How can I overcome the feeling of being trapped and increasingly hating studying after going to college?

Good morning, host.

First and foremost, I wish to convey my comprehension of your circumstances, extend a gesture of empathy, and allow you to experience the comforting embrace of the world.

Indeed, it is probable that the majority of college students share your sentiments, as not all are fortunate enough to pursue their desired field of study and engage in activities they are passionate about. This aspect of fortune can be considered a survivor bias affecting a relatively small number of individuals who are able to pursue their interests without concerning themselves with future or financial considerations.

The objective situation is that for the average person, many individuals pursue a major that does not align with their interests and engage in activities that do not align with their interests in order to secure an income and meet basic needs.

I fully comprehend and empathize with the individuals you have described. Only through engaging in activities that align with one's interests can one develop a sense of motivation and excel in those endeavors. However, this perspective is only relative, as the majority of individuals believe that their interests are inherently suited to their abilities, yet this may not always be the case. While interest is undoubtedly a powerful motivator, one may learn more effectively outside of one's primary field of study. Nevertheless, one can undoubtedly master any subject.

It is frequently the case that the pursuits we find most engaging demand a high level of expertise and skill to accomplish and achieve. However, only a select few are able to truly excel in these domains.

It is important to note that one is not confined to a single path in life. While one may be engaged in a subject that does not align with one's personal interests, it is crucial to consider the broader perspective. One has only just traversed the initial third of their lifespan. Therefore, it is essential to maintain a positive outlook towards the future.

As you previously stated, if you have obtained a postgraduate degree in a related field, it is unclear why you did not pursue a major that aligns with your interests. It is evident that the subject matter related to your major does not align with your personal interests, which has led to a lack of motivation and a sense of stagnation. In postgraduate education, it is often observed that the most fulfilling moments are the initial enrollment and the completion of the program. This is because the process of obtaining a postgraduate degree is often challenging and requires significant dedication and perseverance.

In this era of introspection, many individuals pursue postgraduate diplomas. When taking postgraduate examinations, it is essential to determine whether the motivation is solely to obtain the diploma or if the pursuit of academic research is a significant factor.

It would be erroneous to assert that studying a subject one finds unappealing constitutes a futile exercise. There are, after all, numerous disciplines one might find distasteful, yet which possess intrinsic value. One might cite mathematics as a case in point. Many individuals find the subject unappealing and believe it has no practical applications. However, the ability to grasp its intricacies is beneficial in numerous ways.

Another example is learning skills such as PS PR, which may initially seem superfluous to the study of photography. However, for those pursuing a career in photography, these skills are invaluable for editing and represent a crucial tool for making a living.

It is often asserted that possessing a multitude of skills is beneficial and that it is always advantageous to expand one's skillset. While there may be certain skills one does not particularly enjoy or is not particularly adept at, acquiring a deeper understanding and proficiency in these skills can facilitate their utilisation in a more straightforward manner. This can lead to a perception of enhanced competence and capability, which may in turn garner admiration and respect from others.

The original poster's anxiety about graduation is understandable, given that graduation often coincides with unemployment. I am unsure of the best course of action. What are my options?

It is important to note that these anxiety issues and phenomena are all normal, and therefore the landlord should consider this from another perspective. It is not uncommon for graduates to experience these concerns, as everyone tends to wonder about their future prospects and abilities.

It is important to note, however, that the host need not be overly concerned. Once a state of calm is achieved and a positive mindset is adopted, it becomes evident that the challenges presented by academic obligations are not as daunting as they initially appear. These tasks, which may include homework, classes, and examinations, are merely part of the educational process. It is essential to have confidence in one's abilities and to maintain a sense of composure, rather than allowing an aversion to studying to take control.

It is important to consider that graduation is imminent and that this challenging period will eventually come to an end. The days ahead will undoubtedly become brighter. Therefore, it is crucial for the host to approach the upcoming days of homework, classes, and exams with a composed attitude, as these are the final days of their student life. Despite any fatigue associated with school, it is essential to adopt a different perspective. If they can successfully navigate this challenging period, they will have the opportunity to pursue their interests in the future. It is vital to instill hope within oneself, as this will not only make the days more bearable but will also imbue them with a sense of possibility.

It would be beneficial for the original poster to identify a day on which they can engage in activities that are not related to school. These activities could include going out, letting go of their emotions, taking a stroll, finding a friend to talk to, having afternoon tea, or going to the movies. Alternatively, they could go hiking and spend time in nature. It is important to note that these activities should be undertaken in addition to, rather than in place of, their usual school-related activities. If they continue to experience anxiety while attempting to remain inactive, their situation is likely to deteriorate further.

It is my sincere hope that the original poster will successfully complete their studies. I encourage them to persevere, as the situation will undoubtedly improve.

Dear questioner, It's great to hear from you. Your message made me feel like we've met in person.

From your message, I can tell you're a very smart kid. Even though you're not into your major, you've been admitted to grad school in a related field. This shows you've got what it takes to succeed in this field, even if you're not that into it. I think if you put your full effort into this field, you'll be even more successful.

But you don't feel like you've achieved anything, or you don't have a strong sense of what you've gained from it. What you do feel is a dislike of school, no interest, no desire to learn, all of which makes you feel pain, and you also want to change this state, but you don't know what to do.

With that in mind, it's important to think about our own plans for the future. Psychology has a subject called career planning, which is a separate psychological direction. In other words, whether we're in the workplace or an academic subject, we're all trying to become the person we want to be or to feel good about our careers.

Regarding your question about not liking your major, it's worth noting that for most people, college entrance exam scores were set as academic goals during our high school years. This meant that when we were studying in high school, we had clear goals. As long as we could achieve the target scores, we would feel a sense of achievement and satisfaction. College majors, however, are different. Many students will find that the content of their majors is obscure and difficult to understand. They may also feel that the knowledge is not interesting, that there is mostly theory, or that a large amount of data is accumulated, which is difficult to stimulate interest.

As with the psychology we studied, our basic subjects are all kinds of theories, which are numerous and tedious, and it is difficult to arouse interest. So why do we continue to study and pursue this career? It is also related to the future career direction of most of us. In order to achieve our goals, we must work hard to learn these obscure and difficult knowledge in the early stage. With a foundation laid, we will be more professional in our future work.

Based on my own experience and what I've learned about career planning, I'd like to offer some advice.

1. First, think about what you want your future career to look like. It's important to understand that most of us have different interests in our studies, work, and personal lives.

Many things you like and feel emotionally about may not necessarily become a career. If you want to make it your career, you need to think about whether this hobby can be sustained and become your career. After becoming your career, it can at least become a job that supports your family and earns money. If not, what will you live on? Is it feasible to combine career and interest?

2. Think about whether the major you're studying now will bring you a stable income in the future workplace. When we first enter the workplace, work is how we exchange our labor for rewards. This channel and platform will give you more possibilities in the future workplace, as well as the achievement goals you can reach in the next few years, and the comparability of the income brought by your interests and hobbies. Measure it by comparing it to your predictions.

3. If you're not happy with your current situation, you can either give up or switch to another field of study. Are you ready for that? When you're ready, you can either start again or work hard.

I'm not saying you can't pursue your interests and make it your career. I just want to remind you that we have other roles besides just being employees. We're also parents and children. When we become adults, we have to think about whether we're financially independent and can support ourselves before we can start thinking about other things. There are also a lot of people around me who have a stable income, but we don't forget our original intentions. We do what we like and try to turn it into a career. No matter what the final result is, it should be something you can afford or that challenges you!

We hope you'll think carefully about your major and future development direction and make a final decision based on your own situation. No matter which choice you make, we'll be there to support you, and we believe your choice will be the best one.

Have confidence in yourself!

Hello there!

I'm a heart exploration coach, and I believe that learning is the treasure of the body.

From what you've told me, I can see that you're going through a lot. It's clear that you're feeling confused, hurt, and helpless.

I'm not going to get into the nitty-gritty of your struggles with school avoidance here, but I'd love to share three pieces of advice with you:

First, I suggest you try to understand yourself and give yourself a little comfort.

I promise you, doing this will make your heart feel a little bit lighter. And that will help you think about what to do next.

You said that after you went to college, you became more and more disinterested in learning. You found that you didn't have any passion for your major, that you didn't like it and weren't good at it. Later, because you were confused about what to do, you went on to do a master's degree. As a result, your disinterest in learning has now become even more serious. You don't even want to write your homework. You feel like your life is trapped. I can see how you might feel this way. When faced with something you don't like to learn, most people will reject it. At the same time, everyone has the potential to improve themselves. It's hard to accept that you're doing nothing, which makes you even more miserable. I know it's tough. You can try to understand yourself, comfort yourself, and "see" that confused, temporarily at a loss, and miserable self. This will give you extra mental energy to think about other things, otherwise your mind will always be filled with all kinds of negative emotions. You've got this!

It's so important to give yourself the space to understand and accept yourself. This will help you to embrace change in your current situation. I know it might sound a little strange, but it's true! Change is all about allowing for it to happen.

Secondly, I'd like to suggest that you take a moment to view your own state in a rational way.

Because when you think things through, you can really get to know yourself and the world around you better.

I know it can be tough, but I'm here to help! To help you view things rationally, I've got three simple tips for you:

It's so important to remember that our likes often come after we've put in the effort.

In your description, you said that after you went to college, you realized that you were disinterested in learning, mainly because you didn't have any passion for your major. I can relate to that! At this time, you need to understand that what you call dislike or lack of passion, as well as not being good at it, is most likely because you haven't really understood what you've learned.

Sometimes, we only understand what we like after we've put our all into it.

Secondly, remember that you've got this! Completing your studies is your job, and you can do it!

In other words, no matter how much you dislike what you are studying, remember that getting a diploma is something you should do because it's your job. You're also responsible for yourself, your parents, and your teachers.

Third, remember that you can absolutely do both! You can complete your studies and do something you really like at the same time.

In your description, you said that you think people should learn what they like in order to be happy in the future, which is a great idea! But if you really understand what you are studying now and still can't like it, you can do what you like. The two things can be done at the same time and are not absolutely conflicting.

I really think that when you look at it rationally like this, some of those negative emotions in your heart will start to go away.

I really think you should focus on yourself for a while and think about what you can do to feel better.

When you take a step back and look at your situation with a cool head, you might even see what you need to do. At this point, you focus on yourself and try your best to do well.

For example, you could try to understand your current major better. Or you could ask those classmates who are particularly interested in your major to share their thoughts and opinions. You might find that you like it and thus find the direction of your efforts!

If you're still not feeling the love for your major after taking a good, hard look at it, tell yourself, "My main goal right now is to graduate. I can't give up halfway. It's never too late to do something you love." Once you've told yourself this, you might feel motivated to do your homework, and that will make you feel better.

You can also think about what you really like to do, as long as you can get your diploma, and then do your best. I know it can feel like you don't have much time or energy for this, but I truly believe you can refer to your state when preparing for the postgraduate entrance exam, because you said that you took the exam because you were confused, which shows that you are very strong in learning ability.

You can also ask a good friend to motivate you when you're feeling nervous. Having someone there to support you can really help! You can do this! You have the power to change your situation.

I know it can be tough, but when you start to take action, all kinds of negative emotions in your heart will naturally be slowly resolved. I promise you, sometimes the enemy of all kinds of negative emotions is action!

I really hope my answer helps you! If you'd like to chat some more, just click on "Find a Coach" at the bottom and we can have a one-on-one conversation.

I can really relate to what you're going through, especially since I also went to college. It's so frustrating when you don't have a passion for your major and you're not good at it. It can really make you feel lost and confused.

The original poster went on to get a postgraduate degree in a related field. "I don't want to listen to the lectures, I don't want to do the homework, and I can't calm down even though I have an exam coming up."

I totally get it! The facts have also proven that the original poster still has internal motivation, which is why they feel "really painful."

This painful emotion gave us the motivation to change, and I'm so happy we did!

The original poster has already put in a lot of effort, but it seems that if they keep going in the same direction, they won't get the results they're looking for. It might be time to try something new!

First, find something that really gets your heart racing with excitement!

It's totally normal to change your major and find employment in that field!

I really agree with what you said: "I always feel that people can only be happy in the future if they learn what they like."

Absolutely! Our previous education was designed to encourage students to be well-rounded and to compensate for any weaknesses.

But, with the way society is changing, it's becoming more and more important to find a job that lets you use your special skills.

You are constantly working on yourself and getting better and better at what you love, which is a win-win for everyone!

You'll find your calling, and through your efforts, you'll solve a certain contradiction in society. Because society needs to solve this pain point,

And the best part is that resources will be directed towards you and flow back to you. You can survive and establish yourself in society, and this is just following the trend.

So, the most important thing you can do right now is to rediscover what you love, no matter what you're studying.

You've got this! The biggest resource you have is that you are still young and just getting started. The sunk cost is not high, and you can turn the ship around even if it is small.

You've worked so hard for this for four years at university, so don't worry about spending time verifying it. Change direction immediately, find your passion, and remember, it's never too late!

Next, it's time to get organized! Learn to manage your time well, prioritize, and form good habits.

When you find something you like to do again, and you still need to juggle graduate school, it's really important to arrange your day well.

Outside of studying, it's so important to do the things you love! And it's also a great idea to find amazing people in related fields and have the chance to learn more from them.

When we go from school to work in the future, you might find that what you do isn't exactly what you like.

Once you learn how to manage your time well, you'll be able to do all the things you love while also taking care of your studies. You'll also be more adaptable at work, which is great!

While you're studying for your master's, why not make the most of your summer and winter vacations by getting out there and experiencing life and society?

If you organize your waking hours well, you'll see that life is so much more than just studying. Our lives are rich and full of wonderful experiences!

Hey there! I'd love to know how you manage your time so well!

I really think the best way to do this is to keep a record of your time throughout the day.

Once you've recorded for a week and reviewed it, you'll see which areas of your time can be used effectively and which areas you can spend less time on in the future. Visualization can really help you be more efficient, and when you have something you like doing, you'll be more motivated to do other things!

And remember, every little bit counts! Even progress of 0.01 is progress!

Once things get back on track, I'm a little worried that I'll lose confidence again because I set the bar pretty high for myself.

So, in this process, as long as you make progress of 0.01 every day, remember to give yourself a little pat on the back and say, "I've made progress!"

It can be tough to get started with something you love, especially if you're short on time. But remember, taking it one step at a time is the best way to make progress.

Take some time for yourself to celebrate your achievements!

Let's say you used to get up at 7:00 every morning. You could set a goal for yourself to get up at 6:00!

But if after a few days you realize that you can only get up at around 6:40, then just lower your goal to getting up at 6:45.

This is also 15 minutes earlier than before 7 o'clock, which is pretty amazing, and you'll feel so good about yourself!

Once you've gotten used to this rhythm, you can start pushing yourself forward a little bit at a time!

It's so great to see people gradually breaking out of their comfort zones, rather than trying to be the best at once.

The most important thing is to start affirming yourself, learning to encourage yourself, and empowering yourself.

And finally, find yourself a lovely circle of positive energy and work hard with a group of positive friends!

It's so great that young people now have many circles of their own, and they are established based on interests!

The host can also try to find some great people with the same interests on the Internet. It's a wonderful way to connect with like-minded individuals and learn from them!

You can also find such wonderful friends around you to encourage, motivate, and empower each other!

You have a strong internal drive and want to get better and better, and I totally get that! It's mainly a matter of perseverance and hard work, but you've got this!

And the best part is, when you have a group of people walking forward together, things get better and better!

I really hope you find what you're looking for! I also hope you find a group of people to walk with you on your journey to become the best version of yourself. Go for it!

Hello question asker! I'm happy to answer your question.

Going from high school to university should be happy, but you chose a major you don't like. When you took the postgraduate entrance exam, you chose a major you've studied for a long time. You felt lost, didn't you? First, give the questioner a little strength.

The transition from high school to university is big and can be shocking. If these shocks are not dealt with, they can turn into setbacks and confusion, which can lead to a breakdown. After entering university, the positive feedback an individual receives decreases, and the mode of life and study changes. People begin to test the "imagination of freedom" they had before, and there are many disappointments.

Many people give up on themselves and their studies when they don't get into their favorite major. So what if you're in college and studying something you don't like?

How can you get out of not liking your major and giving up on your studies? Since the question was asked on a platform, I will give some advice.

1. Figure out what you really like.

A student who likes writing applied for Chinese, but was transferred to history. A student who likes anime applied for Japanese, but was transferred to Chinese.

When you're annoyed that you didn't get into your favorite major, have you ever asked yourself: What do you really like?

Some students change their major because they lose interest under pressure.

Knowing that Chinese involves ancient Chinese and logic, will a child learning to write regret it? Knowing that Japanese studies involve Japanese language certificates at different levels, will a student of Japanese feel pressure?

You need a clear goal before you start.

2. Forget about what you like and study your major.

The questioner has entered graduate school for a major he doesn't like. He shouldn't give up, but take responsibility for himself. Seize the moment, because youth is fleeting.

If you don't like your major, try studying it. You might find joy in it. The joy you find might change your perspective on your major.

Many things are done well because you like them, but you like them because you do them well. The questioner has been admitted to graduate school in his original major. This shows he is talented in this major.

Will studying your favorite major be easy?

3. Pass an exam.

There's an old saying: "If you're here, you might as well make the best of it." Some people find it hard to give up, even if they don't like their major, and they persevere.

You can learn what you're interested in. One way is to attend classes without registering.

You can also take the PETS and interpreter exams in English.

If you have a professional skill certificate related to your favorite major, you can learn related knowledge while studying your major. I majored in a subject I didn't like in college, but I persevered.

Later, he took a course and passed the exam.

4. Minor in another subject.

Many people don't major in their favorite subjects in college. They work harder and minor in a second subject. They have two degrees when they graduate. This makes them more knowledgeable and competitive in seeking employment.

Your major doesn't always match your job.

Steve Jobs dropped out of university after one semester to take a calligraphy class. He later used what he learned to design Apple products and fonts. Apple products have a minimalist style and smooth lines.

If you have a dream and work hard, you can succeed in any field. You can avoid a subject you dislike or tackle it head-on. Every subject has value, and you will gain something from it.

Sometimes we forget why we started. Think about the hard work you put in before the college entrance exam.

Life is not always easy. You got into the university you wanted, but not the major you wanted. But if you don't give up, you can still succeed.

Remember your original intentions and you will succeed.

Hope this helps!

The message shows that not liking the major you studied in school makes you feel confused and even sad about the future. It's like being stuck in a dark, endless night with no way out and no idea where to go.

This sharing is meant to help you think in a new way and feel better about being confused.

Confusion is normal at this stage in your life.

You're exploring your life direction. Erikson's eight stages of development say that the university years bring a delay or psychological moratorium. In late adolescence, self-identity development slows as a buffer for entering society.

Self-identity is about integrating your needs, emotions, abilities, goals, values, and other characteristics into a unified personality. It's about developing consistent and firm parts of yourself.

During periods of stagnation, individuals can explore themselves and integrate their personalities. Without a buffer period for self-exploration, individuals will encounter problems in their self-development.

Most college students are confused like you.

Relax and don't think you're an outsider. You'll have more possibilities.

2. See your abilities and find a way to improve them.

2. Know your abilities and find a way to improve them.

The questioner got into graduate school in a related field and went on to further his studies in a higher institution, even though his grades were getting worse because he had no interest in the subject.

This may also mean the questioner is capable. This ability can help you achieve your initial goals when you're in a bad mood.

When you feel stuck, look at your abilities.

These abilities help us see what we can achieve without much effort. This allows us to find a few anchor points and extend outward from there.

3. Find a career planner or talk to friends and try new things.

Your social experience limits you.

So, you can find better opportunities and make mistakes more quickly by looking up to others and seeing further.

This part:

1. Find a career planner to explore your strengths with you.

2. You can also ask your classmates or seniors for help.

3. You can find online and offline groups that share your concerns. You can learn more by talking with others.

4. We can start with part-time jobs on or off campus to understand our preferences and find our direction.

I'm not a human nature expert, but I care about people. I wish you well.

Dear Landlord, It is akin to seeing a friend when you see their face. You have demonstrated perseverance in pursuing a postgraduate degree in a subject you do not find particularly appealing, which is a testament to your dedication and resolve to succeed. Best regards,

The decision regarding one's major can be a significant source of distress for many college students. It is therefore important to consider the steps that can be taken in the present to address this challenge. The following recommendations are offered in the hope that they will prove beneficial.

It would be beneficial to identify the positive aspects of your current major and to accept the reality of the situation.

All professions exhibit similarities, and there are no rigid boundaries that would preclude one from pursuing their current profession and subsequently working in their desired industry in the future.

My mother's undergraduate major was foreign trade, but she also had a strong interest in psychology. After extensive self-study, she passed the postgraduate and master's examinations in psychology at the Chinese Academy of Sciences and is now a nationally certified psychological counselor. She continues to serve in her beloved position. This illustrates that a student's initial major choice will not become a limitation or a shackle in the future.

It would be prudent to identify the positive aspects of your current major that could serve as a foundation for your ideal major. These could then be used as a springboard and stepping stone for your future aspirations. It is acknowledged that others may have a different perspective.

It is recommended that one should give oneself positive mental suggestions.

The "Encyclopedia of Psychology" defines psychological suggestion as follows: "In a subtle and indirect way, it influences the psychology or behavior of others. Suggestion often causes others to act in a certain way without realizing it, or to accept certain opinions or beliefs without criticism."

A substantial body of evidence indicates that an individual's abilities and character are shaped significantly by their surrounding environment and the expectations of others. In this context, the "Rosenthal effect" offers a valuable insight. This effect suggests that when an individual regularly affirms their ability to accept challenges and persevere through them, their brain will eventually internalize this as a personal value, leading to a reduction in resistance.

It is recommended that these positive attributes be recorded.

It is recommended that you record your day in the form of short sentences, simple drawings, or a diary entry on a daily basis. This will assist you in discovering the joy of life as a postgraduate student. It is also advised that you actively participate in group activities, exercise regularly, and allow the early spring sunshine and the blossoming Taihu flowers to imbue you with natural vitality and motivation, which will assist you in balancing out any negative emotions you may be experiencing.

The splendor of the world is inextricably linked with your existence, and it is my sincere hope that the future will unfold in a favorable manner. The world and I are enamored with you.

Hello, question asker! I'm Enoch, the answerer. From your description, it seems like you've developed a dislike for school because you chose a major in college that you don't like or isn't your best fit. Even so, you still made the brave decision to apply to graduate school in a related field when you felt lost about your future. However, during graduate school, you're still learning about a major you don't like every day, and it's making you feel even more disillusioned with school. You feel stuck in a rut and don't know how to get out of it.

Let's take a closer look at what's really going on here.

1. During college, you started to feel less and less interested in your major and began to dislike studying.

We all have to make lots of different choices in our lives. Especially before going to college, we don't really know much about society or careers, so it's totally normal to feel confused when choosing a major. When they get to college and have thoroughly studied and perceived their major, they often realize that they don't really like or excel at what they've chosen, so they reject their major from the bottom of their hearts. At the same time, they develop an aversion to their major, and therefore become unmotivated to study. They feel unhappy and like they're wasting their time, which is totally understandable!

2. Use postgraduate entrance exams to give yourself some time to figure out what you want to do.

The questioner studied a major he didn't like and doesn't want to work in a related field. This has left him feeling pretty confused when he graduates from university. He's not sure what he wants to do or what he's capable of doing, but he doesn't want to give up or make any big mistakes in his life. So, he's decided to take the postgraduate entrance exam to face the anxiety of possibly having to work in a job he doesn't like. This way, he can delay the anxiety relatively safely in society.

3. After successfully passing the postgraduate entrance exam, you have to face a major you don't like.

It's totally understandable to feel like you're stuck in a related major. There might be restrictions on the major for postgraduate entrance exams, or you might only be able to get into a related major. Either way, it can be really frustrating to feel like you're stuck in a major you don't like. I know it can be hard to stay motivated when you're facing these challenges. It's okay to feel unmotivated to study when you're in a related major. It's not easy to find a way out of this situation, and it's totally normal to feel distressed.

I really hope these suggestions help the questioner!

1. You've got this! Gather your courage and make a bold transformation to give yourself a new life.

In psychology, there's a lovely story about an eagle's metamorphosis. Every eagle will undergo this transformation when it turns 30 years old. Its teeth and feathers will fall off, and the eagle will have to endure the pain of hunger and the inability to fly. At the same time, it has to peck at the tree every day to make its teeth fall off. It has to endure intense pain during this process. After going through all this, the eagle will become a male eagle, then spread its wings and soar in the higher sky, and then live to be about 50 years old. Some other eagles that are unwilling to go through this metamorphosis will degenerate, not fly high enough, and even eagles that grow up in the chicken coop for a long time will slowly lose their fighting spirit and forget how to fly like the chickens.

I previously studied accounting. By chance, after watching the experience of an MBA who turned his life around, I felt that I should not be satisfied with the status quo. I should not just engage in a fixed job with not much change and that is also very boring! So, I decided to get an MBA master's degree. During my studies, I found a lot of psychology-related courses really interesting. I found my hobby and devoted myself to it wholeheartedly. I have also gone further and further on the path of learning psychology and using psychology to improve myself and help others.

I really hope that the questioner can also take the time to explore lots of different areas of interest while he's doing his current studies at graduate school. It would be great if he could find a way to take some of the majors he likes, and go for it! It'll be a big change, but it'll be so worth it.

2. Make the most of every day, do your best in everything you do, and make yourself feel that life is so much more meaningful!

An aunt once told her child that if they could endure the hard years of study, life would be much easier in the future. So many children persevere with their studies with this encouragement. I can see why they'd think that, but I disagree with this view.

I also believe that life is often a process of trial and error and exploration, as well as a process of taking responsibility for each day.

As we explore ourselves and our surroundings, we slowly find the right direction in life. We also understand our needs and wants in our daily lives and try to make ourselves like ourselves more and more through our own efforts and changes. We can do it! Just look at these great inventors like Marie and Pierre Curie and Thomas Edison. They experienced countless failures and endured, and ultimately achieved the success they had hoped for.

So, I really think it would be a great idea for the questioner to explore his interests and strengths in his major while also learning more about other majors that interest him. I'm sure that, with a bit of effort, he'll find his own life direction and achieve his ideal life. As long as he doesn't give up, it's never too late!

I really hope the questioner finds success and happiness very soon!

Dear questioner, I'm Pei Lu.

Let me give you a hug.

No interest in the major. Dislike learning.

You're unhappy with your situation and want to break free.

Data interpretation

The questioner said that they feel trapped in their current lives. They can't focus on academic research and are confused about the future. Since starting university, they have realized that they have no passion for their major. After entering graduate school, they have become more and more averse to learning and want to escape. They feel decadent and doubt themselves.

You can't be happy if you hate what you're doing. I understand your frustration. It's hard to decide between two bad options.

Reason analysis

The questioner said, "You have to learn what you like to be happy. Learning what you don't like is a waste of time." You think your lack of motivation and enthusiasm for learning is why you have poor grades. What do you like?

You can choose again after university. Why didn't you choose to study what you like? "I was confused when I was about to graduate, not knowing what I could do or what I wanted to do." Have you not found your passion or a goal for the future?

If you immerse yourself in something you're interested in, it will give you more motivation. But it won't always be easy. You will face challenges, just like the person who asked the question. You might think that love and happiness are too idealistic. But you need to have the willpower and ability to overcome difficulties.

A postgraduate career is full of challenges and self-doubt. This shows the difficulty of scientific research. You have the qualities and abilities to succeed. You may have encountered difficulties and felt like giving up.

Advice for yourself

Enjoy the present.

Learning things you don't like isn't a waste of time. It will always be valuable. Learning valuable things adds to your future. If you haven't found your passion, focus on the tasks at hand.

Let it out.

Negative emotions can make us lose our motivation and make us give up. We should not be confused by them, nor should we be overly anxious or self-blame. First, learn to be aware of and accept them, and then find a way to release them, such as talking to friends and family, exercising, etc.

Find your passion.

Everyone wants to find happiness and a fulfilling career. Life is long, and we are constantly changing. Finding happiness is something you do your whole life. There's no need to rush. Take each step of life one at a time.

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I love you, world.

Dear Questioner,

I have also experienced the confusion of university, and I feel like I want to study but I just can't. Before the exam, I know that I need to study hard, so I create a detailed study plan. However, when it comes to actually implementing it, I feel like I am unable to do so, and I experience a sense of frustration. I even begin to doubt the rationale behind my decision to pursue this major. What is the point of studying so painfully? I can really relate to how you feel!

It is challenging to identify work that is solely driven by internal motivation and interest. In the current context, many individuals persevere through challenging processes in pursuit of specific benefits and goals. It is, therefore, crucial for the questioner to consider the potential benefits that can be gained from persevering through the current demanding learning process.

For example, passing a course will facilitate postgraduate studies, and attaining a high score will afford the opportunity to compete for a scholarship. It is recommended to record any objective that can provide motivation.

The questioner may consider the meaning of life and attempt to utilize internal motivation to drive them to complete their current tasks. This is a positive realization, indicating a desire to avoid living a meaningless life for the sake of profit. Additionally, the fact that the questioner is able to gain admission to graduate school demonstrates their considerable capabilities.

Additionally, the questioner's expectations of himself are evident.

As the adage states, "Love what you do." All things in the world do not possess intrinsic meaning; rather, meaning is ascribed by humans. If a particular major is a viable pursuit, it must possess its own meaning. The questioner may benefit from exploring the meaning of the major, or conversing with individuals in the same major to ascertain their goals and motivations.

It is not sufficient to merely study for the examination; one must also experience the satisfaction and joy of learning. Attempting to apply the knowledge gained to real-life situations will greatly enhance its significance.

In conclusion, it is recommended that the questioner adopt a more spontaneous approach. The questioner appears to be overthinking the situation, as evidenced by the following statements: "I am going to take an exam, why am I still so lazy?" and "What is the point of studying this?"

One might inquire as to the rationale behind investing such significant effort into academic pursuits at this juncture. It is not uncommon for excessive reflection to impede one's forward progress.

The questioner may wish to consider practicing mindfulness and living in the present moment. It is advised that one "do good deeds without worrying about the future." One should attend to the tasks at hand in the present moment. Should one feel disinclined to do so, it is recommended that one take a bold break and relax in order to achieve a balance between body and mind.

It is this author's sincere hope that you will be able to achieve the capacity to generate your own happiness.