I don't know how I'm going to live, how I'm going to simply die.

Give yourself a big hug! I know it can be tough, but you can do this. Take it easy on yourself. It's okay if you can't see love from others right now. You've got to love yourself!

I think the reason I feel sad and depressed is because I still have hope for the future. And it's a good kind of hope! It's almost invisible, but if you calm down and analyze it, you can figure out the logic.

Let me analyze it with you!

If you don't hope, you won't be disappointed! You'll never be sad or upset. Throughout history, people who have no desires or needs don't care how others treat them. Why? Because they're free and carefree! They're less likely to give up on themselves because of unfair treatment from others.

If you can courageously express your thoughts and reveal your emotions, it means that deep down, you still believe there is a better solution!

In fact, when people are emotionally overwhelmed, reason is almost non-existent. So when you're feeling emotional, it's a great idea to release and soothe it as much as possible! And at the same time, don't make any decisions.

Because most people will regret the decisions they make at this time.

If you feel depressed for a long time, you will be prone to mood swings and be easily swayed by emotions. But don't worry! We can learn ways to release our emotions: 1. Distract yourself; 2. Listen to music, take a bath, sing; 3. Get a good night's sleep; 4. Find someone you feel at ease with and chat with them... Find a way that suits you.

I absolutely loved painting by myself! I'd take my painting board into the house and just paint for a whole day, and then I'd slowly calm down. You can definitely find your own way to do that too!

I've had negative and desperate thoughts before, and there have been many times. But I've learned that there are ways to overcome them!

Once, I was already at the limit of my sadness, feeling that no one understood me in this big world and that I was so lonely. At this time, I heard a very solemn voice in my head that I had never heard before, and it asked me, "How long are you going to get stuck on this issue?"

I was blown away! I made sure I wasn't hallucinating and that there was no one around. Then, I gradually began to calm down.

I was really excited to figure out why there was that sound and where it came from!

Later, I made an amazing discovery: throughout history, there have always been people who have lived incredibly happy lives! I'm on a mission to uncover what makes them so happy and how we can all apply their secrets to our own lives.

I had this thought more than ten years ago, and it's been an incredible journey since then!

So I searched and searched... And I found so many amazing truths about the world, about life, and about myself!

I gradually came to understand that the "world view" that adults taught me when I was young was not necessarily applicable to me — and it was a truly exciting revelation!

I also know that before, I didn't understand myself or the world. But now I do! Those extremely negative thoughts are actually pessimistic emotions that hijack our thinking, causing us to make some subjective judgments and analyses and then draw a biased conclusion.

This sentence is a bit convoluted, but put simply, it means that when emotions run high, reason is lost. At such times, there is basically no logic to the thoughts, and if you listen to them, you will definitely regret it afterwards. But here's the good news! When emotions run high, reason is lost. At such times, there is basically no logic to the thoughts, and if you listen to them, you will definitely regret it afterwards. So, what can you do about it?

So, when it comes to making a decision, remember to stay calm and at peace. Only when you are at peace can you truly hear the voice of your heart!

Everyone has their own answer about life, and that's a wonderful thing!

I'm not here to tell you what to do. If you're feeling lost, go see what it's like at a funeral home or the seriously ill and dying ward of a hospital. You'll be blown away by the strength and resilience of the people saying goodbye. It'll move you like nothing else!

It's not easy to come to Earth, so now that you're here, you want to find a way to pass the level, right? And you're going to do it!

Sometimes I feel that the earth is like a game that needs to be beaten. We only have one life, so we should absolutely cherish it, work hard to beat the game, and then we will receive a wonderful gift!

If you back down at the first hurdle or monster and just want to turn off the game, you won't be able to get back in again. But that's OK! It just means you get to start fresh and try again.

But after watching the TV series "The Beginning," I also feel that if you don't truly resolve a problem, you'll get stuck in an infinite loop with it. And each time it happens, it'll become more and more difficult to resolve. So, it's better to be strong this time and find a way to resolve each problem one by one!

Looking back, you've got to admire yourself!

I don't know if I can give you any comfort or inspiration after all this nonsense. Actually, I just want to give you a hug!

You must have been feeling particularly sad and lonely when you typed all those words, right?

I just want to tell you to get a good night's sleep, eat something delicious, and calm your emotions down a bit. You'll realize that this idea will make you regret it later... because an irrational thought is trying to sway your life decisions. But don't worry! You can beat it!

When you calm down, you can think about how amazing you are!

There is so much beauty, emotion, and surprise waiting for you to experience in the future!

If you are not afraid of death, then what are you afraid of?

Absolutely! You should be more fearless than others, living a more down-to-earth and bright life, right?

Instead of writing a quote for yourself, ask yourself, "What can I do for the world?" and "What can I do to make the world a better place?"

And the best part is, what you give out will come back to you doubled!

Give out more tenderness and love, and you will reap more and more love and tenderness! All you have to do is look up, open your eyes, and see the love and warmth in life.

Hello, I'm Kelly.

I want you to know that no matter what you've been through, there's nothing better than being alive.

From past experiences, I know you blame yourself a lot. We are all ordinary people, and we all have painful memories from the past. But I know you are not someone who will bring bad luck to others.

There is no such thing as someone who brings bad luck to others in the world. Everything that happens is the result of cause and effect, and chance and necessity are at play in everything that happens. Don't blame yourself. Think about it this way: if you become happy, what in this world is most worth pursuing and working hard for?

I am pleased you chose to come to Yi Xinli. In recent years, I have heard many sad stories here and have also felt sad and sorry for these people I have never met. However, I have also seen many people gradually find themselves here, come out of the dark days, and start their lives again.

I'm going to share a story with you that I like.

Frankl is undoubtedly one of my favorite psychologists. His experiences illuminate the depths of human suffering.

In prison, Frankl had knowledge of psychology that set him apart from ordinary prisoners. He not only provided psychological care to his friends in difficulty, but also observed and recorded the psychological and behavioral changes of prisoners in the concentration camp, including himself, from a psychological perspective. He saw the existence of religion, art, beauty, love, and humor, and pondered freedom, responsibility, and meaning in suffering.

We have not yet met the better things in this world, including people, art, beauty, love, music, kindness, and happiness.

In the first year of the pandemic, everyone was anxious and restless, including me. I read the biography of Su Dongpo written by Mr. Li Yibing and saw him go through the ups and downs of life and finally become open-minded.

It is easy to die, but it is not easy to live. If we are not afraid of death, we are not afraid of the decay of the body. Think about it: if we are not afraid of death, there is nothing else to be afraid of.

The virus has made countless people risk their lives to save unfamiliar people. Those angels in white dress in thick clothes regardless of their young lives. When we go to the hospital and see those people who are trying so hard to stay alive, we realize how precious life is. They long to stay alive and breathe in the natural air because they know how precious it is.

Everyone needs to talk. They long to be understood, to be seen, to feel warmth, and to care for and help others.

Take a moment to look at those desperate people in the community. How would you persuade them to keep living? If they understand that they should keep living because of your encouragement, will your life become more meaningful?

When someone says thank you to you, is inspired by reading what you wrote, and records your life story in words one by one, it will lead someone to think.

You can be sure that no matter what you write, someone will understand you. In the days to come, I look forward to seeing someone who will write their life story. Take your time writing it, and we will take our time reading it.

We also expect you to see our heartfelt words, as well as those of everyone who cares about you, people who don't know you well, and people who worry about you after reading your words.

The world and I love you.

Good day. I perceive the distress and unease in your demeanor. You inquire about the means of achieving a straightforward demise. However, if the act of dying were a straightforward process, there would be no reason for it to be perceived as challenging.

It may be assumed that you desire to live a simple life, in accordance with your own personal values and preferences. You wish to live your life in a manner that is straightforward and uncomplicated.

In such instances, the individual in question exhibits a profound desire to ascertain the optimal course of action, prompting the question: Is this the most prudent way forward?

One must first affirm this truth about oneself. Despite a desire to live, an external factor has created a situation that is challenging to navigate, and a sense of relief is sought.

Life is a journey, and both the individual and the counselor are travelers on that journey. It is reasonable to encounter storms, darkness, and setbacks.

Let us accept the current unfavorable circumstances for the time being and investigate potential future outcomes.

First and foremost, it is my hope that you will endeavor to gain a deeper understanding of your own self.

Should one be able to complete the self-exploration independently, it would be advisable to do so. However, should this prove exceptionally difficult, it would be beneficial to seek the assistance of a professional counselor who is suitable for one's needs. This could help to regain the strength that has led to a lack of courage in facing the outside world. It could be likened to a "viral belief" that is invading one.

One must endeavor to ascertain precisely what transpired that has instilled a sense of trepidation in confronting it.

Are these beliefs negative and inherited from one's family of origin?

Have you recently encountered a significant challenge or obstacle in your life?

Do you believe that you have committed an irreparable error?

One might inquire as to the rationale behind the assumption that death is a prerequisite for integration into society. It would also be pertinent to ascertain whether there are individuals within the social milieu who are perceived as hostile or malevolent.

If these issues are challenging to navigate, it is advisable to seek the guidance of a qualified psychological counselor. However, if feasible, it is beneficial to examine the potential influences that have undermined one's resilience and self-assurance, and even led to suicidal ideation, in order to identify avenues for growth and recovery.

Secondly, it is hoped that an attempt will be made to explore different aspects.

One must first inquire whether the assumption that one is isolated and unable to support oneself in this society is indeed accurate.

Do you reside in isolation, without familial, social, or communal support?

One might inquire whether there is, in fact, no one with whom one can converse.

Is your overwhelming sense of loneliness a verifiable fact or a psychological construct? Can we examine this phenomenon together?

What recent occurrence has elicited a smile?

Please identify the individual who most recently engaged in a benevolent act towards you.

Please describe the rationale behind your most recent amicable interaction with an unfamiliar individual.

Please indicate the last occasion on which you experienced a sense of relaxation.

It would be beneficial to consider these aspects in greater depth. It is understandable that one may be reluctant to let go of current pain. There is no need to force it away, nor to blame oneself for being unable to do so. It is acceptable to allow the pain to remain, regardless of the length of time it persists. However, it is important to determine whether this is the only emotion one can tolerate.

One may choose to spend the majority of one's time in a state of distress, characterized by feelings of pain, anxiety, and disappointment. It is of no consequence whether these emotions dissipate in the immediate future. Instead, it is recommended to identify and meticulously record in a personal journal any instances of emotional resilience that diverge from these negative sentiments. Are you prepared to embark on this endeavor?

It is possible that on the first day, only one item may be recorded; however, on the second day, two items may be recorded. It will be a fascinating experience when the notebook is reviewed and the accumulation of life marks is observed. It is acknowledged that life can be full of sadness and despair; however, it is also believed that life is diverse. Would you be interested in attempting this and determining the outcome for yourself?

In conclusion, I would like to recommend Adler's "Inferiority and Transcendence" as a valuable resource.

He posits that the emotion of inferiority is not to be feared. It often promotes awareness, projects internal motivation, and allows for transcendence of one's life. However, the inferiority complex is no longer an emotion that can potentially promote awareness. Acknowledgement and acceptance are necessary, as is long-term treatment to facilitate gradual change, thereby enabling transcendence of one's life.

Nevertheless, change is always an option, contingent on the willingness to do so.

It is evident that you possess a profound aspiration for transformation, as this prevailing situation has instilled a sense of unease, fatigue, and distress. You yearn to venture forth, yet you are constrained by an apprehension that prevents you from doing so. Additionally, the prospect of death continues to cast a shadow of hesitation over your actions. It is possible that you harbor a certain degree of self-deprecation that you are reluctant to confront. Could you acknowledge and accept this aspect of yourself? By doing so, you may find the motivation to initiate a change, even if it is a minor one.

One may consider relocating to a different city to ascertain whether this has a beneficial effect. It is possible that an unfamiliar environment may provide a sense of security.

One may consider venturing into a natural setting, situated at a considerable elevation, to take in the expansive view and the vast expanse of water.

One may attempt to perspire and thereby achieve a sense of well-being.

Additionally, one might consider which foods from the past evoke a sense of nostalgia and subsequently seek out those foods.

I am aware that it is challenging to reconcile this concept with the pain of the moment. Therefore, it would be beneficial to retain it and consider it as we explore the numerous possibilities.

Given the inherent challenges associated with death, it is prudent to maintain forward momentum and explore the potential for other opportunities and challenges.

It is unclear what experiences have shaped your reticence and lack of self-assurance. Nevertheless, I wish to assure you, in the sincerest manner, that the world and I hold you in high regard and are prepared to persevere in our affection for you.

Persevere.

Hello question asker!

I understand your pain, helplessness, and feeling of being at a loss. I also understand your desire to change the situation. I hope my analysis answers your questions and solves your problems.

(1) I feel sorry for the questioner and understand their feelings. We focus on our flaws, making us passive and negative.

The questioner is kind. They don't hurt others for their own reasons. This is a strength. Friends feel safe with you and socialize more.

(2) We will find a way to get along with others!

Maybe the questioner hasn't found a way to interact with others, but that's okay. We just have to keep trying. If we give up on the outside world and our own lives, isn't that like throwing the baby out with the bathwater?

You can eat more delicious food by relying on your own advantages, but you give up on survival because of a temporary choking? This is irrational.

(3) If the questioner sees a glimmer of hope, I hope to give suggestions to change the situation. If not, please read on.

(4) Negative emotions are normal. Relax and find someone to talk to.

Almost everyone feels negative emotions sometimes. It's normal. Don't worry about it too much. But if you don't let them out, they'll build up and make things worse. It's important to have someone to talk to and an outlet for your emotions.

(5) If possible, I suggest that the questioner seek help from a professional counselor. They can give feedback and guidance.

(6) How can we deal with our emotions?

Do what you like. If not, maybe go to counseling, play a game, or do some boxing.

When you're confused, keep trying and make decisions. It's better to make a decision than not to. We must be braver in facing the unknown future and confusion. You will find your own way through trial and error.

If you're confused and come here for help, and I can help you, I will.

I hope my answer helps. Good luck!

Hello, I'm Peilü.

First, let's have a quick hug.

You think life is exhausting and want to die.

——Data interpretation——

The poster says that life is hopeless and that they bring bad luck to those around them. They want to escape from this exhausting life and even hope to be relieved by death. You say you are not afraid of death, but just don't know how to live a simple and easy life. I feel that you are currently struggling on the edge between hope and despair. You are tired of your current state of life and really hope to live the simple and carefree life you envision, but in reality you feel as if you are powerless to start over again. No one listens to your helplessness and despair, and you feel an unprecedented sense of loneliness and disorientation, as if you are walking on the edge of a cliff in the night, wavering between the pain of life and the redemption of death.

You didn't share the details of your experience in the message, but I'm glad you posted it. There are people in this world who will listen to you. Don't worry too much and don't suppress your negative emotions. I'm always here to listen if you want to talk.

(Hugs~♥️)

Let's look at the reasons why.

Painful experiences

It's clear that your past has caused you a lot of psychological pressure. You don't want to become a burden to others, so you're afraid of becoming their "misfortune." This makes you worry a lot and want to escape as far as possible, but you can't find a way out. Have you ever thought about it? What you can't avoid is not life, but your past.

Unreasonable beliefs

As I mentioned in the text, I worry that I'll bring bad luck to others. I feel like I'll have to hide if I go out in this society. Maybe it's because past experiences have had a big negative impact on you, or maybe it's the voices around you that have convinced you that you'll become someone else's "bad luck." These unreasonable beliefs make you cautious and careful, like you're walking on thin ice, and also make you lose the courage to start again.

The vulnerable self

For instance, self-strength is like a flame within you. If the wind outside is too strong and you are unable to add fuel to the fire, it will easily go out with the wind. You'll feel helpless and despair, and find it difficult to summon the courage to face the current predicament. Conversely, if a person's self-strength is strong enough to withstand the cold wind outside, it will continue to thrive, not fearing setbacks and difficulties. It'll find new life again.

— Personal advice —

Admit to the suffering.

As the saying goes, "everything is impermanent," and everything is in a constant state of change and development. Suffering is no different. We are always stuck in the chaos of the past and unable to move on. But by the time we realize it, we've already gone through the suffering, and the experiences and memories that come with it affect our present and future.

So, we need to face up to suffering, look at it from two sides, see what we can learn from it, and avoid the things we shouldn't.

It's important to find a healthy way to let go of stress and negative emotions.

When negative emotions strike, don't try to suppress them. Just be aware of your emotions, accept your true feelings and physical reactions in the moment, and find an appropriate way to let them out: exercise, sing loudly, yell in the open... If you're too concerned and don't want to convey negative emotions, you can also try keeping a mood journal. Writing is also a way to express emotions. Record what you're thinking without worrying about no one listening or having difficulty expressing yourself.

Take the time to discover yourself.

If you know you want to live a simple life, then go for it! The world may not be as beautiful as imagined, and there are many different definitions of happiness, but we can find our own unique light to illuminate ourselves and warm others. I believe that your value can also become someone else's "luck"?

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I love you, world.

Dear friend, After reading your words, I feel a deep sense of compassion for you.

If it would be helpful, I could give you a warm hug.

I can only imagine what you've been through, and I'm truly sorry for your pain.

It's important to take care of yourself, even though you are suffering. It's natural to want to protect other people's feelings, but it's also essential to prioritize your own well-being. You have a lot of concerns, and it's understandable to feel this way. You know yourself best, and it's crucial to recognize your needs.

You mentioned that you think about death every other day. I'm not sure exactly what you've been through, but I'd be happy to try to help you work through some of your unhappiness.

It's possible that you've been holding it in for too long, and that there's no one around you who understands you, or who can understand you. It might be difficult to find a way to release the words that are stuck inside, which could make you feel worse.

When you're feeling down, do you find ways to release your emotions, whether through screaming, engaging in destructive activities, or seeking entertainment that provides a similar release? For instance, there are places where one can engage in the cathartic act of smashing bottles.

I value this very much. (I feel like I might have to die if I go out in this society.) Could it be because you've been hurt, or is there something you can't resolve, something like family ties?

Could I ask you about friendship and love?

Have you had the chance to explore the possibility of further studies or work?

It can be challenging when we feel overwhelmed by stress and don't have a safe space to share it. It's natural to feel desperate in these moments.

I can relate to the feeling of wanting to share your heart with someone, and of searching for someone who will understand you, empathize with you, and be on the same page as you.

You might also consider writing down your stress, talking about your worries, and letting off some steam to feel better.

If you're unable to find someone to confide in, you might consider speaking with a therapist or counselor.

I understand that when you are sad, your world can feel dark and your mood can become grey.

However, you have the power to control your mood and choose to think positively.

If you're looking to live a simple life and relax, it might be helpful to do what feels right for you. You might find that you can live a simple life every day.

Perhaps life could be simpler and more relaxed. When you feel the need to relax, it might be helpful to just relax. It's okay to take the time to relax and unwind.

You might also consider writing down what you would like to do to feel relaxed, and then allowing yourself to engage in simple activities and embrace a simple lifestyle in line with this approach.

You have the power to create a life that is easier for you. As long as you want it, you can make it happen.

If you are feeling overwhelmed by life, you might find it helpful to take a step back, give yourself some time, relax, and try not to think about work when you play. This could help to make life a little more comfortable.

I hope you are trying what I suggested. It might be helpful for you.

I'm optimistic about the future.

Hello, host. I can feel your pain and powerlessness from your description. It's hard. You want to die every other day. You have no one to vent and talk to about this pain. It's like a stone blocking your heart and making you feel tired.

Suppressing your emotions is exhausting. It's time to stop trying to look good and start facing your feelings. Let's help the poster find relief.

The poster said that they wanted to die every other day. They were afraid of bringing bad luck to others, so they had to leave. They didn't know how to live on because they felt that if they went out, they would have to die. It's clear that the poster has experienced something special. They feel like they have caught an infectious disease and will infect those around them with bad luck. That's why the poster wants to leave.

From what I can see, the poster is kind. When they encounter difficult things, they have concerns, but they still prioritize not harming others. I don't know what the poster has been through that makes them feel like they have an infectious disease and will bring bad luck to others.

If it doesn't bring bad luck to others, it's worth considering leaving. The original poster said that if you leave and go out into society, you may as well be dead.

The outside world is unsafe and dangerous for the host, threatening their very life.

The poster then says, "But I'm not afraid. I just want to live simply and a little more easily." This shows a small but significant shift in perspective. The poster has found direction and courage. He has decided to live simply and easily. When he says this, has the poster already considered letting go of unnecessary complexity and embracing a simpler life?

The original poster finally said, "I don't have anyone in this world to whom I can pour out all my heart's desires, and it feels so, so tiring...and I have to suppress my negative emotions." We can't always confide in others, but we can use something else instead.

Write down all the feelings you have at that moment in words. Go to a platform for confiding. In short, describe the discomfort of that moment so that it can flow out. This will help you feel a little easier. We often think that negative emotions are bad. People are used to hiding some of their emotions.

I believe that the positive significance of negative emotions is that they remind us to take care of ourselves. It is inevitable that we will experience negative emotions in our lives. This does not make it a normal existence.

When it comes, we must be more open-minded about it, just like a cold, which will come and go.

I want to wish the host a speedy recovery from this "cold." The world and I love you.