I can't feel pain from self-harm, and I can't find a purpose in living. Can I commit suicide?

Hello, host. I'm honored to have this opportunity to address your question. The information you've provided offers a detailed description of your current situation.

I'm afraid I don't have the capacity to receive words of comfort or encouragement. I'm unable to perceive pain when I hurt myself. I lack the motivation to set goals for myself, and I'm unable to attend school or work. I'm also unable to learn to drive.

I'm not sure how to broach the subject with my family and friends. I did go to the doctor, but they didn't give me a diagnosis, thinking that I'm not sick and don't need to take medicine.

It might be helpful to consider not denying your emotional desires and to try to find a way to meet them in a healthy way. Going to bed at night has become difficult. It might be beneficial to find other ways to spend your time at home.

I can understand why you might feel that there is no point in living.

I'm concerned to see your current situation in the information. It seems you are eager to prove yourself and realize your ideals.

It seems that reality has not provided you with the opportunity you were hoping for, which has led to feelings of discouragement at work and in your studies. This has resulted in a sense of low mood, reduced willpower, and the emergence of somatization symptoms such as loss of appetite and insomnia.

From your description of your current situation, it seems that it may already be affecting your work and studies, and you may also be avoiding the diagnosis given to you by the doctor. This could potentially have a significant adverse effect on your physical and mental health.

It would be beneficial to accept the diagnosis given by the doctor in order to be able to assess your current psychological situation and to be able to formulate an effective intervention plan. This may help to solve your problem.

Financial behavior may originate from self-criticism. Discrepancies between one's perceived self and their ideal self may contribute to a sense of discontent. In striving to align with an idealized version of oneself, it's possible that one's authentic self may be overlooked. Exaggerated narcissism may manifest as a desire to fulfill the ideal self at the expense of the real self.

Perhaps a less appropriate example would be more illustrative. Our lives are constantly undergoing a process of metabolism, which involves replacing outdated and aging cells with new and living cells. In a sense, the outdated and aging cells are replaced and cleaned up by the newly born cells, which could also be seen as a form of self-harm. This behavior can be seen as a way to symbolically get rid of the weak and outdated self and give birth to a powerful and outstanding self, in order to meet the requirements of the ideal self.

During this process, it's possible that your fear, entanglement, depression, and depression might make you feel less energetic and passionate. In this state, you might consider engaging in some more intense sports to release the negative energy that is suppressed inside, sweating and intense confrontation, which effectively releases aggression and hormones in a scientific way.

When the body relaxes, the mind tends to follow suit, allowing us to channel our energy more effectively towards the challenges at hand. I am grateful to have an appointment on 1983. The world and I send our love to you!

Hello! I am the anonymous answerer (^v^).

If you feel that life has no purpose and you don't want to go on living, it might be helpful to consider that this could be a serious mental health problem that needs to be taken seriously. Here are some possible causes and treatment suggestions:

It would be beneficial to consider the following potential causes:

It is possible that psychological stress may be caused by long-term psychological stress, such as difficulties at school or work, conflicts in interpersonal relationships, or other life challenges.

It may be helpful to consider that personal growth issues, along with personal growth experiences and personality traits, can sometimes contribute to feelings of depression. If you feel you may benefit from support in this area, professional psychological counseling may be a valuable option.

It is possible that an excessive sense of responsibility and commitment may lead to extreme exhaustion and a loss of motivation to live.

Treatment:

It may be helpful to consult with a professional to explore ways to improve cognition, emotions, and behavior through psychological counseling.

In some cases, antidepressants may be a suitable option to consider.

In cases where medication is ineffective, physical therapies such as modified electroconvulsive therapy or repetitive transcranial magnetic stimulation may be considered as an alternative option.

It might be helpful to try doing things that interest you to help you find joy and purpose in life.

It may be helpful to establish good interpersonal relationships. Sharing feelings with others can sometimes help to alleviate feelings of loneliness and helplessness.

It might be helpful to consider adjusting your living habits. Perhaps you could try to get enough sleep, avoid overwork, and maintain a good attitude.

I truly hope that you can find the courage to embrace life and feel life fully, without resorting to such extreme measures.

Please be aware that this information is intended as a reference only. If you or someone you know is facing such a situation, it is advisable to seek professional medical assistance as soon as possible.

Words of comfort and encouragement might not be the best for someone who's struggling to find the meaning of living. It's totally understandable that those around you might think a few lighthearted words could change everything, but it's not that simple.

I'm really sorry to hear you're struggling to study or work. It sounds like you're feeling really helpless, frustrated and angry. I'm here to listen and help in any way I can.

I'm so sorry to hear that. What exactly happened?

It sounds like your body is numb, and you can't even feel the pain. I can only imagine how much you must be suffering. I don't know if you are also a little worried about this state.

I can see that you're worried that taking medication will affect your emotions, desires, and appetite. I get it! I'm sure you still value these things very much, and you don't want to become a wooden person from the inside out, unable to feel anything. That would be the most terrifying thing.

Eating and sleeping are our most basic needs. Once you've got that sorted, you'll have the strength to think about why you're unable to do many things. It sounds like you really want to gain the ability to live independently immediately to prove that you're useful.

You can start by proving to yourself and others that you don't need to take medicine. If you can eat and sleep on time and prove to others that you can achieve your goals, I truly believe that with such determination, you will also be able to overcome difficulties in other things.

We all wonder about the meaning of life from time to time. Some people never figure it out, but you can start with the things you can control. That way, you'll prove to yourself that you are not incapable of doing anything.

Hello, question asker!

From your description, I can tell you're feeling helpless. But you're also perceptive, able to recognize this uncomfortable emotion. It's admirable that you're facing it head-on.

You said you feel depressed inside.

When you hurt yourself, you don't feel it. You're also afraid to talk about it with your family and friends.

The doctor can't give you a confirmation. But you don't need one. You know you don't have a problem. You don't want to take medicine that affects your mood and physical state.

It makes you have some bad thoughts. Looking at your description makes me feel sad. I know what must have happened for you to feel this way. It's not your fault. I'll give you a warm hug.

I understand your feelings. Life has no inherent meaning. We ascribe meaning to it.

We haven't passed our driving test yet. We're not doing well at work or at school. But when you become aware of your problems or come here to talk about them, you are already seeing your own problems and trying to find solutions to them.

All problems are our resources, and we are experts at solving our own problems. At the same time, I want to be clear that everyone has their own confusion and needs to solve their own problems and face their own problems.

Based on your description, I can offer suggestions that I believe will help you.

If you're in a bad mood, don't exercise or go out in the sun.

Exercise is a natural remedy that our brain secretes to the scar, helping us to feel better. It also helps us to vent emotions and divert bruises. It is a very effective way to relieve our emotions.

Secondly, you should try meditation exercises or use positive mental suggestions. Calm yourself down, don't overthink, and don't label yourself.

Everyone has their own potential and strengths. You can only reach your optimal state and tap into your potential when you are completely calm.

I want to tell you that you are the master of your life. You are the master of your emotions.

Believe in yourself. If you want to change, no one can stop you.

This uncomfortable feeling overwhelms you at the moment, and it is holding you back. Get past it, and you will see the light and your own strength.

The last thing I want to tell you is that it's okay. Accept and allow yourself. Live in peace with yourself. Don't fight. Face and accept the current state of affairs calmly.

It will help you relax and give you time to think and plan again. I know your emotions may not be discovered for a while.

You can come to this platform whenever you have any emotions. All the little friends on the platform will always be there for you.

We will face it together and find a breakthrough together. No doubt about it.

We all feel helpless and hopeless at times, especially when we're facing challenges in life. It's then that we need to find ways to stay motivated and keep hope alive.

Even though it can feel like you're surrounded by challenges, remember that everyone's life has its own unique value and meaning. To find and discover this value and meaning, it can help to consider different perspectives and ways of thinking.

1. Take the time to rediscover yourself and your life.

When we're facing a low point in life, we often fall into negative self-evaluation and a negative view of life. But each person is unique and has their own strengths, specialties, and potential.

Take a step back and see your life from a new perspective. Recognize and acknowledge your strengths and achievements, even if they seem insignificant. This positive self-awareness can help you rebuild your confidence and sense of self-worth.

2. Find out what really motivates you.

While external factors like family, work, and social expectations play a big part in our lives, it's our own interests and desires that really drive us forward. Take some time to explore what really interests you. These interests and hobbies can become a great source of motivation for you.

They not only bring fun and satisfaction to your life, but they also help you set new goals and pursue new interests.

3. Make connections

We're social creatures, and building connections and relationships with others is key to our mental health. Even when we're feeling lonely or down, there's always someone out there who can offer understanding and support.

If you're struggling to communicate your feelings and experiences directly, try sharing them with family, friends, or people who understand you. If you're not ready for that, you can express yourself through writing, art, or online communities.

These connections not only provide support and comfort, but they also help you discover new perspectives and solutions to problems.

4. Accept professional help when needed.

Sometimes we can't solve all our problems on our own, and it's especially important to seek professional help. Mental health professionals such as counselors and psychiatrists have the expertise and experience to provide you with appropriate guidance and treatment.

Asking for help doesn't make you weak or a failure. It's actually a sign of taking responsibility for your own life.

5. Be tolerant and patient.

It's important to remember that change and recovery is a gradual process that requires time and patience. Be kind to yourself along the way.

Don't lose confidence in yourself because progress is slow or you hit a few speed bumps along the way. Every small step forward is worth celebrating.

6. Look for the little things in life that make you happy.

Keep your eyes open for the little things in life that make you happy. Whether it's a beautiful view, a delicious meal, or a nice chat with friends, these moments can brighten up your day and remind you of the good things in life. They can also help you stay positive when things get tough and help you appreciate the beauty around you.

7. Get into the habit of healthy living.

It's important to get enough sleep, eat a balanced diet, and exercise regularly if you want to feel good and live a better life. These habits help you manage your emotions, improve your physical and mental state, and give you the strength to face life's challenges.

Finally, I want to emphasize once again that no matter how helpless and desperate you feel right now, please believe that there is always hope and a way out. Your life has its own unique value and meaning. Don't give up looking for light and hope.

Be brave and face life and work with a view to your own future and happiness.

Good day, my name is Jokerev. I appreciate the opportunity to speak with you today. I understand your current situation and the challenges you are facing. I have carefully considered your words and am here to offer my support.

Firstly, it is important to emphasise that your feelings are genuine and significant, and you have the right to experience and express them. It is not the case that you are devoid of emotion; it is simply that you may be currently overshadowed by a heavy cloud, which temporarily prevents you from feeling the sunshine.

I would like to take this opportunity to reassure you that everyone has experienced a period of low mood and questioning at some point in their lives. This is a normal part of human nature and not a sign of any underlying illness. The difficulties you have described are not a reflection of your personal abilities but are challenges that are inherent to the current state of life.

You may feel as though you are lacking direction and unable to find your way forward. However, it is important to remember that this is only a temporary situation, and that there will always be a way forward.

Please be advised that suicide will not solve your problems. It will only result in greater pain and endless regret. Your very existence is a value in itself, and your smile, tears, and every breath you take all leave their mark on this world.

It is possible that you are unable to see your potential and goals at this time, but this does not mean that they do not exist. At a future date, when you look back on this experience, you may realize that it was these difficulties that made you stronger and more resilient.

In terms of medication, it is a means of assisting us in adjusting our physical and mental states. Should you feel that the side effects are excessive, we advise that you promptly communicate with your doctor to seek a treatment method that is more suitable for you. Concurrently, psychotherapy is also a viable option, which can assist you in exploring your inner world and finding the strength to cope with difficulties.

As for family and friends, they may be your most reliable source of support. Even if you are not ready to discuss your concerns, you can contact a professional counseling hotline or organization, where trained professionals are available to listen, understand, and provide guidance.

The meaning of life is not achieved overnight. It is made up of countless ordinary days and countless struggles. There is no need to rush to find the so-called "meaning of life." Instead, focus on taking care of yourself first, allowing yourself to heal slowly, and working your way out of the predicament step by step.

It is important to remember that you should always give yourself and your situation a chance, as you deserve a better tomorrow.

Hello, I'm Gu Daoxi Fengshou Slender Donkey, your Heart Exploration coach.

The author's words are really sad. It's hard to imagine what might have triggered the author's emotions like this. I'd like to give the author a hug.

Every decision we make and every setback we face can make us feel depressed and doubt ourselves for a while. Someone once said, "Today is rough, tomorrow is rough, and the day after tomorrow is great, but someone who dies before the day after tomorrow won't get to see the sunrise."

It's true that life will throw some pretty tough challenges your way. It'll feel like you're stuck in a dark tunnel with no way out. But, try to remember that this tough period won't last forever. If you choose to end it now, you'll leave your loved ones with pain and yourself with regret.

From what the questioner has written, it seems like they're a pretty enterprising person who wants to be independent. But, as they'll find out, not everything you want can be fulfilled. There are factors like talent and self-assessment that can affect you, but there's no such thing as a worthless person. As it says in "The Courage to Be Disliked": Living itself is a meaning.

The questioner might want to take a step back and figure out what they need to make some changes.

Self-harm is a way of releasing pent-up emotions. When mental pain is worse than physical pain, people who don't know how to cope with their emotions may choose to hurt themselves. This is a way of protecting themselves. The questioner may be able to feel the state they are in every time they want to hurt themselves and try to find a way to release their emotions that suits them better, which may make the questioner feel more relaxed.

It's important to recognize the positive significance of negative emotions. Emotions are a barometer of mental health. When we experience emotions that make us feel uncomfortable, it's actually a distress signal from our body, telling us that our current state needs to be adjusted.

In addition to being unable to go to school, unable to work, and unable to learn to drive, what else can the questioner do? For example, they could learn a low-skill trade or try to establish hobbies to guide their life in a positive direction and avoid emotional rumination.

Why haven't you told your family and friends? Are you worried they'll worry?

Are they worried about being laughed at? People who are prone to self-doubt care too much about what other people think of them. Ask yourself, what's the worst that can happen if you don't meet the other person's expectations?

It's easier to tackle your fears and prepare for the worst.

As they say, "Every inch of progress brings a moment of joy." Try to focus less on what you can't do and more on what you can do, like the number of hours of sleep you got today or how much food you ate. This will make you feel better about yourself.

It's important to understand the concept of "biting the hand that feeds you." This isn't about an objective inability to work and rely on parents. It's about a subjective desire to do so. Even if the questioner can't contribute much, they can try to do things that show their parents how much they care. I believe their parents will appreciate this.

For instance, cooking a meal, serving a bowl of rice, and filling the foot bath with water are all clear examples of the questioner's efforts.

We often have trouble understanding what it means to live a meaningful life. What kind of life is meaningful? I don't think anyone has a definitive answer, but I believe that starting with positive thinking can lead to positive experiences.

Try to get along with yourself, accept your current situation, and don't worry about being imperfect. Let yourself have periods of depression and confusion, and don't fight your emotions. When you start to accept things, you'll feel more relaxed, and you might even be able to set off better and reap happiness.

It's important to pay attention to the power of subliminal messages. When we give ourselves negative messages, we'll try anything to prove they're true. The same goes for positive messages — we'll prove our strength in action.

Shi Tiesheng said, "Death is an inevitable thing, so why rush?" Believing you have the ability to reap happiness may inspire you to take action.

I'd also suggest reading "The Courage to Be Disliked," "Living a Life Where You Don't Have the Final Say," "Burns New Emotion Therapy," "A Change of Heart," "5% Change," and "Accepting Imperfection." They might help the questioner adjust their state.

If you've tried everything and nothing seems to work, you might want to think about speaking to a counselor. There are lots of ways to deal with pain, and death is probably the worst option.

In "The Warlock of Wu Xin 3," the immortal Wu Xin carries too many painful memories, desperate to die but unable to. Qing Luan said to Wu Xin before he died: "Death is not the only way to escape. Forgetting is. So every hundred years from now, Wu Xin will seal away his memories, fall asleep, and wake up to start again.

Once again, I give the original poster a hug and wish you well!

Hello! I'm sending you a warm hug from afar.

I'm glad you've asked for help. I'm here to support you. I can feel the extreme pain you're in right now, and this emotional pain has seriously affected your normal life and studies.

You are clearly concerned about your physical and mental health. You are also trying to seek support and help, for example, by promptly seeing a doctor. The fact that the doctor did not give you a diagnosis means that your condition does not yet constitute a symptom. You are just caught in an emotional predicament, and this part of your emotional state is something you can try to better adjust and change through your own awareness. What do you say?

It's not the emotion itself that causes us pain. It's our inability to accept that we have this part of ourselves. We view this part of ourselves in this emotional state as not good and will be rejected. This causes us to resist and reject our emotions, which prevents us from seeking support and help from those close to us.

It is crucial to have the support, companionship, and listening of those close to us at this time. They will make us feel loved, valued, accepted, and understood. We are not alone. This gives us the courage to face our needs behind our painful emotions and feelings, rather than avoiding and resisting. What do you think?

Expressing your painful emotions and feelings is the best way to protect yourself from their damaging effects. If you find it difficult to express your frustration, shame, or guilt to someone close to you,

Record this part of your painful emotional feelings in writing. This is the safest way to make your emotions visible, express them, and release them. It's also a way to get along with your emotions, be aware of them, experience them, feel them, and sort them out.

You must accept yourself before you can change. You lack the courage to go out on your own and always need your parents' support. This state of affairs persists because you have always been decided for, chosen for, and controlled. You have never been allowed to make choices and decisions for your own life independently.

As a child, your parents treated you in a way that made you feel cared for, looked after, protected, and loved. As you grew older, you became aware of the need to make your own choices and decisions. When your parents treated you the same way as before, they were preventing you from taking responsibility for your life as an independent individual. Furthermore, having been overprotected by your parents for a long time has also made you lose the ability to take responsibility for your own choices. This has led you to doubt your ability to make choices and take responsibility for your life. As a result, you have developed a deep inferiority complex and lack of self-confidence.

Let me be clear: this part of your painful emotions is anger, dissatisfaction, hostility, and aggression towards important others. But because of your deep inner feelings of guilt and frustration, you direct them at yourself, which is self-attack, self-harm, and self-injury.

You must acknowledge and accept the benefit that this pattern has brought you. For a long time, you have not needed to take responsibility for your own choices.

You are no longer the same vulnerable and powerless person you once were. You have the ability and willingness to make choices for your own life. You can start making choices and decisions for your own life, even if it's just about little things. It might be challenging at first, but you can do it. Making small changes allows you to adapt both physically and mentally.

You will undoubtedly face interference and control from your parents as you try to change. It's okay to feel afraid and scared, but you must firmly and gently assert your independence.

Read "A Life Free from Parental Control" and "Emotional Self-Help."

Hello! After reading your question, I totally get where you're coming from. I'd love to hear more about why you feel like a waste of space when you rely on your parents.

You can absolutely rely on your parents! It's great to have that support when you need it.

These days, there's a lot of pressure to be motivated, hardworking, and striving for success. It's a great thing that people are pushing themselves to be the best they can be! But it can also be a bit overwhelming. It seems like mediocrity is incompetence and living off your parents is useless. But you know what? That's okay! You're doing great!

If you're lacking the strength to learn and the mental energy to find a job that suits you, and you're feeling depressed and dispirited, unable to move forward, and you want to work hard but just can't seem to find the strength, then you're not reaching the standard that the public recognizes. But there's no need to worry! You can allow yourself to lie down and have this stage of relying on your parents. So what?

Did you know that actor Shen Teng was a burden on his parents for six years? At that time, he had just graduated and joined the Maohua Theatre Troupe. His performance income was very dismal. In the worst case, there were even fewer audience members than actors on stage. With such an income, he simply could not support his living expenses, so he spent six years being a burden on his parents. But then something amazing happened! He got his big break and started making a lot more money. He was able to support himself and even help his parents out financially. It's a great story of hard work and perseverance!

I don't know what you've been through, but I know you can get through it! You can lie down, accept your current state, and not be too hard on yourself or push yourself too hard.

We've all been there! Many of us have experienced the lowest point in our lives, the times of decadence, powerlessness, and despair, when we feel that there is no hope in life. But even in those helpless and confused moments, there is still a glimmer of hope in our hearts, the hope that we can live the way we want in the future!

I think you are the same. Even in these darkest of times, even when you feel so unworthy, I firmly believe that deep down you still have expectations of yourself, right? And because of this, you are so dissatisfied with who you are now. But you can change that!

The current hit movie "Hot and Steamy" tells the story of the heroine Le Ying, who is self-conscious about being fat, afraid to go out, and afraid to socialize. But then, one day, she meets a boxing coach, and her life is changed forever! She gradually discovers her love for boxing and begins to persevere in it. After a series of challenges, Le Ying finally finds her own path and learns how to face life.

Living your own life and finding your own path is about being true to yourself and following your heart. It's about embracing your unique journey and sticking to it no matter what. You know deep down that this is your own life path, and you're excited to keep going, no matter what.

I promise you, there's nothing scary about being decadent or a burden on your parents. Even if you feel like a waste at this stage, it's not scary. And it's definitely not scary to be a burden on your parents for 3, 5, or 10 years. In fact, you can use this time to slowly find yourself in the process of being a burden on your parents. You can understand what you want, find a goal and direction that suits you, and become the person you want to be. That's what's important, don't you think?

Embarking on the journey of self-growth is an incredible adventure! It's a path that requires you to embrace your unique qualities and accept that you're not perfect. Don't resist the current situation or be too hard on yourself. Instead, allow your strength to flow back to its natural center, creating a balanced mind that's free from excessive fear, anxiety, and internal conflict.

Once you free yourself from internal anxiety, you'll have the incredible energy to become aware of yourself, understand yourself, and find out what you really want!

So, go ahead and read more psychology books during this period of being a burden on your parents! Open up your own perception, try to look at yourself from multiple perspectives, and gain a new understanding and perspective of yourself. You can also go listen to nature, experience the little blessings in life, and feel the happiness that exists in the present moment!

Or you can have an in-depth discussion with a counselor to help yourself through psychological counseling. It's a great way to get the support you need! I also recommend these books: "New Emotion Therapy" by David Burns, "Becoming Myself" by Irving Yaron, and "Remodeling the Mind" by Xu Yiming. They're all fantastic!

I really hope this helps!

Hello, I'm a coach from Ruoshui Xin Space. I can tell you're feeling helpless and sad. It's hard, but you have people who care about you, like me.

If you calm down, we can talk.

You feel aimless and depressed. You don't want to take the medicine the doctor prescribed because you think it will make your emotions disappear.

It's not easy when you say you may hurt yourself or even think about suicide. You feel conflicted.

You want to change for the better and have a sense of direction.

You feel sick and have no motivation. You're in pain and hurt yourself to feel something.

Let's calm down a little. Clear your mind of thoughts.

Don't think about anything for now. Look outside. If it's cloudy, look at the people walking by. Many of them may seem calm, but they may also be going through something. Everyone is trying hard to live their lives.

It's not about quickly shifting to a state of continuing to struggle. It's about calming down, spending time with yourself, and listening to your inner voice.

It could be from past growth, family, or relationships.

There were good times too. When we didn't get along, we felt sad and alone. We thought others didn't love us or that we were useless. We couldn't open up to others, and it was hard.

To get better, we need to listen to our feelings and accept them.

Don't judge yourself or others as bad. We'll get to a point where we feel like we can have more space to carry things. We may not do well in some areas, but we are also good at some things.

Some people may be uncomfortable with parts of us, but there are also good parts. We can find joy in the daily routine.

Don't worry about it now. Try to adjust the pace of your day. Stand up and drink a glass of warm water. Empty your mind and feel the water.

I believe there are many such moments. We should devote ourselves to our present lives and say goodbye to our thoughts.

If you have feelings you can't express, tell me or find a counselor.

When we can express ourselves honestly and without repression, it's not so easy to feel uncomfortable.

I don't want you to bear a lot right now. Come out a little bit, okay?

I wish you the best. In an emergency, call 120 for local emergency services.

I hope you feel better and never have to dial it.