I can't find a reason to keep going.

Hello, questioner!

"I've thought about suicide hundreds of times, but I can't find the quickest, most comfortable, most dignified way to die." I need help. Let's sort this out together.

If we cannot die quickly, comfortably, and with dignity, then we should not die. We should live well and make ourselves as comfortable and dignified as possible.

I say this because I understand the questioner as follows:

I am a person with extremely high self-esteem, and I want to be better than others.

(2) I am in pain now, and I refuse to bear it any longer. I am going to solve my pain by "committing suicide."

(3) I feel helpless and confused.

I don't know what happened, but the questioner is miserable, in pain, and feeling vulnerable and helpless. Regardless of the reason, we can calm down and temporarily experience the pain in our hearts with our minds. We can take a good look at what it looks like, whether it is like a big stone or a dark cloud weighing on the heart. We can feel what the heart feels like and try to let ourselves get along with the pain for a while, without rejecting it.

Breathe deeply and imagine sending fresh air to the most uncomfortable part of your body when you feel pain. Experience the feelings and changes in your body.

Accepting your pain can help ease it.

We suffer because we cannot accept what has happened. We blame ourselves for our "failures." We are angry at others. These emotions are suppressed, and we do not get the opportunity to flow and release them. We then relieve the pain in our hearts by "attacking ourselves."

You can alleviate your inner pain in other ways. Find a place where no one can see you and have a good cry. Admit your failures or dissatisfaction.

You must let go of your negative emotions and perceptions of yourself to see the good resources you still have.

It's simple: you can only refill a bottle full of water by emptying it. So, empty the bottle of your current pain, and you'll be able to pour in other positive energy.

Give yourself time to mourn the pain. You will slowly come out of it. Stick to a normal work and life rhythm. Start with what you can do yourself, and get moving. Your focus on yourself will decrease a little.

The questioner should seek out a professional psychologist or counselor as soon as possible. They will help the questioner complete the mourning of their pain, rediscover the meaning of life, and love themselves properly and bravely.

Wu Zhihong's book, "Thank Yourself for Your Imperfections," is an invaluable resource for anyone seeking to return to themselves and find the potential power within.

I'm confident it will help.

Best wishes!

Hello! I can feel your pain in this moment, and I'm here to help. I believe something has happened that you're not ready to face, or maybe you don't even want to face it. Let's work through it together!

Anyway, I really hope I can give you some strength for life and help you with everything you always want to end but never does!

I'm so excited to hear more about what happened! I know that uncovering possible scars can be heartbreaking, but we can only find the exact place to stitch up the wound by returning to it!

Perhaps you have experienced depression/following-a-traumatic-event-i-have-been-experiencing-persistent-anxiety-for-a-week-constantly-feeling-as-though-my-sense-of-self-is-disintegrating-8719.html" target="_blank">trauma that is unbearable to the average person, but you've survived it!

It's possible you've been through a long period of depression.

Maybe you can't find the direction or motivation to move forward, but I know you can!

Maybe you lost the person or thing you least wanted to lose—and now you get to find something new and exciting!

No matter what kind of life blow it is, it can really be considered a life disaster. I know it's not easy to jump over it, and I know you don't want to get along with that painful self of yours anymore, but think about it!

You have been living with this version of yourself for a long time. How have you managed it?

Because there have been hundreds of times when such thoughts have constantly nagged at you in your head, but you are still able to see the words I left behind as I communicated with you!

I really want to hug you from afar for all this. It's so great that we've been able to communicate with each other during this really tough time!

Thank you so much for hanging in there for so long!

I also want to tell you something really important. You need to find the fastest, most dignified, and most comfortable way to end it. What does that mean?

Let's ask ourselves:

— Absolutely! You can find a way to end your life quickly, comfortably, and with dignity.

– Have you heard of anyone having this experience? I'd love to know how he did it!

I'm thinking that you are a person who loves yourself very, very much, which is why you chose so many beautiful labels when ending your life!

I also think that you are a person who really, really cherishes yourself. You have set so many labels and had hundreds of thoughts, but you have not let yourself disappear forever. This is so great!

♥️ Does this mean that you leave too few dead ends, but leave yourself a lot of ways out?

Then, you can ask yourself:

Are you absolutely certain that ending your life is the way to solve all your problems?

Absolutely!

I don't know what conclusion you will come to after serious consideration, but I'm excited to see what you decide!

For example, the idea of ending one's life is not implemented hundreds of times—it's a very unlikely event!

For example, the fact that so many wonderful things are difficult to achieve shows that they may be little more than ideas to help you put aside the pain of the moment – but they're still wonderful ideas!

I bet you want to love yourself in this way because it allows you to completely escape from your current predicament. You are really suffering and don't want to face it, but I know you can do it!

So, are you absolutely certain that this is the best way to love yourself in the moment?

There absolutely is! There are so many other ways to make yourself feel better and more worthwhile.

If there are so many doubts and difficulties about ending one's life, it's no surprise that it's difficult not to end one's life!

Life is an incredible journey, and it's normal to face challenges and difficulties along the way. It's how we overcome these challenges that makes life worth living!

Can you rationalize this predicament, in which you want to end your life but cannot? Absolutely!

It is just one of the many difficulties in life. And you know what? It's just one of the many things that makes you, you! So, are you willing to continue on and see what other challenges of a rational nature await you?

Just think how much fun it would be! How exciting!

It will inspire you to love yourself and life more than ending it ever could!

If it's really too much, I especially recommend finding a counselor who can help you cut through the factors that make you want to end it all. This will help you go forward with a light heart and see what other challenges await you and what other difficulties are waiting for you to overcome!

The world and I love you very much! You just don't seem to feel it. I want to tell you that this is true, and it's going to be okay!

Wouldn't it be amazing to experience this with a long, long life in the future?

We're waiting for you! ?

Hello, I'm Gu Yi. I'm a modest and self-effacing person, and I try to be consistent.

While it is only a few words, it seems to capture the essence of the suffering that the present self is experiencing.

I wonder if it is fair for anyone to speak of the suffering of others without having experienced it themselves.

While many of us are striving to move forward in the challenges of life and continuously refining ourselves, it's important to remember that life is ultimately our own journey, and these experiences are also ours to navigate. The hardship and pain you're currently facing can serve as a reminder to find ways to reconcile with suffering.

I'm not sure what led you to lose sight of your reasons for persevering, or what experiences led you to believe that leaving was the best choice. When you come to Yixinli, this Q&A platform, you'll find a broader perspective. Here, we're all trying to support and help each other. Everyone wants to find a way to move forward in the face of suffering that suits them.

So let's not lose heart. Even if we feel we have no reason to persevere at this moment, there may well come a time when we see how significant our existence is to others. Your experiences are a treasure, and your experiences are a need. So let's consider our existence from a different perspective.

We wander and spin in our own way in our own world, searching for our own direction. However, we may not fully realize the impact we have on others. Without experiencing a period of bitter cold, it can be challenging to truly appreciate the beauty of the plum blossoms.

It might be helpful to believe that the suffering you have experienced will exist and give back to you in another way.

I wish you the best.