I am a girl in the ninth grade. My parents don't accept me expressing negative emotions. What should I do if I want to commit suicide?

If your parents aren't able to help you, don't give up on yourself. If they don't understand the importance of mental health, make sure you do. If they're not open to seeing a psychologist, don't be.

You are your own person, and your parents helped you get to where you are today. But you are the one who decides how you live your life. The most important thing is to learn to love yourself. Grades don't matter in the grand scheme of things.

If you're afraid to see a psychologist, you can go to the school and find a mental health teacher or the homeroom teacher. You can say that you've been having trouble sleeping recently and that you've been having bad thoughts. You want to get help, but you've already told your parents and they don't understand the importance of this. They have some prejudice about it and hope to get help from the teacher. The teacher will help you solve your sleeping problem first. Only when you sleep well will you have energy the next day and be able to concentrate in class. Otherwise, it will just be a vicious cycle, and you'll never learn the knowledge you need to learn. You'll naturally not do well on the exam. The key to all of this is that you have a health problem, so what you need to solve is your own body.

It's also important to have a teacher or a professional psychologist help your parents understand the key and importance of psychological counseling and adjust their perceptions. As a junior, you're in a unique position to provide guidance to parents because they'll be more likely to trust your input.

There's also a simple way to popularize psychology for parents. It might be tough, but don't give up.

If you're feeling down, you can always call a psychological hotline. There are also many free online psychological counselors and listeners who are always available to help you.

Hello, question asker! I'm Du Ying, a listening therapist. I really hope my answer can help you.

Give the questioner a warm hug from a distance. From your description, I can tell that you're feeling really negative and that you've been holding it all in. On top of that, you've got the pressure of your studies, the lack of sleep because of your mental health, and the stress of the middle school entrance exam without knowing what to do. It's so hard! But I can see that you're looking for help, and I believe you're ready to get out of this difficult situation. Let's talk it through together!

It's true that we're all born with a clean slate. But the way we're treated by our parents and the atmosphere at home can have a huge impact on us. It can shape our first impressions, understanding, and thinking patterns about the world. The person who asked the question said, "I have an INFJ personality."

My parents have a hard time accepting my negative emotions. For example, when I cry because I failed an exam, they think it shows I have a weak heart and poor resilience. I don't have anyone at school to talk to, so I try to hide my negative emotions. Since I started junior high school, I've had suicidal thoughts sometimes, and I can't concentrate on my studies.

I've already made a list of my Zs plan (I started about a year ago, and it's the only one that makes me happy). When you're dealing with your parents, it can feel like they don't understand you or respect you, and sometimes it even feels like they reject you. It's hard to feel loved and valuable when you feel like that. It's also tough to find someone to talk to at school. During adolescence, your body secretes more hormones, your brain develops rapidly, and your emotions are all over the place. You've been suppressing your emotions, which has made it even harder to feel better. You don't have the strength to get out of this negative state of mind and emotions. It's a vicious cycle: you constantly deny, doubt, and won't give up. You even think about using suicide to relieve yourself or rebel against your parents.

I'd like to offer a few suggestions for the questioner, which I hope will be helpful.

First, it's important to face your own problems. The questioner describes the situation from experience as possibly being a case of adolescent depression, which needs to be diagnosed by a professional doctor. One characteristic of depression is that because of negative experiences, there are negative perceptions and emotions, and then problems are viewed negatively. This can lead to a lack of motivation to do things, which affects actions and sleep, which in turn affects schoolwork. Teachers and parents give negative feedback, and it is in this vicious cycle that one also doubts and denies oneself.

It can be tough to break out of this negative cycle on your own. I suggest that the person who asked the question face their own problems head-on, listen to the advice of the doctor, actively seek treatment, take responsibility for their own lives, and let their parents take them for treatment, take medicine when necessary, and seek psychological counseling when necessary. If you are worried that your parents will say no, you can tell the school psychologist to tell your parents about the situation, and then ask them to take you to a professional hospital for diagnosis and treatment.

From my own experience, I know that parents usually love their children. If you can get them to talk to a psychologist or doctor, they will usually change their attitude towards you. You can tell the psychologist or teacher about how your parents treat you, and they can help guide your parents to see their own communication problems.

Secondly, it's so important to learn to accept and express yourself. The original poster said that they feel that everyone else hates them and they hate themselves. It's possible that this is because in the past, your parents treated you badly, making you feel that you are not good enough, and you started to hate yourself.

But, you know, it's really up to the parents to decide how they're going to parent. You can't really choose that for yourself.

It's so important to learn to accept things as they are. If you blame yourself for everything and keep denying your feelings, or feel that you are so unlucky to have such parents, this will only cause more conflict and pain inside you. Accepting things as they are is a challenge we all have to face in life, but it's worth it! When you accept things as they are, your heart will feel better.

It's also important to learn to express your true emotions and psychological needs. You can start by seeing a counselor or a psychology teacher, but remember, it's okay to feel whatever you're feeling. Try to express your emotions and needs to your parents slowly and gently.

You can communicate in a non-violent way, that is to say: facts + my emotional thoughts + my needs + suggestions + hopes. For example: "Mom, I didn't do well in the exam today, and I'm feeling particularly sad and depressed. I hope you can understand how I feel and be there for me, sweetie."

Third, it's time to take action! If you can, try to do more exercise, like running or yoga. Exercise can really help to regulate your brain and body, giving you a better, more positive attitude and motivation. It can also help you to break out of that negative cycle and improve your sleep.

I'm so happy to say that my own depression improved through a lot of exercise!

I really hope these suggestions will be helpful to the questioner. I really do! I hope the questioner can truly take responsibility for their own lives, be proactive in seeking treatment, and get out of their current predicament as soon as possible.