.

However, when one attempts to evade the company of others, the experience of solitude can prove overwhelming.

What methods might be employed to alter the subjective experience of loneliness?

1) It is important to remain aware of the feelings of loneliness and to offer oneself a positive evaluation. At this juncture, it is helpful to distinguish between two aspects of the self: one that is in a state of self-criticism and another that is the object of that criticism.

One may engage in self-expression through writing and verbalization to convey one's emotions, or alternatively, one may engage in meditation to enhance one's capacity to connect with oneself and foster self-love.

Additionally, one may engage with literary works that align with one's personal preferences, including those of pessimistic authors. It is important to note that while these authors may not espouse pessimistic views themselves, their works often offer a pessimistic perspective on various aspects of the world.

2) Transform from a passive to an active stance. Loneliness is a subjective experience. When one feels lonely, the feeling is often perceived as passive and unavoidable. It is, therefore, helpful to remind oneself that one has the right to choose to be alone and that this is a valid decision.

It is my sincere hope that the aforementioned advice will prove beneficial to you. Furthermore, I extend my love and support to you and to the world at large.

Should you wish to pursue this discussion further, you are invited to click on the link entitled "Find a Coach," which you will find in the upper right-hand corner or at the bottom of the page. This will enable us to communicate and grow together in a one-to-one capacity.

Greetings, I extend to you a 360-degree embrace.

In light of your query, I am prompted to inquire as to the criteria by which you assess whether an individual is analogous to yourself or disparate.

In your question, you indicate a dislike for initiating conversations, a tendency to avoid social interaction unless it is necessary, and a reluctance to engage with others unless you feel compelled to do so.

In this situation, even if someone with similar characteristics initiates a conversation with you, how can you ascertain whether they are, in fact, similar to you? Individuals gradually become acquainted with one another through interactions. Initially, we perceive others based on their outward appearance or preconceived notions.

Interactions are the only means of determining compatibility and whether the other person is similar to oneself.

Therefore, even if one's sole intention is to find a similar match, it is imperative to engage in social interactions. This applies even when the interactions are not face-to-face, as in the virtual world, online interactions also necessitate a proactive approach to self-presentation, akin to a peacock displaying its plumage.

Peacock feathers are an alluring attribute to other peacocks.

Furthermore, if such a person were to exist—someone who is capable of accepting and tolerating you, who is currently awaiting your approach—how would you proceed? Would you initiate contact, or would you wait for them to make the first move?

It appears that you are facing a double bind, a dilemma in which any action you take is ultimately misguided.

It may, therefore, be the case that the key to finding a similar person is not to change oneself, but to make a slight alteration. It is not necessary to change significantly; a mere 5% is sufficient.

For example, one might consider attending an event with a slightly larger number of people.

The reason for this is that if one has consistently maintained one's authentic self over an extended period of time, yet has been unable to effect meaningful personal change or cultivate close friendships, it is evident that this approach is ineffective. Given that one's needs have remained consistent, it is clear that the same approach cannot be sustained.

A slight alteration in approach is required.

One strategy for facilitating change is to adopt a persona.

Indeed, it entails assuming the role of an alternative persona. There is a book entitled "Why People Wear Masks Are More Popular," which addresses the phenomenon in the context of the workplace.

The same can be said of other situations. Those who wear masks are essentially preparing their masks for the occasion and the persona they wish to project, and are consequently welcomed.

One need not become someone else; one can retain one's own personality. However, one can utilize alternative personas. Indeed, individuals often exhibit a multiplicity of personas in different social contexts. For instance, individuals may present themselves differently to their parents, friends, and colleagues, reflecting varying sets of priorities and social roles.

For example, one may exhibit a more affable demeanor towards one's parents than towards one's colleagues. In the presence of colleagues, one may present themselves as a competent and qualified professional.

This is an example of the use of a mask to represent one's personality.

It is likely that you will require a mask that is capable of interacting with others, empathizing with them, and integrating into the group. This mask should be worn when necessary and removed when no longer required.

One must acknowledge that this is an inherent aspect of humanity and that it cannot be altered. The only viable course of action is to accept this reality and engage with it constructively.

Additionally, one may seek the guidance of a counselor.

I am a counselor who tends to adopt a pessimistic outlook on occasion, but who also possesses a capacity for positivity.

Should you wish to continue the communication, you are invited to click on the link entitled "Find a Coach," which can be found in the upper right-hand corner or at the bottom of the page. This will enable you to engage in one-to-one communication and growth with me.