Hello! I'm so happy I could help clear up your confusion! When we first quit our job and were dismissed, we started to doubt our abilities. Then when we went to interviews and kept failing, our doubts took root and we didn't want to work anymore. But as adults, we have to work to make a living, so we choose to stay at home or live off our parents. When other people mention work-related things in front of us, we start to feel anxious.
Have you ever wondered why we have these thoughts? Well, it can come from our sense of self-efficacy.
Self-efficacy is a psychological term that refers to one's ability to complete a task. When we are laid off and don't hear back from the company, it's only natural to doubt our ability to complete the task.
On the other hand, it can come from learned helplessness. This is a psychological term that refers to the ability to attribute one's failures in a certain activity to oneself, believing that one is unable to do it, powerless, etc.
So, what should we do?
First, get to know yourself and accept yourself. We all have our own unique value as independent individuals in society.
So, why do we fail to find a job? Well, there are lots of reasons! The direction of job hunting, the right person to help, and so on are all indispensable. But, we don't need to blame ourselves or doubt our abilities. It's just that the time is not yet right.
Second, go with the flow and do what needs to be done. We all have things we'd like to do but haven't been able to because we've been focusing on other things. When we're unable to forget something for a long time, if we can support ourselves, we can take a little break and do something we usually want to do but haven't been able to do.
If money is tight, don't fret! There are still plenty of ways to find work and lower your expectations.
Finally, it's time to boost your self-esteem! You can do this by getting some exercise, keeping a diary, and so on. These are long-term things that can help you become more resilient and confident.
I really hope these answers help you out!


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I can totally relate to feeling down when job hunting doesn't go as planned. It's tough when things take longer than expected, but remember that finding the right job is worth the wait.
It's important to stay positive and not let setbacks define you. Everyone's journey is different, and it's okay to take your time to find something that fits your skills and aspirations.
The fear of judgment from others can be really hard to deal with, but try focusing on your own path. People who truly matter won't judge you for taking the time you need to find the right opportunity.
Sometimes the job market just takes longer to respond. Keep polishing your resume and networking; eventually, the right door will open. Don't give up on yourself!
Feeling guilty about not working yet is natural, but remind yourself that you're doing what's best for your career in the long run. Quality over quantity applies here too.