I feel like I'm so unloved, and I'm also very prone to psychological dependence. What should I do?

Give the questioner a big hug! I can feel the questioner's inner longing for love. It's totally normal for the heart to long for love so much. When it gets a little of the love it wants, it wants to hold on to it tightly, and it becomes dependent on the love it gets. This is a natural psychological process, so it's understandable that the questioner has such a problem.

If you feel like you're lacking love inside, it's totally normal! It might just be that you don't realize what kind of love you're looking for. There are so many different types of love: the love between family members, the love between lovers, and the friendship between friends. So, what kind of love are you looking for? It's a great idea to take some time to think about this.

It's so important to remember that love of a different nature can only be satisfied in a relationship of a different nature with a different person. It's a bit like connecting words in a Chinese language exercise in primary school: only by connecting the words correctly can you build a bridge for the flow of love; if you make a mistake, naturally there can be no flow of love.

From what you've told me, it seems like you really value the emotional connection you have with this person. It's totally normal to feel a sense of satisfaction and love when someone shows you care. But it's also important to recognize that your happiness is not dependent on anyone else. You are worthy of love and happiness on your own. If this person were to suddenly stop showing you love, it wouldn't mean that you'd suddenly be without love. You'd still have your own love for yourself and your own capacity to love others.

Dependence on people is different from emotional dependence. Once you understand this, your understanding, acceptance, and degree of acceptance of your own "dependence" will also change. You can then accept yourself with these thoughts and desires. The desire for care and love can be said to be the instinctive need of every life, not just human beings. It's something we all need, as long as we're alive. There's no reason to be ashamed of it!

So, the questioner can accept these current troubles, really understand and perceive themselves, see how much they are not aware of deep down, and release it all in a suitable way. And then, there won't be so many more troubles!

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From your description, I believe you have a number of concerns that require attention. You have demonstrated an ability to perceive your issues accurately and to address them with courage.

From your description, there are two key issues. Firstly, you have formed a close relationship with someone you rely on. Secondly, you have observed a lack of love in your life. When faced with rejection from a friend, you have chosen to pursue your own path. These factors contribute to a sense of discomfort, and you have identified the need to address this situation. Is that correct?

Please also indicate the first time you became aware of these feelings. What was occurring at that time?

Please describe your current situation.

Due to the lack of detail in your description, it is possible that feelings such as a lack of love, self-confidence, and fear of rejection may be related to your family's living environment and education.

It is important to note that these feelings are not a sign of mental illness. They are simply a result of unnoticed, unresolved, and unaddressed emotions.

I believe this is a common experience. I previously inquired with my psychology instructor about this matter and was informed that my behavior was within the norm. Therefore, I can confidently assert that you are also within the norm.

I would like to request that you take a moment to envision your ideal living situation. What steps have you taken to work towards achieving this vision?

If you were to achieve your ideal life situation, would you notice a change in yourself?

I am unaware of the specifics of your situation, but I hope that the following tips will assist you in alleviating negative emotions, restoring confidence, and leading a more relaxed and carefree life.

First, adjust your mindset and enhance your inner strength.

From your description, it is evident that you are highly dependent on others and reluctant to impose your will on them. This suggests that you are a kind individual, but those who are kind-hearted are often inclined to take responsibility for their actions. This is not a personal shortcoming, as it is a common trait.

If you wish to effect a change, it is essential to adjust your mindset, become aware of your own thoughts and feelings, and identify the underlying reasons for your current situation. It is also important to clarify your objectives.

You can achieve a state of calm through meditation and deep breathing exercises. My psychology teacher once said, "As long as the heart is not suffering, there is no hardship."

A positive mindset will help you to enhance your inner strength and enable you to approach challenges and emotions with an open mind.

Secondly, it is important to learn to accept and love yourself.

As previously stated, you are a kind individual who is always mindful of others' feelings. I would like to inquire as to whether you care about your own feelings and whether you accept yourself.

Please clarify why you rely on this individual.

Is it because of the way he treats you? I would like you to identify the reasons behind your feelings of dependency, particularly in relation to how he treats you.

Is it because you don't love yourself enough? In fact, your dependence is just a request for external things. If you change your words, you can ask for things internally, that is, you give them to yourself. In this way, you will learn to accept and love yourself. If you ask for things externally, you will be disappointed if you don't get them. But if you ask for things internally and give them to yourself, you will feel more confident. What do you think?

Then, utilize positive mental suggestions to instill self-belief.

From your description, I understand that you are experiencing some anxiety and discomfort regarding the emotions triggered by these situations. You can utilize positive mental suggestions to bolster your inner strength and self-belief. By cultivating inner peace and strengthening your mind, you can avoid being hurt by others, maintain a sense of boundaries, and perform at your best.

It is advisable to seek external resources.

When you come here to see your relatives, it indicates that you are also undergoing a period of change. You may lack self-belief at this time, so I advise you to seek external resources. For instance, you could consult a professional counselor. They will utilize their expertise to assist you in identifying the underlying causes of your subconscious issues. Only by understanding these root causes can you facilitate your own growth and change.

In conclusion, it is important to note that everyone faces challenges due to the imperfect nature of humanity. However, with the recognition of these challenges, there is potential for gradual improvement. It is essential to cultivate self-love and self-acceptance to establish a sense of boundaries, which can facilitate a more tranquil state of mind.

It is important to remember that if you allow yourself to flourish, opportunities will arise. By being your own best self, you will see improvements and continue to grow.

Hello, question asker! My name is Evan, and I'm here to help.

I just wanted to give the questioner a big warm hug! From what the questioner has said, it seems like they really want support in relationships. It's so hard to know what to do in relationships sometimes, and it's understandable that the questioner is hesitant to make their own demands, because they don't want to hurt the relationships they value.

It seems that the OP doesn't have a close friend her own age with whom she can open up and communicate. She can only rely on the intermittent contact with a male friend, which is a shame.

I feel that the way the questioner acts is mostly down to what they went through in their original family. When they were little, they probably didn't get enough love and attention from their parents or carers. This might have made them feel insecure when they're with other people. They might have been afraid that if they asked for something, it might not be granted, so they've learned to avoid asking for things and to avoid being rejected.

If you don't feel loved in your family of origin, it's only natural that you'll look for love and affection as you grow up. We all want to be loved and to find someone who loves us, and we wait for that love patiently.

It's totally normal to feel confused and disoriented when you're waiting for something. It's also normal to feel a sense of loss and emptiness, and to feel dissatisfied. It's okay if you're reluctant to let go of a kind person, even if they're not what you want.

I'm so sorry, but since the question was asked on a platform, we cannot discuss it in detail. I can only give the author some simple advice on how to love herself:

It's so important to understand the impact of your original family on you.

I'd love to know more about how the questioner's parents treated him when he was young. What made them treat him this way? And how did they treat their own children, as taught by their own family of origin?

It's so interesting how they were treated by their own parents' families, and how that shapes their hearts and minds. It's no surprise that they bring this into the families they create!

It's just how parents are supposed to treat their kids, you know?

It's so important to understand your parents' motives. When you understand why your parents did what they did, you can release your emotions, treat them more calmly, and be more at ease.

At the same time, by taking a moment to think about how your parents have influenced you, you can start to understand why you are the way you are now, where your own patterns of behavior come from, which of your interactions with others are influenced by your original family, and which of your patterns of intimate relationships are influenced by the behavior patterns of your parents in their interactions with each other. When you can completely examine yourself, you will be able to face your own needs.

It's time to face the influence that your family of origin has had on you.

It's so important to understand what influences our original family has brought to us. We all need to know how to get along with others!

It's totally normal to have certain views that influence our ideas about relationships. We all have different experiences growing up, and these experiences shape our beliefs about how we should interact with others. It's important to recognize that these beliefs are not necessarily wrong, but they might need some adjustment. So, let's take a moment to think about some of the views that our families of origin have influenced us. We can write them down on paper and really examine them. This can be a great way to understand our own ideas about relationships better.

Then, it's time to figure out if these views are right for you. Who taught you these ideas? Are they just your feelings? Think about how friends around you interact with others. Do you see the same things in your own life?

If it's just your own opinion and not the case for all girls, then you can see that these are the influences that your family of origin has had on you. When you understand that some of your views on relationships have actually been influenced by your family of origin since childhood, you'll no longer be afraid to make demands in your relationships.

It's so important to learn to be honest with yourself and talk about your fears.

It's totally normal to feel like the views of our original family have shaped our personalities. But it's also okay to want to move on from that! How can we overcome the influence that our original families have had on us? Should we just let these influences dictate our every word and action?

Or, you know, just face it! This is where it's really important for the questioner to be able to face and be honest with themselves. That way, they can face their fears head-on and avoid repeating the mistakes of their own family of origin when forming their own family.

It's totally normal to feel this way! The questioner's fear of relationships and desire for support are all the result of the education and influence of the original family. If the questioner cannot face these things directly, it will be difficult for the questioner to make changes. When interacting with others, it's so important to be open and honest about your needs and fears. Talk to others about what you want and need, and why. Tell them what kind of friends you want to find. By being honest about what you want, you'll attract the right people into your life!

Of course, being honest about what you want does not mean telling everything. If there's something you feel is more personal and private, you can always save it for later when you're both ready.

Get active!

It's totally normal to feel afraid to make your own demands in your mode of getting along with others, especially if you're influenced by your family. It's likely that this will make you feel some negative emotions. But don't worry! There are ways to resist negative emotions. One of the most effective ways is to get active.

If you're looking to shift your mood and feel your best, I've got just the thing for you! Get active and soak up some sunshine. Exercise is a great way to boost your mood and help your brain relax. When you exercise, your brain releases feel-good chemicals that can help you feel happier. So, go outside, enjoy the fresh air, and get moving!

If you're looking for a little extra support, don't hesitate to reach out to a professional counselor. They're there to help!

If you feel like the above methods aren't working for you, don't worry! You can always find professional psychological support. You can find some professional counselors and confide in these professionals about your worries. I'm sure they'll have the skills to help you communicate better.

The good news is that most schools have a wonderful psychological counselor who can help you!

You're great just the way you are!

If your parents couldn't give you love when you were little and still can't give you what you need to be happy, you can still care for and love yourself. Do more of the things you like and let yourself feel the warmth of love for yourself in the things you like. You are worthy of love!

It's okay to accept your own state, and when you're feeling down, do something special for yourself. Treat yourself to something sweet and enjoy the sweetness! Sweet things make the body happy, and they'll also make you feel happy.

It's so important to make yourself happy without harming others. Don't let negative emotions take over your life, okay?

I really hope my answer helps the questioner!

Hello, questioner! I'm Jia Ao.

You said you're confused about relationships. You feel you lack love and become dependent on others. You have a friend you're particularly dependent on, but he can't give you anything but spiritual support. You can't sever ties with him. You also have trouble getting along with other friends. You're dependent on others, and these negative emotions make you feel uncomfortable and painful. You don't know what to do.

You care about your friend and are dependent on him. You don't want to lose contact with him, but the more you care about him, the more you want. Is it better to be independent or to rely on others? How should you deal with this?

I feel like I lack love and I'm dependent. What should I do?

Analyze and sort out your problems.

1. Face your problems.

People who lack love inside are insecure and cautious. When they meet someone nice, they want to hold on to them tightly. They know this is not good, but they cannot control their hearts. They slowly become more dependent.

First, accept your feelings of lack of love and learn to adapt. The more you face your problems, the more you will solve them. You will overcome the effects of a lack of love better.

2. Always try to improve yourself.

To overcome your psychological obstacles, you must improve yourself. Read good books, go out, broaden your horizons, and enrich your spiritual level. Be confident, brave, and strong. First, love yourself. Then you can love others.

People who lack love don't take care of themselves, want to be recognized, and depend on others. To overcome this, become independent, self-reliant, and confident. Then you'll see that love and security come from within.

3. [Positive mindset adjustment]

Take responsibility for your emotions, sort out your family of origin, break free from their influence, learn to love yourself, put yourself first, learn to protect yourself, take care of your emotional well-being, and explore what you like.

Go out, talk to people, and make friends. This way, you won't depend on others too much, but you'll know how to keep your distance. I hope you can find a way to get along with the world soon.

I hope my answer helps. The world and I love you.

Good evening, everyone! ?

Hi, I'm Kelly!

I've read your question a few times now, and I'm excited to explore and analyze it together!

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I think this is something many of us have experienced at one point or another.

It's so lovely when we can rely on each other, isn't it?

But the great thing is, you can choose the degree of dependence. If he's someone you can trust and you're both willing, you can even experience what it feels like to "rely on" someone.

No matter if it's youthful love or a mature love, there's always time to enjoy the journey. We can rely on someone, which shows we have the ability to trust. So, let's try boldly and face it bravely!

Even if you can't rely on it, you've still got this amazing experience under your belt, and that's something to be proud of!

We open ourselves up to feelings, to the freedom of the mind, to experience and to feel. There's no need to sever the relationship; we just follow our hearts.

It might be worth thinking about whether not getting in touch is actually suppressing your emotions and feelings.

I really believe you can try to "rely on" someone and experience loving and being loved.

[About lack of love]

We all long for what we lack, and everyone longs for love to a greater or lesser extent. It's only natural!

It's totally normal to feel like you don't have enough love in your life. It might be because you felt neglected as you were growing up. Many people feel this way because their parents were absent or had emotional problems. Or, they felt like they had to take on too much responsibility at a young age. Either way, it's totally understandable to feel this way.

It's just that as we grow up and slowly get to know ourselves, some of our thoughts or ways of thinking, as well as our emotional needs, may be related to our early days, and perhaps some of our current problems.

So, accepting your lack of love, trusting yourself, and having the ability to find intimacy on your own is the first step on your journey to becoming your true self.

I'd love to share some of my past experiences with the questioner!

1: I'm going to make more friends! I had a few very close girlfriends when I was a student. We helped and supported each other during our student days, growing up together and getting through the confusion of puberty.

It's been many years, but every time I think of our moments, I feel so warm and happy!

2: It's so important to remember that human relationships are not only about romantic love. We can't completely rely on others, just as children will grow up and leave their parents.

When we love someone, we can take control of the development of the relationship and remain rational to some extent, which is really helpful!

3: Before you can love others, you have to learn to love yourself.

It's so important to get to know yourself and grow as a person. There's nothing better than exploring human nature through classic reading, understanding the interactions, thoughts, and processes of characters in stories, and gaining a deeper understanding of human nature. Learning is such a wonderful way to love yourself!

It's also a great idea to watch some classic movies about love, life, relationships, and marriage. This can help you avoid idealizing yourself.

[About best friends]

I just want to say that the host of this question has handled this part very well. She maintains boundaries with her best friend and respects the other person, which is great to see!

It was a little sad at first, but it was okay! For example, your best friend kept you company, and next time you would be embarrassed to refuse.

It's so important to remember that this kind of relationship, if it goes on for too long, can really damage your friendship.

Loneliness is also something you can learn to grow through.

Go shopping alone, read books, interact with strangers, appreciate the seasons, the leaves, climate change, and feel lonely and enjoy loneliness on your own. It's okay to maintain some personal space, and we'll have more internally rich thoughts as a result.

Come on, my friend!

My sweet Kelly!

Please, don't hesitate to ask if you have any questions. I'm always here for you and I'd love to communicate more with you.

I love you, world! And I love you, too!

My child, please accept my condolences. When you realize that you have a problem and come to the platform for help, it shows that you have a clear understanding of yourself. So please relax and let's figure out together how to help you.

You did not discuss your upbringing, but I believe that a child who lacks love is due to unfavorable memories from childhood. Indeed, many individuals experience this confusion. Due to traditional Chinese education, the personalities of parents, and other factors, the majority of children have irreparable regrets about their childhoods. Consequently, there may be numerous factors in life that cause you to want to make up for this regret, which results in the fact that we may always be influenced by this when we behave and deal with things. Therefore, we often say that if your childhood has been hurt, it may take a lifetime to heal.

You have indicated that you are highly dependent on this individual and that he is unable to provide you with the support you require. I commend you for your clarity on this matter. In some instances, individuals may engage in behaviors despite being aware that they are not feasible. The feeling of dependence can lead to a tendency to rely on others, but it is preferable to rely on oneself than on external sources.

Over-reliance is not conducive to long-lasting relationships and may potentially lead to further difficulties. Therefore, even if it is for your own protection, it is recommended that you try your best to refrain from contacting that person. Unless you are strong enough to deal with it as an equal, you should not contact that person.

From a psychological standpoint, self-acceptance, personal growth, letting go, and self-love are key to achieving a sense of security. This approach helps avoid placing unrealistic expectations on others, including those in close relationships.

It is important to remember that nobody can accompany you for the rest of your life, only you. If you feel that your emotions are always affected, you may wish to consider undergoing in-depth psychological counseling on the platform, which could help you to change your current situation.

I hope this information is helpful to you.

Good morning. In the real world, there are many individuals who are sensitive and lack a sense of security. Furthermore, they often become dependent on others and are susceptible to appearing detached and uninterested to those outside of their immediate circle.

Coping with low self-confidence and a sense of dependency is a long-term process that requires significant effort. The following strategies may be helpful:

It is important to have your own value.

You have your own value, and it is not contingent on the opinions of others. You may, for instance, engage in crafts, writing, music, philosophy, or other pursuits that align with your interests.

This skill has one common denominator: it provides a sense of security and allows one to place complete trust and reliance in it.

Psychology is a suitable option.

Due to the lack of information regarding your age and other personal details, it is challenging to provide precise recommendations. The suitability of these suggestions ultimately depends on your individual circumstances.

It is important to have your own bottom line.

It is important to recognise that everyone has different needs when it comes to security. Similarly, everyone wants to be recognised and accompanied by others to a greater or lesser extent, so that they can have the confidence to live and do certain things.

However, the real world does not operate according to personal preferences, so it is essential to establish one's own bottom line.

It is imperative that this line not be crossed.

This line is designed to safeguard individuals from potential harm.

It is important to learn to regulate your emotions.

A lack of self-assurance and an overreliance on others are common traits, including a tendency to trust others easily. This can be a risky behavior in professional settings.

To regulate your emotions, it is essential to focus on two key aspects:

#Your own reality#

Personal expectations

These two factors contribute to personal disparity and emotional responses.

These two aspects can be adjusted.

If you require further clarification on any point, please do not hesitate to ask.

Best regards,

Hello, dear questioner! How are you doing today?

I can see that you say your pain comes from the part of yourself that lacks love. It's so understandable! Because it hurts so much, you cannot break off your dependence on others and try to fill the hole of unlove.

But if you need other people and things to make you feel complete, and one day those people and things leave, or you are unable to hold on to and retain those things, then do you think the pain is created by you or by others?

It's so important to remember that we can't always blame ourselves or others for things that happen.

It's a harsh reality that we can't depend on the outside world to give us the sense of security we crave. After all, it's not something we have control over, like a person or an external force. But here's the silver lining: this harsh reality is actually a beautiful reminder that we need to love ourselves. And the best part is, we can control that!

Take a moment to think about how long it's been since you've taken the time to listen to yourself and truly feel yourself. Have you ever thought about giving yourself a warm and loving hug when you're feeling sad or lost? It's okay if you haven't, but it's important to ask yourself: You are in so much pain, what is it that you really want? How can I help you and love you?

You are not a problem, sweetheart. You just haven't seen your own goodness for the time being—something is blinding you. You can ask for help from the outside world, but you can also ask for help from yourself, and demand security from yourself. If you say you will be lonely, it's because you don't know how to get along with yourself yet, and that's okay!

So go do something about it, my friend!

1. You can write down the way you think you love yourself, do one or two things to love yourself within a week, and then write down your feelings. If you feel satisfied and safe, that's a great sign! It means you love yourself. If not, don't worry. It just means this isn't the way to go, and you can use this to find your deeper needs.

2. Take a moment to write down all the wonderful things about the person you depend on that attract you. What are those qualities? Do you have those qualities? If not, don't worry! We all have room to grow. How can you possibly have them?

It can also help to write down the solutions. And another way to feel better is to let go of these feelings of lack.

3. When you're feeling calm and relaxed, take a moment to visualize your pain. Just listen to it quietly, and let it express itself. What does it want to say? What does it want you to do?

Take a moment to tune in to your feelings. When you're ready to move on to the next step, imagine your love flowing from your heart, wrapping around your pain, and dissolving it completely. Allow the love to overflow.

4. Focus on yourself, sweetheart. Do the things you're good at, the things you like, the things that might make you feel valuable.

This will help you feel more confident. And don't worry too much about the results, because you're already doing great!

When you love yourself, you recognize your own value.

I've got some tips for you to boost your sense of empowerment and security. It's so important to take care of yourself when you're going through a tough time. It can be really draining to chase after something you don't have control over, especially when you're still waiting for the other person to show you love. It's so important to nourish yourself with things you have control over.

I'd also recommend trying some of these methods myself: digging up limiting beliefs, releasing emotions, mindfulness meditation, and self-hypnosis. I truly believe you can find the key to your own sense of security.

You are so important now, okay? I promise you, focusing on yourself is the best thing you can do.

I just wanted to share a few important points with you.

It's important to remember that feelings aren't facts. They can be created, neutralized, and released, including feelings of security, dependence, pain, and so on.

Your body will do what you tell it to do! It's all about your perceptions and emotions (feelings). So, whether it's internal motivation or external motivation, or external motivation, one of the two has to be activated.

That's right! Love needs to be practiced and put into action. And when you feel like you're lacking, you'll go after it.

But if you stand there knowing that you are loved and that you possess love yourself, you will feel at peace in this moment.

I'm really sorry, but I didn't really answer your question in terms of your relationship with them. I always hope that you can look at yourself more, understand yourself, and start from yourself. When you have that strength, the "problem" will be solved.

And remember, "problems" are never really problems. They're just perceptions and feelings within your framework. This is something that I think you'll find really helpful.

And finally, I'd love to hear your feedback and discussion! Please always have confidence in yourself.

With love,

Hello!

I can sense your inner pain and anxiety/the-grievances-from-work-have-passed-but-was-it-worth-it-for-myself-10428.html" target="_blank">grievances from your words, and I'm excited to help you work through them!

You mentioned two kinds of relationships: one is intimacy and the other is friendship.

"For example, if I want to go shopping, I tell my best friend, but if she doesn't offer to go with me, I won't ask her and I won't find someone else, I'll just go by myself." From this, it's clear that you have plenty of love to go around!

If you want to go out and your best friend doesn't have time, you get to do what you want to do!

This shows a side of independence that I think is really great!

You also seem to have greater anxiety when it comes to intimate relationships, which is totally normal!

Even when you already want to break off contact, you just can't help but contact the other person! There's something inside you that needs to be satisfied, and you want to be wholeheartedly focused on by a gaze you like.

If a girl does not receive enough understanding, tolerance, and support from her parents in her original family, she has the amazing opportunity to develop a sense of security!

Intimate relationships are a wonderful opportunity to learn and grow! It's only natural to feel a little anxious about them when you lack security, but you can absolutely conquer that feeling and come out on the other side stronger and wiser.

It's so beyond the scope of our current knowledge!

It is an amazing, constant warm current within the heart!