I feel redundant, unneeded by anyone. How can I find redemption?

Give yourself a break and be kind to the vulnerable, sensitive, and emotionally low-spirited you.

First of all, you've fallen into a vicious cycle. When your family and loved ones communicate with you, you get emotional and lose your temper or cry, which causes your family and friends to stay away from you. Then you feel that no one needs or wants you, and you become even more emotional and desperate. Then when someone takes the initiative to talk to you, you get emotional again. This cycle is very damaging.

Second, since this is the internet, I don't know how emotional or depressed you are in real life. If it lasts a long time—say, three or six months—and you're in this state, you should really go to a top-tier hospital or a psychological counseling clinic to talk about it.

I believe in the power of psychological counseling and companionship.

If it's not serious and doesn't last long, I'd suggest you start with your family, tell them what's going on, and ask for their understanding and support.

You also said that the people around you are really tired. Listen to their advice, get some help, and work through it together. Then, take some time to get to know yourself better, improve yourself, and break out of the vicious cycle.

You've got this.

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Hello! I just wanted to give you a warm hug from afar.

I also want to give you a big pat on the back for being aware of your emotional state. It's so important to be aware of what you're feeling, because it's the first step to making positive changes.

If you long to be accepted, understood, valued, and valued by others, you can absolutely give these things to yourself through your own efforts! After all, apart from yourself, no one else is obliged to give you the satisfaction and response you need. What you long to receive from others in a relationship, you can try to give to yourself.

It's so important to remember that behind any emotion lies an unmet expectation or a need. When your emotions come up, it's a great idea to try to be aware of what those needs might be. For example, you might feel the need to be understood, valued, cared about, accepted, affirmed, or supported.

When you have a certain understanding and awareness of the needs behind your emotions, you can try to bravely express your needs, that is, how you long to be treated.

Of course, the first step is to accept yourself just as you are, inside and out. You can learn a lot by making a list of all the ways you accept yourself. When you accept yourself, you can see your own shortcomings and deficiencies, but you can also see all the wonderful things about yourself. You can build your self-confidence and feel more worthy of love by keeping a gratitude journal.

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Hello, question asker. I see you're confused. Hugs!

You're having emotional problems. Here's a hug.

You get emotional easily and lose control because you have a long-term negative emotional burden.

Let off steam regularly.

How do you let off steam?

Do moderate to high-intensity exercise every day for at least 30 minutes.

Go to the boxing gym and hit the bag.

Find a coach to spar with.

You can also walk fast in your neighborhood.

You matter.

Do more volunteer work, like helping to sell flags for non-profits.

You can also take care of stray cats and dogs at an animal shelter.

When you do these things, you'll feel like you're helping society and that you matter.

I hope you find a solution soon.

I can only think of these things.

I hope my answer helps and inspires you. I am the answer, and I study hard every day.

Yixinli loves you! Best wishes!