How can one determine if a work environment is suitable for themselves when the job does not meet expectations?

Hello, dear friend! I totally get where you're coming from. It can be really tough when you feel alone in your passions, especially when those closest to you don't understand or support your dreams. It's natural to feel frustrated when your talents aren't recognized or even questioned by yourself. And, of course, the fear of being fired can leave us all a bit wary of letting others assess our abilities. It's understandable that you're hesitant to reach out to people, even if it means taking on a role you're not particularly excited about. But, your current role still involves interacting with many people, which can make you feel even more anxious and uncertain.

You ask how to determine whether a work environment is suitable for you. I think your question has two meanings. First, you are asking whether the current work environment in the bookstore is suitable for you. Second, you are really asking whether the field of illustration design is suitable for you.

Now, about your first question: Is the current working environment in the bookstore a good fit for you? Well, if we just look at the job attributes and how they match your personal characteristics, it might not be the best fit. Maybe you're a quiet person who likes to work independently, but the current bookstore job requires you to interact with many people, which might not be the best match for your personality. However, from another perspective, this job could be a great fit for you!

I'd love to tell you why!

In the first paragraph of my analysis, you mentioned that you're afraid of crowds. I totally get it! We all have our own reasons for feeling this way. For you, it's probably a combination of your personality trait of preferring to be alone and the blow dealt by your previous work, which has made you afraid of the gaze and judgment of others. I know it can feel scary to think about, but even if you work as an illustrator in the future, even if you have independent creative space, you will inevitably have to cooperate with your peers and avoid various comments from editors and readers. I'm here to tell you that the current bookstore work is actually a great fit for you! It's a wonderful opportunity to cultivate a strong heart and not be afraid of others' comments. You're already doing so much to hone your psychology and exercise your courage to be hated. Keep up the amazing work!

In the artistic field, people have such different opinions! If you don't have the courage to laugh at other people's negative comments, you might find it tough to make a long-term impact in this field, even if you have a lot of passion.

As for the second part of your question, whether you're suited to the field of illustration design, the only way to find out is to give it a try and stick with it for a while.

If you're not ready to leave your current job at the bookstore with a steady income, that's okay! You can keep writing, submitting articles, and even run a small personal illustration store after work. There are so many talented individual illustration designers on Taobao, and I've personally bought their work.

If you can stick with it outside of work, it means that this thing, this field, is your true love. True love is not afraid of difficulties or conditions. If you ever find that you're making excuses or reasons for not sticking with something, it might not be true love, or it might not be as pure as you thought. But don't worry! You're still young, and there's plenty of time to find true love elsewhere.

Wishing you all the best! And may you find your true love soon!

Come on, my friend!

Good morning, I am pleased to have this opportunity to respond to your question.

From the questioner's description, it seems that the questioner is currently in a rather confused situation. The professional work that they like does not continue as expected, and their mother's disapproval makes the questioner unsure whether to follow the family's arrangements.

Therefore, regardless of whether the questioner is employed in a field they enjoy, maintaining a stable mood is challenging, and pressure and anxiety are unavoidable. However, experiencing a sense of crisis is not inherently negative, as it indicates high expectations of self-improvement and the aspiration to become a better version of oneself in the future.

The questioner has studied in the UK for many years and is seeking employment in his field of expertise. To succeed in your chosen industry, it is essential to understand your strengths, the job market, and the relevant industries in your country. Only by being fully prepared can you stay in the relevant industry for a long time.

I will provide you with encouragement and support, and I hope you will be able to identify your own path forward.

What steps can be taken to secure long-term employment in one's desired industry?

It is important to ensure that your position is accurate.

Prior to seeking employment, it is essential to define your professional position. Regardless of your academic background or qualifications, you are a novice in the professional setting. Having a clear understanding of your strengths, skills, and contributions is crucial for your success.

It is essential to have a clear understanding of your own skills, experience, and abilities, as well as the needs of the company, the leaders, and the market. These factors will help you to position yourself effectively in the job market.

In many large companies, candidates are typically asked to give a structured interview, during which the interviewer will usually ask the candidate to give a brief overview of their background and experience.

The objective of this question is to gain insight into your background, achievements, motivation for working at XYZ company, and future career goals. Accurate positioning can also help the interviewer quickly gain the company's favor.

Please create a list of your strengths and skills.

What are your strengths and what are your skills? Please create a comprehensive list. First, you need to be clear about your strengths and weaknesses. If you are not sure, please answer the following questions.

1. What work do you find most engaging and inspiring?

2. What work do you have a passion for and can improve upon?

3. What work do you excel at but find challenging?

4. What tasks do you find challenging or unpleasant?

Once these points have been clarified, a basic understanding of yourself will be established. Targeted improvements can then be made based on your own development and needs, with the aim of enhancing your core competitive advantage and improving your ability to face work with ease.

Secondly, create a list of your skills. Consider which skills will make the interviewer more qualified for the position you desire.

Seek out books and courses that can markedly enhance your proficiency in this domain. During the interview, inform the interviewer of your current reading and learning materials, and be prepared to continue doing so.

The following list details the key job skills that are required by some companies and are essential for job seekers to secure employment and perform their roles effectively.

It is important to actively learn about the company you wish to join.

If you wish to work in your preferred industry, it is essential to identify a company that aligns with your professional goals. The prospective employer also expects the candidate to demonstrate a clear understanding of the company's culture and work environment. It is not sufficient to gain this understanding from online sources alone; the candidate must also invest time and effort to fully comprehend the company's unique characteristics.

Given that the questioner has recently entered the industry and the company in question, it is crucial to gain a comprehensive understanding of the industry and the company. This entails familiarising oneself with the company's history.

Who was the company's founder? Where was it founded?

It is also important to ascertain who is running the company. If you join a company, it is advisable to speak with employees on a regular basis to gain insight into their perceptions of the company. Adopting a positive and constructive approach is beneficial in such discussions.

It is important to build your network.

Some companies value referrals from their own employees. It is therefore advisable to make a list of all your friends, relatives, and acquaintances.

Contact them individually, share your ideas with them, and inquire about potential job openings they may know of that align with your interests. Be confident and proactive in your approach.

Inform them of the type of position you are seeking, but indicate your willingness to consider alternative options. It is often beneficial to be open-minded about job opportunities, even if they are outside of your immediate field of expertise. An individual connection can facilitate initial access, and subsequently, once you have gained experience and established a reputation, you can negotiate salary or consider a change in position.

Contact all of your professional contacts and request guidance. Provide them with details about your desired role and industry. When a potential opportunity arises, they will recall your conversations and recommend it to you without hesitation.

It is not uncommon for job opportunities to appear less than ideal. However, it is important to remain grateful for the assistance of others.

Working in a field you are passionate about may present initial challenges and unexpected obstacles. A former colleague of mine exemplifies this. He began his career in IT but later transitioned to psychology, a field he found more aligned with his interests.

Initially, he accepted any position, regardless of remuneration, provided it was aligned with his expertise. Over time, he became a subject matter expert in his field.

It is important to adjust your mindset.

When searching for employment, it is important to adjust your mindset. There is a distinction between the mindset of merely seeking employment and one of actively contributing to the work that is required. When the interviewer has a specific industry in mind, it is natural to hope that others can provide something of value in return. However, it is more beneficial to consider what you can offer others and how you can help them succeed in their roles.

In your preferred industry, utilize your role, skills, and abilities to their fullest potential.

Do not dwell on the idea of changing jobs. When interviewing at a company, many companies seek to recruit stable workers. Instead of focusing on job changes, consider the value you can bring to the company, your desired tenure, and the reasons behind your decision.

It is not the case that you should make yourself fit the job; rather, you should actively adapt your skills to the relevant jobs you find.

For instance, a position may require editing skills, but also call for proficiency in drawing. In such a case, the candidate should pursue training in the requisite editing skills while also enhancing their drawing abilities to align with the job requirements.

In short, it is often difficult to determine whether your preferred major is suitable for this industry. Having a broader skill set can help you advance in your career and overcome limitations associated with a single skill set.

I hope this information is helpful to the individual who posed the question.

Hello, dear questioner!

When we first enter the workforce, we all encounter many problems—and we can learn so much from them!

You've done a great job reflecting on this! It's so admirable that you're sad that your mother has rejected everything you've ever done. But you've also realized that you've unknowingly agreed with her, which is a huge step in the right direction.

I would absolutely love to go through this with you! I really hope it will be of some comfort and inspiration to you.

I would absolutely love to go through this with you! I really hope it will be of some comfort and inspiration to you.

1. Take a closer look at what happened!

When we're not doing well at work, it's only natural to wonder if our previous choices were the right ones.

For example, "Sometimes I even wonder if it would have been better if I hadn't studied abroad. Maybe if I work hard for a few years now, I can make up for the lack of experience I had when I first graduated." This is a very normal thought, and it's a great opportunity to make up for lost time!

And there's more! Let's also look at why we think this way.

When we encounter something that doesn't match our expectations, it's totally normal to have these thoughts and emotions.

And this kind of thinking, generally speaking, does little except torture yourself. But there's so much more to life than that!

And that's all in the past!

There's a simple way to help yourself adjust: think about all the amazing benefits you've gained from the choices you've made!

For example, you have a valuable study abroad experience, an open mind, and a good education. You also like what you studied, and that's what matters most!

2. Give reattribution a try!

When we encounter setbacks, it is inevitable that we will doubt ourselves. But that's OK! We can turn this around.

Give yourself a big, warm hug!

And guess what? We can also re-examine the causes of the so-called mishaps!

I don't know exactly why you were fired, but I know you'll find a way to turn it into a positive!

When something like this happens, it's totally normal to feel frustrated.

The great news is that the occurrence of an event must be the result of multiple, complex factors.

When we attribute most of it to ourselves, we have the opportunity to learn and grow!

On the one hand, you might not meet the job requirements of that company. But on the other hand, there are so many other possibilities! It could be some aspect of the company, or something else entirely.

It may not necessarily be that you are not professionally competent, which is great news!

It may not necessarily be that you are not professionally competent, which is great because that means you have so much to offer!

I totally get you! The more you love painting, the more you're afraid to get lost in that creative flow again.

This is also a great way to protect ourselves!

The good news is that we can see our own thoughts and worries and adjust them as appropriate, which may be more conducive to facing new situations.

3. Boost your self-esteem and feel great about yourself!

A sense of worth is all about having trust in yourself. It's about believing that you can do a great job, that you have the ability, and that you are totally okay!

When we encounter setbacks, it's an opportunity to rebuild and strengthen our sense of self-worth!

Often, they blame external things on their own lack of goodness.

The key to success is to work hard to improve your sense of self-worth!

For example,

Take a holistic view of yourself and see the amazing person you are!

Set a small, achievable goal and go for it!

You are so courageous in taking action, looking for work, and willing to try! In these attempts, I believe you have accumulated your own incredible experience.

You are so courageous in taking action, looking for work, and willing to try! In these attempts, I believe you have accumulated your own experiences, and it's so inspiring to see you taking the initiative!

While it's true that how family and friends perceive our work can affect us, the most important thing is how we deal with such conflicts.

On the one hand, I'm doing this to make money, so I'll give working in this bookstore a try!

It's totally normal to have difficulties at work or feel like it's not the right place for you.

Sometimes working is like falling in love! You can only know if it's right for you and if you like it if you try it.

It's so important to learn to distinguish between other people's voices and our own!

The amount of salary cannot define the quality of the work or one's own value — and that's a great thing!

4. Career planning.

In career planning, I absolutely love this concept!

It's what you love, what you're great at, and what the world needs!

And it can also be expressed as interests, abilities, and values!

This is the sweet spot of a career!

Trying to think along these lines is a great way to find work that you love and excel at!

Just share these ideas!

If you're interested, you've got to check out "Parenting Your Inner Child"!

It can help us enhance our sense of self-worth and find a sense of meaning—and it's a great way to do it!

Wishing you the very best!

Hello!

Host:

My name is Zeng Chen, and I'm a heart exploration coach. I've read your post and I totally get where you're coming from. I can relate to the complex emotions and slight anxiety you're feeling.

At the same time, I also noticed that you were really courageous to face your own heart and actively seek help on the platform. This helped you understand yourself better and know yourself better, so you could adjust yourself and encounter a better self!

Next, I'm thrilled to share my observations and thoughts in the post, which I'm sure will help you view yourself from a more diverse perspective!

1. Look at the negative from a richer perspective—you'll be amazed at what you find!

From the post, I learned that the poster had, after graduating, found a job as an illustrator of picture books. Unfortunately, she was fired from the company, but I'm excited to learn and grow from this experience. I feel that if I choose a job in a similar industry again, I may repeat the same mistake. I am very afraid of being fired again, but I'm also excited to find a job that aligns with my skills and interests. After reading this, I understand the poster's fear very much, and I'm motivated to make the best decisions moving forward.

At the same time, it also reminded me of a story. A psychological editor would procrastinate when she had to submit a manuscript. She knew that she was under pressure and wanted to write a good article, but she just couldn't get started.

Later, she had an epiphany! She realized that she was afraid of being frustrated and "failing." Why? Because she was afraid that after the manuscript was written, readers would not like it, the reading volume would not be good, and there would even be a lot of bad comments.

But then she simply faced her failure head-on. As long as she took responsibility for her own writing and trusted the content she produced, even if the reading volume was not good and there were readers who did not recognize it, she could accept this failure as her own. This failure reminded me that I can make some adjustments to the manuscript, but it does not mean that I am bad. In this way, she faced her failure head-on, and it was a great example to me!

She treats failure as a very common experience, so it's no big deal. She knows that failure is just another stepping stone to success!

This story gave me the biggest inspiration of all! It taught me that we can choose to see a negative as a negative, or we can choose to see it as something else. When we choose to see failure and negativity as something else, they lose their power.

2. Let go of your imagination!

Sometimes when facing work, we may need to let go of our imagination and adjust our expectations. But don't worry! There's still a big gap between reality and imagination, so there's plenty of room for imagination to catch up with reality.

So, let's ask ourselves: What are our original intentions? What kind of work do we really like? And what kind of work can help us find the meaning and value of our lives?

The original poster mentioned in the post that she likes to draw and that her profession is an illustrator. Then we can take a look together! If we want to do what we like, we have to find meaning in what we like.

So what do we need to do most at the moment? We can try to break down this goal, dividing the big goal into small goals. This is a great way to make progress!

Dividing our goals into small, achievable targets is a great way to gradually approach our big goals. It's also a fantastic way to feel a sense of achievement and fulfillment along the way. And, of course, we can reward ourselves after completing our small goals!

And the best part is, if we do this, we'll change!

The original poster mentioned in the post that he had just graduated not long ago and that he might lack some experience. So how can he gain this experience? It's a great question! And the answer is simple: he just needs to get out there and do it!

I think this is something you can do right now! We have to understand that progress is gradual, but it's so worth it!

Think of all the amazing things you can do in your life! You can go thousands of miles without accumulating small steps. Growing up means coexisting with pain, but it also means gaining a lot.

The amazing thing is that what we experience is either gain or learning!

3. Adjust your inner self

For the poster, I think it may be more of a lack of inner confidence or inner abundance than a lack of methods. We can work together to find out why you are afraid of being rejected, and I'm excited to help you overcome this challenge!

Once we understand this issue, I think you will have many ways to achieve your goals and passions!

So, why are you afraid of being rejected? Let's find out why you doubt yourself when others reject you!

In some ways, could this be a form of self-disapproval? Do you feel that you are only good when you are excellent and recognized by others?

Absolutely! The original poster can explore themselves in this direction.

Let's also take a closer look at the more successful people around us. Could it be that they're confident because they're good? Or are they good because they're confident?

There is still a difference between the two, and it's a big one! The former needs to prove himself through his success and excellence, while the latter does not need to prove himself because he is inherently good and will not doubt himself because he did not do a good job.

I really hope these will be helpful and inspiring for you! If you have any questions, you can also try clicking on Find a Coach to chat with a coach one-on-one and really get to know yourself better.

Thank you for trusting me to answer and for giving us another chance to talk.

The message feels familiar. After being dismissed, the questioner found a new job. The process was difficult.

The message is friendly and familiar. After being dismissed, the questioner found a new job through hard work. The message doesn't mention the difficulties, but they're likely.

Not everyone can find a new job after such hardship and keep seeking support on the platform after facing difficulties in the next job. This is the strength of the questioner, and I applaud you.

Not everyone can get back on their feet after such hardship and find a new job. This is the strength of the questioner, and I applaud you.

The mother denies what the questioner has done and is uncomfortable with guests at the new job.

This sharing is meant to help you overcome your current problems.

1. Think about what work means to you and find a balance between what you need to do and what you enjoy.

The questioner knows what they want from this job.

People expect to make money, try it out for a while, and change jobs after a bad experience.

This job is about:

1. Provide security.

2. Change your mood

This job has advantages and disadvantages.

1. Leave work on time.

2. You often have to deal with customers.

This job can fulfill the questioner's original "need."

Sometimes you have to deal with customers. That's the part the questioner doesn't like.

You can't find a perfect job. You have to make trade-offs between what you need and what you like.

The poster may need to think about this based on their own situation. How much do they dislike this work? Is it possible to make some adjustments while maintaining the needs?

Ask your boss if you can change your job to a less stressful position.

2. Adjust your mentality. Many things are just "you can't have your cake and eat it."

2. Your mother's actions may seem directed at you, but they may also show her own issues. Maintain a healthy distance from her, and seek professional help if you need it.

My mother rejects what I do, and I feel bad about it.

Your mother's actions upset you, and you agree with her. This is like "living with good people is like entering a room with orchids; if you stay for a long time, you will become like them."

If you live with unscrupulous people long enough, you'll stop noticing the bad things about them. It's like the difference between a red lacquer pot and a black one. A gentleman must be careful where he lives.

"

This doesn't mean the original poster's mother is evil. It shows how much the outside world affects us.

The mother's blow to the questioner was not deliberate. We can guess that the mother has her own issues. As children, we are loyal to our parents.

As an adult, you can maintain a healthy distance from your mother.

However, one person's strength is limited when it comes to achieving this, especially when we have a strong identification with our mother.

If you want, you can get help from a psychologist to grow and explore yourself, feel better about yourself, and deal with life's challenges.

I'm a psychologist who cares about the human heart. I wish you well.

Hey there, I get where you're coming from and I'm sorry to hear you're feeling down.

You said you studied illustration design and got fired from your first job as an illustrated book illustrator. What was the company's reason for letting you go? Was it because of your professional abilities or something else? This is important for your future.

If it's purely a professional ability and you like it and are willing to further your studies, obviously this ability can be improved. If it's for other reasons, what are they, and is there a way to avoid them?

Secondly, you said you have doubts about your abilities. So, you need to assess them. For example, when you were studying, what level were you among your classmates? Were you at the top or the bottom? Are there any classmates with similar abilities to yours who majored in illustration? How are they doing?

If no one's doing it or doing it well, it probably means what you learned is too different from reality. If there are quite a few students at a similar level doing well, it might not be a problem with your professional abilities.

Ultimately, there's a good chance that your job and your interests won't align perfectly. Most of us just hope that our job isn't our least favorite thing in the world.

When it comes to hobbies, if you can't make a living from them, they're just hobbies for now. Work is for making a living, and hobbies are for enjoying yourself outside of work.

Hello.

I'm Xiaobai. I don't have any worries, and I hope I can help you.

After reading your question, I want to hug you.

I'll share my thoughts and suggestions to help you.

Your new work environment is a bookstore. You thought this job might be relaxed, but you had a lot to do and had to face customers a lot.

First, bookstores have lots of customers. You studied illustration, which isn't related.

Many people major in subjects that don't match their jobs, but you have to like the job.

If it's not a good fit, change it.

There are a few things to think about before changing jobs.

Ask yourself: What's wrong with this job? If you're unhappy, ask why.

Specify.

The second point is what to look for in a new job. Things like the workplace, hours, pay, and management style.

The main points are to identify the situation you don't like and avoid it when changing jobs, and to identify your priorities and seek them out when changing jobs.

This way, you'll know what to do when you change jobs.

The process isn't ideal. You can't avoid everything you don't like. What you like may not be easy to get. You have to adapt or balance things during the process.

If you choose a job in a similar industry too quickly, you might make the same mistakes again. I'm afraid of being fired and losing the things I love. I haven't been motivated to paint much recently, and I wonder if I'm suited to this industry.

It's normal to be rejected when looking for a job.

It's normal to be rejected when looking for a job. You have the right to choose your work, and the other party has the right to reject you.

Don't be too obsessed with it. Have a good attitude and a more relaxed mood. That will increase your chances of getting the job.

It's okay to want the job, but don't be afraid of rejection. Even if you don't get it, you can try again.

The problem is with the parents. If you have time, tell them about the situation you are facing. Parents want their children to be fine, so just explain it.

These are my views and suggestions. I hope they help.

Best wishes!

Hello, question asker! I can feel your dilemma even through the screen!

Turning what you like doing into your job is the happiest thing you can do! If you can't do that, work hard to achieve it.

From your description, it's clear you were fired from your first job after returning from the UK. You need to find out why. Only by knowing yourself and the other person can you be victorious in every battle.

I firmly believe that such an experience is actually quite rewarding. If you don't hit a brick wall, how will you know how thick it is? If you don't fail, how will you gain experience from failure?

You should absolutely allow yourself to make mistakes.

Second, the national conditions are different, as are the humanities. My daughter was studying for a master's degree in translation in the UK at the time. After returning to China, she worked for a year as the assistant to the general manager of a British clothing brand. She originally wanted to find a job related to translation, but she didn't get what she wanted due to a series of unfortunate circumstances.

She hasn't given up her favorite translation work, and she's also working part-time and continuing to study for exams. What do you think of my story?

You have to use your strengths now that you're back from school. And while you're still young, it's fine to try failing.

I say, embrace the word "trial and error." You won't grow unless you make mistakes. If you were fired from your last job, it's likely because your values didn't align with the company's. Know the reason, and use it to find what you like and stay motivated in your next job.

Do you recognize it?

Believe in the power of belief! Don't give up on your dreams. Do what makes you happy. No one can take your life away. If you want the best in the world, show the world the best in you.

Life is like this: you grow up, you lose, you work hard, and you accept.

You can also connect with more like-minded friends or peers, who can provide the energy you need. Your mother might not fully understand your feelings, but that's not the case for everyone.

You can come back after completing your studies. This must be the result of hard work, which is confirmation of your abilities. I believe in you. You can persevere with your dreams.

Get in touch with some older friends. Their experiences will be a gain for you!

Hello, question asker. I can see the confusion you are facing now, but I can help you.

You are experiencing some career-related problems. I'm here to help.

You need to understand your own personality.

For example, you are either introverted or extroverted.

Knowing your own personality is the key to finding a job that suits you.

Take the paid MBTI career personality test on this platform. It will help you understand what you're looking for in a job.

Join the group of the MBTI personality traits research institute.

Your new work environment is a bookstore, where you will often have to face customers. This is more suitable for people with more outgoing personalities.

If you are more introverted, you should look for work that does not require a lot of interpersonal interaction. Examples include clerical work or an accounting clerk.

You must also address the experience of being fired from your previous job.

This has undoubtedly caused some degree of psychological damage.

You must face and deal with this psychological damage.

Otherwise, that bad experience will not disappear into thin air, nor will it be gone forever.

The questioner has merely suppressed it into their subconscious.

The next time you encounter the same people, things, or objects, that bad experience will be reactivated.

You need to do something now.

You need to seek professional psychological counseling. Let her help you deal with the bad experience of being fired from your previous job.

You need to deal with it if you want to regain the courage to find a new job.

Your mother's total negation of what you have always done will undoubtedly lead you to believe that you cannot find a good job because you are not good enough.

However, the fact that you can't find a dream job is also related to the current global situation.

The rebound of this year's epidemic is a key factor. Many foreign companies have moved back to their home countries. To cut costs and increase revenue, they have no choice but to lay off employees.

If that's the case, it's clear that the general environment is bad. It's not about what you believe is the cause of losing your job. It's about what's actually going on.

Seek help from a professional counselor if you are still confused.

A third-party consultant can provide you with more pertinent, useful, and constructive advice without a critical eye or an objective attitude.

I am confident that you will resolve this problem soon.

That's all I can think of.

I am confident that my above answer is helpful and inspiring to you. As the respondent, I can assure you that I study hard every day.

Here at Yixinli, we love the world and we love you. Best wishes!

Hello. I am Good Will Hunting, a national second-level psychological counselor.

I have read your account with great care.

From your narrative, I can tell you are currently troubled about work.

You were fired from your first job, and you began to doubt your abilities. You think that if you find a job in a similar industry, you will be fired again.

You don't want to be denied something you love, and you haven't been very motivated to draw lately. You know you are suited to this industry.

You wanted to develop in the art industry you like, and that's why you studied in the UK for so long.

Parents, especially mothers, often feel that what they learn in school is different from what they do in the workplace. It's natural to feel sad when your mother rejects what you're doing, but it's also important to recognize that this is the truth.

I understand your situation. You want to develop a career in the art industry you like, but you doubt your abilities. Your parents have always been negative, and you were fired from your first job after graduation.

You're afraid to find a job in the art industry because you're worried about being fired again. You don't have much motivation to paint, and you doubt whether you're suited to this industry. Your first job has hurt you.

You need to speak to a counselor. It will help.

The new job is in a bookstore. You'll have a lot of tasks to complete, but you can still leave on time. You'll interact with customers, too.

Take this job. It'll give you something to do and help you regain your confidence. You'll also be able to focus on your art career.

This is for your reference only. It is our hope that you will find it helpful. You are also welcome to leave a message for further consultation.

The reality is that you only need to try a position for half a month to know if it's right for you. This is also a trial-and-error process. However, we often don't have the luxury of trial and error because we need to survive and improve our lives through stable work.

You can see your own work history over the years and whether you have already gained some work experience from it. For example, identify the types of work that did not meet your expectations and were not suitable for you. Then, after determining that it was not suitable, decide whether to resign, find a job, and then resign.

Money is the most important thing. I can also see that you majored in illustration and design, and you were once fired from a company in a related industry. Your parents are wrong. Major and work are not necessarily related. You don't have to choose a job related to your major.

You have unique ideas of your own. You want to develop in the art industry, and you'll be unhappy if someone says no. You chose to work in a bookstore, which may not be your cup of tea, but you're willing to give it a try.

This has nothing to do with your major. You'll quickly learn there's a lot to do in this job, and it can be exhausting. You'll also interact with customers, but they're guaranteed in a bookstore. If you can maintain the business, you'll also maintain your salary.

Many industries require communication with customers. This is something you need to accept. It doesn't matter if the industry is new, like e-sports commentary or the sericulture industry, or the hotpot evaluation industry. The customer is always the most important person. Take the necessary career aptitude test to see what your ultimate job requirements are. Good luck.

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Good day. From your description, I can discern the conflict and psychological shadow in your heart. These problems and emotions are intertwined, yet you persist in seeking a solution. I commend you for that. Before attempting to resolve the problem, it is essential to define it.

The decision about what kind of work to pursue is a superficial reason, but it is also a double avoidance conflict (multiple choices, each with advantages and disadvantages). The illustration is something you like, but your current abilities are still developing and you have had unpleasant experiences. The job of a bookstore manager is stable, you can pick up a change of mood on time after work, but you don't like it and it is also tedious.

The decision-making process is contingent upon the potential consequences. If one is resolute in pursuing a particular field of interest, it is advisable to select illustration as a means of refining one's abilities and accumulating experience. Conversely, if one is not yet prepared for such a decision, it is prudent to fulfill the responsibilities of one's current role, such as that of a bookstore manager, while simultaneously engaging in illustration activities outside of work hours. It is essential to consistently strive for one's aspirations through diligent effort and decisive action. Anxieties stemming from perceived obstacles or emotional impediments can impede progress and hinder the realization of one's goals.

What, then, is the underlying cause of your difficulty in making a decision? It is the negative sentiment you experienced at your previous place of employment, which appears to corroborate the notion that your mother does not endorse your chosen profession and prompts you to question your own capabilities.

If the assertion made by my mother is indeed accurate, then what about all the effort I have invested over the past few years? Is it all in vain?

One might inquire whether this is, in fact, a mere jest or a complete and utter waste of time.

Should one's efforts be entirely discounted on the basis of a single unsuccessful experience?

Young eagles must repeatedly fall and take off before they can become fully fledged eagles, soaring through the sky. Similarly, when they undergo a beak change, they must repeatedly collide with cliffs, sustaining injuries, before they can grow a new beak and survive. How many times did Mr. Ma fall during the early days of his business before he established the current Alibaba? How many times did teacher Yu Minhong take the exam before he gained admission to Peking University? Every successful person was silently rooted and accumulated energy to break through before they achieved their goal.

The crux of the matter is this: if one desires something, is it not preferable to obtain it through one's own efforts?

While the opinions of others are undoubtedly valuable, it is of greater consequence to cultivate a positive self-image. The courage and motivation to leave one's homeland and pursue one's aspirations in the United Kingdom for an extended period of time is a noteworthy achievement in itself.

Mothers may, on occasion, impede their children's progress and offer advice that is not always well-suited to the situation. However, their underlying intention is to foster a sense of well-being and contentment. Once this underlying motivation is grasped, the individual's emotional state is likely to undergo a noticeable transformation.

It is therefore necessary to proceed as follows:

1. It is essential to organize one's emotions and clarify one's desired outcome.

2. Develop a plan of action to achieve the desired outcome.

3. Select the optimal option based on your individual circumstances.

4. Implementation of the Plan of Action

5. Feedback and Action

In addition, a suitable position can fulfill fundamental requirements, facilitate the utilization of one's strengths, provide invaluable experience, and enhance one's fundamental abilities.

I wish you the best of success!

Dear Question Asker,

I came across your query on the platform regarding career choice and planning. You have expressed reservations about your current work environment and a certain degree of uncertainty regarding your future career trajectory. This is a common predicament that many individuals face. I have had experience working in the headhunting industry and am in a position to offer some guidance.

This will assist you in organizing your thoughts.

1. The issue currently being faced is as follows: the individual in question has expressed a strong affinity for drawing and has also majored in illustration design. Following their studies in the UK, they secured employment as an illustrated book illustrator upon graduation. However, they were subsequently dismissed from their position. This has led to a sense of doubt regarding their abilities, prompting concerns that if they were to pursue a role within a similar industry, they might repeat the same mistake. They are fearful of being dismissed again and are reluctant to pursue their passions. Their new work environment is a bookstore, which they had assumed would be relatively relaxed. However, they have found the work to be unfulfilling and have experienced a sense of denial. Despite leaving work on time, they frequently find themselves dealing with customers. Based on the aforementioned description, it can be concluded that they are not particularly satisfied with their current role and do not particularly enjoy interacting with customers. This has led to uncertainty regarding their career trajectory.

2. Your inclination is towards the painting industry, which you love. However, due to your dismissal from your initial position, you have lost confidence and motivation to paint. You frequently question your suitability for this industry, which may be the underlying cause of your confusion, but this is only a transient phenomenon.

3. Regardless of the cause of a loss of self-confidence, those with a genuine passion for an industry should never be easily discouraged. It is possible to regain composure and reflect on the underlying issues. Was the termination due to a lack of business acumen or personal shortcomings? These are the fundamental questions that require consideration. Given the lack of interest in other industries, it is essential to develop a comprehensive career plan. Is the objective to secure a stable and less demanding position in a different field, or to continue pursuing a career in painting by aligning with one's interests?

In the event of uncertainty, it may be beneficial to undertake a career assessment, which can facilitate the determination of an appropriate career trajectory.

4. Career planning is complete, and your thinking is clear. It is now time to work hard towards your goals. When looking for a new job that suits you, it is important to remember that your family's opinions should be taken as a reference only, as they do not fully represent your own wishes. In order to progress further and further down the road of career development, it is essential to fully mobilize your own enthusiasm and self-drive. Otherwise, it is easy to change jobs frequently, which will do nothing but harm to your career development.

5. Your decision to seek assistance from the platform indicates your desire to persist in a field with which you are familiar and in which you take pleasure. Furthermore, you are driven by a desire to achieve results. It is important to recognize that periods of confusion and setbacks are only temporary. It is crucial to maintain focus on your original aspirations and to pursue them with dedication and determination. The future holds promising opportunities, and with resilience and persistence, you can navigate challenges and achieve success.

It is my sincere hope that this response is of some assistance to you. Best regards, [Name]

Hello, I'm Flower!

Let's start by quoting the original words of the questioner. Then, we can discuss them in steps. Once we've done that, we can look at the key to the problem. After that, we can explore some new ideas and approaches. Finally, we can look at an example. The world and I love you!

After reading the text, I really want to give the questioner a big hug! I can feel the questioner's doubts about work, doubts about herself, and I can also sense the sadness of the negative feedback from her mother.

It's okay, sweetie. It's a long journey, but we'll get there. Let's take our time.

First, I'd like to help the questioner sort through these emotions.

Studied in the UK → returned to China to work as an illustrator for picture books → got fired → expectations clashed with reality → self-doubt arose

It's so sad to see that the questioner feels like their mother completely rejects their choice of career. It's a really tough spot to be in.

The current job has its ups and downs, and I'm just not sure if this is the right career path for me.

From these emotions, I have some thoughts to share with the questioner that I hope will help them think in new ways.

It's so important to remember that being fired from a company doesn't mean there's something wrong with our abilities.

What is work? Let's try to understand it together!

The job requires the worker to have the right abilities. These abilities are comprehensive, and they're there to help you succeed! For example, an illustration writer may need to draw images and express ideas, as well as communicate with other departments and even market their work.

We've just graduated from school and learned all these great professional skills, but that doesn't mean we can or want to do it in the workplace. Being fired doesn't mean we are incompetent.

It just means that the job requirements aren't the best fit for us. Don't worry! There are plenty of other jobs out there with slightly lower requirements. Once we've found one that's a better match, we'll be able to feel confident in our abilities as we gradually climb the career ladder.

It's totally normal for parents, especially mothers, to feel that what they learn in school is different from what they need to do when they go out to work.

I'd like to take a moment to reinterpret my mother's words from a third perspective.

I just wanted to say that this is not a comment directed at the original poster, but at anyone looking for a job. In today's environment, it is true that school and career are not always a perfect match.

Maybe what my mom was trying to say was that she hoped the person asking the question could try to understand the bigger picture, rather than blaming themselves for not doing as well as they could have. When we truly understand that what we learn at school is different from what we do at work, we won't blame ourselves for not learning as much as we could have.

When we leave school and enter society, we need to connect with the needs of society and slowly learn the way to survive in society. And that's okay! The need to learn doesn't mean weak abilities.

At the end of the day, we're all lifelong learners!

I know it can be tough to decide whether to make your passion your career.

It's so great that the questioner has a clear plan for themselves! They went abroad to study because they definitely want to advance in their career that they love.

This reminds me of a saying from my high school teacher that I've always loved: "Do what you love? Or love what you do?"

It's all possible! What is work, anyway?

Work can be so many things. It can be a way to make a living, or it can be something you do to pass the time comfortably without earning much. Or it can be a career you pursue for life. When we have a new understanding of work, we want to make our passion our career. We hold onto hope and confront reality. It may be a long process, but we can also try to accept it gladly and grow slowly.

How can you plan a career path in your desired industry?

The question is about how much the author loves drawing. If the author wants to make a career out of it, it might be a good idea to think about how drawing can be linked to business. The author might also want to start with a job that involves drawing, even if it's not the most challenging, to gain some experience.

Even if you're not working in painting right now, you can still create your own media and keep building your skills. The road to your dream career can be challenging, but if you keep believing in yourself and take it one step at a time, you'll get there!

I truly believe the questioner can do it! I wish you the very best of luck!

Good day, question asker.

I empathize with your sentiments regarding your recent dismissal. In today's competitive work environment, only those who possess core competencies are likely to retain their positions.

It is accurate to conclude that being laid off is a significant setback for a recent graduate. However, it is essential to ascertain the rationale behind the dismissal. As previously stated, is the issue related to one's abilities?

This is not necessarily the case. If one did not possess the requisite abilities, it is unlikely that one would have been able to complete one's studies successfully.

It is accurate to conclude that when confronted with such circumstances, the majority of individuals will initially experience a sense of self-doubt. However, it is important to recognize that external factors may also play a role in such situations. In light of this, it is essential to identify strategies for effectively responding to such challenges.

1. Adjust your mentality and learn from your experience.

It is important to note that being laid off is indeed a frustrating experience. However, it is not necessarily the result of one's own actions, and thus, there is no need to experience devastation.

The modern workplace is a complex social entity, characterised by competition and intrigue. In the current economic climate, businesses are primarily concerned with efficiency. A broken capital chain, project changes and other such circumstances often necessitate layoffs as a means of resolving issues, and in this case, you were one of the unfortunate individuals affected.

It is therefore imperative not to blame oneself for being laid off and to avoid doubting one's abilities.

Given that the event has already occurred, it is advisable to accept the situation as it is.

Secondly, it is important to summarise one's approach to life and work. It is often advisable to avoid a stubborn attitude. Upon entering the workplace, it is crucial to maintain a humble demeanour. Ultimately, work is about collaboration and creating benefits for the company. No individual can handle all aspects of the company's business. Therefore, it is essential to learn to work with others and understand interpersonal relationships in the workplace. Some individuals may possess excellent capabilities at work, but their negative attitude may hinder their career development.

Secondly, it is imperative to avoid missteps and capitalize on potential opportunities.

Those who are terminated from their positions often fall into two traps: they are unable to move on from past events and they express discontent with the company's failure to recognize their abilities.

From your account, it is evident that you have been experiencing a state of self-doubt and self-blame. It is imperative that you refrain from this erroneous mindset going forward. Persisting in this self-doubt will only impede your progress.

It is imperative to possess the resolve to rebound from setbacks.

It is a common experience to fail at some point in one's life.

Even the most accomplished scientists and historical figures have experienced failure at one time or another. Failure is an inevitable aspect of the learning process, and it is essential to learn from one's mistakes.

Secondly, following the termination of one's employment, there is an opportunity to devote more time to preparing for subsequent interviews. It is therefore advisable to minimise the expression of discontent and to derive benefit from the experiences gained.

Provide a summary of your observations and reflections during your brief tenure, including an analysis of your work methods and efficiency, and an evaluation of the attitudes and dispositions you would bring to a new organization.

3. It is imperative to maintain a commitment to lifelong learning and to pursue opportunities for professional growth and development.

In the contemporary era, the pace of change is rapid. Those who lack the core competencies required to thrive in this environment may find themselves replaced at any time.

Additionally, there are other reasons why an individual may be replaced in their position. It is also important to recognize the necessity of consistently reinvigorating oneself in order to maintain and enhance one's professional expertise.

In lieu of dwelling on the distress of involuntary unemployment and succumbing to apprehension, it would be prudent to adopt a more proactive stance by pursuing further education and training.

The acquisition of new knowledge and the exercise of the mind lead to the emergence of new opportunities.

To live a fulfilling life, it is essential to continuously invest in one's intellectual growth. Gradually, one will encounter new opportunities, expand their knowledge base, and advance in their chosen field. This is a virtuous cycle.

In conclusion, it can be stated that there will come a time when the adversity will subside and the situation will improve. It is therefore important to adjust one's mentality, to regain confidence and to prepare oneself to fight for one's goals.

It is important to note that one's youth provides a unique opportunity for growth and development. Despite setbacks, it is possible to learn from one's experiences and become increasingly proficient.

I wish you the best of luck!