I feel a bit pleased that I can't go to school due to the epidemic lockdown. Do I not know what is good for me?

First of all, this student should give himself a big pat on the back! It's not easy to present your worries and anxieties and seek help, so he should be proud of himself for taking that step.

Many students have things happen at school, and they have a lot of thoughts bottled up inside. This is totally normal! It's just that they don't communicate with others or show that they have a problem. But they can't let it go, so it stays buried deep inside.

It's important to understand that if you don't let this emotion flow, it will drain a lot of our energy. Whenever something similar happens, it will ignite the sadness you've been hiding deep inside. By then, it will be even more annoying, and the losses will outweigh the gains, creating a vicious cycle. So you see, after I brought this up, so many psychological teachers gave you analysis and advice, which is great!

I really hope that if you encounter other problems in the future, you can find someone to communicate with and confide in right away!

Second, embrace this way of thinking about yourself. There's no such thing as good or bad, and grades don't matter! It's fantastic to love studying and get good grades.

If your academic performance is temporarily poor and you have a little bit of school fatigue, it's no big deal! You are still good, and it doesn't affect your grade. Don't compare your grades with your classmates. The school will definitely compare rankings, and it will often bring up this upsetting matter, but you can't let it get to you.

We should celebrate our progress! Look at how far we've come. Did you memorize a few more words today? Did you do a few more exercises? How many elements of the periodic table can you recite? These are all signs of progress. And we should record our progress, praise ourselves for it, and treat ourselves to something delicious to celebrate!

Finally, look at your inner sense of guilt, and even a sense of guilt. Classmate, you did nothing wrong! If you feel embarrassed, turn it into motivation to study!

During the epidemic, it's crucial to prioritize your protection, safeguard your well-being, and embrace a positive mindset. When it comes to learning, you're in luck! There's not much new course material to cover in the third year of junior high school. The key is to revisit what you've learned before, and you can do that at home! Plus, you can also keep brushing up on middle school entrance exam questions online. Test-taking education is simple: just keep doing exercises and memorizing. The exam is just a collection of past practice questions.

You are the best young lady! Trust yourself!

Hello, I'm Coach Fly.

Your words and actions show your age. It's normal to have these thoughts. You're good at relieving stress.

But you also feel conflicted. You enjoy the lockdown, but worry about your studies.

Let's look at the problems that trouble you and the solutions.

?1. Find ways to relax and reduce stress.

I like your personality. You're an optimist who sees the good in things.

You know what's good for you. You can regulate yourself and connect with yourself. Learning pressure, relationships, and sensitivity upset you.

If you're under a lot of pressure, it's easy to feel tired and develop physical and mental illnesses.

A serious example is death from overwork. This is when overwork leads to a stroke. In the near future, some children cannot bear the pressure of learning. They have school refusal, suspension from school, and even neurosis.

You don't dislike studying, but the lockdown has made you stay home and find time to relax.

The brain looks for reasons to relax and calm down.

God is helping you relax and adjust. Don't miss out on this kindness! Live in the present moment. Accept it, but don't wait passively. We still have choices: do nothing and wait for the lockdown to end, or do your own thing.

2. How to study during the lockdown

The lockdown has prevented you from doing your homework, and the midterm exam is coming up soon. This has made you unhappy and worried. "What should I do?", "I can't fall behind because of the lockdown", "studying is my vocation".

The conflict between what you should be doing and what you can't do creates internal conflict, making you restless and unable to enjoy the present moment. You may even feel more nervous and stressed than before.

There are always more than three solutions to every problem. Anxiety is a fear of the future that is imagined by the brain. Instead of worrying about the future, think about what you can do for the future now.

If you forgot to hand in an assignment, you can ask your teacher or classmates on WeChat. If you can't leave the house, you can still study. You can search online or ask your teacher or a friend for help.

If you can't take your midterm exam because of the lockdown, at least you've studied and gained new knowledge. You've replaced "exam" + "grade" with "studying" + "new knowledge."

Internal conflicts no longer exist. The standard of measurement is always within oneself. Taking action is the best way to deal with anxiety.

I hope this helps. I love you. ?

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Good morning. I am a third-year high school student who is currently experiencing a conflict between the desire to lie down and the desire to rise up.

It is understandable to experience a certain degree of happiness when one is confined to their home due to the pandemic and unable to attend school. When I initially encountered the lockdown, I shared a similar initial reaction to yours. I was not merely secretly happy, but rather, I was overjoyed. However, I subsequently considered the possibility that if I were still a student, I would also be "secretly happy" about this joy, due to the concern that a happy welcome would be met with a negative response from my parents. It is possible that they would then proceed to deliver a lengthy and critical monologue.

After reading your account, I do not perceive any significant issues. The concerns you have are a typical reaction for individuals of your age, or for the majority of people, regardless of their circumstances. Therefore, I request that you refrain from labeling me for not wanting to study simply because we are happy. While it is possible that not wanting to study is a genuine sentiment, it is not necessarily indicative of happiness. It is essential to strive for relaxation and happiness, and to avoid feeling guilty when experiencing positive emotions. It is not acceptable to become overly indulgent and be happy in the presence of our parents, and then to isolate ourselves and indulge further.

In regard to the matter of learning, it is evident that you possess remarkable qualities. Your awareness of yourself and your concerns about the future indicate that you are a young woman with a discerning mind. It is not accurate to assume that your circumstances at home are solely responsible for your reluctance to study. At home, we are exposed to a multitude of temptations, including delicious food and entertainment. In comparison to the structured learning environment of school, the atmosphere at home is considerably more relaxed.

When an individual is in a state of comfort and relaxation, their instincts will drive them in that direction. Consequently, when faced with a conflict between their instincts and their conscious desires, their position will indeed be less firm. It can therefore be seen that the problems which have been mentioned are universal states, rather than being unique to the individual in question.

It is evident that resignation is not a viable option. It is clear from your message that you are striving to enhance your chances of prevailing in the ongoing conflict with your intrinsic tendencies.

Then, one must simply categorize their existing learning materials and create a study plan. It is imperative that the plan allows for time to engage in leisure activities, such as daydreaming, playing, and consuming nourishing food. It is crucial to set aside the time spent ruminating on self-criticism and instead engage in activities that promote positive affect.

It is recommended that one task be completed according to the schedule established. It is also advised that one provide oneself with encouragement. At the conclusion of each day, it is beneficial to take ten minutes to review the progress made.

Given the fluctuating nature of the current epidemic situation, it is inevitable that everyone's emotions will be affected. It is therefore essential to provide oneself with the opportunity to recognise one's own strengths, to verbalise appreciation for oneself, and to cultivate a positive mood. Indeed, this is arguably more important than studying.

Ultimately, it is my hope that we may all find happiness in our pursuit of knowledge and recreation.

Hello, my dear friend. I want to give you a big, warm hug!

I can see how the epidemic lockdown and the inability to go to school will have some impact on learning.

We've been under lockdown for almost a month now, and although the lockdown has been lifted, schools haven't reopened yet. So, online classes are still in session.

My little girl, who's in primary school, was really happy when she found out that she'd be able to take her online classes in bed because she wouldn't have to get up early. But her happiness didn't last long. She was still up early to take her nucleic acid test, and she had to get up even earlier than when she went to school.

The same goes for folks who have to go to work. With the lockdown, they can't go to work anymore. For many people, the first thing they think is that they don't have to get up early in the morning and rush to work. They can sleep in!

Whether it's going to school or going to work, for most people, it's not a very pleasant experience. For now, it's totally okay to take a break from these less-than-fun things, so it's really no surprise to hear that you're feeling happy!

If someone is feeling unhappy, I have to wonder if they might be carrying a little bit of a chip on their shoulder and would rather sleep in, binge-watch shows, and do nothing at home. Of course, over time, everyone will miss their workplace and school very much.

But at first, most people are secretly happy.

So, when you say that you are a little happy that you can't go to school because of the epidemic and the lockdown, it's perfectly normal. It's only natural, and I totally get it!

I can imagine that you're feeling a bit overwhelmed right now. It's not easy being confined at home while other students can go to school, and you haven't brought much learning material with you. On top of that, the midterm exam is coming soon! It's totally understandable that you're facing learning pressure and interpersonal relationships. I'm sure you're a great student, so I'm sure you'll do well.

I'm sorry, I don't quite understand the part about interpersonal relationships.

I know it can be tough. Sometimes you just can't find peace of mind and you need to give yourself a little time to relax, even though you really want to. But you know that studying is important, so you keep on struggling, using a lot of energy and willpower on this struggle. It's totally normal to feel this way.

You're in junior high, and you get it: studying is super important right now. But if you really can't go to school, my suggestion is to make the ritual as full as possible, as if you're studying in a different place.

Make sure you fill up your study time, and then use the rest of your time to rest and play with a clear conscience. For example, you could use the time you would normally spend walking home from school for rest and play.

Get up, read, and go to class at the same time you would at school. If you don't have the books, don't worry! You can borrow them from your neighbors, look online, or ask a classmate to take a picture of the textbook for you. The same goes for homework. If that doesn't work, you can always ask a classmate to bring it back for you. If you don't have a bookstore nearby, you can probably find one that delivers to your door.

You can also ask your teachers and parents for help. Don't worry, if you want to find it, you can definitely find it!

It's totally normal to feel a bit of a release when you can take it easy. No need to feel guilty or like you're doing something wrong.

But as a student, this is a really important time. It's so important not to waste your energy and willpower on indecision, but to act with full force.

The simplest thing you can do is to make sure you're studying at home and at school at the same time. And if you need help finding teaching materials and so on, ask your friends and family to lend a hand!

I'm a bit of a mixed bag, emotionally speaking. Sometimes I feel down, but then I also feel really positive. I'm always trying to help others, and I love the world!

Hi, I'm Vania!

You can finally rest because you can't go to school, but at the same time, there is a little voice inside you telling you that you don't know how to be grateful, which makes you feel a bit conflicted and down in the dumps. You feel like you shouldn't be so happy, right?

Hug each other across the distance, and I really hope my response will be helpful to you.

I can see that you have a lot on your mind. It's okay to feel this way. We all do. But try to remember that you shouldn't feel like you "should not" do things. You have to give yourself a break sometimes.

It's so important to be able to take a break from all the stress and busyness of studying sometimes. It's not good for you to be on constant alert all the time.

At the same time, you feel like you can't just take a vacation so easily. I know it can be hard to relax sometimes!

These wrong ideas may come from your parents or teachers, who want you to study hard, not relax, and get into a good university so you can get a good job. Gradually, these ideas may become your own thoughts. It's totally normal to have conflicting thoughts! The voice in your body that longs for rest is fighting with this voice, and you are conflicted, not knowing who to listen to.

It's not that they're in opposition; it's more that they can coexist.

I'd love to hear your thoughts on this. If these two voices don't oppose each other, but become a matter of proportion, what do you think?

You've got half your morning set aside for studying and the other half for relaxing. When you're relaxing, you don't think about studying because you've already put in the work in the morning. When you're studying, you focus on it.

You could even allocate the time proportion of these two things according to the proportion you want, without setting them against each other. That way, you won't get yourself into a conflict.

I really hope this helps! I'm looking forward to hearing back from you.

Warmest wishes!

Good day. My name is Strawberry.

The junior high school years are also a crucial period, as academic performance often determines whether students advance to high school or vocational training. A strong high school education can provide students with more opportunities and a broader range of future career paths.

Given the current circumstances, with the city under lockdown due to the pandemic, the questioner has not been required to bring many assignments home. Other students are able to attend classes as usual, and the days when they are not required to go to class provide the questioner with a degree of relief, as they have identified a rationale for not studying.

The underlying issue is a genuine source of stress.

Some students may feel fortunate to be excused from attending school and studying. From the perspective of educators and parents, this mentality is a cause for concern. It suggests that other students are engaged in regular classes and will gain more knowledge than those who have been exempted. When classes resume, those who have been exempted will need to invest additional time to catch up on the material they have missed, which may intensify their academic pressure.

It is still possible to catch up on your studies and make up your assignments even if you do not bring back any books or homework. So what is the real reason for allowing yourself to become unproductive during the pandemic?

The questioner is aware that his stress stems from learning and interpersonal relationships. Could it be that his knowledge base is inadequate, preventing him from maintaining pace with his studies? Or could it be due to a specific incident involving the teacher and classmates, which has led to a decline in his motivation to learn?

Correct perception

If you are able to learn, you are likely to prefer not to do so. Similarly, if you can identify a reason not to learn, you will likely use it. Have you ever considered the reasons behind your behaviour?

Parents have high expectations of their children, sometimes to the point of undue pressure. The questioner avoids studying but is compelled to do so, indicating that they are expected to study and perceive it as a means of fulfilling their parents' expectations.

It is possible that the questioner's parents provided them with an inaccurate impression of the value of learning due to misguided guidance. The greatest beneficiary of our learning is ourselves. The more we learn, the more we gain, and the more we gain, the more we compare. It is essential to consider the kind of future you want to have and then align your efforts with that vision.

It is important to be aware of yourself and to release yourself from unnecessary constraints.

Individuals who are highly sensitive are more susceptible to emotional distress due to their heightened level of observation and cognitive processing. When such individuals are overly sensitive, they are at an increased risk of experiencing negative emotional consequences.

Sensitivity is not about being aware of how others perceive us; it is about identifying our own shortcomings and growing through learning and change.

Diligence can compensate for shortcomings. As long as we are willing to learn, identify an appropriate learning method, and seek advice from others, it can help us make progress in our studies. Selecting individuals with similar values can enhance our comfort level in relationships.

When we can address and resolve our own sensitive issues, we can also resolve the problems that trouble the questioner. Perfection is not a prerequisite; learning to be ourselves is sufficient.

I recommend "The Courage to Be Disliked" to the questioner. This book is suitable for the general public. It contains a particularly profound sentence: "I hope I can have the courage to be disliked, continue to boldly make the wish to be myself, and courageously realize it!" I believe that we should all strive to be ourselves.

Hello, dear questioner!

Hi, I'm Lingjing, a listening therapist. I'm so happy to have this chance to meet you!

You're in your third year of high school, which can be a tough time. You're facing a lot of challenges at school, and it's normal to feel anxious. On top of that, the city is under lockdown. You're worried about not studying or doing your homework, but you're also grateful you have the chance to avoid your tasks. It's a tough spot to be in. I get it. Let me give you a warm hug first.

Reason:

With the exam coming up, there's a great atmosphere of learning at school. But then you're suddenly quarantined alone! It's only natural to think about how hard your classmates are studying. You might even worry that everyone has finished and you're the only one left behind.

On top of all that, this sudden lockdown has given you a chance to relax, which is really good for you!

However, once you relax, it will be in stark contrast to the previous pre-exam tension. This can make you feel really guilty, which isn't good for you.

Response: It's okay to feel this way!

First, try to accept your current state of mind. From a broad perspective, the current pandemic prevention and control is a national matter, and we must cooperate. From a personal perspective, since it has happened, you might as well let your tense nerves relax and enjoy it.

I know that when you relax, you tend to think a lot and blame yourself. There's no need to rush, my friend. Homework: You have a reasonable reason not to hand it in.

There are so many other ways you can complete your learning tasks! Online teaching and online exercises are great options. They might not be the same as learning with you, but they're definitely better than having no learning materials. And they can always help relieve your anxiety.

And this kind of learning is really easy! You can choose what to learn and what exercises to do, and sometimes the results are even better!

Second, if there's nothing that really grabs your attention or if you're just not feeling it, why not choose something that you're interested in? After all, learning is a process of growing and understanding, and it's okay to take your time and choose what you're comfortable with.

So it's really just a matter of what you learn! And it'll be useful for your life and the future too!

Finally, once you have decided what to do, don't think about it too much, just do what you planned. I know it can be tough to let go of anxiety and indecision, but try to remember that they'll only make your learning state worse and these few days of your life lack quality. You've got this!

As long as you can learn something or have a good time, it's a win-win!

Hi there! I'm an enthusiastic answerer, a psychological listener, an offline consultant, a health manager, a nutritionist, and a Chinese medicine health enthusiast. I love learning new things to face life, summarizing my experience to help others, and I really hope I can help you too!

Dear Question Asker, You inquired about the challenges of navigating the current epidemic lockdown and the accompanying feelings of ambivalence and a sense of smugness. You also expressed a desire to understand how to cultivate a more grateful mindset.

I commend you for your perceptiveness regarding your own thoughts. Let us examine your question together.

You indicate that you are a junior high school student. Due to the ongoing epidemic, the city has been placed under lockdown, with the exception of students who are permitted to attend school.

Given the unexpected lockdown of the city, you took some books home with you after the evening study session, but did not bring any supplies. The city was locked down for the entire day yesterday, and remains so today.

In essence, you consider yourself fortunate. Your recent emotional state has been influenced by a combination of factors, including academic pressures, interpersonal dynamics, and your inherent sensitivity.

You have identified a rationale for your absence from school. Tomorrow is the weekend, and you still have a considerable amount of homework to complete, which you are unable to return.

The midterm examination is scheduled to take place next week. You are uncertain as to whether there is any possibility of attending school. It is possible that there is a way for you to do so, but you are reluctant to pursue it.

You are aware that this is not an optimal situation, yet you find yourself compelled to attend school whenever the opportunity arises. Regardless of circumstances, you are certain to retrieve your learning materials and assignments. However, you experience considerable anxiety and avoid this prospect. You perceive this as a lack of gratitude.

You are aware that learning is crucial, yet you find yourself disinterested and unmotivated when you are at home. It is a perplexing phenomenon that you are unable to articulate. It may be a minor issue, but it is nevertheless a challenge that requires attention. I hope to provide guidance in a tactful manner.

I will present my perspective below and see if it can provide some inspiration.

While knowledge is relatively straightforward to attain, the act of putting this knowledge into practice is considerably more challenging.

The question arises as to why individuals frequently assert that despite being aware of a multitude of principles, they are unable to effectively organize their lives. This discrepancy between theoretical understanding and practical application is a significant challenge. Many individuals possess a comprehensive knowledge of principles but may lack the ability to translate this knowledge into tangible actions.

This phenomenon bears resemblance to the simple habit of going to bed early and waking up early. It is widely acknowledged that this routine is beneficial for one's health. However, an important question remains: Can one fall asleep early? Do they genuinely desire the opportunity to sleep?

The question thus arises as to whether one is able to rise at an early hour and, furthermore, whether there is a desire to do so.

Therefore, your situation is not anomalous; it is representative of a common phenomenon. You comprehend the rationale behind the behavior, yet you are unable to implement it.

It is unnecessary to ascribe blame or engage in self-criticism. It is important to recognize that one is not alone in this experience; there are numerous individuals who share a similar profile.

The act of observation marks the inception of a transformative process.

Given your awareness of this situation, you desire to be idle at home, capitalize on the epidemic to circumvent the role you are obliged to fulfill, and proceed in a haphazard manner. Nevertheless, you are reluctant to allow time to elapse without purpose.

This conflict between wanting and not wanting is what is referred to in psychology as an "approach-avoidance conflict." An approach-avoidance conflict is defined as a situation in which one has a desire for something, while simultaneously experiencing a lack of desire for it.

To illustrate, one may desire to remain at home for several days to recuperate and unwind, yet simultaneously be reluctant to become negligent with regard to one's studies and consequently lag behind. It is, therefore, beneficial to become aware of this intrinsic conflict.

The initial act of observation marks the inception of change. It is only when an individual first perceives a situation, becomes aware of it, and desires to alter it that change can truly begin.

When there is a clear direction and motivation to change, it is more likely that the desired change will be achieved.

It is important to learn to accept one's own imperfections.

It is a fallacy to assume that anyone is perfect. Indeed, it is a matter of empirical fact that no two individuals are identical.

It is important to recognise that everyone has their own unique set of strengths and weaknesses, and this is certainly true of yourself. The first step is to accept yourself in the context of this situation of conflict.

From a state of non-acceptance to a state of acceptance, and from a state of acceptance to a state of change. Once an individual has sorted out their emotions, they can then plan a timetable for themselves and arrange their time at home.

One must also consider the optimal time for reading and writing.

One must also consider the optimal time for retiring for the night. When one creates a comprehensive schedule for one's work, one is able to adhere to it and consequently has less time to dwell on difficulties.

It is commonly acknowledged that a journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step.

I wish you the best of luck and hope that my response is of some assistance. The world and I send our best wishes to you!

Hello. From what you've told me, it seems that because of the epidemic lockdown, you're unable to go to school. You're happy not to have to go to school, but you're also feeling the pressure of your studies and the interpersonal relationships you have to face. In particular, the mid-year exams are coming up soon, and you're worried that your academic performance will be affected as a result. I can sense the frustration and the sense of suppression you feel towards your emotions.

Let's look into this together.

♣ Accept your emotions and follow your gut.

Is there anything wrong with feeling happy because you can't go to school due to the city lockdown? No, emotions aren't good or bad. As long as it's an expression of your true feelings, you should accept it.

It's only natural that, just like adults who can't go to work because of the epidemic lockdown, they'll secretly be happy for you. If you feel happy about it, then go ahead and be happy for a little while. There's no need to feel guilty.

♣ Don't bottle up your emotions — let them out.

No matter what your emotions are, don't try to suppress them to get rid of them. The more you suppress your emotions, the harder it is for you, and in the end they may come out in a more intense way elsewhere.

When you notice your emotions, find a quiet place to sit with them. You can laugh or cry—you are the master of your emotions.

If you're struggling to cope, you can also talk to family members, friends, or a professional counselor. When you can express your emotions or pain, you'll find it's much easier to deal with them.

♣ Face the challenges in life head-on and conquer them with courage.

From what you've told me, it seems that what's really getting to you is your anxiety about your studies and relationships, not the epidemic or the lockdown. It's that anxiety that's making you afraid to go to school and face your teachers and classmates.

I'm not sure what caused you to feel so anxious, but I want to share with you that in life, you will encounter many difficulties. Don't let them get you down. As long as you face them bravely and find ways to overcome them, you will eventually be able to repel them. There is often no standard answer to life's questions, and the answer to your life is in your own hands. You need to find the answer yourself.

Above all, I hope you can accept your emotions, go into it with a positive attitude, face your challenges head-on, and write your own wonderful life story.

My friend:

Hello!

We've all been there! We set ourselves plans and goals, such as reading more, learning English, going to bed early and getting up early, studying hard, etc. When we set a plan, we are always full of confidence, but soon, our motivation disappears. In the face of various small temptations in life, we gradually put these goals behind us, and we have no willpower at all. But that's OK! We can learn from this and then once again make up our minds to succeed.

This situation is somewhat similar to your state of mind, which is in a state of dynamic flux and transformation!

On the one hand, you don't want to go to school because you're looking for a way to escape the pressure of studying and interpersonal relationships. You're secretly rejoicing that you can't go to school because of the pandemic!

On the other hand, you're really passionate about learning and you know it's a really important thing to do. You're not lazy at all! You're just looking for a way to relax and unwind.

In fact, these two aspects of your personality correspond to the id and superego parts of the personality, which is really fascinating!

The id is all about seeking pleasure and avoiding pain!

The superego is the manager of the personality structure, and it's there to make sure we're meeting certain standards!

It's fascinating to see how these two parts of the personality are so diametrically opposed. It's through these conflicts and contradictions that we learn and grow the most!

And there's another part of personality that we can work on: the self. And it's really helpful to develop this part, because it makes it easier to resolve conflicts.

And there's more! The junior high school years are also a time of transition from heteronomy to autonomy. In the past, our parents may have wanted us to study. But now, if you truly believe that studying is important and find joy and confidence in learning, I think you'll "strive without the whip"!

Wishing you the very best!

Hello, my name is Liang Qingyou.

You are in the third year of junior high school and are 15 years old this year. The pandemic has lasted for three years, and your entire junior high school career has been spent in the midst of it.

The impact of the pandemic on learning and life has introduced a certain degree of uncertainty. It is challenging to predict the timing or location of an outbreak. Life and learning are influenced by a number of unpredictable factors.

It might be worth considering whether uncontrollability is always a bad thing.

I believe you mentioned that, due to the circumstances of the pandemic, you were unable to attend school, while others were able to. I feel fortunate that I was able to remain at home.

I consider myself fortunate to have been kept at home by the epidemic, as I was unable to attend school. It wasn't that I didn't want to go to school, but circumstances prevented me from doing so. As I enter the third year of junior high school, I'm grateful for the opportunity to temporarily avoid the intense learning atmosphere.

At the same time, you may feel a bit uneasy because "tomorrow is the weekend, I still have a lot of homework to do and I may not be able to bring it back, and the midterm exam is next week."

While your classmates are engaged in their studies in the classroom, you find yourself in a different setting. Sometimes I wonder if there might be advantages to being at home, even if it means that I can't concentrate on my studies.

I was somewhat conflicted. On the one hand, I felt fortunate to be at home, but on the other, I was unsure about studying there. I hadn't brought any materials or homework, and my classmates were all studying, so I was concerned about falling behind.

In addition to the academic pressures, my interpersonal relationships and personal sensitivities are also contributing to a sense of discouragement. Given the numerous challenges I'm facing at this young age, I'm seeking guidance from those who can offer thoughtful counsel.

In light of the challenges that studying can sometimes present, I would like to offer you an intriguing suggestion. Consider dividing your free study time at home into three distinct segments: morning, afternoon, and evening. You might find it helpful to designate one of these periods, say from 9:00 to 10:00, as an opportunity for daydreaming, drinking water, eating snacks, and going to the bathroom.

It might be helpful to give this hour a fun and playful name, and then focus on studying for the rest of the time. When the fun hour is over, even if you're doing homework, it could be beneficial to take a break and enjoy some fun. In the afternoon and evening, it might be nice to set aside a regular hour for fun.

On the first day, it might be best not to force yourself to do all three time periods. Focusing on one at a time can be very fulfilling.

You mentioned that being sensitive can sometimes be frustrating. It's important to remember that sensitivity has its advantages. One of the biggest benefits is that it helps us avoid actions or situations that might lead to difficulties.

In interpersonal relationships, sensitive people often have a better understanding of how to handle sensitivity than those who are less sensitive.

I believe that if you focus on understanding your sensitivity, you will find that you are able to manage it effectively. Would you be interested in exploring this approach further? It involves paying attention to your sensitivity, for instance, noticing when something sensitive happens and how you respond to it.

Could I ask you to consider whether your throat is itchy? I wonder also if you might be willing to share with me how your hands and feet are positioned.

Could I ask you to consider what other emotions might be present in addition to annoyance?

Just stay focused. There's no need to question why you're so sensitive, or whether being sensitive is right or wrong. It's similar to passion – there's no right or wrong.

I hope this has been helpful for you, but I'm not sure if it's the right approach for you.

I think you can do it, girl.