How to adjust myself when I have very negative thoughts every day and feel extremely bad?

Hello, classmate. I'm happy to answer your question if I can be of help.

From the information you have provided, I believe I understand the situation.

1. The depressed mood has persisted for over a year, and there have been instances of self-harm and unsuccessful suicide attempts.

2. It might be helpful to communicate with your parents about the situation and suggest that they take you to see a psychologist. However, it seems that they are not taking it seriously, and the discussions tend to fizzle out. It can be a bit disappointing.

3. Self-narrative: It seems that the pressure you're facing may be related to schoolwork. It's possible that the incident in class where you hurt yourself was shared by your classmates, which could have contributed to your feelings of psychological pressure. I'm wondering if there might be another aspect of the pressure you're experiencing. You've mentioned that your family of origin is very supportive, but it seems that your emotions and behaviors haven't been fully understood or helped by your parents, which could be a source of stress.

We would like to offer some suggestions on how you can relieve your current emotional state, help you get out of the doldrums, and talk with you.

♥First, it might be helpful to address the pressure of studying. It could be beneficial to find out what the problem is, and to see what your strong and weak subjects are. You might be able to make up for them with the help of your teachers and classmates, as well as your own efforts. It's important to do your best, to not set your goals too high, and to not be too impatient. As long as you don't give up and keep taking action, you will always reap rewards and make progress.

If you feel you would benefit from some additional support, you might like to consider seeking out resources that can help. If you don't want to talk to your parents, you could perhaps speak to your best friend, your teacher, or a favorite elder in the family. They may be able to provide some support to ease your emotions.

♥ Self-regulation: When you're feeling down, you might find it helpful to listen to music, go for a walk, or go hiking with friends to distract yourself and relax.

If you feel you would benefit from additional support, you may wish to consider seeking professional help. Many schools have professional psychological counselors, and communities and some public welfare organizations also offer free psychological counseling and hotlines. These can provide you with help when you need it.

Once the source of stress is identified and addressed in a constructive manner, with the support of others and through one's own efforts, the most effective approach to managing the current emotional challenge will emerge, ultimately leading to a sense of emotional well-being.

I wish you a very happy birthday!

Good day, question asker.

From your description, I understand that you are experiencing a sense of inner powerlessness and confusion. However, you have demonstrated an admirable ability to perceive this discomfort, and it is commendable that you are courageous enough to confront it.

After reviewing your description, I empathize with your situation. It is unfortunate that you have taken on a significant amount of pressure at an age when one would expect a more carefree environment.

Please accept this gesture of support and encouragement.

I would like to take this opportunity to remind you that all the problems in life are our resources. We are the experts in solving our own problems. When you become aware and come here, you are already on the path to change.

While I am unaware of the specific circumstances that led to this behavior and the associated emotions,

You can proactively perceive and address the situation. I hope you persevere and we can collaborate on this.

Regarding your confusion, you have indicated that you do not want your family to be aware of this issue and that you would prefer to address it independently. I have a few suggestions that I hope will be helpful in this regard.

Firstly, it is essential to gain a deeper understanding of the underlying reasons for this behaviour and the source of the pressure. To achieve this, it is necessary to maintain awareness and clarify one's inner needs. The next step is to address and relieve the uncomfortable emotions.

Identifying the root cause of the problem is the first step towards finding a solution.

Secondly, despite any missteps you may have made, your ability to come here today is commendable.

This indicates the presence of an intrinsic strength that can be leveraged to overcome challenges. Identifying the source of this inner fortitude is a worthwhile pursuit. Additionally, adopting a more analytical approach can prove beneficial.

Consider the factors that bring you happiness and positive emotions. You may benefit from positive mental suggestions and meditation exercises to relax your mind and body, connect with your body, and gradually become aware of your feelings.

When we achieve a state of deep relaxation, we can identify solutions to the problem.

Should you encounter this challenging behavior and emotions again, I recommend that you engage in a distracting activity. Regular exercise has been shown to alleviate these negative emotions.

Regular exercise has been shown to increase the production of dopamine in the brain, which can help to alleviate feelings of discomfort.

Additionally, maintaining an emotional journal or seeking guidance from a trusted individual can be beneficial in releasing pent-up stress.

It is also beneficial to seek guidance and support from others when needed.

Finally, while we are adept at solving our own problems, we are still young. If you can relieve this kind of emotion through positive mental suggestion meditation exercises or more exercise, that would be optimal.

If you are unable to adjust independently, I highly recommend that you communicate with your parents. You may also wish to consult with a school psychologist, as many schools now have these professionals on staff. These consultations are free of charge, and you can also call your local 12355 youth hotline for assistance.

Hello! I just wanted to send you a big, warm hug from afar. I'm so happy to see that you've asked for help. I hope that my sharing can give you some support and help.

I'm sure you received lots of love and support from your parents in your family of origin. But it might have been more what your parents wanted to give you than what you wanted. I'm guessing you didn't feel completely accepted, respected, and understood by your parents.

This is also why it can be so hard to ask for help from those closest to you when you're feeling really low. It's natural to worry that you'll be rejected or criticized, and that you've let your parents down in a way they don't expect. What do you think?

If you feel unconditionally accepted by your parents, then they must be the first people you turn to for help in times of pain. It's totally understandable that you've tried your best to express to your parents your need for support, but it's so sad that you got more neglect and unresponsiveness in return. This made you feel rejected and abandoned, which is really tough to go through. You might think that this treatment is because you really aren't good enough, that you are terrible, and that you don't deserve your parents' love. It's so common to turn the hostility, anger, and aggression that should be directed at your parents towards your inner self. This is why you want to relieve yourself of this part of your emotional pain by self-harm and suicide. What do you think?

So, when parents give you what you don't want, and the more they give, the more pressure you feel, the more you feel rejected, and the stronger the feeling of not being accepted, it's really important to try to tell them this part of your true feelings and needs inside. This way, they'll understand how their immature parenting style is harming you, and you'll also get to tell them what you need them to do to show you they understand, accept, and respect you.

I really think you'd benefit from reading "Dialogue with the Fear Within," "A Life Not Controlled by Parents," and "Neglected Children."

Hi, I'm Lily, the little ear of the Q&A Museum. I just wanted to say that the world and I love you!

Dear friend, I empathize with the challenges you're facing and the pain you're experiencing.

First of all, I would like to express my deep concern and support. I understand that you are experiencing a lot and I want you to know that your feelings are real and important. You are not alone, even though the reality may make you feel helpless.

It is important to recognize that facing academic pressure and emotional swings, especially with self-harming behavior and suicidal thoughts, can be a serious sign that you may benefit from professional psychological assistance. While you have mentioned that you currently have financial constraints and are hesitant to discuss this with your parents, it is crucial to remember that this is a matter of life and death, and it is essential to prioritize finding a resolution.

You might consider writing down your mood every day and the events that trigger negative emotions. Then, you could try reinterpreting these events from a more positive or neutral perspective. For example, you could see "failure" as an opportunity to learn, rather than a standard that defines personal value.

You might find it helpful to practice meditation to help you focus on the present, accept your feelings without judgment, and reduce remorse about the past and anxiety about the future.

When you feel strong emotions that are difficult to control, you might find it helpful to calm your mind by practicing deep breathing. Try breathing in slowly for a count of four, then exhaling slowly for a count of six or eight.

It might be helpful to consider that exercise can also help release feel-good substances such as endogenous opioids, and regular moderate physical activity can improve emotional states. You might also find it beneficial to express and release emotions through painting, keeping a diary, listening to music, or writing poetry.

It might be helpful to find a trusted friend or teacher to talk to. While they may not be able to provide professional treatment, listening and understanding can help alleviate feelings of loneliness. It might also be worth finding out if there are any local free or low-cost psychological assistance programs for young people.

However, while the above methods are effective, they may not be a sufficient substitute for professional psychological intervention in the current situation you have described. It would be beneficial to muster up the courage to communicate with your parents again and tell them your true feelings and urgent need for help. If it is difficult to talk face-to-face, you could also try writing a letter to express your feelings.

In addition, the school counselor or class teacher may be able to provide assistance and guidance in accessing the appropriate resources.

In any case, may we respectfully suggest that you believe and remember that your life is invaluable and deserves respect and love. We also hope that you will find it helpful to know that the difficulties you are experiencing are not permanent. As long as you face them bravely and seek appropriate support, we believe that you will one day emerge from the darkness and embrace a brighter life. If you feel that you are in an urgent psychological crisis, we would like to encourage you to immediately contact your local emergency hotline or go to a medical institution for emergency treatment.

Hello! Thank you so much for trusting me and sharing your worries with me. It sounds like you are going through a very difficult time, but you are not alone. I am here to help you through this. It seems like you have been struggling with negative thoughts and emotions every day, and you have even had thoughts of self-harm.

I totally get it. You must be feeling pretty tough right now.

From what you have described, you have been in a bad mood since the beginning of the year, and it has been going on for more than a year. You mentioned that the main reason is academic pressure, but your family is good, which is great!

This shows that you are a very sensible child who knows the importance of studying and has always studied hard. However, the pressure of academic studies has also placed a heavy burden on you, causing you to feel anxious and depressed.

You have told your parents how you feel, but they haven't taken you seriously or taken you to see a professional for psychological help. This has made you feel even more disappointed and helpless, and you've even had suicidal thoughts. But don't worry! There's plenty you can do to improve your state of mind.

Luckily, your diary was found, and you didn't succeed!

You're not ready to talk to your parents right now, and you don't have the money for a counselor. But that's okay! You can still take control of your emotions and improve your state of mind.

We've got some great suggestions that we think will really help you!

1. Learn to accept your emotions — and then watch them work for you!

First, it's important to understand that it's totally normal to have negative emotions. Everyone experiences them! And there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. Don't feel guilty or ashamed of having negative emotions.

Absolutely! You should definitely try to accept your emotions and allow yourself to feel them.

2. Find a way to express your emotions that suits you!

When you feel negative emotions, don't suppress them! Find a way to release them that works for you. For example, you can release stress through sports, writing, or talking.

3. Adjust your way of thinking

It's time to take control of your thoughts and feelings! Often, our negative emotions come from unreasonable thoughts. For example, you may think you are stupid because of a poor exam result, or you may reject yourself because of what your classmates say.

You can do this! Learn to adjust your way of thinking and adopt a more positive and objective perspective.

4. Get some help from outside!

If you still can't improve your state after trying the above methods, then it's time to seek outside help! You can talk to a trusted friend or teacher, or you can seek the help of a professional counselor.

I know you don't want to talk to your parents right now, but if you really feel overwhelmed, please muster the courage to tell them! They love you and will do their best to help you.

We've got your back! Here are some awesome resources where you can get help:

1. School counseling rooms

Luckily, many schools have counseling rooms where you can make an appointment with a counselor for free!

2. Local mental health organizations

And there's more! Local mental health organizations also provide psychological counseling services at relatively low costs.

3. Public welfare psychological counseling hotline

There are also some amazing non-profit organizations that provide free psychological counseling hotlines, so you can call for help!

I really hope these suggestions can help you get out of your predicament and return to a healthy and happy state as soon as possible!

And finally, I want to tell you that you are not alone, and we are all here with you! You can do this! Stay strong!