How can I not be so sensitive? I really hate this feeling.

It sounds like you feel a bit helpless right now, but I'm here to give you a warm hug and support you through this! You're graduating from undergraduate school soon, and you feel like a girl, although you could be a guy too! Both men and women have the right to love and be loved.

First, the long period of isolation due to the pandemic can make people feel overwhelmed, especially extroverted students who like to interact with others. But don't worry! There is nothing you can do about this, so you can simply overcome it through exercise, distraction, and communicating with others over the phone.

Secondly, from your words, I feel that you are a very honest and courageous person who is ready to embrace love and attention. Some people would hide it in their hearts, but you are willing to say it out loud, which is the first step to asking for help or getting better. Have you noticed that the words you wrote yourself, asking for blessings, asking for attention, and setting standards for others, are all outward-looking, asking and hoping for others to do it?

Have you ever thought about how you can bless others, pay attention to others, or actively love others?

Third, if you want to be loved, you must first love and care for yourself, understand yourself, and then love and care for others. It's as simple as that! Only in this way can interactions be formed, and only then will others pay attention to and wish you well. In short, if you want to be loved, you must first learn to love yourself and love others.

Make the most of this time to reflect and grow! Take stock of your strengths and weaknesses, and embrace the challenges and opportunities that lie ahead.

What are your thoughts and standards for the future, even for close friends, boyfriends, and girlfriends? I'd love to know what you think! And if I have good friends, how would I treat them?

It all starts with treating yourself and others well! Before you can even think about asking how others should treat you, you've got to make sure you're treating yourself and others right.

In summary, I truly believe that by introspecting first and then reaching out to others, you will gradually let go, not get tired, and stop being confused. You will know what you want! And I will be there for you every step of the way, cheering you on and supporting you.

Hey there! I'm Qingnian JIA2020, your new personal public account. I'm really looking forward to keeping in touch with you!

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Hello! I send you a warm hug from afar.

It is also important to recognize and appreciate your ability to be aware of your emotional state, as this is an essential first step towards positive change.

It is possible that being particularly sensitive, caring a lot about what others think of you, and having inexplicable anxiety may all stem from your internal inferiority and lack of self-confidence. It is also understandable that the pandemic will indeed affect people's emotional state to a certain extent, because the self-disciplined lifestyle they have been living has been disrupted, which can give people a strong sense of loss of control.

It may be helpful to allow and accept that you will occasionally feel anxious during the epidemic. You might then try to get along with this feeling. It could be beneficial to experience and perceive the needs hidden behind your anxious feelings. These might include the desire to be affirmed, supported, and encouraged, as well as the fear of being denied and rejected. When you can explore the needs hidden behind your emotions and try to respond and satisfy yourself through your own efforts, the harm that emotions do to you may be reduced.

It might be helpful to consider prioritizing your current work and tasks, focusing on what is most important to you at the moment. Attempting to complete these tasks first could be beneficial.

At the same time, it's important to remember not to expect too much perfection from yourself. Allowing yourself to be a little out of control can be beneficial, as long as you're mindful of it. Additionally, it's valuable to cultivate more interests and passions in your free time to enrich your life.

People can sometimes be a little too ambitious, especially when they don't have a clear understanding of their own abilities. They may set themselves too many tasks and goals, which can sometimes be unrealistic. When they don't achieve the goals they've set, it can lead to a sense of failure and, if they don't receive the support they need to cope with this, it can result in a vicious cycle of self-doubt and lack of confidence.

It would be beneficial to have reasonable expectations of yourself and to let go of the obsession with perfection. You can see your own shortcomings and inadequacies, but you can also see the more bright spots and advantages in yourself.

My name is Lily, and I'm the little ear of the Q&A Museum. I hope you'll accept my love for you and the world.

Question owner:

Hello! The pandemic has really thrown me for a loop, but I'm learning to embrace the new normal. I've been feeling a bit emotional, sensitive, and anxious, but I'm working through it. I can really relate to feeling restless and uneasy since I can't go out like usual.

In a not very open space, we will feel depressed and emotional after a long time. But don't worry! These emotions are totally understandable and traceable, especially when coupled with the pressure of major life events such as graduation and postgraduate entrance exams.

When various emotions arise, the first thing we should do is accept them. There is no such thing as a good or bad emotion; they are simply a form of body language. The good news is that we can try naming each emotion to see what it wants to tell you and whether you can do anything about it.

You say that you especially want to gain the attention of others and make others feel that you are a worthwhile person, but in fact you are very tired. This is true, because such a self is always trying to cater to the gaze of others, forgetting what it really wants and falling into self-doubt. But guess what? You can change that! You can become the amazing person you've always wanted to be.

Everyone is an individual, and that's a wonderful thing! Learn to accept yourself and others as they are, imperfections and all. Be confident in yourself and your beliefs, and don't let external evaluations sway you.

And speaking of sensitivity, did you know that sensitive people have their own incredible gifts?

For example, you are particularly keen on details and can always spot the little things that others miss, which is a great gift! You are cautious and consider multiple possible options and consequences before taking any action, which is a wonderful quality.

3. You have a high emotional awareness, which is a great gift! 4. You are creative, and many artists are sensitive, which is another wonderful quality!

5. They are empathetic and can understand other people's feelings, which is a great quality!

Of course, being overly sensitive can be distressing, but you can absolutely find ways to relieve your stress that suit you! Try mindfulness meditation, listening to music, exercising, and talking to someone close to you when you feel uncomfortable.

I really hope this gives you a little bit of inspiration! Thank you so much!