I had a fight with my father, and he told me to go to hell. What should I do?

Hello. I feel for you. If I were your age and in your situation, I would be in a lot of pain too.

The internet is now very well developed, and you can ask for help online. Many kind and professional people will help you.

Death is not an option.

We come to this world for beauty, abundance, and joy, not to leave it early.

I won't analyze why your father said such a thing. It's inappropriate.

This kind of communication will hurt you and might make you do something extreme. I think he regrets saying this.

We'll focus on how you should face it because of space constraints.

Life is like a game. There are always levels to reach. Some levels make you stronger.

You will become stronger each time you overcome a challenge.

Don't listen to your parents when they say negative things about you. They're wrong!

Your roots and soul are perfect and kind. You are better than you show yourself to be.

Your upbringing and other factors have restricted some of your abilities. Block out negative words and environments. Seek help from your teachers, relatives, and friends. They will support and affirm you.

If you believe in the future and keep going, the light will embrace you!

Everyone has the right to enjoy the good. Everyone can enjoy the good.

Everyone has the potential to be a source of inspiration. Whether you ask a question or answer one, your words can bring light to the hearts of many people. This is our shared energy.

Hello, I'm a heart coach. I can tell you're heartbroken because of your father's words, "Go to hell if you love it here." It seems like you've been thinking about all the bad things your father and mother have done to you, like the beatings and insults, and all the grievances you've suffered.

You're also stubborn and unafraid to confront your father about your views and feelings. I admire that about you, your spirit of defying authority. However, you need to be tactful. We won't do anything that will "lose 800 soldiers and damage 1,000."

You're already feeling aggrieved and sad, so it's no surprise you're thinking about ending it all. Let me help you think of ways to deal with them.

1. Stand back and look at your parents' behavior from a different perspective.

Just because they're your parents doesn't mean they won't make mistakes. From what you've said, it's clear that you see your father as an "emotional" person. As you mentioned, he's a college graduate who runs a small factory, but business isn't doing well, and his relationship with your mother isn't great.

A middle-aged, greasy man already looks pretty dispirited to you, a child. Do you think he doesn't know it himself? Men all want to save face, so they'll probably bring their bad mood from work to their family and life without realizing it.

He'll probably be unhappy too. His words and actions, criticisms and accusations, aren't directed at you, but he just doesn't know how to release his negative emotions.

Try putting yourself in the other person's shoes, thinking from their perspective, and imagining how they might feel. This will help you understand their actions better. Imagine that you're standing in the position of the light bulb or the ceiling, and you'll see the whole picture. This will help you see the truth more clearly and give you more options.

It's not fair to get angry at someone for something they didn't do. It's a pretty irrational thing to do.

You are your own person, and they are theirs. You are the master of your own life.

Your parents are also concerned about your well-being. Otherwise, why would they work so hard every day to earn money? They don't spend it all on eating, drinking, and having fun.

It's just that the way they love you isn't what you want or what you can accept. They get distressed and worried when they see that you aren't making progress in your studies. They also feel sorry for the efforts you've made when they see that you haven't been admitted to a key high school.

They're not worried about money, but they are concerned about your future. In their view, a good high school = a good university = a good job = a good life.

But what you really want is their love and care for you, a happy and loving home, and a harmonious relationship between you and your parents. You are also a member of the family, and you can't just do whatever you want and exercise power.

You can make the most of your smarts and your autonomy.

The way you handle things is important! This involves communication skills.

It's not a good idea to argue with your father. You were right, but you came across as unreasonable (impolite).

Instead of showing your parents gratitude for raising you, you're suspicious of them for being "worried about money." You lack perspective and tolerance.

Your dad's willingness to talk to you as an adult and as a man on an equal footing depends entirely on your performance. It's important to express your views and feelings directly. For example, you could say something like, "Dad, I felt worthless when you just negated, accused, and criticized me. I worked hard all day and did encounter some obstacles. You are my role model and my helper, and I hope to get your help."

If you communicate this way, what do you think your father will think? He'll probably think his son is really good, polite, and communicative. He'll admire and respect you, and he'll think about changing his own attitude.

If you want a warm and loving home, everyone needs to pull their weight. If you make a change, it'll have an impact on the whole family. Not sure? Give it a go and see for yourself.

I hope this was helpful for you. Best regards, [Your name]

If you want to keep the conversation going, just click "Find a coach" in the top right corner or at the bottom. I'll be in touch and we can keep growing together.

Good day.

When your father made such hurtful remarks, you must have been deeply distressed, uncertain, and further alienated from those closest to you, experiencing profound sadness and anger.

You referenced your parents' past experiences, and your description of your father evinces a sense of compassion. While he appears to be concerned about financial matters, his words also convey a sense of understanding and tolerance.

It is the bitterness that arises from the position of a child. It is the bitterness that fills your heart when both parents prioritize their own needs and ignore their children's love.

I commend you for your resilience in the face of challenges.

Due to his low self-esteem, your father feels threatened by other people's parents. It is not your intention to make comparisons, but you do feel a sense of sadness regarding your family life.

It appears that your father is unable to recognize the qualities of purity, childlike innocence, and clarity that you possess.

Despite our best efforts, it appears that there is little we can do to alter the current situation.

If you are unable to complete the required schoolwork, you may wish to consult with your classmates and teachers. It does not appear that your father is unwilling to provide assistance, but he seems to feel somewhat uncomfortable about it, which has resulted in a somewhat abrupt rejection.

He was unable to cope with his own anxiety and therefore transferred it to you, who were left to deal with it.

You are a person who can live out your true self and vitality in every situation. You are still learning and growing, and no one can hinder your rhythm as long as you maintain control of your life.

Please accept our gratitude for sharing your story on the Yi Xin Li platform's Q&A Hall, which has provided encouragement to many individuals with similar aspirations. By doing so, you have also helped to instill hope in those who have experienced comparable challenges.

Regardless of the path you choose, it is essential to continue learning. Observing nature and engaging in self-exploration are both valuable forms of learning.

I recently experienced a recurrence of coughing, which prompted me to recognize the need for addressing certain aspects of my health. The body is a vital partner in our journey towards a more robust and stable future.

Hello, question asker!

From the author's own account, it's clear that the father in the original family has had a significant impact on the author. In fact, it's shaped the author's current attitude towards his father! The author says that his father is focused on money, and his attitude towards the author is simply a way to express his emotions. It's a challenging dynamic, but the author is learning to navigate it with resilience.

Oh, I'm so excited to find out if these rude behaviors affected the questioner and filled her heart with negative emotions of depression!

Have you ever wondered why my father behaves like this? It would be great to hear your thoughts on the matter!

Let's explore another fascinating question: Could the pattern of the questioner's father towards the questioner also be something he brought from his own family? Here is a brief explanation of how the questioner can deal with his father:

1. Get to know your father's motives!

Let's explore why the father treats the questioner like this! Has the questioner ever tried to understand his motives? Could it be that the father treats his family and the questioner this way because he was also treated this way in his own family of origin?

Oh, I'd love to know if his father was treated in such a rude manner in his childhood! And I'm really curious about whether the father's selfishness is also the reason for his own insecurity.

So, here's the big question: Is the father's attitude towards his family and the questioner just using you as a tool to vent his emotions in the moment, and not treating you as family? When he was a child, he was also compared to a waste of money by his elders, right?

It would be fascinating to discover whether these wounds accompanied the questioner's father's growth and were brought to the family he formed!

Understanding the motives behind your father's treatment of his family and you is not about asking you to forgive your father. It's about you facing your father with more composure and calm — and you can do it!

2. Don't fight with your father!

Don't engage in a fierce confrontation with your father, as this is not beneficial to you. Confronting your father will not make you feel better, but it will give you the chance to show your father how strong you are and that you can stand up for yourself!

The good news is that the questioner can now take control and stop repeating the mistakes of the original family. When the questioner confronts their father with these negative emotions, they will have the opportunity to rise above them and start fresh.

And she also prevented the questioner from continuing the harm that her father had done to her!

3. Be yourself and find support!

If you don't want to repeat your father's mistakes, be true to yourself! Don't take your father's mistakes to heart. Take a good, hard look at what your father has brought you.

Perhaps it was hurtful, or perhaps he was just unconsciously repeating some pattern that he thought his family of origin had taught him. Either way, if the questioner wants to break free from the inadequacies of his father, he has the power to do so! He can learn to be aware of himself, work hard to change, and not let himself repeat his father's pattern.

Look for the amazing resources around you that support you! These are the friends and family members who are there for you. Take the questioner's mother, for example. She has always been there to support the questioner in studying!

Apart from your mother, do you have other elders who support you? It would be great if you could communicate with them to see if you can get support!

4. Accept yourself!

The father has brought the author a lot of harm through his misguided education, and it is understandable that the author cannot face himself. But there really is nowhere to put all the negative emotions that have accumulated towards the father, which means there's an opportunity for a fresh start!

The questioner is also unable to leave his father at the moment, so it is really difficult to resolve the current dilemma. But there is a way out! The questioner should do more of the things he likes, things that make him happy, accept himself, and not punish himself for his father's mistakes.

The father's mistakes are his own fault, and we should consider our own future even more. There's no better way to end this relationship than by accepting yourself and making your future better!

I'd love to know what you think!

5. Get the help you need!

If you feel like you can't get out of this relationship on your own, you can absolutely seek help from a mental health professional! They'll listen to you and help you find a way to get along with your father.

Absolutely! Through some fantastic techniques and methods, the author can deal with his father more easily and even express his depressive emotions.

I really hope my answer helps the questioner!

The host's description reveals a tense relationship between parents, an inability of the father to meet the host's need to pour out his heart, poor communication between you, and a tendency to criticize and accuse, which causes the host a lot of pain. The following suggestions may help address these issues.

First, set boundaries.

It's not your fault that your parents have a tense relationship. Parents have their own life challenges, and they need to learn to face them on their own.

It is their responsibility to learn to get along as a couple.

You are still a student, so focus on your studies.

Second, express your emotions.

The original poster asked her father for help because she didn't understand the question. Her father didn't respond, appeared impatient, and returned the question to her, saying, "Can't you figure it out yourself?"

I want to know what the host was feeling at that moment. Were you upset, sad, ashamed, or afraid of being seen as incompetent?

The original poster mentioned that his father graduated from university, and you trust his wisdom, right? You mustn't be sad that your request for help was rejected.

Tell the other person how you feel. I asked you questions because I wanted to understand, but you were impatient and made me feel incompetent. Talk to me properly.

Third, you need to learn to be independent.

Everyone has their own life lessons to learn. Doing your homework is your life lesson, not your father's. If you don't understand something, ask him for help. You seem to be acting like a primary school student. It's true that after a child enters middle school, it's difficult for ordinary parents to tutor their children. He has graduated for many years, and you have to face his rejection of you objectively.

You should definitely consider whether there are other people you can turn to for help, such as teachers and classmates, or online forums. These will undoubtedly be more helpful with your academic problems.

Fourth, find yourself.

Emotions are contagious. The host said he was reflecting on the situation and that his father had misunderstood that you were spacing out. You should have just told him, and the misunderstanding could have been cleared up in time.

The host has a lot of grievances against his father. His father's refusal has triggered painful memories of being rejected by his father from going to high school last time. You think your father is doing this because of money. You're right. He's not a good father.

The host also wants to know why, having already reached high school age, he still harbors a grudge over his father's rejection.

You don't have to bring this up to accuse the other person from time to time.

If you accuse someone of being a bad person, mother, father, or child, they will lose control. You also suffered when your father was enraged and hurt you.

Fifth, don't resort to emotional blackmail.

The landlord is easily drawn into confrontation because the other person has not met your needs or because the other person thinks differently from you. This is a very painful situation, and you need to recognize that you are putting yourself in the role of the victim. Take a stand against the other person and use moral and emotional pressure.

The landlord must always remember that he is the master of his own life. Putting so many responsibilities on other people is blackmail. What kind of life have you planned for yourself?

Tell me, what are your plans for the future? And what can you do to face problems?

Everyone is an individual with unique perspectives and ideas. We must learn to get along with others as equals, communicate with them as equals, take responsibility for ourselves, be independent and self-reliant, and maintain a comfortable psychological distance from our parents.

Hello, my name is Strawberry.

From your description, it seems that the problem may be more about getting along with your father. When you encounter a topic you don't understand, you ask your father, but he seems unhappy about it and says that you never know what you are learning at school and that you can't figure things out on your own.

When we were young, our parents seemed to know everything and be good at everything. As we grew up, we came to realize that they had their strengths and weaknesses, just like anyone else. The question asker's father graduated from college, but in the question asker's opinion, he is still a junior high school student. The question asker asked the question, thinking that his father should understand it. If he doesn't understand, he should ask. This is also a problem that many teachers and parents have taught. Is it wrong for me to ask him?

It's worth noting that there are some differences between the way textbooks are written nowadays and how they were written in the past. Adults have already grown up, and with the addition of having to work and earn money after entering society, many of the knowledge they had when they were in school has been forgotten. Fathers are proud, and they may not want you to know if they can or can't do something. If they can't, they may not want to tell you directly because they are afraid that afterwards you will feel that your father is not as great as you thought.

I had a disagreement with my father, and he told me to go away. What should I do?

It's important to remember that adults are human too and make mistakes just like anyone else.

In today's society, there is a perception that many parents are quick to identify their children's mistakes but may not always recognize their own shortcomings. From the questioner's description, it seems that your parents' approach to your upbringing may not be as effective as it could be. It's understandable that parents want their children to achieve their aspirations, but it's also important to encourage them to pursue their own dreams and goals.

It would be beneficial to consider the subject of the topic owner's attitude towards their parents. It seems that there may be a discrepancy between your perception of their actions and your willingness to admit any mistakes on their part. It's important to remember that adults, too, are prone to making mistakes. They may believe that maintaining a certain level of authority is necessary to ensure a harmonious relationship, but it's crucial to recognize that this approach may not be the most effective. It's natural to feel hesitant about confronting your parents, but it's essential to communicate your needs and desires. By doing so, you can create a more open and loving relationship. Your parents are there to support and guide you, and it's important to let them know that you appreciate their love and guidance.

It might be helpful to learn to separate from your parents.

While we are our parents' children, we are also our own selves, independent individuals with our own thoughts and opinions. Our parents will only accompany us on a part of our journey in life. When we grow up, we will also rely on ourselves to walk to the end of our lives. We will eventually have our own lives without our parents. It might be helpful to learn to separate from your parents.

It's important to remember that we shouldn't compare our parents to other people, just as we don't compare ourselves to other children. We can't choose our parents, but we can choose our own lives. It's not our fault if our parents make mistakes, and their personalities and problems have nothing to do with us. They're also learning how to be parents, but they may not have learned enough yet. It's helpful to remember that we can move on from the harm and influence that our parents have brought us through learning.

The questioner is experiencing distress as a result of the attitude and treatment of their parents. It would be beneficial to consider ways to relieve this distress.

It might be helpful to set aside some time to chat with three or five close friends. You could also consider exercising and chatting together, talking about your dreams, your hobbies, and the things you enjoy. When you're with your friends, it's important to just be happy and relax. Even though you're a student, you still have your own happy times with your friends. Distracting yourself might help to reduce the influence your parents have on you.

It can be helpful to accept that parents are not omnipotent. They have knowledge that they don't fully understand, and it's not necessarily a reflection of their education. Parents are not omnipotent; they are just mortals with their own worries and shortcomings. By accepting yourself and not being too demanding of your parents, you might find a different way of getting along with them.

It might be helpful to try to communicate more. If there's a misunderstanding, it's not necessarily a generational issue, but rather a lack of communication. In any relationship, when communication is lacking, it can affect the dynamic. It might be beneficial to express yourself to your parents more, so they can better understand your needs. Even if they scold you, it's important not to be afraid or withdraw. Insisting on communication can help improve the relationship.

We all need love, and our parents need love too. When they were young, they may not have had enough love, so they may not know how to express love. They may also long to be loved. While parents can't give you happiness, you can learn to give them happiness. I recommend the book It's Not Your Fault to the questioner. I hope you can find more of the answers you are looking for in the book.

Good morning,

Happy families tend to elicit similar feelings in people. Family members are adept at providing care and expressing concern in a constructive manner. In contrast, families experiencing significant distress are less likely to exhibit these positive behaviors. Instead, they may display anger, anxiety, helplessness, and a sense of being misunderstood and unloved. Such emotions do not foster the use of constructive language and gradually diminish the capacity to perceive positive energy.

Please describe how you perceive your parents' actions to be inappropriate.

"Children from troubled families mature at a rapid pace."

For most people, it is a matter of course to successfully enter primary school, middle school, high school, and then university. While children growing up in this way may say, "Parents don't play much of a role," the information that they have grown up successfully alone can be taken to mean that the parents' "non-interference" has played a very important role. This is because it has not inputted harmful information into the child's growth and given them a relatively safe environment in which to grow up. From this perspective, we can already give the parents a passing grade of 60 points. However, there are also some children who may realize the complexity and conflicts in real life too early. This can bring pressure to bear on their own lives. Therefore, how to view problems that do not arise from one's own subjective will becomes the protection of personality formation and mental growth during the growth stage.

1. Learn to develop the ability to objectively view yourself and break free from the control of false beliefs in order to make better decisions.

If you are unsure of the topic to study at home for the remainder of the day, you can always determine it independently. Upon reflection, I questioned whether my actions were truly misguided. At that time, my father approached me in a daze and began to lecture me once more. Is it easy for me to bear the financial burden of your education? (My parents had a strained relationship. My father completed college and established his own small factory, but the business has been experiencing difficulties. My mother also worked extended hours, and she did not prioritize my needs during my junior high school years. In elementary school, she also reprimanded and punished me if I did not perform well in school, which resulted in my underperformance in high school. At that time, my father was not supportive of my decision to attend high school, suggesting that a vocational school would be a better option than high school. In fact, his primary concern was financial.

Different experiences lead to different perceptions and influences. As evidenced by the parents in the aforementioned case study, a lack of discipline can extend to one's ability to influence their children's education. A negative perception of money, potentially coupled with feelings of insecurity, can lead to a complex interpretation of financial matters. When their children expressed ideas, the parents habitually evaluated their significance based on their own values. This lack of introspective ability also manifested in their inability to navigate life's challenges rationally. This anxiety, in turn, affected their children's sense of self-worth and even influenced their future outlook.

When making reasonable requests, if they are blocked by the parents' thoughts unconsciously, there is no need to feel afraid. Fear can prevent individuals from breaking away from unreasonable values. Instead, they need to develop a more reasonable and rational point of view to support themselves and trust themselves. This will help them maintain their rationality and immediate judgment when provoked by their parents' anger.

2. Avoid unnecessary interference and focus on your own responsibilities.

In fact, I was rather unkind to both of them. We engaged in frequent altercations during our formative years, but now that I'm older, we don't interact as frequently, so we don't have as many disagreements. We also fought because of events that occurred during our high school years. I occasionally find myself envying the parents of other students.

The optimal functioning of a family unit hinges on mutual support and understanding among all members, with parents assuming a pivotal role. However, due to their own cognitive limitations, parents may miss numerous opportunities for growth and development. When they fail in their role, the impact ripples down to the children. Children cannot be sheltered, and they may face increased blame. From the child's perspective, it is undoubtedly a challenging period of varying degrees. At this juncture, the child may be eager to regain their balance and align with the parents' perspective, but doing so may exacerbate an already complex relationship. For the child, it is more important to return to their role and do the right thing.

3. To gain a deeper understanding of oneself and enhance one's capacity to respect and love oneself.

Through the aforementioned analysis, the questioner may realize that the current situation is not the result of one person's actions and that it is likely to involve more complex factors. With regard to one's own position in the situation, understanding and providing comfort may be a topic that needs to be addressed in the current stage. As in every stage of life, there is an opportunity for growth and development, and what is needed is not the ability to endure pain, but the ability to develop oneself from pain.

Best wishes for success!

Greetings. I am Yan Shiqi, and I extend my support and assistance to you from a distance. I am honored to have the opportunity to be of service.

It is a common assumption that all parents love their children and believe they are providing the best possible care and guidance. However, children often possess their own unique perspectives and ideas.

While the approach taken by the questioner's father was challenging to accept and caused distress, it is believed that his intentions were well-intentioned.

The parents are ordinary individuals, and they are also new to the role of parents. It would be unwise for the questioner to become overly preoccupied with this fact. It is important to recognize that everyone has shortcomings in their character. We can learn to accept what cannot be changed and allow ourselves to grow gradually.

It seems reasonable to posit that the questioner is aware that relatives may say hurtful things, even if they do not necessarily intend to cause harm. This is a common occurrence, particularly between parents and their children.

Despite recognizing their misstep, individuals are often reluctant to acknowledge it, fearing it may impair their reputation and authority.

With regard to communication between family members, the questioner has considerable scope for further development.

Firstly, we can learn from our parents' shortcomings and avoid such situations in our own families or relationships in the future.

Secondly, it would be beneficial for the questioner to read the book "Nonviolent Communication" in order to gain a deeper understanding of effective communication in their daily interactions with their parents.

One may also learn to enhance one's relationship with one's parents and to develop effective communication skills and strategies.

In particular, when interacting with individuals with whom one has a close relationship, it is important to recognize that emotional outbursts are not the sole effective method for problem-solving.

In such instances, it is possible to alter the surrounding environment and atmosphere by modifying one's own behaviour.

Thirdly, the inquirer should reinforce their mentality and refrain from absorbing excessive emotional and verbal stimuli from their parents.

It is important to believe that the purpose behind their actions is largely for your own good, even if their experiences and perceptions lead them to believe otherwise.

If the objective is to persuade the father, it would be advisable to attempt to resolve the issue through the use of non-violent communication.

Additionally, one might posit that the father's attitude may be influenced by occupational stress, which could potentially lead to the introduction of emotional factors into the familial dynamic. When such challenges are successfully addressed, the father may demonstrate a willingness to engage in constructive dialogue.

This is my response, and I hope it proves useful.

Hug the hurting child.

Your father's bad attitude makes you feel frustrated. We expect parents to help us solve our problems.

Dad isn't very patient, but he cares about your development and wants you to succeed as an adult.

Some parents don't understand their children. Our country and society don't teach parents how to be good parents. This makes it hard for parents to speak to their children in a way that they will accept.

You're thinking, but Dad thinks you're daydreaming. You feel angry, and you don't know how to ask your parents for what you want.

Hug the wounded child. Dad doesn't understand you and thinks you're wasting your time.

You need to connect with your father so he understands.

Your father is worried about money, which makes him angry. His business is not doing well, but he will try his best to support your studies because you are the child he hopes will become a Jackie Chan.

Your father worries about money and gets angry. Try talking to him and expressing your thoughts without emotion.

Keep up the good work. Things will get better. Learn to communicate with your parents to avoid misunderstandings and become happier. Praise, encourage, and understand your parents, and they will change their attitude towards you.

Hello! I'll give you a hug.

You feel guilty, blame yourself, and feel unloved because you were affected by your parents' relationship problems when you were growing up.

Your parents' emotional discord is not your fault. They are responsible for their relationship.

Your parents were emotionally incompatible, which caused you emotional trauma. You need to respond to this in an appropriate way. For example, you can keep an emotional diary to help you understand your feelings.

For example, you can express your feelings when your father criticizes you. You can also talk to your father when he is in a good mood. Express your understanding and love for him and your mother. You are no longer the child you once were. You hope your parents can face their feelings for each other. You want them to be happy.

Your parents can't treat you the way you want because they were unloved too. When they don't know why, they may unintentionally treat you the same way. So, you need to treat yourself the way you want to be treated.

I'm Lily, the listener at the Q&A. The world and I love you.

Hello, I empathize with the OP. I can tell he's upset. It's natural to feel uneasy when you have a strained relationship with your parents.

From my perspective, I can see the strength in the question.

The questioner wants to see mom and dad be kinder to themselves, just like you see your classmates' relationships with their parents. I think the questioner also wants to be accepted by his parents right now, especially by his dad. If mom and dad let you "feel" loved, you'll be happier, right?

1. When my father got home, I asked him a question, and he was pretty impatient. I had been taking online classes for most of the day, and when I asked him a question, he was still unhappy, so I argued with him a little. He got angry. What's the point of you studying at home all day if you can't figure things out on your own? I thought about what I had done and thought to myself, "Is it really my fault?" At that moment, my father came over to see me spacing out and started arguing with me again. Is it easy for me to pay for you to go to school? (My parents' relationship was originally not good. My father graduated from university and started his own small factory, but business has been slow. My mother also worked overtime all night, and she hardly ever took care of me in junior high school. In elementary school, I was also beaten and scolded if I didn't do well in school, which resulted in me attending a poor high school. At that time, my father didn't agree with me going to high school, saying that it was better to go to a technical secondary school than to go to high school. He was actually worried about the money."

(1) The questioner has been taking online classes for half a day and should be pretty tired! Do you feel the same way when you take online classes and face your mobile phone or computer?

It's great that you asked your father questions when he got home. It shows you value his knowledge.

(2) Did dad have any problems or stressful moments at work? We don't know, but I can see that your dad is not in a good mood. This is something we need to pay attention to and understand. Perhaps if you can pay attention to this part, your relationship will change. It is also possible, because the questioner also said that dad's business is not doing well, and it is also possible that dad is under some financial pressure. The questioner can talk to dad about this part when dad is in a good mood, so that he feels understood. You can also tell dad, "Dad, thank you. Although the family is having some financial difficulties, mom and dad can still send me to high school. I'm very happy.

Then Dad will see that all his hard work has paid off, and your relationship will gradually improve.

(3) I think you have some minor misunderstandings. When Dad came back, he faced and answered your questions. What was the reason for this "unhappiness"? Is it because work is not going well? Or do you feel that you are not thinking seriously?

The questioner needs to think it through. It's understandable that the questioner has difficulty controlling his emotions and scolding in the face of his father, because you've also studied for a long time. Later, the questioner thought about the problem, but his father thought you were daydreaming, and the misunderstanding and conflict escalated again. This is something you can communicate with your father about. There's no rush, so take your time and just think of it as learning about communication!

And both dad and the questioner have lessons to learn. I think the questioner can just be himself.

(4) It seems like you're not happy with the way your family has raised you. But now that you're in high school, it's time to move on from your past academic performance. What you need to do now is study hard and achieve your goals. I can see that you really want to do well in school. You listen carefully to online classes and ask questions when you don't understand. You have a great learning attitude.

2. "At that time, we argued a lot. My mother was really supportive of me going to school. I was quite harsh with both of them. When I was young, we argued all the time. Now that I'm older, we don't argue much because we don't see each other that often. We argued again because of something that happened in high school. I sometimes envy the parents of other students. I was reflecting on it, but he said I was daydreaming. I mentioned the incident in high school again, saying that he was worried about money and that he was not as good as other people's fathers. My father then said, 'Go to hell if you love it so much.' I was so helpless. Do I have such a father? I don't think my parents are as good as other parents. I don't want to live anymore."

(1) It seems like the questioner is really grateful to her mother for being there for her. It's great to have someone in the family who makes you feel understood and supported. You'll also have more strength. Best of luck.

(2) The questioner said that they argued even more at that time. Did you mean that you were arguing with your father? Or something else?

How did the questioner feel when they were arguing with their father? Angry, sad, and misunderstood?

Did he? The questioner can write out all their feelings and what they want to say to their father, and write it out several times, including when they were little. It will be much more comfortable when their emotions flow. The questioner can also run for half an hour every day or listen to meditation audios~self-acceptance (there is one on the platform).

(3) Think about it. What did your father feel when he heard you say that he was so worried about money that he wouldn't let you go to high school? Did your father finally pay for your high school education?

Mom works overtime at night, and dad works hard during the day. I think when dad heard those words, he felt rejected. He worked so hard and made so many sacrifices for the family and to pay for your schooling, but you didn't see it. He was angry, and he lost control. He said those words: "Go to hell!"

(4) Dad needs to learn to regulate his emotions. The questioner should just be themselves, but I can still see that there is love in your family. It's just that the way it's expressed is inappropriate. If you find a different way to express your love, it might be a lot better.

The questioner can start by learning to communicate better.

I wish you the best of luck!

After reading the text, I feel that the questioner is like a primary school student, while the father is like a middle school student.

Elementary and middle school students naturally rely less on logic to solve problems and have more conflicts when they get together. Everyone only sees their own situation and struggles, so they can't always see things from another person's perspective.

When my father got home, I asked him the question. He was pretty impatient. I had been taking online classes for most of the day, and when I asked him the question, he wasn't happy. So I gave him a bit of a hard time.

Maybe the questioner thought, "I've been taking online classes for most of the day, and I'm pretty tired." When he saw his father come home, he wanted him to "take responsibility" for him, so he asked him the question. He didn't realize that his father didn't see how hard he had worked.

Maybe Dad thought, "I've been working all day, I'm tired, I just got home, I haven't even had time to relax, and now you're giving me more work to do. I have to support you and help you with your studies, but why?"

Against this background, the child felt like his father didn't understand him, and likewise, the father felt like his son didn't understand him. When you're angry, you want to vent your anger, don't you?

Facing his son's "rebellion" and what he saw as "idleness (not studying hard)," the father tried to subdue his son by asking, "Is it easy for me to pay for your schooling?"

Unexpectedly, the son "borrowed" what his father had said about going to high school, which showed that his father cared more about money than his son and was, in fact, a worse father than other people's fathers. Not only did the father not "take advantage" of the situation, he was also a little embarrassed.

In a moment of desperation, the father ended the fight abruptly and fled.

From what we can tell from the text, the father's "go to hell" was either a serious threat or just an expression of annoyance. It's like saying, "Go somewhere cool if you want."

"I feel that my parents are not as good as other parents." Of course, there are definitely other people's parents who are better than yours, and likewise, there are definitely other people's parents who are worse than yours. But you might not be willing to admit that right now.

"I don't want to live anymore." The questioner doesn't want to live anymore, but does he want to make his parents regret their words and actions and "punish" them?

Just imagine for a second. Even if you could "punish" them and make them regret it, what would you gain from it? If you're already dead.

I'm not sure if the questioner has had a chance to calm down and process his emotions yet.

I really do think I've helped you out here, and I hope you find this reply useful. All the best!