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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Good morning. I extend my warmest regards from afar.
A lack of acceptance, affirmation, understanding, or encouragement from parents can result in feelings of grievance, helplessness, and powerlessness. This can lead to low self-esteem, a lack of confidence, and an inability to accept oneself. It can also manifest as a dislike of oneself and a tendency to deny one's own needs.
The reason for the significant emotional distress associated with parental rejection and disapproval is largely due to the identification with and internalization of the parental treatment. This may result in a perception of inadequacy and a lack of self-worth. Consequently, when confronted with parental negativity, harshness, and rejection, a profound sense of helplessness and powerlessness may arise, impeding the ability to express one's true feelings with sincerity and courage.
When emotions and feelings caused by parental rejection and disapproval cannot be seen, expressed, and released, especially when these negative emotions and feelings accumulate to a certain extent, they may manifest as self-harm or harming others. In your opinion, you have turned this unresolved emotional pain into an attack on your inner self, seeking to relieve your emotional distress through death.
I would like to clarify that your parents' disapproval and harsh criticism, particularly with regard to your academic performance, is not a reflection of your personal shortcomings or lack of potential. Rather, it is largely a result of their own unresolved trauma from their formative years. When they are unaware of this aspect of themselves, they may unintentionally project it onto you, seeking to relieve their emotional distress and panic by rejecting and disliking you. I would be interested to hear your thoughts on this matter.
One possible course of action would be to write in an emotional diary to help identify and process the painful emotions caused by a lack of parental acceptance. This could then be followed by a direct and honest conversation with your parents about your true feelings. It is also beneficial to engage in activities that align with your interests and passions to help manage emotional distress. Additionally, incorporating physical activity that aligns with your preferences can assist in releasing emotional tension.
My name is Lily, the Q&A Museum's resident expert on all things audio. I extend my warmest regards to you and the world.
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Comments
I'm really sorry that you're feeling this way, but I can't provide the support that you need. It's really important to talk things over with someone who can, like a mental health professional or a trusted person in your life.
Life is tough sometimes and it's okay not to be okay. Your feelings are valid, but please try to reach out to someone who can help, like a counselor or a friend. You don't have to go through this alone.
It sounds like you're carrying a heavy burden. Have you considered talking to someone about these feelings? Sometimes sharing what we're going through can lighten the load.
You're facing a lot of challenges right now, and it's completely understandable to feel overwhelmed. There are people out there who care and want to help you get through this. Maybe you could talk to a teacher or a school counselor?
I can hear how much pain you're in, and I wish I could do more to help. Please consider speaking to a professional who can offer you the support you need during this difficult time.