How to change the situation of having no thoughts in the mind?

Hello! I'm so happy to be able to answer your question. I really hope that some of my suggestions will be helpful for you.

I think your current confusion can be analyzed from two perspectives, which I'm happy to go over with you.

You've already answered your own question! This is your life plan, right here.

"All I want is to get away from home for a while. I think society is a bit too complicated for me right now, and I just need a little time to figure things out. Once I've improved my education, I'll find a well-paid job, support myself, buy a house, and be self-sufficient.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with that! Everyone can have their own life and lifestyle, and it doesn't need to be so uniform. A plain and simple life is also a kind of life goal. In the eyes of some people, such a plain life may also be a kind of luxury. We are also the state that others yearn for.

The second level is that we feel like an NPC, but the truth is, each of us is the star of our own story!

Your description made me think of a female protagonist in a movie or TV show with twinkling stars.

I was also wondering why this girl was still living the same life ten years after the college entrance exam. It seemed like she hadn't thought about her future at all during all those years of crossing over. All the other students had goals, ideas, and dreams, but she alone couldn't think of any.

I've always been rooting for her! I really hope she'll find her way and discover her goal after all this back and forth.

Even though this drama is a romance, she might still have other goals in mind, like the male lead or love. Whatever her goals are, they don't affect her characterization. I bet there are people like her in real life too!

We can also sort ourselves out through her state. There's absolutely nothing wrong with that state of life! Work and live step by step, and be sure to accompany your parents. And if you meet someone you love in the future, you can get married and have children with your lover, accompany your partner, and your children. If you discover your own preferences during this process of life, there's absolutely nothing wrong with enjoying them again!

I really hope that through self-reflection, you can find your own direction, even if it's different from what most of your friends are doing. It's totally fine, we all have our own rhythm!

I love you, world! And I love you too!

Dear Host, I am honored to answer your question. According to the information provided, you feel empty inside.

If asked about future plans, the typical response is to take the postgraduate entrance exam. However, there is often no clear objective. The desire to leave home is often the driving force.

They perceive society as overly burdensome and seek a period of respite. Following the upgrade of express delivery, they plan to secure gainful employment with a commensurate income.

You are financially independent and able to purchase a property. You are content.

They lack the ability to identify their preferences and objectives.

They are preoccupied with daily tasks but lack a clear understanding of their long-term objectives.

The more anxious they are, the less they know. One solution is to read books to find answers.

From your description, it is evident that contemporary college students typically have an ambiguous outlook on the future. They are aware of their aspirations but lack clarity on their potential pathways.

They are postponing their entry into the workforce by pursuing continuous education. They are avoiding the competitive pressures of the real world.

In the real world, parents often encourage their children to work hard and gain admission to a prestigious middle school, then a top-tier high school, and finally a highly-ranked university, such as a 985 or 211 institution. These are the aspirations that parents typically have for their children, and there is a constant pressure to meet these expectations and prove one's worth, not just to parents but also to friends and family.

We have never considered our true needs, so when we need to differentiate ourselves and identify our goals, we find that we are unable to take action and no one provides guidance. I have to observe what others are doing, and we simply follow suit?

This is a typical response. However, you are aware that this is not the path you wish to pursue. You are reluctant to deviate from the norm, but you are concerned that societal norms may not accommodate your choices.

Many people are accustomed to relying on external sources for guidance and direction, often investing significant effort to attain these goals. As I draft this message, I sense a subtle discomfort in my heart.

I must admit that I am uncertain as to the best course of action. Should I provide you with an answer or a goal? If I do so, it will be based on my own experience and not yours. Consequently, I am unsure whether to offer you an answer or a goal, as this may not address your specific needs.

You read with great intensity, attempting to locate pertinent information in the books, but the more you read, the more anxious and uncertain you become. This demonstrates that, at a fundamental level, you are reluctant to accept the goals and answers that have been provided to you externally. This is the consequence of an independent, proactive, and autonomous self in action.

It is worth considering that a question with a standard answer is not necessarily a good question. A more valuable question is one that encourages independent thought, logical argumentation, and precise self-expression.

What are your preferences and interests? This is an excellent question because there is no one-size-fits-all answer.

Additionally, it is possible to consider this issue from a different perspective. In the event that you are uncertain about your preferences and objectives, it may be helpful to identify your dislikes and objections.

Avoiding these issues will ensure a positive outcome. Not all problems in business have perfect answers.

However, every problem has a solution. I am pleased to have an appointment scheduled for 1983. Thank you, and best regards!

My dear friends, Seeking help from others is not only a sign of inner courage, but also a sign of wisdom. At every stage of our lives, we all need help and support from others to a greater or lesser extent.

It's so brave of you to ask for help! We just wanted to let you know that we're thinking of you and sending you lots of love.

In this ever-changing world, I really hope I can bring you a sense of care that transcends distance. I'd love for you to feel inspired and empowered!

I totally get it. Searching for your own sense of worth and facing the uncertainty of the future is a tough journey. Feeling lost and anxious is really common, especially at turning points in life.

You're not alone in going through this. Many people have been in a similar situation, and you're doing great! This period can be unsettling and confusing, but it is also an important opportunity for growth and self-discovery.

"Self-exploration" is all about exploring and confirming your interests, values, career direction, and so on as you grow up. It's a natural and necessary process, especially during our younger years.

Your feelings may be a reflection of your exploration and growth at this stage, which is totally normal!

You mentioned that you want to take the postgraduate entrance exam to buy yourself some time, and I think that's a great idea! By improving your education, you may gain more options and opportunities.

But remember, education is only part of career development. True professional satisfaction often comes from finding a job that matches your interests and values.

I'm so happy to hear you're looking for answers in books! It shows you're eager to grow and learn. Books can be a great source of knowledge, but they might not have all the answers. Everyone's journey is different, and there's so much to discover along the way.

You can try setting some short-term and long-term goals that combine your interests and strengths. These goals can be professional, personal growth, or lifestyle-related.

We all need a little more practice and experience to explore our true interests and passions. Why not try participating in different activities, whether it is volunteering, internships, or part-time jobs? These can really help you better understand your interests and strengths.

You can also chat with folks in different fields to learn about their work and lives. You never know—they might even inspire you! Don't set sky-high goals at the beginning, but do set some short-term, achievable goals. That way, you can gradually build confidence and a sense of direction.

It's totally normal to feel a bit lost right now. This is all part of growing up! Give yourself some time and space, and don't rush things.

Everyone's journey is special, and so are your feelings and experiences.

I really hope my reply has helped you to understand things a bit better and that it will give you a bit of support when you're facing up to the challenges and problems that life throws at us. I really wish you a life full of sunshine, all the best and lots of joy!

Hello, host.

I'm happy to help and I'd love to hear your thoughts.

From reading the question description, I can see how the poster is feeling anxious and helpless. I'd like to give them a warm hug.

Before we get to the original poster's question, we need to talk about two concepts: fact judgment and value judgment. Fact judgment is like an exam. There's a standard answer. If you ask how tall you are, you can measure it and get an answer.

But there's no one right answer when it comes to value judgments. Take this example: "You're too tall."

This is a value judgment because everyone has a different idea of what tall is.

I mention these two concepts first to show that our answers are based on our own understanding, experience, and values. So, the perspective, direction, and train of thought of the answers are just for the host to consider. I hope the host won't regard our answers as standard answers.

The landlord's feeling is something many people can relate to. Lots of famous people in history have had a similar feeling to the landlord's. This is why the so-called existentialist philosophical outlook emerged after World War II. People wanted to understand on a deeper level why we exist and what the meaning of existence is. It is also a sense of existence that is particularly important.

And a sense of existence is linked to self-awareness. How I view myself and the world is really a question of our life values.

As a general rule, most people these days think that the meaning of existence can be approached from one of the following angles.

First and foremost, our work should be helpful to the community. That means our work isn't just about supporting ourselves, it's about helping the world. It's like the story of the three people building a house. One person says, "I'm just carrying bricks." Another says, "I'm building a house." The last person says, "I'm building a beautiful city." These three people have completely different feelings about their work.

This also shows that if you want to live a meaningful life, you need to devote yourself to something bigger than yourself.

The second is what we often say: we need a certain level of intimacy, especially romantic intimacy. We often see those touching romantic movies, where the hero says, "For you, I can lose the whole world. With you, I have something to care about in this world."

There's meaning in striving. Or maybe it's about going home for parents, or for their children. During the holidays, we often see short videos of people suddenly returning home, and their parents bursting into tears.

So, after all that, if we want our lives to have meaning, we've got to think about more than just ourselves. The original poster said, "I just want to get away from home a little. I think society is too complicated, and I want to find a buffer period. After improving my education, I'll find a well-paid job, support myself, buy a house, and be self-sufficient."

This way of thinking is clearly isolated, not integrated.

The general image of life should be one of blooming rather than withdrawal. Freedom and responsibility are linked, so it's understandable that the owner is anxious. It's unlikely to work if you want to ignore others and still get along with them.

I think the host should try to help others more often. Even a small act of kindness, like giving a bottle of water to a sanitation worker on a hot day or visiting a welfare institution to spend time with the elderly or children, can make a difference. My overall idea is to establish connections, and strong ones at that.

The Stoics had a way of classifying things. They said there are three main types. One is what we call the will of heaven. Think of it like this: even if we don't like it, we can only accept it.

Another type of thing is what we call other people's business. In this kind of situation, we can give others some advice and feedback, but the final decision still lies with the other person. As they say, I can lead a horse to water, but I can't make it drink.

There's also a category of things that are our own business, meaning we get to decide for ourselves, like what time to go to bed and what to wear.

If the host is an adult, how to spend one's life is really up to them. They can devote themselves to it, bear it, love it, or just guard themselves and isolate themselves from the world. Our choices have consequences, but we can just bear them.

I hope this helps. Everyone wants their contribution to be seen, to get feedback from the host and other interested parties, and to receive attention and praise (which are useful).

Gaining insight into the concept of emptiness:

I appreciate your current confusion and sense of disorientation. Many individuals encounter similar challenges when selecting their future career and life goals. I have provided some suggestions that may assist you in finding direction and solutions:

It is beneficial to explore your interests. To do so, consider what things or fields you have been interested in and enthusiastic about in the past. This can be a starting point for further exploration and development of your interests.

Explore new opportunities by actively engaging in diverse fields and experiences through participation in various activities, courses, or internships. Through practical application and experience, you may identify your specific interests and potential in specific fields.

Seek guidance from family, friends, or mentors for their opinions and advice. They may offer new perspectives and ways to better understand yourself.

It is important to take time to reflect on your values, strengths, and goals. By considering how your values and interests align with the needs of society, you can gain clarity on your direction and purpose.

Goal Setting: Despite the current confusion, it is still beneficial to set short-term and long-term goals. These goals can relate to personal growth, skill enhancement, or career development.

Gradually achieving these goals may assist in identifying a more defined direction.

Should the confusion persist and impact your daily life, we advise consulting a professional counselor or psychologist. They can assist you in exploring your inner self, organizing your thoughts, and providing further guidance and support.

It is crucial to allow yourself sufficient time and to be patient. It is also important not to worry excessively. The path of life is a continuous process of exploration and development. It is rare for individuals to know exactly what they want from the outset.

Through a process of continuous trial and reflection, you will be able to identify your own direction and goals.