How to become more familiar with others when you are older and particularly introverted? How to address a peer who is a leader?

Good morning, my name is Zeyu.

In response to the question regarding how to get to know people and address a leader of the same age, particularly given the individual's introverted nature and advanced age, it is important to remember that the key to building relationships is consistency and communication.

"We will respond in the order of the content."

It is important to note that the individuals we will interact with upon returning to work include not only new colleagues but also previous colleagues. Previous colleagues are likely to have a better understanding of our personality and habits, while new colleagues may not have the same level of familiarity. However, if someone expresses interest, they will naturally seek to gain this understanding through various channels. At this stage, there is no need for us to make any significant changes, but we can adjust our state of mind or make changes according to our own preferences.

Regarding the newly appointed finance manager, if we are not yet familiar with him, the most prudent approach is to add his position to his surname. There is no need to consider what to call him or to delve into the specifics at this early stage. Our focus should be on maintaining a sense of respect and distance until we have a better understanding of each other's roles. Our primary objective is to perform our duties effectively.

There is no need to deliberate over the appropriate titles to use when addressing each other. It is preferable to identify an opportune moment to inquire about the preferred form of address, which is both polite and fosters a sense of connection.

Finally, if we are not adept at socializing, the optimal approach is to be authentic and perform our duties in a manner that aligns with our personal styles. Our primary objective at work is to generate revenue, not to deliberately cultivate interpersonal relationships. Consequently, there is no need for us to expend energy on issues that cause us concern, but rather to concentrate on the tasks at hand.

Dear question asker,

After reading your question, I can appreciate the confusion, helplessness, and hopelessness you're experiencing in this moment. I'm here to offer you a hug if you'd like.

It is worth noting that being an introvert does not necessarily preclude the ability to get to know people or build good relationships. Each individual has their own unique way and pace of socializing. It is important to find a way that suits you and to take that step in a way that feels comfortable and confident.

It is, indeed, a delicate matter when it comes to addressing one's peers in a leadership position. In most workplace environments, it is often perceived as safer to address your peers in a leadership position by their job title. This can help to show respect and avoid any awkwardness caused by an inappropriate address.

I believe that is why you have expressed a desire to address your colleagues by their job titles.

In light of your concerns about addressing people, which seem to be affecting your work and life, I would like to share my views based on my experience and knowledge.

First, it might be helpful to accept your introverted personality. Being introverted is not a flaw, but rather a personality trait.

It might be helpful to accept your introverted nature and not be too hard on yourself for being an extrovert. You might find it beneficial to try to find a way to socialize that suits you, such as one-on-one interactions to build deep relationships.

It would be beneficial to consider ways of boosting your self-confidence. Introverts often lack self-confidence and worry that their words and actions will be ridiculed or rejected by others.

It may be helpful to consider that boosting self-confidence could be a key step in overcoming introversion. You might find it beneficial to focus on self-affirmation and positive feedback as ways to improve your self-confidence.

If you feel you could benefit from some additional support, you might consider reaching out to your family, friends, or a professional counselor.

They can provide emotional support, advice, and encouragement to help you better cope with the challenges of being an introvert.

If I could offer one final piece of advice, it would be to relax. It's natural to worry about what others may say or think about our words and actions, but it's important to remember that not everything is within our control.

In the workplace, everyone has their own role and responsibilities. It is important to do your job well, respect others, and be sincere and kind.

If I might humbly offer one final thought, it would be this: challenges in life and work are inevitable, but as long as we maintain a positive attitude and face problems bravely, we will be able to overcome them. I hope you can find a way that suits you, build good relationships with others, and enjoy the fun of work and life.

I'm sure you'll be able to find a way to get to know people better. The world and I love you!

Hello!

A little pat on the shoulder would be great!

"How can I make friends when I'm older and really introverted? How do I talk to a colleague who's in charge?"

I do always wonder, though I'm really quiet and have nothing to say to people. I always go it alone. I don't know what to do anymore. As a result, I have only been at work for a few days, hardly saying hello to anyone. When I send a message, I just get straight to the point, which feels just as rude. I hesitate for a long time, and I dare not ask questions, only asking after a long time.

This has led me to the conclusion that I don't really want to go to work anymore.

I have to say, I was a little surprised by the question. I can understand why someone might not want to go to work to avoid any embarrassment, but I wonder if that's really what the questioner is thinking.

Or is it just an attempt to avoid the anxiety and insecurity of a career dilemma (like, the company might close down, or the company atmosphere has always been bad)? Then, if the company develops particularly well, has great prospects, and pays attention to employee care, would I still be likely to avoid normal contact with people and choose not to go to work because of the title issue?

It's like when we go to a social occasion that we don't like and avoid. I may go through all kinds of nitpicking about my clothes and dress, and I'll avoid the conflict with my self-time arrangements. I just choose not to face it, you know? But in essence, when the same problem arises again, I may still not be able to come up with an effective solution.

So, is the problem that I don't want to go to work? Or is it that I'm really bothered by the issue of job title?

(And will I really have to quit my job as a result?)

It's totally understandable that these two questions might lead to different results and are two separate issues. If you find yourself mixing these two together, it might be a sign that the questioner isn't quite ready to "take up the position again" just yet.

But if the answer is a definite "yes,"

First, I'm absolutely certain that I want to go to work and that I need this job. I've made a unified decision about my own thoughts!

So, should I go to work, that is, should I quit my job because of the distress caused by other problems? —I'm sure that won't be necessary! I'll just keep working hard, and I'm sure everything will be fine.

When I come across a challenge, I'll be able to draw on my inner strength to find a way through. This will help me to be kinder to myself and to understand myself better.

For example, it doesn't matter if I can't find the "right title" to call you.

If I get the title wrong, I'll be sure to correct it next time. It's no big deal, really! It doesn't endanger my life or threaten my livelihood. I can just relax and follow the expression of my inner values.

This is really an expression of your independent personality, and a way of showing respect for your own values.

Secondly, I have to say that I'm really bothered by the issue of job title. I think I'll go ahead and quit.

If you're in the second situation and you're really struggling with this kind of problem, it might be worth thinking about quitting your job to solve it. If this is what you really want to do, then go for it! (Respect your own inner will.)

But being able to make this choice also shows that the current situation is not so bad that you can't afford to quit, and that this job is not a necessary option. In your heart of hearts, you know you don't need this job, so this isn't your problem right now. If you replace it with another problem, you may also want to quit your job and relieve the fluctuation of negative emotions and the anxiety that it produces.

So, let's talk about the second situation, which is about the title. You might find it's a simpler and more decisive choice because there's no need to stay in this job. When negative emotions are strong, you might think "just leave" and follow through with it. But if the thoughts are more positive, or if the other person responds more positively, you can still do your job happily and normally, without being stuck in the embarrassment of a title mistake. Just treat it as an experience, a new attempt that's different from the past.

Mental anxiety and mental depletion can show up as feelings of worry and unease about uncertainty.

So, the best way to solve this problem is to just get started! Tomorrow, you can start calling the new finance manager by the name "Manager So-and-so." It might feel a little strange at first, but if you feel like it's right, go for it! You can always respect your own thoughts and see what happens.

If someone corrects me, a colleague suggests a reminder (sometimes the title is required by company culture), or the company leader has special requirements for the title, I'll take it as a communication and correct the title while addressing the other person more naturally. In an unnoticeable effort, I'm taking a small step towards growth. In fact, other people are also constantly making mistakes and becoming more and more skilled at correcting them, getting used to it, and becoming more skilled with practice.

I really hope my answer can help you!

Wishing you all the best!

Hello! I can totally relate to your question about titles. When I first started at a new company, I was also a bit confused about how to address people. My leader was younger than me, and I wasn't sure if I should use his title or my own. It's a tricky situation, but you'll figure it out!

You can even choose to address him according to his position first, which is a great way to start! And don't worry, you can always adjust the way you address your colleagues later on.

You might think you're different from other people, that you don't like to talk, and that you prefer to be alone. But there's absolutely nothing wrong with that! Everyone has their own character traits. When we're more introverted, we may have some social fears, but that's okay. There's no need to force yourself to do things you don't want to do.

In fact, we can absolutely enjoy the amazing benefits of my personality! It's not easily disturbed by the outside world, and it doesn't need to waste any of its energy on unnecessary social interactions.

The great thing is, you get to decide for yourself whether you want to get to know people or not!

For example, I have known my neighbors for about ten years, and we have a great relationship! When we meet in the elevator, I feel like saying something, so I greet them.

If you feel like you don't want to deal with it, just nod your head!

If I have thoughts in my head about whether or not to say hello, whether or not it's a good idea, I'll become aware of the thought and silently tell myself: I'm a bit torn, I need to focus on something and feel my breathing. Then, I'll return to the present moment and find something that interests me and that I can devote myself to fully, to cut off these thoughts in my head.

Give yourself some time to adapt to the work environment. It's totally normal to feel conflicted and tormented at work, especially in the current situation. But you've got this!

But since you have chosen to return to work, I encourage you to adjust your mentality and focus on the work itself.

If you feel too stressed, don't worry! You can talk to a friend or family member, or you can even consider seeking professional psychological counseling.

Hello, question asker. I am Gu Daoxi Feng Shou Lu, a Heart Detective coach.

As a working person, I understand the feelings of the questioner. The questioner needs to know that I support them.

As the saying goes, extroverts are good at broad connections, while introverts are good at narrow and deep connections. It is true that some people are not good at interpersonal relationships, but the essence of the workplace is still about getting things done. The fact that the questioner left the original company and was invited back proves that the questioner's professionalism and ability are not bad. The questioner should have confidence in themselves.

I'm an introvert, and there aren't many colleagues at the company with whom I can chat freely and without inhibition. At first, I also felt very awkward and didn't know where to put my hands when chatting with others. It took several years of deliberate practice to relax a lot. The questioner should also take things slowly.

Adler said, "All troubles stem from interpersonal relationships. When we care especially about what others think, we care especially about our own performance. Allowing ourselves to pay less attention to what others think will make the questioner feel a little more relaxed."

When we feel that others can do it but we can't, we are essentially differentiating ourselves. We feel that we are different, and we must recognize that this is not true. Everyone is equal. If you go with the flow, you can accept others calling you by that name, and you can also accept yourself calling yourself that. Not everyone is as concerned about this as you are, so there is no need to worry.

Stop worrying about whether calling someone by their name makes them happy. It's your job to make yourself happy. Pick a name you feel less pressure calling. It'll make the questioner feel more relaxed.

Tell yourself that the worst that can happen is that you won't be able to communicate naturally with your leader. It's unlikely that you'll be fired, especially since the company is in a downturn. Even if you are fired, you can use it as an opportunity to re-organize your career plan. It's possible that your leader is unhappy and you won't get a promotion or a pay rise, but it doesn't affect your work. Prepare for the worst and you'll feel more relaxed.

It's important to understand the company culture. Some companies use everyone's nickname, while others use only first names. When the company culture is like this, the questioner is more likely to feel at ease. In our company, everyone is called by their first name. There is another way to address people that is less likely to go wrong. Some of my colleagues call their leaders by their first names or call them "boss." This avoids the impoliteness of not addressing them and the discomfort of having to address them. Speaking of this reminds me that when I was at school, I liked to say "Hello, teacher" instead of "Hello, Teacher So-and-so."

Leaders need both emotional and performance value. When other colleagues provide emotional value, the questioner providing performance value is also a way to strike a balance. Know your own value and you'll be less likely to experience internal conflict!

There is no such thing as a good or bad personality. Accept yourself and your own merits, and you will become more confident. Confidence is what makes people shine, giving them more courage in their professional fields.

Read these books: "The Courage to Be Disliked" and "Burns' New Emotion Therapy."

Best wishes!

Your answer brings to mind the two places I worked after graduating. They were starkly different. One was a group company with a foreign feel. There, you could call people by their last name or an intimate nickname, their English name, or even "brother" or "sister." This was meant to highlight the leadership's closeness to the people. The big leader didn't want to be called "chief." The other was a state-owned enterprise. There, management personnel were called "chief so-and-so." Non-management personnel who were much older were called by their last name plus "brother/sister." Those who were a limited age older or the same age or younger were called by their last name. People of the same gender, whether familiar or not, could be called "dear."

There is no set rule for how to address someone by their name. It depends on the company culture and whether the company has any relevant regulations, as well as how people generally address each other, taking into account factors such as job level, age, gender, familiarity, etc. There is no universal formula. It should make people feel respected and at the same time be familiar.

If you're socially anxious, don't like to talk, and don't know anyone, the safest thing to do at the beginning is for managers to call you by your last name plus "general" or "manager." For non-managers, call you by your last name plus the last two characters of your name. If you're much older than the person you're talking to, add "姐/哥" after the last two characters of their name.

It's particularly rude to call someone by their full name when you know their first name. Other ways of addressing people won't offend and are unlikely to be a big mistake.

Furthermore, it is evident that you feel awkward and even reluctant to do your job because you perceive it as troublesome and see no positive aspects in it. However, given your current financial situation, you are compelled to persevere.

Let me be clear: the issue of how to address people is not the crux of the problem. The crux is that you find it difficult to fit in with your current group. And the reason you are reluctant to do so is because you are dissatisfied with your current company. Let me be frank: you look down on your current company and people.

For example, you emphasize that the company may not necessarily go bankrupt at any time, and you are also surprised that the company has even rehired someone who has resigned. You have an invisible sense of superiority between yourself and the company, but when you return to the company, you find that some younger or same-aged people have become your superiors, and you feel a little inferior or awkward or unconvinced. In short, you have some inner complexity.

You don't like being social, so you don't bother managing relationships with other people. This leads to internal conflicts and even thoughts of leaving again.

I understand your current state of confusion and indecision. It's a result of a series of complex thoughts and ideas.

Let me be clear: two people have divorced, but for practical reasons, such as financial reasons or the children's school registration, they have to remarry. After the remarriage, they are still awkward, still unable to be cordial, still exhausted from dealing with the day-to-day relationship, and still feeling that the marriage is a waste of time. Every day, they have the urge to divorce again, but they have to suppress this urge. It is truly torturous!

You need to break out of this situation.

First, we need to figure out what kind of workplace we really want to work in. You didn't say why you resigned a year ago, but you must be clear in your mind.

You said you didn't idle during your year of unemployment. You continued studying and taking exams, which shows you're self-motivated and want to improve. That's excellent.

But at the same time, we also need to think clearly about our direction. Do you want to go to a bigger platform with more opportunities? Or do you want to go to a stable company with a guaranteed income?

Or would you rather work in a relatively democratic and free workplace where you have your own time and space? Or would you rather work in a workplace where you are valued, recognized, and able to give full play to your strengths?

Know what you want and match your abilities accordingly. Be prepared to work hard if you want to support yourself. Work to support your family while improving your abilities to match the employer's recruitment needs.

You will interact with others in any workplace. Even if you work independently, you will still have to deal with people. Therefore, you must have interpersonal skills. You don't need to go deep, but you should have basic etiquette for getting along with others.

Start learning and practicing at your current workplace now.

Open your mouth, run your legs, move around, be a little cheeky, be a little stubborn, and start by greeting people every day. Use the safe approach I mentioned above. After you get used to it, you can change the name.

If you can't chat, then start with daily work contact. Do your own work well, ask if you don't understand, don't delay normal work, say what you need to say at work, and don't say more than necessary about other things.

Do your job well, don't make mistakes, be conscientious and dedicated, and occasionally help people out without affecting your own work. You'll make a good impression. People will think you're reliable, especially the finance staff. Being reliable is very important.

You understand all of the above. The fundamental driving force that prompts you to act this way is how you re-examine your relationship with the company.

The company is asking you to go back to work. This shows that you are a trustworthy person and that the company still values you. Whether you are willing or not, the company's leaders still have confidence in you. The company can also help you solve your financial problems. Gratitude and living up to the trust of others can ease your confusion and conflicts.

You are not only helping the company weather the storm, but the company is also helping you weather the economic downturn. In the current environment of poor economic conditions, employers are cutting employment costs and taking measures to reduce staff and salaries. It is estimated that you are also temporarily unable to find a satisfactory job before you agree to return to your previous unit.

I want to know if you've noticed any progress or changes in your unit compared to a year ago. Tell me what changes you've seen on the business side and in the leadership's understanding of the business.

I want to know what the response is from top to bottom in a state of corporate crisis.

And what about you? Have you changed since last year?

I want to know if you have improved. In terms of work ability, work efficiency, depth of work, breadth and depth of understanding of the business, efficiency and effectiveness of communication with others at work, etc., I want to know if there have been any improvements.

If you can't do it willingly and go in the same direction, at least you'll both have grown up together.

In that case, even if you separate again, you will both be heading in the right direction.

You're here, so just be yourself!

First of all, it's totally understandable. Interpersonal communication and addressing people at work does require some skill and experience, especially if you feel out of place. Here are some suggestions to help you alleviate your current distress:

The thing with titles is:

If you're new to the financial manager or director role and you're not sure how to address them, you can start by observing how your colleagues refer to them. If everyone calls them by their first name, then you can do the same.

If you're not sure how to address someone, you can always use their title, like "manager" or "director."

If you're really unsure, you can just ask how they'd like to be addressed. This will help you out and show respect at the same time.

Communication and relationships:

Start conversations with your colleagues by talking about work, and then move on to everyday topics. You'll find that everyone has things they're interested in and experiences to share.

Taking part in some team activities or events is a great way to get to know your colleagues better, and they'll get to know you too.

If you're not great at starting conversations with people, you can look into communication training or read up on it.

Mental adjustment:

It's important to understand and accept your own character traits. Just because you may feel like you don't fit in with other people, it doesn't mean there's something wrong with you.

We're all different.

Set yourself some small goals, like chatting to one colleague a day or getting involved in a team activity once a week, to gradually increase your social participation.

If you're struggling, don't suffer in silence. Talk to your friends or family. They might be able to help.

Work-life balance:

It's important to make time for rest and recreation, because it helps you stay in a good frame of mind and keeps you healthy.

Think about putting together a budget that makes sense for your income and spending. You might also want to look into ways to bring in some extra cash, like a part-time job or side hustle.

If you need help, don't hesitate to reach out to a professional.

If you're struggling to get a handle on prolonged negative emotions, or if they're affecting your daily life and work, it might be time to reach out to a professional counselor or psychologist.

At the end of the day, remember that everyone has their own pace and way of adapting to new environments and relationships. Don't be too hard on yourself. Give yourself some time and patience to grow and change.

Hello question asker.

Are you confused about relationships and dealing with work, income, and career issues?

Almost every working adult has experienced or is experiencing a similar situation. Most of them are young people. They are not yet very stable and are scared. They still have a long life ahead of them with many possibilities.

It's good to learn about a growth mindset instead of a fixed mindset. You can see the difference. You can find a detailed explanation online.

This information will change how you think about work, income, and career development.

You've noticed subtle differences in how people are addressed. There's beauty in human relationships. It's normal to feel pressure because there are two sides to everything. Human relationships are a timeless topic.

If you haven't learned it well enough before, it's okay. Just take your time.

The eyes are important when dealing with people. They are more truthful than words and more important than greetings.

Good luck. I'm still learning this.

First and foremost, it is understandable that you are experiencing confusion and unease. Social interaction can be challenging for individuals who are introverted. It is important to recognize that everyone has their own distinctive manner of interacting with others, and there is no singular, universally applicable response.

The following section presents a series of recommendations designed to facilitate more effective navigation of social interactions.

In addressing individuals, it is important to consider the nuances of the situation and the relationship between the parties involved.

In the case of colleagues occupying leadership roles, the decision regarding the appropriate form of address is contingent upon the prevailing company culture and established norms. In instances where the organizational culture is characterized by a greater degree of formality, or when uncertainty persists regarding the most suitable form of address, it is acceptable to utilize the individual's position title, such as "Manager X" or "President X."

This is an appropriate and polite form of address.

In the event that the company culture is relatively informal or if one is already on a first-name basis with one's superior, it is acceptable to address the latter by their first name. However, if one remains uncertain or uncomfortable, it is perfectly acceptable to adhere to the formal title.

One may adapt the manner of address to one's own habits and the reactions of the individual being addressed. In the event that the individual being addressed has no objection to being addressed by a first name, one may continue to do so.

Should one desire to employ a more affectionate form of address, it would be advisable to ascertain whether the other person would object to being addressed by the last two letters of their name at an appropriate juncture.

The question of familiarity is a significant one in social interaction.

The process of developing familiarity with another individual requires time and the establishment of shared experiences. One can attempt to identify common ground or solicit opinions and perspectives as a means of enhancing communication.

It is important to remember that everyone has their own lives and interests. Identifying common ground can facilitate closer relationships.

In the workplace, one may participate in team activities or lunch gatherings, which provide valuable opportunities to interact with colleagues and foster communication. Even if one is not naturally inclined to engage in conversation, they can still demonstrate friendliness and respect by listening attentively and offering a smile.

In regard to the matter of psychological pressure:

You indicated that you consistently exhibit a calm demeanor and an absence of mirth. This may be an inherent personality trait, but it may also be indicative of your ability to adapt to your present circumstances.

Should this emotional state prove to be a source of distress, it may be advisable to seek the guidance of a qualified psychological counselor.

To mitigate the pressure and uncertainty inherent to the work environment, it is recommended to develop a logical work plan, divide tasks into manageable units, and complete them in a systematic manner. Additionally, maintaining a positive outlook and adhering to healthy lifestyle habits can also contribute to stress reduction.

In conclusion, it is important to recognise that each individual possesses a distinctive manner of interacting and a unique pace. It is therefore inadvisable to attempt to conform to the behaviours of others or to undergo significant changes to one's own personality.

It is crucial to identify an interpersonal style that aligns with one's personal values and to adhere to these principles. Additionally, it is essential to cultivate an inner awareness and attend to one's needs to foster harmonious relationships and maintain inner equilibrium. It is likely that you will eventually discern a style that resonates with you.

Here are some tips for connecting with others and navigating relationships with peer leaders.

1. Be proactive. You can connect with others by talking to them and sharing your views and experiences. You can meet new people at social events.

2. Make connections by sharing interests, values, or experiences. This will help your interactions be more natural and comfortable.

3. Respect others. Be polite and humble when you communicate with others. This will help them feel good about you and want to connect with you.

4. Express yourself moderately. If you feel nervous or uncomfortable, you can express your feelings, but don't overdo it. Believe that you will become more confident and establish better relationships with others.

If you're the same age, you can use their first names or job titles. If not, just call them by their first names.

If they are your boss or someone you respect, you can use job titles like "manager" or "director." Be polite and respectful.

It takes time and effort to get to know people. Stay positive and try to become more confident and outgoing.

I hope these tips help!

I totally get it! I know how stressful it can be when you're struggling with social interactions, especially in a workplace environment. I'm here to support you and help you through this. This virtual hug is just one way I can show my empathy and help you feel more comfortable.

First of all, I want to say that there's so much more to being familiar with people than just having an outgoing personality or clever communication skills. Everyone has their own unique way and rhythm of interacting with others, and introverts often have unique strengths, such as a keener sense of observation and deeper thinking.

As an introvert, you have a unique advantage in social interactions! You are probably better at observing and sensing the emotions and needs of others, which is a great skill to have.

You're absolutely right! It does take time and effort to get to know people well. But it's so worth it!

You can show your sincerity and goodwill in your daily interactions with your colleagues, and express your respect and care for them through listening and paying attention. Through active participation and attention, you will gradually build trust and a sense of closeness with your colleagues—and it'll be a great feeling when you do!

I totally get where you're coming from with this. You want to show respect, but also maintain a sense of familiarity.

This is a matter of weighing up the pros and cons, but rest assured that there is no fixed answer that applies to all situations. The great thing is, you can observe the communication habits in your team and make a choice based on the actual situation!

If the team culture is more formal, using job titles is a great way to show respect! And if the team atmosphere is more relaxed, using first names or nicknames can also create a wonderful sense of intimacy.

The key is to keep the lines of communication open and maintain a positive, respectful relationship with your colleagues. Negotiating a way of addressing each other that makes everyone feel comfortable is the best way to go about it.

When faced with conflict and stress, remember to take a deep breath and relax! Work is part of life, and it's important to find a healthy balance between your personal and professional lives.

You have unique value and meaning that goes beyond your work performance. Embrace it! Try to find a way to balance work and life, and give yourself some time and space to relax.

Your love of painting and interest in fine dining are fantastic ways to relax and help you release stress and recharge!

I'd also like to highlight your amazing strength as a wise young woman. With your incredible brain, you can showcase excellent thinking and problem-solving skills at work.

This is your one-of-a-kind quality, and it's your greatest asset! Don't sell yourself short. Believe in your abilities and know that your potential is limitless!

And finally, I'd like to say that there's no one-size-fits-all approach to interacting with people. Everyone has their own unique way of doing things, and that's a wonderful thing! The most important thing is to be genuine, honest, and kind, to respect others while also respecting your own feelings and needs.

Don't be overly anxious or stressed out! Believe in your abilities and your worth, and you'll exude a unique charm in your interactions with others.

Your sensitivity and attentiveness are a huge advantage! You can really hone in on the emotions and needs of others in your interactions, which is a great asset in any relationship.

And there's more! This quality also makes you show a high sense of responsibility and professionalism at work. You always pay attention to details to ensure the work goes smoothly.

Your healing power is not only reflected in comforting the hearts and minds of others, but also in your ability to bring a warm and harmonious atmosphere to the team. In teamwork, this ability is priceless! It helps the team remain calm under pressure, solve problems, and ultimately achieve goals.

So please don't underestimate your own value and abilities! You have so much more than just intelligence and talent; you also have a unique personality charm.

At work, you can use your strengths to bring more positive energy and innovative thinking to the team!

And don't forget to be kind to yourself! We all have our own unique rhythm and trajectory of growth. As long as you maintain a positive attitude and keep working hard, you will absolutely achieve the success you want!

I really hope you can keep up your amazing confidence and patience! And believe in your own abilities and value. There's no fixed model for social interaction, and everyone has their own unique way of doing things.

It's so important to be genuine, honest, kind, and respectful, and to learn to listen and understand others. If you engage with others with your heart, I absolutely believe you will be able to build sincere relationships and achieve more success and happiness at work and in life!

In the days to come, I really hope you can face challenges with even more confidence and courage, and discover even more of your amazing potential! No matter what difficulties and challenges you encounter, please remember that you are not alone, and that we supporters are quietly supporting you from behind.

Come on, Yiyi! I know you can become a better version of yourself!

Hello! I've read your description, and I totally get where you're coming from. It's so hard to navigate how to address your leader and how to get along with your colleagues. I can understand your conflicted feelings. In fact, these are not major issues. Just follow some principles and techniques, and don't let them affect your work. You've got this!

1. First, let's chat about the title of the leader.

1. There are so many ways you can address your leader! You can use their last name plus their job title, their name plus their job title, their full name plus their job title, their last name plus "general," their full name, their name, or even their English name.

2. Here are a few things to think about when choosing the right title for your leader: the company's culture, the underlying culture, following the crowd, being prudent, and the leader's preferences.

If there are company regulations, or even if there aren't any written ones but your boss has told you how to address him in public, then just follow the rules!

It's also a great idea to find out about the company's hidden culture. It's really just about following the trend! All you have to do is see how other colleagues in the same department and at the same level are addressed, and you'll know how to address them.

If you want to be more formal, you can address the leader of your leader as "Mr. General," and your direct leader as "Mr. Position" or "Ms. Position."

It's up to you! You can start off formal with the title, and if your leader tells you it's okay to just call him by his first name, then you can do that too. If he's cool with it, you can keep it formal with the title.

3. Based on what you've told me about the company and department, I get the impression that you're in the finance department, your direct leader is the finance manager, and the department also has a department leader of the finance department manager (formerly called the financial director). It seems like the department leader is the leader of your leader, so there's no problem calling him "last name general." It also seems like the finance manager, that is, your direct leader, personally thinks that other colleagues can call him by his first name directly, and you can also follow suit. If you want to be more cautious, you can call him "last name manager" or "first name manager," which is also fine.

2. Interpersonal relationships with colleagues: It's so important to remember that you're a person too! Your thoughts and needs matter just as much as anyone else's.

1. The most important thing between colleagues is the working relationship. As long as you work well together, you're all set!

2. The cashier position in the finance department usually requires a certain degree of rigor. With your introverted personality and style of not speaking much, it's possible that your colleagues and leaders feel more secure with you instead.

3. People have social attributes. If you want to get to know your colleagues better, you can do it by deliberately practicing. Everyone is trained, you just haven't deliberately practiced before. There are a few simple ways to start: start with the most basic greeting and develop a habit. For example, when you first arrive at the office in the morning, greet the colleagues at the surrounding workstations; at lunchtime, ask if you have brought lunch or ordered takeaway; when you leave work, say goodbye until tomorrow; and so on, gradually increasing the number of scenarios.

It's always a good idea to communicate more at work! As long as you keep confidential information strictly confidential, you can start with work-related topics with colleagues in other related positions. It's also a great way to get to know someone better by walking home together after work with colleagues who go the same way.

4. If you feel that it is good to keep quiet, then just keep it up! Your position requires such a rigorous approach, and your colleagues will get used to your style over time, so don't worry about it.

3. Take some time to explore your inner self: What is the reason for your current dilemma, and is it reasonable?

It's totally normal to want to avoid harm and seek out benefits. So, it's understandable that you're subconsciously worried that an inappropriate title and unfamiliar relationship with colleagues will affect your own interests. From your current company's perspective, they're excited to have found you because they think you're a great fit. And as a basic position, everyone values work results the most. The way you're addressed won't have a significant impact on your interests, unless you're interested in a promotion.

When it comes to long-term career development, work ability, and work results, these are also given a lot of importance. You might even find that the proportion of leadership and colleague relationships increases slightly!

It's so important to understand this basic logic, determine a direction for your goals, and choose a method that is conducive to achieving it. Once you've done that, the rest is just practice!

4. Work and Quitting It's totally normal to have mixed feelings about work. We all have different experiences and perspectives, and it's natural to have a range of thoughts and emotions about our jobs. Sometimes, we might even find ourselves wondering if we should quit our jobs. It's okay to feel this way! It's a common feeling, and it's nothing to be ashamed of. If you're feeling this way, it's important to remember that you have the power to make decisions about your career. You have the ability to choose whether or not you want to stay in your current role or explore other opportunities. It's also important to remember that quitting is a big decision. It's not something you should rush into. Take the time to think about

Adults need to be self-reliant, so having a suitable and stable job is really important. I know that previously, your internal struggles affected your thoughts about whether or not to work. I really hope that the above analysis can help you with this problem.

You can also find a local counselor to chat with in person, which will really help!

When it comes to deciding whether to stay with your current company or move on to something new, it's really about weighing up the options and thinking about what will make you happiest in the long run. Think about your abilities, your income, and the stability of the company. You could try posting your resume on a recruitment website and applying for jobs here and there. This way, you can get a feel for what the demand and market conditions are like and see how competitive you are. At least you can give yourself some directional guidance and consider leaving when the opportunity arises.

The situation you describe is indeed complex, encompassing not only workplace etiquette but also social skills and psychological pressure. In order to facilitate your adaptation to the work environment, development of relationships, and alleviation of psychological pressure, we offer the following suggestions.

1. The issue of titles

In the workplace, titles are of great consequence, as they directly influence interactions and relationships between colleagues. Based on the information provided, the following suggestions are offered:

1. To a male finance manager of the same age:

Initial Address: It is recommended that the title "Manager X" be used to convey respect and formality.

As familiarity increases and the relationship matures, it is advisable to observe how other colleagues refer to each other and to adjust one's own address accordingly. If the general ledger accountant calls him by his first name and the relationship is amicable, it may be appropriate to transition to this form of address in one's own interactions.

2. To a CFO of the same age:

In addressing this individual, it is recommended to utilize the title "Mr. X," which conveys respect without appearing overly informal. Despite the software displaying his position as "Manager," it is notable that the role of Director typically carries greater weight.

In formal situations or when one is not yet acquainted with the individual in question, it is advisable to use the formal titles "Mr." or "Ms." followed by the individual's surname.

2. Methods for Acquiring Knowledge of Colleagues In order to gain familiarity with colleagues, it is recommended to utilize the following strategies: 1. Attend social events 2. Initiate conversations with colleagues

1. It is recommended that one begin with the relatively minor aspects of social interaction.

Greetings and small talk are an effective means of gradually integrating into a work team. Simple greetings such as "good morning" or "hello" should be exchanged on a daily basis.

Initiate conversations with colleagues on work-related topics, such as inquiring about work progress or discussing work processes. Over time, gradually introduce more informal topics, such as the weather or personal interests.

2. Observation and imitation:

It is beneficial to observe the manner in which colleagues interact with each other, particularly those who are adept at fostering positive relationships with all members of the team. By observing and learning from these individuals, one can gain insight into effective interpersonal communication and conflict resolution strategies.

- Mimic the details: Mimic the manner in which they address each other and communicate, but do so in a manner that is natural and not forced.

3. Engage in team-oriented activities.

It is recommended that one should endeavor to participate in any company-sponsored activities or social events that may be available. Such occasions present a valuable opportunity for individuals to become more integrated into the team.

It is advisable to ascertain the common interests of one's colleagues in order to participate in their discussions or activities, thus increasing the opportunities for interaction.

3. Alleviate psychological pressure

1. Establish incremental objectives.

It is important to avoid placing excessive pressure on oneself and instead set realistic, attainable goals. These might include, for instance, initiating a daily conversation with a colleague or seeking clarification on a work-related matter.

2. It is advisable to seek support.

- Friends and family: It is beneficial to discuss one's feelings with friends and family, as their support and understanding can help to relieve stress.

In the event that an individual experiences a considerable degree of stress, it may be beneficial to seek the assistance of a qualified counselor. These professionals are equipped with the expertise and training to offer guidance and support in a professional capacity.

3. Self-care

It is important to ensure that sufficient rest and relaxation are obtained, and that the individual does not become overly anxious or overwork themselves.

It is beneficial to engage in activities that provide relaxation and enjoyment.

It would be prudent to consider the following factors in the future.

You have indicated that the company is experiencing difficulties. If you are experiencing stress and instability in your current role, you may wish to consider maintaining your employment while exploring alternative opportunities.

1. It is advisable to update your curriculum vitae to reflect your current qualifications and experience, ensuring it is ready to submit when applying for new job opportunities.

2. Online Job Search: Utilize online platforms to identify employment opportunities that align with your professional goals and preferences.

3. Career Planning: It is advisable to consider your long-term career development and whether further skill development or a change of career is necessary.

Your situation is multifaceted, yet it is feasible to implement a step-by-step approach, cultivate a social environment that aligns with your needs, and mitigate psychological distress. It is my hope that these suggestions will prove beneficial, and I extend my best wishes for your advancement and well-being in both your professional and personal lives.

Should further clarification be required or additional queries arise, please do not hesitate to engage in further discourse.

Greetings! I extend a warm embrace from afar as a gesture of support and encouragement.

I am gratified to observe that you have sought assistance, and it is my hope that my contribution will prove beneficial and helpful to you. I perceive a strong desire within you to be accepted and welcomed.

As can be observed, these internal conflicts originate from an inner inferiority complex, a lack of self-confidence, and an inability to accept oneself. It is evident that this aspect of the self is not clearly recognized, which hinders the ability to be authentic in one's interactions with others. There is a pronounced concern about the attitudes and evaluations of others.

The concern that initiating contact with others will result in rejection, denial, or disinterest leads to an unconscious avoidance of relationship-building.

Human beings are defined by their relationships. No individual can exist in isolation from the social connections that shape their identity. Despite the challenges you face in initiating and maintaining relationships due to internalized inferiority, lack of self-confidence, and a sense of not being accepted, it is evident that relationships provide essential nourishment and support.

The formation of positive interpersonal relationships, particularly those characterised by harmony with colleagues and leaders in the workplace, can lead to feelings of self-worth, a sense of being needed, welcome, and a sense of belonging. Such relationships can also have a beneficial impact on fatigue and feelings of depletion at work, while simultaneously enhancing work efficiency and motivation.

The foundation of change is acceptance. It is therefore important to accept and allow for the possibility of uncertainty, inferiority, and a lack of self-acceptance, while simultaneously striving to maintain a harmonious and nurturing relationship with colleagues. It is inevitable that feelings of worry, anxiety, and confusion will arise. It is crucial to be mindful of the underlying needs that may be driving this aspect of one's state.

For example, the desire to be accepted, understood, respected, approved of, needed, and welcomed. When one can attempt to examine the underlying motives behind an excessive preoccupation, one may gain a greater capacity for acceptance and understanding of one's own state.

One may attempt to greet colleagues in a bold and sincere manner, despite feelings of trepidation. One approach could be to precede a colleague's job title with their surname or to address them by their first name. Should one experience discomfort with this, it may be beneficial to communicate one's genuine sentiments to the colleague in question, such as, "Is it acceptable for me to address you in this manner?" This gesture not only demonstrates respect for colleagues but also serves to alleviate apprehension. What are your thoughts on this matter?

Indeed, the reluctance to directly address colleagues by their first names or to append their job titles to their family names stems from a sense of envy stemming from their superior positions and comparable age. This intensifies feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem. The inability to accept and confront the reality of their age and professional standing leads to a perception of being unworthy and inadequate. What are your thoughts on this matter?

It is therefore important to learn to accept oneself more fully and to cultivate self-confidence. Despite holding higher positions than oneself, it is important to recognise one's own unique strengths and positive attributes. No one is perfect.

It is possible to enhance one's professional and social skills through active learning and self-development, provided one is willing to do so.

Our relationships with others are a reflection of our internalized beliefs about ourselves. When we are able to fully accept ourselves and believe in our inherent worth, we experience a gradual reduction in feelings of internal depletion in our interpersonal relationships.

What are your thoughts on this matter?

It is recommended that the reader peruse the following texts: "How to Overcome Social Anxiety" and "Embrace Your Imperfect Self."

Hello, You are more introverted and not good at socializing. You may find it difficult to handle relationships. You may feel that communicating with others is tiring. Then interacting with others seems to drain your energy.

As an introvert, you're not good at socializing. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses. Extroverts are good at socializing, while introverts feel overwhelmed in social situations.

If you don't mind, just call him by his name. If you feel this will affect your relationship, you can call him Mr. X or Manager X. Try to integrate into the group, not pay too much attention to others, and don't let what others say or do affect you.

It's not a psychological problem. You're just introverted. Try communicating with others or becoming more outgoing. Some people are dull offline but lively online. Join online communities that interest you and make a few friends.

You should also do more activities with other people.

I hope you become more outgoing and have better relationships!

Good morning. You feel isolated in the company, don't communicate much with others, don't feel at ease, and are uncertain about how to address these colleagues who are more reserved.

This can also give rise to feelings of unease and self-doubt.

Indeed, many individuals have experienced similar discomfort regarding titles. This is related to the significance our culture places on titles and the intricate connections they have with identity, status, relationships, and customs. I have previously worked in European and American companies, where the title system is much more straightforward. Essentially, everyone is addressed by their first name (without the surname, which is relatively intimate), regardless of age or position differences.

However, in Chinese/East Asian culture, the issue of titles is quite complicated. One must consider the position, age, closeness of the relationship, etc. Additionally, one must consider the official titles of the main and deputy positions within the system. This is particularly troubling for you because you find it difficult to establish a familiar and comfortable relationship. You are dissatisfied with yourself and blame yourself: "I can't even get the title right. Do I have a problem or am I just terrible?"

Working relationships are a kind of cooperative relationship built around work responsibilities and goals. Although they are also important interpersonal relationships (because we spend a significant amount of time at work and in the workplace interpersonal environment during the day), they do not have to be as close as friends and agree on everything. It is beneficial to be able to work with respect and fulfill one's duties at work. After many years in the workplace, I have observed that some individuals completely separate work and life, arriving at work on time and leaving work on time; some individuals combine work and life even more closely, making colleagues and even customers their friends; some individuals are cautious in their words and never let anything slip, while others are straightforward and outspoken and "love to meddle in other people's business."

The workplace is as diverse as life itself, and there is no standard formula for navigating it. It is not necessary to be overly critical of oneself to be effective, and there is no need to blindly follow the examples of others. It is important to find a way of interacting with people that feels comfortable for you, while also being open to learning from others.

Replace negative comments with positive statements. For example, instead of saying, "I lack the skills to interact with people, I don't know anyone, I'm different from everyone else, this is so bad," say, "Because I want to be polite and appropriate, I'm so worried about the issue of addressing people. I just started working again, and the company has changed a lot of people. It's normal to be busy at work and not know everyone. I can try using... to address people and see how they react. If I need to make adjustments, I can do that."

"

In terms of titles, the most neutral options are job titles, such as Mr. So-and-so or Manager So-and-so. While they may appear somewhat formal, they are widely accepted in professional settings. Alternatively, you can address your leader as "Leader" when communicating, for instance, "Leader, I need to request your guidance on a matter..."

If the other person is more senior, it is appropriate to address them as "teacher." If the other person requests that you call them by their first name, you may do so.

I extend to you a 360-degree embrace.

In response to your inquiry, I believe that the issue of how to address a peer leader is relatively straightforward to resolve. Based on my experience, it is initially sufficient to use the individual's surname and job title, such as "Manager Wang" or "Director Li." For colleagues of the same level, it is appropriate to use their surname and job title, for example, "Accountant Li" or "Engineer Zhang."

It is imperative to demonstrate the appropriate level of respect towards others. Should the other person feel that the relationship has reached a certain level of intimacy, they may perceive a title to be somewhat impersonal. In such a case, it is acceptable to switch to a more intimate title.

In regard to titles, it is appropriate to utilize a more elevated designation, such as addressing the vice president as "President." Many individuals appreciate displays of respect for their leadership roles.

It is also important to note that different companies have varying corporate cultures, and it is advisable to adhere to the norms of the particular company in question. I previously worked in Guangdong, where many of my colleagues referred to me by my first name plus a character from my name. The clerk in our department had the character "ling" in her name, and she was affectionately called "Ah Ling" by her colleagues.

One individual in the quality control department is referred to as "Ah Qian," which is a customary form of address for individuals hailing from Guangdong.

In light of the aforementioned circumstances, it is this author's recommendation that if one is disinclined to engage in conversation, then a close rapport with one's superior is unlikely to be established. While other individuals may choose to address one another by their first names, the nature of the relationship may be distinct. Therefore, it is this author's suggestion that one should address others by their position.

As familiarity increased, the manner of address also evolved. In my experience, leaders may not permit a change in the way they are addressed, but colleagues at the same level will typically use first names, with or without surnames, depending on their individual habits.

I previously worked for an organization where a quality control officer had the surname Shi. I was an engineer in the research and development department, and according to the organizational structure of the company, we were both at the same level. I referred to him as "Shi Gong," and he responded directly, "You should address me by my given name."

I thus followed his advice and addressed him by his full name. This was to such an extent that subsequently, when I referred to him as "Shi Gong," he would visibly recoil. At this juncture, it frequently signified that the matter for which I sought his attention would prove vexatious.

In this context, the term "title" is associated with the degree of proximity in the relationship. If the relationship is distant, it is referred to as a "position." Additionally, it is contingent upon the prevailing corporate culture.

It is preferable to set ambitious goals rather than ones that are easily attainable.

This is a relatively straightforward issue to resolve.

You have indicated that you are older and introverted, and that you lack the ability to initiate and maintain social interactions. It is evident that you place a high value on your professional relationships and aspire to engage in open and transparent communication with your colleagues.

However, you are introverted and desire to ascertain which standards to emulate. This is, in fact, a standard you have set for yourself: you must make yourself like everyone else, otherwise you will suffer.

As an introvert, you aspire to emulate the behaviors and characteristics of your extroverted colleagues. However, this aspiration is not easily attainable. You find it challenging to accept that you are not like everyone else.

Furthermore, you are aware that you are distinct from your colleagues, yet you are unable to fully accept this reality. If you observe closely, you will likely discern that even those who are well-acquainted with everyone exhibit varying degrees of familiarity and express it in different ways.

There is no uniform standard.

However, it appears that you are unable to accept your current situation, regardless of the factors involved, including salary, occupation (e.g., cashier), lack of technical content in your work, or other personal attributes such as age, personality, or communication skills. Your aspiration to improve is understandable, yet it seems that you lack a concrete plan for your future. What kind of life and work do you want? If you are dissatisfied with your current circumstances, what actions can you take to change them?

Furthermore, it is essential to determine how one plans to accept the status quo. It is important to recognize that being introverted is merely a characteristic of one's personality and cannot be classified as either good or bad.

It may be more beneficial to accept one's own personality and utilize its advantages to the fullest extent. The role of a cashier, as observed, is a rather enigmatic one. The author of this text does not fully endorse the company's approach to cashiering. An individual who is excessively outgoing may not be able to perform the duties of a cashier effectively.

Age is likely to be a significant consideration only when one is seeking a romantic partner or employment. In other contexts, it is probable that one's primary concern is self-oriented. This is based on my personal experience.

It is recommended that you consult with a counselor regarding this matter.

It is evident that you are experiencing confusion and distress, accompanied by a lack of purpose in both your professional and personal lives. It is therefore recommended that you seek the guidance of a qualified counselor.

As a counselor, I often draw upon Buddhist principles and a tendency toward pessimism, though I also recognize the value in occasional positivity and motivation. I hold a deep affection for the world and its inhabitants.

Dear Question Asker,

I have also been employed in the workforce for many years and am considered to be your peer. After reading your description, I feel that you are confused and at a loss in your interpersonal relationships.

In business interactions, the way people are addressed is an important indicator of appropriate behavior. Learning to address others politely and appropriately is an essential first step in building productive relationships.

Indeed, such situations are not uncommon. I recall from my childhood that my family would take me to gatherings with acquaintances, where I was taught to address the elders respectfully.

However, I am unsure how to address them. This is a challenging situation. I cannot simply refer to everyone as "grandpa," "grandma," "uncle," or "aunt." These are not strangers; they are relatives with names.

I am unsure how to respond, so I stammer and hesitate to speak, which results in my family giving me a cold shoulder and asking, "Why doesn't this child know how to greet people?"

From your description, it seems that I have also encountered a similarly reserved young woman.

Some individuals prioritize their titles, while others do not. It is possible that you also desire to be addressed in an appropriate manner.

If the other person's address is not appropriate, would you feel uncomfortable? Would you consider ending the relationship if the other person offended you with their address?

To ascertain what constitutes an appropriate address and the importance of this to you, you may wish to consider asking yourself the following question.

I have previously been concerned with titles, but I no longer attach importance to them.

At this point in my career, I would appreciate being addressed accurately by my colleagues.

In social situations, such as in the workplace, if I am a manager but someone addresses me by my first name, I will feel uncomfortable. Similarly, if I am a director but someone refers to me as "manager," it also makes me uncomfortable.

Individuals seek titles to gain the respect and recognition of others, believing that such respect and recognition are essential for developing positive relationships.

I am unsure of the precise point at which this shift in perspective began, but I have come to view titles as external and intangible.

It is of no consequence what others may think of me. I am fully cognizant of my own identity and am comfortable with who I am. In the context of real life, a name is merely a code.

It is of no consequence what others may call me. If they err in their choice of nomenclature, I simply disregard it.

If I encounter an individual with whom I am unfamiliar, I will inquire as to the appropriate form of address.

If I encounter a relative with whom I am unfamiliar, I will inquire with my family, "Mother, please introduce me. Who is this person? How should I address them?"

When meeting a new superior, I will inquire as to their preferred form of address.

For a leader I am close to, even if everyone else refers to him as "Mr. **," I will address him as I see fit (in private), as I believe our relationship is distinct.

If I believe that the leader should be treated with respect, I will use a title that reflects this.

Therefore, the situation you face and the people you encounter will be different, and the other person's attitude will inevitably be different. Some individuals may demonstrate a high level of concern, while others may not.

In the event of significant distress, it is advisable to use a respectful title.

Best regards,

Hello! I really hope my answer can help you in some way.

From your description, it's clear that you're passionate about how to address people. But there's more to it than that. You're also passionate about how others see you. And that's because you're curious about yourself. You want to understand yourself better and accept your true self. And that's a great thing!

I've got some great advice for you!

The first step is to understand and accept ourselves!

It's totally normal to feel a bit awkward when you first meet someone. It's like getting to know someone new—it takes time to feel comfortable. So, don't worry if you don't feel close to someone right away. It's okay to take your time getting to know them. What do you think?

And there's more! We also need to understand our own personality and accept it. I myself am very introverted, and I don't know much about how to greet colleagues or leaders or how to address them. But that doesn't mean we are not good enough. This is our blind spot, the part we are not good at. It's okay, we need to accept that this is the real us. At the same time, we also see that we still hope we can be more proficient and methodical in this area. Then, on the basis of accepting ourselves, we can grow, improve, and learn. And the prerequisite is to first accept yourself, accept your current situation, understand the difficulties of being an introvert who is not good at socializing, and say to yourself, "Although I am not perfect, and I am very conflicted when addressing my colleagues, I still accept this real me."

When you can give yourself acceptance and understanding, you'll be free from distress and internal conflict!

2. Identify your current needs at work and also see what your needs are in relationships. You can do so much for yourself to meet these needs!

From your description, I can understand your needs at work and some of your needs in workplace relationships. If your main need at work is to make money, and your need in relationships is to expect everyone to like and approve of you and have a good opinion of you, then what do you think you can do for yourself now? What lies behind emotions is our unmet needs. When our needs are met in a reasonable way, our inner being will be much more harmonious.

If your main purpose at work is to make money, then why not get another job where you can make money? It's as simple as that! And in relationships, you want to be liked and recognized by everyone, and you want to receive positive feedback from everyone, right? Well, that's the key!

This part of the need is something you can totally take charge of! You'll see that even if you change jobs or enter into new relationships, you still want to be liked, recognized, and affirmed by everyone. And the best way to solve this problem is to establish your own inner certainty. That's right, you can decide whether or not you are satisfied with the way you are being addressed. You can accept yourself, accept that you will make some mistakes, and know that not every expression will be perfect. And you can stop measuring yourself by whether you are satisfied or dissatisfied with yourself. Instead, be clear about how you exist and always maintain your own like, recognition, and acceptance!

When we lack something inside, we will look for it outside. But here's the good news! When you care so much about other people's approval and like, it is precisely because you don't like and approve of yourself enough. So, what can you do about it? Well, you can start by making a conscious effort to improve your level of liking and approving of yourself. When we can do that, our inner being becomes full and complete, and we will not be so obsessed with external evaluation. In fact, from my personal experience, that state is that we will more readily accept the affirmation and liking of others; and we can also more readily accept the negation and questioning of others, which will in turn make our interpersonal relationships more harmonious.

3. The great news is that there is no fixed answer to how to address someone. The most important thing is to communicate with each person. This process of communication and confirmation is actually a familiar process.

The great thing is, there's no fixed answer. It all depends on who you're talking to! I remember that in the past, I was often called "always," which I didn't really feel comfortable with. But later, many people called me "teacher," which made me feel very happy. This is related to my identity. Deep down, I don't want to be a boss, but rather a teacher. But a friend of mine, who used to be called "teacher" by many people, didn't feel anything about it. In the past two years, she has opened a pharmacy at home, and many people call her "always," but she is happy every time she hears it.

Absolutely! Everyone's needs are different, and there's no way we can be sure that our initial approach is the right one. But we need to try to communicate with each other, and this communication process can actually be a very enjoyable one. It's not as scary as we think! And the best way to overcome fear is to face it head-on. I think, as a cashier, you work one-on-one with them every time, and you can directly and sincerely express your thoughts. You can even ask the other person, "What do you think is a better way for me to address you?"

I absolutely believe you will get their own answers, which will not only help you solve the problem, but also strengthen the bond between you in the process. It's a familiar process, right?

I hope this is helpful for you! Best wishes!

I empathize with the questioner's situation. I've experienced similar challenges when entering new environments. I often feel uncertain about how to address people and how to initiate connections. I'm also concerned that if I approach people according to my own ideas, it might cause discomfort to the other person. I tend to interact with others less frequently and say hello less often, which might seem impolite, but it's because I'm unsure of the appropriate way to interact. Such interpersonal tension and fear, unease and uncertainty make me hesitant to continue going to work.

I believe I understand the questioner's mood and state of mind quite well.

I believe the solution is quite simple: do your job well and don't always worry about how others perceive you. I hope that by sharing some reasons why, I can help you and relieve your anxiety and interpersonal stress.

1. It is important to remember that getting to know people takes time and requires consistent interaction to gradually build a connection.

If you're unsure of how to address someone, you might consider using a name that feels comfortable to you. When you first start out, it's also a sign of respect to address someone by their title.

As you get to know each other better, you may find that the name you call the person changes or remains the same. If you are unsure, it is always best to ask. You could say something like, "Is it okay if I call you by your first name?"

Take a moment to think about the friends you have made in the past. Perhaps you started calling them "Classmate Li" or "Classmate Wang," then "Li Er" or "Wang Wu," and finally, as you became more familiar with them, "Er Xiao" or "Wu Xiao" or "Wu Ge." It's a simple process. If the other person doesn't feel comfortable, you can tell, and you can change it. Or you can just ask directly. Don't let this kind of problem obsess you, but interact with the other person.

Furthermore, human interactions are not one-dimensional. It is possible that calling someone the wrong name this time may not necessarily preclude future communication. Interactions are, after all, subject to constant adjustment.

It is worth noting that the name we call someone is not just a name. We can all tell whether someone is treating us with respect just by the tone of their voice. As long as we treat others with respect, regardless of what we call them, if we are not familiar with the person, we should be polite, and the other person will be able to feel your goodwill.

I think we've covered enough for now.

2. Your job does not necessarily require you to be particularly skilled at socializing.

For those in the finance profession, it is of the utmost importance to be attentive, timely, and error-free. While it is crucial to grasp the core of the work, the ability to interact with others is also a valuable skill.

As long as you are respectful to others, you are free to speak your mind.

3. Show respect for your own individuality.

It is not necessary to be familiar with other people. If you feel comfortable being alone, there is no problem with that. It is important to maintain a respectful and helpful attitude towards others at work.

Perhaps I can offer some insight into this question. What exactly is meant by the state of familiarity?

1) You have a good grasp of the other person's style of speaking, for instance. Do they enjoy a bit of light-hearted banter?

Could you kindly share what he usually pays attention to? It would also be helpful to understand his temperament at work and what he cares about.

2) You have found a way to interact harmoniously with the other person based on understanding them and responding to the conversation in a way that allows both of you to discuss one or two things, while showing respect and interest in the other person, without being disruptive.

With consistent interaction and experimentation, both of these aspects can be mastered. Once mastered, familiarity will be achieved.

4. It might be beneficial to be bold and try new things, even if there's a chance of failure.

As the questioner said, there is a possibility that this company may not be around for much longer. It would be beneficial to interact with others more, even if it is not executed perfectly. It is not a significant issue. It is possible to be more assertive, and others may not be as strict when it comes to social interactions.

It would be beneficial to maintain respect and understanding, and to continue interacting and adjusting.