I got angry and hung up on my boyfriend after he missed three calls from me. I blocked him and was worried.

Good day, To whom it may concern,

From your description, it seems that you are a young girl who is seeking her boyfriend's care and attention. However, it appears that you have repeatedly failed to receive it, which has led you to break off contact with him.

It seems that you are not entirely satisfied with some of the things your boyfriend has done. You want your boyfriend to care about and take care of you, but he hasn't done these things, which makes you feel uncomfortable and unhappy. You want him to see your feelings of being aggrieved and irritated and understand how you feel.

This is a perfectly normal reaction.

However, your method appears to be interrupting the connection between you two, using his concern and love for you to make him feel uncomfortable, and then he rushes to restore the connection to appease you in order to alleviate this discomfort.

Such a method may be effective, but it is only so if he truly cares about you, loves you, and is willing to take action to make amends. However, it seems that your current method is to achieve this by shaking and disrupting your relationship, which could potentially be damaging.

I believe you may also feel that such behavior has had a negative impact on your relationship with your boyfriend.

Questioner, it seems that your goal is to crave the other person's care and love, but your behavior may be inadvertently hurting the relationship with the other person in order to get it. This kind of behavior may not be sustainable and could potentially be dangerous. It may be worth considering whether this approach is truly aligned with your goal of "getting the other person's care."

If you were to be given another chance, what method would you choose to use?

I hope the above advice is helpful to you.

Hello!

You seem to use your boyfriend as an emotional outlet.

You wrote a lot about being angry, calling the other person, blocking them, and worrying about a rift. All the unhappiness comes from within. Ask yourself, if you were your boyfriend, what you would want him to do.

Write down why you're unhappy.

1. He doesn't call?

2. He doesn't answer calls quickly?

3. He doesn't talk to you long enough on the phone?

...

Then, write what you want your boyfriend to do.

1. Because he doesn't call? How often do you want him to call?

2. He doesn't answer your calls quickly? How quickly do you want him to answer?

3. Is it because you don't have enough time on the phone with him? How long do you want each phone call to last?

...

If you can write clearly and communicate well with your boyfriend, tell him what your needs are.

If you can't explain it clearly, think about it: how can your boyfriend guess? Is it too difficult?

Your behavior shows you're insecure about your long-distance relationship. You're anxious and uneasy about its long-term nature. If so, you need to think about this problem. The following points are for your reference:

1. Trust is important in long-distance relationships.

2. Plan – You need a plan for the future. If you don't have one, your anxiety will be endless.

3. Acceptance – If you can arrange the above two items well, then you must learn to trust each other and work hard towards the planned goal. During this time, you must learn to accept being alone, spend more time improving yourself, and enjoy the good life.

Even if something goes wrong, you haven't wasted time. You've been growing.

Life will be unhappy. Work hard and control your emotions to control your life.

I hope this helps. Good luck!

Hello, dear questioner!

From what you've told me, it seems like you're feeling pretty disappointed with some of the things your boyfriend has done. You want him to care about and take care of you, but he hasn't done these things, which makes you feel uncomfortable and unhappy. I can see that you're feeling aggrieved and irritated, and I totally understand how you feel.

It's totally normal for women in love to experience some negative emotions. We all hope our partner will care for and love us, but when they don't meet our expectations, it's only natural to feel disappointed. This is because, as women, we often wait for our partner to take the initiative to love us and do the things we want or hope to do. But the other person is not an expert on our minds, so they may not always know what we need. This is a very normal and common phenomenon, but excessive negative emotions can affect our physical and mental health, drain our emotional energy, and ultimately lead to relationship problems.

Let's see how we can solve this together!

[1] It's so important to learn to be aware of your emotions and see what the causes of your emotions are.

For example, when you feel aggrieved, sad, or unhappy, it's really helpful to find out why you're feeling this way. Some emotions are internal, like the pressure you put on yourself, and of course, some things you expect the other person to do that they haven't done. Seeing the emotions and the reasons is a great way to find a solution to resolve them.

[2] It's so important to learn to directly express your feelings and needs.

This is something that applies to all relationships. It's so important to directly express our feelings and needs in any relationship. If we don't express our feelings and needs, the other person won't know what we're thinking, what our thoughts are, what our feelings are, or what we want them to do. This can lead to them doing things we don't want them to do.

[3] Try lowering your expectations of the other person.

We can have expectations of anyone, but it's important to be mindful of how many expectations or high demands we have. Having too many or too high expectations can make us feel disappointed or sad because we're not explicitly sharing them with the other person. We might hope the other person will do it on their own initiative, which can be challenging. That's why it's helpful to guide the other person on what to do to meet our expectations and to adjust our expectations as needed. This can benefit the relationship between us and the other person in the long run.

[4] It's so important to learn to love yourself and give the two of you space and time alone.

It's so important to have our own personal space and time, because everyone is independent. We need to understand that taking up too much of the other person's time will make them feel annoyed. We all have our own things to do, so we need to set aside time for those things. When you're alone, it's a great idea to do the things you like and learn to love yourself more. Having space and distance between you both is a wonderful way to develop your relationship.

I really hope these thoughts are helpful for you!

Hi, I'm Strawberry.

The questioner and her boyfriend are in different places. She wants a hug, but her boyfriend can't give it. She can only share happy moments online. Distance can make long-distance relationships hard. It can feel like you're single when you need comfort and support.

Sometimes I just want a hug or a kiss. I can only accept those virtual actions through the internet. That's what made the questioner unhappy.

To put up with more complaints.

The questioner contacted her boyfriend more often. When she was upset, she felt aggrieved and angry. She thought she was maintaining the relationship, but her efforts weren't reciprocated. She doubted her importance to him.

We don't know if he was busy or playing games. Relationships require effort from both people. Being busy is no excuse for not trying to make the relationship work.

It's normal for the questioner to feel aggrieved and sad. They usually only see each other infrequently, and in this argument, the questioner showed her boyfriend how often she is ignored. He should realize that his behavior lacks initiative.

Relationships are between two people.

She was unhappy with her boyfriend and complained to his parents.

In relationships, two people should try to solve things themselves and not complain about each other in front of their parents. This affects the relationship and makes the parents feel awkward.

Learn to manage intimacy together.

No two relationships are the same. We need to find a way to get along that suits us. The questioner can try the following:

1. Talk to your boyfriend and listen to each other. Solve problems right away, not later. This is easier than changing habits. Adults should share their thoughts and emotions. Sometimes we don't know our own thoughts. To love me is to understand that I don't need to say anything. This is hurtful.

2. Agreement: No one has to take the initiative, but a good relationship can also be maintained through agreements. For example, agree on who will contact the other first. Even if you don't meet, you still need to interact every day. Discuss the content of the interaction so that each person's position in the relationship is equal.

Some people are not romantic because of their personality. This can be improved through learning. The questioner can ask her boyfriend to take an intimate relationship course with her and read books on intimate relationships in her spare time.

I hope this helps.