I feel an inexplicable sadness, what's going on?

Hello!

I see you have a question, and I want to give you a big hug! The past is gone, but from now on, from this moment, your life is full of choices! For example, it's a little after 11 pm right now, and you can choose to listen to music and go to sleep, watch a show, or stay up late and continue to be anxious.

? Accept yourself and learn to separate issues — you can do it!

The past is gone! If you dwell on the past, it will always be a tragedy because the past has already happened. Just like if the first emperor of the Qin Dynasty knew after his death that his eldest son had been killed outside and his foolish son was being teased, he would be so angry that he would come back to life! Believe it or not, but the past is gone!

But if we live in the present and work hard every day to seize the moment, deciding what I want in this minute, what I'll do, and what I want to continue in the next minute, you will feel a little more relaxed! People go to the future by living in the present. In that case, things will slowly get better no matter what, so let's do this!

Honey, no one thinks you're bad. Everyone has had thoughts like "I feel worthless" and "I don't deserve to live" on a bad day, but guess what? You're not bad! You're awesome! And you deserve to live. The way you act in response to these feelings of worthlessness leads to different outcomes. So let's choose to act awesome!

I'm so excited to tell you all about the best way to combat anxiety! It's through taking action!

My dear, you are so valuable! Just being alive is a value and a blessing! Every day, so many lives end, but you are still alive. That is the greatest value of all!

I think there are two reasons why you feel worthless, and I'm here to tell you that you're wrong! You have a sense of existence, and life is full of meaning. You just need to find that feeling of happiness again.

When you sincerely want to help others without expecting anything in return, something amazing happens! You will naturally feel a sense of existence and meaning. It's a wonderful feeling! I think you must have had this kind of experience before, like giving up your seat on the bus or subway to someone, or helping your parents or neighbors carry something. When you naturally help others and get a thank you in return, it's the best feeling in the world!

If you're not sure what to do, head over to the Taobao store and make a donation to Free Lunch! Then follow the Weibo account to see where your money is going and how many people in which schools get to enjoy a free lunch every day.

And the best part is, after you donate, you'll get a message reminder so you can eat well too! (I donate every day.)

You absolutely have to do some things! Just go for it! The time you spend on the road when you want to do something is actually less than the time you spend thinking and hesitating.

I really hope my answer is helpful to you! The world and I love you!

Hello, question asker! Reading your words is like meeting someone in person. I think everyone can relate to them because we've all been in a low period like this.

I'm not sure what problems the OP is facing right now or if he's lost motivation to keep going. If you feel like you have nothing, don't forget about your family!

And don't we still have our lives and health? It's been three years since the pandemic began, and many of us feel that we should cherish life more and be more content with the ordinary days.

I've missed out on so many opportunities in the past! It's something we all do. If we'd just kept working non-stop from the moment we were born, we'd be doing really well now, wouldn't we?

I'd love to know your thoughts on this development. Do you think Jack Ma has any concerns?

The scenery you missed also showed you another. I know what you're trying to say, and I get it. It's totally normal to feel like you've wasted time and achieved nothing. But in reality, at that time, we didn't have enough experience, and it's unfair to judge our former selves based on who we are now.

We should be determined from the start. It's all part of the journey! Some people are successful at a young age, while others take a little longer to bloom.

If you work hard now, you'll look back on the past with a smile on your face, because you'll have so many great memories to cherish!

Sometimes I feel so sad and worried about what sad things will happen in the future. I totally get it! I often comfort myself by saying that nothing difficult has happened yet, and that since we were born, we have been constantly solving problems, so sad things are inevitable.

But don't worry! You can prepare for the future in times of peace and create more beauty to fill those regrets.

I really do hope the original poster lives a happy life!

Hello, landlord! I really hope my answer can be of some help to you.

After reading the description carefully, it seems that things are not going well for you right now, and what you feel is fear and despair. But don't worry! I'm here to give you a big hug and some much-needed warmth and support.

I've got some great advice for you!

Do what you can do, and don't dwell on things you can't change!

Sometimes we feel tired because we are worrying about too many things. But have you ever thought about this: the amazing thing is that you can change the things you are worrying about!

If you can change it, go for it! There's no point in dwelling on something you can't change. Accept it and move on.

As it says in "A Change of Heart," there are only three things in this world: your own affairs, other people's affairs, and the affairs of heaven. The reason people are troubled is because they do not control their own affairs, but worry about other people's affairs and the affairs of heaven.

But here's the good news! Many people don't understand what is their own business and what is other people's business.

The great news is that the behavior and thoughts of others are their business!

A person's current state is the result of their upbringing, education, and living environment. They have their own set of standards within, and when we meet those standards, they like and approve of us! Otherwise, they dislike and reject us.

We are all the same! We use our own standards to judge others. When others meet our standards, we like, support, and approve of them. When they don't, we dislike and reject them. So whether others evaluate you as good or bad seems to have something to do with you. But in fact, it has everything to do with whether your evaluation matches theirs!

So, when you realize that everyone has different pursuits and different positions, you can stop worrying about what others think of you. You don't have to force others into your heart, and you don't have to crave everyone's understanding and recognition. You'll feel so much more relaxed!

Our own behavior and thoughts are our own business, and that's a great thing!

We can't control what others do or think, and our lives are not about trying to make others happy. So, let's focus on ourselves! We need to understand ourselves, identify our needs, and then help ourselves to solve our problems.

When something is missing inside us, we seek it outside. So if you need the approval of others, you need to learn to approve of yourself! When you are accepting and approve of yourself enough, and when your heart is strong enough, you will not be so concerned about the outside world's evaluation and approval of you, because you already have it!

When you take care of yourself and love yourself enough, and your mental energy has increased, you will then have the amazing ability and energy to love others!

So, focus on what you can do, constantly improve your abilities, accumulate your knowledge, enrich your experience, and continue to grow!

When we can distinguish between what is our own business and what is other people's business, it's a total game-changer! We can accept what we can't change and change what we can.

Once you've accepted others and accepted that you can't change them, you'll be free from worrying about their actions and thoughts! When you accept their patterns and get used to their behavior, your heart will be at peace and relaxed, and you'll have so much more emotional energy to spend on other things.

And the great thing is, you can choose to have a positive attitude about the past!

Learn to positively influence yourself!

The Pygmalion effect is a fantastic reminder that you get what you expect! It's not about what you want, but what you expect.

If you expect something with confidence and really believe that things will go smoothly, they really will! On the contrary, if you believe that things are constantly being hindered, these obstacles will arise.

So, let's make sure we pay attention to the importance of positive beliefs! When we have positive beliefs and attitudes, when we are full of confidence, and when we believe that good things will happen, and always hold onto this positive expectation, it is really important.

Because positive beliefs lead to positive actions, and positive actions often lead to positive results!

If we expect ourselves to become something, we will keep working towards that goal, and eventually, we will really become that person! However, if we keep thinking that we are not capable of doing something, we will really remain stagnant.

So, always tell yourself that things will work out, and that everything will get better and better!

Life absolutely needs goals!

Zhong Nanshan once said something really inspiring: "People need goals. People with goals will live longer and strive for higher goals."

It doesn't matter if you're talking about a country, a company, or an individual—you've got to have a goal to know which direction you're moving in. When you have a goal, you can guide your actions better and improve your self-control.

Reasonable goals are a great way to get our inner enthusiasm and potential going!

A person who knows why they are living can endure any kind of life. We all have an idea of what we want to become, and that is the "sense of purpose," which is the compass that guides us to continue to act and persevere—and it's an amazing feeling!

So, when you feel that life is confusing and meaningless, set yourself a reasonable goal. It will rekindle your enthusiasm for life and help you rediscover the joy and value of life—and it'll be worth it!

It's time to let it all out! Regularly release your emotions.

It's time to let your emotions out! You need to regularly release your emotions in a suitable way. You can choose from the following methods:

1. Socialize with the right friends and talk about your worries and confusion. It's so important to have friends who can give you support and encouragement, and who you feel comfortable with. These are the friends you want to be spending your time with!

2. Go for a workout, do those sports you love, and unwind your body and mind while you exercise!

3. Writing therapy: This is your chance to really let it all out! Write down all your inner feelings and thoughts on paper. Don't worry about whether the handwriting is clear and neat, or whether the content is logical. Just express your feelings as much as you like!

4. Punch pillows and sandbags to release your anger by hitting soft objects!

5. Try the amazing technique of an empty chair to release your emotions! In a room, place an empty chair, assuming that the person you want to talk to is sitting in it. Then, you can express yourself to the chair (anger, abuse are fine)!

Best regards!

Hello, question owner. I can see you're confused. Hugs!

You're having emotional problems. I'm here for you.

Why do you think your life is meaningless?

Has the OP read Adler's Ideas (The Courage to Be Disliked)?

The book says our lives are meaningless, but we give them meaning.

If we feel our lives are meaningful, they are.

If you feel your life is meaningless, it is.

The questioner should do more volunteering when they have time.

For example, help non-profits sell flags to raise money.

You can also volunteer at an animal shelter.

You could also go to a nursing home and be a companion to the elderly people who have been abandoned there by their families. They are really pitiful and lonely.

They'll be happy if you talk to them.

I've been to a nursing home. Some residents had tubes in their noses for food. They were still living their lives courageously.

That scene made me realize my problems are nothing compared to theirs.

Read the stories of great men like Nick Vujicic of Australia.

What do you want to be like in 10, 20, or 30 years?

Set a goal and work hard to achieve it.

I hope you can solve your problem soon.

That's all I can think of.

I hope my answer helps and inspires you. I study hard every day.

Yixinli loves you! Best wishes!