I feel like a waste of space. The better my parents treat me, the more pressure I feel?

Hello.

I am a listening therapist at Yixinli. Your parents' gift has become a burden, weighing on your heart. I see your sense of powerlessness. When emotions strike, your heart breaks.

I want to talk to you. We can hope for the rising sun in the depths of the valley together.

The issue of buying a house has clearly caused you insomnia. If you think about it, a house is a long-term investment. It reduces your living costs compared to renting and also has the effect of stabilizing your life. You should view it as a gift and assume that this is probably the intention behind the gift.

Knowing something does not necessarily mean accepting it. This matter has ignited a complex, emotional firestorm.

Let the question owner feel the impact of their inner value, self-doubt, and pain.

I want to tell the questioner that they are the best, even though I don't know them. Their parents must have instilled certain valuable qualities in them. It's just that they've been overlooked in the face of negative emotions and self-perception.

The questioner has the ability to perceive and give love. You will regain your confidence in a new situation!

These words will encourage the questioner.

Take care of your heart. Spend more time on your own heart. ?

Hello!

I'm really interested to know what your parents did that made you feel so bad that you didn't even want to live anymore, and what other things they said when they were supporting you. I'm sending you lots of love.

? It's so unfair when you feel guilty just because your parents treat you well!

My dear, have you ever thought about this question: what has happened that makes you feel so bad? Someone has given you love, cared for you financially, and supported you in buying a house – isn't that great for a normal person, something they would be happy to receive?

I can see you're thinking about death. I'd love to know more about what's going on inside you and how you're feeling.

I can relate to feeling useless, especially when I think about how my parents have always been so supportive and caring. I know it can be tough when they show concern and remind you of things, especially when you're struggling with feelings of uselessness. I'm wondering, what happened in your life that made you feel this way? Is it because they've helped you so much, even buying you a house and caring for you in every way?

It can make you feel like your life is being dictated, that you have no freedom at all. It's no better than what I went through with my parents. They overwhelm you in every way, making you feel like no matter how hard you try, you can't surpass them as a waste of space. You can't feel your own self-worth, so you have a lot of thoughts like "I don't deserve it, I don't want it" about their benefits, care, and love. This can make you feel torn apart, and you might feel like you're stuck in the shadow of "parents are strong, you are weak." Your inner self is calling for help, which is why you have the thought "I want to die" many times. But you're not a failure! You just hope that "I can become myself and live a free life" and stop being tortured by the concept of "parents are strong, I am weak and useless."

? If you're struggling with insomnia and anxiety and find yourself wanting to cry, please don't hesitate to seek medical attention and professional help. You're not alone, and there's help available.

This is a very serious situation, and it's understandable if you feel like it's affecting your normal life. I'm in a similar situation, but I'm trying to stay positive. I just have insomnia and wake up early feeling down, but I'm trying to focus on the fact that I want to live and love life.

I went to the hospital last week to get a number for the psychiatric department. I went to the hospital at 9 a.m. this morning to see a psychiatrist, and I may be suffering from a certain degree of anxiety and depression.

I wish I could tell you, but I just don't know.

? How can you get help? What are the best ways to do so?

You can go ahead and make an appointment with the psychiatry department of a local top-tier hospital to get professional help and a diagnosis as soon as you can. Do whatever you need to do, take medicine, and cooperate with the treatment.

In addition to the hospital's psychiatric department, you can also try to find a counselor. Counseling is not just ordinary chatting. A good counselor can guide you to help you re-understand yourself, give you more strength when you are vulnerable and broken, and help you gain a deeper insight and understanding. I highly recommend the book "Mr. Toad Goes to the Psychiatrist," which introduces the counseling process and what you can expect to do. It's a great resource!

I just know that after the counseling session, you'll see a huge change! But to make that happen, you've got to find a counselor you can really trust. Someone who's got integrity and maturity.

I'd also like to mention that hospitals can diagnose conditions and symptoms and are more likely to recommend medication. However, people's psychological activities and feelings are very subjective and require more patient guidance and a more in-depth approach to explore and discover.

? Accept your life situation and the fact that you may get sick more seriously.

My dear, getting sick is not a bad thing at all! It's actually a wonderful opportunity to get to know yourself and slow down. At least, that's how I feel. Life has also given me this feedback and experience. Every time I get sick and recover, I feel like a new person. I'm so grateful for this experience of getting sick!

It's okay, we just got sick. It'll take a little time to recover and get better, but you will!

I truly believe that you will get through this difficult time and embrace lots of love and warmth.

I really hope my answer is helpful to you! I love you, duck, and I hope the world loves you too!

Good day.

From your description, it appears that you are currently experiencing difficulties, that you are dissatisfied with yourself, and that you question your worthiness in the eyes of your parents. Without knowing the specifics of your situation, I cannot make any definitive assessments. I hope to gain further insight through a few questions.

1. Please describe your current situation.

Could you please clarify your current situation, including your living and work arrangements? Do you currently reside in the same city as your parents?

Given that your parents purchased a house for you, it is likely that you began working at that time. When did you first begin to feel dissatisfied with yourself?

I am unaware of the specifics of the situation, so I will provide an explanation based on my assumptions.

One possibility is that your current position is unsatisfactory and your income is insufficient to support a lifestyle in a new city. You have traditionally relied on your parents for financial support, which has led to feelings of self-blame. You believe that you do not deserve the sacrifices made by your parents. Another possibility is that you are in a relationship with a partner who requires you to own a house before you can get married. However, you feel unable to leave your partner and lack the financial independence to purchase a house independently. Therefore, you seek assistance from your parents to help you meet this financial obligation.

Regardless of the circumstances or the reason, it is crucial not to abandon your efforts. Life is a long journey with numerous opportunities. The current situation is merely a transient phase. By defining your future objectives and continuously learning, you can steadily enhance your circumstances.

It is important to have a clear understanding of the interrelationships between life, work, and relationships.

2. Parents' love is selfless.

I can discern that your parents hold you in high regard and provide you with unwavering support. The bond between a parent and child is a special one, and I understand your feelings may be intensified by this. Could you please elaborate on the source of the pressure you're facing?

To what extent are you willing to go to achieve your goal?

Please describe the actions you have taken to rectify the situation with your parents. If you have already taken steps to do so, please communicate this information to them promptly. Parents are typically very tolerant of their children, but it is essential to be honest and forthcoming.

It is unlikely that you would feel remorse for the parents who raised you if you had done something illegal. Furthermore, if you did feel remorse, you would not be posting here.

Do you feel remorse for your parents and believe that your present circumstances fail to meet their expectations? In reality, every parent aspires for their child to achieve success, regardless of the result. You remain their child, and their affection for you will never waver. All you need to do is reciprocate their love for you, enabling them to feel your love for them in return. It's a straightforward process. Can you do it?

3. Consider a change of environment.

I believe your current state of mind is suboptimal. Would you consider modifying your environment? Is there a significant amount of external factors in your current environment that cause discomfort, and do they affect your mood?

If feasible, I recommend a change of environment.

4. Communicate fully and openly.

It would be beneficial to have an open discussion with your parents. While you may feel guilty about your innermost thoughts, it would be helpful to understand their perspective.

It is important to communicate honestly with your parents about your state of mind and your thoughts. By listening to their thoughts and feelings, you can facilitate open communication within the family, which will have a positive effect.

Due to the lack of information, I am unable to provide further details at this time. I hope you will be able to overcome your mental restlessness as soon as possible.

Hello, question owner! I'm Du Xi, and I'm here to help!

From your sharing, I can feel that you are suffering, depressed, and at a loss. Let's take a deep breath and see what's really going on. I'm excited to help you!

I have a feeling that when you were a kid, you didn't have the closest of relationships with your folks. You feel like there's a bit of an emotional distance between you, and you don't want to owe them too much because of something they did for you in the past that makes you feel guilty.

It's not just because they're suddenly making it so hard for you to buy a house. It must be something that happened when you were younger. Think about it, when did you first feel this way?

You can do this! You need to deal with those feelings in order to start accepting your parents again.

You say that the more "good" your parents are to you, the more sad you feel. But there's so much more to it than that! In your subconscious mind, how do you perceive your parents' "goodness" towards you? Do you think this goodness is love?

What do you really, really need from them?

Do you feel that you deserve your parents' love? Absolutely!

Absolutely! You can give back to them in so many ways. When you doubt your abilities greatly, you will also have the worry of not being able to repay them.

They may have caused you a lot of stress with their actions or words, but you still believe that they are good for you. Then please forgive them for the pain they have caused you, and then accept that there are some things you cannot do. Forgive yourself for not being able to do them, and let yourself off the hook! You've got this!

I can sense that deep down you still love them, and I know you can accept your parents' love! You are a filial child who is worried that if something happens to you, your parents will be sad and that you will cause them trouble. But you can overcome this!

I really want to hug you! Love yourself well, don't look down on yourself. Everyone has their own strengths, and there is something worth being loved. If you really can't do it, treat yourself as if you were someone else and love yourself!

Open your heart and share the love! There's no limit to how much love you can give. When you're happy, it's contagious! Your loved ones will be happy too!

Hello! I'll give you a hug.

You feel guilty, unworthy, and unable to accept your parents' love.

Your parents buying you a house has not caused your emotional problems. It has only made you feel more powerless. What do you think?

How you treat others affects how you treat yourself. Your negative feelings about yourself are linked to how you were raised.

Your parents may have motivated you with rejection, criticism, comparison, and harsh words. They were busy at work and insensitive to your feelings. They thought they were doing what was best for you. You felt loyal and loving towards them, but also inferior, insecure, and unconfident.

If you don't know how you were raised, you might have problems in your current life. You might dislike and reject people, even your closest parents. This is because you were hurt as a child and are afraid of being abandoned. What do you think?

Your parents may have been unloved children who were brought up by parents who did not know how to love. This can cause them to use an immature parenting style.

Let go of your harsh self-criticism. You are very good. Your parents love you and want to support you. You should be able to accept their support.

You can't do this now, but you can in the future. Accept your parents' love and support. They want to be needed by you. When you feel loved, you can love others. What do you say?

Stay with your feelings of collapse and insomnia. Take deep breaths and keep an emotional diary. This helps you understand your feelings and needs.

When you know what you need, you can ask for it. For example, you can write to your parents and tell them how you feel.

I hope my sharing helps! You deserve to be treated well.

I love you!

Hello there!

I'm a heart exploration coach, and I just love helping people learn!

From what you've told me, I can see that you're feeling a lot of pressure, depression, anxiety, fear, despair, negativity, pain, and helplessness.

I won't go into the troubles that arise when parents treat you better here, but I would love to give you three pieces of advice for your consideration:

First of all, I'd like to suggest that you think about why it is that the better your parents treat you, the more useless you feel.

Because many children long for their parents' love and care, I'm sure you're wondering why you feel this way.

Some kids also worry that they won't do a good job and let their parents down. They might feel stressed and anxious, but they shouldn't feel as bad as you do (to the point of wanting to die). Then you can think about what the reason is.

Is it because you're not happy with your work or any other aspect of your life? I know it can be tough when our parents are getting older and we're worried about repaying them for buying us a house. It's a lot to think about!

Or maybe you're worried that after they buy you a house, you'll have to listen to them in everything and you'll no longer have any freedom?

It might also help to think about what your life was like before your parents bought you a house. You said you were suffering from insomnia again, so why was that? What had caused you to suffer from insomnia before?

Oh, wait a second!

In a nutshell, you need to figure out why you're feeling so down.

I know it can be tough, but I'm here to help. I've found that the best way to find the right solutions is to understand the root cause. Once you know why you're feeling this way, you can start to think about how to make things better.

Secondly, I would like to suggest that you take some time to think about the reasons you have found.

A rational perspective helps you understand yourself and reality better.

To be rational, there are just two simple things you can do:

One of the best ways to repay your parents is to become a better person.

In your description, you said that you feel useless and that your parents would have been better off if they had not given birth to you. They have been concerned about you recently, which has put you under pressure and made you think about leaving the world. Perhaps they have also put pressure on you, but I really hope you can understand that by thinking about leaving the world, you are actually avoiding the problem. Can you think about it? If you really left, would they really be better off? It's impossible, right?

And it will be even harder because they have lost you and you have not fulfilled your responsibilities to yourself. So I really hope you understand that the best way to repay your parents is to become a better person and live your life well.

On top of that, they've even bought you a house! So you've got that going for you, and you should really live your life to the fullest.

Second, remember that you can change the status quo because you are capable of change.

I totally get it. Your bad mood might be tied to some recent disappointments, like buying a house. It's totally normal to feel this way. But here's the thing: you can change your situation. You have the power to make things better.

When you put your mind to something, you'll find your outlook changes for the better. You'll feel more confident and optimistic about life in general.

I know it can be tough, but when you look at it rationally like this, I think you'll find that the various negative emotions in your heart may be resolved a little.

I really think you should focus on yourself for a while and think about what you can do to feel better.

When you think about all the reasons you've found, you'll probably also know what to do. At this point, you focus on yourself and try your best to do well. You've got this!

For example, you can communicate with your parents in a sincere and open way. You can also talk to them about any feelings of control you have. When you communicate honestly with them, you'll be able to express all kinds of negative emotions. Once you start sharing your feelings, they'll start to flow, and you'll feel better. Your parents will probably understand and comfort you, telling you not to negate yourself like that. When you have their support and encouragement, you'll feel better too.

You can also address your shortcomings, including those in your work and life. Then you can accept what cannot be changed and change what can be changed. When you find ways to improve and perfect yourself, you will become better, and your mood will improve as a result. I know you can do it!

It's also important to focus on the good things about yourself and not say that you are useless and have no merits. You are not useless! Everyone has advantages, and you are no exception. From your description, I can tell that you are a grateful person and a filial child. The fact that you have come here for help also shows that you are motivated. So you see, you have many bright spots. When you realize this, you will also have some confidence in yourself.

It can also be really helpful to think about what kind of life you want. This kind of reflection can help you to set some positive expectations for your future and feel a bit better about things.

You can also talk to your family, friends, and counselors, who are there to support you and help you live your best life!

You can also think of ways to deal with insomnia, or go to the hospital for a check-up, or relieve it by doing some exercise before going to bed, etc. In short, you need to know that you can do something to improve the situation, and I'm here to help you with that!

I know it can be tough, but when you start to take action, all kinds of negative emotions in your heart will naturally be resolved. Believe me, I've been there, and I know that sometimes the enemy of all kinds of negative emotions is action.

And finally, I just want you to know that I love you and so does the world. You are a wonderful person and you deserve to be loved.

I really hope my answer helps you! If you'd like to chat some more, just click on "Find a Coach" at the bottom and we can have a one-on-one conversation.

Hello, question asker. I'm Evan.

From what the author says, it seems like he feels like he can't accept his parents' gifts or repay them. Is that right? Parents give the author a lot of love, and in their view, it's a normal act. They were also raised this way, which is why they treat the author this way.

Dealing with a close relationship and the kindness of your parents can really put a lot of pressure on the questioner. I think it's more likely that they'll cry and have an emotional breakdown, which is probably down to anxiety.

Do you feel like you can't repay your parents for all their love and support? Have you let them down by not achieving success at work? Give the questioner a reassuring pat on the shoulder and some encouragement. It's not easy to repay the kindness of parents.

Here are a few simple suggestions for how to deal with your feelings and repay this love:

It's important to accept your current situation.

It's normal to feel anxious or even overwhelmed when you're faced with your parents' kindness. The current situation might not be ideal, and you might feel a bit guilty towards them. So, it's understandable that you're experiencing these emotions and reactions.

There's no need to feel miserable. Remind yourself that you're still very weak, so there's only so much you can do to repay your parents. At the same time, you should also know that your parents treat you well because they hope you'll have a support system outside the family, so that they'll have someone to support them when they grow old.

Anyway, the current questioner may be facing some challenges, but there will come a time when they can overcome them. When they are truly independent, they will be able to repay their parents.

Listen to your gut.

Has the questioner ever considered the thoughts that they have been having? These thoughts may have a positive or negative effect on their physical and mental health.

What thoughts are getting in the way? When they experience love from their parents, they feel unable to repay it and even have emotional breakdowns. What is their body trying to tell them?

If you feel a negative physical reaction, take a moment to calm down and listen to your inner voice. Why do you resist your parents' gifts?

At the same time, don't be too hard on yourself. Sometimes, the influence that your parents have had on you makes you feel that you are bad because your parents are like that. These thoughts about yourself that you don't like will affect your mood, and you will lose motivation and hope for life.

Every morning, take a moment to look at yourself in the mirror and say three things you like about yourself. The more positive your attitude towards yourself, the more confident you will become and the less you will engage in self-doubting conversations.

For instance, you might say something like, "I deserve to be loved, I love my parents very much, and I can repay my parents."

Keep an eye on what's going on around you.

The questioner can figure out what kinds of situations will make them feel negative emotions or even painful reactions. Is it when their parents show affection for them, or when someone tries to get close to them? In social situations, do they resist others' affection for them, or is it just their parents?

Do you feel pressured or embarrassed in these situations? You can use visualization techniques to calm your mind.

Picture yourself feeling relaxed, taking it all in and enjoying things as they are, in a carefree and happy way.

If these situations make the questioner feel uncomfortable, they should try to avoid them or calm down before entering the relevant situation. For example, if the questioner doesn't like it when their parents are nice to them and consider everything for them, they can talk to their parents about their thoughts. They can wait until they have achieved something and are able to repay their parents before they take up their gifts again.

If you feel like you can't give back to your parents for whatever reason, think about why you feel that way. What's your preferred way of interacting? What do you need? Has the questioner talked to their parents?

Practice expressing your needs in a way that's clear and effective. This might feel a bit uncomfortable at first, but as you get more comfortable with it, you'll find that you're able to express your needs in a way that's confident and assertive.

Take control and empower yourself.

Facing their parents' love, the questioner feels weak and unable to repay it, right? Is it that they're not strong enough?

If you're strong enough to do everything without your parents' help, won't the pressure from their caring behavior be less?

When you're dealing with your parents, try to reduce your dependence on them as much as possible, set boundaries for yourself and your parents, and if necessary, seek help from your friends as much as possible. If the love and care of your parents puts a lot of pressure on you, you can say, "I feel that as an independent individual, I have given back too little to my parents. I want to wait until I am strong and capable before accepting your gifts."

It's important to set boundaries.

Set some boundaries between you and your parents and stick to them. Respect each other's boundaries. Agree with your parents on your mutual personal space and respect each other. If you can't respect this boundary, it'll only increase their influence on the subject, and it'll be meaningless.

If there are issues in your relationship with your parents, it can be helpful to use some verbal skills. The questioner could say, "I respect your boundaries, but sometimes my boundaries are not respected by you."

How can we make sure that both our needs are met? Once the questioner and their parents have set boundaries and the questioner can gradually do things independently, the questioner will feel more confident in repaying their parents.

Look for psychological assistance.

The questioner's negative emotions affect them deeply. If the questioner feels that their parents' behavior has affected them and caused them to have great conflicts in close relationships, they can try to seek help from some professional psychological counselors and other practitioners. Let these good professionals help the questioner face their negative emotions. Before consulting, the questioner can try to find out the reputation of these practitioners to avoid being hurt again.

I hope my answer helps the questioner.

I extend a gesture of affectionate embrace to you, my dear.

It is a fallacy to believe that one is worthless. This is a belief that neither your parents nor any other individual has the right to impose upon you.

It is imperative to recognize that self-inflicted suffering is a phenomenon that can be observed in individuals who engage in self-devaluation and self-criticism.

It is unfeasible to expect that one can become a universally admired individual. However, it is crucial to cultivate a sense of self-acceptance and self-love.

Parents care about their children and demonstrate love through actions such as purchasing a home for their offspring. It is not uncommon for children to experience feelings of inadequacy and self-blame when they feel they cannot adequately reciprocate their parents' generosity.

Insomnia, emotional distress, and uncontrollable crying are all symptoms of depression. However, there is no cause for concern if one experiences these symptoms.

It is important to note that depressive mood and depression are two distinct concepts. Many individuals may experience a sense of low mood and lack of interest in various activities.

Those who believe they are suffering from depression may find solace in the knowledge that they can facilitate their own recovery through self-awareness and positive self-affirmation.

The practice of meditation

The objective of meditation is to concentrate the mind, calm the emotions, and ultimately attain a more lucid self-awareness and inner tranquility.

It may be unknown to the reader that meditation can be practiced in any location and at any time, even in the presence of considerable external noise and chaos.

For more detailed information, the reader is encouraged to conduct further research or enroll in a course on meditation.

2. Reading

Books serve as a conduit for human progress, and reading is one of the most straightforward and efficacious methods for acquiring a comprehensive understanding of the world.

It is exceedingly challenging to ascertain one's life value in this world. The more knowledge one possesses and the more one knows, the more readily one can identify one's life value.

3. Exercise

Regular exercise has been demonstrated to have a beneficial effect on both physical and mental health. It provides an effective means of recharging the body. When the mind and body are in a positive state, negative emotions tend to dissipate. Walking, running, and indoor gymnastics are all forms of exercise that can be beneficial.

It is recommended that these methods be attempted, with the expectation that they will prove beneficial to the individual in question.

I am Warm June, and I extend my love to the world.

The message is brief but speaks volumes about the questioner's distress. When faced with their parents' concerns, they find it difficult to cope with their insomnia, emotional breakdowns, and constant crying.

If you're going through something similar, you might feel like you have no control over your life. I've put together some tips that I hope will help you find a way out of your current situation.

1. Take a moment to think about how long you've been experiencing insomnia, emotional breakdowns, and tears.

If this has been going on for two weeks or more, it's likely not just a psychological issue. There are probably some neurobiological factors involved too. It'd be a good idea to go to the psychiatric/psychological department of a tertiary hospital or a psychiatric specialist hospital as soon as possible to get it checked out.

2. It's important to understand that the depressed mood is likely closely related to thoughts of self-blame and self-condemnation, as well as a sense of unworthiness.

2. It's important to understand that low mood is often linked to feelings of self-blame, guilt, and a sense of unworthiness.

Purchasing a house has become the latest source of frustration for the individual in question, leading to a range of negative thoughts and feelings.

I feel like I'm a burden to them. If they hadn't given birth to me, they would have definitely lived better.

But I know I can't die because if I do, I'll be letting them down. They'll be sad, and it'll be a burden for them. So I'm not willing to die.

On the one hand, they feel worthless and want to die. On the other hand, they're afraid of causing trouble for others if they leave this world, and they're torn between these two feelings. And the deeper-rooted feeling of powerlessness, that no matter what they do, they'll only make mistakes and be useless, and that they're not in control of their own lives, continues to spread and grow.

It's not the event itself that makes the questioner feel so much pressure and helplessness, but the thoughts triggered by the event and the living environment that nourish these thoughts based on past life experiences. This can lead to endless disasters.

The reason why something that is neutral or even happy for many people makes the questioner feel stressed and helpless is not the event itself, but the thoughts triggered by the event and the living environment that encourages these thoughts based on past experiences. This can lead to endless problems.

This isn't to say that the questioner has a problem, but rather that the questioner's thoughts, after a series of fermentations, have led the questioner into a difficult situation and caused suffering.

This isn't to say that the questioner has a problem, but rather that the questioner's thoughts, after a series of fermentations, have "led the questioner into a ditch" and caused suffering.

There are lots of different reasons why these thoughts come up. For example, every time a parent shows concern, it can subtly convey the message "We're so good to you" or "We've sacrificed so much for you." Or perhaps, during the course of growing up, your parents helped you with all the big and small things, removing obstacles for you. Even if you want to try, you are unable to take your first step independently due to their "in the name of love" approach. You may also be overwhelmed by the "failures" in your life, making it hard for you to believe that you can achieve anything.

There are lots of reasons why these thoughts might come up. For instance, if a parent shows concern, it could be a subtle way of saying "We're so good to you" or "We've sacrificed so much for you." Or maybe, as you've grown up, your parents have helped you overcome obstacles to your success, whether big or small. Even if you wanted to try, you were unable to take the first step independently because of their actions "in the name of love." Or perhaps, you are surrounded by "failures" in life, making it hard to believe that you can achieve anything...

"It takes more than one day to freeze three feet of snow." After a long time, these thoughts seem like facts that can't be broken. Understanding these complex factors might help the questioner to a certain extent to distance themselves from their emotional breakdown and self-blaming thoughts, and regain some strength.

3. Get some professional psychological help and realize that the way your family interacts might be affecting how you see yourself.

The questioner has to face their own doubts and self-denial, holding it all together and struggling to stay strong in the midst of a difficult situation. This takes a lot of courage and resilience, and it's also a way of dealing with the unspoken challenges within the family.

From what I can tell, the questioner is already an adult. There's an important topic between adults and parents called separation and individuation.

Simply put, it's a process of distancing oneself from one's family of origin and achieving independence from home and one's personality. The description of the message suggests a close relationship between the questioner and his or her family of origin.

This phenomenon is the result of a deviation in the interaction patterns of the entire family or even the entire clan, but it shows up as a "symptom" of the person asking the question.

If you try to handle this on your own, you might not be able to cope and could even end up getting involved in the situation, which wouldn't be very helpful. It's probably best to speak to a professional psychologist or counselor who has training in family therapy. They can help you to resolve this from a family system perspective and get your family back to a positive and healthy interaction model.

It's about finding a way to be together better.

I'm a psychologist who cares about people, not just about exploring human nature. I wish you well.

It is understandable that you are experiencing a great deal of self-blame at this time. The process of purchasing a house has prompted you to engage in a period of introspection. You may be feeling that you are a burden to your parents and that you should not have requested their assistance.

I am unaware of the specifics of how your parents assisted you in purchasing a property. If they provided assistance in the form of a down payment, you may still have a significant financial obligation to repay, given the current market value of real estate, unless you reside in Hegang.

The more favorable the treatment from one's parents, the greater the perceived burden.

Your parents purchased a house for you, which has resulted in insomnia.

You feel as though you are a burden to your parents.

✤✤✤✤✤ Insomnia

✤✤✤✤✤ Self-blame

It is important to recognize that purchasing a house may have required your parents to make significant sacrifices in their savings. Had they not purchased a house and instead utilized their pension savings, they could have potentially enjoyed a more comfortable lifestyle.

Parents are willing to provide assistance, and children should reciprocate by working harder to repay their kindness.

It is expected that the kindness shown by parents will be reciprocated. It is the responsibility of young people to learn the value of filial piety.

Assisting young people is a valuable contribution by parents.

It is not uncommon for parents to choose not to provide financial assistance for their children's housing or vehicle purchases. Some parents believe that, once their children reach the age of 18, they are no longer reliant on their family and should therefore seek employment on a part-time basis to support themselves and contribute to the household.

You have just met parents who are willing to provide assistance to their children. They could have chosen to pursue other opportunities, but they continue to demonstrate concern for your well-being, offering significant material support, which is beneficial to you.

In regard to the concerns of your loved ones, it appears that your initial reaction is one of pressure. You feel that it is challenging to repay them and experience significant distress. This may be related to your personal character traits. It is possible that you have placed undue pressure on yourself and your thinking has reached an extreme.

It is not necessary for you to become a multimillionaire in order to repay your parents for their kindness. Just as a little grass does not have the capacity to repay the spring sunshine, money is not the sole determining factor in repaying your parents. Regardless of your financial situation, it is important to visit your parents frequently and show them respect. This is an essential aspect of filial piety, which encompasses not only financial success but also the ability to respond to your parents' concerns.

It is possible that your recent breakdown may also be a kind of depression. Irrational thinking has gradually taken over your mind. I recommend that you seek the necessary psychological counseling and let yourself be diagnosed at the hospital's psychiatric department. You can reduce your stress by going to the hospital. You should do things that you are actually able to do, depending on your own level of acceptance. I suggest that you be brave and express your thoughts. Handle your stress slowly. I wish you well.

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