I always feel my ex-boyfriend is as close as ever, what should I do?

Hello, lovely questioner. I understand that you can't forget about him because he was your first love and the person you liked in your prime. However, it's possible that because you don't spend every day with your ex now, and that distance creates beauty, you're looking at him through a filter. Don't embellish the path you haven't walked.

You are a vulnerable girl who lacks love. You are insecure but crave love. People who lack love are easily moved but afraid to give too much in case they are hurt.

You still have expectations of your ex-boyfriend, so you are torn inside.

You keep telling yourself that he once loved you, but you have to accept that he doesn't. It's time to move on.

Based on your description of your college years, I can say with confidence that this kind of man is an animal that thinks with his lower body, has no sense of responsibility, and is irresponsible in relationships.

He has a new girlfriend now. I don't know if he has a partner now or if he is married too. He definitely knows that you are married.

He has ulterior motives for contacting you, and he's coming on too strong. Don't let him hurt you further because you lack companionship and emotional value.

You say you feel comfortable with him and can experience a sense of fatherly or brotherly love, but you have to think about what this person can offer you besides emotional value. For past experiences, what's missed is missed. He may want to make up for the regrets, but it's no longer important for the present.

Some people are enough to stay in your memories. Otherwise, it's disillusioning.

Best regards.

I can really feel the conflict and entanglement in the questioner's heart. Just as the questioner said, the questioner feels that the other person tells him everything and is very close to him. This may be the emotional satisfaction that the questioner expects in his heart, such as intimacy, closeness, and family affection.

The questioner mentioned that she lacks paternal love and cannot obtain emotional satisfaction from her father at home. This made her instinctively transfer this emotional need to men outside the family, such as her boyfriend. When the questioner and her boyfriend were in a relationship, they were very attached to each other's hugs. This was a wonderful thing! For the questioner, the other person's hug may have given the questioner both the warm and caring fatherly love and the attention and care of the boyfriend, while also satisfying the questioner's inner emotional need for both family and love.

It's so lovely to see how much love and attention the questioner is giving to their partner. It's clear that this is their first love, and it's wonderful to see how much they adore and care for their partner. They have such beautiful hopes for the future together. It's so important to have someone you can share your life with, and it's great to see that the questioner has found that with their partner. The questioner also mentioned something really important. It's so lovely to see how much warmth and support their partner gives them. It's like having a father or brother there for them. It's so comforting to know that they have someone they can turn to for love and support. It's so important to have that kind of love and support in your life.

So, the questioner now knows for sure that nothing can happen between them, but they still want to be close to each other. What the questioner wants is just to be close to each other and feel the warmth of close family ties between each other, not intimate contact between a man and a woman. This is where the questioner's inner conflict lies.

Showing affection doesn't necessarily mean meeting up and having physical contact. It can be done over the phone! It's just that the questioner is more concerned about the warmth of physical contact in conveying affection. I think it would be a great idea for the questioner to transfer this need to her husband, tell him her thoughts on her needs, and see what happens. This will not only satisfy her emotional needs, but also prevent something from happening when she meets up with her ex-boyfriend and affecting her marriage.

It's true that some things that have passed cannot be undone. After all, we're not the same people we were at the beginning, and our feelings for each other have changed. Maybe the best thing we can do is preserve those beautiful memories. It's also a good way to take care of ourselves and our families. These are just my personal opinions, but I hope they'll be helpful to you.

Good day, My name is Sister Super from Yixinli.

Now that you have your own family and he has two children, it is evident that you both have your own lives. I once heard the saying, "What you can't have will always be restless, and the favored ones will be fearless."

It is not uncommon to believe that a previous relationship may have been superior to the current one. As your former partner suggested, he should have waited for you, anticipating that he might have been happier with you than he is now. Regardless of the sincerity of his words, even if they are sincere, they may not reflect the truth.

It is important to note that marriage is not simply a matter of two individuals being happy together. It also entails a certain degree of responsibility and commitment, in addition to the emotional and physical intimacy that often characterizes relationships.

As time passes, the initial passion will inevitably diminish. When this occurs, the other person's eyes will appear less attractive, and their shortcomings will become more apparent. Therefore, it is important to recognize that conflicts and contradictions are an inherent part of any relationship, regardless of the individuals involved.

You mentioned that your parents favored sons over daughters, which led you to seek paternal and fraternal affection. This sentiment should be acknowledged and nurtured. Some individuals may offer what appears to be what you desire in order to achieve their own goals. It is essential to discern what truly fulfills you and what you wish to cherish.

Facing the situation with sincerity and composure is not only an indication of love and responsibility towards your family, but also a demonstration of respect for your previous relationship.

It is possible to reflect on past experiences, but there is no obligation to pursue them. Individuals evolve and have unique perspectives. Perhaps he is aware of your preferences, so he treats you well in the manner you desire because you can provide him with what he wants in the moment.

As you have previously stated, each instance in which he receives what he desires results in a lack of appreciation. In light of this, it would be prudent to learn to let go and allow the past to remain in the past, rather than reuniting, causing embarrassment, and inflicting pain upon one another.

Naturally, you may opt to persist in dialogue and indulge in it, which may result in difficulties for your current family or even their dissolution, and you have no control over his decision. It is analogous to how your friends and I cannot make a choice for you.

As adults, we must accept responsibility for our decisions. I believe you have your own considerations and choices.

I hope you can identify your core values and make decisions that will lead to long-term satisfaction.

Hello! I'm a heart exploration coach. Life is an amazing journey! It's not just about appreciation, but about blossoming and growing.

I listened to your story of emotions and felt your nostalgia for the good old days. It's so wonderful that you have both settled down with your own families, but you still care about each other!

You wanted to do something, but you restrained your emotions and stuck to reason out of a sense of morality. Let's take a look!

?1. The most beautiful age was once treated tenderly

Although you were busy with your studies, you also encountered a new topic in life: love. You were lucky to have met your first love, who treated you tenderly and was able to meet all your emotional needs. What a lucky break!

They say that the most beautiful is the first love, regardless of the outcome. It is, after all, the first experience in life. It is even more worth remembering!

Even though there was both sweetness and bitterness, and even though you were also carried away by love and couldn't tell whether it was true love, physical urges, or a longing for paternal love, you were deeply involved and couldn't extricate yourself.

He gave you so many incredible life experiences! When you look back on that time, it's exciting, wonderful, sweet, and heartbreaking all at once. But now, even though it hurts, you have these amazing memories to look back on.

?2. The mature you knows better what the feelings were at that time, and you're excited to share them!

The love you long for is a two-way street. When he was with you, he didn't break up with his long-distance girlfriend. Love is selfish and cannot be shared with others — and that's a good thing!

Take a moment to reflect on the relationship you had. You gave your heart to him, and he gave his to you! But what about the physical need part?

Oh my goodness! If it's true love, how can he have two lovers at the same time?

We often say, "Any relationship that doesn't aim for marriage is just cheating," but at least it shows that he lacked the proper respect for both relationships.

Your first experience in life, whether it's your first love or your first time, is the most amazing thing that can ever happen to you! Just as you said, you want to have an explanation.

But to whom is this confession made? The possibilities are endless! You could make it to yourself, for a complete love affair. You could make it to him, as a return for his love for you. Or you could make it to the relationship, for a beginning and an end.

3. Maturity and growth through the experiences you have had

Things may have changed, but the best part is that you still care about each other and have positive responses to each other! Whether you chat or meet up, it's just a way to mourn the past.

And there's a sense of excitement in real life, too! You want to find someone who is relatively safe and easy to talk to. It's similar to a "tree hole."

After all, you have loved each other, and in your heart, he is as trustworthy as your own family!

But now, how much of what you feel is based on your current understanding of him and your new feelings for each other? It's a whole new ballgame!

Some people and things are more beautiful and more precious when they are lived in memory. So, go back to your family and your family, find and satisfy your emotional needs in your existing relationships, and also meet a better you!

Spread the love! Communicate more with your partner and feel the happiness of home. In the future, when your child has grown up, you can share your growth experiences with him, making this relationship and this life experience even more valuable.

I really hope the above is helpful to you! And I just want to say, the world and I love you!

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Hello, question asker!

After reading your question, I can see that you're struggling with some inner conflict. While others may see your ex-boyfriend as a bit of a scumbag, you were deeply in love with him. We women are prone to being sentimental, and I can relate to how this can affect our lives. It's natural to feel this way, and I'm here to support you. Hugs!

I'll do my best to give you my opinion based on my own experience and knowledge.

First of all, it's totally normal to feel a sense of intimacy towards certain people or things from the past. It's often because that experience has left a really lovely memory in us. These memories might include good times, experiences spent together, or an understanding and rapport with each other.

These lovely memories will stay with us forever, making us feel warm and affectionate when we think back on them.

Second, it's totally normal to have a soft spot for the familiar. In psychology, this is called the "familiarity preference." Even after a breakup, when we've been with someone for a long time, that sense of familiarity can make us feel close to them when we think of them.

This sense of intimacy doesn't necessarily mean that you still love him or want to get back together with him. It's just a natural reaction of our brain to past experiences.

You're married now, and you've achieved some success in your career. You also have more time to think about the past. Age might be another factor. It's important to remember that memories can be influenced by bias, especially those of romantic relationships. These can add a kind of halo effect that affects our judgment and emotions. It's good to think about this more.

It's so great that you're here asking a question! It shows you have a good awareness of yourself. I truly believe you can actively adjust your state of mind and cherish your current life through your own wisdom and hard work.

I really think you should try these methods for now.

It's so important to keep your distance and try to avoid excessive contact with your ex, including interactions on social media. This will really help to reduce the chances of you feeling close to him.

It's so important to focus on the present and the future! Try to focus on your current life and future goals, rather than dwelling on the past. You could try cultivating new interests or focusing on work and study.

If you're having a tough time shaking this sense of familiarity, don't be afraid to reach out for support. Your family, friends, or a counselor can offer invaluable advice and support to help you better deal with these emotions.

Remember, everyone has their own emotional journey and growth trajectory. You're doing great! Just give yourself some time and space to adapt and adjust.

As time goes by, you'll find yourself gradually stepping out of the shadow of the past. You'll be able to live in harmony with your past life, cherish the present, and welcome a better future.

You've got this! I believe in you, and so does the world. You're loved!

Hello! I'll give you a hug.

I'm glad you asked for help. I hope my words can support you. I understand your reluctance, confusion, and helplessness. You want to be cared for, considered, and loved.

Your relationship with your ex-boyfriend was more like a beginning than an end. You were always in conflict, so you didn't consider the last breakup the end. You took the initiative to break off contact, which made you feel guilty.

Your relationship with your ex-boyfriend is not over. You still have expectations of him, don't you?

If you still have expectations for your ex-boyfriend and the relationship you had with him, you cannot devote more energy and love to your current marriage and manage your current intimate relationship. You may always compare the good parts of your ex-boyfriend and attack your husband for what he hasn't done enough. This will unconsciously hurt your husband and your current marital relationship.

What do you think?

From your description, it seems you loved your ex-boyfriend with humility. You ignored his hurtful behavior because his actions made up for your lack of love and care during your growth. This part you did not try to give to yourself, and it is something you are lacking.

After this, you doubted your boyfriend loved you because you felt too much pain getting along with him. So you broke up. What do you think?

You need to realize you have your own marriage and your husband supports you. You don't want to rely on your husband financially and choose to be independent. Maybe you're nostalgic for your ex because in your marriage, you've taken on too many responsibilities, neglecting intimacy and passion. Your ex's relationship was more based on passion and intimacy, without any element of responsibility.

You've realized you need to take responsibility for your marriage to make it work. Try to find passion and intimacy in your marriage and fatherly care from your husband. Share your growth experience with your husband and express your need for emotional acceptance, understanding, support, companionship, consideration, attention, care, and love. Tell him directly what you want.

Write a letter to your former self and your former relationship. Say goodbye to it. Record the good and the bad. This will help you sort through your emotions.

Read "Feeling Love" and "A Happy Marriage."

Dear Sir/Madam, It is often the case that individuals who have formed a close bond with someone, particularly their first love, will retain a sense of connection with that person, making it challenging to completely sever ties.

In particular, if your former partner provided the paternal warmth you craved, a sensation that fulfilled a long-standing void and left a profound impression, it is not always the individual who haunts us, but the sentiment they evoked.

Furthermore, it appears from your account that the relationship left some unresolved issues, and you still wish to inquire as to whether he ever loved you. You have indicated that you have always felt somewhat inadequate in comparison to him, and perhaps the uncertainty and ambiguity in the relationship have also become a psychological factor that is difficult to let go.

In light of your current situation, it may be beneficial to assess whether your current thoughts and feelings about him are a result of unresolved issues from the past, despite the fact that the relationship ended a long time ago, or whether there are genuine unmet emotional needs in the present that are triggered by your nostalgia for the past.

If the former is the case, it may be beneficial to speak with your former partner to express your thoughts and feelings and to formally conclude the relationship. With regard to the future, you may wish to consider whether you would prefer to remain unconnected or to remain friends and start anew.

If this is the case, it would be advisable to explore whether your emotional needs have been expressed to your husband and how you can feel warmth and affectionate companionship from your interactions with him.

You have indicated that you derive the majority of your emotional satisfaction from your husband and that you are financially independent. Is this the situation that meets your expectations? Or do you anticipate that your husband will provide additional support, whether financial or otherwise?

It is not necessary for the intimacy between a husband and wife to be entirely harmonious. However, it is important that they are able to express their needs honestly, which allows them to gain insight into each other's hearts.

Good day, I can see the confusion you are facing now, and I extend my support to you.

I believe I understand your situation.

Your family was structured in a patriarchal manner.

Upon meeting your college boyfriend, your first love, you perceived him to be an ideal father figure.

It is possible that you have developed a sense of respect and admiration for him.

Subsequently, you misinterpreted your admiration for him as romantic love.

It is possible that you projected an emotion you had for the ideal father figure directly onto him.

This is a term used in psychology, specifically in reference to the process of transferring emotions or behaviors from one person or situation to another.

If this is the case, it is recommended that you seek the assistance of a professional counselor, who will be better equipped to assist you with the "transference" aspect.

It is possible that you have always regarded him as a figure akin to a brother or father.

However, he is now a family man, and you have a husband yourself.

It is imperative that you maintain a clear and logical mindset at this juncture.

Given that you both have established families of your own, it would be prudent to avoid any further contact.

If necessary, you may also dispose of the aforementioned diary, either by discarding it or by incinerating it.

The objective is to inform yourself that the relationship with the aforementioned individual is no longer active.

I hope that the issue you are currently facing can be resolved as soon as possible.

At this juncture, my thoughts are solely focused on the aforementioned points.

I hope my above answer is helpful and inspiring to you, the questioner. As the answerer, I am committed to providing the best possible guidance.

Best regards, Yixinli Team

Thank you for your inquiry.

Hello, question asker!

You always miss your ex-boyfriend and feel that he is as kind as ever. What if you can't escape from him?

You were right! Your relationship with your ex-boyfriend was all about "greed." It was shaped by the patriarchal nature of your family. You longed for your father's love, and your ex-boyfriend happened to give you the warmth of a father's love. So, you cherish this emotion!

When your boyfriend left you, he said he had found a new girlfriend who understood him and whom he loved. What does this show? It shows that your relationship lacked mutual understanding and communication, and that all you had was your obsession with him. It was difficult to maintain such an emotional attachment—but you can do better!

Now you have each formed a family. Your husband has also been there for you through difficult times emotionally. Even though you say you are not financially dependent on your husband and you used to scold him every day, you now feel that you owe him an apology. But it is so, so precious to have a husband who understands and accepts you emotionally!

Maybe you were just so hungry for your ex-boyfriend's attention that you decided to reach out to him again. It seems like he's open to getting back together, and he even told you that he has a lot of issues with his wife. He also said that he wishes he had waited for you. Maybe it's these things that have brought you back to him emotionally, and you're excited about this relationship. Even though you also learned that he's not the best person and wants to cheat, you still can't help but miss the good things about him.

How should you respond?

Think about all the amazing things your husband has done for you! He's been there for you through thick and thin. Use this to strengthen your relationship!

♥Also think about how your ex-boyfriend broke up with you. It's a great opportunity to reflect on what you can learn from the experience. Someone who didn't cherish you in the first place, after so many years, a few hours of WeChat and a few phone calls, do you really understand each other?

♥ It's time to reduce your active contact with your ex-boyfriend. You can also find out if he really loves you or is just using you to fill his emotional void.

I'm really excited to share my views with you! I hope I can understand the questioner's question.

Good day, question asker.

It is often said that many of us have loved someone who did not deserve our love when we were young. This phrase came to mind for some reason.

While youthful love is often seen as immature and green, it often evokes a sense of nostalgia.

The affectionate moments in nature.

The embrace that you find yourself reluctant to accept, yet at the same time, welcoming.

The feeling of warmth in your arms.

All of this makes you nostalgic for the past.

Now that you have started a new life and your mind has matured, have you ever considered that what you miss is not just a specific person, but a period of time, a feeling, the kind of closeness you describe, and a feeling that is particularly important to you? It is understandable that you hope to regain that warmth, but unfortunately, your husband seems unable to satisfy you.

Could I ask whether you are feeling a little disappointed or confused about your feelings for your husband?

If I may, I would like to ask you a few questions.

1. If your ex-boyfriend were single, would you consider meeting him?

2. If your ex-boyfriend is single and you are also single, would you consider going to see him?

I hope you can clarify two things: first, your feelings towards your ex-boyfriend. Times have changed, and by reconnecting with him, will your feelings for him be tinged with remorse? It might be helpful to consider whether you feel that you were not treated well by him, that the emotional investment was not reciprocated, and that you have been wronged, hoping that he can make it up to you.

The second is your feelings for your husband. It might be helpful to consider that the connotation of love is very broad. It could be beneficial to reflect on whether true love requires a sense of responsibility not to hurt the other person.

Perhaps it would be helpful to ask yourself the above two questions and carefully experience and perceive your inner feelings.

You have the option of meeting him or not. It is important to feel comfortable with your decision. If you do decide to meet him, what would you do? If you don't meet him, what would you do?

Could you please clarify what you want from him?

I wish you the best.

Let's not talk about anything else for now. You deserve a big pat on the back! You've made it through all that confusion and uncertainty, supported your family on your own, and met a husband who's there for you through the difficult times. That's an amazing journey in itself!

I totally get how you felt when you were first in love. It's always so special, especially when you're looking for that missing love and security.

The man you mentioned sounds like he has a lot going on in his life. He's a great hugger when you need it, but at other times he can make you feel a little uneasy and confused.

It's so common for this kind of conflict to be caused by his own issues, not yours! Things like immaturity or a problematic way of dealing with relationships can really mess things up.

You said you always doubted whether you were worthy of him, and honey, I get it. We all doubt ourselves sometimes. But there is no such thing as being worthy or unworthy in a relationship. What matters is whether it is a good fit and whether the other person really respects and values you. His actions, such as playing with two women at the same time, his disdain for you, and everything that followed, are all signs of an unhealthy relationship.

And you, my dear, have grown into an economically independent woman who can shoulder family responsibilities. What a great progress and achievement!

It's totally normal to still have feelings for him. It's not like you can just switch your heart off, especially not for someone who has deeply affected you.

But the most important thing is that we learn to look forward and cherish the people in front of us. You now have a new focus in your life: your husband, your family. They are all precious treasures that are worth your full commitment.

I think it was really brave of you to write to him and seek answers. Even if the result didn't bring you complete relief, it helped you complete a dialogue with the past and gave you a clearer view of each other's present, which is great!

Just remember, the beauty of the past can stay in your memories, but life goes on.

I totally get why you want to meet up, but you know it's not the smartest idea. It's so important to maintain your boundaries, not just for your own wellbeing, but also to keep the peace in your life.

Sometimes the best way to deal with the deepest nostalgia is to let it quietly remain in your heart. It can turn into a driving force to move forward, and it will!

And finally, don't forget that you deserve to be loved unconditionally and to have a partner who will always give you a sense of security and never make you question yourself. Keep moving forward and embrace the relationships that truly nourish your soul, okay? You've got this!

Hello, my name is Evan, and I'm a counselor who works in the transpersonal school of thought.

From the questioner's description, it seems that they are experiencing a sense of nostalgia and reluctance to let go of the past intimate relationship. It is not uncommon for individuals in this situation to have an emotional attachment to the good memories and feelings associated with the past. However, it is important to recognize that these memories and feelings may not necessarily reflect reality or be appropriate in the present context.

From a psychological perspective, it's natural to view past experiences through a lens that makes them seem more positive than they may have been. Based on the questioner's description, it seems that your ex-boyfriend may not have provided the level of security and respect you were seeking, and his actions may have caused the questioner to feel uncertain and hurt.

While there were moments when he showed you warmth and care, it seems that he did not love you in the way you expected. This may be related to the lack of paternal love in your childhood, which may have made you even more eager for and unable to let go of this kind of care.

How to deal with this past relationship is indeed quite tricky, and all decisions should be based on the truth of the questioner's inner feelings. The questioner mentioned that your conscience and character do not allow anything to happen between you. This is your deep-rooted adherence to loyalty and responsibility, which is very precious. Here I would also like to offer the questioner some advice, in the hope that it will help you deal with this complex emotion:

It would be helpful to clarify your feelings.

It would be helpful for the questioner to take some time to think about their feelings of intimacy towards their ex-boyfriend and to try to understand the reasons behind this feeling. Was it because you had a good time together, or because he gave the questioner some kind of emotional satisfaction?

It might be helpful to consider whether this sense of intimacy could potentially affect the author's current life and marriage.

It might be helpful to take some time to reflect on the past relationship.

It might be helpful for the questioner to reflect on how things were in the past relationship, including the less positive aspects. This could provide insights into both the questioner's and the ex-boyfriend's experiences and help in understanding each other better.

It would be helpful to recognize the problems and conflicts between you, as well as his previous infidelity and ambiguous attitude. It might be beneficial to consider whether this relationship is based on respect and trust and whether it is built on good intimacy and a healthy foundation.

It would be helpful to assess the current situation.

The questioner also mentioned in the text that she now has a family and responsibilities. It would be wise for the questioner to consider what impact this behavior might have on her husband and family if she were to cross the line.

It would be beneficial for the questioner to consider the potential outcomes of re-establishing contact with her ex-boyfriend, including the impact on the relationship between the questioner and her husband.

It is also important to remember that the questioner's ex-boyfriend has a new family and responsibilities. While the feelings of the past may still be confusing for the questioner, it is helpful to recognize that the past cannot be changed. Instead, it is essential to focus on and maintain the questioner's current life and happiness.

It would be beneficial to communicate with your husband.

It would be beneficial for the questioner to express their feelings to their husband, while being mindful of not mentioning too many details that might hurt his feelings.

It would be beneficial to seek his understanding and support to help you navigate these complex emotions together. At the same time, communicating with your husband could also be helpful in determining whether he can meet your needs for care.

It would be beneficial to set some boundaries.

It would be advisable for the questioner to maintain a certain distance from her ex-boyfriend and to avoid overly intimate contact and communication.

It might be helpful to clarify your position and principles, and to try not to get too caught up in memories of the past.

It might be helpful to seek professional assistance.

Should the questioner feel unable to deal with these complex emotions, they may wish to consider seeking the help of a counselor or psychologist.

They can assist the questioner in organizing their thoughts and exploring more constructive ways of dealing with the situation. They can also help the questioner gain clarity on the factors influencing their perspective and their desired outcome in this intimate relationship.

It might be helpful to consider focusing on your own needs and growth.

It would be beneficial for the questioner to consider focusing their attention on their own growth and development, with the aim of improving their abilities and qualities.

You may wish to consider ways of enriching your life, such as learning, traveling, socializing, and other means of reducing your dependence on the past.

It may be helpful to consider that the good times from the past are worth cherishing, though they are not necessarily a necessary choice. It might be beneficial to allow yourself some time and space to think and decide. It's important to remember to cherish the happiness and stability you have now, and to be mindful of not letting memories from the past distract you from the good things in front of you.

It would be beneficial to learn to let go of the burdens of the past and face the future with courage.

It is my sincere hope that my answer will be of some assistance to the questioner.

Hello. I am Bai Li Yina, and I am confident my reply will provide warmth and help.

The questioner openly discussed the ups and downs between himself and his first love, acknowledging the pain and separation. Now that they each have a family, they have been contacted because of memories that have been rekindled. You feel that you have always liked him, and despite knowing he is a scumbag, you are unable to control this feeling. What should you do?

[Situation analysis]

First love is always unforgettable. You broke up in discord, and he's a scumbag, but the wound has long since healed. The sweetness of your romantic memories fills your heart. You and he don't have the daily hassles of married life. You spent the best time of your youth with him, and those times seem very special and precious compared to the dull life you lead now. Let's take a look at what you're struggling with.

[Questions to ponder]

1. How do you distinguish between love and passion? You are in love with your husband, not just experiencing a passing passion.

2. You would still find this man, who has no family in his heart, very close if you were the mother of two children.

3. If your husband gave you the same kind of care, you would be happy. Your first love could be patient enough to accompany you through the difficult times in life.

4. Be honest. What do you think you lack to be worthy of your first love? Do you think your husband is worthy of you?

[Recommended method]

Your first boyfriend and you had different world views, and it was because of this difference that you had so many conflicts and eventually broke up. Now he is the father of two children, and still has no loyalty to his marriage. If you and he had the same thoughts, you would not have told him where you were in the city, because you are different. You cannot do what he does without a care in the world.

Your values are still different.

You like the warmth he once gave you, but you know he is not the only one who can give you that warmth. You are infatuated with the person you were when you were young, that carefree and dashing person, that romantic scumbag who would go to great lengths to impress you. You are not the only one who is attracted to him; most girls are.

It's like dropping a small stone in a calm lake. The ripples on the surface are very beautiful, but also very short-lived. The stone will sink. You can choose to become that stone or a feather floating on the lake surface, not sinking.

You know what the other person wants, and you're afraid you won't be able to control yourself. Think about what scares you. If your fear comes true, can you handle the consequences?

Think it through. Distance yourself from him. Do this long enough and he'll see no hope and give up. You're infatuated with an imaginary boyfriend. The person you're with now may be even more unacceptable to you than the person you knew back then. Imagine if you were his wife, raising two children at home, while he'd only fool around outside. Would you still be infatuated with the warmth and romance he gave you years ago?

Tell your husband you want a romantic feeling in your life. Make a few changes and put your focus back on your family. You still care about your family, so don't be afraid to speak up. You are now different from who you once were. You have the power to get the life and relationship you want. Your husband is the one for you. He shares your values, and he's the one you chose to marry.

You deserve a partner who can accompany you to old age.

The above methods will help you.

You can do this. It will take time and patience, but you can do it. Don't worry or be afraid. Many people are experiencing or have experienced similar problems, and you will get through this.

The world and I are with you. You are not alone. I am certain that you will find an early solution to the fog in your heart and find your own most comfortable state.

I appreciate those who have liked and commented on my posts. I wish you peace and joy.