How to reconcile with loneliness, confront oneself in the face of loneliness, and become one's own comfort?

Good day, I hope this message finds you well. I am writing to inquire about your well-being. Please let me know how I can be of assistance.

After carefully reviewing your description, I believe you are a driven individual with a strong commitment to personal growth. If you can open yourself up to new connections, I am confident you will find some excellent opportunities.

I would like to share some thoughts with you.

From your description, I can discern your feelings of loneliness, isolation, and anxiety about these emotions, as well as your eagerness to find a solution. I also perceive your positive thinking, your initiative to make progress, and your planning for your life. Additionally, you appear to be a person who places great importance on their spiritual life.

Firstly, I would like to inform you that if I were to follow the same routine as you in an engineering company, I would also frequently experience feelings of loneliness. Indeed, I recall feeling similarly when I was studying. You have expressed that you are on the path to becoming an independent individual. People who are on this path may experience feelings of loneliness as they search for companionship but are unable to find it. There are instances in life when we must walk certain paths alone.

As Irving Yalom observed, loneliness is one of the four major existentialist topics. It is therefore important to embrace loneliness as a natural human emotion. There is no need to feel anxious or to blame oneself for it. Instead, it can be accepted as a part of the human experience. While this may be challenging, it can be practised gradually. For instance, when loneliness arises, it can be beneficial to write down one's feelings and send a letter to loneliness.

Engage in small activities together as if you were old friends.

It is evident that you are a highly introspective individual. When you experience feelings of loneliness, you tend to engage in introspection to identify potential shortcomings or areas for improvement. I would like to reassure you that many skills and abilities require gradual development. Additionally, you have made significant strides in addressing your depression, fostering self-awareness, taking proactive steps to transform your life, and seeking assistance when needed.

These are the types of actions that many individuals are unable to take.

Finally, I would like to discuss with you the underlying concerns that contribute to your fear of loneliness. This may provide insight that could be beneficial to you.

Dear Sir/Madam, I am pleased to read your description and see that you have a positive outlook. It is evident that you have a good understanding of your strengths and weaknesses, as well as the resources and plans you have in place for the future. This demonstrates a constructive attitude and a commitment to personal growth. Best regards, [Name]

Please find below some personal tips:

I would like to begin by sharing a quote from Ms. Yang Jiang: "The reason we are troubled is because we think too much and do too little." This quote has had a profound impact on me. When I am experiencing the kind of distress you mentioned, I will turn on my phone because my phone screensaver is this quote. I allow it to serve as a constant reminder to remain objective and not be swayed by my emotions.

It is important to accept the current situation, including the limited personal space, working from home, lack of time to meet friends, the need to develop a career, and the occasional feelings of loneliness. It is essential to recognize that these circumstances are part of your current reality and to consider the challenges faced by individuals who live on the streets, have no fixed job, and are uncertain about their future. It is important to acknowledge that you already have a lot.

You have now overcome the pain and have received professional treatment. It is recommended that you review the methods that the teachers taught you to change, practice them when you are confused, and let correct thinking become your new habit. This will enable you to make gradual and sustainable changes, leading to a transformation in your outlook and approach to life.

If feasible, consider incorporating exercise into your routine, particularly when you're experiencing low mood. On the one hand, it's beneficial for your physical health, and on the other, it provides an outlet for emotional expression. It also offers a private space to be alone, and you may even expand your social network while exercising.

In addition to pursuing your career, it is beneficial to identify other interests and activities that bring you joy. Remember, work is just one aspect of your life. Investing in skills that you enjoy is a worthwhile pursuit, as it contributes to your overall well-being.

Finally, a few words about loneliness. Despite our extensive knowledge of the subject, we still find it challenging to overcome feelings of loneliness.

It is important to remember that we are all similar in many ways, and therefore it is normal to experience feelings of loneliness from time to time. Think back to a time when you were able to successfully overcome feelings of loneliness. What steps did you take to achieve this? Continue to employ these methods.

If you did not, then you did, and consider what you did to distract yourself from the loneliness. Whatever it was, remember that people cannot do two things at once. The human mind has limited capacity, and when you do something else, the thought of loneliness will temporarily retreat, because you have to use your mental energy to do something else. This will naturally help you get through the period.

It is important to maintain confidence in your abilities. You have demonstrated resilience in overcoming a ten-year illness and are now on the path to recovery. Reflect on your progress over the past year, month, and day. It is reasonable to expect that you have gained confidence since then.

Hello. I can sense your inner unease, depression/how-to-reconcile-with-loneliness-confront-oneself-in-the-face-of-loneliness-and-become-ones-own-comfort-10805.html" target="_blank">loneliness, and confusion from your description.

It seems like he's a child, even though both parents are around. But it seems like they always ignore him. No matter what happens, no one cares about his feelings, and he's always on his own when it comes to facing and digesting things.

He's really down about feeling depressed, anxious, afraid, and helpless. He has a hard time focusing on anything because he feels like he might be abandoned or die at any moment.

He's terrified of being alone. He wishes his parents could be there for him, see him, hear him, and help him, but it never happens.

Even as an adult, he doesn't like being alone, but he also doesn't believe that anyone really wants to love him, understand him, or help him. It's a painful feeling, being let down, misunderstood, and unresponsive.

So, there are lots of things you can't tell anyone, and even when you see a counselor, you never really open up.

So, you try to build your resilience through self-development and become your own support.

You say you don't have time to make new friends, that you don't have any friends or family, and that you're all alone.

It might just be a sign of disappointment and distrust in those around you.

It's important to accept yourself for who you are.

It's become a daily reality for most people to feel isolated and alone.

Even when you're in a crowd, you can still feel lonely if you don't feel like you fit in with the people around you.

As you mentioned, taking the time to explore yourself inwardly is a great way to start working towards personal independence.

It's just that we need a little more time and courage to grow and learn. Even if we can't do it for the time being, it's normal to feel uncomfortable. Try to accept yourself as you are, and you might feel more relieved and at ease.

Are you really ready to make a change?

At the start of the question, you listed lots of reasons that you can't change, such as:

You don't have time to make new friends or do the things you enjoy. Plus, you don't have any friends or family nearby.

With neither time to build relationships outwardly nor to explore inwardly, the problem seems to have become an unsolvable puzzle.

Then you need to think about whether you're really ready to face loneliness.

You're more afraid of facing the fear of loneliness than you are of loneliness itself.

Early childhood experiences made you feel pretty insecure, so you got used to keeping yourself busy so you didn't have to face the fear of being alone.

For instance, you gradually learn, examine, and strive to advance your career (prepare for a job change for yourself).

But you realize that loneliness is everywhere and always there, in your heart.

It's not loneliness itself that's scary. It's your fear of loneliness that makes it scary.

Try to face your inner loneliness.

When you feel uncomfortable, take a moment to recognize what you're feeling. Is it fear, anxiety, tension, anger, or something else?

How intense is this feeling?

Then, think about why you're feeling this way and what the other person is doing that makes you feel uncomfortable.

Is this similar to anything you've experienced before?

The first step to making a change is to become more aware of your emotions. This helps you to avoid being manipulated by your feelings and to get out of an emotional rut when you need to.

To beat the fear of loneliness, you've got to go back to yourself and accept yourself. You'll see that the key to beating loneliness is to love yourself.

Wishing you the best!

Hello, my name is [name] and I'm a heart exploration coach. I'm here to listen to you with warmth and sincerity.

I can see your positive, enterprising willingness and motivation to do well: studying, taking exams, actively breaking away from established patterns, and actively abandoning the assistance of external forces. I like you so much!

It can also make you feel lonely inside. Not having any new friends, your own independent space, personal interests, or the company of loved ones can really make you feel very lonely.

Let's start with a warm hug, and then we'll dive into the topics of "alone" and "lonely."

Loneliness is something we all feel from time to time. It's a feeling of isolation or alienation from other people or society.

It's like cutting off your own connections and running away from the world. It's a kind of passive isolation that can feel really painful.

Alone: a subjective feeling of being connected to the world, the whole person is open and enjoying (connected to oneself/the world).

It's okay to feel lonely sometimes. We all do. It's when you can't connect with yourself that loneliness sets in. But you can connect with yourself in other ways. Even if you're in a crowd in a busy city, you can still feel lonely.

It's so important to be able to connect with others, isn't it? It's a big part of what makes us feel like we're not alone.

If you don't like yourself, it's no wonder you don't like other people! You'll find it hard to enjoy being with people if you don't like yourself. You'll cut off the connection and sever the relationship.

Just for a moment, picture this: if you were the only person in the whole wide world, would you like it?

A person with a high self-worth is someone who gives themselves positive feedback, likes themselves, enjoys connecting with themselves, likes other people, is respected in crowds, and is liked by others.

He's also great at giving others positive feedback, which helps him to enjoy connecting with people and to be open.

Loneliness can make you feel like you don't have much worth, like you can't get along with yourself, and like you can't give yourself the positive feedback you deserve. It can even make you feel like you need to "affirm yourself in everything," and escape some rules. It's okay if you dislike yourself or others sometimes. We all do! And it's okay if you're unwilling to be constrained. You're not alone in this.

It's totally normal to feel lonely when you're on your own. We all do!

So, how can you change that feeling of loneliness inside you?

1. Turn passivity into activeness. Loneliness is a subjective feeling. When you feel lonely, it can feel like you have no choice but to suffer in silence. But you do have a choice! You can choose to be alone actively, and you have every right to choose.

2. Give yourself more positive feedback. When you're feeling lonely, it can be tough to connect with yourself. It's easy to get caught up in negative thoughts and self-criticism. But there's another side to you — the side that loves and accepts you, just as you are.

3. Stay aware, and when you see, you can choose; when you see, you can give yourself positive feedback.

A person who knows how to be alone doesn't feel restricted at all! He doesn't need to isolate himself; he connects with people.

It's so sad when people feel lonely. It's like their hearts are lonely too.

I really hope these exercises help you to heal yourself.

1. Give yourself some time alone, do nothing, no music, no books, no phone, just be alone, and see if you can enjoy this state. If you feel lonely because of it, that's okay!

2. Take a look at your life and work to see if there are any situations where you're avoiding certain rules or rules in general. If so, it might be because you don't feel worthy of following them. When you see the low self-worth behind these behaviors, you'll be able to understand the root cause of loneliness. Once you understand it, you'll know how to deal with it.

I really hope this helps! Sending you lots of love and hugs ?

If you'd like to keep chatting, just click 'Find a coach' in the top right or bottom of the page. I'd love to keep in touch and support you further!

Hello, question asker! I'm thrilled to answer your question.

From the questioner's description, I know that the questioner has recovered from ten years of depression, which is a very happy thing. Many patients who have just recovered from depression find it difficult to reintegrate into society because they have been disconnected from society for a period of time. But they can do it!

From the author's own description, I personally feel that the author may also be affected by depression, and it is difficult to develop some interpersonal relationships after recovery. But there's no reason to be lonely! I believe there are not a few colleagues who do the same work as the author, so how do they meet new friends?

Have they made any new friends? It would be great to know if the questioner has noticed it themselves!

Of course, everyone has a different personality and expresses their individuality in different ways. The questioner just needs to find their own way to express themselves. People are social creatures, and there are so many ways to interact with others.

I give the questioner a little pat on the shoulder to give them a boost of confidence, and I'm excited to see them conquer their loneliness!

Everyone feels lonely. But guess what? Loneliness is not invincible! Since you asked the question on the platform, I'm going to give you some simple advice to help you escape loneliness.

Embrace your loneliness!

Guess what? Everyone feels lonely at some point. And you are not the only one who feels lonely.

Many people often feel particularly lonely during major life transitions, especially when they are for the better. If you are embarking on a new path in life, loneliness is bound to arise, but it is also bound to pass! You will feel that you are the only one like this, but you are not.

So can the questioner feel it? The loneliness the questioner feels now is actually more a sense of loneliness felt after a decade of depression, after recovery, and after slowly entering society. But there's hope! With the right support, the questioner can overcome this feeling and find their way back to happiness.

Join some online communities and get ready to have your mind blown!

There are so many amazing online communities out there where people who have recovered from depression can interact. It's a great way to find comfort and support in a group of people who understand what you're going through.

Spread the word! Share your thoughts and experiences in the community and communicate with people who have similar experiences. Through online forums, we can help others while helping ourselves.

And of course, you should be careful online. Not everyone online is trustworthy, so be sure to never disclose any personal information or discuss money matters with people you meet online. Lonely people are most vulnerable to scams, so be sure to stay safe!

It's time to get together with friends and family!

I don't know how many friends you have now, but I'm sure you have friends who have helped you in the past! If you're on vacation, you should definitely invite them out for a get-together!

Have a cup of tea and chat about recent developments! You may not really want to meet them, so you can also talk to them on the phone.

The questioner's parents, friends, and relatives are great, and even the Meituan delivery boy and other people you know are fantastic! Just remember to listen more and talk less, and you'll have plenty of people to chat with.

If you don't have any friends, don't worry! Your family is your friend. They're all good people to talk to.

Get out there and join some offline activities!

There are so many ways to get involved! Look for volunteer or charity activities in your area and jump right in. You'll be amazed at how good it feels to help others in need.

There are so many ways to connect with others who understand what you're going through! You can join an online or offline group with similar social difficulties. Just go to city-search.com, gongji.com, and other similar websites to find information about your local community.

Don't make friends just for the sake of it. Make contact with people without any ulterior motives, just for the fun of it!

And there's more! You can also take some adult classes based on your interests, where you will make a lot of friends with similar interests.

You can absolutely learn to be alone!

The questioner may feel lonely at times, but there's no need to fret! You can learn to be alone, get along with yourself, and embark on all kinds of exciting adventures. Try new foods, games, movies, and give yourself a well-deserved pat on the back when you do well.

There is an absolutely heartwarming scene at the end of the movie "The Pursuit of Happyness." After the protagonist has worked hard to gain great recognition at work, when he walks out the door of the company, all he sees are strangers, but the protagonist still gives himself a round of applause with his hands in the air!

Sometimes we are lonely, growing up, alone, savoring the true meaning of life, and observing the ups and downs of the world—and that's okay!

Sometimes, the person who traps you in the cage of loneliness is you! It's time to learn how to save yourself. Force yourself to go out, meet people, take the initiative to go up to people and say hello, and take the initiative to try new things.

Absolutely! Love yourself, and others will love you!

I really hope my answer helps the questioner!

Hello,

Host:

I am Zeng Chen, a heart exploration coach. I have read the post carefully, and I understand how you feel lonely.

You have also bravely faced your own heart and actively sought help on the platform, which will undoubtedly help you better understand and know yourself, so that you can adjust yourself and encounter a better self.

Next, I will share my observations and thoughts from the post, which will help you view yourself from a more diverse perspective.

1. I'd like to understand how you define loneliness.

The poster stated that he works a three-point-one-line job within the system and lives in a company dormitory with limited personal space.

You have no family or friends around you, and you don't have time to do the things you like.

After reading this, I understand and appreciate the loneliness of the original poster. I also want to know how you understand loneliness.

I understand loneliness as the feeling of being an isolated island, with no connection or relationship with the outside world, and no understanding or knowledge of oneself.

It's important to recognize that at this time, many of us will experience a sense of loneliness. Let's now return to the main topic of the post. The individual in question has no new friends or acquaintances. This lack of external relationships, external understanding, and external recognition is a significant issue.

There is no sense of connection. The host also has no time to do the things she likes.

This also made it difficult for the hostess to establish a sense of connection with things. The good news is that the hostess is progressing together with you, and has been exploring and getting to know you. This can help you better understand and know yourself, and build up your relationship with yourself.

It also helped us get out of our loneliness.

2. Get out of loneliness. You need to find a little "flow experience."

The experience of flow is when you are fully absorbed in doing something, in a state of total commitment.

It was as natural as flowing water. This reminds me of a story.

After a woman gave birth, she developed mild depression. She was sullen and absent-minded even when walking, and her husband suggested that she find something to do, but she refused.

Later, she found a lot of swimsuits when sorting out her clothes, so she and her husband decided to learn to swim. She went to the training class and didn't stop for three months.

She got better and better. Later, her friend asked her how she managed to persevere.

She stated emphatically that swimming made her feel like she was in love again, though she was unsure why.

It's that feeling of total commitment, of being so absorbed in something that it's like being in love. She swam so well that her coach praised her, and many actors learned from her.

This self-efforts and hard work are seen and responded to. There are three levels of meaning in this story, and I have observed them all.

She has found her passion and is constantly engaged in it. This is her relationship with things, and her engagement has also given her a flow experience.

Her dedication, being seen and responded to, has allowed her to have a relationship with others and a connection. Most importantly, she has come to understand and know herself, and has established a link with herself.

The original poster should find their passion and devote themselves to it. This will establish a relationship with things and help them understand and know themselves through things.

It will help you get out of loneliness.

I am confident that these words will be of help and inspiration to you.

Hello, questioner!

I totally get where you're coming from and I can feel the depression/how-to-reconcile-with-loneliness-confront-oneself-in-the-face-of-loneliness-and-become-ones-own-comfort-10805.html" target="_blank">loneliness and helplessness.

I totally get you! I can feel the loneliness and helplessness in your words, as well as the desperation to escape from this state of mind. Let's take a look together:

I want to give a big shout-out to the original poster for getting over "a decade of depression." It's a huge accomplishment, and I'm so proud of you! While you might still have some feelings of loneliness, they're nothing compared to what you've been through in the past ten years. Keep up the great work! Give yourself a little more time, take it slow, and I know things will get better one day.

I want to give a big shout-out to the original poster for conquering "a decade of depression." It's a huge accomplishment! While you might still have some feelings of loneliness, they're nothing compared to what you've been through in the past ten years. Give yourself some credit and take it slow. You've got this! Things will get better one day.

About loneliness

In fact, everyone will feel lonely at some point. But here's the good news: as the saying goes, "the older you get, the lonelier you are," it also means that you get to choose how to live your life! No one will always be there for us, because as we get older, we all go our separate ways and lead our own lives. Some people have their own little families, and the contact becomes even less.

In fact, everyone will feel lonely at some point. But here's the good news: as the saying goes, "the older you get, the lonelier you are," it also means that no one will stay with us forever. And as we get older, we all go our separate ways and lead our own lives. Some people have their own little families, and the contact becomes even less.

Even if you work outside the engineering sector, outside the system, and outside the three-point-one-line work, you will still be lonely. So the questioner also does not need to limit this loneliness to being caused by work – there are so many other possibilities out there!

It's time to embrace the truth that loneliness is not necessarily bad. The state you want to escape from is actually the one that many people strive to achieve!

Some people may envy those who can be left alone after working for a long time and want to have their own space to be alone. The questioner's current state is exactly what many people envy—and it's something to be proud of!

Some people may envy those who can be left alone after working for a long time and want to have their own space to be alone. The questioner's current state is exactly what many people envy, and it's something to be proud of!

So, instead of worrying about how to get rid of this loneliness, it's time to start cherishing (and enjoying) the present!

Now, let's dive into the exciting world of "How to Better Get Along with Loneliness."

The first thing you can do to beat loneliness is to allow it and accept being lonely. Of course, you're not as anxious and uncomfortable as before, but you can still enjoy the loneliness of the moment! Do something you like, such as listening to music, writing about your inner feelings, or trying to write, etc.

The questioner also mentioned that he has studied, taken exams, and worked hard for his career, which is fantastic! However, he also said that "many times that feeling of being eaten away at the bone is so hard to bear, and I don't know how to face loneliness. When I'm studying, reading books, or watching videos, that feeling just comes naturally."

I'm really curious to know how you can feel this way while studying, reading, or watching videos. Surely you should be totally immersed in the study or the video!

The questioner also needs to confirm whether it is because they cannot concentrate? Or is it that studying and reading are not really what they want to do deep down, or is there some other reason?

This is great! It seems that loneliness is just a superficial feeling, and there may be something deeper that has not yet been discovered or excavated. The good news is that by finding this, you can better deal with loneliness. The questioner may wish to think carefully about the circumstances of the first time they felt lonely and what specifically happened at the time.

I really hope my answer helps the questioner! Best wishes!

In this world, a significant proportion of the population experiences feelings of loneliness. We can conceptualise ourselves as planets, orbiting around a central point of gravity in regular or irregular motion. At times, we encounter what we might term our own moons, which provide a sense of completeness. Conversely, we may also encounter stars, which offer a sense of connection and warmth.

At times, we encounter celestial bodies that are as solitary as we are, and they are similarly adrift and desolate. Indeed, it is imperative that we learn to reconcile with loneliness. Loneliness is a fundamental aspect of existence, and it is the norm.

The state of liveliness is typically subject to change. One may confront one's own sense of aloneness or acknowledge the experience of loneliness. It is possible to accept these feelings as a reflection of personal maturity.

It is also possible to become one's own source of support. The lack of privacy and the limited time available to make new friends or find like-minded individuals, due to the fact that you live in a dormitory, can lead to feelings of discomfort.

It may be beneficial to consider relocating to a more spacious residence, thereby affording oneself a greater degree of personal autonomy. It is encouraging to observe your recovery from depression and your aspiration to pursue a more fulfilling, mature, and independent lifestyle.

It is evident that you have a plethora of emotions, which are readily apparent to you. In the event that you perceive loneliness to be a particularly distressing experience, you may wish to consider engaging in meditation on the Meditation Planet. This could assist you in gaining a deeper understanding of the type of companions you require. Prior to seeking out friendships, it is vital to embark on a journey of self-discovery. Additionally, you can connect with individuals who share similar interests through various social platforms, such as local QQ groups. You may also choose to engage in creative pursuits when you are alone and consult with a Heart Exploration coach about your feelings. I encourage you to take the initiative to explore these avenues.

Please clarify the meaning of ZQ.

Dear topic author, I hope this message finds you well. I just wanted to send you a quick note to say that I admire your courage in sharing your experience of overcoming ten years of depression. It's inspiring to see how you've managed to push through and find strength within yourself. Wishing you all the best,

People who are single may feel lonely, especially during holidays or late at night. It's not just you, but many people in this stage feel lonely to a certain extent. Some people find that transforming or ending relationships helps them feel less lonely, while others keep struggling, feeling more and more painful. If you can't adjust your view of loneliness, it can be very challenging.

Some people enjoy being alone, while others don't want to be alone for even a moment. When loneliness strikes, you might consider trying to experience it. The feeling of loneliness is not singular. If you take the time to experience it, you may discover that loneliness is wrapped in many complex things. You might try feeling it and then writing it down. Perhaps you will discover inner needs that you were not aware of. With needs come goals, and with goals comes action. You may slowly discover that loneliness is also a kind of strength!

I believe that this strength will help you to become stronger.

You mentioned that you don't have any family or friends around you, that you're all alone, and that you don't have time to make new friends. Have you ever considered that from childhood to starting work, we tend to make friends with people who are nearby and accessible to us?

In childhood, we were playmates; at school, we were classmates. Many of the friends we talk about now were our playmates and classmates. Perhaps we could consider treating colleagues with similar values as friends as well? We can also help each other and pour out our hearts to each other when necessary. This could also be an emotional link for us when we are away from our family and friends.

If possible, it would be beneficial to communicate with family and friends frequently to help relieve loneliness.

I can see that you are studying for a qualification and getting psychological counseling to fight for a better life for yourself and take control of your own life. It seems that your inner universe has already started to kick into gear, so perhaps you could give yourself a little time. Here I would also like to share a way I keep myself company when I'm lonely: exercise. When I'm lonely or feeling lost, I go for a run. After ten kilometers, I find that everything is fine again, and I become optimistic and full of hope for the future.

It may be helpful to remember that the body and mind influence each other, and that taking care of ourselves physically can have a positive effect on our mental wellbeing.

I hope you can find ways to move in and out of loneliness freely and make good use of its power.

Hello! I'd love to share my thoughts on the topic of loneliness. I've also experienced lonely times for a long time in the past, and I've found that the definition and feeling of loneliness and solitude are completely different.

Sometimes, being alone is a real treat after getting used to the hustle and bustle of everyday life. You can't wait for more days like this, when you feel more positive and happy. But, loneliness is a feeling you can experience whether you are alone or in a group. It's like you said, although you live in a dormitory with colleagues around you, you don't feel lonely. But you still have a feeling of being eaten away from the inside, which not everyone can understand or empathize with. It's like no matter if there are people around you or not, you just live in your own world, and no one else can understand you.

It can be really tough to know how to make others understand you. We all want to connect with others, but sometimes it's hard to know how to do that.

I get the feeling that our souls are feeling a little lonely and sad in that moment.

It's so hard when you feel like you have no vitality or motivation, and you can't seem to find a way to release the normal aggression that is inherent in you as a person. It can make us feel like an empty shell on the verge of death, which is so unfair!

It's so important to recognize when your mind is racing with thoughts that just won't let you rest. It's natural to feel a bit drained when your mind is flooded with thoughts for too long. That's why it's crucial to find ways to nourish your mind and body. Reading books is a great way to feed your mind, but there are so many other options out there. Try enriching your body with some exercise. It'll not only make you happier, but it'll also give you the energy to keep going.

Dopamine secretion will increase your happiness factor. And remember, your body, mind, and spirit are all connected, so if you start with physical exercise, I think you'll still get great results!

I totally get it. I think positive reinforcement is really useful for you. For example, go for the reward!

I really hope you can find the motivation to get moving. I know you probably don't feel like it right now, but I promise you'll feel better if you just take that first step. I know you can do it!

From what I can gather from the description of the message, it seems that the questioner has already devoted a great deal of thought to the issue of loneliness. Over the course of ten years, during which he has been dealing with depression, he has also experienced a number of periods during which he felt lonely.

Given the limited external conditions and your active participation in psychological counseling, you still hope to rely on your own strength to find the strength and methods to be alone and face loneliness. This in itself contains a great deal of courage and the strength to take responsibility for yourself and desire a breakthrough.

I believe that this courage and strength will help you on your path to self-realization.

Given your strong internal resources and limited external circumstances, what other options might there be?

In such circumstances, what other options are there?

I hope that what I have to share with you will help you to think in new ways.

I hope that what I have to share with you will help you to think in a new way.

1. Consider shifting your perspective: While loneliness cannot be eliminated, there is a possibility of coexisting with it and even developing a friendship with it.

It is not uncommon to experience feelings of loneliness, and it can be challenging to know how to respond to them. These feelings may arise naturally when you are studying, reading a book, or watching a video.

It might be helpful to think of loneliness as a kind of sister to loneliness. They have a similar look, and it's a bit like the relationship between the words "lonely" and "alone" in English.

The external environment mentioned by the questioner has created an objective state of loneliness, but it is important to recognize that the subjective feelings that arise from this can be diverse and rich.

For instance, some people may secretly find comfort in the fact that they have the freedom to do as they please, arrange their living environment as they see fit, and not have to accommodate anyone else's schedule or preferences.

Some people may experience feelings of sadness and loneliness. They may wish to engage in conversation but find themselves met with silence. They may desire interaction with others but find themselves alone.

Some people find joy in solitude, while others feel sadness in loneliness.

It is important to remember that there is no inherent good or bad in any situation. Our individual mindset is what determines how we interpret and respond to the objective environment around us.

For the questioner, it seems that the current state is the latter.

If the questioner is open to it, exploring a different perspective could be a helpful approach. While it may initially feel challenging, finding joy in solitude can bring benefits that can help us accept this state of being.

2. If loneliness could express itself in words, what would it want to say to you?

2. If loneliness could speak, what would it say to you?

It might be said that the feeling of being consumed by loneliness will take us away from it the moment it appears, leaving behind a mess of emotions and closing off the space for a dialogue with loneliness.

The questioner is curious and would like to know more.

Could there perhaps be something lacking inside?

Perhaps the answer to this question can be found in the experience of loneliness.

If it resonates with you, you might consider the next time loneliness arises, you can imagine it as anything (a plant/animal/inanimate object/a two-dimensional image). You could then imagine its image, size, material, what it lives/exists on, and, perhaps most importantly, what it wants to tell you with its appearance.

Each conversation may provide an opportunity to gain a deeper understanding of loneliness and, in turn, of oneself.

It is possible that whether it is an internal lack or a desire to convey a different voice to you may have the opportunity to extend from such a dialogue.

3. It may be helpful to allow yourself the time and space to take things slowly.

Given the previous experience and background of the questioner, who has just recovered from ten years of depression, is pursuing personal independence, and works in a system with a limited range of people to interact with, it is understandable that getting to know loneliness and adjusting to being alone with it is a process that takes time, gradual adaptation, and gradual change.

It is worth noting that psychological counseling may not always be available to us. However, as we embark on the journey of recovery and pursue personal independence, it is important to be mindful of our needs and give ourselves the space and opportunity to grow and heal.

It may be helpful to allow yourself to find your independence little by little with the support of a professional.

Similarly, just as every adult needs to rely on our primary caregivers to provide us with essentials like clothing, food, shelter, and emotional support when we are born, it does not prevent us from growing up to become independent adults.

You are also beginning to experience a "rebirth" now. In the initial stage, perhaps it would be helpful to rely on others appropriately to make independence go further and more smoothly.

I'm not exploring human nature, but rather a therapist who cares about the human heart. I wish you well.

Good evening, dear question asker!

Hi, I'm Xiaobai! I'm here to tell you that you don't have to worry about anything. I'm here to help you take away your worries!

First of all, after reading your experience carefully, I just want to give you a big hug!

I really hope you find these views and suggestions helpful!

❤️ Learn to enjoy being alone. It's a wonderful thing! Being alone is not the same as being lonely.

I've noticed that I tend to feel more at ease when I'm by myself. It's like my mind can just wander and rest without worrying about what other people are thinking or feeling. I like to think that's when I'm at my best, just being quiet and at ease with myself. When I was in university, I was mostly on my own, but I enjoyed that time to really get to know myself.

In high school, I was the kind of person who needed a friend to go to the bathroom with me. I was lucky to have friends around me!

But once you get to university, it's a whole new ballgame! Everyone is a familiar stranger. It's like you're in the same classroom, but then as soon as class ends, everyone immediately checks their phones and leaves. It's like there's no communication at all! At first, I wasn't used to it.

I used to cry a lot. But then I took a closer look and realized that many people in college are alone, too. So, there's nothing strange about it!

I've come to terms with it, and I've learned to enjoy being alone. I've realized that being alone is not the same as being lonely.

It's really quite nice being alone!

? How can we learn to embrace the feeling of loneliness?

It's totally normal! When someone comes along, they do so alone. And when they leave, they leave the world alone. So, loneliness is a constant, but it's nothing to be afraid of.

It's totally normal to feel lonely sometimes. In fact, it's a good thing to get used to it. The noise you hear is just your mind playing tricks on you, like fireworks. The process of self-improvement is always lonely, but you can make it less so. Learn to enjoy being alone and make friends with it.

In the space of solitude, take some time for yourself and work on improving yourself. You'll find that there are always people who appreciate you, too!

❤️ It's so important to cultivate good habits! With habits, life can be so much richer. Only a rich inner life can be truly fulfilling, and a fulfilling inner life is the best way to overcome loneliness. Don't be afraid of loneliness. Sometimes loneliness can be a friend.

If you stop being afraid of it, you've already succeeded halfway! You have to know that if you fight the dragon for too long, you might end up becoming the dragon yourself. And if you gaze into the abyss for too long, the abyss might end up gazing back at you.

Loneliness is something we all have to go through at one point or another. It's nothing to be afraid of! The best way to get through it is to face your inner self directly and become stronger.

❤️ We must follow the laws of nature. Since no one will be with us to the end, we must accept the trials life brings us with an open mind. Nothing is insurmountable, as long as we face it with optimism, life will not treat us badly. You've got this! Face it bravely.

I really hope my advice helps the person who asked the question.

Hi, I'm Xiaobai! I'm not worried about anything, and I love you all so much!

Hello!

I thought I'd quickly share my understanding of loneliness and being alone, just in case it's helpful.

I believe that loneliness is an emotional state. As social beings, we crave interaction with others in the outside world. When we feel lonely, it's because our hearts are not at peace. We need someone to share our joy, sadness, and views on things with. When there is no one around to communicate with, we feel lonely.

You also said there's no chance to meet new people, and you live in a dorm with limited space. Is it just you in the dorm, or do you have colleagues there too? How's your daily interaction with them?

I believe that "being alone" is a state of mind. When you're alone, your heart is calm and you don't feel idle because you have things to do. As you mentioned, you're continuing to learn and taking exams to change your current job. This is a sign of your progress. I feel that you're moving towards the life you want.

I think that on your journey to your goal, you may feel lonely, but the strength within you will help you through it. Learn to be alone, calm your mind, and you will strengthen your resolve. Best of luck!