How do you maintain your love of work when the initial enthusiasm wears off after two or three months?

Hello, my name is Xin'an Zhi.

It seems that after working for two or three months, you may have lost your enthusiasm for the job. This could be frustrating and even feel helpless at times. It's also possible that you may have a sense of powerlessness.

I'm not sure how old you are. Could you tell me how many jobs you've had?

Could you please tell me how you feel each time you change jobs?

In the description, it seems that enthusiasm for the job disappeared after two or three months. Could this perhaps be understood to mean that initially there was still enthusiasm for this job when it was first chosen, but after two or three months, this enthusiasm disappeared?

I hope I've understood correctly.

Could you please elaborate on what your criteria for choosing a job were? Did you consider factors such as profession?

Could it be that your interest waned, or was there something else that contributed to this change?

Could I ask what might have caused this loss of enthusiasm? Might it have been down to interpersonal relationships?

Could it be that there was no room for personal growth and development?

Perhaps you feel like you don't quite belong or have a sense of identity.

Could it be that you are seeking a sense of worth and security?

Could there be another, deeper reason? Is there perhaps something inside you that is afraid?

If so, it would be helpful to identify the underlying fear.

It might be helpful to try to go back to our childhood and recall how we got along with our parents when we were young.

Could you please share your memories of how your parents treated you? Did they show you understanding, acceptance, tolerance, support, encouragement, or did they reject you, ridicule you, scold you, or discourage you?

Could you please share how you felt at the time and how you responded?

Now, when you think back on the past, could you please share your feelings? Have you had any new experiences?

As for your current state, you might consider looking deep within yourself to find the child in the corner who longs to be seen, cared for, and loved. You could then embrace this aspect of yourself and tell it, "I see you. I understand you, accept you, and support you. You are safe. You deserve to be affirmed, paid attention to, accepted, and loved."

The process of seeing him, accepting him, tolerating him, and affirming him is a way of reconciling with the once helpless and insecure self. Once this reconciliation is achieved, it might be helpful to listen to ourselves.

It may be helpful to listen patiently to your innermost thoughts and feelings, as well as your deepest desires and most sincere requests.

When you feel a strong desire for clarity and certainty, it is likely that the answer you seek will come to you.

If I might make a suggestion, it would be that you explore the answer yourself. You are the expert on your own problems, and you have the most experience and the most say in your own problems.

When you come to the platform for help, it suggests that you have a strong sense of self-awareness and self-growth, and a willingness to engage in in-depth self-exploration with the aim of improving and deepening your self-understanding.

I am confident that with such willingness and motivation, you will find the answers you are looking for.

I truly hope that things work out for you.

Hello, I'm Yan Shiqi, and I'm so happy to have this chance to help you!

From what the questioner said, I could tell that they don't feel particularly passionate about their work. But it's clear that they'd love to find that spark again!

Let's do a quick analysis together!

First, let's figure out what's really going on here.

I'm wondering if it's because of the constant repetition of work, or because of the difficulties and challenges?

If it's because of the repetition of work that the questioner feels there's no room for growth or that the opportunities aren't exciting enough,

I'm sure you'll be able to find out what kind of career prospects the questioner wants!

Once you have this goal, you'll be on your way!

If you're feeling a bit lost, I'd highly recommend checking out Zou Xiaoqiang's Just Do It. It's a fantastic book that can really help you figure out your career goals and turn them into a practical plan.

If it's the challenges and the fear of failure that's holding them back, it might be helpful for the questioner to take a look at what abilities they'd need to succeed in the challenge.

Next, start learning and exercising this ability. Focusing on one thing at a time for a short period of time can quickly give you positive feedback and help you gain a certain ability. Then, move on to the second ability and accumulate and learn it. You've got this!

Don't worry, with time, difficulties can be overcome!

I'd also really recommend that you take a look at the book Unlimited Potential by Jim Quirk. It's a great read and it talks about how everyone has unlimited potential and how we can learn to unlock our own potential.

To sum up in a nutshell:

Find your dream goal!

And don't forget to get some positive feedback along the way!

You can do it! Unleash your potential!

I truly believe that if you take it step by step, the questioner will slowly find their passion.

Come on, I know you can do it!

I really hope this helps!

Everyone has something valuable to contribute. Whether you're asking questions or answering them, words can help many people see things more clearly, and this is our shared strength.

Hi, I'm a mindfulness coach. I totally get where you're coming from. You lack the persistence to stay enthusiastic about your work, and you're prone to procrastination. This makes you feel lost and confused, and even gives you a sense of powerlessness and frustration.

Many people face this challenge. Initially, they are brimming with enthusiasm and passion, but then they feel like "going to work is like visiting a grave." Today, let's share and discuss this together.

What gets you out of bed in the morning and to work?

Typically, we need two types of motivation to get things done: the desire to seek pleasure and the urge to avoid pain.

This is pretty straightforward. For instance, if someone is running and is rewarded with 10,000 yuan for reaching a goal within a set time, or if a tiger is placed behind them, the "tiger chase" will definitely make them run faster.

The desire to escape pain is stronger than the desire to seek pleasure. Many people are driven by fear to keep moving, not wanting to live a life of pain.

Our parents, in the era of great material scarcity, were used to feeling anxious. They didn't want to eat or wear nice clothes, and they were careful and hard-working in running the household. They also passed on this anxiety to us, like being chased by a tiger.

If this keeps up, it'll take a toll on people.

There are two ways to pursue happiness: you can either seek it externally or cultivate it internally.

When a person gets external, material, and other people's approval, they also feel happy. These are the sources of a person's motivation.

However, when these sources of external pursuits are lost, we'll likely feel disappointed and like we don't matter. Often, these sources of support are beyond our control. There's always the pain of not getting what you want when you pursue it externally, because the initiative is in someone else's hands.

Happiness is related to what's going on inside you.

If you don't have internal motivation, how can you be enthusiastic and work with passion?

When we shift our focus from external goals to personal growth, we regain control because we're the ones making the decisions. How can we do this?

When you create value for society and others, you'll feel a sense of purpose and happiness. It'll be your mission.

So, my dear, you can find your value in your work, get your internal motivation going, and make yourself happier.

Give this a try:

1. What's driving you at work? Is it the pursuit of desires?

Or are you trying to escape pain? Who are you trying to prove yourself to?

Who's in charge of your happiness? Do you have to wait around for someone else to make you happy?

Whatever it is, take a look at it and be honest with yourself.

2. If everything is possible, how would you like to fulfill your life's mission? What can you do to make the world a better place because you exist?

It's also helpful to know your natural temperament when it comes to learning, work, and life in general. For instance, people who are optimistic tend to have a three-minute passion.

The book "Psychological Nutrition" provides a detailed introduction to understanding one's own character traits, leveraging one's strengths and avoiding one's weaknesses for a happy and fulfilling life.

I hope the above has given you a new perspective, more choices, and that you love the world and me back.

If you want to keep talking, just click "Find a coach" in the top right corner or at the bottom. I'll keep in touch and we can work together one-on-one.

Hello, host. I hope my answer can be of some help to you.

It is not uncommon to experience a loss of enthusiasm for work, which can lead to burnout. I have faced this challenge myself, but I was able to find ways to overcome it and continue working with enthusiasm and motivation.

I hope you will find these experiences and thoughts helpful as you consider your own path.

I believe that when looking for a job, it is important to consider whether the work itself is something that you enjoy.

If we don't feel a personal connection to our work, it can be challenging to maintain enthusiasm and resilience. I believe this is an important aspect to consider, as we will inevitably face obstacles and challenges in our professional journey. If we don't feel a genuine passion for our work, it can be difficult to stay motivated and to maintain a positive outlook.

If we are fortunate enough to find work that we love, then even if we encounter difficulties and setbacks, we will likely find ways to persevere.

For instance, I have pursued a variety of subjects and obtained numerous certificates, including in traditional Chinese medicine, food nutrition, teaching qualifications, health management, and more. However, I discovered that I derived the greatest joy from studying psychology and found psychological work particularly fulfilling. Consequently, when I engage in baking, I tend to feel a certain degree of frustration. Conversely, when I read psychology books or write and lecture on the subject, I feel a sense of interest and happiness.

While I do encounter difficulties in my work, I am able to persevere and find the motivation to overcome them one by one. However, when it comes to baking, I find it more challenging to maintain the same level of resilience. Even when faced with a minor setback, I sometimes feel inclined to give up.

It would be beneficial to understand yourself and find work that you enjoy. This could be an important factor in our ability to persevere with our work in the long term.

2. It may be helpful to consider why you lost your enthusiasm and identify the underlying reason. This can help you find the right solution to rekindle your passion.

It's understandable that everyone may have different reasons for losing interest in their work at first and gradually losing enthusiasm for it. There are probably a few common situations that could lead to this:

A. As we progress in our work, it is important to develop stronger abilities to handle the subsequent tasks. The work may become more complex and time-consuming, which could lead to feelings of burnout.

In general, when we first start a job, we tend to focus on the simpler tasks. If we've never done these things before, we may find them intriguing and engaging. However, as we progress in the role, our boss may have higher expectations of us and require us to develop more advanced skills to match the evolving responsibilities. If we don't continue to learn and grow, we may feel that we're not meeting the required standards. Since we've probably gained some understanding of the job, and perhaps a lot of it is repetitive, we may feel that it's not as interesting as we'd hoped and that we're not motivated to persevere.

If this is the case and you would like to continue working in this job, it might be helpful to consider ways to strengthen our learning and improve our abilities so that we can better match upcoming work tasks. It might also be beneficial to remind ourselves that, regardless of the nature of the work, it will likely be straightforward at the outset. However, from both the company's perspective of development and our own perspective of personal growth, it could be valuable to focus on continuous improvement and growth so that we can remain competent in new work content, fully utilize our potential in the workplace, and realize our value.

B. Not particularly adept at navigating workplace relationships. After spending some time together, if you feel that it is not a good fit, you may find yourself looking for other opportunities.

It is often the case that workplace relationships are more challenging to navigate than those with family members. While family members may be more tolerant and understanding when we make mistakes, the same is not always true in the workplace. It is not always easy to find a sympathetic ear when seeking explanations from your boss. As the saying goes, "When you are in the world, you cannot help but do what you have to do." In addition to developing our professional skills and increasing our value, it is also important to cultivate positive interpersonal relationships with leaders and colleagues.

It may be helpful to consider ways of establishing good interpersonal relationships at work. One approach could be to identify common topics and offer support to colleagues. Additionally, learning to communicate effectively can be beneficial. Books on communication, such as "Nonviolent Communication" and "Crucial Conversations," can provide insights on navigating conflicts and contradictions in interpersonal relationships, understanding appropriate interpersonal distance, and maintaining healthy professional relationships.

C. I'm having trouble seeing the value of my work and feel that it may not have much meaning.

Sometimes, we may feel that the work we do lacks meaning and that we are simply going through the motions, which can make it challenging to feel enthusiastic about our work. Could it be that your work truly has no meaning or value?

In my opinion, any work that is done in a legitimate manner has a certain meaning and value. It is only natural that we may not always be able to see the value of our own work.

It might be helpful to talk to your colleagues about what motivates them in their work. You may find that you have a lot in common. It could also be beneficial to reflect on your own motivation for choosing this job. What were your initial intentions? It's also important to enhance your sense of self-efficacy and give yourself positive mental suggestions. For example, you could say, "What I am doing is valuable. I am lucky to be able to work here, to help people in need. My efforts will definitely have an effect. I am responsible. I am gaining something..."

If you can feel the value and meaning of your work, you may find that you are more motivated to persevere and are able to do so more easily.

D. I'm somewhat uncertain about my work goals and direction.

It could be said that without goals, we lack direction. Many people feel motivated and passionate when they are climbing a hill.

And when our goals are accomplished, we may find ourselves feeling more confident in ourselves, and perhaps even developing a deeper appreciation for our work. It may therefore be helpful to consider setting new goals for ourselves at work, as this could help to provide us with more direction, motivation, and a sense of purpose at work, and it may also help to maintain our enthusiasm for our work.

Additionally, it may be helpful to remember to give yourself some rewards when you have completed a goal through your own efforts. This positive feedback could potentially serve as motivation to continue achieving new work goals.

I hope the above is helpful. Wishing you the best!

Hello!

You understand me, right? I can't maintain my enthusiasm for work for long, and it causes me negative distress. So, it follows that "maintaining enthusiasm" is important to you, right?

Is it okay to take a break from feeling enthusiastic?

Work and life are two sides of the same coin. It's not just about making a living; it's also about showing what we're worth and building relationships. So, when something goes wrong at work, we feel a sense of crisis, and anxiety kicks in, making us want to solve the problem ASAP.

So, why is it that you can't seem to maintain your enthusiasm for work? You might want to think about whether you're experiencing emotional exhaustion, a low sense of accomplishment, or interpersonal stress.

1) Emotional exhaustion: Do you feel tired and run down at work? Could it be that you're pushing yourself too hard, maybe because you're trying to be perfect?

2) Low sense of accomplishment: Do you feel like you're doing a good job at work and giving yourself positive feedback? Sometimes, issues like self-esteem come into play. For example, if you don't feel like you're worth much, it's easier to feel frustrated and unable to balance your self-worth with more mature perceptions.

3) Interpersonal pressure: Is the work environment and the relationship with colleagues pleasant and comfortable? Interpersonal conflicts are unavoidable, but resolving them can be very energy-intensive, which is often one of the causes of burnout.

Knowing what causes burnout at work helps you assess your current situation. If you're not as enthusiastic about work as you should be, it's not just external pressure. You need to develop your professional abilities to meet the needs of the situation. That way, you'll get a sense of accomplishment from work and positive feedback, which will drive you to keep improving.

Let's say Xiao Chen has to leave for work at 8 every day, gets 50 orders a day, and makes a good salary at the end of the month. But he can't stick to leaving at 8 every day or working hard to get more orders, so he doesn't reach 50 orders. So, when he gets paid at the end of the month, it's not burnout. Instead, he should think about if his current thoughts are right for his life stage, change his views, and make a new plan.

Here are some tips for getting more positive feedback at work:

1. Learn to take care of your emotions and give encouragement.

If you're feeling emotionally exhausted, it's important to figure out whether it's coming from work or personal issues. Once you've identified the root cause, you can start taking steps to address it. If you're constantly criticizing yourself and putting too much pressure on yourself, it's time to stop. Learn to give yourself a break, find ways to relax, and take care of yourself. Sometimes, it's good to give yourself a pat on the back for achieving your goals, treat yourself to a nice meal, go for a walk, watch a good movie (but avoid the cinema during the pandemic), and just relax. When you're feeling relaxed and positive, it's easier to maintain your energy levels and focus at work.

2. Boost your sense of accomplishment and affirm your self-worth.

People leave for different reasons at different times, but there are some common threads. One of the main reasons is a lack of identity and accomplishment, and a sense of self-worth. It's not just about external recognition and encouragement, but also about feeling like you matter. In a positive environment, we feel more supported and stronger. So, if we don't feel accomplished, we need to figure out why. Is it because of unreasonable work arrangements, or something deeper that makes us feel unworthy? We shouldn't base our sense of accomplishment on unreliable or unstable factors. At the same time, we shouldn't ignore the actual achievements brought about by our work just because we feel negative information.

3. Learn to manage interpersonal pressure and relax.

We all have to deal with difficult people and situations at work, but we can't let that hold us back. Learning to handle conflict is key, and that means having a high level of emotional self-awareness. We need to accept that conflicts are part of the job, but we also need to be able to make clear, rational decisions in response to them. We need to know where our responsibilities end and where they begin, and we need to be able to say "no" when it's not our responsibility. The best way to handle this is to go into battle lightly, so we don't suppress our feelings but can maturely deal with them and gain the ability to grow and develop ourselves.

Best of luck, and keep at it!