I feel my mental endurance is particularly low, how can I alleviate stress?

Hello!

Your text shows you are in pain. You feel pressure and a burden. You are uncertain and afraid about your situation and future. Such worries increase the pressure in your heart.

Your worries are normal. It's okay to feel pressure. You're still young, so relax. Let me share my views on the points you mentioned:

Emotional stress

Some details of your family situation and upbringing have not been expressed, so let's analyze the situation using a generic situation. We humans are social animals, and from birth we are faced with expectations and opinions of others.

People will make comments about you, have expectations of you, or praise you. They may even criticize you or look at you coldly. No matter what kind of comment it is, you will experience it on the road to growth. Perhaps you are also constantly making comments about other people without realizing it.

Treat these comments with a normal heart. Feel the feelings in your heart when you hear these comments. This will help you grow and become more balanced.

2. Stress in life

I don't know what your life is like. Why do you think there are so many negative things? Did your parents or did you experience them yourself? Seeing or experiencing things yourself makes you cautious.

You either make long-term plans or you're afraid to move forward.

You'll face disappointments in life.

"Life is not easy. Many successes are built on repeated failures. If you don't try, you'll never get the results you want. You're still young, and you have endless possibilities. Don't worry about things until you're 40. You've still got time!

3. Learning to deal with stress

Why are you afraid of not graduating? Is it because you failed too many courses, or because your major is not for you, or for some other reason?

School is about learning knowledge, but it's more important to improve your learning ability. This will help you throughout your life. You won't be able to rely on school knowledge when you start working. You'll also need to learn about the industry, development trends, and interpersonal relationships.

Don't worry about schoolwork. Just do what the school requires and what you can do. Keep improving your learning ability.

4. Emotional pressure

In love, it's not about balancing your emotions. It's about following your heart and nurturing a relationship you think is worth it. You can share your stress and burdens with your partner, but don't expect them to give you a lot of comfort. Be honest in managing the relationship.

You're young and the future is wide open. Read Napoleon Hill's "The Power of Now."

Hello, classmate! I'm grateful to have read your text. From it, I can sense that you are an ambitious student, currently facing various challenges, some of which may be emotional, life-related, academic, or otherwise. I can sense them all through the screen.

I would like to extend a gesture of warmth and support. I have drafted the following response as a reference for your consideration.

I would like to suggest a few books that I think you might find helpful. They include "The Five Love Skills," "Meeting the Unknown Self," and "38 Letters from Rockefeller to His Son." There are also books on psychology, one on family intimacy, and skills for getting along with others. You may be able to find the answers you are looking for.

Secondly, it seems that there is a relationship between emotions, life, learning, and feelings. As the saying goes, "Believe in the power of belief!"

When you're in a good mood, you'll likely find that positive things tend to happen. When you're struggling to manage negative emotions, it's possible that challenging situations may arise. This description may bring to mind certain experiences you've had.

It may be helpful to consider dealing with your emotions before dealing with things. When emotions arise, it can be beneficial to first become aware of yourself and why you are angry.

Could it be that you care too much? Or is there another reason?

One way to approach emotions is to turn to the other side, count down to ten, and then address the situation with a calm mind. When we are impulsive, it can be challenging to think rationally. Taking a moment to collect ourselves can help us make more informed decisions.

I'd be interested to know your thoughts on this.

As a final suggestion, I would like to encourage you to consider making some personal improvements. There are numerous online courses on emotional issues that you might find beneficial, so I would recommend giving them a listen.

It would be remiss of me not to mention that relationships are also part of life, and there are certainly many topics to discuss. For example, it would be helpful to know whether you share the same values.

How might one resolve conflicts when there is anger involved? What are some scenarios that might be perceived as unacceptable by the other person?

I believe that the most important thing in a happy relationship is reaching a consensus. If you find my reply helpful, you are welcome to follow me or click "useful."

You may find it helpful to ask questions on the platform, as this demonstrates a willingness to improve oneself. I am confident that you will continue to make progress.

Hello, question asker! I'm Enoch, the answerer. From what you've said, it seems like you feel your psychological tolerance is low and don't know how to relieve stress. But at the heart of it, you're pessimistic about relationships and don't know how to boost your confidence in different situations.

Let's take a closer look at what's really going on here.

1. A lack of self-confidence, which makes it difficult to adapt to new situations.

From what you've said, it seems like you're looking for approval from others, worried about the consequences of your actions, or concerned about schoolwork and romantic relationships. It seems like you lack confidence and feel like you can't adapt well to your environment.

2. A pretty pessimistic outlook on life and a lack of hope for improvement.

The questioner lacks self-confidence, so they always worry that they won't do well. This means they don't have high expectations and are always worried about bad outcomes.

3. The questioner can recognize their own problems and analyze them clearly, but they're having trouble finding a solution.

From what you've said, it's clear you understand your own problems and have presented them in a logical way. You're very methodical in your thinking. However, you may not have access to professional help, so you're unsure how to solve your own problems.

Here are a few suggestions from a psychological perspective that I think could help you.

1. When you're in the zone, you can really focus on the task at hand and feel a sense of accomplishment, which will boost your confidence.

Gu Ailing is a talented and popular actress who's been trending on all major platforms recently. She's got a great daily schedule and she's able to devote herself fully to each task, without letting other negative emotions get in the way, even though she has a lot on her plate. A lot of people think about the next thing while doing the current one, which means they don't get to fully experience the beauty of doing the current thing well.

If you're always worrying and feeling anxious about the outcome of everything you do,

So, the answerer suggests reading the book Flow. The idea is that the questioner can learn from it how to focus on doing what you need to do every day, whether at work, in life, or in the process of studying and falling in love. Doing this will help you experience the good feelings that this brings you, as well as the sense of accomplishment that comes from successfully completing things. In the process, your self-confidence will also be cultivated, which will help you build your willpower and develop good habits.

2. If you set reasonable expectations for yourself, you can work towards positive goals without letting negative emotions get in the way.

There's a psychological effect called the Pygmalion effect, also known as the expectation effect. Psychologists once conducted an experiment where they told some average third- and fourth-year elementary school students that they were exceptionally talented. As a result, these students all achieved excellent results when they graduated from elementary school, while other students who were comparable to them in their third- and fourth-year studies did not achieve as good results when they graduated. Therefore, psychologists believe that positive expectations from parents, teachers, and oneself are conducive to achieving better results.

Many celebrities were encouraged by their parents to pursue their dreams of becoming tomorrow's stars. Many of these aspirations are reflected in their names, and as a result, they have also achieved great things in life. For example, Yang Zi (big success), Zhao Liying (stand out), Yao Ming (basketball star), Deng Lun (unparalleled), etc. I hope the questioner will also have good expectations for themselves no matter what they do, which will encourage them to develop in a better direction in life and also give them a positive mindset and motivation to move forward.

I hope the questioner can build up self-confidence and achieve their ideal success with good life goals and expectations.

Hello!

It seems that you have recently been facing some pressure that you feel the need to resolve and release one by one. Indeed, pressure is like a shadow that accompanies us throughout our lives, but it doesn't have to be a bad thing!

Everyone is also faced with various pressures, big and small, that make us feel anxious, depressed, pessimistic, and down. But there's no need to let these feelings take over! We can choose to turn these challenges into opportunities for growth and positive change.

But if we can accept this pressure, acknowledge its existence, and even turn it into motivation, wouldn't that be amazing? As the saying goes, "No pressure, no motivation." In other words, pressure is a catalyst for motivation. If you find the direction of your motivation, pressure becomes your best friend! Do you agree?

So, let's dive in and explore your stress together!

"1. Emotional stress, worrying too much, especially about what other people think, feeling like you've been living your whole life for other people."

I see your helplessness in this sentence, and I can feel your frustration. I'm curious about what you mean when you say that you have lived your whole life for other people. I see a picture through your description – a picture of you in a painting with many, many people... But you can't find yourself anywhere.

Maybe it's just a little bit of yourself being hidden in the crowd... So you feel at a loss, and feel without direction! In fact, I think you realized this when you wrote this sentence, and you have begun to become aware of it, haven't you?

"2. Life stress, always seeing the negative in life, and trying to consider the severity of the consequences causes anxiety." But there's another way of looking at it!

Then think about the source of always seeing the negative in life. Could it be that you've been viewing the world this way since you were a child?

So, when did it start? What happened? There's absolutely nothing wrong with considering the negative part of a problem! It will make you more cautious and you won't regret it if you act on impulse.

But when you think about the negative, isn't it a bit unfair to this matter? So are you a little more responsible for it and think about the good things about it? Similarly, "anxiety" is the same. Take it by the hand, see it, and tell it why you are anxious. You can do this!

"3. Learning about stress, often afraid of not being able to complete learning tasks and graduate." This is an amazing opportunity for you to learn more about stress and how to overcome it! You'll be able to complete all of your learning tasks and graduate with flying colors.

Anxiety is affecting not only your life, but also your studies! It's a challenge, but you can do it! Students today really have it hard, but you can rise to the occasion! The pressure on every student is really too much, but you can handle it!

I'm so excited to get a good night's sleep! And I'm ready to tackle my schoolwork with a fresh perspective. I think the country has also begun to pay attention to this, and it's an amazing opportunity for growth. So, we can start by changing ourselves. Ask yourself, is it true that you can't complete your schoolwork, or are you just "afraid" of not being able to complete it?

Let's dive into the meaning of "afraid"!

"4. Emotional stress: Being in a relationship can have a negative impact on your emotional balance, and you can easily be swayed by the emotions of the opposite sex. You don't know how to fall in love, and you don't know how to create a favorable environment for a relationship — but you will!

First of all, you are an excellent self-awakening person, so I give you a big thumbs up! You're absolutely right—emotions are not a one-sided thing, and it is normal to be easily swayed by them. I think you can face it more easily than you think. I'm not sure what you mean by balancing your emotions, but if he also wants to be with you, why not discuss these concerns together?

I highly recommend "Meet a Better You" as a great resource! You can also do some exercises that target stress reduction.

Or you could try meditation, which is a great way to relax and unwind. You can also use assessment scales to determine the level of stress and anxiety, which is really helpful.

The absolute best way to do this is to find the root cause of your inability to cope with stress. If you are allowed, you can find a psychotherapist, listener, or counselor to have a one-on-one chat, which will help you from the root cause. Of course, the final decision is still up to you.

The world is an amazing place! Even a small flower by the roadside can heal us. Just like this, the world and we love you!

Hello, classmate!

I'm so grateful for the invitation! I can see that my classmate is feeling the pressure from all sides and that her psychological tolerance is low, which I know can be tough to handle.

The students took a good, hard look at the stressors in their lives and how they were dealing with them. They considered the four main areas of emotions, life, studies, and relationships. It was a tough process, but they came to realize that they were carrying a lot of emotional weight.

The wonderful humanistic psychologist Adler once said something really important: what matters is not what has happened, but how we perceive it.

We totally get it. The four types of pressure the student mentioned are real and can't be changed. But how we handle them is up to us.

I'd like to share with you two short stories.

1. About stress

A kind lecturer picked up a glass of water in class and asked the audience, "How heavy do you think this glass of water is?"

Some listeners say 20 grams, while others say 500 grams. The lecturer said, "The weight of this glass of water is not important. What is important is how long you can hold it. If you hold it for a minute, you will definitely be fine. If you hold it for an hour, you may feel your hands getting sore. If you hold it for a day, you may need to call an ambulance. In fact, the weight of this glass of water is the same, but the longer you hold it, the heavier it feels. This is just like the pressure we bear. If we keep the pressure on our body for a long time, no matter how long or short the period of time, in the end we will feel that the pressure is getting heavier and heavier and we can't bear it anymore. What we have to do is put down this glass of water, take a break, and then pick it up again. Only in this way can we hold it for a longer period of time.

So, it's really important to let go of the pressure you've been carrying for a while. Take a nice, relaxing break, and then pick it up again, so you can carry it for a long time.

2. Anxiety: A Loving Guide

In the Sahara Desert, there is a kind of sandy rat with an earthy gray color. Whenever the dry season arrives, this kind of sandy rat has to hoard a large amount of grass roots in preparation for this difficult time. It's a tough time for them!

So, before the whole dry season kicks in, our little gerbils will be hard at work, scurrying in and out of their burrows with mouthfuls of grass roots. It's quite the sight to behold!

But here's something a little strange: even when the roots in the sand are enough to get them through the dry season, the gerbils still have to work hard, biting off the roots and carrying them into their burrows. It's only in this way that they can feel at peace and content; otherwise, they become restless.

In reality, gerbils don't need to worry so much, sweeties! Research has shown that this behavior is genetically determined in gerbils from generation to generation and is based on an instinctive fear.

So, you see, the things that gerbils do are often quite superfluous and meaningless.

I just wanted to say that it can be really tough to take something simple and make a big deal out of it.

It's totally normal for it to take a while for someone to go from knowing to doing. I don't suggest that students read widely, but I would love for them to read "The Courage to Be Disliked" intensively!

The book "The Courage to Be Disliked" uses Adler's theory to tell us something really lovely: that our world is actually extremely simple, and we can be happy at any time if we want.

I really hope my answer helps you out! Thanks so much for your time. I'm Jiusi from Yixinli, and I love you all!

Hello!

I'm here for you. I get it. We all face pressure from all sides, big and small, every day. We need to face it with a positive and optimistic attitude.

There are a few simple ways to relieve excessive psychological pressure: eat well, get enough sleep, meditate, and make a plan.

Eating: When a patient is feeling too stressed, their body and appetite can also be affected. In this case, eating can help relieve the stress. In particular, foods containing vitamin B and carbohydrates can be effective.

Make sure you get enough sleep. Some patients have too much stress, which might be caused by not getting enough sleep. Not getting enough sleep can affect your physical health and make you anxious or nervous.

Meditation can help you relax your body and mind while also reducing stress. It does this by increasing the grey matter in your brain.

4? Make a plan in advance: Stay busy every day and make a work plan, or plan other things. When you're really busy every day, you won't think about stressful events, which effectively relieves the problem of excessive psychological pressure.

If you're still feeling stressed and none of the above methods are helping, it's time to visit your local hospital for a check-up. Once you've been diagnosed, you can start taking medication under the guidance of a doctor.

Life is great, and the future looks bright. Let's cheer together and face life with a positive and optimistic attitude!